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Confidence
by
Anurag Khemka
© 2017 A. Khemka
NOTE:
The material contained in this book is set out in good faith for
general guidance and no liability can be accepted for loss or
expense incurred as a result of relying in particular
circumstances on statements made in this book.
&
my wife
Acknowledgements
Introduction
PART 1
Introduction
The Confidence Ball
Day Dreaming
Positive & Negative Thinking
The Process of NO & NOT
Brain: The Hard Disk of our Body
PART 2
Introduction
Mind your own Business
Laughter is the best medicine
I Don’t have Time
The Balanced Life
The Five Senses
Confidence at the workplace
Other’s Point of View
Be You
Press the Button
Don’t worry Be happy
The Perfect Look
Stop Making Excuses
Anger Issues
It’s Complicated
Stress & Anxiety
Are you nervous?
Don’t be too nice
PART 3
Introduction
Childhood
Heal your past problems
Then & Now
Teen Age
The 4C’s
Introduction
Now, let’s start the engine and hope to reach the end
with a smooth ride!
PART 1
THE FUTURE:
or
or
R = 2P – N
R = Real Confidence
P = Positive Beliefs
N = Negative Beliefs
R = 18; P = 16; N= 14
or,
2P – N
= (2X16) – 14
= 32 – 14
= 18
=R
For me, a real confident person is someone who
shows more faith in positive beliefs and less in
negative beliefs. Simply, Real Confidence is
increasing the Positivity in you and reducing
Negativity to a minimum.
When you say you do not, the mind tells, you can
do; deleting the No or Not word because the mind
cannot process negatives. Similarly when you
shout at your kid not to do certain things, the result
is always the opposite, they do those things.
Are you aware how big is your brain and what is its
storage capacity?
THE PRESENT:
Or
Confidence = Change
To gain confidence, you need to make various
changes in your life; changes in behavior, changes
in approach, changes in thinking process, changes
in dealing with people, changes in dealing
emotions, changes in your body language etc. The
change needs to be made at PRESENT, i.e. now. So,
simply make the change……
Just sit back and relax, read each part, close your
eyes and try to understand and visualize whether
such problems do occur in your everyday life or not.
If yes, try to visualize as many times in your mind
and come out with a positive solution in whichever
order to overcome the limitation.
Best of luck!
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
There are many ways that you can train your own
mind with the help of various techniques. I
personally find the techniques of NLP (Neuro
Linguistic Programming) co-created by Dr. Richard
Bandler quite fascinating. The approach to the
problem is very direct, fast and quick. The answer
to your solution is simple, practical and it’s the
same way about how to reason out with your mind?
‘I am awfully busy’
‘I’m in a hurry’
‘I just haven’t the time’
Spend more time with your wife, kids and you will
be amazed to see that you have achieved so much in
such short span of time by spending time with
yourself and with others.
I was right.
I am right
Believe Yourself
Believe You
Be You
BU
Example:
Floor 8:
Floor 7:
Floor 6:
Floor 5:
Floor 4:
Floor 3:
‘I have made false promises to them’ - why?
Floor 2:
Floor 1:
Ground Floor:
Example:
‘Are you suggesting that the first two jobs you got
selected was because of pure luck?’ I asked him
again.
‘Just sit back and relax now, close your eyes and
visualize that you have already reached the location
where you are about to appear for your interview.
You are surprised to see that you are the only
candidate applying for the job as you don’t see
anybody else. You enter the interview room when
your name is called upon with your positive body
language, and a big smile on your face.’
‘You are happy to hear that you have got the job.
You feel positive, energetic and excited.’ Play this
visual many times in your mind before appearing
for your interview and I am sure success will be
there for you.’
ANGER ISSUES
IT’S COMPLICATED
Example:
But are you nervous and tensed all the time? NO.
PART III
THE PAST:
CHILDHOOD
TEEN AGE
THE 4C’s
You have set the goals, found out what are the
problems, how to overcome them and the reason for
having such problems. To gain confidence, self-
esteem or recover from any problem, you should
always remember this 4C technique: