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Personal Reactions:
I began reading this book with the perception that it would not be something
Although the book is written with a LGBTQ audience in mind, each story has its own
lesson to be learned that can be applied to the lives of many different types of people. The
authors presented the topics of the book in a way that made it easy to be engaged in the
stories that were shared. The main idea throughout the book, that life after coming out
gets better, was one that I initially wrote off and took for face value. I assumed that
because that message was geared towards someone who is LGBTQ, it did not have
relevance in my life. As each story went into personal details it gave me more to relate to,
and I realized that this was not a topic I could simply write off because I was straight.
Some of the stories created an emotional response for me, because the struggles
and difficulties the individual authors faced was nearly always at the hands (or the
negligence) of people who were not members of the LGBTQ community, like myself.
These stories served not only to encourage those who are LGBTQ, but to also to be an
example for how to better these situations for those who are not. This idea that by not
doing anything for those who are LGBTQ, it can be as harmful as when people actively
work against them, was something that really resonated with me because I personally
There were many times throughout the book where I was reminded of materials
that we had learned in class. The authors of the individual stories often brought up their
upbringing and their home life, directly referencing their parents in some of the pages.
One example is when Juan Carlos Galan writes in his short story, “My family was
constantly telling me that I needed to change my mannerisms; they would criticize the
way I spoke and walked.” (Miller & Savage, p. 134). This relates with the topics that we
discussed in our classes on becoming gendered. The authors frequently wrote that they
had very complex feelings and emotions about their gender identity during their
formative years, often as a result of parents who enforced or expected strict gender roles.
The roles that are communicated by parents happen from birth, when they label their
children by their sex, and its perpetuated through how they parent them and how they
express and define their femininity and masculinity (Lecture notes, 3/2). The
environment and way in which the LGBTQ people become gendered has a strong affect
on their view of themselves and this was illustrated in both the text and discussion.
Another frequent theme of both the book and our class is instances of gendered
violence. There are a multitude of types of gendered violence and so many examples
from the text that served to illustrate just how prevalent it is. One story, titled Transsexual
Prairie Girl included a passage that said, “Any time I was in public and made eye contact
with someone, I got really nervous and thought, “Oh, this person is staring at me because
I'm transgendered” (Miller & Savage, 124). This passage serves as a good example of the
concept of gender intimidation, which is when “Members of one sex are treated in ways
that make them feel humiliated, unsafe, or inferior because of their sex” (Lecture notes,
3/9). This idea of injustice based on gender or sexual preferences is resonated frequently
through the text, and gave me concrete examples of what we had learned in class.
Application in my life:
Following reading this book, my eyes have been opened more to the adversity that
LGBTQ teens face. Its now more apparent to me that doing nothing is incredibly
counterproductive. Before I read the book, I watched some of the associated YouTube
videos that Miller and Savage collected. After finishing it, I went back to find some of
my favorites in video form in order to hear how the individual authors had told their
stories, this was even more impactful than just the words in some cases. I shared videos
on my social media pages, and got responses on Facebook. Through this I was able to
engage in a conversation about the project and the message they are spreading through it.
Through the powerful words of the stories, I know that even though a social media share
Thankfully, our group has been very open for discussion and sharing ideas of the
opportunities for support and influence that we have. I hope that similarly to what we
learned in green dot training, I am going to get better at understanding my barriers, and
find other ways to use my life to make a difference in the lives of LGBTQ teens. This
book has helped to answer several questions I had about the experiences of LGBTQ
people and open my thinking and conversation to topics that I most likely would not have
approached on my own.