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Megan A. Lorincz
Introduction
more traditionally oppressed category. In reviewing how I came to understand who I am in terms
of this gender identity, the Social-Cognitive Theory of Gender Identity Development comes to
mind. According to Bussey (2011) and Bussey & Bandura (1999), personal, behavioral, and
environmental components are the three main areas for examining the social-cognitive theory of
gender identity development (as cited in Patton, Renn, Guido, & Quaye, 2016, p. 183). In
exploring my own gender identity in terms of this theory, it is my hope to take away useful
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regulation” (Patton et al., 2016, p. 183). As a child, I always understood that I was a female, and
I never questioned my biological gender. My father would paint my nails, and I would
coordinate matching outfits. It never once occurred to me that I was anything different from what
I was told. That being said, I did understand that I was not exactly like the other girls; I became
more self-aware. Even from a young age, I was more outspoken and assertive than some of my
female peers. I was a leader, and I did not let the boys on the playground boss me around. As a
begin to mature, I was labeled as “bossy” or “aggressive”; I was not this dainty flower that other
girls appeared to be. I felt more masculine in the way that I presented myself, even though I
knew that I was a girl. I began to hold back and regulate some of my opinions and tried to stifle
some of my more natural behaviors. I chalked my more masculine traits up to the fact that I was
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raised by a stay-at-home dad, so it was only natural that I would pick of some of his mannerisms.
I was a girl, but I did not always know how to act like one.
behaviors, which is defined as “gender-related activity patterns” (Patton et al., 2016, p. 183). I
in the activities that I decided to join and the way that I presented myself externally. Growing up,
I always wore my hair in the customary Asian bowl cut, just the way my family liked it, until
sixth grade when I demanded that my parents let me grow my hair. I began to steer clear of
sports, because they brought out my competitive, louder side, and I found that I much preferred
the arts like painting, music, and theater, because I was able to express myself without fear of
becoming too manly in the way that I presented my art. As a middle schooler, I excelled in math,
but I began to focus less on math in high school than I did in courses like English, History, and
Art. My clothing became more fitted in the hopes to accentuate my feminine frame, which I still
had yet to develop. I also established a sense of humor to deflect any awkward social situations
that might arise, and I hoped that it might make me more likeable as a person. It was easier to
make fun of myself than risk hearing others make fun of my behind my back. As a girl, I could
not be taken too seriously. Even in relationships, I tended to be the more dominant personality to
the outside world, but, behind closed doors, I allowed my boyfriends to tell me how naïve and
frivolous I was. I allowed them to perpetuate the lie that I was weird, unlovable, and
unintelligent because I did not fit the mold of the typical feminine girl-next-door. As late as
college, I continued to pursue more stereotypically “girly” interested and joined a sorority. While
it proved to be one of my better decisions in college, my motives were not as altruistic as one
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might guess. I wanted to have a ton of girls that were my friends instead of feeling like I need to
Finally, Patton et al. (2016) breaks the social-cognitive theory of gender identity
development into the environmental component which “include[s] families, peers, educational
settings, media, and digital contexts” (p. 183). As I touched on previously, family had a
significant role in my development. On top of my existing identity, I am also the only child of
older parents. My parents poured most of their focus on me, and I often felt like I needed to live
up to their expectations. First and foremost, my parents viewed me as a girl, so I was going to be
the best little girl that I could possibly be. My parents bought me dolls and nice dresses; I, in
turn, used all of the gendered items, and I genuinely did not see anything wrong with being
treated like a princess. As for my peers, I desperately wanted to be friends with other girls, but I
tended to gravitate towards hanging out with the boys; I did usually find a handful of girls that
would take the time to truly get to know me, and they became some of the dearest friends of my
life. Since I did not have many friends in general to hang out with, I threw myself into theater,
doing every play or musical possible, and filling any available time that was not devoted to
eating, sleeping, or school. It was not until my freshman year of college that I truly made many
friends that were girls. Most of the girls that I surrounded myself with were also very feminine in
the way that they presented to the world around them, so it only solidified my resolved to
continue portraying this outwardly “girly” version of myself. It also did not help that I was on a
particularly preppy campus and that I was a self-proclaimed “E News junkie,” both of which
constantly portrays femininity as pink, meek, air-headed, toned, waxed, and perfect. In
retrospect, my idea of my own gender identity was heavily influenced by the people and
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situations around me, which supports the idea that “gender is a socially constructed, interactive
process” (Robbins & McGowan, 2016, p. 72). I let the world define what femininity was to me.
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While the aforementioned story is unique to me, I still think that my experience can be
useful to other students. First, my story highlights how complex gender identity truly is; I, much
like other students, do not fit into one singular box of either being completely masculine or
feminine. While I still identify as a cisgender woman, I acknowledge that I sometimes express
myself in more traditionally masculine ways. However, it begs the question “who defines what is
feminine and what is masculine?” The simple answer is: society. It is in society’s definition of
what is truly “masculine” or “feminine” that students can feel that they are either measuring up
to or they are not. It is important as student affairs professionals to create safe spaces for students
to explore their identities, and to encourage students to push past society’s expectations. I would
have been much happier sooner, if I had had some to tell me that I was perfectly fine just the way
that I was in terms of my gender expression. The people around students make a huge impact on
how they view themselves. According to Nicolazzo (2016), a safe space might encourage “a
radical reconceptualization of what higher education environments could look like if the
diversity of human experience and expression were allowed to flourish rather than be restricted”
There is little to nothing that higher education professionals can do on a personal level for
students in terms of the social-cognitive theory of gender identity development by virtue of the
fact that this component is completely internal and individualized to that specific student.
However, student affairs practitioners can influence the environment which can, in turn,
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influence behavior. If football was not a gendered sport on a campus, then the resulting behavior
may be more women joining football intermural teams. If women were encouraged to join
science majors by seeing more female professors as teachers, then there may be a balance of
genders in the existing science fields. If a campus featured more male dancers in advertisement
campaigns, then it might encourage more males to try out dancing instead of dancing being
perpetuated as a woman’s hobby. If I had been in an environment in middle school that had
encouraged me to be a leader on the sports team, rather than dub me as an aggressive girl, then I
might not have seen sports as a guy thing and kept with it. While this is all still theoretical, it
may be worth exploring because “when theories are created through a critical lens, the
possibilities for healing, liberation, and radical social change are revealed” (Jones & Stewart,
2016, p.17). In short, if the environment changes, then the behavior might change.
Robbins and McGowan (2016), “gender cannot be understood in isolation from other social
identities” (p. 9). In other words, in order to understand a person’s gender, one cannot solely look
at one aspect of that person and assume to know all about his or her gender, but they should
consider the intersectionality of all of the identities. All of my identities, such as gender, race,
religion, socio-economic status, make up who I am, and, as a practitioner, I need to recognize
that one identity will not define my students. Denton (2016) states that “intersectionality
challenges educators to see how students live multifaceted lives and encounter oppression—or
enjoy privilege—in different aspects of their lives” (p. 61). In moving forward, it is important to
respect a person’s gender expression, but it is useful to get know more about a student then the
way he or she expresses himself or herself. A student’s race might play an integral role as to why
they perceive their gender identity in a certain way. There may be a story as to why they choose
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to act a certain way, much like I struggle with outward forms of hyper-femininity in the hopes to
Conclusion
My identity as a cisgender female did not develop overnight. There were many factors
and moments that played into who I am today. Much of it had to do with society and how I felt
that I was measuring up to the expectations that were placed on me. It is through the interplay of
and environment that I am beginning to understand my own development and to see the
development of students around me. As a student affairs practitioner, I recognize that a student’s
gender identity development can be a hard and scary step in a student’s journey, so it is up to
administrators to provide safe spaces for students to explore. There is some onus on
administrators to work to change the environment so that students can change behaviors in order
to better understand gender identity. Finally, gender identity is only one aspect of a student, and
gender identity is influence by a myriad of other identities, so it should not be considered on its
own. Overall, students’ gender identities play a large role in the college experience, and it should
be taken into consideration when student affairs practitioners are working with them.
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