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What is your reaction to the "Cupid And Psyche" myth's proclaimation about "trust" within relationships?

POSTED BY GREG T AT 6:43 AM

34 COMMENTS:

ianp said...

i believe that the story of cupid and psych is a great example of how trust is such a main factor
in a relationship. without trust it would be too unstable to be happy. a relationship is built
from trust. trust is like the base of a house. a house cant stand unless there is a base to hold it
up.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 9:54 AM

Erin G said...

I agree that the story of Cupid and Psyche displayed how a good relationship cannot exist
without trust. Although love cannot exist without trust, I thought it was unrealistic of Cupid to
ask Pysche to love him without ever having seen him. I suppose after a while she would begin
to trust him just through his personality, but at first it would be hard. Perhaps this story also
has a lesson about vanity held within since Psyche is expected to love without ever having seen
her husband.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 12:59 PM

Nikki B. said...

The myth of Cupid and Psyche demonstrates the frailty of trust. It's hard to build and easy to
break. I agree with Erin that it was unrealistic of Cupid to ask Psyche to trust him without
knowing anything about him and especially without being able to see him. Although it ends
happily, I think if Cupid wanted to have a strong and trusting relationship with Psyche he
should have been totally honest from the start. It would have saved them a lot of trouble.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 4:42 PM

kspring said...

I agree with the story of Cupid and Psych in that you cannot have a steady or stable
relationship without trust. Trust is one of the many characteristics that makes a good
relationship. I don’t think you can be in a good relationship if there is no trust on one another.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 5:00 PM

Chris A said...

I think love cannot originally be built without trust. But afterwords other things than just trust
influence relationships. Wth Cupid's lies and deception it was hard for Psyche to originally trust
him. As they grew to spend more time with one another she realized that Cupid had a good
personality. It was his personality that she liked not his lies. Some people are to vain to notice
the quirks in others but eventually they shine through.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 6:16 PM

apepe said...

I agree with the story that a healthy and functioning relationship would not work without the
element of trust. Trust is a thing that has to be gained over time. You have to build from the
start of a relationship. This story is a good example of how that happens.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 6:27 PM

Slater said...

Even though that I agree, that there must be trust for relationships(in most circumstances), it
also seems, that if one party loves another party, that betraying trust isn't that serious.
Also when you think about, she never betrayed trust, Cupid/Love never said "don't look at me".
If anything it was her sisters who betrayed her, since out of jealous they tried to bring ruin to
her.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 6:54 PM

David B. said...

The story of Cupid and Psyche shows us that no relationship can last without trust. If trust is
ever broken it is hard to rebuild it and earn it back. Cupid asked for Psyche to love him but it
was difficult because there was not a trust built up yet. They never knew eachother previous to
this. It turned out to work because they gained eachothers' trust.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 7:37 PM

Hannah said...

In the movie The Wedding Planner, one character describes how arranged marriages work, first
comes trust, then friendship, and lastly love. I feel like any relationship, whether it be
profesional or romantic, without trust has nothing meaningful or unsuperficial about it. Trust is
hard to build and easy to brake, and once broken, for many people, is gone forever. In Cupid
and Psyche's case I believe that if there was honesty from the beginning then there wouldn't
have been this struggle for Psyche to trust Cupid. In today's society I feel that trust is a rare
commodity, and isn't valued as highly as it once was. However to some degree dishonesty has
always been around, as showm in this myth.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 8:50 PM

mtsuji said...

Trust is the foundation of all relationships, from a father and son to a husband and wife.
Without trust, no progress can be made as there is nothing to build off of. Love is a difficult
emotion, hard to come by and impossible to measure. Without trust, this simple, yet profound
emotion is impossible to find.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 9:04 PM

Amy B. said...

I one hundred percent agree with the story of Cupid and Psyche when it says that a successful
relationship can't exist without trust. That is one of the major components of a relationship
and of "being in love". I agree with Nikki when she said that if Cupid wanted to have a stronger
relationship with Psyche, they should have been totally honest from day one. It is always a bad
sign when there is dishonesty from the beginning.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 9:41 PM

Apollo Taren said...

David T

I think that trust is completely necessary at all levels of a relationship. Really, if you can't trust
someone with something, be that with the relationship itself, doing what they say they will, or
just not lieing to you in general, then there's no way it can survive. Admittedly, more stuff is
necessary in order to build a relationship, but EVERYTHING is based on trust. You can't know
that someone's actually done something unless you trust them. You can't know if they're lieing
to you about their past life, or if they're not telling the truth about whether they turned off all
the lights in the house or shut the garage door. It's the small stuff and the big things that
require trust. Even trusting them to be themselves around you is a part of trust. Everything in a
relationship is based on it. In that, the story did a good job of explaining how a good
relationship cannot exist without it. Cupid, at the beginning, didn't tell the truth, and things
didn't exactly work out. When things started becoming clear, they ended up getting better.
Trust is completely necessary, and is the basis for absolutely everything else in a relationship.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 10:11 PM

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FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 11:08 PM

rachelf said...

I agree that trust is the key to having a lasting relationship between anyone. I think that
without trust you can't truly love someone. I agree that Cupid shouldn't have hid himself and
that he would have gotten Psych's trust sooner if she had seen him. However, I think that it was
interesting for him to hide from her because it shows just how much trust is needed in
relationships from both sides.

FEBRUARY 11, 2008 AT 11:14 PM

pfairchild said...

The story of Cupid and Psych is a testiment to the idea that there is someone for everyone.
Even Cupid the matchmaker of humanity, falls in love himself. This is significant in explaining
the power of love and the impact it can have on people's lives. The trust between two people
who fall in love is the unspoken agreement that there love is true and anfailing.

FEBRUARY 13, 2008 AT 8:57 AM

DanniB. said...

I agree that the story shows that trust plays a big role in a relationship.Personally I think that
with out trust it is near impossible to have a relationship.

FEBRUARY 14, 2008 AT 5:28 AM

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FEBRUARY 14, 2008 AT 5:28 AM

kelcey r. said...

I think that relationships are built on trust and without it there really can't be love. Cupid was
asking a lot of Psyche by asking her to love him without ever actually seeing him. However, he
could have been testing her to see if she was trustworthy. She clearly broke her promise
because curiosity got the best of her but they still ended up together; probably because she
regained his trust.

FEBRUARY 20, 2008 AT 7:56 PM

emilyf said...

I agree with what most everyone is saying. its really hard to have love and a loving relationship
if one or both people don't trust the other. i think that you could still have a type of love
though without trust, but it is more of a lust than real love. I guess that its possible to appear
to have love without trust, but it is just a mask, and truly you are only covering up, the
distrust, and dishonesty in the relationship. Just like in the myth of Cupid and Psyche when
Psyche loses Cupid's trust it is hard for him to truly love her, although, like in the myth i do
believe that you can regain trust, although it is hard and you have to really want it.

FEBRUARY 20, 2008 AT 9:18 PM

alysons said...

Throughout the story of Cupid and Psyche aspects and relationships concerning elements of
trust can be seen through lovers, friends and family members. This story implements the idea
that trust is not only important between a man and a woman but also between someone and
their friends, sisters, and even their mothers. Therefore the message that this story is trying to
portray is that trust is a necessary component in every relationship.

FEBRUARY 25, 2008 AT 7:14 PM

tragsdale said...

The myth Cupid and Psyche is good example of relationship and the trust involved. I agree with
Erin, it was an unrealist request of Cupid to ask Pysche to not look at him. I don't really
understand that but because she disobeyed him she had to show him she really loved him. She
gained his trust back and they will but happy as long as they can trust eachother.

MARCH 18, 2008 AT 6:32 AM

kcolmenero said...

I do agree that you you need trust to start a relationship, but thats not the only thing you
need. Just because you trust somebody doesn't mean you get married on the spot (unless you're
really desperate i suppose). You also need respect for yourself and the other person, this is one
reason Cupid and Psyche were doomed from the start he didn't respect her integrity he was all
like, "she'll only want me for my bod!?!", and she didn't respect his wishes she was all "what if
he's really ugly, I don't think I could like handle that." So anyway i do agree that you need trust
but I don't think thats a deal maker.

MARCH 20, 2008 AT 5:58 AM

LSwartz said...

To me there cannot be a relationship, wether it be romantic or just a friendship, without trust.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. the story of Cupid and Psyche is a perfect example
of how significant the role trust plays. Love and trust go hand in hand, you cannot have one
without the other.

APRIL 28, 2008 AT 7:26 PM

Lauren L said...

I think that for a relationship to be successful trust must be present there. The story of cupid
and psyche was a perfect example of how trust plays a huge part to a good relationship. I think
that cupid asking psyche to never look at him was really dumb because knowing what your
lover looks like is pretty important and cupid should have known it was eventually going to
happen. In all trust is the building blocks to a successful relationship!

MAY 5, 2008 AT 9:09 PM

Lauren L said...

This is karlye holmes.

i think taht the relationship between cupid and phyche is good but it will not survive without
trust. There is nothing without trust and you can not start anything without trust. It is hard to
trust someone you do not know but you can not start anything without trust.

MAY 6, 2008 AT 8:36 AM

capnhawaii said...

Dan Camit

Cupid and Psyche mirrors the critical nature of trust in any relationship. As the myth tends to
paint Psyche as nothing more than a curious woman, it becomes necessary to understand how
the myth is a reflection of what a Greek bride would be expected to do. Marriages in Ancient
Greece were typically arranged, so the bride had little control over who she would marry. She
would then leave her home and go to live with her husband; it was unlikely she would ever see
anyone she had known growing up again. The bride was, in a metaphoric sense, expected to
"die" to herself and then be "reborn" to her husband. With this in mind, the myth of Cupid and
Pysche takes on a much more metaphoric meaning. Pysche's being offered up as a sacrifice
becomes seen as the beginning of the marriage; she had no say in it, would never again see her
family, and would die as the person she was. The myth serves as a code for brides to follow.
While it overtly emphasizes how a bride must be completely faithful to her husband's
commands, it subtly hints at how women are curious and warns husband's to maintain firm
control of their wives. We simply expect trust to form in our relationships, but the myth of
Cupid and Psyche (particularly to the Greeks) shows how trust must be built and maintained.

MAY 14, 2008 AT 8:12 AM

Ryan f said...

Cupid is not a very manly figure, and he is un-reasonable in his requirement of trust.
Nonetheless trust is very important to any relationship. Psych should reconsider her choice of
someone so demanding, but since she knew and agreed to what he required she should have
honored the trust in the relationship. Overall trust is one of the most vital things in a
relationship, and I agree that there cannot be a good relationship without trust.

MAY 15, 2008 AT 12:49 PM

willf said...

I think that it is impossible to have a fully commmited relationship for most people without
having trust they need to know a person front and back and have to fully have their answers
when asked. One thing contridictory to that is that Psyche liked Cupid before she knew who he
was even though he was lying to her and she loved him after she found out that he had lied to
her, and he loved her back after she lied and betrayed him.

SEPTEMBER 18, 2008 AT 7:06 PM

pfairchild said...

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SEPTEMBER 18, 2008 AT 7:49 PM

Lynch G said...

I believe with a majority of the people on here that you can't have love with out trust. If you
are always worrying about if your significant other is going to hurt you how could you love
them. It would be like trying to love a dog that has tendencies to bite off hands.

SEPTEMBER 22, 2008 AT 4:56 PM

Hannah G. said...

It makes it hard to love when trust is absent in a relationship. In Cupid and Psyche's story, when
Cupid states that, "Love cannot exist where there is no trust", he seems to be asking a lot of
Psyche when he demands that he not be seen by her. He was building trust with Psyche, and
their story told of just how difficult that trust is to build and maintain, and how easy it is to
break. According to myth, Cupid found Psyche even after all trust in their relationship was
gone and that, "It was a difficult matter to keep love imprisoned". So, even though their trust
was broken, they found, that in the end, they still loved one another.
In simplest terms, I don't believe love can exist without trust. A relationship that contains no
trust can possibly last for a short length of time, but in the long run, love will not survive. Trust
is what has been referred to as the "basis of all and any relationship", and I think that is so very
true. Love does not live amongst disloyalty, dishonor, nor disgrace, for it is too precious, too
good a gift. Love is something given to humans that is pure, but we as humans tend to degrade
everything we touch. Without trust there is no comfort, no security, no purpose, nor guidence.
Without trust, love is lost, wandering throughout our darkened world, left in search of our
hearts.

SEPTEMBER 22, 2008 AT 5:38 PM

Miles M said...

I do belive that trust is one of the main factors in a realtionship, but communtication is another
in a realtionship. I can't blame psych for seeing what her mysterious lover (cupid) looked like.
Although, Pysch should have trusted her husband rather than her sisters you should always put
your husband or wife first, not your jealous sisters. I guess in the end, without communication
there is no trust

SEPTEMBER 22, 2008 AT 6:11 PM

Bluemeanie45 said...

The story of Cupid and Psych has a great life lesson to it. Yes indeed there is no
love/relationship without trust. But does this mean that you have to be head over heals for
someone to have trust in a relationship? Trust comes from love, and love comes from trust and
affection, there can't be one without the other.

By Evan Salvador

SEPTEMBER 22, 2008 AT 10:21 PM

TomB said...

i believe that what the myth says is true. there must be trust for love to flourish. love itsilf is a
form of trust. you allow someone to become such a large part of your life their every whim and
worry affects you. so you need to trust that they won't hurt you in the first place. so love needs
trust. if trust is violated, it is the one who was violateds' duty to at the very least hear their
love out. but if their intentions weren't noble, or the action which hurt them was intentional,
the trust was a fallacy.

NOVEMBER 25, 2008 AT 12:46 PM