‫اﻷﺟ َﺪ ِاد‬ ‫و‬ ِ ‫اﻟﻈﱠَﻔﺮ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤﺮ ِاد ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒ ﱢﺮ ﺑِﺎﻷَﺑ‬

‫ﺎء‬
ْ َ َ َُ َ

The Attainment of What is Sought

In Regards to Birr of

The Parents and Grandparents

By the most learned scholar

Shaykh Muhammad Maulud

Translated by

Muhammad Rami Nsour

 ‫ ﺍاﻟﺭرﺣﻳﯾﻡم‬ ‫ ﺍاﻟﺭرﺣﻣﻥن‬ ‫ ﷲ‬ ‫ﺑﺳﻡم‬
In the name of Allah the Beneficent the Merciful

ِ ‫اﻻﺣﺴﺎ َن ﺑِﺎﻷَﺑﺂ ِء ﻓِﻲ اﻟْ ُﻘﺮء‬

‫ان‬ ِ ِ ‫ﺣﻤ ًﺪا ﻟِﻤﻦ ﻗَـﺮ َن ﺑِﺎ ِﻹﻳﻤ‬
‫ﺎن‬
َْ َ َْ َ َ ْ َ َْ

Praise be to the One who, in the Quran, has linked Iman to

Ihsan towards the parents

ِ ُ‫وﻟَﻢ ﺗَ ُﻜﻦ ِﻋ َﺪﺗُﻪ‬

‫ﺿ َﻤ َﺎرا‬ ‫َوﺑِﺎﻟﻨﱠ ِﻌ ِﻴﻢ َو َﻋ َﺪ اﻷَﺑْـ َﺮ َارا‬
ْ ْ َ

He has promised Paradise to the righteous,

And His promise is never broken

‫ﺿﻰ إِﻟَ ِﻬﻨَﺎ ﺗَـ َﻌﺎﻟَﻰ‬

َ ‫إِ ﱠن ِر‬ َ‫ﺻﻠﱠﻰ َو َﺳﻠﱠ َﻢ َﻋﻠَﻰ َﻣ ْﻦ ﻗَﺎﻻ‬
َ

May Allah send prayers and peace upon the one who said,
“That the pleasure of our Lord, Most High

ِ ‫ﻓِﻲ اﻟْ ِﻤﺜْ ِﻞ ِﻣﻦ واﻟِ َﺪ ِي ا ِﻹﻧْﺴ‬

‫ﺎن‬ ِ َ‫ﻂ ِﻣ ْﻨﻪُ ﺟ ﱠﻞ ﻣﻈْﺮوﻓ‬
‫ﺎن‬ َ ‫ﺴ ْﺨ‬
‫َواﻟ ﱡ‬
َ َْ ُ َ َ

And the anger of His Exaltedness

Are both in the similitude of a person’s parents.”

ِ ‫َﺧ ْﻴ ٍﺮ ﺑِﺤﻤ ِﺪ‬

َ‫اﷲ َﻛﺎﻟﱠﺬ ﻓَـ َﻌﻼ‬ ‫َﻫ َﺬا َوﻟَ ﱠﻤﺎ َﻛﺎ َن َﻣ ْﻦ َد ﱠل َﻋﻠَﻰ‬
َْ

Thereafter, since whoever guides to goodness

Is like the one who actually performs the good (and for this, Praise is due to Allah)

ِ ‫ﺴﻨﱠ ِﺔ واﻟْ ُﻘﺮء‬

‫ان‬ ِ ِ ‫ووا ِﺟﺐ اﻟﺒِ ﱠﺮ َﻋﻠَﻰ اﻷَ ْﻋﻴ‬
َ ْ َ ‫ﺑﺎﻟْ َﺠ ْﻤ ِﻊ َواﻟ ﱡ‬ ‫ﺎن‬َ ُ ََ

And Allah has made fulfilling the rights of the parents incumbent upon everyone,
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(This being established by the Quran, Sunnah and the consensus of the Ummah)

َ‫إِ ْذ َﻋ ْﻦ َﺣ ِﻘﻴ َﻘ ِﺔ اﻟﺒُـ ُﺮوِر َﺳﺄَﻻ‬ َ‫ﺾ اﻟﻨﱡﺒَﻼ‬ ِ

َ ‫ت أَ ْن أُ ْرﺷ َﺪ ﺑَـ ْﻌ‬
ُ ‫أَ َر ْد‬

I wanted to guide some of the intelligent people,

For I have been asked about the essence of Buroor

ٍ ‫ﺖ ﻓِﻲ َﺟ َﻮاﺑِ ِﻪ ﺑَِﺮ َﺟ ِﺰ‬

ُ ‫ﻓَ ِﺠ ْﺌ‬
َ ‫َواف ﺑِ ُﻤ ْﻌﻈَ ِﻢ اﻷَﻫﻢ ُﻣ‬
‫ﻮﺟ ِﺰ‬

So in answer, I have come forth with an abridged didactic poem

That covers most of the important matters

‫ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒِ ﱢﺮ ﺑِﺎﻷَﺑَ ِﺎء َواﻷَ ْﺟ َﺪ ِاد‬ ‫َﺳ ﱠﻤ ْﻴﺘُﻪُ اﻟﻈﱠَﻔ َﺮ ﺑِﺎﻟْ ُﻤ َﺮ ِاد‬

I have named it “The Attainment of What is Sought

In Regards to Birr of the Parents and Grandparents”

‫ﺎب ﺑِﺒِ ﱢﺮ اﻷَﺑَـ َﻮﻳْ ْﻦ‬

ٌ ‫َواﷲُ َو ﱠﻫ‬ ‫ﺖ ﻓَﻼَح اﻟْ َﻤ ْﻨ ِﺰﻟَْﻴ ْﻦ‬ َ َ‫َوإِ ْن ﺗ‬
َ ‫ﺸﺄْ ﻗٌـ ْﻠ‬

And if you wish, you may say, “Success of the Two Abodes
Through Birr of the Parents” and Allah is Oft-Giving

‫ﻚ ﻳَﺎ َﺳﺎﺋِ ُﻞ َﻣ ْﻊ َﺳ ْﻌ َﺪﻳْ َﻜﺎ‬

َ ‫ﻟَﺒﱠـ ْﻴ‬ ‫ﻳَﺎ َﺳﺎﺋِﻼً َﻋ ْﻦ ﺑِﱢﺮ َواﻟَ َﺪﻳْ َﻜﺎ‬

O you who has asked about the Birr of your parents,

I have answered you, O questioner, and brought help

‫َﺣ ﱠﻲ َﻋﻠَﻰ اﻟﺒُـ ُﺮوِر ﻳَﺎ اﺑْ َﻦ أُﱠﻣﺎ‬ ِ ‫اﻟﺠ َﻮ‬

‫اب ﻧَﻈْ َﻤﺎ‬ َ ‫ﻚ ﺗَ ْﺤ ِﺮ َﻳﺮ‬
َ َ‫ُدوﻧ‬

Take the completion of the answer in this versified form.

Come to righteousness, O son of my mother

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 ‫ ﺍاﻟﺒﺮﻭوﺭر‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺏب‬
Chapter of Buroor

‫ﻠﺐ َواﻟْ َﺠ َﺴ ِﺪ َواﻷَ ْﻣ َﻮ ِال‬

ِ ‫َواﻟ َﻘ‬ ِ ‫َﺣ ِﻘﻴ ُﻘﺔُ اﻟْﺒُـﺮوِر ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤ َﻘ‬
‫ﺎل‬ َ ُ

The essence of Buroor is attained through speech,

heart, body and wealth

‫ﺴﺒَ َﻤﺎ ﻓِﻲ اﻟ ﱢﺬ ْﻛ ِﺮ َﺟﺎ ُﻣﺒَـﻴﱠـﻨَﺎ‬

َ ‫َﺣ‬ َ ‫ﻓَﺎﻟْ َﻘ ْﻮ ُل أَ ْن ﺗَـ ُﻘ‬
‫ﻮل ﻗَـ ْﻮﻻً ﻟَﻴﱢـﻨَﺎ‬

As for speech, it is that you speak to them softly

This is based on what has come through the Quran in a clear manner

‫ﻴﻞ‬ ِ ‫ِِ ﱢ‬ ِ ٍ ِ ٍِ ِ
ْ ‫ﺑَـ ْﻴ َﻦ ﻳَ َﺪ ْي َﺳﻴﱢﺪﻩ اﻟْ َﻔﻆ اﻟْ َﺠﻠ‬ ‫ﻴﻞ‬
ْ ‫َﻛ َﻘ ْﻮل َﻋ ْﺒﺪ ذي ﺟﻨَﺎﻳَﺔ ذَﻟ‬

Just as a submissive slave that has committed a crime would speak

In front of his harsh, majestic master

َ ‫ﻓِﻲ َﺷﺄْ ٍن ِذي اﻟ ﱠﺪا ِر َوﺗِْﻠ‬

‫ﻚ اﻟ ﱠﺪا ِر‬ ‫اﻟﻮﻗَﺎ ِر‬ ِ ِ
َ ‫ﺼ ْﺤ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻟ ُﺬل َو‬
َ ْ‫ﻓَﺎﻧ‬

So, with humility and dignity, advise them

About the matters of this world and the next

ِ ُ‫وب أَو ﻣﺴﻨ‬

‫ﻮن‬ ٍ ‫ِﻣ ْﻦ ﻓَـ ْﺮ‬
ْ َ ْ ٍ ‫ض أَ ْو َﻣ ْﻨ ُﺪ‬ ‫ﺎج ﻟَﻪُ ﻓِﻲ اﻟ ﱢﺪﻳ ِﻦ‬ ْ ‫َﻋﻠﱢ ْﻤﻪُ َﻣﺎ‬
َ َ‫اﺣﺘ‬

Teach them what they need to know about the matters of the Deen
Such as the obligations, Sunnahs and recommended actions

َ‫اﺟ َﻌﻼ‬ ْ ِ‫ﺗَ ْﺪﻋُ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ ﺑ‬

ْ ‫ﺎﺳ َﻤ ْﻴ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ ﺑَ ِﻞ‬ َ‫ت َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ َوﻻ‬
َ ‫ﺼ ْﻮ‬
‫ﻻَ ﺗَـ ْﺮﻓَ ِﻊ اﻟ ﱠ‬

Do not raise your voice above theirs and

Do not call them by their names. Rather, put

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 ‫َوﻧَ ْﺤ َﻮ َذا ِﻣ ْﻦ َد ْﻋ َﻮةٍ ُﻣ َﺮ ﱢﺟﺒَ ْﻪ‬ ‫َﻣ َﻜﺎﻧَﻪُ ﻳَﺎ َواﻟِ ِﺪي َوﻳَﺎ أَﺑَ ْﻪ‬

In place of that such things as “my father,” “ya abati,”

and the like from amongst all dignifying titles

ْ ‫َﺣ ْﺘ ٌﻢ إِ َن‬
‫اﺳﻠَ َﻤﺎ َوإﻻﱠ َﺣ ُﺮَﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺐ اﻟ ﱠﺮ ْﺣ َﻤﺎ ِن ﻳَـ ْﺮ َﺣ ُﻤ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ‬
ُ َ‫َوﻃَﻠ‬

Ask the Merciful to have mercy on them

This is incumbent if they are Muslims, otherwise it is prohibited

‫ﺎل َواﻟِ ِﺪي‬

َ َ‫اﻻﺑْ ُﻦ ﻳَـ ْﻨﺘَ ِﻔ ُﻞ ﻗ‬
ِ‫و‬
َ ‫َوﻓِﻲ إِ َﺟﺎﺑَِﺔ ﻧِ َﺪ ِاء اﻟْ َﻮاﻟِ ِﺪ‬

As for the matter of when a parent calls his child

and the child is praying a Nafila, my father has said:

ِ ‫ﻒ‬
‫اﻻﺑْ ُﻦ ﻧَـ ْﻔﻠَﻪُ َو َﺳﻠﱠ َﻤﺎ‬ َ ‫َﺧ ﱠﻔ‬ ِ َ‫)وإِ ْن أَب ﻳـﻨ‬
‫ﺎد َﻛﻲ ﻳُ َﻜﻠﱠ َﻤﺎ‬ ُ ٌ َ

“If a father calls out, the son

Should quicken his Nafila prayer and say Salaam so that he may reply

َ ‫ﺎدﺗْﻪُ َوﻟْﻴُ َﺨ ﱢﻔ‬

‫ﻒ اﻟﻨﱠـ ْﻔ َﻞ ﻛﺬا‬ َ َ‫ﻧ‬ ٍ ِ‫َوﻟْﻴُْﺒ ِﺪ ِر اﻷُ ﱠم ﺑِﺘَ ْﺴﺒ‬
‫ﻴﺢ إِذَا‬

He should be quick to answer his mother with Tasbih if

She calls him and he should also quicken his Nafila.

ِ ‫ِﻣﻦ و‬
(‫اﻟﺪي اﻻﺑْ ِﻦ َوإِﻻ ﻗَﻄَ َﻌﺎ‬ ‫ﺻﻢ أ َﻋ َﻤﻰ َﻣﻦ َد َﻋﺎ‬
َ ْ َ ‫َﻣﺎ ﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳَ ُﻜ ْﻦ أ‬

This is as long as the one calling, whether it be either of the child’s parents,
Is not deaf or blind. Otherwise, he should cut the prayer short.”

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 ‫ﻓﺼﻞ‬
Section

‫ﺎم اﻟْ َﻮاﻟِ ِﺪ‬ ِ ِ‫ﺎﺟﺘَﻨ‬

َ ‫ﺐ اﻟْ َﻤ ْﺸ َﻰ أَ َﻣ‬ ْ َ‫ﻓ‬ ‫ﺴ ِﺪ‬ ِ ِ َ ‫َوإِ ْن أَ َر ْد‬
َ ‫ت َﻣﺎ ﻳَﺼﻲ ﺑﺎﻟْ َﺠ‬

If you want to know what has been ordered in regards to the body,
Then beware of walking in front of your parent

َ ِ‫ذَﻟ‬
‫ َواﺗﱠﺒِ ْﻊ‬،٬ ‫ﻚ ﻟَْﻴﻼً ﻓَـﺘَـ َﻌﻠﱠ ْﻢ‬ ِِ ِِ
َ ‫ َواﺗﱠ‬،٬‫أَ ْو ﺑﺈ َزاﺋﻪ ﻧَـ َﻬ ًﺎرا‬
‫ﺴ ْﻊ‬

Also, beware of walking at his side if it is in the daytime, yet there is much leeway in this
matter if it is at night so learn this and follow

َ ‫إِذَا َﺧﻼَ ِﻣ ْﻦ َﺣﻈَ ٍﺮ َوِﻣ ْﻦ‬

‫ﺿ َﺮْر‬ ‫أَ ِﻃ ْﻌﻪُ ﻓِﻲ َﺟ ِﻤﻴ ِﻊ َﻣﺎ ﺑِ ِﻪ أَ َﻣ ْﺮ‬

Obey them in all that they order you to do,

As long as there is no prohibition or danger

ِ ِ ِ ِ‫ﻓِﻲ ﻗ‬
َ ‫ﺼﺔ اﻟﺼﺪ ِﻳﻖ َﻣ َﻊ َﺧﻴ ِﺮ‬
‫اﻟﻮَرى‬ َ ‫َوﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳُ َﺨﺎﻟِﻒ أَ َدﺑًﺎ َﻛ َﻤﺎ َﺟ َﺮى‬

And the order does not contradict proper etiquette, like what took place
In the story of the Siddiq with the Best of Men

‫ﻒ ﺑِﺎﻟْ َﻜ َﺮ َاﻫ ِﺔ‬ َ ‫اك َﻣﺎ اﺗﱠ‬

َ ‫ﺼ‬ َ ‫َﻛ َﺬ‬ ِ ‫ﺎﻋ ٍﺔ وﺟﺒ‬
‫ﺖ‬ َ َ َ َ َ‫إِ ْن أَ َﻣ َﺮا ﺑِﻄ‬

If they order you to do an act of worship, then it becomes incumbent on you

Likewise if they order you to do an action characterized by dislike

‫ﺐ‬ ِْ ‫ﺐ‬ِ ‫أَ ْو ﻳَ ِﺠ‬ ‫إِ ْن ﻧَـ َﻬﻴَﺎ َﻋ ْﻦ ُﻣ ْﺴﺘَ َﺤ ﱟ‬

ْ ‫اك اﻟْ ُﻤ ْﺴﺘً َﺤ‬
َ َ‫ﺎب ذ‬
ُ َ‫اﺟﺘﻨ‬ ‫ﺐ‬
ْ ‫ﺐ ﻳُ ْﺴﺘَ َﺤ‬

If they forbid you to do a recommended action, then it is either recommended

Or incumbent upon you to stay away from that matter

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 َ َ‫ﺲ ﻟَ ُﻬ ْﻢ ِﻓﻲ َﻫ ْﺠ ِﺮِﻫ ﱠﻦ ﻃ‬
ُ‫ﺎﻋﺔ‬ َ ‫ﻟَْﻴ‬ ُ‫ﺴﻨَ ِﻦ َواﻟ ﱠﺮ ِﻏﻴﺒَﺔ‬
‫ﺐ اﻟ ﱡ‬ ِ
ُ ‫َرَواﺗ‬

As for the regular Sunnahs and the Raghiba,

you do not have to obey them if they ask you to leave them

ِ ‫أَ ْﺣﺴﻦ ِﻣﻦ ﻣﻮ‬

‫ﺿ ِﻌ ِﻪ أَ ْو أَ ْرﻓَـ َﻌﺎ‬ ِ ‫وإِ ْن ﺗُﺠﺎﻟِﺴﻪُ ﻓَﺠﻨﱢﺐ ﻣﻮ‬
‫ﺿ َﻌﺎ‬
َْ ْ َ َ َْ ْ َ ْ َ َ

If you sit with them, then stay away from an area

that is better than theirs or higher

‫ ﻻَ ﺗَـ ُﻘ ْﻢ إِذَا ﻗَـ َﻌﺪﺗَﺎ‬،٬‫ﻳَﺄذَ َن‬ ‫ﻻَ ﺗَـ ْﻘﻌُ ْﺪ إِ ْن ﺗَ ْﺪ ُﺧ ْﻞ َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻪ َﺣﺘﱠﻰ‬

Do not sit down, if you enter where they are, until they give you permission
Do not leave if you have sat down, until you ask permission

َ‫ إِﻻﱠ إِذَا َﻣﺎ ﻗَﺒِﻼ‬،٬‫ﻧَﺎﻓِﻠَ ٍﺔ‬ ٍ َ‫ﺴﺎﻓِ ْﺮ ﻓِﻲ ُﻣﺒ‬

َ‫ ﺑَ ْﻞ َوﻻ‬،٬‫ﺎح‬ َ ُ‫َوﻻَ ﺗ‬

Do not travel for a permissible reason, or even

a recommended one, unless they both accept that you do so

‫ُﻣ ْﺬ ﻓِ ِﻴﻪ َﺷ ْﻴ ُﺨﻨَﺎ اﺑْ ُﻦ ُﻣﺘﱠﺎﻟِﻲ َﺷ َﺪا‬ ‫ ُﺣ ْﻜ ُﻤﻪُ ﺑَ َﺪا‬،٬‫َواﻟْﺒِ ﱡﺮ ﻓِﻲ اﻟ ﱡﺮ ْﺣﻠَ ِﺔ‬

Obedience to the parents as far as travelling to seek knowledge has been clear
Since the time our teacher, Ibn Muttal, has said about it

‫ﺎﺳ َﻤ َﻌﺎ‬ ِ ِ ِ ِ ‫ِﻣﻦ اﻟْ ُﺨﺮ‬ ِ ‫)ﻻَ ﺗَـ ْﻌ‬

ْ َ‫وج ﻟ ْﻠﻜ َﻔﺎءي ﻓ‬ُ َ ‫ﻚ َﻣ ْﻬ َﻤﻰ َﻣﻨَـ َﻌﺎ‬
َ ْ‫ﺺ َواﻟَ َﺪﻳ‬

“Do not disobey your parents whenever they prevent you

from going out to seek knowledge that is a collective obligation, so listen.

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 ‫ﻚ ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒَـﻠَ ِﺪ َﻣ ْﻦ ﻳَـ ْﻌﻠَ ُﻢ ذَا‬
ُ َ‫ﻟَ ْﻢ ﻳ‬ ‫اﻟﻌ ْﻴﻨِﻲ إِذَا‬
َ ‫ﻚ‬
ِ ‫ﺼ ِﻬﻤﺎ ﻓِﻲ ﻓَـﺮ‬
َ‫ﺿ‬ ْ
ِ
َ ‫َوا ْﻋ‬

Disobey them in seeking knowledge that is an individual obligation, if

There is no one in your area that is qualified to teach.”

‫ﻀ ِﺮي ِذي ا ِﻹﺑْﻼَ ِج‬

َ ‫َﺷﺎ ِرح اﻷَ ْﺧ‬ ِ َ‫وض ﻻﺑْ ِﻦ ﻧ‬
‫ﺎﺟﻲ‬ ِ ‫اﻟﺮ‬ ِ
َ ‫ﺐ ذَا ﻓﻲ‬
ُ ‫ﺴ‬
َ َ‫ﻧ‬

Ibn Mutal attributed that opinion to Al-Rawd, a book by Ibn Naji, the possessor of clarity
Who is a commentator of the text Al-Akhdari

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Section

ِ ‫ﺎل ﻣﺎ إِﻟَْﻴ ِﻪ ﻳ ْﺤﺘَﺎﺟ‬ ِ ‫ﺎل أَﺑﻮ اﻟْﺤﺴﻦ ﻳـ ْﻌ ِﻄﻴﱠ‬

‫ﺎن‬ َ َ َ ِ ‫ِم اﻟْ َﻤ‬ ‫ﺎن‬ ُ َ َ ُ َ َ‫ﻗ‬

Abu al Hasan has said,

“They must be given any wealth that they require

ِ ‫ﺚ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤ‬ ِ ‫ﻀﻴﻌ‬
ِ
‫ﺎل أَﻟَ ْﻢ‬ َ ُ ‫ َﺣ ْﻴ‬،٬‫ﻳَ ِﺰ ْد َﻋﻠَﻰ ذَا‬ ‫ َوﻟَ ْﻢ‬،٬‫ﺎن‬ َ َ‫َوﻻَ ﻳَ َﺬ ْرُﻫ َﻤﺎ ﻳ‬

And you should not leave them to waste away.” He did not
Mention more than this when he spoke about the financial support of the parents

‫ ﻃَﺎﻟِ ْﻊ ﻟَﻪُ اﻟْ ُﻤﻴَ ﱠ‬،٬‫ِﻣ َﻤﺎ ﺑَ َﺪا‬

‫ﺴ َﺮا‬ ‫ﺚ أَ ْﻋ َﺴ َﺮا‬ ِ ‫واﻟْﺒِ ﱡﺮ ﻓِﻲ ا ِﻹﻧْـ َﻔ‬
ُ ‫ﺎق َﺣ ْﻴ‬ َ

Birr as far as financially supporting them when they are in need

Is from the clear matters so look into it in Al Muyassar

ِ ُ‫ﺎﺣ َﺬر ِﻣ ْﻦ أَ ْن ﺗَـ ْﺒـﻐ‬

َ ‫ﺾ أَ ْو ﺗَـ ْﻌﺘَ ِﺮ‬
‫ﺿﺎ‬ ْ َ‫ﻓ‬ َ ‫ﺐ ِﻣ ﱠﻤﺎ ﻓُ ِﺮ‬
‫ﺿﺎ‬ ِ ‫ﺑِﱡﺮُﻫ َﻤﺎ ﺑِﺎﻟْ َﻘ ْﻠ‬

Birr of them in one’s heart is from what has been made incumbent
So beware of hating them or going against them

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 ‫ ﺍاﻟﺘﻨﺎﺯزﻉع‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺏب‬
The Chapter on Conflicting Orders

‫ﺾ أَ ْﻫ ِﻞ اﻟْ ِﻌ ْﻠ ِﻢ َﻣﺎ‬
ُ ‫ﻧَﻈََﺮ َﺳﺎ َق ﺑَـ ْﻌ‬ ‫ﺎل ﺑَـ ْﻌ َﺪ َﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺸ ْﻴ ُﺦ اﻻَ ْﺟ ُﻬﻮِر ﱡ‬
َ َ‫ي ﻗ‬ ‫اﻟ ﱠ‬

Shaykh Al Ajhoori, after researching the matter, said,

“Some of the people of knowledge transmitted what

‫ﻀﻴَﺎ ﻓِﻲ اﺑْ ٍﻦ َﻋ َﻤ ْﻞ‬ ِ ِ َ‫أ‬ ْ ‫ﻳُِﻔﻴ ُﺪ أَن ﺗُـ َﻘ ﱢﺪ َم اﻷُ ﱠم َﻋﻠَﻰ‬
َ َ‫ب اذَا َﻣﺎ اﻗْـﺘ‬ ‫ال‬

Implies that precedence is given to the mother over

The father if they both demand an action from the child.”

‫ َوﻟْﻴَ ِﻄ ْﻊ أَﺑَﺎﻩ‬،٬‫أَ ْن ﻻَ ﻳَـ ُﻌ ﱠﻖ اﻷُ ﱠم‬ ٌ ِ‫َوَﻣﺎﻟ‬

‫ﻚ أَ َﻣ َﺮ َﻣ ْﻦ ﺗَ َﺠﺎذَﺑَﺎﻩ‬

Imam Malik ordered the one whose parents gave him conflicting orders
To not disobey his mother and to obey his father

‫ﺎح ﻳَ ْﺪ َﻋ ُﻢ‬
ِ ‫ﺼ َﺤ‬
‫ﻳﺚ اﻟ ﱢ‬ ِ ‫وﺑِﺎﻷَﺣ‬
ِ ‫ﺎد‬ ‫ﺎل إِﻧـﱠ َﻬﺎ ﺗُـ َﻘ ﱠﺪ ُم‬ ُ ‫َواﻟﻠﱠْﻴ‬
َ َ‫ﺚ ﻗ‬
َ َ

Al Layth said that she is given precendence

And he supports this by Sahih Hadiths

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 ‫ﺼ ٌﻞ ﻓِﻲ أَﻳَـ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ أ ْﻋﻈَﻢ َﺣﻖ‬
ْ َ‫ﻓ‬
Section on Which of Them Has a Greater Right

‫اﻟﺤ ْﻤ ِﻞ َواﻟﺘَـ ْﺮﺑِﻴَﺔ‬ ِ ٍ َ ‫ِﻣﻦ ُﺷﻖ‬ ْ َ‫ﻟِ ِﺮﻗَ ِﺔ اﻷُِم َوَﻣﺎ ﻟَِﻘﻴ‬
َ ‫ﱠ◌ة ﻓﻲ‬ ْ ‫ﺖ‬

Because of the tenderness of the mother and what she experienced

From the hardship of the pregnancy and childrearing

‫ﻴﻤﺎ ِﻣ ْﻦ اﻟْﺒُـ ُﺮوِر َﻛﺎ َن ﻧُ ِﺪﺑَﺎ‬

َ‫ﻓ‬
ِ ‫ﺴﺎ ﺗَـ ُﻔﻮ ُق ﻟِﻸﺑَﺎ‬ ِ ِ َ‫و‬
َ ‫ﺿ ْﻌﻒ اﻟﻨ‬ َ

And because of the weakness of women, the mother supercedes the father
In the recommended from the matters of Birr

‫ﺮﻫﺎ ُﻣ َﻜ َﺮَرا‬ ِ َ‫إﻟَﻰ ﺛَﻼ‬

َ ‫ث أ ْﻣ‬ ‫اﻟﻮَرى‬ َ ‫ﻟِ َﺬ‬
َ ‫اك ﻗَ ْﺪ َوَر َد َﻋ ْﻦ َﺧﻴ ِﺮ‬

For that reason, it has been narrated from the Best of all Men
That her matter was repeated three times

‫ب ِﻣ ْﻨـ َﻬﺎ أ َﻟﺰُم‬

ِ َ‫َﺣ ًﻘﺎ َو َﺣ ُﻖ اﻷ‬ ‫ي ِﻫ َﻲ أ ْﻋﻈَ ُﻢ‬
ُ ‫ﺼ ِﺮ‬
ْ َ‫ﺴ ُﻦ اﻟﺒ‬
َ ‫اﻟﺤ‬
َ ‫َو‬

Hasan Al-Basri holds the opinion that she has a greater right
But the right of the father is more binding than hers

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 ِ ‫ﺎﻋﺘِ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ ﻓﻲ اﻟﻨِ َﻜ‬
‫ﺎح‬ َ َ‫ﺎب ﻓﻲ ﻃ‬
ٌ َ‫ﺑ‬
Chapter on Obeying Them About Marriage

َ‫ﻀﻼ‬ ُ ‫ﺎل أَ ْﺣ َﻤ ُﺪ إِ َﻣ‬

َ ‫ﺎم اﻟْ ُﻔ‬ َ َ‫ُﻣ ْﺬ ﻗ‬ ِ ‫َواﻟْﺒِ ُﺮ ﻓِﻲ اﻟﻨﱢ َﻜ‬
‫ﺎح ُﺣ ْﻜ ُﻤﻪُ اﻧْ َﺠﻠَﻰ‬

The judgment of Birr in regards to marriage has been made clear

Since Ahmad, the Imam of the righteous people has said:

ِ ‫ﺑِﺘَـ ْﺮ ِك ﺗَـ ْﺰ ِو‬

َ‫ﻳﺞ ُﺳﻠَْﻴ َﻤﻰ َﻣﺜَﻼ‬ َ‫اﻟﻮاﻟِ ُﺪ َﻣ ْﻦ ﻗَ ْﺪ ﻧَ َﺠﻼ‬ ِ
َ ‫)إ ْن أَ َﻣ َﺮ‬

“If the father orders his son

to forgo marriage to a specific person

ِ ُ‫ﻓَﺎﺑﻦ ِﻫﻼ ٍل ذُو اﻟْﻌﻠ‬

َ‫ﻳَـ ْﻠ َﺰُﻣﻪُ ﻟِﻼَ ْﻣ ِﺮ أَ ْن ﻳَ ْﻤﺘَﺜِﻼ‬ ‫ﻮم َواﻟْ ُﻌﻠَﻰ‬ ُ َ ُْ

Then Ibn Hilal, the possessor of knowledge and highness,

Requires him to obey the order

َ‫ﻓَﺎﻟْ َﻬ ْﻴﺜَ ِﻤﻲ ِﺧﻼَﻓَﻪُ ﻟَ ْﻦ ﻳَ ْﺤﻈَﻼ‬ َ‫َوإِ ْن ﻳَ ُﻜ ْﻦ ِﻓ َﺮاﻗَـ َﻬﺎ ﻗَ ْﺪ َﺳﺄَﻻ‬

If it is divorce that the father is asking for,

Then Al Haythami does not prohibit the son’s disobedience

َ‫َﻛﻼَ َﻣﻪُ َﻣﺎ َر ﱠدﻩُ ﺑَ ْﻞ ﻗَﺒِﻼ‬ َ‫ﻮس ﻟَ ﱠﻤﺎ ﻧَـ َﻘﻼ‬

ُ ‫ﺴ‬‫َو َﺳﻴﱢ ِﺪي َﺟ ﱡ‬

And when Sayyidi Jassoos transcribed Al Haythami’s words,

He did not refute them but rather accepted his opinion.”

َ‫ﺲ ﻻَ ِزًﻣﺎ ﻟَﻪُ أَ ْن ﻳَـ ْﻘﺒَﻼ‬

َ ‫ﻓَـﻠَْﻴ‬ َ‫ﺎح َﺣﻈَﻼ‬ ْ َ‫َوإِ ْن ﻳَ ُﻜ ْﻦ أ‬
ِ ‫ﺻ َﻞ اﻟﻨﱢ َﻜ‬

If it is marriage, in general, that they are prohibiting,

Then it is not necessary for him to accept that order

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َ ‫ﺑَﺎب ﺑ ُﺮُﻫ َﻤﺎ ﺑَـ ْﻌ َﺪ‬
Chapter on Birr After Their Death

ِ ‫ﺎذ َﻋ ْﻬ ٍﺪ ِﻣ ْﻨـ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ ﻗَ ْﺪ َوﻗَـ َﻌﺎ‬

‫ب‬s ِ ‫إِﻧْـ َﻔ‬ ِ ‫ﱡرُﻫﻤﺎ ﺑـ ْﻌ َﺪ اﻟْﻤﻤﺎ‬
‫ت ﺑِﺎﻟ ﱡﺪ َﻋﺎ‬ ََ َ َ

Birr after their death is through supplication

And by fulfilling any promises that they had made

‫أَ ْﻫ ِﻞ َﻣ َﻮ ﱠدﺗِ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ ِﻣ ْﻦ ﻗَـ ْﺒ ِﻞ‬ ِ ِ

ْ ‫ َوَو‬،٬‫ﺻﻠَﺔُ أَ ْر َﺣﺎﻣ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ‬
‫ﺻ ِﻞ‬

Renewing their family bonds and continuing

Old relationships with their close friends

‫ﺐ أَ ْم ﻻَ َﻋﻠَﻰ ﻗَـ ْﻮﻟَْﻴ ِﻦ‬ ِ

ٌ ‫َﻫ ْﻞ َواﺟ‬ ‫ﻒ ﻓِﻲ اﻟْﺒُـ ُﺮوِر ﺑِﺎﻟْ َﺠ ﱠﺪﻳْ ِﻦ‬
ُ ‫َواﻟْ ُﺨ ْﻠ‬

   There is a difference of opinion about Birr of the grandparents,

Is it Wajib or not? There are two opinions about this

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 ِ ‫ﺑﺎب اﻟﻌ ُﻘ‬
‫ﻮق‬ ُ َ
Chapter on Uqooq (Filial Recalcitrance)

‫ﺐ‬ ِ ِ ِ ُ َ‫ﻓِﻴﻤﺎ اﻟْ ِﺨﻼ‬ ْ َ‫أَ ﱠﻣﺎ اﻟْﻌُ ُﻘﻮ ُق ﻓَ ُﻤ َﺨﺎﻟََﻔﺔُ اﻻ‬
ْ ‫ﻀ‬
َ َ‫ﺐ اﻟْﻐ‬
ُ ‫ف ﻓﻴﻪ ﻳُﻮﺟ‬ َ ‫ب‬

As for Uqooq, it is differing with the parent

In that which would cause him to be angry

‫ﺻ ِﻐ ُﻴﺮ‬ ‫ف ﻻَ ﻳُﺜِ ُﻴﺮ‬ ِ ‫وﺣﻴﺜُﻤﺎ‬

َ ُ‫َﺳ َﺨﻄَﻪُ ﻓَ ُﺠ ْﺮُﻣﻪ‬ ُ َ‫اﻟﺨﻼ‬ َ َْ َ

If the differing does not cause him to be angry,

Then the sin is a lesser one

‫ﻓِﻲ ﺑَ َﺪ ٍن َوﻳِﺎﻟَﻪُ ِﻣ ْﻦ ﻗَﺎ ِر َﻋ ْﻪ‬ ‫ﺸﺎﺋَِﻌﻪ‬ ِ ‫و ْﻫﻮ ِﻣﻦ اﻟﻤﺤ ﱠﺮﻣ‬

‫ﺎت اﻟ ﱠ‬ ََُ َ َ َ

This differing is from the prohibited matters that are inclusive

Of the entire body and what a calamity that disobedience is

‫ب اﻷَﻳْ ِﺪي َوﻓِ َﺮ ُار اﻷَ ْر ُﺟ ِﻞ‬

ُ ‫ﻀ ْﺮ‬
َ َ‫ﻓ‬ ‫ﺎع ﻳِْﻨ َﺠﻠِﻲ‬ َ َ‫َوإِ ْن ﺗُ ِﺮ ْد ذ‬
‫اك اﻟ ﱢ‬
َ ‫ﺸﻴﱠ‬

If you want to have that inclusiveness made clear

Then it is hitting with the hand, running away with the feet,

ِ َ‫وﺳﻤﻊ اﻷَذ‬
‫ﺴ ِﻦ‬ ُ ‫ َوا ْﻋﺘِ َﺮ‬،٬‫ﻮب‬
ُ ْ‫اض اﻷَﻟ‬
ِ ُ‫ﺾ اﻟْ ُﻘﻠ‬
ُ ْ‫ﺑـُﻐ‬ ‫ان َو َﺷ ْﺰُر اﻷَ ْﻋﻴُ ِﻦ‬ ُ َْ َ

Listening with the ears, giving a hateful glance with the eyes,
Hating with the heart, and differing with the tongue

‫ﺸ ْﺆِﻣ َﻬﺎ َﺳ ِﺮ َﻳﻌﺔُ اﻟْﻌُ ُﻘﻮﺑَِﺔ‬

ُ ‫ِﻟ‬ ‫اﺣ َﺬ ْرﻩُ ﻓَـ ْﻬ َﻮ ِﻣ َﻦ اﻵﺛَ ِﺎم اﻟﱠﺘِﻲ‬
ْ ‫َو‬

Beware of Uqooq for it is from the sins that,

Because of its severity, is quick to be punished

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 ‫ﺴﺎﻧُﻪُ َرﻗِﻴ َﻘﺔٌ ﻟِ ْﻠ ُﻤ ْﻤﺘَ ِﻘ ْﻞ‬ِ
َ‫ﻟ‬ ‫ َواﻟْ َﻔﺘَﻰ اﻟﱠ ِﺬي ا ْﻋﺘُ ِﻘ ْﻞ‬،٬‫َوﻓِﻲ ُﺟ َﺮﻳْ ٍﺞ‬

In the stories of Jurayj and the young boy

Whose tongue was tied, is a lesson for the one who ponders

‫ﻟِﻠ ﱢﺪﻳ ِﻦ َواﻟ ﱡﺪﻧْـﻴَﺎ َﻣ ًﻌﺎ َﺣﻼَ ِق‬ ِ ‫ﺎق إِ ﱠن ﻓِﻲ َﻋ َﻘ‬
‫ﺎق‬ ِ ‫إِ ْﺣ َﺬر َﻋ َﻘ‬
ْ

Beware of Iqaaq for in Iqaaq,

Is what brings death to the Deen and the Dunya

ِ ‫َﺧﻤ ٍﺮ وﻻَ َﻋ ﱟﻖ وﻻَ ﻣﻨﱠ‬

‫ﺎن‬ ِ ‫ﻻَ ﻳ ْﺪ ُﺧﻞ اﻟْﺠﻨﱠﺔَ ذُو إِ ْدﻣ‬
◌ِ ‫ﺎن‬
َ َ َ ْ َ َ ُ َ

Paradise is not entered by one who is addicted to liquor,

A disobedient child, or one who reminds others of his favors to them

ٍ ‫ وﺣ ِﺪ‬،٬‫و ﱢد أَﺑ ِﻴﻪ‬

‫ﻳﺚ ﻧَـﺒَ ِﻮي‬ ‫ﺎب ﻧُﻮِر َﻣ ْﻦ ﺑَ ﱠ‬
‫ﺖ َذ ِوي‬
ََ َ ُ ُ ‫َو َﺟﺎ ذَ َﻫ‬

The disappearance of light from the one who cuts off relations with the
Friends of his father has been mentioned in a Prophetic saying

ْ ‫ﻚ ﺑِﺄَ ْﻣ ٍﺮ ِذي َزَو‬

‫ال‬ َ َ‫ﺴﺒﱠﺒَﺎ ﻟ‬
َ َ‫ﺗ‬ ْ ‫ﻻَ ﺗَ ْﺤﺘﻘﺮ َﺷﺄْﻧَـ ُﻬ َﻤﺎ ﻟِ َﻤﺎ ﻳـُ َﻘ‬
‫ﺎل‬

Do not belittle their matter for what is said

That they have been a cause for you to come into this world

‫ﺎك‬ ‫ﺻﻐَ َﺎر ﻓِ ِﻴﻪ ﻟِﻠ ﱡ‬

ِ ‫ﺸﺒﱠ‬ ِ َ‫ﻓَﻼ‬ ‫اﻟﺤﺎﻛِﻲ‬ ِِ
َ ‫ﻓَـ ْﻬ َﻮ َوإِ ْن َﺣ َﻜﺎﻩُ ﻓﻴﻪ‬

For even if it was claimed by some,

There is no belittlement of the “Shubbaak”

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 ‫ﺼ ﱢﺮ ًﺣﺎ أَ ْن ﻳُ ْﺸ َﻜ َﺮا‬
َ ‫ب اﻟْ َﻮَرى ُﻣ‬
‫َر ﱡ‬ ‫ﺎك ﻓِﻲ َﺷﺄْﻧِ ِﻬ َﻤﺎ أَ ْن أَ َﻣ َﺮا‬
َ ‫َﻛ َﻔ‬

It should be enough for you, in regards to their matter,

That the Lord of Mankind has explicitly ordered us to thank them

‫َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻪ ﻓِﻲ ﻛِﺘَﺎﺑِ ِﻪ اﻟْ ُﻤﻨَـ ﱠﺰِل‬ ‫ﺾ اﻟْ َﻌ ِﻠﻲ‬ ِ ‫ﺎك ﻓِﻲ ﺗَـ ْﻌ ِﻈ‬
‫ﻴﻤ ِﻪ َﺣ ﱠ‬ َ ‫َﻛ َﻔ‬

It should be enough of a reason to glorify them that the Most High Has urged us
to glorifying them in His revealed Book

‫ َواﻟﻨﱠﺒِﻲ‬،٬‫َﻣﺎ ﻗَﺎﻟَﻪُ اﷲُ ﺗَـ َﻌﺎﻟَﻰ‬ ِ َ‫ﺎك ﻓِﻲ إِ ْﻛﺮ ِام اﻷُ ﱢم َواﻷ‬
‫ب‬ َ ‫َﻛ َﻔ‬
َ

It should be enough for you, in regards to honoring the mother and father,
What Allah Exalted and the Prophet have said

‫ﺒﻤﺎ َرُووا‬
َ‫ﺴ‬ َ ‫ﺑَـﻠَ َﻎ َﻣﺎ ﺑَـﻠَ َﻎ َﺣ‬ ‫اﻟﻌ ﱠﻖ ﻻَ ﻳَـ ْﻨـ َﻔﻌُﻪُ َﺷ ْﻴ ٌﺦ َوﻟَﻮ‬
َ ‫َو‬

A Shaykh will not benefit a disrespectful child even if the Shaykh

has reached whatever spiritual station he has reached. This is according to what the scholars have

narrated

‫ﺐ َﻋﻈُ َﻤﺎ‬ َ َ‫ إِ ﱠن ذ‬،٬‫ﺎك‬

ٌ ْ‫اك ذَﻧ‬ َ َ‫أَﺑ‬ ‫ﻻَ ﺗَ ْﺸﺘُ َﻤ ْﻦ أَﺑَﺎ ْاﻣ ِﺮ ٍئ ﻓَـﻴَ ْﺸﺘُ َﻤﺎ‬

Do not curse the father of a man and have then that cause him
To curse your father, for that is a grand sin

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 ‫ﺿ ِﺎع ﻻَ ﺗَ ْﺴﺘَ ْﺨ ِﺪ ُﻣ ْﻪ‬
َ ‫َوﻓِﻲ ِﺳ َﻮى ا ِﻹ ْر‬ َ ‫َوﻻَ ﺗُـ َﻮﱢﻛ ْﻠﻪُ َﻋﻠَﻰ ُﻣ َﺨ‬
‫ﺎﺻ َﻤﻪ‬

Do not make your father your representative in a legal dispute

And in other than nursing, do not employ either of your parents

‫ أَ ْن ﻗَ َﺬﻓَ ْﻪ‬،٬ُ‫ أَ ْو َﺣ ﱠﺪﻩ‬،٬‫ﻓِﻲ َﺣ ﱢﻘ ِﻪ‬ ‫ﺴﻪُ أَ ْو َﺣﻠﱠ َﻔ ْﻪ‬ ِ

َ َ‫َو َﻋ ﱠﻖ إ ْن َﺣﺒ‬

A child is disobedient if he has his parents imprisoned, or has them swear an oath
about a right that they owe him, or has the Hadd punishment incurred on them for Qathf

‫َوﻟَ ِﺪﻩِ َﺣ ﱞﻖ ﻟِﻐَْﻴ ِﺮﻩِ ا ْﻋﺘَـﻠَ ْﻖ‬ ‫ﻧَـ َﻌ ْﻢ ﻟَﻨَﺎ ﺗَ ْﺤﻠِﻴ ُﻔﻪُ إِذَا ﺑِ َﺤ ْﻖ‬

Indeed, we make the parent swear if the right

Of his child involves the right of another person

‫ﺸﺄْﻧُﻪُ ﺑِ َﻬﺎ‬ ِ ِ َ‫أَ ﱠﻣﺎ ﻳ ِﻤﻴﻦ ﻣ ْﻘﺘ‬

ُ َ‫َﻣﺎ ﻳَ ﱠﺪﻋﻲ اﻷ‬
َ َ‫ب ﻓ‬ ‫ﻮﺑﻬﺎ‬
َ ‫ﻀﻲ ُو ُﺟ‬ ُُ َ

As for an oath, the incumbency of its fulfillment

is based on what the father alleges; this matter is left up to the father

َ ‫ﺻﻠُﻪُ ِﻣ ْﻨ‬
‫ﻚ أَ َﺣ ْﻖ‬ ِ ِ
ْ ‫ﻟ َﻘﻄْ ِﻌﻪ َﻣ ْﻦ َو‬ ‫ﺼ َﺪاﻗَ ِﺔ ﻋُ َﻘ ْﻖ‬ ِ
َ ِ‫ﻻَ ﺗَﺜ َﻘ ﱠﻦ ﺑ‬

Do not confide in the friendship of a disrespectful child

For he has cut off relations with someone who has more of a right than you to a relationship

ُ ِ‫ﺑ‬
َ َ‫ﺸ ْﻜ ٍﺮ ﻏَْﻴـ َﺮ اﻷَﺑَـ َﻮﻳْ ِﻦ ﻧ‬
‫ﺼﺎ‬ ‫َوﻟَ ْﻢ أَ ِﺟ ْﺪ ﻛِﺘَﺎب َرﺑِﻰ َو ﱠ‬
‫ﺻﻰ‬

I have not found that the Book of my Lord has explicitly given an order to be
Thankful to other than the parents

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 ‫ﺎء ﻓِﻲ اﻟﺒُـ ُﺮور‬
َ ‫َﻣﺎ َﺟ‬
What Has Been Narrated as Far as Buroor

َ ِ‫َﻛ ْﻮﻧ‬
‫ﻚ َﻣ ْﻌﻪُ َوَﻛ َﻔﻰ َوﻓَ ﱠ‬ ِ ‫ﻀﻞ َﻛﻮﻧًﺎ ﻣﻌﻬﻤﺎ اﻟﻬ‬
َ‫ﻀﻼ‬ ‫ﺎدي َﻋﻠَﻰ‬ َ َ ُ ْ َ ْ َ ‫ﻓَ ﱠ‬

The Guide has given preference to the son’s being with his parents over
Being with him and that should be enough

ِ ‫ﻓِﻲ ِﺣ ْﺰﺑِ ِﻪ و ْﻫﻮ اﻟْﺒ‬

‫ﺼ ُﻴﺮ ﺑِﺎﻟ ﱠﺮ َﺷﺎ ْد‬ ِ ‫ﻟِﻼﺑْ ِﻦ ِﺧ ْﺪﻣﺘَـ ُﻬﻤﺎ َﻋﻠَﻰ‬
‫اﻟﺠ َﻬﺎ ْد‬
َ َ َ َ َ

And, for the son, the Prophet has preferred serving the parents over Jihad with his troop
And he is the one with inner sight when giving guidance

ِ ِ ِ ِ ِ ‫ﺼ ِﺔ أَﺻﺤ‬ ِ ِ
ْ ‫َوَﻣ ْﻦ ﺑ َﺪا ِر اﻟْ ُﺨ ْﻠﺪ َراﻓَ َﻖ اﻟْ َﻜﻠ‬
‫ﻴﻢ‬ ‫ﻴﻢ‬
ْ ‫ﺎب اﻟ ﱠﺮﻗ‬ َ ْ ‫َوإِ ﱠن ﻓﻲ ﻗ ﱠ‬

Verily in the story of the Companions of the Cave,

The story of the one who, in the Abode of Eternity, will accompany Al Kaleem

َ ِ‫ﺴ ِﻌ َﺪا َﻣ ًﻌﺎ ﻟِﻼﺑَِﺮا ِر ﺑ‬

‫ﺸ ْﺮ‬ َ َ‫ﻓ‬ ‫َواﻟﻌُ َﻘ ُﻖ اﻟﱠ ِﺬي ﻏَ ًﺪا أَﺑَﺎﻩُ ﺑَـ ْﺮ‬

And in the story of the one who benefited his father in the next life
Thus making them both fortunate, are glad tidings to the righteous ones

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 ‫ﺼ ٌﻞ ﻓﻲ اﻷُِم‬
ْ َ‫ﻓ‬
Section Concerning the Mother

‫َﻛﺎ َن ﺑِ َﻬﺎ ﺑَـ ﱠﺮا ﻟِﻴَﻼَ ﺗَـ ْﻨ َﺪ َﻣﺎ‬ َ ‫ﺑَـﺮا ﺑِﺄُﱢﻣ‬

‫ﻚ َﻛ َﻤﺎ اﺑْ ُﻦ َﻣ ْﺮﻳَ َﻤﺎ‬

Be a person of Birr with your mother just as the Son of Maryam

Was a person of Birr with her; do this so you will not be remorseful

ْ ‫َوا ْز َد ِﺟ ِﺮ ا ْن ﻧَـ َﻬ‬

‫ﺖ َوﻻَ ﺗُـ َﺮﻃﱢ ِﻞ‬ ‫ﻚ ﻓَﺎﺋْـﺘَ ِﻤ ْﺮ َﻋ ْﻦ َﻋ َﺠ ِﻞ‬
َ ْ‫إِ ْن أَ َﻣ َﺮﺗ‬

If she gives you an order, then obey quickly

Refrain if she prohibits you from something and do not do “Tarattul”

‫ﻓَ َﺠﻨﱠﺔُ اﻟْ ُﺨ ْﻠ ِﺪ ﻟَ َﺪى ِر ْﺟﻠَْﻴـ َﻬﺎ‬ ِ َ‫ﻚ ﻻَ ﺗ‬

‫ﺼ ْﺢ َﻋﻠَْﻴـ َﻬﺎ‬ َ ‫َوإِ ْن َد َﻋ ْﺘ‬

If she calls you, then do not yell at her

For verily Paradise is at her feet

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 ِ ِ َ‫َﺧﺎﺗِﻤﺔٌ ِﻓﻴﻤﺎ ﻳﻄْﻠ‬
ٌ ‫ﺐ ﺑِﻪ َواﻟ ٌﺪ َوَز‬
‫وج َوﻧَ ْﺤ ُﻮ ُﻫ َﻤﺎ‬ ُ ُ َ َ
An Epilogue in Regards to What is Requested of a Parent, Husband and the Like

َ‫ﺑِﱢﺮ َك إِ ﱠن اﷲَ َﺟ ﱠﻞ َو َﻋﻼ‬ َ ‫َوﻳَﺎ أَﺑًﺎ أَ ِﻋ ْﻦ ﺑـُﻨَـﻴﱠ‬

‫ﻚ َﻋﻠَﻰ‬

O Father, help your little son in fulfilling his rights to you

Verily Allah (Glorified and Exalted)

‫َﻛﺎ َن ﻟَﻪُ َﺣ ﱡﻖ َﻋﻠَﻰ آ َﺧ َﺮ أَ ْن‬ ‫ )ﺗَـ َﻌ َﺎوﻧُﻮا( ﻓَـﻴَـ ْﻨﺒَ ِﻐﻲ ﻟِ َﻤ ْﻦ‬:‫ﺎل‬
َ َ‫ﻗ‬

Has said, “Assist each other.” So, it is appropriate for anyone

Who has a right over someone else to

ِ ‫ واﻟْ ِﺠﻴﺮ‬،٬‫ﺴﻴﱢ ِﺪ‬

‫ان‬ ِ ‫ﻳ ِﻌﻴﻨَﻪُ َﻋﻠَْﻴ ِﻪ َﻛﺎ ِﻹ ْﺧﻮ‬
َ َ ‫ َواﻟ ﱠ‬،٬‫َواﻟ ﱠﺰْو ِج‬ ‫ان‬ َ ُ

Assist him in fulfilling it. This is applicable to those such as brothers,

A husband, a master and neighbors

‫ اِﺑْـﻨَﻪُ أَﺗَﺎﻧَﺎ‬،٬ِ‫َﻋﻠَﻰ ﺑـُ ُﺮوِرﻩ‬ ‫َوَرِﺣ َﻢ اﷲُ أَﺑًﺎ أَ َﻋﺎﻧَﺎ‬

And may Allah have mercy on the father who assists his son to fulfill
the rights he owes his parents has reached us through a Hadith

‫َوِﻣ ْﻨﻪُ أَ ْر ُﺟﻮ أَ ْﺣ َﺴ َﻦ اﻟْ ِﺨﺘَ ِﺎم‬ ‫َواﻟْ َﺤ ْﻤ ُﺪ ﻟِﻠﱠ ِﻪ َﻋﻠَﻰ اﻟﺘﱠ َﻤ ِﺎم‬

Praise be to Allah for completion of this text

And from it I hope for the best of seals

ِ َ‫ﻒ ﻻَ أَﻧَﺎ ُل ُﻛ ﱠﻞ َﻣﻄْﻠ‬

‫ﺐ‬ َ ‫ﻓَ َﻜ ْﻴ‬ ‫ﻓَﺎﷲُ َرﺑﱢﻲ َوﻧَﺒِﻴﱢ َﻲ اﻟﻨﱠﺒِﻲ‬

So Allah is my Lord and my prophet is the Prophet

So how can I not gain all that is sought.

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