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Department of Education
Region VI-Western Visayas
Division of Sagay City
A Research Paper
Submitted by:
Arn L. Lopez
Perlie Matarong
Michael E, Nagrama
Grade 11-Descartes
Submitted to:
Mrs. Cecilia D. Singayan
Research Teacher
Sagay National High School
March 2018
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Rogelio D. LapuLapu
SNHS-SHS Coordinator
Villa G. Tupas
Principal III
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
First and foremost, praises and thanks to the God, the Almighty, for His showers
To our classmates who extended their help, support, and consideration when we needed
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To our Research Teacher, Mrs. Cecilia Singayan, who extended her everlasting support,
To our beloved SHS-Coodinator, Mr. Rogelio D. LapuLapu who extended his support
To our dearest Principal III, Mrs. Villa G. Tupas, for giving us the opportunity to conduct
the research;
To our parents who gave their unending support especially in terms of financial matters;
And most of all, to the great person up there, Almighty God, who guided them in every
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Title Page………………………………………………………………………………….
Approval Sheet……………………………………………………………………..….…..i
Acknowledgement……………………………………………………………..………….ii
Certificate of Proofreading…………………………………………………………….....iii
Table of Contents………………………………………………………………………....iv
Abstract...……………………………………………………………………...………......v
Introduction….………………..………………………………………………….............1
Statement of the Problem…………………………………………………………..…..….3
Significance of the Study…………………………………………………………..……...3
Theory/Theoretical Perspective………………………………………………….....……..4
Definition of Terms…………………………………………………………….…….......13
Scope and Limitation of the Study……………………………...………….….……....…13
Review of Related Literature………………………………………………..…...………14
Methods………………………………………………………………………….............31
Research Design…………………….……………………………………………….…...31
Participants of the study…………………………………………………………….....…31
Sampling Design…………………………………………………………………..…..…32
Research Instrument…………………………………………………………………...…33
Validity and Reliability………………………………………………………………..…33
Data Gathering Procedure………………………………………………………….….…33
Treatment of Data and Methods of Analyzing the Data…………………………....…....35
Ethical Consideration……………………………………………..………………..….....37
Results and Discussion……………………………………………………………..…...39
Emerging themes of Participants.......................................................................................40
Major Themes....................................................................................................................71
Thematic Analysis.............................................................................................................78
Summary of Findings……………………………………………...……….…………….95
Conclusion……………………………………………………………..……………..….97
Implication………………………………….……………………………………….…...97
Recommendation………………………………………………………………………...98
References………………………………………………………………………..…...….99
Appendices…………………………………………………………………………….....vi
Transcribed data.................................................................................................................vi
Codes of Participants........................................................................................................xvi
Proximity Matrix..........................................................................................................xxviii
Research Questions.........................................................................................................xxix
Curriculum Vitae of the Researcher................................................................................xxx
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ABSTRACT
Broken family, a family in which one parent is absent, usually due to divorce or
desertion. The decision to separate or divorce is typically reached after years of pain and
struggle. The goal of this study is to understand and help lessen the burden of problems
encountered by Senior High School students having a broken family in Escalante City. 10
research questions were formulated to guide the study. The participants of the study
consists of 7 senior high school students from a broken family enrolled in different
schools but living in Escalante City. Through the process of purposive sampling a total
number of 7 students were selected to participate in the study because purposive
sampling is a non-probability sampling that is selected based on the characteristics of the
population and the objective of the study. The major instrument used for collecting data
was through in-depth interview, which later transcribed. The data collected were
analyzed through the use of codes, pattern, and themes. It was discovered based on the
analysis that most of the respondents encountered financial problems, desire for a
complete family, need someone to lean on, health problem, dealing with the situation,
low academic performance, giving up, and feeling isolated. Different point of view and
responds were got from selected participants. Finding companion or someone to lean on,
positivity, moving on, determination or persistence and faith in God were their ways or
styles in dealing with their situation. They lived below expectation due to lack of
security, care, and discipline. On the basis of such findings & recommendation were
made that, parents should understand the consequences of being a broken family to
children so that even they are not together, they are performing their duty as a mother or
father. The government also should have family support programs so as to keep a broken
family living and prevent the removal of children from the home. And the school
administration may engage them in awareness building activities in order to enhance their
self-discovery and to motivate them to go on their lives and to achieve their dreams.
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INTRODUCTION
Family is a primary social group consisting of parents and their offspring, the
principal function is provision for its members. A broken family -- a family in which the
parents are separated or divorced -- is disruptive to your child's life no matter how
carefully you protect him. Over time, your little one will come to accept his new
"normal," but recognize that it will take time for this acceptance to happen and that
behavioral bumps will occur along the way (Seifert, 2013). The existence of a whole
family is precious and invaluable. In the Philippines, family is defined as a small unit of
society where students got their first learning about the world before they see the reality
of life (Sally, 2016) Parent serves as first teachers of their kids who will teach them
everything about all aspects of life including education and is considered as the major
inspiration and influence to student’s life (Agulana, 2009), therefore having a broken
family deeply affects the life of students. Because it can change the student’s perspective
in life that may end up in ruining their lives. Others might say that it doesn’t matter or it
don’t affect much because it is common to many people but beyond that there are a lot of
things or problems that a broken family or divorced parents may bring. The most
common problem in a broken family is the infidelity of either two parties involved or
students especially those senior high school students while studying such as financial
attending classes, and depression. It is highly observed that students from a broken family
tends to be untrustful of others, they don’t get along with others (Blabla writing, 2016).
In this modern society, cases of a broken family gradually increased, most recent
statistics show that 40-50% of all marriages end in divorce (APA, 2017). The number of
registered marriages showed an erratic trend for the past 10 years. The most notable
change occurred in 2013 which recorded a decrease of 8.2% from 482,399 in 2012 to
442,603. It is also interesting to note that from that year up to 2015, the number of
That’s why this issue or problem should be solved. If not—lessen. Because this is
not a joke. The possible solution is to influence the parents to fix their family
relationship. It can ruin any student’s life and future. So, the government should find a
way to mitigate this problem. It also depends on the parents to talk about it and what may
happen to the future of their children. Because having a broken really affects the life of
the child and most of the students who grew up having this problem becomes rebellious
The goal of this study is to understand and help lessen the burden of problems
encountered by Senior High School students having a broken family in Escalante City.
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This study explores, describes, and analyzes the difficulties encountered by Senior High
School students having a broken family in Escalante City. Specifically it aims to answer
the question:
2. What are the lived experiences of Senior High school students without enough
support?
3. How does a senior high student deal with their everyday life having a broken family?
This study is conducted not only to answer the questions in the statement of the
will have family soon. This study will help them understand the value of a complete
Parents – this study will broaden the understanding of parents on and how bad childhood
or family backgrounds could affect the growth of their child. It also enlightens the minds
of the parents that having a broken family affects the performance of the child mentally
and emotionally.
Society- as the number of cases of broken family increased, this study will help lessen the
growth because the parents’ minds are enlightened and awakened by some problems that
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their child will might encounter. As a result, they will do their best to strengthen their
relationship.
Theory/Theoretical Perspective
This study is anchored on Broken Home Theory and Family Stress Theory. Both
theories provide psychological bases for both explanatory and exploratory understanding
of the study. The broken home theory has been used throughout history in American
society by numerous sociologists to explain why juveniles are delinquent. This theory has
been the most widely used and accepted explanation until recently. Karen Wilkinson,
from the University of Arizona, defines this theory as follows: The broken family is
generally considered a family structure which deviates from the ideal family structure. In
American society the ideal family structure is the Delinquency 16 two-parent (one-male,
one-female) nuclear family. In the broken family one or both parents are absent because
of death, divorce, separation or desertion. This kind of family is expected to have adverse
effects on the child because of lack of proper role models, failure to control the child and
insufficient paternal or maternal love (Wilkinson, 1974). The broken home theory is
government, to be not as effective as a two-parent family. This idea is based solely on the
structure of the family and the fact that two parents are better than one. One source that
helped encourage this view was the “child-savers” movement. Between 1630 and 1830
many delinquent children immigrated to the U.S. not as citizens but as agriculture
workers, indentured servants, and apprentices (Senna, 1994). After independence and
industrialization apprenticeships were dissolved. Children still had extremely low social
status and were treated very harshly including being punished as adults. In 1838, the State
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finally felt that they needed to intervene because causes of delinquency were seen as a
direct result of a poor home and bad parenting. The Parens Patriae doctrine was
introduced which means “the state is the father” (Senna, 1994). This doctrine recognized
children as needing intervention and guidance from the State in the form of treatment and
not criminalization. Separate courts for children were also put in place by the State.
Women played a big role in this movement because the home was their place and
therefore their responsibility to be a good parent and provide a stable home. They
recognized these miserable social conditions and fought to bring them to the public’s
attention. The “child-savers” were the first to say that children should be treated
differently than adults and made juvenile delinquency a “visible social problem”
(Wilkinson, 1974). The child savers got children out of almshouses for the poor, fought
against child labor, pushed for public education Delinquency 17 and probation as well as
adoption. Their efforts brought many issues to the public’s attention which resulted in
new beliefs and ideas about children. For example, people started seeing children as
individuals who needed protection and different treatment than adults. By seeing youth as
children whose brains were not fully developed yet techniques involved intervention and
rehabilitation instead of incarceration. Their ideas and values helped in the creation of
juvenile delinquency as well as well as the invention of many other movements. The
Women’s Rights Movement also started and showed women that they could do things
outside the home. Because of the attitudes and values at this time (1900-1932), ideas of
what was normal or right or wrong was key. For example, divorce is seen a “threat” by
mainstream society and great emphasis is put on the family. Ideological concerns were
the basis for everything and traditional views and moral standards played a huge role
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(Wilkinson, 1974). Religious beliefs were very dominant throughout U.S history.
According to Dr. Robbins, American values have in the past, included a faith in God,
prayer and the Bible, which has for a large part, been the foundation of other national
traditions, such as: honor and respect for the family, diligent work ethics, absolute values
toward authority, moderation rather than excess, marriage as a prerequisite before having
sex or bearing children, a family which consists of both a father and mother, taking
responsibility to provide for our own — such as one’s spouse, family and children, and so
forth (Robbins, 1990). People were taught by the State as well as socialized by religious
institutions to have these values and if they weren’t followed than they were seen as
deviant, abnormal or wrong. Individuals were judged by the elite and those in power
based on these beliefs and traditions resulting in being looked down upon by the
mainstream society. Early sociologists described the family as the most important
example John Bowlby (1946) claimed that coming from a broken home caused
delinquency (Sturt, 2008). Later Ivan Nye (1958), as well as Walter Reckless focused on
the family as the most important source of social control where if juveniles where lacking
one parent they were more likely to have complete freedom and participate in deviant
activities (Jensen, 2003). Because these early sociologists were from rural communities,
with very traditional values, they believed the unstable family was problematic. The
unstable family is defined as being defective and unable to provide adequate moral
training. It is often thought of as being unsafe, unpredictable and chaotic. Their views
encouraged acceptance of the broken home theory. From 1933 to 1950 was the period of
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rejection of the broken home theory. One of the reasons for this was that political and
educational institutions were taking over the role of the family. According to Karen
Wilkinson, “with other institutions gaining control over the development of children, the
family was considered less capable of influencing the behavior of it’s children and was
1974). The state and education systems took over many roles the family had previously
possessed. For example, with children educated outside the home, families were no
longer in complete control of what their children were exposed to. They are taught roles,
values, rules, and morals through the educational system which is controlled by the
government. Therefore the family could not be solely held accountable for what their
children did. The political system defines what is right or wrong in society through the
sanctioning of laws and policies which in turn controls individual actions and activities
within the family. Also, with the Delinquency 19 State taking on the role of being
children’s parents or guardians the family is at the mercy of the State to decide what’s
best for their child. No longer are children educated by their parents and in turn parents
are told how they should educate and raise their children. During this time, change was
starting to occur throughout society with divorce no longer being as big of a threat.
Women starting to get jobs outside the home and urban life changed, resulting in less
traditional ways of life with children no longer working for and getting educated by their
families (Wilkinson, 1974). The current rejection of the broken home theory is based on
the fact that the family is viewed very differently now. According to the National Center
for Juvenile Justice, 69 percent of children were living in two-parent families compared
to 88 percent in 1960 (Snyder, 2006). Most of the remaining children are in single parent
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homes but this statistic is misleading since the Census Bureau only takes into account two
parent families that are legally married. The National Center for Juvenile Justice
proceeded to explain that “the proportion of children living in single parent households
increased from 9 percent in 1920 to 27 percent in 2002” (Snyder, 2006). This shows that
family structure has been changing for a long time and single parents are becoming more
and more predominant. Since it is becoming more common in our society, it is not as
abnormal as it used to be in the past and not as detrimental to children’s lives and
development. There are different periods of time where the broken home has been used to
explain why juveniles are delinquent. This theory reflects changing cultural and
ideological biases, more so than scientific evidence. It shows that we are socialized to
accept or reject these most widely held beliefs. People are influenced by the institutions
Delinquency 20 that serve them and they in turn respond with similar ideas. The political
and educational institutions have a tremendous amount of power over our thoughts and
beliefs because we internalize the things that they tell us about our society and ourselves.
Through public education and the laws enacted by congress we are taught to abide by the
rules or else we will be punished and we learn what is to be considered normal. Normal is
getting married, having children, paying taxes and following all the rules. Times have
changed in today’s society and what was seen as normal back then is not always the case
today. Many people still have a lot of similar ideas about what is considered appropriate,
but with more and more exceptions to the rule these attitudes are changing. It becoming
more okay to be different and stand out in today’s society with single parents being
accepted into the mainstream. There is a more relaxed attitude towards the institution of
desirable when children are involved. One reason for changing views is that the definition
of a family today doesn’t fit with the traditional perception of a married couple with
children. Traditional values of a marriage union persist because a good portion of the
public doesn’t think that taxpayer should have to pay to raise someone else’s child and
that parents should take more responsibility for their children’s actions. Many studies,
which will be discussed shortly, have shown that there is little significance between the
broken family and juvenile delinquency, yet some still claim that the dysfunctional
family (i.e. broken families) plays a role. Much controversy still exists because of
religious and traditional values. By looking at some alarming statistics that show the
nature and trends of juvenile delinquency in our society today we can gain a better
This theory recognizes that individuals act rationally and emphasizes the power of
instance, familial beliefs, media conceptions, and societal models. Perceived Behavioral
Control: the degree to which the individual could perform a behavior. The theory is
limited to discrete sample populations and does not incorporate profiles of previous
behaviors nor does it address when positive intentions are not enough to enact behaviors
If we fail to come to terms with the relationship between family structure and declining
child well-being, then it will be increasingly difficult to improve children’s life prospects,
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no matter how many new programs the government will fund. Nor will we be able to
quality of the nation’s future work force–all domestic problems closely connected to
family breakup. Worse, we may contribute to the problem by pursuing policies that
For McDonald (2001), acute stressors (meaning sudden onset) which when
crises. Examples of such family crises resulting from family stressors are episodes of
domestic violence, substance abuse (relapses), illness from weakened immune systems,
divorce, accidents, children being abused, or neglected, etc. This is what the Family
Stress Theory emphasized, it explores why some family systems adapt and even grow
and thrive when faced with situational stressors or transitional events, while other family
family experiences multiple stressors, Attneave (1986) pointed out that they are socially
isolated and emotionally disconnected to one another, they are depressed, hopeless, and
disempowered, then they will be at increased risk for illness, accidents, child abuse and
showing that when families disintegrate, children often end up with intellectual, physical
and emotional scars that persist for life i.e. the drug crisis, the education crisis, and the
problem of teen pregnancy and juvenile crime. But all these ills trace back predominantly
to one source: broken families. A broken family in this context is one that is not
structurally intact for various reasons; death of a parent, divorce, separation, dissertation
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and illegitimacy in which case, the family was never completed (Conkline, 1996). This
analysis becomes necessary because life in a single parent family can be stressful for both
the child and the parent. Such families are faced with the challenges of diminished
financial resources (Children’s Defence Fund 1994), assumptions of new roles and
reorganization of routines and schedules (Agulanna, 1999). When the single parent is
they often become irritable, impatient and insensitive to their children’s needs
(Nzewunwah, 1995). As seen, children from broken home household are disadvantaged.
Some of them do not go to school; those who do may attend low quality schools, with
low academic performance. Some of them may drop out of school prematurely, Children
from broken home academic performance are often adversely affected, and the stresses of
home/household (Dowd, 1997; p. 59). Messiah (1983) said that some parents from
broken homes are usually found in low status jobs. This may be because they did not
have enough school preparations to equip them for high caliber jobs with which to use in
Basically, the family lays the psychosocial, moral and spiritual foundations in the
overall development of the child (Agulanna, 1999). Parents and the individual’s
experiences at home play tremendous roles in building the personality of the child and
making the child what he is (Ajila and Olutola, 2007). Further, the home environment or
family has been recognized as having a lot of influence on the academic performance of
students (Nzewuawah 1995). And over the years, the investigations of the factors that
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influence academic performance of students have attracted the interest and concern of
affects children emotionally and this could lead to poor academic performance in school.
Seemingly, the school can only supplement the values and learning at home. Although
the school takes care of the academic development but it is still within the sphere of the
home environment and family dynamics where children can learn the basic knowledge
Kellaghan and his collegues (1993) conclude, for example, that family social
status or cultural background need not determine a child’s achievement at school. They
propose that for academic success, it is what parents do in the home, and not children’s
Analyses of the relations between families and academic achievement also need
and the effect of sibling structures. It is generally acknowledged that family environment
Research that has examined relationships between changing family structures and
families, children in single-parent families have lower academic performance, are more
susceptible to peer pressure to engage in deviant behavior, have higher dropout rates from
Definition of Terms:
Family - is a single word, with many different meanings. People have many ways of
defining a family and what being a part of a family means to them. Families differ in
terms of economic, cultural, social, and many other facets, but what every family has in
common is that the people who call it a family are making clear that those people are
Broken Family- is the one that structurally intact, as a result of divorce, separation, death
organization representing psychology in the United States, with more than 115,700
Senior High School – An additional two years for high school students due to the K-12
program or curriculum.
Struggles- means learning and make forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint or
constriction.
This study primarily focuses on the difficulties encountered by senior high school
students who came from identified broken homes. The sample selection was limited to
only one city and that is the Escalante City, which reduces the generalizability of the
results. Involved as subjects and respondents of the study were 7 senior high school
students enrolled in different schools but living in Escalante City during the school year
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2017-2018. Further research is needed to understand factors that may affect academic
This chapter presents the related literature and studies both local from foreign and
local sources. This also includes the ideas, finished thesis, generalization or conclusions,
methodologies, and others. Those that were included in this chapter helps in familiarizing
Broken is a difficult situation to be in. Other people are only concerned about
what is happening to the parents, without knowing it has greater effects to the child, the
child ends up with the greatest amount of problems. These may not be obvious at first
they might not show up right away. Divorce may bring a lot of negative impacts to the
life of the child. It may bring negative effects on the psychological and social aspects of
The U.S Center for Marriage and family released a study in November, 2005 that
shows broken family structures consistently lead to education difficulties for children.
“When it comes to educational achievement, children living with their own married
parents do significantly better than other children.” The study shows that children from
broken families have higher difficulties with all levels of education, from kindergarten to
college level. The study suggest that every year a child spend with a single parent or
stepparent will reduce the child’s overall educational attainment by approximately one-
structure and children’s academic performance, compared children from their own
remarried or cohabiting parents. Family structures was always found to be a factor that
will affect the child’s behavior and directly influence the academic performance
substance abuse, sexual activity and teen pregnancy. Those children from non-intact
homes had higher rates of stress, depression, anxiety and low self-esteem, particularly as
The study found that preschool children from broken homes were three times
more likely to suffer from attention deficit disorders than other children’s they also suffer
health problems too. They also have the difficulty in reading (Tldm, 2005).
During the elementary year, children from broken homes have low reading
comprehension and math; they also have difficulty in maintaining their grade. Those
children from a complete family have less behavioural problems in classrooms than those
from broken family. Teenagers from broken home were 30% more likely to miss school,
be late, or cut class than other students. Maybe the parents of these children have
difficulty in monitoring them; their parents might be busy in other things. These children
have higher risks for smoking, using drugs and consuming alcohol (Tldm, 2005).
Teenagers from broken family were sexually active and had high rates of
pregnancy. Those girls from single-mother were at greater risk of teenage pregnancy. The
study results shows that children living with single-parent or step-parent, by the time they
reach 14, they were more likely to be arrested. Those children that never lived with their
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own father had the highest probability of being arrested. The study reported that majority
of children from U.S will spend significant part of childhood in a one parent home by the
time they reach 18. The rate of broken homes in U.S nearly doubled in 1969-2003 (Tldm,
2005).
Most parents that are undergoing in divorce are concerned about their children’s
reaction to the divorce. They want to know if their children will grow up to be happy and
healthy. Sociologist and psychologist are beginning to provide information about the
effects of divorce on children. The research shows that the effects are depending on the
gender and age of the child during divorce. It can also be affected by the child’s
personality, amount of conflict between parents and the support from friends and family
(Extensionedu, 2014).
The research finds out that boys rose by father and girls by mothers may do better
than children raised by parent of opposite sex. Boys living with their father seem to be
less aggressive. They have less emotional problems than boys raised by mother. Girls
raised by their mother tend to be more responsible and mature than girls raised in
opposite sex. However, the children’s adjustment following a divorce has more to do
with the quality of the parent-child relationship than with the gender and age of child
(Extensionedu, 2014).
It will also maintain their trust on you. Sharing general information is appropriate.
Adolescence will want more details; you have to ensure them about the future. They
might want to know what will be their relationship to both parents. Limiting the conflict
between parents is one of the factors that will contribute to the well-being of the child.
Both parents should agree on the discipline and child rearing as well as love and approval
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from both parents, this will contribute to the child’s sense of well-being and self-worth9
(Extensionedu, 2014).
difficult between parents who don’t get along. If there is a high between parents, joint
living arrangement may not be the best interest of the child. Parents should be involved
day-to-day in their children’s lives and letting them know that they are loved and valued.
A parent living in different state can still keep in close touch with children; they can use
letters, emails, phone calls, tape recorder messages and sharing paperwork and artwork
Foreign Studies
raised by a single-parent or in a blended family are three times more likely to seek a
These are some of the other outrageous statistics about the effect of divorce on children:
Journal of Marriage and the Family), twenty to thirty-five percent of children who are
living with both biological parents are physically healthy than those from broken homes.
Children who have divorced parents have greater possibility to experience injury, asthma,
headaches and speech defects than those children whose parents are intact.
Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1991), after six
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years of parental marriage separation, a study of children revealed that even though many
years have passed, these children still feel "lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure".
What Hurts, What Helps" Harvard University Press 1994), Children who have divorced
parents are approximately two times more expected to drop out of high school than those
fifty percent of children with divorced parents are more probable to develop health
America), fifty percent of those children who are born this year with both parents, before
reaching their 18th birthday, they will experience the divorce of their parents.
Hopefully these statistics may ultimately cause you and your spouse to sincerely consider
all the cost of divorce before you make the final choice.
Based on these statistics, it becomes clear that children need secure, loving homes
with both parents. There is, of course an omission to every rule, and in this case it is
households where violence is taking place. Children should under no situation remain in a
If both of you have just "grown apart", or fell out of love and if there is no violence
enchanting place in your marriage, for your children's sake, I advise you to seek out help
It has been expected in the United States today that almost half of all couples that walk
down the aisle will rashly have divorce, but how about the clause "until death do us
part?"
Over time, there have been many theories obtainable as to why divorce occurs and
why these tolls have enlarged so radically over the last 30 years. Some think that the
country may take part in a role; others suppose that the span of the courtship plays an
separation will result; or not cohabitating prior to marriage may add as the evolution era
is too stressful; still others think that the separation progression is too simple; if laws
were stricter and divorces were further hard to get, these divorce statistics would get
better over era. At this era, although elevated, the separation tempo has decreased to
some extent lessening the minds of the American public. There is still small hope that
In this fast paced civilization that we exist in nowadays, it must to be simple for
us, the American public, to be aware of this phenomenon. The standard "American
Family" has both parents in the place of work, financial stress, job discontent, children in
school activities and sports, "high demand" lifestyles and generally small time to center
on the family's group cohesiveness. Although Waite and Lillard (1991) viewed that
environmental stressors and everyday labor are often more than a parental relationship
can endure. These "standard" stressors alone can make much chaos, turmoil and in time
There is a current data which supports that stress in a broken family is mostly affecting
the children. Divorce is seen, as the cause of the negative events and psychological
Many studies show that family conflict was typically a strong precursor to divorce
and lead children from divorced families to rate their relationships as having greater
family conflict. Those from intact families reported more cohesion, expressiveness,
sociability, and idealization and less conflict than those from divorced families. However,
coming from a divorced family did not affect young adults' self-esteem, fear of intimacy,
or relationship satisfaction, but it did affect fears and expectations for divorce (Kirk,
2002).
In-depth studies strongly indicate that the attitudes surrounding marriage and
women from divorced families tend to score significantly lower on several measures of
Bulman, & Roberts; 1990). This trend has the potential to have social impact on our
culture because the evidence suggests that adult children of divorce have relationship
problems that lead to divorce in their marriages as well, which could lead to a perpetual
Perhaps the greatest problem associated with divorce is that it does appear to be a cyclical
phenomenon. An estimated 40% to 50% of children born in the U.S. in the 1980's
experienced parental divorce (Fine, Moreland, & Schwebel, 1983). Women who
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experience parental divorce have a 60% higher divorce rate than their counterparts; while
men whose parents divorced have a 35% higher rate of divorce than men whose parents
remained married (Glen & Shelton, 1983). It seems clear that people from divorced
families are more likely to be divorced themselves and therefore convey the impression
that marital dissolution is more acceptable. Amato (1987) states that adult children of
divorce feel more pessimistic about their chances of life-long marriage and evaluate
premarital sexual intercourse, their satisfaction with their current relationship was lower,
and they showed a decline in the parent-child relationship. These adult children of
divorce also expressed more difficulty in finding people with whom they could establish
Judith Wallerstein (2004) has been one of the leading researchers on the
phenomenon of divorce and its impact on adult relationships. Her 25 year longevity study
seems to strongly indicate that the attitudes surrounding marriage and success in marriage
the Wallerstein study did not indicate feelings of fear of having successful relationships,
but felt less optimistic about their chances of having a successful marriage. This study
was one of the most in-depth studies ever conducted on adult children of divorce, and
illustrates how adult children of divorce have been impacted by the choices of their
parents.
The effect of parental divorce on young adults' romantic relationship dissolution: What
makes a difference?
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It was proposed that parental divorce does not have a uniform effect on young
adults' romantic relationships and that differential outcomes depend on how young adults
perceive their parents' divorce. Using a sample of 571 young adults, structural equation
modeling suggested that, compared with those from intact families, young adults whose
parents divorced held a more favorable attitude toward divorce. A positive attitude
toward divorce was associated with lower commitment to their romantic relationship,
which in turn affected its dissolution. More importantly, young adults' perception of
parental divorce varied depending on interparental conflict and parents' marital quality
before the divorce. The variation in the perception of interparental divorce was linked to
Parental marital conflict and divorce, parent-child relationships, social support, and
conflict and divorce for offspring, relations between recollections of parental conflict,
parental divorce, and social outcomes in young adulthood were examined. A total sample
of 566 young adults from divorced and intact families completed measures of parental
and perceptions of social support from others. As hypothesized, divorce and conflict had
from others, and anxiety in personal relationships. Parental divorce was associated with
lower quality father-child relationships, yet divorce was associated with significant
socioeconomic status.
is related to their emotional separation from their parents. According to Eriksonian and
neo-Eriksonian theory (J. E. Marcia, 1980, 1984), adolescents who are successful in
resolving their identity issues are better able to emotionally individuate from their
parents. That is, adolescents have fewer conflicts with parents as they become more
independent of them. Results of the present study indicate that adolescent perceptions of
mother's caring behavior, but not father's caring behavior, predicted higher foreclosure
autonomy (i.e., perceiving parents as people and parental deidealization) best predicted
the adolescent identity statuses of moratorium and foreclosure. Results also indicate that
constructs of interest in this study and better measures of emotional autonomy among
adolescents.
happening between the parents, that concerns most people. However hurtful divorce is on
the couple that is going through it, the children end up with the greatest amount of
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problems. These problems that the children develop are not always obvious, and do no
"Most often the children responded to the announcement [of the divorce] with
younger children, about one-third of the entire group, didn't really believe what they had
been told. For these youngsters, the single announcement by the parents made it easier for
them to pretend that the divorce would soon go away and to postpone their own response
Children often try to stop the divorce of their parents, but there are many who
seem to accept it at first. These who seem to accept it may even tell their parents that they
are happy about the divorce. This is not necessarily the case, as one would see if he or she
spoke with the child for a while. There are many things that divorce does to a family, and
there are many things that is does to the child. These effects are rarely positive, or helpful
depending upon the family's prior situation. Divorce has many negative effects on the
There are many psychological aspects of a child's life that change when his or her
parents go through a divorce. As previously mentioned by the writer, a child may not
show initially how he or she feels about the divorce, but the true feelings of that child
eventually surface. Joan B. Kelly, in an article for the Journal of the American Academy
impulsive, and violent behavior into their own behavior as a result of observing their
parents' responses to frustration and rage". This is something that many children that
witness the divorce of their parents go through. The child naturally looks to his or her
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parent or parents for the example of how to handle certain situations and emotions.
During a divorce there is much anger and aggression that is expressed by one or both
parents of that child. This is not healthy for the child to witness for several reasons. One
of the main reasons is that the child sees this example of aggression that his or her parents
are setting, and he or she begins to react in the same manner. Anger and aggression tend
to become the child's tools for solving his or her problems. The child becomes like the
parents and could cause harm to others because of not knowing or understanding how to
control these feelings. He or she may often violently lash out at those around him or her
"The severity of fighting has been documented in many studies to have a central
role. High-intensity fighting is associated with more insecure attachments and anxiety in
infants and toddlers. In older children and adolescents, severity of conflict had the largest
and most consistent impact on children's adjustment, with intense conflict leading to
(depression, anxiety, poor self-esteem) symptoms in both boys and girls, compared with
This leads to the next psychological effect that divorce has on children.
Depression is a major effect that divorce has on children. This is not necessarily
something that occurs during the divorce, but has major effects on the later life of the
child. "A high level of marital conflict experienced during childhood has been linked to
more depression and other psychological disorders in young adults, compared with those
reporting lower levels of family conflict during childhood" (Kelly 3). Lora Heims
Tessman, author of Children of Parting Parents says, "most of the adolescents were
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increased acting out with self-destructive components, but without anxious depression"
There are also many social effects that divorce has on children. The child often
feels unconnected to his or her peers. He or she feels "unable to make or maintain
friendships and complained about being 'unconnected' to [his or her] peers" (Tessman
327). Also contributing to feeling unconnected to their peers is that "in numerous studies
over the past three decades, divorced children have been reported to be more aggressive
and impulsive and to engage in more antisocial behaviors, compared with matched
samples of never-divorced children" (Kelly 6). The divorce that these children experience
causes them to act and react in ways that are not considered socially acceptable, and
distancing themselves from their peers. "Diagnostically, the adolescents varied greatly,
but did share a number of clinical features. The great majority had either lost a previous
enjoyment or learning or were, increasingly, cutting and failing classes" (Tessman 327).
The children of these divorced families have become so mixed up that they do not know
who they are any longer. Things that they once loved or enjoyed, things that they were
Going along with socially unacceptable behaviors Kelly says that, "Divorced
children are more likely to use alcohol, cigarettes, and marijuana than are never-divorced
children . . . [they] are twice as likely to give birth to a child as a teenager compared with
never-divorced children" . The children that have suffered through the divorce of their
parents tend to rebel against society and the law. This is shown through the higher drug,
alcohol, and pregnancy rates of children who come from "broken" homes. "In many cases
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in this group, one of the parent's presenting complaints about the referred adolescent who
was 'lying,' 'playing the truth,' 'untrustworthiness,' 'deviousness' etc" (Tessman 327). The
reliability of the child's word comes into question due to the child's rebellious ways. He
or she might sneak thing behind his or her parents' backs in order to commit the acts that
“Young adults whose parents divorced during childhood, compared with never-
divorced children, have more pregnancies outside of marriage, and earlier marriages (a
risk factor for later divorce), poorer marital relationships, increased propensity to divorce,
and poorer socioeconomic attainment" . The divorce itself has impacted the way that
young adults view their relationships. They remember how their parents handled
situations or they remember the pain of that situation and it carries over into their
To conclude, divorce has many negative effects on the children that live through
them. "Broken" homes are a tough situation to deal with, that children across the United
States of America attempt to handle in very similar ways. Their reactions to the divorce
itself are similar in many ways; it affects both the psychological and social aspects of
their lives.
Local Studies
impact on the family and the children, may have cause “discipline problems” (p. 254)
and may later on lead to some forms of “addiction” (p. 254) and behavioral disorders
(Miller, Keitner, Whisman, Ryan, Epstein & Bishop, 1992; Reed & Solle, 1992). Miller
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et al. (1992) studied married patients from dysfunctional families and found out
that “depressed patients from dysfunctional families also appear to have a worse
course of depression” (p. 637). This depression was related to “marital distress”,
“criticisms from spouse” (p. 637) and “family functioning” (p. 638). In addition, Reed et
al. (1992) proposed the term “conduct disordered behavior” (p. 352) and stated that
children with this kind of behavioral disorder tend to be “antisocial and socially
aggressive individuals” (p. 352). This means that children will have been the most
Schools of Public Health (1991) that “youths who are members of families that have
problems related to violence and parents’ little display of affection” (p. 251) are among
the high risk groups to commit violence. That is why it is very important to have a full
Psychiatric Association), said that having a dysfunctional family is the usual problem
that Filipinos face today. There are many problems that we face, work, stress,
relationships but the family is the worse thing that a Filipino will have a problem with.
Every year, more and more Filipinos seek a doctor’s help and more mental illness are
being recorded among Filipinos. Treatment for these kinds of situation is very expensive
A research was also conducted among Filipino families and our culture. In his
article, he said that Filipino families are designed to be dysfunctional for the problem
starts inside the family. Filipinos were influenced by the Spaniards, Americans and even
the Japanese, and even those bad influences, Filipinos never tried to remove it from their
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system. False values are everywhere thus until today, dysfunctional families are growing.
In the article, some people want to break free from these traditions thus going abroad and
never go back to their motherland. Family is the most influential thing on earth. The way
we act, vote, corruption, bad behavior are all from families which reflects the family’s
Conduct Disordered behaviors in children and youth has the largest group of
variable was looked into and it’s the predisposing family variable. Under it are Marital
and reciprocity training, another variable is Family-Oriented Interventions. Under this are
disordered youth and their parents were shown here. The family treatment strategies have
found as effective with the population are identified including variations of parent
systemic treatment approach. There has been a strong association between marital discord
and conduct problems in adolescents. Marital discord has a negative impact on children.
family interaction and maintained within the family system (Reed and Sollie 1992).
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Thus, this study will show the difficulties of senior high school students from a
broken family. This includes the things they want to recommend. The articles and issue
stated above will be used as a guide in this study in order to know which should be
solved. This would also be a guide in interviewing the participants especially when doing
follow up questions.
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METHODS
Presented in this section of the study are the nature of the study, the research
design of the study particularly how the participants chosen, how the sample size is
determined, the research instruments used with their underlying reliability and validation,
the data analysis and gathering procedure which includes the credibility, transferability
and dependability of the study and all the individuals involved and the ethical
Research Design
qualitative analysis of narrative data, methods to analyze its data must be quite different
from more traditional or quantitative methods of research. (Waters, 2017). As well as the
objectives of this study which is to know the difficulties encountered by Senior high
The researcher’s goal is to get 7 participants only for the in-depth interview.
Participants that have enough experiences and subjects that have encountered the same
problem or situation as what the study aims to identify. Note the study participant
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characteristics and determine whether these characteristics are appropriate for the study
objective (Tietze K, 2012) Resolution regarding choice are based on the research
National High School. They belong to a lower class family with an income of ₱3000-
5000 monthly. Some of them cannot attend class regularly because of financial issues and
Other 2 participants are presently enrolled in Sagay National High School, but
living in Escalante CIty. And 1 participant from University of St. La Salle but currently
lived in Escalante City and belongs to an Upper Class family with higher income
Sampling Design
sampling that is selected based on the characteristics of the population and the objective
of the study (Crossman, 2017). The main goal of purposive sampling is to focus on
particular characteristics of a population that are of interest, which will best enable you to
answer your research questions. This design helped the researcher in determining
possible to cover all Senior High School studying in different schools but living in
Escalante City. According to Kothari (1978), the results obtained by sampling often are
almost accurate as census and sometimes even more accurate than those obtained from
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census. He also mentioned that more detailed information can be obtained from a survey
than from a census because a sample permits more care to be taken in its execution.
Research Instrument
The research instrument used was a semi-structured interview protocol for the
reason that the researcher created an interview guideline for the participants in the in-
depth interview. Semi-structured Interviews are used to gather focused, qualitative textual
data. This method offers a balance between the flexibility of an open-ended interview and
The validity and reliability of the data gathered were established when the
researcher used an audio and video recorder to accurately register the response of the
participants. The researcher also tried to repeat asking the questions when the interviewee
failed to comprehend and would sometimes try to explain if necessary. There was also an
auditor who determined whether the data transcribed is really meant by the participants.
The data gathered were showed to the respondents to ensure accuracy. The participants
will also be asked if they have additional informations. Their corrections and adjustments
Permission to conduct the study was secured by the researcher. The researcher
point of view and lived experiences using open and responsive approach. Interviews were
device. The subject guide included the following feed to acquire participant point of
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view and experiences: 1. How broken family affects them 2. Why having a broken
family affects their performance in school 3. What are the difficulties encountered by
students having a broken family. The following set of procedures was done by the
1. The researcher selected participant based on the purpose of the study that was in
2. The participants who were qualified in the inclusion criteria were approached by the
3. An informed consent was sent to each of the participants. Informed consents states that
whatever information shared will be dealt with utmost confidentiality and will be used for
research purposes only. Moreover, it also discussed the purpose of the study and the
procedures that were used in the data collection. Five of them fulfil to the researcher’s
4. The questions were sent earlier to the participants so that they will know what to
allow the participants to elaborate on the questions asked. In qualitative studies, the
researcher was also an instrument. The interview protocol served as guide but data
gathering was largely dependent on the researcher’s skill in asking relevant and
appropriate questions probing for depth and data analysis and synthesis.
6. During the interview, the researcher used an excellent and reliable digital audio and
video recorder to supplement and enrich the data collection as well as bodily expressions,
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obvious and subtle nuances, interaction and the atmosphere of the interview were
properly noted.
7. The researcher used engagement in the data collection. “Engagement stresses the
importance of researcher subjectivity given the tight relationship between researcher and
participant, who both functions as decision make in all the aspects of the research.”
8. The researcher prepared some snacks for the participants and thanked them for their
openness as they discuss their lived experience and for their trust.
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Data obtained from the field is raw and were difficult to interpret. Therefore, such
data must be analyzed to give meaning and accurate interpretations. The collected data
from field work through interviews was coded first to enable analyses.
an attempt to produce an objective statement of the object or event itself (Osborn and
detail how participants are making sense of their personal and social world.
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The stages of data analysis in IPA were based on Smith and Osborn (2007) and they’re as
follows:
The first stage involved looking for themes in the first case. The transcript was read a
number of times; the left hand margin being used to annotate what is interesting or
significant about what the respondent said. It was completely necessary in the first stage
of the analysis to read and reread the transcript closely in order to become as familiar as
possible with the account. Each reading had the potential to throw insights. The process
continued for the whole of the first transcript. Then one returned to the beginning of the
transcript, and the other margin is used to document emerging theme titles. Here the
initial notes were transformed into concise phrases which aim to capture the essential
quality of what was found in the text. The themes moved from a response to a slightly
The second stage was concerned with linking and connecting the themes. The emergent
themes were listed on a sheet of paper, and the researcher looked for connections
between them. So, in the initial list, the order provided is chronological – it is based on
the sequence with which came upon the transcript. Then, a more analytical or theoretical
ordering as the researcher tries to make sense of the connections between the themes
which are emerging was done. Some of the themes clustered together, and some emerged
as superordinate concepts. As the clustering other themes emerged, it was checked in the
transcript to make sure the connections work for the primary source material – the actual
The third stage was the continuing analysis with other cases. “The stage consists further
reducing and summarizing the data by establishing connections between the preliminary
themes and clustering them appropriately. These clusters a given a descriptive label
(higher order theme title) that conveys the conceptual nature of the themes therein”
( Eatough, Smith & Shaw, 2008). Member validation or checking was done in this
study.” Member validation involves presenting the themes to the individual participants
in a follow-up interview. The aim is to allow the participants the opportunity to assess the
themes that emerged from the analyzed data and comment on the congruence of their
The fourth stage was writing up. The final section was concerned with moving from the
final themes to a write- up and final statement outlining the meanings inherent in the
participants’ experience. “The stage is concerned with translating themes into a narrative
account (Smith & Osborn, 2009). When the data has been analyzed, the summary tables
were integrated into a comprehensive list that reflects the experiences of the group in its
entirety. The table of themes was the basis for the account of the participants’ responses,
which takes the form of the narrative argument interspersed with verbatim extracts from
Ethical Consideration
Broken Family is prevalent nowadays. The absence of one parent is not that easy
for the child. Being a part of a broken family affects every aspect of life. Child suffers
emotional and social problems that may lead to depression. The educational performance
of the child is also affect by this. Because of this problem the researcher wants to
Participants was informed about the goal of this study and were interviewed to explore
the difficulties encountered by Senior High School students having a broken family, the
reason why they’re chosen, all risk and benefits, and they were insured that their identity
will be confidential and kept hidden. They were also informed that they have the right to
decline the participation and withdraw from the interview anytime they want. No money
given and anything that might ruin their reputation. But at the end of the interview, some
food was given in case the subject was hungry and for the appreciation of his
participation. Also to create some relationship and to know them better without any
This chapter presents in detail the difficulties encountered by Senior High School
Students having a broken family in Escalante City. The actual conversations gathered in
the in-depth interview were made into transcribed notes and eventually provided rich
This chapter presents and discusses the main themes as it emerged from the
stories of the participants. The themes do not only represent the reality as experienced by
the participants but may have been also influenced by the researcher’s perspective. The
themes identified and explained in this chapter can consequently be identified and
opportunity to unfold their own story, the themes as well as focused on the unique story
family individually.
Participant A
Sagay National High School, before she was living in Escalante City but currently living
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in Bug-ang. Her mother brought them in Bug-ang because of their situation. She is
emotional during our interview because she remembers his past experiences and it gives
Financial Problem
financial. Daily needs like food, school expenses, and soure of allowance are one of the
problems she face everyday and she is confused of what she will do in order to overcome
this problem.
“Syempre budlay siya, sa financial support kag support pud sa imo parents. For
(Ofcourse it is hard in financial support and support of the parents. For example, if there
are a lot of projects, school expenses, or your daily needs, it is really hard if no one
“Para sa akon budlay siya, labi na sa, for example gamata ka kada adlaw ga
(For me, it’s hard especially, for example you wake up everyday thiking about what
Financial constraint is one of the hindrances she encountered in everyday life and
At her age, Participant A is having a desire for a complete family because she
stated that having a complete family is so happy. In terms of occasion and holiday it
“Gusto ko mabalik ang sauna. Syempre kung completo imo family, lipay2 gid daw
wala gid bala kasubo, kung indi completo imo family, for example sa Christmas,
Newyear kung indi completo imo family daw ka subo man biya nga daw buhi man
(I want to return the past. Ofcourse if you have a complete family, It’s so happy and it
seems like no sadness at all. If your family is incomplete, for example in Christmas, and
She wants a complete family and she consider it as a problem because some
Someone to comfort
In her maturity, she needs someone to comfort her and someone to talk to. Based
on her age, she is still independent and her mental development is still young therefore it
“Ang akon bestfriend, siya ang ga tabang sakon, siya akon gina storya permi sa
(My bestfriend helps me. I always talk to her about my problems in family.)
“ang iya man lang gin hambal sakon nga daw iya ka bala gina cheer up nga biskan
ano na ang matabo dapat kayanon ko gyapon kag hambal niya sa akon stand still
kaya mo na kag besides kun amo na matabo waay man gyapon ka mahimo so ara
(She just cheering me up that what ever happens I need to be strong and stand still and
she knows that I got this and besides what ever happens I can't do a thing to change that.
She also considers it as a problem because her parents are not there to comfort her
in times of struggles. She is grateful that even without her parents there is someone who
The emotion and physical appearance of Participant A are the signs that she is
really disturbed by her situation. She shows much emotion as she shares her experiences
“Oo, kay ano ga worry ka, for example mapuli ka sa balay, maano paman ko sa
balay wala man gyapon ko kan-on? ano akon ubrahon? kay para ka kaon ko, maka
(Yes, because you worry, for example you go home, what would I do in our house? If I
don’t have something to eat? What should I do? In order for me to eat, to go to school,
“Of course, ga hatag gid siya stress eh kay diba ga worry ka kung ano ang imong
(Ofcourse, it gives stress, because I worry about what should I do when problems arises
“Para sa akon, oo kay kung may broken family ka permi ka nalang waay gana
magkaon kay ngaa daw ka unfair sa kabuhi bala haw. tapos kung wala ka gana mag
kaon, diba magniwang ka, tapos wala kana gana mabuhi gusto mo na mamatay,
(For me, yes, because if you have a broken family, you always don’t have an appetite to
Stress and fear attacks her because of her situation. It also loses her appetite to eat
when she remember it. And sometimes, it comes to her mind that she wants to die.
Situation Management
difficult, she accepts her situation and rely on God. She deals with the problems along the
road by putting all of her trust in God knowing that God will not leave her.
“Ano, padayon lang gyapon skwela biskan ano na naga katabo, stay positive biskan
budlay gid siya e face. Ara man gid ang Ginoo para mag gabay saton ah.”
(Continue studying even if lots of things happen, stay positive, even if it’s hard to face,
“Uhmm, padayun lang sa kinabuhi ah, though lisud man gid syempre kun indi
kompleto ang pamilya kay wala ka kabalo kun diin ka nga side magpanig kag kun
diin ka nga side ma upod pero eventually maanad na naman sina kay wala naman
ka maubra para mabalik pa ang imo mama kag papa so accept nalang gid.”
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(Continue to live although it is hard. Ofcourse if your family is broken, you will be
confused of choosing the side but eventually you will get used to it because you cannot
“Para sa ako ano, biskan budlay nagid ang kinabuhi padayun ka lang gyapon, ara
man gyapon ang Ginoo sa imo kinabuhi, indi man ka ya pabay-an kag sa iya man
(For me, even it is hard, life must go on, God is always there for you. He will not leave
you and He is the only one we asked for help if life goes hard.)
Although life is hard, she managed to accept her situation and get used to it because
she depends on God. She believes that all of the struggles and hardships, God will always
Participant B
National High School. He is now 16 years old and lives in Escalante city, his parents are
both supporting him but they are apart. His parents broke up when he was elementary.
Even they are a broken family, his father tries to visit them every Saturday to bond with
At his situation, he finds it difficult seeking attention and love to his parents
because at such a young age he already has a broken family. As a teenager and having a
fresh mind, he needs attention and love from a mother and father.
“Ang akong difficulties na encountered sa. for having a broken family, kuan daw
(My difficulties encountered for having a broken family is that my parents don’t have
The parents of Participant B broke up since he was elementary, it gives him a hard
time making decision and choosing a right path because his parents fail to attend their
“Yes, my grandmother, she is the one who takes care of me. But it is different if it
When problems arise, He wants a parent to share his problems with that’s why he
said that a complete family is so necessary. If ever, he wants his family to come back.
problems with.”
Emotional Problem
Emotional doesn’t affects him that much and goes to live by not minding his
situation but sometimes when he recalls his situation he can’t help himself to be
emotional.
“As I have said. I don’t mind it but I can’t deny it affects my emotion.”
Financial Stability
According to him, life is not so easy and hard because in financial terms the
support of his parents is equal or shall we say stable, but there are time that they fail to
“Not so easy, not so hard. My parents provide my needs in daily life even they are
not together, but there are times that they cannot provide my needs and wants.”
Self-management
Based on the raw statements, sometimes he loses his determination and self-
confidence, but he overcome his struggles by using his situation as his strength and
inspiration
“Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just be calm and God will provide
Participant C
Escalante National High School; she is environment friendly and loves to spend time
with nature. During the in depth-interview she is so polite and willlingly share her
experience to us. As the interview becomes sensitive she is quite serious in approaching
her answer.
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At her situation, she frankly said that it is hard dealing with everyday life without
“Honestly, it is very hard facing daily life without enough support from my parents.
Absenteeism
Being a part of this situation deeply affects her especially in attending school,
“Yes, it really affects me. Usually I cannot attend school regularly because it deeply
affects me.”
As she thinks on her situation, anxiety attacks her. Anxiety is a result of stress.
Because of that, it causes insomnia and she has a hard time sleeping.
“Not really. But yes, it causes me insomnia because of thinking that problem.”
Companion
As a person, she needs someone to support or help her. Life is full of challenges
could walk to the wrong path. It is important to have a complete family because
“My brother helps me to ease my problems and he is the reason why I keep on
striving. And I very thankful that he chooses to stay with me even though my
About her education, she is striving even it is difficult but there are times that she
study.”
Dealing with this situation is hard but she managed to stand still by being stable
no matter what happens because she believes that every problem has a corresponding
solution.
“Be stable no matter what your situation is. Every problem has a corresponding
solution.”
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Participant D
Escalante National High School, she is a working-student, working for her allowance in
order to attend in school. She came a bit late when we had our interview because she has
to finish her work on a boutique. Her mother went overseas and they lost their
Isolation
Being a product of a broken family, she feels weak, downed and unloved. She
said it was hard because no one guides and helps her. In short she is isolated.
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“Uuuhhmm… ano Bali kanang pamatiyagan ko, na weak ko amo na bala… Down
ko permi nnaahh.. daw pamatyagan na way man ga palanga sa akon ako lang isa.”
(Uhmmmm. I feel weak, that I’m always down, and I feel that no one loves me.)
“Budlay kay syempre wala may gaano simo… wa may ga guide ba simo og ano mo
dapat imong himu-on, amo na wala ka may madalaganan dali dali, kung may
kinahanglan ka.”
(Hard, ofcourse because no one will guide you in what to do. And you don’t have
Stress
In this kind of situation, stress also arises. Partcipant D usually feel stress and it
comes to the point that she cannot focus on her lesson. What she actually do is to be
strong.
ano problema sa balay tapos daw hindi ka hindi n aka focus sa ano sa study kay
utok ara lang sa ano ga kanabang ga isip bala kung paano ba solvad ang problema.
Na amo na”
home and you can’t focus on the lesson because your thoughts are being distracted on
“Oo, syempre gahatag gid na stress tapos ginaubra ko lang ngaa ano lang ang
Handling this kind of situation is hard, she do all her best and everthing that she
can to avoid negativity. According to her not minding the problems is one way of
“Uuuhhmm.. ano gina himo ko lang ang ngah best ko para maka ano sa
eskwelahan.”
“Aww… ano lang ginahimo kolang tanan na ano ma kaya ko para ngah para ma
“Indi lang e mind ang imo problems, kung may ara naman problems maabot indi
lang mag ka stress para indi malab-ot sa malain ang imo panghunahuna.”
(Don’t mind the problems, when problems arise, get rid of stress to avoid negativity.)
“Di man. kaya ko man. waay ko man gina pabaya-an akong ka ugalingon. Sa
pagkaon sa ano...”
believes that if you have a complete family everything is fine because someone is
guiding, teaching, and taking care of you. Boosting self-confidence and loses hesitation.
“Gusto ko gid magbalik ang amon pamilya. Syempre kung completo imo family,
okay gid tanan may ga guide sa imo, indi mag wala imo self-confidence kay gina
tudloan ka nila kag indi kana mag duha2 na mag skwela kay ara sila mag asikaso
simo.”
(I really want my family to come back. Ofcourse if you have a complete family, it is really
fine because there is someone who guides you, and you cannot lose your self-confidence
since they are teaching you, and you didn’t hesitate to go to school since they take care of
you.)
Someone to lean on
Participant D is seeking someone who listens her. She believed that her bestfriend
“Uuuhhhmmm.. Sometimes I need someone to talk to. mga ano siyempre best friend
in church.)
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Participant E
in University of St. Lasalle but living in Escalante City. His parents were annulled during
his elementary years, being a part of broken family really affects him. But eventually, he
relationship of his parents because his parents are both fine and supports him.
“Dili man kaayo lisud kay sports ug wala silay away nga duha.”
(Not really hard because they are now okay and they don’t fight anymore.)
Adjustment
When he was young, he finds it difficult in adjusting his situation. But as time
passes by and as he matures, he realized the reason why his parents broke up.
“In my elementary days, yes, but sugod karon na realize naku.ang rason nganung
(In my elementary days, yes, but from now on I realized the reason why the are
separated.)
Managing Problems
overcome by making hiself strong, having a social life, playing computer games, playing
“By having a social life and making myself happy, like playing computer games and
playing basketball.”
“hmmm…continue lang sa pagsalig kay God, indi hayaan ang self nga maging
pawala nalang kay sa ulihi ikaw lang man japon ang mo suffer… so we must stay
(hmm continue to trust on God, don’t let yourself become careless because you will be
Companion
is lonely and sad. His bestfriends also helps him to enjoy life. Participant’s bestfriends
“Ang akon bestfriends Arn, Beniño, and Gabby they are helping me when I’m
(My bestfriends Arn, Beniño, and Gabby they are helping me when I’m feeling lonely and
Completeness of a Family
“Yes, Because the more complete the family is the more happier we can.”
Particiant F
He is friendly and approachable to her classmates and friends. The separation of his
parents and the death of his mother turned his life into misery.
Health Problem “Oo, kay ganiwang nako kay usahay ma depress ka dinaka
ganahan mo kaon dinaka ganahan matug musiga… gasiga
lang imong mata usahay dinaka ganahan maligo pero lisud
dyud sya.”
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Ambition for a Complete “Sa tinud-anay, gusto nako magbalik sila mama. Kay having
Family a complete family is fun. Gahatag sa parents sa ilang mga
children ang quality time to enjoy og ma share nila ang ubang
og ma experience sa mga bata ang mga quality and other
activities or do any just to make their children happy.”
(Honestly, I want my parents to recover. Because having a
complete family is fun. Parents gives quality time to their children
to enjoy and share their experiences. And do anything just to
make their children happy.)
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Financial Problem
sufficient allowance and being love. He experienced this dilemma due to his situation
“Uuhhmm… talagsa rako mo kaon, usahay walay baon og dli naku maramdaman
(uhhhhhm.I cannot eat regularly, sometimes I don’t have allowance, and I can’t feel
“Hard dyud siya kay feeling naku ako ra usa og wala ko kabalo diin ko mo adto
murag wala silay plano sa akoa og wala koy mapangayuag kwarta para makakaon
ko usauhay.”
(It is hard because I feel isolated and I don’t know where to go and it seems that they
don’t have plans for me and there is no one whom I can ask for money in order to eat.)
Education is very essential for Participant F because he has a goal and objective in
life. Considering his situation it affects his academic performance. Sometimes he cannot
“Oo, maka affect dyud siya para nako kay kung naay me project na kinahanglan
kwarta usahay dli ko kapalit og usahay ma failure na lang ko maong lisud dyud
sya.”
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(Yes, it really affects for me because if there is a project it requires money and sometimes
I cannot buy it. And it results of being failure that’s why it is hard.)
Health Problem
loses his appetite. He experienced daydreaming and he doesn’t want to take a bath
“Oo, kay ganiwang nako kay usahay ma depress ka dinaka ganahan mo kaon
dinaka ganahan matug musiga… gasiga lang imong mata usahay dinaka ganahan
(Yes, because I became thin and I am depress and I don’t want to eat, and I don’t want to
sleep.)
Controlling Situation
to handle the dilemma. As stated by the Participant, moving straight forward, moving on,
pursuing education, and making the position as his strength and inspiration are the
strategy he used in dealing with the situation. He also stated that he don’t want to pass the
“By moving straight sapat nga kung diin ko gusto mo adto and no one can hit me.”
(By moving straight forward, enough for where I want to go and no one can hit me.)
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“ahmmm… Padayun lang sa kinabuhi, ayaw lang padala sa imo sitwasyon, himoa
ni nga strength kag inspiration para mag success ka. Ug ayaw ni himoa sa imo anak
(ahhhhhm.. Continue in life, don’t get affected by your situation. Make this as your
strength and inspiration for you to succeed. Ang don’t do this to your future child.)
para masupportahan ang pag skwela og dapat dli mo quit sa life.” (Uhhhhmm..
studying hard and if there is an opportunity for money grab it to support education and
“Oo, pero ga too man ko og gasalig ko sa ginoo para og tarung ko og skwela para
(Yes, but I trust in God so that I can study well and to pursue my dreams in life.)
Buddies
His uncle, auntie, classmates, and others helps him to surpass this problem. They are the
“Oo, akong mga relatives sa akong mga tito og tita mga classmate pud og uban ngah
gina ingnan ko nila ngah dli ko mo suko sa akong mga pangandoy sa kinabuhi.”
family. He said that having a complete family is fun because parents provide quality time
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to their children to enjoy life, share experiences, and do other activities to make their
child happy.
“Sa tinud-anay, gusto nako magbalik sila mama. Kay having a complete family is
fun. Gahatag sa parents sa ilang mga children ang quality time to enjoy og ma share
nila ang ubang og ma experience sa mga bata ang mga quality and other activities
Parents gives quality time to their children to enjoy and share their experiences. And do
Participant G
National High School. He was a jolly person who always smiles and laughs even on
small things, but behind that jolly personality there is an emotional Participant F.
Although his parents didn’t have formal annulment but they are separated. He stays with
his mother who was unemployed and their expenses in everyday lives depends in
laundrying.
(Yes, I always see them fighting and it feels bad for me.)
“Oo, kis-a waay ko gana makaon sigi lang higda.”
(Yes, sometimes I don’t have appetite to eat.)
Low Academic Performance “Financial problem, because sometimes I cannot go to
school.”
“Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga
pass project, assignments, kag iban pa.”
(Yes, because sometimes I don’t have the guts to go to school, I
don’t pass projects and assignments, and other matters.)
Dreaming for a Complete “I want to get my family back because important gid kay
Family bahalag pigado kamo atleast complete kamo tanan at may ga
guide man sa imo kon ano imo himuon himuon sa imo.”
(I want to get my family back because it is very important
because even if life is tough atleast you are together and there is
someone who guides you in your actions.)
Manipulating Problems “Malagaw upod sakon barkada kis-a sa akon mega para
mabuhinan man bisag kadalali akon problema.”
(I walk with my friends, sometimes with my girldfriend to forget
my problem for a while.)
“Oo, my friends kay ga advice man sila kon ano akon
himuon.”
(Yes, because my friends gives advice on what should I do.)
“Gina pilit nalang nakon na masulod klase para lang mani
japon sa akon para makita man nila nga gapaninguha ko.”
(I forced myself to attend in class because it is just for my own
good and for them to see that I am determinated.)
“Nevermind nalang ang problems , tuon nalang sa pag skwela
para makit-an man nila na gapaninguha ka, bisag amu pana
ang way na maguliay sila.”
(Don’t mind the problems, study hard, for them to see that you
are willing. Maybe it is the way.)
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Financial problem
Participant G is living with his mother. His mother is earning money by simply
accepting laundry and their whole family expenses depends on this income. Due to
Emotional problem
At her age, he suffered from emotional problems. It is hard for him because he
feels alone and being unloved. Listening and seeing the exchange of arguments of his
“O okay permi naku makita nga mag-away sila, daw maglain dayon akon buot.”
(Yes, I always see them fighting and it feels bad for me.)
Participant G believed that his setting is the reason why his academic performance
becomes low. He stated that sometimes he loses his courage in attending school. Passing
“Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga pass project,
(Yes, because sometimes I don’t have the guts to go to school, I don’t pass
family back because he believes that even you are poor but if you have a complete family
“I want to get my family back because important gid kay bahalag pigado kamo
atleast complete kamo tanan at may ga guide man sa imo kon ano imo himuon
himuon sa imo.”
(I want to get my family back because it is very important because even if life is tough
atleast you are together and there is someone who guides you in your actions.)
Manipulating Problems
Handling this kind of situation is hard but Participant surpasses this obstacle.
Roaming around with friends and special someone, making yourself strong, and
“Malagaw upod sakon barkada kis-a sa akon mega para mabuhinan man bisag
(I walk with my friends, sometimes with my girldfriend to forget my problem for a while.)
“Oo, my friends kay ga advice man sila kon ano akon himuon.”
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“Gina pilit nalang nakon na masulod klase para lang mani japon sa akon para
(I forced myself to attend in class because it is just for my own good and for them to see
that I am determinated.)
“Nevermind nalang ang problems , tuon nalang sa pag skwela para makit-an man
nila na gapaninguha ka, bisag amu pana ang way na maguliay sila.”
(Don’t mind the problems, study hard, for them to see that you are willing. Maybe it is
the way.)
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Theme 5: Dealing with the Participant A - “Ano, padayon lang gyapon skwela biskan ano na
Situation naga katabo, stay positive biskan budlay gid siya e face. Ara man gid
ang Ginoo para mag gabay saton ah.”(Continue studying even if lots
of things happen, stay positive, even if it’s hard to face, God is
always there to guide us)
“Uhmm, padayun lang sa kinabuhi ah, though lisud man gid syempre
kun indi kompleto ang pamilya kay wala ka kabalo kun diin ka nga
side magpanig kag kun diin ka nga side ma upod pero eventually
maanad na naman sina kay wala naman ka maubra para mabalik pa
ang imo mama kag papa so accept nalang gid.” (Continue to live
although it is hard. Ofcourse if your family is broken, you will be
confused of choosing the side but eventually you will get used to it
because you cannot change the past. So accept. )
“Para sa ako ano, biskan budlay nagid ang kinabuhi padayun ka lang
gyapon, ara man gyapon ang Ginoo sa imo kinabuhi, indi man ka ya
pabay-an kag sa iya man lang gid ta naga pangayo tabang ah kung
budlay nagid.” (For me, even it is hard, life must go on, God is
always there for you. He will not leave you and He is the only one we
asked for help if life goes hard.)
Participant B – “Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just
be calm and God will provide everything. Just believe.”
Participant C - “Be stable no matter what your situation is. Every
problem has a corresponding solution.”
Participant D - “Uuuhhmm.. ano gina himo ko lang ang ngah best
ko para maka ano sa eskwelahan.” (Uhhhm. I always do my best to
attend in school.)
“Aww… ano lang ginahimo kolang tanan na ano ma kaya ko para
ngah para ma solve siya, way lang ko gaano way lang ko ga isip na
negative.” (I just do everything I can to solve the problem, and
avoiding negativity.)
“Indi lang e mind ang imo problems, kung may ara naman problems
maabot indi lang mag ka stress para indi malab-ot sa malain ang imo
panghunahuna.” (Don’t mind the problems, when problems arises,
get rid of stress to avoid negativity.)
“Di man. kaya ko man. waay ko man gina pabaya-an akong ka
ugalingon. Sa pagkaon sa ano...” (No, I can handle it, I am taking
care of myself especially in eating.)
Participant E - “A little bit by making myself strong and believing
in myself.”
“By making it as my inspiration to work hard for them.”
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stopping on my study.”
Participant F- “Oo, maka affect dyud siya para nako kay kung naay
me project na kinahanglan kwarta usahay dli ko kapalit og usahay ma
failure na lang ko maong lisud dyud sya.” (Yes, it really affects for
me because if there is a project it requires money and sometimes I
cannot buy it. And it results of being failure that’s why it is hard.)
“Oo, pero ga too man ko og gasalig ko sa ginoo para og tarung ko og
skwela para ma succeed akong mga dreams sa kinabuhi.” (Yes, but I
trust in God so that I can study well and to pursue my dreams in life.)
Participant G - “Financial problem, because sometimes I cannot go
to school.”
“Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga pass
project, assignments, kag iban pa.”
(Yes, because sometimes I don’t have the guts to go to school, I don’t
pass projects and assignments, and other matters.)
Theme 7: Giving up Participant B – “Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just
be calm and God will provide everything. Just believe.”
Participant C - “Honestly, It is very hard facing daily life without
enough support from my parents. It also leads me to think on
committing suicide.”
Theme 8: Isolation Participant C - “I encountered many difficulties such as financial
problems, loneliness, lack of guidance, and depression.”
Participant D - “Uuuhhmm… ano Bali kanang pamatiyagan ko, na
weak ko amo na bala… Down ko permi nnaahh.. daw pamatyagan na
way man ga palanga sa akon ako lang isa.” (Uhmmmm. I feel weak,
that I’m always down, and I feel that no one loves me.)
“Budlay kay syempre wala may gaano simo… wa may ga guide ba
simo og ano mo dapat imong himu-on, amo na wala ka may
madalaganan dali dali, kung may kinahanglan ka.” (Hard, ofcourse
because no one will guide you in what to do. And you don’t have
someone to approach in case of necessity.)
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THEMATIC ANALYSIS
Moynihan Report” (History Learning Site.co.uk, 2011) which holds that the people in the
not belonging. They are like aliens in their own country, convinced that the existing
institutions do not serve their needs. Along with this feeling of powerlessness is a
important pathways into poverty and social exclusion. Although countries differ
somewhat, lone-parent families are generally more likely to be in poverty than two-parent
Just like Participant A, B, F, and G, poverty or financial problem has become one
of the reasons why they cannot attend school regularly and cannot eat regulary.
For Participant A, she finds her situation hard because of low financial support.
Her needs including foods, school projects, and school expenses are extremely affected.
“Syempre budlay siya, sa financial support kag support pud sa imo parents. For
adlaw, budlay kaayo kung wala ga support sa imo diba?” (Ofcourse it is hard in financial
support and support of the parents. For example, if there is a lot of projects, school
expenses, or your daily needs, it is really hard if no one supports you right?)
For Participant B, His parents are supporting him even they are divorced. But
there are times that his parents fail to provide his needs. In short his parent’s financial
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support is not stable. “Not so easy, not so hard. My parents provide my needs in daily life
even they are not together, but there are times that they cannot provide my needs and
wants.”
walay baon og dli naku maramdaman pagpalanga sa akoa usahay.” (uhhhhhm. I cannot
eat regularly, sometimes I don’t have allowance, and I can’t feel being loved sometimes.)
For Participant G, his answer is brief. He said that because of financial problmens,
to school.”
also have a lot of things to be accomplished, a lot of school needs to be supported and a
lot of requirements in school that needs to be done. Photocopying notes from different
subjects, book binding for research, research for answering assignments and activities,
payment in school activities and events and etc. Also because I have other siblings that
my parents need to support. I agree with the participants that when you’re still studying,
The family systems theory is a theory introduced by Dr. Murray Bowen that
suggests that individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as
a part of their family, as the family is an emotional unit. Families are systems of
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play and rules to respect. Members of the system are expected to respond to each other in
Within the boundaries of the system, patterns develop as certain family member's
behavior is caused by and causes other family member's behaviors in predictable ways.
Maintaining the same pattern of behaviors within a system may lead to balance in the
family system, but also to dysfunction. For example, if a husband is depressive and
cannot pull himself together, the wife may need to take up more responsibilities to pick
up the slack. The change in roles may maintain the stability in the relationship, but it may
also push the family towards a different equilibrium. This new equilibrium may lead to
dysfunction as the wife may not be able to maintain this overachieving role over a long
period of time.
wants a complete family. Because according to them, having a complete family is fun and
a complete family contains, parent’s guidance, parent’s comfort, parent’s advice, and
For Particpant A, she wants her family to be complete again because it is hard and
sad. According to her, if you have a complete family it is so happy and it seems there is
no trace of sadness. And it brings happiness in every significant events of your life.
“Gusto ko mabalik ang sauna. Syempre kung completo imo family, lipay2 gid daw wala
gid bala kasubo, kung indi completo imo family, for example sa Christmas, Newyear
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kung indi completo imo family daw ka subo man biya nga daw buhi man tani sila pero
wala biya sila. daw patay bala.” (Ofcourse if you have a complete family, It’s so happy
and it seems like no sadness at all. If your family is incomplete, for example in
For Participant B, he wants his parents to return because for him having a
complete family is important. In terms of problems, there is a father and mother who you
can share your problems. “If ever, I want my parents to return. Because having a
For Participant D, she wishes for her family to recover because there is someone
that guides her, and teaches her. It also boosts her self-confidence. “Gusto ko gid
magbalik ang amon pamilya. Syempre kung completo imo family, okay gid tanan may ga
guide sa imo, indi mag wala imo self-confidence kay gina tudloan ka nila kag indi kana
mag duha2 na mag skwela kay ara sila mag asikaso simo.” (I really want my family to
come back. Ofcourse if you have a complete family, it is really fine because there is
someone who guides you, and you cannot lose your self-confidence since they are
teaching you, and you didn’t hesitate to go to school since they take care of you.)
simply happy. “Yes, Because the more complete the family is the more happier we can.”
For Participant F, he frankly said that he wants her mother and father back.
Because they give quality time and happiness to him. “Sa tinud-anay, gusto nako
magbalik sila mama. Kay having a complete family is fun. Gahatag sa parents sa ilang
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mga children ang quality time to enjoy og ma share nila ang ubang og ma experience sa
mga bata ang mga quality and other activities or do any just to make their children
fun. Parents gives quality time to their children to enjoy and share their experiences. And
For Participant G, he wants his family back because it is important and even they
are poor atleast they are complete. “I want to get my family back because important gid
kay bahalag pigado kamo atleast complete kamo tanan at may ga guide man sa imo kon
ano imo himuon himuon sa imo.” (I want to get my family back because it is very
important because even if life is tough atleast you are together and there is someone who
family but sometimes, it feels like having no family at all. My father works abroad and I
barely see my mother because she always go to our computer shop to manage it well and
to assure that we have enough profit. Likewise, my two brothers always hang out with
their friends and go home very late. That’s why I always feel alone and lonely. I
social circle, emotions necessarily run high and it needs someone to comfort to. Using the
Ring Theory can help determine who to comfort and who to vent to. It’s a theory to help
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you know what to do in a crisis. If the crisis is happening to you, you’re in the center of
the ring. If the crisis is not happening to you, you’re in one of the outer circles.
Being a member of a broken family, facing daily life has become a great
challenge to them. When there are a lot of circumstances along the road they need
For Participant A, her bestfriend is the only one who helps her in terms of her
problems about her family. “Ang akon bestfriend, siya ang ga tabang sakon, siya akon
gina storya permi sa akon problems sa family.” (My bestfriend helps me. I always talk to
For Participant C, she believed that having a broken family is miserable, and a
child could walk to the wrong path, because of that he said that he needs someone to lean
family could walk to the wrong path. It is important to have a complete family because
every member guided. Sometimes we need someone to lean on.” “My brother helps me to
ease my problems and he is the reason why I keep on striving. And I very thankful that he
For Participant D, she admitted that she needs someone to talk with her problems
and it is her bestfriend and her friends in church. “Uuuhhhmmm.. Sometimes I need
someone to talk to. mga ano siyempre best friend ko mga upod sa simbahan amo na.”
in church.)
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is thankful that there is someone helping him to enjoy life. “Ang akon bestfriends Arn,
Beniño, and Gabby they are helping me when I’m feeling lonely and helping me to enjoy
life.” (My bestfriends Arn, Beniño, and Gabby they are helping me when I’m feeling
For Participant F, being in this kind of situation is hard and sometimes thoughts of
giving up appear. He is lucky because there are some people who helps and motivates
him to continue living his life. “Oo, akong mga relatives sa akong mga tito og tita mga
classmate pud og uban ngah gina ingnan ko nila ngah dli ko mo suko sa akong mga
pangandoy sa kinabuhi.” (Yes, my relatives especially my tito and tita, classmates and
According to Babygaga.com, kids get affected by broken family the most, more
than the bickering adults and feuding families. Even if the separation is pretty amicable,
the kid’s going to be feeling things – especially if the child is young – that may not be
immediately evident. Some feelings fester and then manifest in different ways – negative
ways.
Just like our Participants, being a member from a broken home affects their
health. Depression, loneliness, stress, anxiety, insomnia, and loss of appetite are the
For Participant A, her situation gives her stress for the reason that she worry about
her daily allowance, and food. “Oo, kay ano ga worry ka, for example mapuli ka sa
balay, maano paman ko sa balay wala man gyapon ko kan-on? ano akon ubrahon? kay
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para ka kaon ko, maka skwela ko, sa akon allowance diin ko mangita?” (Yes, because
you worry, for example you go home, what would I do in our house? If I don’t have
something to eat? What should I do? In order for me to eat, to go to school, where can I
find my allowance.) “Of course, ga hatag gid siya stress eh kay diba ga worry ka kung
ano ang imong imo himoon sa mga ga abot na problema sa imo kinabuhi especially sa
eskwelahan” (Ofcourse, it gives stress, because I worry about what should I do when
problems arise in life especially in school.) “Para sa akon, oo kay kung may broken
family ka permi ka nalang waay gana magkaon kay ngaa daw ka unfair sa kabuhi bala
haw. tapos kung wala ka gana mag kaon, diba magniwang ka, tapos wala kana gana
mabuhi gusto mo na mamatay, daw amo na siya” (For me, yes, because if you have a
broken family, you always don’t have an appetite to eat, because it seems that life is so
unfair.)
For Participant B, he was not affected physically but he can’t deny that his
position gives him emotional problems. “Not really. However, it gives me anxiety
sometimes” “No. I made a decision in myself to keep on moving forward not minding my
situation. But when I remember my situation, I can’t help myself to cry.” “As I have said.
For Participant C, she is experiencing anxiety and thinking of the problem causes
her insomnia. “Yes, it also gives me anxiety.” “Not really. But yes, it causes me insomnia
For Participant D, regarding her situation, she can’t focus on her study because
she finds it so depressing. “Uuuuhhmmm.. mmm… o okay di syempre daw depress, sobra
ba ka depress? Sa ano problema sa balay tapos daw hindi ka hindi n aka focus sa ano sa
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study kay utok ara lang sa ano ga kanabang ga isip bala kung paano ba solvad ang
regarding the problems at home and you can’t focus on the lesson because your thoughts
are being distracted on how you solve your problem.) “Oo, syempre gahatag gid na
stress tapos ginaubra ko lang ngaa ano lang ang magpatatag lang eh… amo na” (Yes, it
him and because of that he became skinny. “Oo, kay ganiwang nako kay usahay ma
depress ka dinaka ganahan mo kaon dinaka ganahan matug musiga… gasiga lang imong
mata usahay dinaka ganahan maligo pero lisud dyud sya.” (Yes, because I became thin
and I am depress and I don’t want to eat, and I don’t want to sleep.)
For Participant G, being on his situation was hard. Loneliness and not eating
frequently are the results that he experienced because of having a broken family. “Hard,
because sometime I feel alone and no one love me.” “O okay permi naku makita nga
mag-away sila, daw maglain dayon akon buot.” (Yes, I always see them fighting and it
feels bad for me.) “Oo, kis-a waay ko gana makaon sigi lang higda.” (Yes, sometimes I
result, I feel so depress and exhausted. Thus, I need companion or someone to comfort
me whenever I’m feeling down. Having no someone to share your problems is definitely
depressing, you tend to become paranoid and isolate yourself because you no longer
know what to do with your problems or with your life. That’s why I agree with the
participants.
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The Self Care Theory by Dorothea E. Orem. When individuals and families self-
manage they control and are responsible for management of chronic conditions or healthy
traditional health care system, SM involves knowledge and beliefs, self-regulation skills
and abilities, and social facilitation to manage chronic conditions or engage in healthy
behaviors.
Being from a broken home is actually tough, and dealing with the situation is
challenging, the participants shared their ways on how difficult their life is and how they
For Participant A, being on her situation is hard. She kept on moving forward no
matter what happens. Staying positive and trusting God are also the ways she used to
handle the situation. “Ano, padayon lang gyapon skwela biskan ano na naga katabo, stay
positive biskan budlay gid siya e face. Ara man gid ang Ginoo para mag gabay saton ah.”
(Continue studying even if lots of things happen, stay positive, even if it’s hard to face,
God is always there to guide us) “Uhmm, padayun lang sa kinabuhi ah, though lisud man
gid syempre kun indi kompleto ang pamilya kay wala ka kabalo kun diin ka nga side
magpanig kag kun diin ka nga side ma upod pero eventually maanad na naman sina kay
wala naman ka maubra para mabalik pa ang imo mama kag papa so accept nalang gid.”
(Continue to live although it is hard. Ofcourse if your family is broken, you will be
confused of choosing the side but eventually you will get used to it because you cannot
change the past. So accept. ) “Para sa ako ano, biskan budlay nagid ang kinabuhi
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padayun ka lang gyapon, ara man gyapon ang Ginoo sa imo kinabuhi, indi man ka ya
pabay-an kag sa iya man lang gid ta naga pangayo tabang ah kung budlay nagid.” (For
me, even it is hard, life must go on, God is always there for you. He will not leave you
and He is the only one we asked for help if life goes hard.)
For Participant B, Thoughts of giving up appears to his mind but he said be calm
and believe God. “Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just be calm and God
For Participant C, at her age, dealing with her situation is tough. Being stable
despite her position is the solution he made to solve his problems. And he believed that
every problem has a corresponding solution. “Be stable no matter what your situation is.
For Participant D, not minding the situation and avoiding negative thoughts is the
action she used to overcome problems. She also overcome problems by doing everything
she can. “Uuuhhmm.. ano gina himo ko lang ang ngah best ko para maka ano sa
ginahimo kolang tanan na ano ma kaya ko para ngah para ma solve siya, way lang ko
gaano way lang ko ga isip na negative.” (I just do everything I can to solve the problem,
and avoiding negativity.) “Indi lang e mind ang imo problems, kung may ara naman
problems maabot indi lang mag ka stress para indi malab-ot sa malain ang imo
panghunahuna.” (Don’t mind the problems, when problems arise, get rid of stress to
avoid negativity.) “Di man. kaya ko man. waay ko man gina pabaya-an akong ka
ugalingon. Sa pagkaon sa ano...” (No, I can handle it, I am taking care of myself
especially in eating.)
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For Participant E, living life is challenging, making himself strong and believing
in himself are the styles he made regarding his position. Having social life, playing
sports, and trusting God are also the ways he used. “A little bit by making myself strong
and believing in myself.” “By making it as my inspiration to work hard for them.” “By
having a social life and making myself happy, like playing computer games and playing
basketball.” “hmmm…continue lang sa pagsalig kay God, indi hayaan ang self nga
maging pawala nalang kay sa ulihi ikaw lang man japon ang mo suffer… so we must stay
positive lang sa tanan nga bagay…” (hmm continue to trust on God, don’t let yourself
become careless because you will be the one who suffer. So we must stay positive in all
things.)
For Participant F, although life of a broken family is hard, moving on and making
situation as strength and inspiration are the steps he built on treating his stand.“By
moving straight sapat nga kung diin ko gusto mo adto and no one can hit me.” (By
moving straight forward, enough for where I want to go and no one can hit me.)
“ahmmm… Padayun lang sa kinabuhi, ayaw lang padala sa imo sitwasyon, himoa ni nga
strength kag inspiration para mag success ka. Ug ayaw ni himoa sa imo anak ang imo
sitwasyon karon.” (ahhhhhm.. Continue in life, don’t get affected by your situation.
Make this as your strength and inspiration for you to succeed. Ang don’t do this to your
future child.)
determinated. Roaming with friends and with girlfriend is helping him ease his problems.
His friends is also giving him advice on what should he do. “Malagaw upod sakon
barkada kis-a sa akon mega para mabuhinan man bisag kadalali akon problema.” (I walk
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with my friends, sometimes with my girldfriend to forget my problem for a while.) “Oo,
my friends kay ga advice man sila kon ano akon himuon.” (Yes, because my friends gives
advice on what should I do.) “Gina pilit nalang nakon na masulod klase para lang mani
japon sa akon para makita man nila nga gapaninguha ko.” (I forced myself to attend in
class because it is just for my own good and for them to see that I am determinated.)
“Nevermind nalang ang problems, tuon nalang sa pag skwela para makit-an man nila na
gapaninguha ka, bisag amu pana ang way na maguliay sila.” (Don’t mind the problems,
study hard, for them to see that you are willing. Maybe it is the way.)
or to move forward, you need to accept the situation because you won’t be able to
achieve what you want in the future if you keep on looking back from the past. The key
in every success is to be able to accept what you cannot change and always look at the
bright side of life. Like me, as a student, I need to accept that being Senior High School
has a lot of pressure so I must do my best in order to surpass the pressure. Studying is a
social status of student’s parents/guardians in the society. Considine and Zappala (2002)
noticed the same that parent’s income or social status positively affects the student test
score in examination.
Just like participants C, F, and G, being a part of a broken family affects their
Mostly, she cannot appear in school because it deeply affects her. “Yes, it really affects
me. Usually I cannot attend school regularly because it deeply affects me.” “I keep on
For Participant F, torn between being a student and a part of a broken family has
been very hard for him to have an allowance for his school projects because of low
financial support. As a result, he fails to pass some of his subjects. “Oo, maka affect dyud
siya para nako kay kung naay me project na kinahanglan kwarta usahay dli ko kapalit og
usahay ma failure na lang ko maong lisud dyud sya.” (Yes, it really affects for me
because if there is a project it requires money and sometimes I cannot buy it. And it
results of being failure that’s why it is hard.) “Oo, pero ga too man ko og gasalig ko sa
ginoo para og tarung ko og skwela para ma succeed akong mga dreams sa kinabuhi.”
(Yes, but I trust in God so that I can study well and to pursue my dreams in life.)
arises. Due to financial problem, he cannot go to school sometimes and it changes his
mood on passing his projects, and assignments. “Financial problem, because sometimes I
cannot go to school.” “Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga pass
project, assignments, kag iban pa.” (Yes, because sometimes I don’t have the guts to go
As a researcher, I also lose sometimes. There are times also that I fail in every test
and have smaller grade than usual. Being a student is not easy; you need to work hard if
you want to have good grades. But I cannot deny the fact that sometimes, I don’t want to
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go to school, I just want to stop studying because I’m tired. But then, I realized I won’t be
Theme 7: Giving up
creates more problems or unable to find the solution or unable to handle the situation or
we stretch our hands up to an extent…but after that we give up and take back our
hand…… giving some reasons like not related to me, its not my job, can be done on
some other time, I have done level best and rest is left to the person. There are many
factors contribute for give up. Attitudes, Aptitude, interest, Intelligence (Different models
reinforcement, use/application, emotions and Some times for profit. Profit leads to give
up-Sometimes a person who gives up must ensure that the next step would be more
For Participant B, thoughts of giving up shows up to his mind. But being calm
and believing God is his solution. “Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just be
For Participant C, sincerely, she said that it is hard facing daily life without any
aid form her parents. And because of that, it leads her thinking of suicide. “Honestly, It is
very hard facing daily life without enough support from my parents. It also leads me to
up in school, giving up with my friends, and giving up with my life. But at times of
giving up, someone is always there to remind me that it is not yet over, that I can still fix
my shortcomings and failures. And that is God. So whenever you’re down, just remember
that someone is always with you, to help you and to guide you, just trust with his plans
Theme 8: Isolation
between an individual and society. It differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary
lack of contact with other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any
from lack of daily needs. Loneliness, feeling of being unloved, and lack of guidance are
For Participant C, she is still independent and her basic needs depends on her
parents. But as her parents separate, being alone, lack of guidance, and lack of sources for
daily life described her as an isolated. “I encountered many difficulties such as financial
For Participant D, her situation makes her weak, down, unguided, and being
unloved. Because of that, she is defined as an isolated. “Uuuhhmm… ano Bali kanang
pamatiyagan ko, na weak ko amo na bala… Down ko permi nnaahh.. daw pamatyagan
na way man ga palanga sa akon ako lang isa.” (Uhmmmm. I feel weak, that I’m always
down, and I feel that no one loves me.) “Budlay kay syempre wala may gaano simo… wa
may ga guide ba simo og ano mo dapat imong himu-on, amo na wala ka may
madalaganan dali dali, kung may kinahanglan ka.” (Hard, ofcourse because no one will
guide you in what to do. And you don’t have someone to approach in case of necessity.)
As a researcher, there will always be times that you feel alone, and you tend to
isolate yourself because you think that you will never have friends. I agree with the
participants, I sometimes feel I solated that leads to depression. But there are times also
that I feel like all people are so good to me, that they’re always there for me no matter
what. And so, I forget those lonely nights and go on with my life.
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Summary of Findings
Findings revealed that Senior High School students having a broken family in
Escalante City encountered many difficulties and went through in the phenomenon under
study. These can be summarized into eight themes: Financial problems, Desire for a
Complete Family, Companion, Health Problems, Dealing with the situation, Low
Financial constraints really affect the child’s life. If the parents fail to provide
their needs, their physical and mental health and education can suffer from the family's
financial stress. Children may be frightened or unable to understand why their parents
can't provide them with the lifestyle they are used to and may have difficulty expressing
or labeling their feelings. Just like the participants who came from a broken family. Lack
experience our biggest triumphs and our deepest vulnerabilities—and they are where we
have the greatest potential to do good. It becomes a sanctuary for the individual. It is
where we learn the social graces of loyalty, cooperation, and trust. It is where we learn to
love ourselves and each other, to bear one another’s burdens, to find meaning in our life
and to give purpose to others’ lives, and to feel the value of being part of something
to happen.
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Companion plays a vital role on helping someone from a broken family. Our
participant needs someone to comfort him/her if problems arises and about his her family.
In a broken family, children tends to suffer than the parents, it’s just the way it
works. Health problems such as depression, loneliness, stress, anxiety, insomnia, and loss
In dealing with this kind of situation is tough. Participants had a hard time
thinking of the ways on how to handle it. But eventually they find a solution to deal and
and emotional problems. As a result, their academic performance declined because they
Students from a broken home, have thoughts of giving up on fighting against the
affected. The participants are experiencing lack of source for their basic needs and
Conclusion
The researchers have come up to a conclusion, based on the findings that the
a broken family. Some had problems with their financial status, while some with their
academic performance, some had health problems, while some had desire for a complete
family, and some had thoughts of giving up, while some felt isolated and alone. All these
challenges have significant impacts in each of the participant’s personal and social life
along with their academic performances. Some were so affected with the situation and
sometimes thought of just giving up with their lives or commiting suicide. While others
just want to quit studying and just hang out with their friends to forget problems.
Different point of view and responds were got from the seven selected participants.
persistence and faith in God were their ways or styles in dealing with their situation.
While some just accepted their situation and move on. As of the results and findings, the
researchers also conclude that each participant has different difficulties encountered that
made them have different perspective or ways in dealing the situation; some were able to
manage their problem while some have not. On the contrary, others have not totally
affected due to the stable parent along their way. Their parents were able to support their
needs and their studies despite of their situation with their partner.
Implication
The outcomes of the research help us learn and understand about the difficulties
encountered by a senior high school student having a broken family but the quest doesn't
end there. Findings inevitably inspire new questions that lead to further research, and
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they may have broader impact and applications. For instance, the studies that uncovered
the difficulties of a student from a broken family had significant ecological and policy
As students participate in research and learn and understand the difficulties of a student
from a broken family, encourage them to routinely ask these types of "so what"
questions. What difference does this make? Who might be interested in the results? How
might different types of people respond to the findings? What new research studies might
the findings inspire? What do we want to communicate about this study? Who will we
target and what approach will we use (e.g., presentation, newsletter, article)? What new
Recommendation
Based on the significant findings and conclusions in this study, the following
children so that even they are not together, they are performing their duty as a
mother or father.
family living and prevent the removal of children from the home.
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Appendices
Participant A
National High School, before she was living in Escalante City but currently living in
Bug-ang. Her mother brought them in Bug-ang because of their situation. When ask,
what are the difficulties you've encountered having a broken family, she said:
Syempre budlay siya, sa financial support kag support pud sa imo parents, for example
damo ka mga projects, balayranan sa eskwelahan, or sa needs nimo sa taga adlaw, budlay
kaayo kung wala ga support sa imo diba? kag kung ano pud kung may mga meeting abi
sa eskwelahan wala may ga kadto sa imo so kaga lain lang batyagon. When ask, is
having a broken family easy or hard, especially in facing daily life without any
support, she said: Para sa akon budlay siya, labi na sa, for example gamata ka kada
adlaw ga hunahuna kapa ano man akon kan-on? maano nalang ko sini? so dapat ano lang,
positive nalang. When ask, does having a broken family affect your performance in
school, she said: Oo, kay ano ga worry ka, for example mapuli ka sa balay, maano paman
ko sa balay wala man gyapon ko kan-on? ano akon ubrahon? kay para ka kaon ko, maka
skwela ko, sa akon allowance diin ko mangita... ma ano ko kung ara kami mga projects,
kung ano ang gamiton ko nga kwarta, diin ko mangita kwarta, daw amo na siya. When
ask, does having a broken family gives you stress, how you coped up with stress, she
said: Of course, ga hatag gid siya stress eh kay diba ga worry ka kung ano ang imong imo
mga needs so kung ano kung mag cope up sa stress, ano nalang maglantaw movie,
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mamati music, or makigstorya sa iban na mga tawo. When ask, does having a broken
family affect your health, why, she said: Para sa akon, oo kay kung may broken family
ka permi ka nalang waay gana magkaon kay ngaa daw ka unfair sa kabuhi bala haw.
tapos kung wala ka gana mag kaon, diba magniwang ka, tapos wala kana gana mabuhi
gusto mo na mamatay, daw amo na siya. When ask, how did you manage your
education while having a broken family, she said: Ano, padayon lang gyapon skwela
biskan ano na naga katabo, stay positive biskan budlay gid siya e face. Ara man gid ang
Ginoo para mag gabay saton ah. When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life
considering of having a broken family, she said: Para sa ako ano, biskan budlay nagid
ang kinabuhi padayun ka lang gyapon, ara man gyapon ang Ginoo sa imo kinabuhi, indi
man ka ya pabay-an kag sa iya man lang gid ta naga pangayo tabang ah kung budlay
nagid. Daw feel mo tanan na problema sa kalibutan ikaw na ga pas-an. When ask, is
there anyone who helps you in the problems you experiencing right now? Who is
he/she and how he/she helps you, she said: Ang akon bestfriend, siya ang ga tabang
sakon, siya akon gina storya permi sa akon problems sa family, ang iya man lang gin
hambal sakon nga daw iya ka bala gina cheer up nga biskan ano na ang matabo dapat
kayanon ko gyapon.kay kung indi ko kayanon, kay kung mag pa down nalang ako malup-
og nalang ka rekta nga daw wala lang samad. so hambal niya sa akon stand still kaya mo
na kag besides kun amo na matabo waay man gyapon ka mahimo so ara na sa imong
choice kung nga magpadayun gyapon, ang choice bala nga kung gusto mo maayo imo
kabuhi or amo lang gyapon imo kabuhi nga ara balang indi ka kapasaylo sa iban nga
tawo.so kung broken family ka dapat ano indi mo nalang intinga, kung broken ka daw ma
affected ka sa tanan nga tawo nga ara sa imo palibot especially kung negative imo mga
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thoughts waay gid pakadtoan. Do you want a complete family, why is it important to
have a complete or whole family, she said: Gusto ko mabalik ang sauna, Syempre kung
completo imo family, lipay2 gid daw wala gid bala kasubo, kung indi completo imo
family, for example sa Christmas, Newyear kung indi completo imo family daw ka subo
man biya nga daw buhi man tani sila pero wala biya sila. daw patay bala. When ask,
What is your message to your fellow students who has the same situation as like you,
she said: Uhmm, padayun lang sa kinabuhi ah, though lisud man gid syempre kun indi
kompleto ang pamilya kay wala ka kabalo kun diin ka nga side magpanig kag kun diin ka
nga side ma upod pero eventually maanad na naman sina kay wala naman ka maubra para
mabalik pa ang imo mama kag papa so accept nalang gid. Hambal gani nila. “Accept
Participant B
National High School. He lives in Escalante city, his parents are both supporting him but
they are apart. His parents broke up when he was elementary. When ask, what are the
difficulties na encountered sa. for having a broken family, kuan daw kulang kayo ko sa
atensyon kag love sa akon parents. When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard,
especially in facing daily life without any support, he said: Not so easy, not so hard.
My parents provide my needs in daily life even they are not together, but there are times
that they cannot provide my needs and wants. When ask, does having a broken family
affect your performance in school, he said: Yes, because no one will guide you. When
ask, does having a broken family gives you stress, how you coped up with stress, he
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said: No. I made a decision in myself to keep on moving forward not minding my
situation. But when I remember my situation, I can’t help myself to cry. When ask, Does
having a broken family affect your health, why, he said: Not really. However, it gives
me anxiety sometimes. When ask, how did you manage your education while having
a broken family, he said: As I have said. I don’t mind it and pursue my education but we
can’t deny it affects our emotion. When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life
confidence. When ask, is there anyone who helps you in the problems you
experiencing right now, Who is he/she and how he/she helps you, he said: Yes, my
grandmother, she is the one who takes care of me. But it is different if it comes from your
whole family, he said: If ever, I want my parents to return. Because having a complete
share problems with. When ask, What is your message to your fellow students who
has the same situation as like you, he said: Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up
but just be calm and God will provide everything. Just believe.
Participant C
Escalante National High School, She is environment friendly and loves to spend time
with nature. When ask, what are the difficulties you've encountered having a broken
family, she said: I encountered many difficulties such as financial problems, loneliness,
lack of guidance, and depression. When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard,
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especially in facing daily life without any support, she said: Honestly, It is very hard
facing daily life without enough support from my parents. It also leads me to think on
committing suicide. When ask, does having a broken family affect your performance
in school, she said: Yes, it really affects me. Usually I cannot attend school regularly
because it deeply affects me. When ask, does having a broken family gives you stress,
how you coped up with stress, she said: Yes, it also gives me anxiety.. When ask, Does
having a broken family affect your health, why, she said: Not really. Yes, it causes me
insomnia because of thinking that problem. When ask, how did you manage your
education while having a broken family, she said: I keep on striving even it is hard. But
sometimes I have thoughts of stopping on my study.. When ask, how did you overcome
am very determined to rise from poverty considering my situation but life will be easier if
there is someone supporting you. When ask, is there anyone who helps you in the
problems you experiencing right now? Who is he/she and how he/she helps you, she
said:. . My brother helps me to ease my problems and he is the reason why I keep on
striving. And I very thankful that he choose to stay with me even though my parents left
us. Do you want a complete family, why is it important to have a complete or whole
family, she said: Because having a broken family is so miserable. A child from a broken
family could walk to the wrong path. It is important to have a complete family because
every member guided. Sometimes we need someone to lean on. When ask, What is
your message to your fellow students who has the same situation as like you, she
said: Be stable no matter what your situation is. Every problem has a corresponding
solution.
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Participant D
Escalante National High School, she is a working-student, working for her allowance in
order to attend in school. When ask, what are the difficulties you've encountered
having a broken family, she said: Uuuhhmm… ano Bali kanang pamatiyagan ko, na
weak ko amo na bala… Down ko permi nnaahh.. daw pamatyagan na way man ga
palanga sa akon ako lang isa. When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard,
especially in facing daily life without any support, she said: Budlay kay syempre wala
may gaano simo… wa may ga guide ba simo og ano mo dapat imong himu-on, amo na
wala ka may madalaganan dali dali, kung may kinahanglan ka. When ask, does having
a broken family affect your performance in school, she said: Uuuuhhmmm.. mmm…
o okay di syempre daw depress, sobra ba ka depress? Sa ano problema sa balay tapos
daw hindi ka hindi n aka focus sa ano sa study kay utok ara lang sa ano ga kanabang ga
isip bala kung paano ba solvad ang problema. Na amo na… When ask, does having a
broken family gives you stress, how you coped up with stress, she said: Oo, syempre
gahatag gid na stress tapos ginaubra ko lang ngaa ano lang ang magpatatag lang eh…
amo na. When ask, Does having a broken family affect your health, why, she said: Di
man. kaya ko man waay ko man gina pabaya-an akong ka ugalingon. Sa pagkaon sa ano.
When ask, how did you manage your education while having a broken family, she
said: Uuuhhmm.. ano gina himo ko lang ang ngah best ko para maka ano sa eskwelahan.
When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life considering of having a broken
family, she said: Aww… ano lang ginahimo kolang tanan na ano ma kaya ko para ngah
para ma solve siya, way lang ko gaano way lang ko ga isip na negative. When ask, is
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there anyone who helps you in the problems you experiencing right now? Who is
he/she and how he/she helps you, she said: Uuuhhhmmm.. Sometimes I need someone
to talk to. mga ano siyempre best friend ko mga upod sa simbahan amo na. Do you want
a complete family, why is it important to have a complete or whole family, she said:
Gusto ko gid magbalik ang amon pamilya. Syempre kung completo imo family, okay gid
tanan may ga guide sa imo, indi mag wala imo self-confidence kay gina tudloan ka nila
kag indi kana mag duha2 na mag skwela kay ara sila mag asikaso simo. When ask,
What is your message to your fellow students who has the same situation as like you,
she said: Indi lang e mind ang imo problems, kung may ara naman problems maabot indi
lang mag ka stress para indi malab-ot sa malain ang imo panghunahuna.
Participant E
in University of St. Lasalle but living in Escalante City. During his elementary years,
being a part of broken family really affects him. When ask, what are the difficulties
you've encountered having a broken family, he said: Dili man kaayo lisud kay sports
ug wala silay away nga duha. When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard,
especially in facing daily life without any support, he said: Easy because they both
supporting me. When ask, does having a broken family affect your performance in
school, he said: In my elementary days, yes, but sugod karon na realize naku.ang rason
nganung nag buwag sila. When ask, does having a broken family gives you stress,
how you coped up with stress, he said: A little bit by making myself strong and
believing in myself. When ask, Does having a broken family affect your health, why,
he said: Yes, because of overthinking. When ask, how did you manage your education
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while having a broken family, he said: By making it as my inspiration to work hard for
them. When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life considering of having a
broken family, he said: By having a social life and making myself happy, like playing
computer games and playing basketball. When ask, is there anyone who helps you in
the problems you experiencing right now? Who is he/she and how he/she helps you,
he said: Ang akon bestfriends Arn, Beniño, and Gabby they are helping me when I’m
feeling lonely and helping me to enjoy life. Do you want a complete family, why is it
important to have a complete or whole family, he said: Yes, because the more
complete the family is the more happier we can. When ask, What is your message to
your fellow students who has the same situation as like you, he said:
hmmm…continue lang sa pagsalig kay God, indi hayaan ang self nga maging pawala
nalang kay sa ulihi ikaw lang man japon ang mo suffer… so we must stay positive lang
Participant F
He is friendly and approachable to her classmates and friends. The separation of his
parents and the death of his mother turned his life into misery. When ask, what are the
rako mo kaon, usahay walay baon og dli naku maramdaman pagpalanga sa akoa usahay.
When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard, especially in facing daily life
without any support, he said: Hard dyud siya kay feeling naku ako ra usa og wala ko
kabalo diin ko mo adto murag wala silay plano sa akoa og wala koy mapangayuag kwarta
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para makakaon ko usauhay. When ask, does having a broken family affect your
performance in school, Oo, maka affect dyud siya para nako kay kung naay me project
na kinahanglan kwarta usahay dli ko kapalit og usahay ma failure na lang ko maong lisud
dyud sya.When ask, does having a broken family gives you stress, how you coped up
with stress, he said: Oo, pero ga too man ko og gasalig ko sa ginoo para og tarung ko og
skwela para ma succeed akong mga dreams sa kinabuhi. When ask, Does having a
broken family affect your health, why, he said: Oo, kay ganiwang nako kay usahay ma
depress ka dinaka ganahan mo kaon dinaka ganahan matug musiga… gasiga lang imong
mata usahay dinaka ganahan maligo pero lisud dyud sya. When ask, how did you
manage your education while having a broken family, he said: Uuuuhhmm.. Studying
hard og kung may opportunity na makakwarta kuwaon para masupportahan ang pag
skwela og dapat dli mo quit sa life. When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life
considering of having a broken family, he said: By moving straight sapat nga kung diin
ko gusto mo adto and no one can hit me. When ask, is there anyone who helps you in
the problems you experiencing right now? Who is he/she and how he/she helps you,
he said Oo, akong mga relatives sa akong mga tito og tita mga classmate pud og uban
ngah gina ingnan ko nila ngah dli ko mo suko sa akong mga pangandoy sa kinabuhi. Do
you want a complete family, why is it important to have a complete or whole family,
he said: Sa tinud-anay, gusto nako magbalik sila mama. Kay having a complete family is
fun. Gahatag sa parents sa ilang mga children ang quality time to enjoy og ma share nila
ang ubang og ma experience sa mga bata ang mga quality and other activities or do any
just to make their children happy. When ask, What is your message to your fellow
students who has the same situation as like you, he said: ahmmm… Padayun lang sa
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kinabuhi, ayaw lang padala sa imo sitwasyon, himoa ni nga strength kag inspiration para
mag success ka. Ug ayaw ni himoa sa imo anak ang imo sitwasyon karon.
Participant G
National High School. When ask, what are the difficulties you've encountered having
When ask, is having a broken family easy or hard, especially in facing daily life
without any support, he said: Hard, because sometime I feel alone and no one love me.
When ask, does having a broken family affect your performance in school, he said:
Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga pass project, assignments,
kag iban pa. When ask, does having a broken family gives you stress, how you coped
up with stress, he said:O okay permi naku makita nga mag-away sila, daw maglain
dayon akon buot. When ask, Does having a broken family affect your health, why, he
said: Oo, kis-a waay ko gana makaon sigi lang higda. When ask, how did you manage
your education while having a broken family, he said: Gina pilit nalang nakon na
masulod klase para lang mani japon sa akon para makita man nila nga gapaninguha ko.
When ask, how did you overcome struggles in life considering of having a broken
family, he said: Malagaw upod sakon barkada kis-a sa akon mega para mabuhinan man
bisag kadalali akon problema. When ask, is there anyone who helps you in the
problems you experiencing right now, Who is he/she and how he/she helps you, he
said: Oo, my friends kay ga advice man sila kon ano akon himuon. Do you want a
want to get my family back because important gid kay bahalag pigado kamo atleast
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complete kamo tanan at may ga guide man sa imo kon ano imo himuon himuon sa imo.
When ask, What is your message to your fellow students who has the same situation
as like you, he said: Nevermind nalang ang problems , tuon nalang sa pag skwela para
makit-an man nila na gapaninguha ka, bisag amu pana ang way na maguliay sila.
1. Syempre budlay siya, sa financial support kag support pud sa imo Participant A has a code
ga support sa imo diba? kag kung ano pud kung may mga meeting abi
2. Para sa akon budlay siya, labi na sa, for example gamata ka kada Participant A has a code
adlaw ga hunahuna kapa ano man akon kan-on? maano nalang ko of financial issue.
3. Oo, kay ano ga worry ka, for example mapuli ka sa balay, maano
4. Of course, ga hatag gid siya stress eh kay diba ga worry ka kung Participant A has a code
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ano ang imong imo himoon sa mga ga abot na problema sa imo of stress caused by
5. Para sa akon, oo kay kung may broken family ka permi ka nalang Participant A has a code
waay gana magkaon kay ngaa daw ka unfair sa kabuhi bala haw. of loses self-care.
tapos kung wala ka gana mag kaon,diba magniwang ka, tapos wala
6. Ano, padayon lang gyapon skwela biskan ano na naga katabo, stay Participant A has a code
positive biskan budlay gid siya e face. Ara man gid ang Ginoo para of positive thinking and
7. Para sa ako ano, biskan budlay nagid ang kinabuhi padayun ka lang Participant A has a code
gyapon, ara man gyapon ang Ginoo sa imo kinabuhi, indi man ka ya of persistence.
pabay-an kag sa iya man lang gid ta naga pangayo tabang ah kung
ga pas-an.
8. Ang akon bestfriend, siya ang ga tabang sakon,siya akon gina Participant A has a code
storya permi sa akon problems sa family, ang iya man lang gin of someone to comfort.
hambal sakon nga daw iya ka bala gina cheer up nga biskan ano na
kung mag pa down nalang ako malup-og nalang ka rekta nga daw
wala lang samad. so hambal niya sa akon stand still kaya mo na kag
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sa imong choice kung nga magpadayun gyapon, ang choice bala nga
kung gusto mo maayo imo kabuhi or amo lang gyapon imo kabuhi
nga ara balang indi ka kapasaylo sa iban nga tawo.so kung broken
affected ka sa tanan nga tawo nga ara sa imo palibot especially kung
9. Gusto ko mabalik ang sauna. Syempre kung completo imo family, Participant A has a code
lipay2 gid daw wala gid bala kasubo, kung indi completo imo family, of wanting a Complete
for example sa Christmas, Newyear kung indi completo imo family Family.
daw ka subo man biya nga daw buhi man tani sila pero wala biya sila.
10. Uhmm, padayun lang sa kinabuhi ah, though lisud man gid Participant A has a code
syempre kun indi kompleto ang pamilya kay wala ka kabalo kun diin of acceptance of the
ka nga side magpanig kag kun diin ka nga side ma upod pero Situation.
mabalik pa ang imo mama kag papa so accept nalang gid. Hambal
1.Ang akong difficulties na encountered sa.. for having a broken Participant B has a code of
family, kuan daw kulang kayo ko sa atensyon kag love sa akon lack of love and attention.
parents.
2.Not so easy, not so hard. My parents provide my needs in daily life Participant B has a code of
even they are not together, but there are times that they cannot financial stability.
lack of guidance.
4.No. I made a decision in myself to keep on moving forward not Participant B has a code of
emotional Problem.
6.As I have said. I don’t mind it and pursue my education but we Participant B has a code of
7.I use my situation as my strength and inspiration to overcome Participant B has a code of
confidence.
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8.Yes, my grandmother, she is the one who takes care of me. But it Participant B has a code of
9.If ever, I want my parents to return. Because having a complete Participant B has a code of
10.Sometimes it comes to our mind to give up but just be calm and Participant B has a code of
1.I encountered many difficulties such as financial problems, Participant C has a code of
2.Honestly, It is very hard facing daily life without enough support Participant C has a code of
3. Yes, it really affects me. Usually I cannot attend school regularly Participant C has a code of
emotional problem.
5.Not really. Yes, it causes me insomnia because of thinking that Participant C has a code of
6.I keep on striving even it is hard. But sometimes I have thoughts of Participant C has a code of
supporting you.
8. My brother helps me to ease my problems and he is the reason Participant C has a code of
why I keep on striving. And I very thankful that he choose to stay accompaniment.
9. A child from a broken family could walk to the wrong path. It is Participant C has a code of
10. Be stable no matter what your situation is. Every problem has a Participant C has a code of
1.Uuuhhmm… ano Bali kanang pamatiyagan ko, na weak ko amo na Participant D has a code of
bala… Down ko permi nnaahh.. daw pamatyagan na way man ga feeling isolated and down.
2.Budlay kay syempre wala may gaano simo… wa may ga guide ba Participant D has a code of
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simo og ano mo dapat imong himu-on, amo na wala ka may lack of family support.
3. Uuuuhhmmm.. mmm… o okay di syempre daw depress , sobra ba Participant D has a code of
ka depress? Sa ano problema sa balay tapos daw hindi ka hindi n aka depression.
focus sa ano sa study kay utok ara lang sa ano ga kanabang ga isip
4. Oo, syempre gahatag gid na stress tapos ginaubra ko lang ngaa Participant D has a code of
ano lang ang magpatatag lang eh… amo na. stress Management.
5. Di man. kaya ko man waay ko man gina pabaya-an akong ka Participant D has a code of
6. Uuuhhmm.. ano gina himo ko lang ang ngah best ko para maka Participant D has a code of
7. Aww… ano lang ginahimo kolang tanan na ano ma kaya ko para Participant D has a code of
ngah para ma solve siya, way lang ko gaano way lang ko ga isip na positive thinking.
negative.
8. Uuuhhhmmm.. Sometimes I need someone to talk to. mga ano Participant D has a code of
siyempre best friend ko mga upod sa simbahan amo na. someone to lean on.
9. Gusto ko gid magbalik ang amon pamilya. Syempre kung Participant D has a code of
completo imo family, okay gid tanan may ga guide sa imo, indi mag complete family.
wala imo self-confidence kay gina tudloan ka nila kag indi kana mag
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10. Indi lang e mind ang imo problems, kung may ara naman Participant D has a code of
problems maabot indi lang mag ka stress para indi malab-ot sa ignoring problems.
1.Dili man kaayo lisud kay sports ug wala silay away nga duha. Participant E has a code of
agreement between
parents.
3. In my elementary days, yes, but sugod karon na realize naku..ang Participant E has a code of
4. A little bit by making myself strong and believing in myself. Participant E has a code of
fortitude.
overthinking.
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making situation as
inspiration.
7. By having a social life and making myself happy,like playing Participant E has a code of
8. Ang akon bestfriends Arn, Beniño, and Gabby they are helping Participant E has a code of
9. Yes, because the more complete the family is the more happier we Participant E has a code of
10. hmmm…continue lang sa pagsalig kay God, indi hayaan Participant E has a code of
ang self nga maging pawala nalang kay sa ulihi ikaw lang man japon positive thinking and
ang mo suffer… so we must stay positive lang sa tanan nga bagay… faithful.
1. Uuhhmm… talagsa rako mo kaon, usahay walay baon og dli naku Participant F has a code of
2. Hard dyud siya kay feeling naku ako ra usa og wala ko kabalo Participant F has a code of
diin ko mo adto murag wala silay plano sa akoa og wala koy financial problem.
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3. Oo, maka affect dyud siya para nako kay kung naay me project na Participant F has a code of
kinahanglan kwarta usahay dli ko kapalit og usahay ma failure na low academic performance.
4. Oo, pero ga too man ko og gasalig ko sa ginoo para og tarung ko Participant F has a code of
5. Oo, kay ganiwang nako kay usahay ma depress ka dinaka ganahan Participant F has a code of
mo kaon dinaka ganahan matug musiga… gasiga lang imong mata health problem.
makakwarta kuwaon para masupportahan ang pag skwela og dapat pursuit for learning.
7. By moving straight sapat nga kung diin ko gusto mo adto and no Participant F has a code of
8. Oo, akong mga relatives sa akong mga tito og tita mga classmate Participant F has a code of
pud og uban ngah gina ingnan ko nila ngah dli ko mo suko sa akong buddies.
9. : Sa tinud-anay, gusto nako magbalik sila mama. Kay having a Participant F has a code of
complete family is fun. Gahatag sa parents sa ilang mga children ang wanting a complete family.
sa mga bata ang mga quality and other activities or do any just to
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10. ahmmm… Padayun lang sa kinabuhi, ayaw lang padala Participant F has a code of
sa imo sitwasyon, himoa ni nga strength kag inspiration para mag moving forward or
success ka. Ug ayaw ni himoa sa imo anak ang imo sitwasyon karon. persistent.
financial problem.
2. Hard, because sometime I feel alone and no one love me. Participant G has a code of
emotional problem.
3. Yes, kay usahay waay ko gana mo sulod sa klase, way ko ga pass Participant G has a code of
4. O okay permi naku makita nga mag-away sila, daw maglain Participant G has a code of
5. Oo, kis-a waay ko gana makaon sigi lang higda. Participant G has a code of
emotional problem.
6. Gina pilit nalang nakon na masulod klase para lang mani japon sa Participant G has a code of
7. Malagaw upod sakon barkada kis-a sa akon mega para mabuhinan Participant G has a code of
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8. Oo, my friends kay ga advice man sila kon ano akon himuon. Participant G has a code of
companion.
9. I want to get my family back because important gid kay bahalag Participant G has a code of
pigado kamo atleast complete kamo tanan at may ga guide man sa wanting a complete family.
10. Nevermind nalang ang problems , tuon nalang sa pag skwela Participant G has a code of
para makit-an man nila na gapaninguha ka, bisag amu pana ang way ignoring problems.
na maguliay sila.
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Proximity Matrix
Themes Participants
A B C D E F G
Financial Problem 2 1 0 0 0 2 1
Health Problem 3 3 1 2 0 1 3
Giving up 0 1 1 0 0 0 0
Isolation 0 0 1 2 0 0 0
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RESEARCH QUESTIONS
2. Is having a broken family easy or hard? Especially facing daily life without any
support?
4. Does having a broken family gives you stress? How did you cope with stress?
6. How did you manage your education while having a broken family?
7. How did you overcome struggles in life considering of having a broken family?
8. Is there anyone who helps you ease the problems you experiencing right now? Who is
family?
10. What is your message to your fellow students who has the same situation as like you?
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