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KIM ETHERINGTON
Abstract
This paper is drawn from a narrative inquiry into how ex-drug users understand the connection between childhood trauma and
their subsequent drug misuse. The research was commissioned by a community drugs project. Eight participants were selected
from respondents to an advertisement in a counselling journal, five of whom are qualified psychological therapists. The
particular focus of this paper is on the interconnection of childhood trauma/abuse, drug misuse and parenting, by showing
participants’ own experience of being parented and how the experience of becoming a parent helped them to transform their
relationship with drugs. The paper draws attention to the therapeutic value of recognising the complex contextual factors that
influence the parenting abilities of problematic drug users, and of building upon the positive attitudes, hopes, values and
capabilities that underscore the ‘good parenting’ found in their stories. The work suggests that drug rehabilitation, treatment
or counselling might usefully focus on parent child relationships, which can become a turning point for identity
transformation.
Keywords: Abuse, childhood trauma, drug misuse, identity transformation, narrative inquiry, parenting
Correspondence: Graduate School of Education, Counselling Programmes, 8 10 Berkley Square, Clifton, Bristol BS8 1HH, UK. E-mail:
kim.etherington@bris.ac.uk
1473-3145 (print)/1746-1405 (online) – 2007 British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
DOI: 10.1080/14733140701340001
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disrupt a person’s ability to form secure attachments
What does this study explore? even with their own children (Bowlby, 1969, 1973).
A person may cope by disconnecting from aspects
. How the experience of becoming a parent
of trauma which may threaten to overwhelm them
helped three former addicts to transform
when triggered in their current lives, and lead to their
their relationship with drugs
use of drugs as a means of escaping such distress.
I present data gathered through listening to the Childhood trauma, substance misuse and
stories of three of my eight participants. John, Becky parenting
and Josie (pseudonyms) responded to an advertise- Associations between childhood trauma/abuse and
ment in a counselling journal asking for ‘stories from later substance misuse have long been recognised
people who have linked their history of problematic by drugs workers, who have increasingly noted
drug use with their experiences of childhood trauma’. those histories among their clients (Wilson, 1998),
John offered his story when his counsellor told him and seen how sexual and physical abuse and neglect
about my study and Becky and Josie are both trained in childhood can lead a person to turn to drugs and
as counsellors. alcohol (Griffiths, 1998; Lubit et al., 2003; Marcenko
Conversational interviews were held with all parti- et al., 2000; Najavits et al., 1997; Porter, 1994;
cipants, who were sent transcripts and invited to Ravndal et al., 2001; Zickler, 2002). Research has
comment on the work at each stage. John was the also shown that sexual abuse is linked with the
only participant to request no further contact after severity of drug misuse, which in turn is linked with
checking the transcript. Further telephone and e-mail a higher prevalence of children being taken into care
conversations with other participants, to fill in gaps in (Marcenko et al., 2000).
my understanding, have enabled us to co-construct Children living with drug-misusing parents can be
their stories and ensure their on-going consent to exposed to violence, physical abuse, criminal beha-
each publication that has ensued. viour and family breakdown (McKegany et al., 2002),
Although stories of parenting were not actively and those who attempt to escape from parenting that
sought, because parenting was central to their lives, is doubly compromised by the effects of childhood
interests and values, those stories emerged to provide trauma/abuse and substance misuse can be exposed
rich information on the complex and contingent to greater risk of trauma (O’Donoghue & Elliot, 1992;
nature of parenting while using drugs. The parenting Rounsaville et al., 1982).
aspect of those stories is therefore the focus of this Parents who are misusing drugs may become more
article. Other themes which include (but are not preoccupied with obtaining and using drugs than
limited to) the inter-relationship between alcohol use with caring for their children. Money might be used
and drug use, the inter-generational transmission of for drugs that would otherwise be available for
trauma, the impact of trauma on identity construc- clothing, food or other necessities; their availability
tion, and the process of identity transformation can as parents might be compromised; and their health
be found in Etherington (2007), alongside issues and emotional stability deteriorates with long-term
related to conducting life story research. drug misuse. It seems clear therefore that drug misuse
can seriously affect parenting practices and responsi-
Childhood trauma, impact and coping bilities on a daily basis (Barnard, 2005a, 2005b).
Adults whose capability to form loving attachments
The range of negative outcomes associated with or bonds has been impacted by trauma/abuse some-
childhood sexual and physical abuse has now been times struggle to create or sustain the kind of
acknowledged (Bailey & McCloskey, 2005; Gold, closeness and intimacy needed by their own children.
2000; van der Kolk, 1996). However, emotional abuse Such parents are sometimes described as distant,
and neglect, lack of responsiveness towards a child or unaffectionate or ‘not there’. Substance misuse may
traumatic loss are often more difficult to recognise, reinforce this experience for children whose parents
seeming to be less dramatic or obviously traumatic. are ‘spaced out’, ‘sleeping it off’ or ‘stoned’.
Nevertheless, what might be judged culturally as However, although parenting can clearly be af-
‘normal’ occurrences can accumulate over a pro- fected negatively by substance misuse, drug-misusing
longed period and lead to the creation of ‘a passively parents report that they love their children, value their
traumatic environment’ (Meares, 2000, p. 122). parenting role and feel guilty if they fail to meet their
One well-researched consequence of childhood own standards of parenting and their children’s
trauma, especially abuse that occurs within trusting expectations (Baker & Carson, 1999; Kearney et al.,
relationships, is a profound impact on the child’s sense 1994; Luthar & Walsh, 1995; Pursley-Cotteau & Stern,
of self, which is said to come into being ‘through the 1996). A growing body of research indicates that
child developing secure attachment to his or her the parenting attitudes and capabilities of drug-
caregivers, who have provided appropriate respon- misusing women are similar to those of non-using
siveness’ (Meares, 2000, p. 29). So unprocessed women whose lives have been shaped by similar
childhood trauma, when carried into adulthood, can circumstances, such as poverty, oppression and abuse
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(Camp & Finkelstein, 1997; Luthar & Walsh, 1995; does not represent a claim to greater ‘truth’ than
Marcenko & Spence, 1995). stories gathered from people currently misusing
In a study of substance-using mothers with a history drugs; rather, they had less need to defend them-
of childhood abuse, Marcenko et al. (2000) found selves psychologically, having experienced a changed
that women who had experienced sexual abuse sense of self and identity over the passage of time
scored significantly higher on a parenting scale, (Barnard, 2005a).
particularly in areas related to empathy and role My intention is to re-present parts of the stories of
reversal, indicating that sexual abuse may create a these three people as knowledge constructions in
greater empathy with children and a clearer under- their own right, inviting the reader to hold in mind the
standing of the demarcation between the roles of theories and literature described so far. The depth of
parent and child. Baker and Carson (1999) also report exploration permitted by using three stories balances
that substance-abusing women, while acknowledging the potential limitation: in isolation, each story may
how their lifestyle has negatively impacted on their not count for much, but alongside similar stories
children, gave details of practices that illustrated they gathered in my own inquiry (two further parenting
felt capable as parents. stories), as well those of others (Barnard, 2005a;
It would appear from previous research that while Barnard & McKeganey, 2004; Marcenko et al., 2000;
the stereotype of the drug-misusing parent may not McKeganey et al., 2002), they provide rich and multi-
fit every case, severe drug misuse does compromise layered learning.
and undermine a person’s capacity for ‘good enough’ I re-present below edited parts of John, Josie and
parenting, depending on the severity of drug misuse Becky’s stories. These relate, first, their own experi-
and the stage in recovery or relapse (Marcenko et al., ences of being parented, and second, their parenting
2000). It seems important, therefore, to separate out of their own children, showing their rich insight into
drug-misusing parents’ capacity for ‘good enough their parenting behaviours, attitudes, feelings,
parenting’ and their current practices as parents. The thoughts, intentions and values, and how behaviour
totalising identity of ‘addict’, ‘junkie’ or ‘druggie’ can that could be construed as ‘a failure in parenting’ can
obliterate hope and deny a person’s agency in their be viewed differently when the underlying intentions
recovery. are recognised.
Although research has shown that people can (and
Turning points do) recover from substance misuse without formal
treatment (Biernacki, 1986), John and Becky did accept
In the stories below I present sections of three life offers of treatment and rehabilitation (as did one other
stories that show how the creation of a child became a in my sample of eight): Josie simply stopped using
‘turning point’, when the person experienced a major drugs and went into counselling later.
change in his/her attitudes to drug misusing. These
turning points have been described as ‘rock bottom’
experiences, ‘existential crises’ (Biernacki, 1986) or John’s story
‘epiphanies’ ‘ times that alter and shape the mean- John’s ‘career’ of substance abuse had begun with
ings persons give to themselves and their life projects’ alcohol and solvent sniffing around the age of 13 and
(Denzin, 1994, p. 510). At this time a person has a progressed to a ‘big problem’ with amphetamines,
heightened awareness of the values that are most dear speed, acid, methadone and heroin. His own child-
to them, either reclaimed from before their drug using hood had been spent in London, living a ‘hippy’
or newly emerging at a different stage of life. lifestyle with his drug-using mother during the 1970s
Turning points may be linked to ‘outside’ events in when ‘dope was like air-freshener’ in their home.
a person’s life which, if accompanied by a change John was physically and emotionally neglected, and
‘inside’ the person ‘a new belief, new courage, exposed to sexual abuse and violence. He had no
moral disgust, ‘‘having had enough’’’ (Bruner, 1994, model of good parenting upon which to draw, his
p. 50) provide an opportunity for a ‘second chance’. father being absent and his mother seeming to be
In the stories below, the parents wanted something more interested in boyfriends, alcohol and dope than
better for their children than they had had for her only child:
themselves, and this desire provided the motivation
for change. My mum used to go to the pub and when she’d
come back, nine times out of ten I’d have wet
myself, you know. Even if I had diarrhoea I wouldn’t
Stories of parenting
use the toilet outside ‘cos there was a mad bloke
The narratives offered by participants in my study (ex- who lived in the bottom [flat] scary really. The key
drug users) were less likely to be influenced by stigma, was left in the door, but I wouldn’t go down and
shame and denial than those of current drug misusers use it.
because these participants had each reached a point
in their lives when they were able to admit, and take He told me about the first time he remembered
responsibility for, their past parenting behaviours. This meeting his father:
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I was starting a three-and-a-half-year sentence for er while I was in treatment, erm . . . a social worker
robbery, and he’d just finished an eight-year told me that her mother had been pulling clumps of
sentence for robbery. . . . He came in to see me Jenny’s hair out and smacking her, and that
and brought me a bit of dope. devastated me. Because at the end of the day I’d
thought: ‘At least she’s safe, she’s with her mum.’
At the age of seven John was raped by a stranger
when out playing: I’d got to about two years clean then I had to go to
court and, er . . . she had been fostered for quite a
I’d hurt myself and was outside crying by a wall and while, then she was adopted. I could have fought to
a guy pulled up in a van and . . . I got in. I didn’t get her back, you know. But I wanted what was best
know any better really. Maybe if my mum hadn’t for her and, as hard as it was, I thought: Look,
been drinking and using drugs I’d have been better maybe it’s better she goes for adoption. . . . Luckily,
looked after and not out on the streets in London at the adoptive family she went to were part of the
the age of seven with a key tied round my neck. same family who fostered her. So she didn’t get too
much upset, which was good.
John had difficulty forming intimate trusting relation-
ships but eventually he tried to settle down with a
They wanted a fresh start, which I could under-
woman who also misused drugs.
stand. . . . They didn’t want me popping up every
now and again and upsetting it. And I thought:
A lot went on in that relationship. Yeah, we lost a
little boy. She had to have him induced but he was Well, that’s fair enough. If that’s what needs to be
fully formed. . . . I was there right until she actually done to give her . . . a better life . . . then, I’ll have to
gave birth. But, um, it was quite traumatic. And sit with that. Well, if I’d gone into court and kept
then, when she was having our daughter I was battling away to have her with me it would have
really worried that this was going to happen again. been for selfish reasons. . . . I had one final visit
But it didn’t, you know. when she was seven. She’s 13, 14 this year.