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Children are a trust given to the parents.

Parents will be held accountable for this trust on the

Day of Judgment. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and
essential religious teachings of their children.

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgment.
The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this
life, and in the Hereafter.

In-text: ("Responsibilities of parents", 2019)

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Allah, Almighty Says (what means): “And those who believed and whose descendants followed
them in faith – We will join with them their descendants, and We will not deprive them of
anything of their deeds. Every person, for what he earned, is retained...” [Quran 52:21]

Raising of Children in the Light of Islam:“The parents are like a mirror, the reflection it gives, the
child adopts. If the reflection is good, the child is good. if the reflection is bad, the child is
bad.” (Olgar, 2013 )..............Olgar, M. A.( 2013). Parents and their role in upbringing of children.
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A mother, as well as a father, is unsubstitutable and a child needs both parents for his complete

"A role model's behaviour is extremely important. It

has its own characteristics. Within the family, the mother’s role is specific, so as

is the father’s role and children’s role. They depend on the overall structure of

personalities of the mother, father, and child as well as on the quality of the outer

environment." (Višňovský, 2007, pp. 8-9)

VIŠŇOVSKÝ, Ľ. et al. Základy rodinnej výchovy. Banská Bystrica: UMB,

The father and the mother have two

different roles. A child needs, for his fulfilled development, both parents, father

and mother, to an equal extent. The children’s upbringing is often assigned as a

mother’s task only. The father, as well as the mother, is required to participate in

the same way but their roles cannot swop. The father’s and mother’s role varies

as a family develops.

In-text: (Gežová, 2015)

Your Bibliography: Gežová, K. (2015). Father’s and Mother’s Roles and Their Particularities in
Raising Children. Acta Technologica Dubnicae, 5(1), 45-50. doi: 10.1515/atd-2015-0032

"Child needs both parents, especially due the

differences between the genders, the mental selfhood of man and woman, who

complement each other as two halves forming one whole unit. A child, who is,

for any reason, brought up only by a father or mother, is literally lacking the

second half. And this can originate to a miscellaneous life and personal

complications." (Štrbová, 2004, p. 17).

ŠTRBOVÁ, M. Úloha a podstata dobrého otcovstva. Vychovávateľ, 50, 2004. 9,

p. 17

However, the determining factor shall be

the responsibility and the individuality of both parents, that both of them have

their important and irreplaceable position.

A child finds a friend and an adviser in the

father. His authority cannot be replaced. It is as essential as a mother’s love. By

complementing each other, they create one entity necessary for healthy child


A father's role is as

important for boys as much as for girls. A father represents for the son a model

of himself and for the daughter an example of her future husband.

The most important one is that the father is elementary

model of life roles.

According to Ľ. Višňovský (1998, p. 89), the father is characterised by:

· protection, guidance and support towards the outside world;

· discipline of the child;

· assist in the initiative, independence and freedom;

· encourage the quality of accomplishments.

There is no reason to have doubts about the importance of a father's role.

VIŠŇOVSKÝ, Ľ. Teória výchovy. Banská Bystrica: UMB, 1998.

When he is present in the family, his feedback seems so natural we are at times

unaware of it. His presence evokes the sense of security and protection. Also the

support and help which he provides to the woman - mother reassures her that she

can rely on him and does not need to raise children on her own. The mother's

comfort and satisfaction then positively affect the child's growth.

In-text: (Gežová, 2015)

Your Bibliography: Gežová, K. (2015). Father’s and Mother’s Roles and Their Particularities in
Raising Children. Acta Technologica Dubnicae, 5(1), 45-50. doi: 10.1515/atd-2015-0032
Ultimate Role Model: Prophet Muhammad as a Father

Muslims consider Muhammad as the ultimate role model in all aspects of life, including

parenting. He was compassionate and never neglected or abused his children, grandchildren or

any other children in his life. He encouraged, caressed and loved them (Gulen, 1996). He

prepared his children for this life as well as the hereafter (Gulen, 1996).

Gulen, M. Fethullah. 1996. Prophet Muhammad; The Infinite Light. London: Truestar.

Anas Bin Malik, his

servant for 10 years, says: “I have never seen a man who was more compassionate to his family

members than Muhammad” (Gulen, 1996:241). Another witness was Aise , Muhammad’s

(PBUH) wife, said He was helpful in the service of his family when He was at home (Hamid,


Hamid, Abdul A. 2003. Moral Teachings of Islam; Prophetic Traditions from al-Adab almufrad by
Imam al-Bukhari. Walnut Creek. Lanham, New York, Oxford:

Rowman&Littlefield Publishers.

Fatherhood in Islam

Muslim fathers also have an important role in the lives of their children. A father’s role is

more clearly described than a mother’s in the Qur’an and Hadith (Tarazi, 1995). Tarazi, Norma.
1995. The Child in Islam. Plainfield, Indiana: American Trust Publications.

According to

the Islamic value system, a Muslim father is responsible for protecting his family and children

(Hossain et al. 2005).Hossain, Ziarat, and Jaipaul L. Roopnarine. 2005. “Mothers’ and Fathers’
Childcare Involvement

with Young Children in Rural Families in Malaysia.” International Journal of

Psychology 40(6):385-394. It is expected that fathers should provide for the educational and
needs of their children.

In-text: (Akin, 2012)

Your Bibliography: Akin, M. (2012). Exploring theology and practice in Islamic parenting. Orlando,
Fla.: University of Central Florida.

Motherhood in Islam

Mothers play a strong role in Islamic social structure because they raise children to fill

future community positions. Thus, mothers are given a special status in the home and abroad.

“Paradise is at the foot of the mother” (Schleifer, 1996:88)Schlifer, Aliah. 1996. Motherhood in
Islam. Kentucky, USA: The Islamic Texts Society

Women in Islam are the main actress for raising children. In this way, the meaning of

motherhood in Islam refers to the immediate personal responsibility of women to raise their

children as faithful Muslims with motherly love and affection enhanced by their piety

(Saktanber, 2002). Saktanber, Ayse. 2002. Living Islam; Women, Religion and the Politicization of
Culture in

Turkey. London, NY: I.B. Tauris Publishers.The assignment of this specific role immortalizes
women, acknowledging

them as a keeper of Islam, and also warrants reducing their indispensability to dependency.

Mothers have a strong role in controlling and influencing the inconsistency that may occur in

parenting, resulting in psychological disorder (Dwairy, 2008). Dwairy, Marwan Adeeb. 2008.
“Parental Inconsistency versus Parental Authoritarianism:

Associations with Symptoms of Psychological Disorders.” J. Youth Adolescence 37:616-


Thus, “Home and family are seen

as the foundation of Islamic society, and ‘mothering’ has become the most indispensable

function performed for the survival of these foundations” (Saktanber, 2002:43). Saktanber
indicates women in Islam are thought of as having been created with the innate qualities of

motherly mercy and affection according to the Islamic discourse on gender complementarities.

Mothers have very strong functional roles within Islam such as raising children to arrange future

society. For that reason, mothers are given special status. The Qur’an provides examples for

why we should respect mothers:

“Narrated Abu Hurairah; A man asked the Mohammed “To whom should I show

kindness?” He replied: “To your mother”. I said again: “And then to whom?” He

answered: “To your mother.” I asked a third time, he said “To your mother.” When I

asked a fourth time, he said: “To your father, then to the closest relative after him, and

then the next closest.” (Hamid, 2002:13)

The Hadith shows that mothers are the most deserving, given preference based on their

tireless efforts for the rearing and bearing of their children, their compassion, their service, their

pregnancy, and delivery (Schleifer, 1996). In fact, mothers are more actively involved with their

children than fathers (Ozgun and Honig, 2005; Erkman and Rohner, 2006; Erkal et al. 2007).

Ozgun, Ozkan,and Alice Sterling Honig. 2004. “Parental Involvement and Spousal Satisfaction

with Division of Early Childcare in Turkish Families with Normal Children and Children

with Special Needs.” Early Child Development and Care 175(3):259-270.

Erkman, Fatos, and Ronald P. Rohner. 2006. “Youths Perceptions of Corporal Punishment,

Parental Acceptance, and Psychological Adjustment in a Turkish Metropolis.” CrossCultural

Research 40(3):250-267.

Erkal, Sibel, Zeynep Copur, Nuri Dogan, and Sukran Safak. 2007. “Examining the Relationship

Between Parents’ Gender Roles and Responsibilities Towards Their Children.” Social

Behavior and Responsibility 35(9):1221-1234.

In-text: (Akin, 2012)

Your Bibliography: Akin, M. (2012). Exploring theology and practice in Islamic parenting. Orlando,
Fla.: University of Central Florida.

Parents as the founders of infant’s physical and psychological health

This category entailed four subcategories, namely the effects of legitimate marriage on the
infant, effects of the conception moment on the infant, effectiveness of parents’ nutrition
on the infant, and effects of parents’ actions on infant's protection or endurance.
According to Islam, the parents have a significant role in the establishment of a
comprehensive health foundation in the child. Accordingly, parents have a duty to carry out
certain actions during different stages, namely before and upon marriage, before and upon
conception, during pregnancy, and after birth.

In-text: (Jafari-Mianaei, Alimohammadi, Banki-poorfard & Hasanpour, 2017)

Your Bibliography: Jafari-Mianaei, S., Alimohammadi, N., Banki-poorfard, A., & Hasanpour, M.
(2017). An inquiry into the concept of infancy care based on the perspective of Islam. Nursing
Inquiry, 24(4), e12198. doi: 10.1111/nin.12198

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Probability of Equality

Raising the children is great mission in one’s life with highest priority over others. For children,
both parents i.e. father and mother are important as one looks after the financial aspect and
another takes care of the social and ethical aspect. Allah has made the husband responsible for
the maintenance of the family (which of course includes the child/ren if there be) while wife is
made responsible for the care of the family.

Al-Aswad bin Yazid said: I asked ‘Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) "What did the Prophet
use to do at home?" She said, "He used to work for his family, and when he heard the Adhan
(call for the prayer), he would go out".

Allah (SWT) has attached great importance to maintain the family ties. It is one of the top most
duties of a man to look after the need of the family and try to make them happy. On the
authority of Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) who said: Prophet Mohammad (PBUH)
said, "A dinar you spend in the sake of Allah (SWT), a dinar you spend to free a slave, a dinar you
donate to the poor, and a dinar you spend on your family, the most rewarding among them is
the dinar that you spend on your family". He (PBUH) also said "the best dinar a man spends is a
dinar he spends on his family, a dinar he spends on his animal, and a dinar he spends on his
companions in the sake of Allah (SWT). On another place Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said when
a person's son matures and he has the financial ability to marry him but does not do so, the boy
will commit sin and the sin will be on the father.


It is not fair to neglect the role played by the father in the life of the children. Logically his
unlimited influence have a great effect on child’s future. There are certain principles that no one
can ingrain in children's hearts better than the father. Similarly there are some problems that no
one can face and protect children better except father. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said, "Father
or a parent is the best of the gate of paradise. So if you like, guard the gate or destroy it.
On the authority of Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated: The Prophet Mohammad
used to sell the dates of the garden of Bani An-Nadir and store for his family so much food as
would cover their needs for a whole year. This is the aspect man can better look than a women.

Tough mother commands an upper hand in caring for their children and the paradise is beneath
his feet. But, this does not means that father does not play a role or vital role so does not
command much respect or good deeds of their children. Mohammad (PBUH) said, "The
pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father, and the displeasure of the Lord is in the
displeasure of the father".

So both are equally important to their children. Allah (SWT) says in Qur’an, "And lower to them
shoulders with humility and meekness and say my Lord have mercy upon them(both) as they
brought me up when I was little.’ When we were weak and in need our parents did hard labour
in nourishing and rearing us". On another place Allah (SWT) says, "Be grateful to me and to both
your parents". Allah bless one who showers gratefulness to his parents proved by good deeds
and behavior, and the most unfortunate one is one who does not seek salvation by the true
Khidmat shown by kindness in words and deeds.

It is the responsibility of both to help the children in bringing them up. A Good child is the
blessing for both parents. Allah says, "Whoever kisses his child, Allah (SWT) writes for him a
reward; whoever pleases his child, Allah will please him on the Resurrection Day; and whoever
teaches his child (how to read) the Qur'an, he and the mother (of the child) will be dressed in
the hereafter in suits whose illumination will light the faces of the dwellers of paradise." The
only reason to me as why mother is on the upper hand despite the hardships of father is that it
is the mother who carry the baby nine months in her womb and during that period and while
delivery she passes through extreme pains rather most mothers die while giving birth. God has
gifted her with innate instinct to care her child more than the father. On the authority of Al-
Mughirah (May Allah be pleased with him), who said: Mohammad (PBUH) said, "Allah forbids all
of you to disobey your mothers"

"Allah will have mercy on the man who passionately loves his child."

The importance of both parents can be assessed from a Hadith. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH)
said, "When the human being dies his/her deeds will come to an end except three kinds: Sadqah
Jariah (continuous charty), beneficial knowledge, and a good child that will pray for him or her".
A Hadith related to Ibn Majah and Malik on the authority of Abu Hurairah, "The rank of a person
may by raised after his death. He asks; My Lord, how does this come about? He is then told; your
child has prayed for your forgiveness." Prophet on various times and occasion used the word
parents instead of mother or father alone.


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