To, Dated: 19 Aug.

18

The Prime Minster Office,

India

Planned robbery, Mental torture, and threats to snatch my flat and spoil my life, received from Mr.
Chattarpal Singh (VP, NVS, Rajsamadh), his daughter Upasana Singh (PGT, NVS) son Akashdeep
Singh, wife Mrs. Sarvesh Singh and Brother in Law Rakesh Kumar, along with threats to fabricate
false cases in SCST act and dowry laws.

I am writing to you because after getting in touch with several NGOs I realized that more than 5 lac
guys face false charges of dowry and domestic violence and many of them commit suicide. It has
become a trend for girls to run away with all the valuables at home and later claim that as STRI
DHAN. There are no remedies available in our Constitution moreover the recent amendment in
SCST act by Supreme court was overridden by government.

My mother is diabetic, father is a heart patient and I have developed fatty lever, my entire family is
in shock and are taking treatment for depression and living in a constant fear of our lives and of
being implicated in false cases.

I had a love marriage with Upasana Singh on 14Dec2015. I and my family loved her a lot and kept
fulfilling all her and her family’s costly demands.

In Aug2017, she made me buy a new house on Joint name, stating that she will get a job soon and
would return the money I would borrow and would take care of EMI's however soon after moving
to new house, she and her family started mentally harassing me.

She misbehaved and insulted my parents. They left crying from the same house, they spent their old
age savings for, to make her happy. They visited us second time since our marriage, as they always
feared her bad behaviour.

I was surprised as Upasana hardly spent 7-8 months with me, out of our 32 months of marriage so
far and denied intimacy, in demand of a new house, and I expected her to be happy. We moved to
the new flat on 3Dec2017. She started bad mouthing me in the new neighbourhood and in less than
a month on 30Dec2017, she and her brother (Akashdeep Singh) swiped my house clean of
valuables and ran away, blocking me on phone and social media, while I felt unconscious after
having the diner she made.

During these few days, she made several false allegations on me (including me calling her “Jati
Suchak Shabd” and asking her for dowry) and when I tried to explain, her father threatened me of
dire consequences. Her mother and younger sister keeps verbally abusing me and my parents, her
mama (who according to Upasana is a gunda from Sambhal, Moradabad), repeatedly threatened me
of his political links. He and Upasana has repeatedly forced me to change my caste, my father in law
kept on harassing me repeatedly for not being a Dalit.

We are a religious family, her family, openly abuses Hindu Gods and laugh at our traditions. She has
severe issues with my religious beliefs and would not let me practice my day to day rituals.

Suffering from severe depression I have not earned since last 8-9 months, and despite of repeated
requests to Upasana to come back and her parents, to let me return the house to the builder, they
kept denying and rather threatened me that she will spoil my life and is soon going to snatch my
flat away. So far, I have borrowed over 10 lacs of my parent’s old age savings, 5 lacs from other
sources and 20 lacs as home loan. Now my parents are even bound to pay the EMI's else I would
face prosecution from bank.

She falsely accused me of killing her, only for the motive of running away with valuables, I know,
they can go to any extent to extort money and property from me.

Looking at the chain of events, I am afraid that they might be operating as a gang,

All IDs Upasana has, were made barely a few months before she met me and have false date of
birth.

I do not want to die, however I don’t have much courage to see my parents suffering at such an old
age, because of my life choices, neither do I have courage, nor money, to face and fight false cases,
that they are threatening to file against us.

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When she left, In the state of shock, looking for reasons, I found many objectionable chats in her old
phone, including her being in a committed relationship with Vinay Kumar, whom, her mother
promised to be a good friend, before marriage. Her behaviour towards Vinay was objectionable
since our relationship started. A few months after marriage, I realized that Vinay used to stay with
her alone at nights when her roommate would leave for a night shift.

On 28Feb18 I presented the chats in front of her parents, only to be blamed psycho and sceptic and
again blamed me of calling her “Jati Suchak Shabd”. While she was not willing, they forcibly left her
and the next day, I caught her having an objectionable phone conversation, on which she broke her
phone and physically assaulted me, upon complaining, her father took her along the next day.

We strongly oppose dowry and expected a simple wedding, however, since beginning, they started
demanding minimum number of pieces of jewellery for engagement and marriage, then asking me
to buy a new car for marriage then telling me that she can't accommodate herself in the 2 BHK I
had, neither she was willing to live at my parental house. I moved to a rented house, however she
kept insisting for me to buy a bigger house. She had been creating scenes, in demand of Gold
Jhumkas, since long, which my mother fulfilled on last Karwa Chauth, after selling her own bangles.
And this is when, she promised me to not accept jewellery from my parents ever. She wanted a
smart phone as a wedding gift, soon after marriage, she demanded me to buy a smart phone for
her brother (Akashdeep Singh), barely a few months later she stared asking for a better smart
phone for herself again.

The wedding was on shared basis. I wanted a simple court marriage, however, I had to afford the
costs of wedding only to please her relatives and guests, as no one in my family was interested in
attending the wedding after they mistreated us on engagement day at their house in Najibabad.
Due to their behaviour, my parents didn’t even attend my wedding rituals.

After marriage, I realized that she and her sister are alcoholics (she knew, I never preferred
drinking), she knew that I don't have a fixed income however her demands did not stop, including
her demands for me to take her to costly bars and night clubs and costly clothes for her and her
siblings. I kept giving up for all her demands because of my love for her. She made me hire maid for
every household work and would hardly even cook food for us. She is very argumentative and it
mostly ends with she running to her parents’ house or her suicide threats, I once had to put risk my
life to save her, jumping from 4th floor to balcony of the rented house we lived in, when she locked
me in bedroom and threatened to kill herself. I suffered a lot of mental harassment because of her
behaviour. I had to be a mute spectator in everything wrong she would do otherwise, she would
start her suicidal threats.

Due to her behaviour, I called the relationship off, many times before marriage, however, she
would either come back, apologising or act to commit suicide, after which, I would run to doctors to
get her treated. Before marriage, once, even her father and mamaji visited me, to personally
apologise for her behaviour, promising that they would make sure that this would not happen again.

Before running away with jewellery, she blamed of me having physical relations with my sister,
blamed my old friend, who lives in Pune, whom, I last met in 2011, of being pregnant with my
child and me having more than 50 girlfriends, in front of my new neighbours and told them that,
because no one married me till I was 33, she married me out of pity else I would still have been
unmarried. She has taunted me of the age difference many times earlier as well.

Despite of the fact that her family members would keep visiting us very frequently, she would
never like any of my family members or friends to visit us. I used to cook for and take good care of
her family members, spending as much money as I could, to fulfil their demands, however they
would not spare any chance to demean me, treating me as nothing more than a servant and a
driver. She would hardly even make a cup of tea for anyone visiting to see me, rather act very badly
so that no one would have courage to visit again.

We were in a relationship for 1 year before marriage and she knew everything about me, however
soon after marriage, she started complaining to everyone about me being 9 years older. She
started mistreating my pets, due to which one of them died in September 2017. She promised me
to plan a baby early, however after marriage she denied planning for a baby at all.

Her entire family always kept on interfering with our day to day life. Her father kept insulting me
for not being a Dalit, she had issues accepting my last name, taking care of any religious tradition,
me worshiping Hindu Gods, and my family visiting us. They call Goddess Durga, a prostitute. Now
they have falsely started accusing of my family demanding dowry.

If a Vice-Principal can be such a casteist, letting casteism spoil his daughter’s married life, encourage
his daughters be alcoholic and organise planned robbery, I am afraid, what kind of morals and
future, the students under him would have. He already has a probe pending against him and was
transferred from JNV Meerut on disciplinary grounds.

I am also shocked to see, how, even after being highly educated, Upasana is also being such a big
casteist.

I request you to kindly take strong actions and save me and my family members from this
harassment on the name of misusing the laws. I am using my voice for Lacs of innocent men, going
through the same harassment on the name of marriage.

Thanking you in anticipation.

Regards

Himanshu Saxena S/o Mr. Ashok Kumar Saxena

R/o F1, 824, Shalimar Garden, Extension 1, Sahibabad, Ghaziabad.

Phone: 9911789139 eMail: himanshu@cimpl.in

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