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2. Withholding Judgment
One of the biggest turn-offs of religion, especially for teens, is the feeling of being judged. In order to build
a real emotional connection one must withhold judgment. This does not mean that you have to condone
immoral action, or even support it, but you must not let the negative actions of those in your ministry
affect how you see them as a person. It is OK to tell them (and many times you should) that you disagree
with actions that they take, but you must ALWAYS love them. Likewise, affirm good decisions they make-
praise is always more effective then punishment.
4. Servant Leadership
The best leaders lead by example and by service, acquiring authority rather than power. Servant leaders
need the following qualities: listening, empathy, healing, awareness, persuasion, conceptualization,
foresight, stewardship, growth and building community. Those to whom you minister should be able to
recognize in you everything that you want them to be. Servant-leaders achieve results by giving priority
attention to the needs of their colleagues and those they serve. Lead by example, and serve as a humble
steward!
5. Be Fun
Fun people are irresistible to be around. Whether you're with youth, family, friends, coworkers, the sick, or
the marginalized of any form, try to have fun. Even if you yourself are not the source of the fun, when
people see that you are able to loosen up and have fun, they are more likely to open up, trust you, and
make an emotional connection. You may not think yourself the "fun" person, but it's really just an attitude
of being open to new experience and being able to show your positive emotions in public. Give it a try: it
will make a world of difference!
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2. Community
Another mark of a successful relational ministry is that it fosters a sense of community. The people
become united in cause, identity, and purpose. This perpetuates a deeper emotional connection,
gives greater authority to each community member, and begins to mold members according to the
greater values of the community. We have all probably felt the benefits of community.
3. Respect
A fruit of successful ministry is that others will respect you. If you listen to them, serve them, and
have fun with them, it is obvious they will respect you and thus follow your (hopefully) good
example.
4. Trust
This is another obvious one, much like respect. Successful relationships are built on trust, and thus
will grow in trust.
5. Development
The goal of relational ministry, and any ministry for that matter, is spiritual growth and
development, both for others and for yourself. This means that you gain new wisdom,
understanding and knowledge from the relationship, and that you are nourished as well as the
person to whom you minister. Relationships with marginalized people should also result in changed
situations – moving those in poverty out of poverty.
Alabama Poverty Project • 1016 19th Street South • P.O. Box 55058 • Birmingham, AL 35255
205.939.1408 voice • 205.933.7774 fax • www.alabamapossible.org