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For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Buttfucking makes it sound crude
and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In the 1990's, anal sex has been given the
bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes Aids, is most easily transmitted by anal
intercourse.

But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are
curious. And many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and
mysterious.

What is analingus?

One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the
anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people
find touching it to be sexually arousing. Although we haven't mentioned safer sex
yet as part of this series, we will here: the anus and rectum carry many diseases
that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in
your mouth or stomach. Performing anilingus is a very risky behavior for a variety
of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to
protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.

Does anal sex hurt?

Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant
and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling
part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is
one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.

Can anal sex actually give pleasure?

The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty"
appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice
up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the
physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything
else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to
'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can
be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus
can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.

What do I need to have anal sex?

The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are: lubricants,
condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a
greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants
include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug
stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.

Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated
"condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-based lubricants such as vaseline
or baby oil will destroy a condom long before you're done having sex. And many
oil-based sub-stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many
potential infections.

Do I have to use a condom?

Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should
still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can
cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards.

I'm worried that anal sex will be messy.

Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people
can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if
you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.

How do we prepare for anal sex?

Patience is the third and final thing you need to make anal sex possible. Initial
penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex -- the anus is a tight ring of
flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily
waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation.
Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough
to receive your penis.

Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The
dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside
her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the
way out, then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of
activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize
that two fingers is probably enough.

What position should we use for anal sex?

For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women want to
be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their
stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides.
Choose what's best before you start.

As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. People who
like anal sex say that "too much lube is almost enough." Listen to her -- if she tells
you it starts to hurt, back off.

Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus will relax
enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If she is completely
relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside
her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your
time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.

Can I get pregnant from anal sex?

It is not technically possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for
semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.

However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking
from the anus after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of
skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception.
The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as
a method of birth control have babies each year.

What if I don't like it?

You may find that anal sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you
have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good.

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