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-By ARIEL VAGUS

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This guide is for you if:

• If you have trouble turning a conversation

“sexual”, and taking it to the “next level” with the
girls you‟re talking to

• If you come across as too “nice” “safe” or

“friendly” and aren‟t getting a sexual response out
of the girls you‟re interacting with

• If you don‟t know to flirt in a way that keeps a

girl interested… and instead find that girls
continually slip away before you can close the
deal…
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So what are going to learn on this guide?

You‟re going to learn how to make your

conversations “mental foreplay” that turns her on
and gets her thinking about sex with you.
You‟re going to learn a 3 Step Transition to the
„Close‟ that I call “Downshifting to Sex” that will
make it easy to get the kiss, so you don‟t wind up
in the friend zone, or worse spend an hour talking
to her, only to never hear from her again.
You‟re going to learn how to give off a “sexual
vibe” so that women begin choosing you from the
crowd, make themselves easy to talk to, and will
give you noticeable encouragement to get sexual.
And finally, I‟m going to show you how to take all
this information and apply it in the real world to
get MASSIVE results. This is going to be stuff you
can use, Literally, 15 minutes after you finish
reading this guide, you can go out tonight, and
immediately put into action what I‟m going to
show you.
You‟re even going to notice that girl‟s that used to
view you in a platonic way, are going to start
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looking at you more, making excuses to talk to

you, getting jealous when they see you with other
girls, and you‟ll probably notice them doing things
like showing you their private tattoos, feeling your
muscles, putting their hands undershirt, or bending
over so that you can catch glimpses of their
panties or cleavage.
Don‟t say I didn‟t warn you. The reason they‟re
doing this is because without them even knowing
it, your new way of communicating will be stirring
up sexual feelings in them. What you‟re going to
discover is that when women start having these
feelings, it‟s like a switch goes off and she can‟t
help herself.

Women Don’t Make It Easy For You (yet)

Normally, women don‟t make it easy for you. She

rarely gives you in any blatant feedback that she
wants you to make a move, that‟s she‟s wants you
to kiss her, or even if she likes you or she just
thinks of you as a „friendly‟ guy to kill some time
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talking to… And keeping her interested can be

really hard. It‟s almost like the longer you‟re
talking to her, the more you can see the chemistry
just evaporating, and since she‟s not giving you
feedback it feels impossible to suddenly start
touching her, or getting her alone, or doing
anything that lets her know you‟re attracted to her,
and want to kiss her.
In fact, even when I was out on a date with a girl I
couldn‟t really enjoy it, because I had “kiss
anxiety” the whole time… wondering how I was
going to transition into making my move. Now a
little later in this report.
I‟m going to give you my “Chemistry Test”, a
simple move you can use to test whether or not
there is any chemistry between the two of you…
(as simple as it is I‟ve found it to be shockingly
accurate).
Right now you‟re losing girls that you should have
had because you don‟t know how to turn an
interaction sexual, and when you blow it with a
girl; you rarely get a second chance.
The 3 Step Downshifting to Sex System I‟m going
to teach you in this report, is going to fix the
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problem of not knowing if or when you should

make a move. As you‟re flirting with her (not
talking, flirting there is a big difference) she‟s
going to be actively doing things encouraging you
to go for the close, and without even realizing what
she‟s doing, she is going to make it easy for you.
The reason I decided to do this report is because
by far, the sort of questions I get the most of have
to do with this idea of transitioning from „normal‟
conversation and making it a flirtatious, sexual
interaction.

And guys always want to know:

• How do you turn a woman on from the

beginning?
• How do you get her to see you as potential
sexual partner?
• How do you let a girl know that you‟re sexually
interested in her?
• Once you sense she‟s attracted to you what do
you do then?
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• What if you‟re inexperienced or even a virgin and

she starts asking you about your sex life? And I‟m
going to answer all of these questions over this
short guide.

Big Mistakes You’re Probably Making Keeping

Her From Your Bedroom…

There tends to be a few big mistakes that are

pretty common I see guys constantly making with
the women they are with.
The first mistake is this idea of “playing it cool.” I
think this stems from guys hearing advice like
“don‟t seem too interested” or “you‟ve got to be
cocky.”
Shy guys tend to fall into this trap a lot because
they basically use „playing it cool‟ as an excuse to
avoid putting themselves out there and making a
move.
I know, because I used to be very shy and girls
very rarely had any idea that I liked them. This
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was good for my ego because I hardly ever got

rejected. But horrible for my sex life because I
hardly ever got laid.
But there is an even bigger mistakes guys make.
And that mistake is the idea that the longer you
talk to a woman and the more she likes you the
easier it will be to start flirting or getting sexual
with her.
It‟s actually the exact opposite. The longer you‟ve
talked to a woman, or known a woman without
getting sexual, the more you‟re killing your
chances of anything EVER happening.
And in fact, there is actually an opposite
correlation, in which, the more a woman likes you,
the less likely she is to feel sexual attraction
toward you.

The Biggest Reason Guys Wind Up in the

Friend Zone

The biggest reason guys wind up in the friend zone

is because they don‟t want to ruin the rapport they
have with a woman.
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They sense the woman likes them, and they are

afraid if they try anything that the she‟ll think they
are just another jerk trying to get her in pants.
(Which you actually are)
So you‟re much better off being honest about it
from the beginning. Because the fact is, a woman
decides extremely quickly if you‟re a potential
lover, a potential boyfriend, a potential friend, or
just an annoying guy she doesn‟t want to be
talking to.
And most guys present themselves as potential
boyfriend.

And they do things like:

1. Trying too hard to find things they have in
common.
2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job,
like to travel, and other “boyfriend” traits.
3. Taking her side when she bad mouthed players,
and act like you‟re totally the opposite of those
„jerks.„
4. Respecting her too much to make a move.
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5. Listening to all her problems and trying to solve

them for her...
But there is a gigantic flaw in this. Why? Because it
DOES NOT create attraction in a woman.
None of the things I just listed create one ounce of
sexual attraction. Even if it makes her think “he
would make a great boyfriend...” You still lose.
Because once a girl thinks THAT she begins
displaying her “good girlfriend” qualities that are
just as “boring” and “un-sexual“ as your boyfriend
qualities.
Not only that, but you build up too much comfort
with her, and drastically eliminate any urgency for
sex. And, most likely wind up in the friend zone.
Ok.
So can we all agree right now that it‟s better to go
sexual right from the beginning? Now that you
know this, when are you going to start doing it?
Now if you‟re thinking that it‟s not your
personality, its outside of your comfort zone, feels
unnatural to you, don‟t worry.
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The 3 step system I‟m going to be going over

makes it super simple.

You Never Get a Second Chance to Make a

First Impression
If one I‟m about to go over seem foreign to you, or
you find it a little hard to believe, don‟t worry
about.
It‟s not your fault that you‟re struggling with this.
Movies, television, 90% of the relationship books
out there, and most of your friends you‟re
unconsciously modeling and getting advice from;
they all have it wrong.
And if you‟re not careful, it is really easy to mess
this up. There is a saying that you never get a
second chance to make a first impression….
This is completely true in the world of dating and
relationships. A few years back, before I really
figured this out, I was working with this girl
Candice. She had that total „girl next store‟
cuteness to her.
The kind of girl everyone in the place had a crush
on. Well, we clicked almost instantly.
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And we had that sort of „vibe‟ going on. You know

that important „you and me‟ vibe. Same sense of
humor. Everything just gelled.
At work, we‟d both try to play it cool, but soon
enough we‟d be standing together talking. When
we weren‟t talking I would catch her looking at me.
And was pretty confident she liked me.
This was right around Christmas time and I knew
our job was having a Christmas Party in a few
weeks, so I figured I would make my move then. I
figured she obvious liked me, so it was in the bag.
Well, as expected the entire Christmas Party we
hung together talking.
Then a bunch of us went out to a bar afterwards,
and me and Candice once again gravitated towards
each other. And I kept telling myself “I‟ll make my
move a little later in the night when we‟re a little
drunker, when we‟re alone, when it seems more
appropriate.” So after the bar closes, I invite some
people back to my apartment for an after party
and Candice and two of my guy friends come. And
we‟re all hanging out and having a good time.
Finally my two guy friends sense that they should
probably leave me alone with Candice.
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So they leave. And now, it‟s me and Candice,

completely alone in my apartment, and we‟re
talking and laughing, and remembering funny
stories that happened throughout the night.
And the entire time in my mind I‟m thinking „how
can I just change the subject or get her to stop
talking long enough to kiss her.‟
I was sitting on the couch just wanting to touch
her, letting my hand rub up against hers, but all
the while, I just couldn‟t steer the conversation
away from talking about our co-workers and
getting it focused on the two of us.
And soon 2am turned into 3am turned into 4am.
Until finally she said she “Well, I should be
leaving.” Well, the next time I hung out with
Candice it was more of the same thing, talking,
laughing, and really strong rapport.
Yet, every time we hung out it ended with me
talking myself into believing next time I would
make my move. Things went on like for close for a
few months until I couldn‟t take it any longer and
sent her a text message saying “I think I‟m
attracted to you.”
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The next day I got the “Let‟s just be friends”

speech. And the reason I tell you this story is
because, at that point in my life I had a couple of
girlfriends, and I was good enough at flirting that
people assumed I was good with women, but I
held this deep dark secret; I COULD NOT CLOSE
THE DEAL.
A few years later after figuring all of this out, a
bunch of my friends went on a ski trip together
and Candice came. I used the 3 step system I‟m
going to be going over, and we spent the whole
weekend hooking up. But by then it was just too
late for anything to really come of it.
But it just sort of reinforced how all those years
back, she didn‟t put me in the friend zone. I put
myself in the friend zone by the way I acted.
I want you to think back about a girl where you
wound up in the friend zone; did she really put you
there? Or did you put yourself there by the way
you acted? Don‟t beat yourself about it; you didn‟t
know any better back then. And what I‟m about to
teach you will prevent this from happening to you
again.
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Crafting a Sexualized Persona

So what I‟m going to show you is how to make

sure you begin building sexual tension right from
the beginning of the conversation. And more
importantly, how to take that sexual tension and
transition it into closing the deal and getting her
back to your bedroom so that you don‟t make the
same mistake I made.
This is also going to help you avoid awkward
silences and running out of things to say, as its
going to give you a clear blueprint for moving
forward to make sure that you‟re able to close the
deal and set up to dates.
And make sure that the girl‟s show up, and that
the date ends with you hooking up with her, and
not with a hug or a handshake. And the reason
you‟re going to notice all these girls sort of
changing their opinion on you is because of the
first thing I‟m about to teach you right now. This is
the idea of creating a Sexualized Persona.
The major idea you want to really keep in your
mind is that women want to have sex, but they
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don‟t want the responsibility for making it happen.

So women seek out guys they believe can make it
happen.
I repeat: Women seek out guys they believe can
make it happen. This is why the same guys
continue to get laid over and over and again. This
is why that guy you can‟t figure out he gets chicks
continues to have sex week after week, and will
probably continue stealing all the girls you want,
unless you figure this out.
Women need to believe that you‟re capable of
closing the deal, and not letting things get
awkward along the way. This means not putting
any of the responsibility on her. It means showing
her that you‟re comfortable with sex, and you‟re
not all of the sudden going to get weird about it.
Women pick up on all these things within a few
minutes of talking to you. So you want to ask
yourself is right now; am I that guy? Or are their
changes I need to make? The good news is that
these changes aren‟t nearly as hard as you think.
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“The Sexy Handshake”

Here‟s a tip you can use to quickly show a woman

that you‟re the kind of kind who is capable of
making it happen. The next time you‟re introduced
to a girl and you shake her hand, hold it for a few
seconds longer than normal. Let her be the first to
pull away.
With that one move, your subtly sending the signal
to a woman that you can make it happen. Try it
tonight.
Your first reaction is to feel a little uncomfortable
doing, but trust me it will send a very specific
message to the woman.
Over the past 7 years I made it my mission to
figure this out. That incident with Candice brought
me to a boiling point where I just couldn‟t take it
anymore.
I spent thousands of dollars going out almost
every night with some of the best pickup artists in
the world.
I attended workshops and seminars, read
hundreds of books on dating, sex, and phycology.
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And then I tested everything I was learning on

girls I was meeting off of online dating sites,
through my social circle, at bars and clubs, and my
personal favorite, young professional networking
events. And it was through years of trial and error,
keeping what worked, eliminated what didn‟t that I
was able to condense it down to this simple 3 step
system.

3 Steps to Sex System

I know you guys want to get into it. So let‟s talk
about the system. This system that I‟m about
show you will reveal: -A simple trick to for taking a
normal, „platonic‟ conversation and bring it to a
sexual level, in a natural, discreet way. - How to
verbalize your desire for her, without seeming
creepy, try hard, or losing any value or giving
away your power.
I‟m even going to give you one of my favorite
“moves” for doing all of this without saying a word;
I call it the “Toying Gaze.” - You‟re also going to
learn Specific techniques for bringing out a
woman‟s wild side.
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The reason I put together a 3 step system is

because if you don‟t have a blueprint, it‟s easy to
get swept away in the confusion of a conversation,
and the next thing you know the two of you are
smack in the middle of a boring, sexless
conversation about your jobs or politics, and you
have no idea how to get back on track.

Downshifting to Sex

I call this system “Downshifting to Sex” because

what I noticed is that you there are actually
different „gears‟ you can be in with a woman. And
it‟s very similar to being in different gears when
driving a car.
If you‟ve ever driven stick shift you know that you
can‟t jump from 1st to the 4th gear without going
through 2nd and 3rd; you‟ll stall out, because you
never created the necessary RPMs to sustain that
kind of gear change. Well it‟s the same thing when
you‟re dealing with women.
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And where most guys mess up is that they spend

an entire night with her in the first gear… (Which is
the realm of „nice guy‟) and then the end of the
night comes and suddenly they want to jump into
the fast lane, but realize it‟s now impossible to
change gears; it‟s too much too late. What this
system does is it makes each transition smooth.
So that you don‟t mess up all the progress you
already made. This is the single biggest reason
guys can‟t get out of the friend zone with a girl.
They talk all friendly with a girl for months or even
years, and when they can‟t take it anymore they
confess their feelings expecting the girl to feel the
same way. And as I learned with Candice; that just
doesn‟t work. And it all starts with :

Step 1: The Rated R Switch

If you‟re losing girls chances are it‟s because she

doesn‟t feel a sexual connection to you, she
doesn‟t feel sexual around you, and she‟s looking
for a guy who brings this side out of her, who gets
her aroused and makes her horny. The Rated R
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Switch. This is how you let her know it‟s okay to let
a little of her wild side out. Unleashing this „wild
side‟ is the first step to closing the deal, and
getting her back to your bedroom. You need to
take the conversation to a Rated R territory. You
need to be having the sort of conversation that a
parent wouldn‟t feel comfortable if their child was
listening.
There is just something more edgy, real, and
exciting about Rated Yet, most of us turn into the
poster boy for rated PG once we get around a
woman. It‟s like we‟re afraid of saying anything
that might remotely offend her, or worse, let her
know we‟re actually a guy who likes sex.
So instead we talk about safe, neutral, and PG
topics. Have you sat through a PG movie lately?
They are boring and predictable, and not the least
bit sexual.
So the first mental reframe you need to make is to
stop worrying that you might say something that
will offend a girl. Here‟s a secret…
Girls LOVE locker room talk.
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They love the dirt, gossip, and honesty of locker

room talk. Back in college my girlfriend at the time
was in a sorority. I used to hang out and sleep
over a lot at the sorority house she lived in with
eleven other girls.
And since I was there so often they sort of let their
guard down around me and forgot that I was
there. And as I would sit listening to them you
know what I heard?
Locker room talk. It was the same EXACT kind of
conversation I was having with my friends back at
the frat house. Gossip about who was hooking up
with who, which guys they thought would be good
in bed, which guys are creepy and stalkerish, and
expressing their frustrations over guys that were
too much of a pussy to make a move.
So how do you bring the conversation to “locker
room talk “or Rated R?
I actually have a handful of techniques to do this
and different guys feel a different level of comfort
with each of them.
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But here‟s an easy one to get started with: Make

an R-Rated observation about something going on
around you. So here‟s an example. Say you‟re at a
bar, and there is an older couple sitting close by, a
man and woman.
You could say something like “That couple over
there just gives off a swingers vibe. Like I can
totally picture them at one of those swanky 70s
parties where all the couple put their keys in a fish
bowl and swap out husbands and wives based on
what key you pull at the end of the night.
So you get that vibe from them or is it just me?”
See, what you did, was you jokingly used your
situation as a way to introduce a sexualized topic
like “swinging” in an innocent way. You just
officially shifted out of first gear and into second.
Now what I like to do is then quickly throw a little
fishing line to test the water, and say something
like, “Now that I think about it you kind of give off
that swanky swinger vibe too.”
And then I‟ll laugh and quickly change the subject
and see if she attempts to bring it back up. If she
does, maybe I‟ll begin to tease her a bit about
being a swinger, or get into how it‟s always the
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seemingly innocent ones that wind up being the

kinkiest. And imply that I think she has a “kinky”
side. If she doesn‟t bite I‟ll wait a few minutes, and
then downshift again using one of my other
techniques.
Every girl I‟ve ever dated, even the shy innocent
ones, when you let them open up a little bit, guess
what they love talking about; locker room talk. Not
only do girls love talking about it, but when you
take the conversation to rated R, you immediately
distinguish and differentiate yourself from the
hundreds of other guys who spend the entire time
talking to her in safe mode.
And she finds it refreshing to talk to you, and will
want to keep talking to you. You show her that
you‟re comfortable with sex, which helps her view
you as the kind of guy who can „make it happen‟
without things getting weird or awkward.
And most importantly; you set up an atmosphere
where a seduction can take place, where she starts
thinking about sex, and you can get the kiss and
get her back to your place. So how else do you
turn the conversation to Rated R? Rated R is about
the subject matter and the way you flirt with them.
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And it can be something as simple as changing

your vocabulary and the words you use. She‟s not
being bad; she‟s being naughty. You‟re not gonna
hit her; you‟re gonna spank .
If she‟s teasing you, “don‟t make me take the belt
off.” It‟s not a basement it‟s a dungeon. Even
certain words, and the way you describe things can
flip the Rated R switch.
This is particularly effective when teasing her or
making observations about her. She has Lusty
eyes. She looks Hot and bothered.
Here are some other words with sexual
undertones: Urges Thongs G strings Stilettos
Panties Fetish Vibrator (not Dildo, that‟s x-rated)
Swingers Gag reflex KY Wet Sloppy seconds
Cougar Whips and chains Kinky Spooning Cyber
sex.
These are all rated R words. It‟s these sorts of
words with sexual connotations you want to use in
this stage. You‟re not using any of the X rated
words. Those are for later. And the fun thing to do
is since most of these words are double Rated R, is
about the subject matter and the way you flirt with
them…
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It‟s these sorts of words with sexual connotations

you want to use in this stage… You‟re not using
any of the X rated words… This is the sort of
conversation you want to establish in first gear.
Now this doesn‟t mean you dwell on these things
the entire time like a horny 13 year old.
You just establish that these are the rules of the
conversation, and that it‟s ok to go there, so that
later when you begin to escalate the flirtation it
won‟t come as surprise. Once you have taken the
conversation to Rated R you must move on to the
next step.

Step 2: Express your Sexual Aim

A little earlier I told you a story about my co-

worker Candice, who even though we had an
amazing connection I still couldn‟t transition to a
kiss, and I wound up in the friend zone.
You see that first night that I hung out with her; I
skipped a very crucial step. I never expressed my
sexual aim. Back then I had just begun studying
pickup and I was obsessed with not being the „nice
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guy‟ who buys her drinks, who is complimenting

her, or being too „agreeable.‟ And as I began to
see the reaction I was getting from girls like
Candice change towards a more positive vibe, I
began to think the secret to attracting women was
to appear completely disinterested in her sexually.

But I noticed a few things about the way women

were beginning to act towards me:

1. Although women no longer viewed me as a „nice

guy‟ who they could control and manipulate, they
still weren‟t sexually attracted to me.

2. Most women were NOT as confident as I initially

thought. Instead of being drawn to the „total
challenge‟ I presented myself as, they just gave up
and moved on.

3. Hiding the fact that I was sexually attracted to a

woman often just made her view me as „asexual‟
or worse, a closeted gay.
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And that‟s what happened with Candice. Midway

through the night, as we continued to laugh and
joke together, she had probably already begun
suspecting that I was not the kind of guy who
could make it happen.
Sure, I was a fun guy she loved hanging out and
talking to, but probably just assumed that I‟m not
that sexual of a guy. I used to struggle with this
for a long time.
It seemed that no matter what I tried, I couldn‟t
find that right balance between „nice guy‟ and
„asexual guy.‟
Then one day I was hanging out with my friend
Steve Weed, a guy who was a natural with women.
Up until recently, I was dumbfounded as to how he
got chicks when he displayed obvious „nice guy‟
tendencies like complimenting women and
telegraphing interest.
But since I was in a bit of a dry spell recently with
women, instead of critiquing his „nice guy‟
behavior, I decided to really pay attention and try
to see if I could figure out why it was working for
him.
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As it turned out, while one minute I was watching

Steve shamefully admit to a woman that she was
„turning him on,‟ the next minute Steve was flirting
with one of her friends and all but ignoring her.
This seemed to have the woman‟s attention glued
on Steve.
As I continued to watch Steve I noticed how he
would verbally express strong desire towards the
woman, but at the same time gave off an
impression that if she walked away his night would
not be the slightest bit ruined.
In fact, he‟d probably have another girl within
minutes. At one point, Steve actually began telling
the girl what he was going to do to her later „in the
bedroom.‟
Yet, a few seconds after saying this to her he
turned to me and asked me if I wanted to play a
game of billiards with him. As we shot pool, the
woman basically sat in the corner and stared at
him the entire time. As I started to put the pieces
of the puzzle together I realized that it‟s NOT
about completely hiding your desire and
pretending to be indifferent to her.
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It‟s about expressing your desire for her, but really

being indifferent towards the outcome. What I
mean by this is that the woman Steve was flirting
with that night in the bar knew that he found her
sexually attractive, but she also got the impression
that Steve was so used to be getting with women
he found sexually attractive, that if she
disappeared he would hardly notice she was gone.
In the past I had always been so focused on
expressing disinterest that I completely failed to
get her interested in me in the first place. There
could be no „chase‟ if the woman isn‟t chasing you.
You are not a “challenge” if the woman isn‟t intent
on getting you.
In fact, it is your initial interest that makes a
woman notice you. But it‟s how YOU RESPOND
when she reciprocates that interest that either
ignites the chase or makes her think: „I guess I
was wrong about him… and he is hungry for my
approval.‟
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“The Off Hand Sexual Compliment”

I have a simple exercise that I‟d like you to try

next time you‟re out: As you‟re talking to a woman
and starting to sense some sort of flirtation or
connection taking place, use a strong statement of
desire for her.
An easy way to do this is after she says something
funny, you can look at her and say, “Now I‟m
really intrigued. You‟re funny and incredibly sexy.
You don‟t find that too often.” After you say this to
the woman, go back to acting normal. Almost as if
you never said it.
In fact, if her friends are around begin chatting and
flirting a bit with them. Don‟t ignore her
completely, but just enough to ignite the chase.
What you‟re going to find is that by putting that
statement of desire out there, it greatly increases
the amount of natural tension between you. And
tension is known to amplify attraction. And that‟s
why expressing your sexual aim is so important.
You‟re letting her know that you intend to make it
happen, and that you‟re not going to be satisfied
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with a hug or a handshake, and you‟re certainly

not looking to be „just be friends. And you‟re
preparing her that you‟re going to make your move
so that it doesn‟t come as a shock later on.
One of the added benefits is that when women see
you as the kind of guy who can make it happen,
they begin to do things that make it easier for you.
It‟s like once it‟s out in the open, then she doesn‟t
have to play Miss Prude later, and you don‟t have
that trouble getting the kiss and closing the deal.
Now it is important that you express your sexual
aim after you‟ve created some attraction.
And you‟ve got to make sure you do it before you
build too much rapport, or get stuck in a
conversation that doesn‟t allow it. If you walk up to
a woman and start the conversation by telling her
that she has an amazing ass; you probably won‟t
get very far because you haven‟t created any
attraction yet.
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“The Toying Gaze”

But, if you‟ve been talking to a woman for a bit,

and sense some attraction, as she‟s talking, you
sort of lean back, and casually as your listening to
her, check out her ass, do it in a slightly
exaggerated way, letting her notice what you‟re
doing.
I call it the “Toying Gaze” because you‟re basically
letting a woman catch you checking her out. But at
the same time, your intently listening to
everything she is saying. Women find it really
playful, and at the same time, the message is
sent; I find you sexually attractive. That‟s
expressing sexual intent.

“The Chemistry Test”

Now, earlier I promised to give you a chemistry

test to judge a woman‟s attraction to you.
Something very simple that I like to do is that as
I‟m talking to a girl, I wait for her to say
something I agree with, and then I gently give her
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a high five. When our hands touch, I let my hand

linger, and I see how she reacts. If there is
chemistry she will almost always let her hand
linger there for a second too.
If she pulls her hand back right away, it means you
probably haven‟t created enough attraction. Next
time you‟re talking to a girl I want you to try it. It‟s
simple and discreet, and at the same times, tells
you so much.
So for now, just remember, that if you want to
take the conversation to a sexual level so that you
can avoid the friend zone and get physical with
her, you must express your sexual aim.
A few months after the incident with Candice I was
introduced to a girl named Valerie. Our date began
innocently enough getting to know each other over
drinks, but less than three hours later, we were in
the basement of her house, and she was
completely naked spread out on top of her pool
table, inviting me to join her. How did it happen so
quickly? That brings us to the next step.
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Step 3: Escalate the Flirtation

This really is the meat and potatoes of the system.

My experience with Valerie was not out of the
ordinary. When you begin using this stuff you‟re
going to find: Seemingly innocent girls will start
telling you what they like in bed, she‟ll be making
sexual jokes, and she‟ll ask you what you‟re doing
later. She‟s going to go out of way encouraging
you to go for the close.
You‟re not going to be left wondering what she‟s
thinking, or whether or not you should go for it.
She is going to make it impossible for you not to
close the deal, and get her back to your bedroom.
She will beg you to bang her. Let‟s go back to the
idea of “changing gears.”
Earlier I talked about how if you try to change
gears too quickly you will stall out. Well, if you‟ve
driven a stick shift car, you know there is an even
more dangerous problem; staying in the same
gear too long. Just like you can ruin a car‟s
transmission if you continue driving in first gear
the whole time, if the attraction revs up too high in
one gear and you don‟t shift you can blow it up.
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This is why you probably noticed at time a girl

seemed really into you, and then her interest
quickly faded. Maybe it was a girl at a bar who you
were really vibing with, but then she just sort of
went back to her friends and forgot about you.
Or worse, maybe it was a girl you went on a date
with, thought things were going well, and then she
starts becoming unavailable to hang out, until
finally she just stops answering your calls at all.
You need to be continually taking the interaction
to the next level, never letting it plateau. And how
do you do this?

“Sexualized Flirting”

With a new way of communicating with women I

call “Sexualized Flirting.” And the word “seuxalized‟
is very important. Because what I learned over the
years is that without adding a strong dose of
sexuality to your flirting- you can actually get
caught in the trap of becoming that flirty guy that
girls don‟t take seriously. It will be like they laugh,
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but in the back of their mind you‟re still just a safe,

nice guy they could never imagine sleeping with.
So there are some big differences with sexualized
flirting.

And with this specific type of flirting you begin to:

Introduce sexual themes into the conversation You
use stories as a way to „innocently‟ transition to
talking about sex, and getting her thinking about
sex.
You use „playful games‟ to get her opening up her
desires and her fantasies, and you get her feeling
comfortable experiencing these emotions around
you.
You tease her in a specific sort of way that has
sexual undercurrents, and even though she knows
you‟re only teasing her, there is an element of
danger and excitement to the conversation that
unconsciously begins to turn her on.
You are very aware of sexual tension, and you are
able to control it and manipulate it, leading to
quicker intimacy Even if you‟re goal isn‟t to try to
sleep with a woman the first night, this type of
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flirting ensures that you get the kiss, and that you
position yourself in her mind as a guy she is going
to sleep with, and not a guy that she wants to be
friends with.
Here is an example of a conversation shifting
gears: (The both of you have been lightly flirting
and everything is being said playfully)

You: I can‟t believe you like Lady Gaga. She‟s so

weird.

Her: Shut up. You‟re probably a closet Lady Gaga

fan. I can imagine you sitting home alone, with
your Ipod, listening to Lady Gaga singing out loud.
hahaha

You: You better watch out or you‟re going to get

spanked little girl.

Her: Oh, did I embarrass you…haha?

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You: We are totally having a pillow fight later… And

I‟m not gonna go light on you just because you‟re
a girl.

Her: I‟ll totally beat you in a pillow fight.

You: I‟m like the world champion of pillow fighting.

I have to warn you I‟m also known to be merciless
at tickle wars. So if you start to get naughty you‟ll
feel my wrath.
Ok.
Did you notice how I shifted gears into a more
sexual frame?
The conversation started with Lady Gaga, but by
the end of it we were talking about rolling around
her bed tickling each other and acting “naughty”.
(Something friends don‟t do) So that would be like
shifting from second to third gear. Now let me give
you an example of how you can shift from third
gear into fourth gear.
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Remember, you need to keep shifting gears,

because if the attraction revs up too high in one
gear and you don‟t shift gears you can blow it up.

Her: Don‟t even think about it. I hate being tickled.

You: (holding out your pinky) I pinky swear that

unless you‟re acting really really naughty, I
promise not to tickle you (As soon as you let go off
her pinky… tickle her)

Her: (smiling and laughing) I hate you. That was

so mean.

You: You know what? I didn‟t notice it before but

you‟ve got a really sexy smile.

Ok, did you see how you once again shifted gears?
You went from joking around about tickling to
actually getting a little physical and first getting
her hand in yours for a “pinky swear” and then
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tickling her. But more importantly, at the end you

said “You‟ve got a really sexy smile.” What is so
important about that last line is that it leaves no
room for misinterpretations.
It just totally lets her know that the two of you
have just been flirting, and that you find her
sexually attractive. And you prevented any
possible „friend zone‟ type objections that could
come up later on.
And here is a secret for you; women WANT YOU to
find them sexually attracted. I‟ve dated and slept
with quite a few girls, and you know what
compliment turned them on more than anything?
Which one they would repeat back to me, telling
me how much it turned them on?
Which comment in bed they would BEG me to say
again? It wasn‟t “You‟re so beautiful.” It wasn‟t “I
love your eyes.” It was “Your So Fucking Sexy…”
A beautiful girl knows she‟s beautiful. But she
doesn‟t know if she‟s sexy. And when you can
make a girl feel sexy, you really unleash a wild
side of her.
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I had a co-worker, in the middle of a shift, take my

hand, and put it down her panties so I could feel
how wet she was. This was a girl I hadn‟t even
kissed yet. I had another girl, in the middle of a
party, follow me into the bathroom and let me
shave her pubic hair off because I told her that‟s
how I liked it.
After spending a day sending this chick dirty email
back and forth she showed up at my house with a
long trench coach on, and nothing underneath, and
told me I had to be quick because her boyfriend
was at home waiting for her. There is no limit to
what women will do when you‟re able to unleash
this side of them.

Do you now agree it‟s better to go sexual right

from the beginning? I hope you‟re nodding your
head yes, cause if not, you‟re playing a dangerous
game with the friend zone. Can we agree that you
must express your sexual aim to a girl? And I think
you will agree that it is crucial that you get that
first kiss quickly?
My first night out with Candice I didn‟t get the kiss,
and it took me almost four years later to finally
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shake the “friend vibe” and get it. The first step to
getting that kiss is taking the conversation to rated
R level. If you paid attention than I think you see
how by using the right words, topics, stories, it is
actually pretty easy to take the conversation
sexual.
And if you‟re not already using this stuff, you‟re
missing out big time, and probably losing girl‟s
interest to guys who are. You should also be
convinced that you need to be constantly shifting
gears with women and using “sexualized flirting” to
keep the sexual tension alive.
Like I said earlier if there ever was a girl you went
on a date with, thought things were going well,
and then she starts becoming unavailable to hang
out and she stops answering your calls you didn‟t
do a good job of keeping the sexual tension alive.
Because the fact is, once you get a woman
thinking about having sex with you, and get her
imaging it, and letting that tension linger, It‟s
gonna happen.
Valerie spread herself out on a pool table, with her
parents sleeping in the other room like 20 feet
away. My friend Jake, who I learned a lot of this
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from, he‟s got an IPhone full of pictures of naked

girls. These are just ordinary girls that he meets
out, or works with, but he does such a good job of
setting himself up as a sexual guy that these girls
are sending him naked pictures of themselves and
telling him how they can‟t wait to see him.
And luckily I spent enough time watching him that
I was able to drill down on what he was doing…

8 Point Seduction Guide

Here is the thing; if you‟ve got a woman attracted

to you (which I assume you do) but then you don‟t
move it forward toward a seduction, she will lose
interest in you sexually… quick. Once you‟ve got
that attraction formed, you must bring it to a
seductive level. I just gave you the three steps
towards taking it to the “seductive level.” Now let‟s
talk about exactly how to close the deal with her.
And here is how to do it.

1. Slow Down: Once you sense that you have a

good vibe you need to slow everything down.
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Speak slower, make slower movements, just take

a breath and slow the back and forth banter down
a bit.

2. Allow Tension to Build: What you‟re doing is you

are allowing some sexual tension to build up.
Whenever a man and woman are close by each
other and silence occurs- some tension develops.
Most of us, are always trying to diffuse that
tension with more jokes, more flirting, or more
stories. You need to learn to enjoy the tension and
use it to your benefit.

3. Lingering Hi Five: One way I personally do this

is after a woman says something that I like; I put
my hand up to give her a high five. When she slaps
my hand high five, I sort of grip her hand a bit,
and let our hands linger together. This will amplify
the sexual tension.

4. Create Physical Connection: Next you need to

create some sort of physical connection. Once
again, the best way to do this is through your
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hands. Take her by the hand and lead her

somewhere.

5. Get closer to her. Allow the sexual tension to

build up by getting closer to her, whether its by
sitting closer to her, standing closer to her, or
leaning in closer as you talk.

6. Be neutral through all of this. Drop the jokes,

the flirting, and sort of become a little more vague.
Look her in the eyes. Exude your sexual power. Let
her know that you know full well that you‟re the
more dominant sexual creature.

7. Kiss her.

8. Progress towards sex. NEVER make up her mind

for her. NEVER assume she doesn‟t want sex or
further intimacy. Always respect her if she tells you
no. But always keep trying until you get the „no.‟
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Ok, here is the thing. You are responsible for

creating that sexual desire in her. AND YES, it can
be created.

Everything I just suggested up there- triggers

sexual attraction. This is why, maybe at some
point you‟ve become sexually attracted to a girl
you didn‟t really like or find physically attractive.
It‟s because the two of you moved unknowingly
into ‟seduction mode‟. Remember, attraction isn‟t a
choice.
If you do what I suggested above (assuming that
you are doing a good job of being flirtatious then
the woman won‟t be able to help but feel sexually
attracted to you.
Moving Forward what you‟re going to find a few
months after learning this is that you‟re going to
feel really relaxed talking to women and any
anxiety you used to feel to approach them is going
to be gone, because the anxiety really comes from
fear of not knowing what to do – or how to keep
her from getting bored.
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That won‟t be a problem anymore, so you‟re going

to be naturally opening more women and feel in
total control, in fact, you‟ll probably be the one
turning girls down. You will also notice that some
girls who used to blow you off or flake on you
suddenly begin making themselves available,
messaging you on Facebook, or even sending you
random texts. ***
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