Evan Brugger

May 6

January 22, 2019

A Bettering

Happiness is a foundational element to living, something that most take for

granted and what I would consider to be a need. Friendship is a foundational element to

living, something people abuse, loose track of the meaning behind it, and what I would

consider a need. Dreams are something we compile, stars we find, like, and ultimately

shoot for. I believe in a bettering. A bettering in the foundational aspects of what make

life meaningful, fun, enjoyable and truly interesting.

I have come to realize that people, humans, are some of the most illogical

thinkers. As a society many of us have a attractive aspect towards sympathy. In this

way it is true, that it is easier to have a three hour conversation about how your life is

over and you’ve hit rock bottom, then it would be to have the same three hour

conversation about how we are living life in the clouds, soaring amongst the stars.

This also plays into friendships, however I don’t find this to be a positive attribute.

I have seen someone walk down the street and stop to help a homeless person, the

same person who seven minutes prior denied the presence of his best friend. Someone

he had known since age four, treated as though he was non-existent because of a

misunderstanding about a girl they were both interested in. Regardless of the situation

this is something our society has wickedly twisted. Friendships have become
relationships that exist on one-way streets. We often take friends for granted, not

treating them with the same respect we expect in return, ultimately using them for our

personal benefit rather than contributing back. People who rescue you when times are

rough, but are there with equal care and attention when everything is perfect.

I consider my friends to be my heros, not a comical figure from DC and Marvel.

A hero to me is someone who won’t come and save the day in the nick of time, or

rescue me from an already dangerous or sticky situation. A hero is a true friend. . .

someone who will tell me what I need to hear to keep me from any of those situations.

Stopping me before it even happens. These are the people that push you, the people

that care for you and help you shoot for your dreams, help you soar, make you happy,

and better you.

If you “define dream” on Google some of the responses you get are: “​an

unrealistic or self-deluding fantasy” “indulge in daydreams or fantasies about something

greatly desired.” I disagree with these definitions. The use of the word fantasy is

grammatically correct, but fantasies are fictional, not true and very unlikely. This is a

negative thought process, one that instills doubt. If you doubt, how do you look forward?

How do you shoot for these dreams? If you never take a step you’ll never run. If you

don’t run you won't leap, and you won't soar. I believe in believing in yourself, and

believing in something new, dreaming big. I believe​ in a bettering. . . in happiness,

friendship and living life by the only the boundaries of your dreams.