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The good life is a happy life, and our happiness helps to promote
happiness in others. Doing only what is good for us, without
considering the common good, could lead to greed, insensitivity, and
excess. Excess is always bad. The good life is a life of active virtue, of
real
personal excellence, where the choices we make are not only good for
us
but also enhance other people’s sense of pleasure and well-being.
In your choices, try to aim for the moderate position that is reasonable
and compassionate both toward others and yourself. Any action we
take
should be one that is good—good for us, for the nourishing of our
inner
life and our soul, and good for our extended family, our neighbors, our
business relationships, our community, and our planet home. The real
excellence of the good life is found in the center, not in the extremes
of
too much or too little. Here, all of our needs are met, as well as our
desires
that are good for us.
Over the past several years, as I’ve studied the principal elements
that
make for a good life, I’ve tried to be a keen observer of people’s
behavior.
I’ve read and heard about brazen, fl agrant, insolent acts of excess.
Many
people are out of control. Enough to many is clearly not enough.
They’ve
reached the point where any potential good becomes bad—
dangerous,
dishonest, or greedy to the point of decadence. Some people have lost
all
caring and sensitivity to the needs and desires of others. I call this
“extreme
and one person is on his cell phone, the other person eats alone and
sits
there, ignored. EE.
Another excess is television viewing. This technology was going
to bring us such happiness. The world would come into our family
room. George Gerbner, a researcher who studied violence on
television,
identified a “mean world syndrome,” a phenomenon in which people
who watch large amounts of television are more likely to believe that
the world is an unforgiving and frightening place. What has happened
is EE, where people, on average, watch twenty-four hours of television
a
week. It’s mindless. You sit there passively, allowing the brain to
stagnate.
Everything is done for you. The brain needs to be used or we lose it.
Not only does excessive television viewing restrict proper stimulation
of the brain and expose us to violence, but studies show that
television
advertising has a negative impact on one’s happiness because it
makes us
feel we need things we previously didn’t need or want.
The overall effect of television in programming as well as advertising
is to make us want more. The great paradox is that this wonder box
actually creates discontent: we’re less happy with our bodies when
skinny
young models flaunt their bodies on the screen. Our spouses are less
happy
with us. We are less happy with our possessions. We think the Joneses
are
happier and wealthier, smarter, younger, and prettier than they really
are.
Television affects our behavior. The brilliant English economist Richard
Layard wrote in an insightful book, Happiness: Lessons from a New
Science,
that for every extra hour of television we watch, we spend an extra
four
dollars, give or take a few cents. This is as serious as a gambling
addiction
when you multiply hours and dollars per week, per month, per year.
EE.
Layard cites the latest scientific studies, and he believes that
television
increases peer pressure. Children are the most impressionable viewers
of advertising who “want what their friends have, need the same
things
in order to keep up.” He is glad that Sweden has banned commercial
advertising directed at children under the age of twelve and he hopes
other countries will do this also. Layard suggests we cut down on
reading
refuge, but it doesn’t have to be large. Excess takes away our freedom
and
we become bogged down.
The fewer our material desires, the more freedom we have to live
well, to grow in wisdom and understanding. We own our self, not what
we possess. When we reduce our attachments, as the Buddha teaches
us, we end our suffering. Dwell on what you have, not what you lack.
Choose the best quality over the greatest quantity. Consider giving
away
or selling off some of your stuff. How much of it do you actually use?
Less
is more, as the architect Mies van der Rohe believed. Best is what is
good,
what is moderate, what is in the center, not the extremes.
Think of Michelangelo, who was happiest when he had a chisel in his
hand. “The idea is there, locked inside, and all you have to do is
remove
the excess stone.” Chip away, take away. As you read the newspaper
ads,
look for EE. Think of Shakespeare, who understood about EE: “To gild
refined gold, to paint the lily, to throw a perfume on the violet, to
smooth
the ice, or add another hue unto the rainbow, or with taper-light to
seek the
beauteous eye of heaven to garnish, is wasteful and ridiculous
excess.”
Enough is enough. We should eat only three meals a day. Some people
are excessive about possessing shoes. You’ll never be poor when you
know
when enough is enough. By being satisfied with less, we’re spiritually
wealthy.
Extreme Excess syndrome is not good for our society or for us. When
we accept enough is truly enough, the center will hold.