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Buan Arbie V.
Cuenco Mark Brayan A.
Manalo Kristoper
Guanlao Margot C.
Quiambao Al Robert
Sazon Ian Marco V.
Sarmiento Joy Mary V.
Sangalang Vince N.
Suing Zsara M.
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Same-sex marriage is defined as a union between two people who are of the same
gender or biological sex. Same-sex couples want to marry for all the same reasons as their
because they are in love, and/or for the legal security and benefits of marriage. Married
responsibilities. A marriage certificate also allows married partners to easily prove their legal
rights if challenged.
Not only in the Philippines, but it is universal in the LGBT community that each
individual encounters or has encountered some sort of identity crisis which may not be as
grave as the other before they come to terms with themselves and the people around them. It
was reported that a survey was conducted by the Pew Research Center, which results made
the Philippines rank 10 out of 17 countries as one of the most gay-friendly countries because
of the country’s high level of public acceptance of homosexuals. However, how much of this
is really true? This will be further explained in the Cultural and Social Attitudes Regarding
adults of the same biological sex or social gender, has been under fire for many years. Same-
sex marriages have varied from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, which has resulted in legislative
changes of marriage laws in order to meet the constitutional demands of equality established
by the Founding Fathers. Other opposing nations recognize same-sex marriages as a civil
rights, political, social, moral, or religious taboo. They say beauty is in the eye of the
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why same-sex marriage is not accepted in almost all countries in the world.
Years ago, homosexuality was unacceptable. Most that were gay hid it from others
and did not act upon it. They married the opposite gender to live out a normal life. There are
many instances of homosexuals being prosecuted and discriminated against. At one point,
homosexuality was considered a mental illness as recognized by the DSM diagnostic and
statistical manual of mental disorder of Psychology. Slowly, being gay became more
acceptable, and homosexuals fought for more rights, and eventually the right to marry.=
On the one hand, there are four stages in identity formation, namely: Sensitization
where one thinks about one’s sexual identity, Significance and disorientation accepting that
one has deviated from the social norm and has accepted the consequences that would follow,
Coming out where one, as they say, goes public and is more firm with one’s identity, and
Stabilization where one doesn’t question his/her sexual identity any longer. Plummer argues,
however, the one who has reached the last stage is being imprisoned by his own deviancy
and will suffer a new form of oppression by his own sexual subgroup. (Plummer, 1975).
A Different Love: Being a gay man in the Philippines (), which is composed of the mails she
received from gay men who seek advice from her regarding the problems and issues they
currently face at the time. One of the common problems of these men were about their
sexuality that they weren’t sure what they really were and they also weren’t so sure about
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could be supported through two of these stage models, despite there being many, on the
On the other hand, Coleman suggests that there are five stages to this formation,
which are: Before coming out the individual feels strongly different which results to low self-
esteem and feeling abnormal, Coming out being able to resolve the aforementioned crisis and
acceptance from them has a more positive reaction for their self-acceptance, Exploration
where they start to get curious what being their sexuality really is; this is usually being done
through sexual tendencies, First relationships where they start to have a serious relationship
with someone, and that they have a more stable self-identity, and Integration where the
individual strengthens the bond between one’s private and public self (Coleman, 1982)
However, this differs as Coleman stated that even though one has reached the last stage, one
may still experience the other stages again, as well; but he also adds that it would be difficult
to reach the last stage if there were still complications from the prior stages.
Unveiling Secrets of Selected Filipino LGB Adults aimed to identify the factors that
contribute to the Filipino LGB sexual identity satisfaction by conducting a qualitative study
with the help of 13 self-identified LGB adults in Metro Manila. In their results, they
indicated three factors which were self-affirmation and acceptance, positive support from
family and peers and personal values and beliefs. The first factor, self-affirmation and
2014).Focusing on the second factor, the support of family and peers, the study emphasized
on the value of social support and the importance of creating support groups for the sexual
minorities because these factors play an important role in experiencing the feeling of
satisfaction. The last factor, personal values and beliefs, is believed to play an important role
for their individuality and personal worth. These values and beliefs enable LGB individuals
to stand-up for themselves while facing their difficulties and it would eventually lead them to
According to Being LGBT in Asia, The Philippines Country Report when the Pew
Research Center conducted a survey in 2013, the results indicated that 73% of the Filipino
respondents said that homosexuality should be accepted by the society. LGBT Filipinos were
skeptical regarding the results of the survey, saying that they were only tolerated when they
fit stereotypes, such as having an occupation. Another example of the supposed acceptance
stated in the report was the television soap opera My Husband’s Lover, which shows a
married man having a male lover outside of his marriage. The show had been popular but
also controversial, especially with the Catholic Bishops Conference of the Philippines
According to the said report, there are two types of LGBT family affairs to consider.
The first one is when there is an LGBT member of the family and the second one is when an
LGBT couple has a family. The focus of this study is the former, where there are LGBT
children from abuse, neglect, exploitation and discrimination. Although there are reports
saying those LGBT youths are experiencing discrimination—even from their own family or
educational institutions. One example is the physical abuse of a 19-year old Filipino gay
from his father because of his sexuality; second is an example presented in GMA7’s i-
Witness where underage gay boys in Cebu work as sex workers; the last example is the
discrimination of some educational institutions wherein they have policies regarding the
banning of transgender students in using their facilities. These examples are proof that there
is still a need to address the situation regarding the protection of LGBT family members—
In the Philippine judicial system, there are numerous laws that portray the LGBT
sexual orientation negatively or detrimental to one’s self and society. One example of such
laws includes Article 46 of the Family code, where homosexuality is one of the grounds of
marriage annulment and legal separation. According to the USAID report on the country’s
LGBT status, these laws are being used by unethical lawyers to further suppress the LGBT
community. Furthermore, back in 2009, the frequency of LGBT harassment has heightened.
Researchers have noted the grown less hostile towards gays and lesbians report that
the mean feeling thermometer score, a survey question that asks how respondents feel
towards gays and lesbians on a scale from 0 to 100, climbed 16 percentage points between
1984 and 2002 although it remained below a neutral 50 (Egan & Sherrill 2005).In addition,
they noted that the number of Americans who report believing that sexual relations between
same-sex adults are always wrong fell 21 percentage points between 1991 and 2002 to 55
percent. These data also suggest, of course, that a large number of Americans still are
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principles and values can blunt the effect of discomfort and dislike; they pointed out that
political moderate and liberals were more likely to support gay rights protections (Wilcox &
Wolpert 2000).also examined the sources of people’s attitudes towards relevant policy issues,
and adoption by gay parents. In all three issues, they found that affect toward gays and
lesbians is a powerful predictor of attitudes on gay and lesbian rights suggesting that people’s
emotions play a significant role in determining their position on these policies. They also
found that gender was a significant factor. However, other sources of attitudes about the
They had a bad reaction to gay men and good one with lesbian women. Heterosexual
women were more supportive than men in willing to give employment protection and
adoption rights to gay people. They were also more willing to extend employee benefits to
gay couples and less likely to hold any stereotypes against gay people. The biggest gender
difference was the fact that straight men were stereotypical to gay mean. From all studies
shown, straight men were the least supportive of same sex relationships and adoption rights
for gay men. Straight men were more likely to believe that gay men have mental illness and
are more likely to molest children. These men’s responses showed that their attitudes toward
This research focuses on the relationship between source and the quality of same-sex
couples. In this study the researchers present the most prominent theories underlying same
sex relationship. These theories are Interdependence theory Harold Kelley and John Thibaut
Queer Theory Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Judith Butler, Michael Warner, and Wayne
Koestenbaum."
Interdependence theory
personal relationships. It states that human relationships are basically a cost versus reward
scenario with individuals trying to minimize costs and increase the benefits within the
relationship. There are four types of rewards and costs discussed in interdependence theory:
emotional, instrumental, opportunity, and social. Emotional costs/rewards are the positive or
negative feelings that occur because of a relationship. Instrumental costs are the extra work
someone has to do because of a relationship like picking up dirty laundry and instrumental
rewards are the work that is lessened by the relationship a partner helping with household
chores. Opportunity costs are when someone has to give up something in a relationship give
up a dream job to relocate while opportunity rewards are when something is gained because
of the relationship relocating to nicer city to live in a dream house. Social costs and rewards
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rewards can determine whether or not a relationship is successful. If the benefits of the
relationship outweigh the costs then the relationship typically will continue. If the costs are
higher than the benefits and other alternatives are available then the relationship will most
likely dissolve.
Development
Freud believed that homosexuality is the result of placing desire and identification on
the wrong objects during the Oedipus complex. The homosexual male somehow ends up
identifying with his mother and desiring his father (Beard, 1994). There are many reasons for
this mismatch of object-choices, and Freud outlines a few of them in his essay, Certain
attachment to and identification with the mother, castration anxiety, which causes the man to
renounce "castrated" womankind, narcissism: self-obsession that leads the man to choose an
object that resembles himself, and jealously the male child feelings for rival males during
childhood is repressed and unconsciously transformed into affection (Freud, 1922). The third
Queer theory
Queer theory is a term that emerged in the late 1980s for a body of criticism on issues
of gender, sexuality, and subjectivity that came out of gay and lesbian scholarship in such
fields as literary criticism, politics, sociology, and history. Queer theory rejects essentialism
in favor of social construction; it breaks down binary oppositions such as gay or straight;
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attempts to rehabilitate a subjectivity that allows for sexual and political agency. Some of the
most significant authors associated with queer theory include Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Judith
Conceptual Framework
The input compromises of the respondents profile such as age of individuals with
same sex relationship. These action begin with the age of 18 to 30 years old. The researchers
will focus on the individuals at the age range of 18 – 30 years old with same sex relationship.
The process will imply all the preparation from formulating consent, permission to
The output will refer to the Narrative description and significant themes of the lived
experiences of Couples with same sex relationship
Paradigm
Individuals Formulating
ages 18-30 with consent Narrative
same sex description and
relationship Permission to significant
the respondents themes of the
lived
Interview experiences of
Couples with
Gathering same sex
information relationship
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LGBT individuals and communities the articles in this special issue aim to help us
Significant of the study the result of the identify the benefit of same sex relationship
that they stop school and just rely on their parents. This study examines the existing
scholarship between various religion related concepts and support for same sex relationship
lesbian gay and bisexuals with multiple minority statuses open experience a dual minority
stress that may negatively impact their mental health same sex relationship strengths include
having respect and appreciation for individual differences using positive emotion and
interactions and using effective communication and negotiation skills. To future same sex
The study limited to all same sex relationship the study focused on the same sex
relationship in Sta. Rita Pampanga the term same sex relationship is not strictly related to the
sexual orientation of the participants as people of many orientation may participate in same
sex relationship particularly defending of the legal social and scientific definition of sex
some activist argue that referring to a same sex relationship as gay relationship is a form of
bisexual erasure.
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Research design
This study will utilize the phenomenological design. Phenomenology is the study of
first-person point of view, along with its intentionality the way an experience is directed
toward a certain object in the world. It then leads to analyses of conditions of the possibility
of intentionality, conditions involving motor skills and habits, background social practices
and, often, language. The phenomenon under investigation focuses on the experiences of
For the participants 5 couples who participated in the Strengthening Same Sex
Qualitative data yielded key themes, including high program satisfaction, appreciation that
the program was designed specifically for same-sex couples, and requests for more detailed
content addressing same-sex couples' unique needs. Participants expressed preferences for
specialized programs for male or female same-sex couples. Women strongly preferred female
sexual minority program leaders; men valued leader competency over match in gender or
sexual orientation. Results can inform efforts to provide culturally sensitive relationship
sampling technique in which researcher relies on his or her own judgment when choosing
This study was limited by the use of a small purposive sampling technique
participants has probably been one of the most important methodological factors influencing
the evolution of research on lesbians, gay men, and bisexual men .Results from studies and
well-being of LGBs can be biased by the sampling methods used by the investigators.
Interpretation and analysis of findings were limited by the sources obtained, including the
Research Instrument
The main instrument that will use is interview. The researcher observes, takes notes, talks to
people. All of these are skills that need to be learned. The same applies to carrying out
interviews. Just the fact that we talk to people in our everyday life, listen, ask questions and
communicate does not make us naturally a good interviewer. According to Helfferich (2009),
the interviewer does not strictly follow a formalized list of questions. They will ask
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The interviewer may prepare a list of questions but does not necessarily ask
them all, or touch on them in any particular order, using them instead to guide the
conversation. In some cases, the interviewer will prepare only a list of general topics
Interview Guide
Data Analysis
care. The purpose of phenomenological method is to uncover the genuine experience of the
phenomenon under investigation; Colaizzi's method consists of seven steps. First informants'
descriptions of the experiences are read in order to acquire a sense of the whole. After that
significant statements are extracted. Meanings are formulated from the significant statements.
Formulated meanings are organised into themes. Themes are integrated into an exhaustive
description. The essential structure of the phenomenon is formulated. And finally for
validation the informants will evaluate the result of the analysis, if it means the same as their
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Reference
Hypothesis
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