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Jaycob A. Bustamante
ENLIT 12 ZZ
jaycob.bustamante@obf.ateneo.edu
Love has always been the most caroled of subjects. Various poets, artists, and even
common people have dedicated their entire lives to express and experience this feeling of strong
affection towards another individual. While this remains as one of most adored subjects in
literature, various dynamics and perspectives are written to represent a conflict within the text.
And one of the most significant dramas which can cause a disruption within a relationship is
infidelity. A phenomenon wherein one of the individuals in the relationship has become unfaithful
due to various reasons, and has resorted to the seek and feel the affection of a different person.
When this happens, the withdrawal of information or maybe even the exclusion of the whole
person from the relationship occurs, this is called othering. The concept of othering involves the
exclusion of an individual from a relationship resulting to the individual being ousted to a degree
and classified as the “other”. (Joniak-Luthi 5) Now, in the context of infidelity, othering can be
used to better read and understand the emotions and experiences of not only the people that are in
the relationship, but also the individuals that are interacting with those people. Hence, this essay
aims to discuss the concept of othering in the context of three characters in the short story “Sexy”
In the context of Miranda, the feeling of being excluded from the relationship happens in
the later part of the story. The interaction between a rather precocious seven-year-old boy named
Rohin is what made her perspective on herself shift. His first words to Miranda takes in the form
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of a cartographical demand, “Ask me a capital.” (Lahiri 10) Following it were request for coffee,
explanations for the makeup canisters that she has purchased, a demand to wear the silver cocktail
dress, and the adjective that he gave to her after she wore it. Yet these were not the empty demands
and request of a spoiled brat, each one of them juxtaposes the experiences of his mother, Laxmi’s
cousin. The coffee reminded him of a beautiful stewardess that gave him the drink, while also
remembering that his father “met a pretty woman in the plane too.” (Lahiri 11) The makeup
canister, specifically the eye cream, a product used to hide the puffiness underneath the eyes
reminded him of the sadness that his mother is experiencing resulting to her eyes to “puff up like
bullfrogs”. (Lahiri 13) This strikes Miranda, and it began the realization what she was truly causing
in the relationship. The crumpled silver cocktail dress that has fallen from the hanger reminded
him of the clothes that his mother has failed to attend to because of her grief. Each demand recasts
the story of his mother, but now told in the perspective of an individual that can physically see her
emotions. What completes this realization of her true condition is the command of Rohin to put on
the crumpled silver cocktail dress. At this moment, she began to reflect why she had bought this,
lines from the text read “… as long as she was with Dev she knew she never would. They would
never go to restaurants where he would reach across the table to kiss her hand. They would meet
in her apartment, on Sundays, he in his sweatpants and she in her jeans.” (Lahiri 14) This statement
has made her realization concrete, yet still unfinished, she now knows and acknowledges that she
shouldn’t exist in the relationship yet she still does, under specific circumstances, in terms of place,
time, but most importantly feeling. She still clings on to the idea that she and Dev are a couple, a
taboo couple but a couple nonetheless. Instances where Miranda fantasizes about herself and Dev,
lines from the text read “Miranda pictured the two of them at a restaurant in the South End they'd
been to…” (Lahiri 6) This, however, will change as the eerie adjective that Rohin said and
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explained, accurately depicts on her state in the life of Dev. As Rohin zips the back of the dress,
he describes her firmly as sexy. “You’re sexy” , a sentence that shocked Miranda and made her
reassess the same statement which was said by Dev. (Lahiri 15) After questioning the boy, he
finally revealed an accurate description of her state in Dev’s life “It means loving someone you
don’t know”. This moment evokes a feeling of grief within Miranda as this depiction shows her
true state in Dev’s life, a stranger that he can routinely go to and make love with. All of the words
that Dev have said to her, and all of the experiences the have had together are all torn and shattered
to reveal their true form. This was confirmed with the lines from the text “Do you remember the
day we went to the Mapparium? Of course. Do you remember what we whispered to each other?
I remember. Do you remember what you said? After a slight pause, “Let’s go back to your place.”
(Lahiri 17) She neither feels empowered nor aroused by Rohin’s depiction, she now feels like the
other, excluded from Dev’s personal life serving only the purpose of someone “sexy” only to
satisfy his sexual desire. Not only does the mistress experiences the othering in the relationship
can also happen to the individuals that are interacting with the people in the relationship.
In the context of Laxmi, her appearances in the text drives the story to the point where
Miranda can have this catharsis of her own state in Dev’s life. She is also used as the character
which has strong disdain for infidelity, ironically, expressing all of these information to a mistress,
Miranda. Throughout the text, Laxmi did not feel the grief of exclusion because she did not know
that information about Miranda’s relationship is being withdrawn from her. Even though she did
not feel the othering, the exclusion of her from an important part of Miranda’s life is evident.
Various reasons within the text can explain the withdrawal of the information of Miranda’s
relationship with Dev. Primarily, it is the outright disdain that Laxmi has towards infidelity. Lines
from the text read “But Laxmi spoke of nothing else. If I were her I’d fly straight to London and
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shoot them both” and “I don’t know how she can just wait this way.” (Lahiri 9) This disdain and
updates on the infidelity experienced by her cousin can surely give enough reason to Miranda to
not give information about her own infidelity. This discomfort is evident within the text as one
line reads “…during which Laxmi reported the latest status of her cousin's marriage. Sometimes
Miranda tried to change the topic…”(Lahiri 9) While the relationship between Laxmi and Miranda
continues it gives the impression that it is not quite complete as Miranda still excludes Laxmi from
that one important aspect in her life. Subsequently, the harsh and outright disdain for infidelity
creates a certain discomfort for Miranda which results to her feeling excluded once more not just
by Dev but also Laxmi as she might despise her if she knew the truth. This adds dynamics within
the concept of othering, as it can also be a product on an initial othering by another individual.
Finally, similar to both Laxmi and Miranda, the wife, an absent yet powerful character in the story,
In the context of Dev’s wife, the text minimizes the exposure of this character through the
narration of the story. While her exposure is minimal, her impact within the relationship of the
characters is immense. The narrative of the story acknowledges the existence of the wife yet it
immediately dismisses her after the acknowledgement, a line from the text reads “They're for my
wife.", "She's going to India for a few weeks.” He rolled his eyes. “She's addicted to this stuff.”
Somehow, without the wife there, it didn't seem so wrong. At first Miranda and Dev spent every
night together, almost.” (Lahiri 4) The absence of the wife is used to progress the relationship of
Miranda and Dev, and within the early stages of the story, it was presented as if they were new
lovers. And within this timeframe can one prominently see the exclusion of the wife from the
relationship. Through the perspective of how the writer tells the story, the readers can view their
roles reversed as Miranda being the main woman that Dev is attracted to while the wife is just a
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side note within the relationship, lines from the text read “They went to movies at the Nickelodeon
and kissed the whole time. They ate pulled pork and cornbread in Davis Square..” (Lahiri 5) She
now becomes the other woman in the relationship, Dev having minimal time and interaction just
enough for her not to suspect anything. This narration of the story, in its early stages, somehow
erases the wife and decreases her to, at best, a background figure and just a nuisance to obtain the
affection that the man needs. And this now becomes the othering of the wife, the most prominent
exclusion done because she was outsed to a point where she was not viewed as a human anymore,
just a hindrance for the love story of Miranda and Dev to prosper, however it did not.
In the later parts of the story, the wife comes back from India and the romantic meals, hot
nights, and flirtatious make out sessions, are all reduced to a quick coupling every Sunday lasting
to at most 12 minutes. Dev now only wears sweatpants instead of suits, and the attempts of Miranda
to dress up are shunned by him as he can not see her body with a robe, and the symbol of
empowerment for Miranda, the silver cocktail dress, is now curled up and on the floor, reducing
the relationship to that of solely sexual pleasure. That reduction lead to the othering of Miranda,
the same exclusion that the two other characters experienced. These evidences show that not only
do the three characters experience the othering, but it also has a dynamic wherein they all relate
and interconnect the feeling of exclusion, they all have their own contribution to the exclusion that
they are experiencing, or present in the relationship. This happens when they do not see each other
as humans, the first sentence of the text reads “IT WAS A WIFE’S WORST NIGHTMARE”, this
statement acknowledges the feelings of jilted wife as infidelity happens in her relationship, the
human response of a person feeling betrayed. (Lahiri 1) This concept one can carry not only in the
context of a wife, but the context of interacting with people, that they all have human responses
and that promotes inclusive dialogical interaction, where one will not feel as the other but as human
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