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Balance the gifts and time you give your own children with the
stepchild. They are a part of your family, not to be treated like
second class citizens or outcasts.
Discuss decisions which effect your stepchild with his or her mother.
Don't sign them up for a summer at a camp or sports club without
talking it over with her. Don't buy them firearms...or fireworks, even
seemingly harmless ones like paintball guns or bb guns without her
knowledge and consent.
Help plan the future of the children. It may fall on you to begin a
savings plan for college expenses, the first car, and helping to find
that first job.
Invite the child to participate in your own activities. If you fish, golf,
or do other hobby activities where it is appropriate, take your
stepchild along. Not only does this give them a chance to see what
you enjoy, but it gives their mother a break.
Never argue with the child's mother in front of the child, and be
especially careful about making derogatory remarks about her where
the child may hear.
Respect the child's private space. Any child, from preteen through
their teen years deserve a reasonable amount of privacy and private
space, and unless there is serious concern about the child's behavior
or activity, the more space they are given, the more trusted they will
feel.
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Remember, being a stepdad is a leadership role as part of a team.
Accept the unique qualities of each team member, the limitations,
even the eccentricities. There will be good times, even great times,
but there will be conflict, disagreements, and letdowns. Patience,
love, and a sympathetic view will help you through these challenges.
You are the adult, no matter what the situation, you need to
remember that, and that problems may seem huge, but often will be
forgotten in tomorrows rush, or laughed about next year.
Show the child you are willing to help out in housework. In this age
with so many mothers working to support or help in supporting the
family, it is important for children to understand that keeping a
household is a family job, not just the mother's.
Watch how your step child interacts with your own children if you
have any. Jealousy is toxic to any relationship, and when this
appears to be occurring, try to head it off immediately. To maintain a
happy family atmosphere, step-sibling anger must be dealt with fairly
and prudently.
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