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by Emmanuel Kollie
Abstract
"For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garment with
violence," says the Lord of Hosts (Malachi 2:16, NKJV).” The institution of marriage was
established before the introduction of sin in the earth. While sin is in disharmony with God’s
intentions, yet by the introduction of sin, he did not dissolve his holy institution.
It is important to state that as it was from the beginning, it is still the intention of Satan to
destroy the solemnity of marriage. Satan intention is to destroy among others, the blessing of
procreation ( Gen 1:28); Unity/companionship of couple (Gen 2:18); the job of shared labor
(Gen 2:20); the concept of oneness; the value of nakedness without shame (Gen 2:23-25), etc.
Thus, He disrupted the serenity of man dependability upon God, and since then mankind has
developed a tendency toward wrong doings. So then, how can generations defiled by the
enormity of sin venture into a holy institution? Why not disengaged the marital contracts if it
would lead one to lose his human dignity or even lose faith in God?
It seems obvious that there is still a virtue in marriage which is in harmony with the
creation order, in favor with the completeness of humankind. In other words, human being may
not holistically live without being nurtured within the serenity of the marriage institution. Yet
the life of the human being is lived within the territory of sinfulness. This paper opted that as
man dwells in a sinful society, it must be understood that the marital institution still belongs to
God. Therefore marriage should be considered well before contracted, and must never be
regarded with an erroneous ideal, because deviance from the intention of God concerning His
institution would emerge the consequences of spiritual, and ethical implications on the divorcé
and divorcée as well as their offspring. Furthermore the paper highlighted the intention of God
for establishing marriage and thus his hatred against divorce, hence the biblical and ethical
A close consideration of some relevant verses in the Genesis narrative clearly convey the
purpose of creating male and female as a capstone for understanding the institution of marriage.
Firstly, Gen 1:26 reveals that humankind (the man and his wife) was created to be like God in
order to rule over other living creation. God's purpose was that mankind resembles him by
reflecting his form and function over the created order on behalf of the heavenly government.1
Secondly, in Gen 1:28, they were to be fruitful and multiply and subdue the earth. In other
words, they were to bring under their control for their advantage and harness its potential and use
its resources for your benefit. Thirdly, in Gen 2:20, they were to be compatible to each other,
standing opposite each other as counterpart in their divine appointed assignments. Fourthly,
Genesis 2:25 reveal that they were to administer in nakedness, for they were naked (ֹערָוום
ע,
êrȏm). The context of the word êrȏm frees it from the notion of sexual nakedness in mankind. It
represented the absence of status; Children and dead enemies were depicted naked.2 More so, the
Old Testament depicts the powerless condition of a person by the nakedness of a newborn baby
or a dead individual (Job 1:21; Eccl 5:15). Scripture evidence also reveal that prisoners of war
were stripped of their clothes and presented naked to the public to show that their status and
power had been removed (cf. Jer 46:24; 48:1, 13, 20, 39; 50:2; 51:51; Ezek 32:30; Hos 10:6). 3
Thus, in the biblical sense of the word, when Adam and Eve were pronounced husband
and wife, they were êrȏm. They were stripped of all superiority over each other, no authority, no
individual possessions, etc. They remained simple in their state of being with no lord or master.
They have not lost personal honor or dignity that would make them ashamed. They had nothing
understanding, a surgery is conducted without any anesthetic application to the patient (the man
and woman). Hence may never be completely healed in singleness again. A flesh is scattered and
a wound is created that may never be healed. In fact, Psalm 35:26 places shame on those who
However, in Genesis 3, the devil introduced another form of êrȏm. For He was also
êrȏm, which made him wiser than all living creatures (Gen 3:1). A nakedness with a desire of
being like God; to lord over others or being in control. It is a nakedness of insecurity, fear and
inferiority. Hence power, suppression and control seem to be an immediate solution in order to
create an empire of self and a center of attention. This kind of nakedness creates a vacuum of
2
G. Johannes Botterweck, Helmer Ringgren and Heinz-Josef Fabry,ed. Theological Dictionary of the Old
Testament (Grand Rapids, Michigan: William B. Eerdmans Publsihing Company,1987), 349,350.
3
Ibid,..
4
Ibid,.
traumatic implication, ethical imbalances and brokenness, thereby breaking the covenantal
relationship between God and man, which result in a lawless generation against the standard of
righteousness. Unlike Satan’s êrȏm, the man and his wife was meant for collaborative rulership;
Congruent to the creating order, is God’s wisdom in the contrast values. The Genesis
account beings to mind the significant of contrast values in God’s creative activities, which also
share more light to the understanding of the institution of marriage. For instance, the coming
together of day and night provides a complete day of 24 hours. The coming together of the sun
and moon provide rulership over the day and night without confusion. The light and darkness
govern by providing the time of rest and the time to work. The dust of the ground and the breath
of God brought life in existence. God the creator and man the creature combine to form a
harmonious covenantal relationship, which lead to salvation. The contrast of husband and wife
provides the vivid understanding of oneness through which new life begins among others, etc.
And it is only when the man and woman combine in holy matrimony that the concept of
marriage is formed. In this regard, the man and his wife stick or cling (דבבבק
) עtogether
institution.
In this regard, in Malachi 2:10-17 the prophet insists to challenge the returnees to the
reality that God hates divorce. Malachi reveals that marriage is the LORD'S holy institution,
which He loves (Mal 2:11), and that he is the one who created the contrast of two becoming one
(חד
א חש
) אflash (Mal 2:15). Therefore, to God divorce is beyond the sending away backed by legal
contract. Some interpreters are of the view that “the verb ֵשנָׂנא
( שsane') appears to be a third person
form, "he hates," which makes little sense in the context, unless one emends the following word
to a third person verb as well. Then one might translate, "he [who] hates [his wife] [and] divorces
her is guilty of violence.” Some others believe that the text must have had the first person
pronoun ִ'( אנ נָכֹכיanokhi, "I"), which it is possible might have accidentally dropped from the text
after ִ( כֹכיki). 5 Whatever these views may be, God views divorce (ַּ֗שלַׁללח
) לas an act of violence
against the victim. It is like shooting a gun in order to destroy ones enemy. It is described as one
rapping himself with a garment of continuous violence. Hence, their vulnerability is exposed,
their garment of dignity, honor and security is removed. They are exposed to the nakedness of
self seeking, personal respect, selfishness, and dominating spirit which leads to shame and
inferiority, as it is with Satan. For this reason The ִ ככֹכיin the verse is taken in a causal sense
This construction also presents a figurative expression of the garment as dress (garment),
which explains the inward part of a man, and therefore a soiled garment is a symbol of
uncleanness of heart, as referenced in Zechariah , “Then He answered and spoke to those who
stood before Him, saying, Take away the filthy garments from him. And to him He said, see, I
have removed your iniquity from you, and I will clothe you with rich robes” (Zech 3:4). Hence
when the garment of marriage is removed by means of divorce the vulnerability of the man and
5
Bibleworks Electronic Database, version 9
6
Ibid,.
Therefore in this construction Malachi 2:16 shows how the sin of sending away is
condemned as a violation of the marital unity, which Israel is encouraged to take heed to. 7 And
accordingly the immediate context of Malachi 2 presents divorce as one of the protests against
broken faith among the covenant people of God, which is expressed in the phrase גדו ו
תב ל ו ח ו
ו לשלא ת
( not to act or deal treacherously, faithlessly, deceitfully"), which occurs five times in between
Malachi 2:10 -17. In a whole, he prophet Malachi, proclaimed to his people that, divorce is one
of the ways they profane the covenant thereby breaking faith with one another. Therefore God
hates it. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith, for it is seldom possible to
June Steffensen Hagen is of the view that the ethical system of man comes into conflict
when the rules and principles he is being guided by come into conflict with what seems to him a
far greater principle. His interpretation of his common sense seems to suggest that part of the
anxiety-filled encounters by mankind springs from the feeling that somehow mankind is being
pushed around by circumstances, and that he is not responsible for his actions.9 Furthermore, in
his ethical consideration, he sees self as a centre of judgment, thereby creating what seems as
value to him, thereby organizing the moral world around his consciousness of self as his ethical
8
David Clyde Jones, Malachi on Divorce.
9
June Steffensen Hagen, Ethical Reflection?: A Report on Teach-ing Hardy's Jude the Obscure with
Attention to Marriage, Divorce, and Re-marriage.
10
William Werpehowski, "Hearing the divine command: realism and discernment in Barth's
ethics." Zeitschrift Für Dialektische Theologie 15, no. 1 (January 1, 1999): 64-74. ATLA Religion Database with
grounded either in accordance with the immediate circumstances to a morally arbitrary will or
having the freedom to do as one likes to what seems as a rational norm to the divine command
(Mt 19:8). 11
Hence when these erroneous ethical system comes into conflict with rules and principles,
it becomes ethically right for man to ignore faithful response to the Word of God about marriage.
He rationalizes that there are circumstances in which it is not only legitimate but obligatory to
see that one's marriage is condemned and therefore require dissolution. 12 For these reasons most
Christian communities do not evaluate divorce as unethical ritual practice, which places an
irregular pattern in the life transition. Yet while other rituals are conducted with social and
divorce does not acknowledge the depth of loss, as well as ethical and moral commitments for
the future. As important as this change of social statue may be, it takes place in privacy and in
shadows. Hence, Lori Heyman Gordon and Morris Gordon assert that:
With the exception of the legal profession, it is publicly ignored, and the emotional and physical
consequences of the change are often denied. The shattering effects are often privately enacted
through short or long term depression, despair, isolation, jealousy, and vindictiveness that
simmer beneath the surface of public awareness. There is no tribunal, no clan, no extended
family that can offer needed support, help, or even judgment when the event is shrouded in
secrecy, privacy, and denial.
theology should compel us to think that human beings are responsible for their actions before
God. 13
ATLASerials, EBSCOhost (accessed October 17, 2013)
11
Ibid, 65.
12
Ibid,.
13
June Steffensen Hagen, Ethical Reflection?: “A Report on Teaching Hardy's Jude the Obscure with
Attention to Marriage, Divorce, and Re-marriage.”
Implication for considerations
Congruent to the Genesis account, ethical implication recognizes the fact that men and
women are seen as very different at the opposite poles of humanity, therefore marriage should be
seen as the only or the best way to a full human life.14 Callahan asserts that one does not have to
be a social scientist to understand that marriage and family are the key institutions of our
However, unethical principles towards marriage provides reasons such as, the husband
and wife conclude that their relationship can never meet their needs; (2) they are no longer
motivated to improve their relationship; and (3) they have become incompatible and have little in
common with each other. 16 Accordingly, divorce in most cases ends up in an intense emotionally
draining trauma experience which, according to Martin, in the work of Bill Flatt, equips divorce
to the experience of death. He asserts that in divorce the hopes and dreams of marital bliss
perish; and that the relationship with someone you have loved and given all to come to a halt.
Hence In divorce, there is death of a relationship.17 Oates described divorce as that form of grief
from which there are no flowers sent. 18 Similarly, Krantzler asserts that when divorce happens,
a separation shock is created, which can equal in intensity the feelings evoked by
the actual death of a husband or wife, and it sets in motion reactions similar to
those which an actual death can cause. The divorced person feels abandoned,
alone, disillusioned, rejected, angry, low, guilty, and frustrated. Overcoming such
feelings may take from six months to two years. The grieving person feels as if he
or she is bleeding inside.
14
Callahan, Sidney Cornelia. "A psychological perspective,” 130.
15
Ibid,.
16
Bill Flatt, "Divorce counseling by ministers." Restoration Quarterly 23, no. 3 (January 1, 1980): 129-
142. ATLA Religion Database with ATLASerials, EBSCOhost (accessed October 15, 2013)
17
Ibid, 131.
18
Ibid, 131.
Similarly, Lori Heyman Gordon and Morris Gordon further mentioned that divorce also
involves parting through choice, a frequently feelings of failure, resulting in a devastating blow
to self-worth or self-esteem as they reflect on the loss of the benefits the marital union provided,
Moreover Bill Flatt opts that these breakdown after a divorce case are as a result of the
intense emotional turmoil, the overwhelming fear of being unable to cope with life’s
responsibilities and challenges, the fear of losing control or of going crazy, etc. And just as it is
mentioned in the biblical consideration of this paper, consideration create an impression that the
divorcee and divorcé appear to be single again, and yet not exactly single, because the bad things
about the former marriage may sometimes be forgotten, but the good things are remembered and
Another area of ethical implication is the concerning of raising of children. Divorce often
use the children against each other, leading the children to lose faith and trust, child-mother-
father relationship, sometimes environmental supports, and well as the pre-divorced children
care. When these happen the children are divided to usually idealize one parent and depreciate
the other.20
father and mother, who remain the most important developing agent in the child’s life as
responsibilities for character building are taken over by the schools and eventually the
19
Gordon, Lori Heyman and Morris Gordon. "Ethical divorce: a format and a ritual." Reconstructionist 53,
no. 1 (September 1, 1987): 21-24.ATLA Religion Database with ATLASerials, EBSCOhost (accessed October 20,
2013).
20
Flatt, Bill. "Divorce counseling by ministers
peers who become singularly influential during adult years, hence, leaving the child to
fate. 21 What seems good (divorce) as an ethical consideration now destroys in most cases
the self worth of the offspring. As Michael K Severe rightly puts it, “all divorces leave major
marks on children, marks that reach all the way into their core of being”. 22 He further expressed
Divorce is not just about political policy, dealing with social consequences or
creating "good divorces." Divorce is fundamentally a theological issue and must
be addressed. It is the break of community in which the child's identity rests. It
strikes at the heart of identity, self, being and community. It focuses to the place in
which "being" is formed, for in divorce being has been split, and even destroyed,
because It is fundamentally an attack against the very being of a child and
produces a loss of being. It forces children to construct themselves through
shattered mirrors, now in different physical and psychological locations. It is a
threat to the child's very ontology.23
Conclusion
Most marriages are under attack first of all because these marriages are not built on
biblical principles. By this I mean, godliness is not the center of their homes. Secondly, without
the guidance of a marriage counselor, most couples do not get acquainted with the reality of the
marriage life before their solemnization of holy matrimony. Unfortunately without trained
marriage counselors, most of these men and women become couples without a firsthand
knowledge of their synchronized typology on matter of their character traits and adjustment,
cultural/ethnic issues and differences it any, their sexual expectations, Communication skills,
conflict resolution, financial management, spiritual beliefs, step parenting expectations, family
21
J. K. Davidson and B. N Moore, Marriage and family (Texas, W.M.C.: Brown Publishers, 1992).
22
Michael K. Severe, "The children of divorce: the loss of family as the loss of being." Journal Of Youth
Ministry 10, no. 1 (September 1, 2011): 150-153. ATLA Religion Database with ATLASerials,
EBSCOhost (accessed October 17, 2013).
23
Ibid,.
and friends, family history, leisure activities, partner lifestyle and habits, relationship
Marriage should be considered well before contracted, and must never be regarded with
an erroneous ideal. It must be patterned after its heavenly designed constitution, and Men are not
at liberty to make a standard of law for themselves, to avoid God's law and please their own
inclination.24 Jesus in all his discourse concerning divorce pointed his audience back to the
foundation of the marriage institution which was ordained at creation (Matt 19:8,9).
24
Ellen G. White, Adventist Home