Transformational Communication for Self and Other by Chef JeM 10/2/19, 2:26 AM

Transformational Communication for Self and Other by Chef JeM .....

How dialogue relates to transformation.

Date: 2/8/2016 2:27:09 AM ( 3 y ago)

October 2, 2019 -

“There is nothing more important than the way we communicate with each other.”[10]
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Comment -

The axiom: "Communication is Life" (that this blog-writer has adopted and advocated since the mid-
80s) is all the more validated with the above quote.

Re: "The way we communicate with each other” points to the meta-communication aspect that is
part of every communication. The second (of five basic) axiom of communication says:
"Every communication has a content and relationship aspect such that the latter classifies the
former and is therefore a metacommunication: All communication includes, apart from the plain
meaning of words, more information."[11]

The importance of the "relationship aspect" of every communication deserves our shared
awareness, understanding and much mindfulness. Knowing your Human Design (HD) and that of
others can support your consciousness is this regards.
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July 9, 2019 - The Most Simple and Genuinely Pure Dialogue Can Be The Most Transformational!

This acronym formed after spontaneously voicing the phrase: "Genuinely Open Dialogue": GOD!

In the process of digesting the comments (for: "What's Really Going On?"[9]) comes a realization
that efforts made toward a most suitable formation, grouping, community-building, etc. of truly
American people needs to include open dialogue among all the participants. An axiom has been
formed that says that dialogue is the new community and that without dialogue the door to
pathology is left open. Dialogue has also been presented as the quintessential need for individuals
who suffer from the previously mentioned "pathology." It is apparent to this writer that truth without
love risks abuse. Also the component of creativity is needed in the whole synergy and that is
possibly the way whereby the value of "diversity" can be expressed and thereby known!
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July 20, 2019 - Continuing With the "G.o.d."s -

G.o.d.s (Genuinely Open Dialogues) are most highly supported by pure observations. With pure
observation in a genuinely open dialogue there is no argument (and there is not necessarily an

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agreement as well)!

If one observes the appearance of incongruence with what another presents they can simply
inquire about that. (This is another reason why one's deepest values need to be articulated in
virtually all interpersonal relationships. This kind of intimate communication is what can increase
our affinity and shared reality with one another.)

Therefor when the "4th Agreement" is adopted one may need to add a "footnote" to the "2nd
Agreement" and be open to considering whether one's best can be made even better. You can find
your value in the feedback loop even while knowing that what others say is all about them!
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February 8, 2016 -

Thoughts on a conversation today with an intelligent gentleman who happens to be my housemate

and a budding new friend as well.[1] The conversation included mention of a couple systems that
my budding friend has seen used by communities that have successfully addressed emotionally-
charged needs. After listening to his summary on the ZEGG Forum[2] I saw that the most essential
thing that this and other techniques support is dialogue.

I see dialogue engaging individuals in multi-directional ways. We can have inner dialogue with our
selves as well as inter-dialogue with others. I've posted "Interpersonal Communication in the Spirit
of Dialogue" at "Son of Truth of Self"[3]

Earlier I had conversation with another housemate who expressed frustration over not having the
kind of communication in the house that is sufficiently effective. The idea of establishing a
communication system was mentioned. I "dialogued" some about the idea and added that a system
can only work if people are willing to communicate. Unfortunately we have a couple people who
have considerable resistance to communicating with one another. And now (having reflected more
on this subject matter) I'd add that "a system can only work if people are willing to dialogue with
one another!

Dialogue relates to transformation in a number of ways. In fact, I can most readily identify at least
twenty-three "Gifts" in the Gene Keys that I think people could recognize as directly pertinent to
dialogue.[4]

The release of the Gene Key Gifts is a transformational process resulting from embracing the
shadow/fears that exist at the lower frequencies of each and every Gene Key. It is the release of
these Gifts that support genuine dialogue, a dialogue with others that requires an inner dialogue.
The world is waiting for the release of our hidden gifts that in turn will allow us to connect more
deeply with others!
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February 11, 2016 -

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Dialogue is the new community and therefor it is the new foundation for a healthy social life and for
new societies.[5] The use of Dyads can be a most effective communication support system for
developing one's ability to dialogue. However, people are not trained in how to dialogue with one
another. People need to learn ways to transform their "communication".

The approach for transforming communication that follows here is based on the use of dyads.[6]

Dyads are most effective in a one-to-one private session. The transformation of one's
communication via dyads is one approach that most anyone can learn once they know how the
dyad works.

If I work with a client then I'll have the individual list all the people they have or had relationships
with starting with their family of origin. Then we do Dyads for each family member starting with the
"mother and father". An example of the basic Dyad is: "Tell me an incomplete communication that
you have with your mother." Then we redirect the individual's response for a new communication
that is focused directly on the individual's mother - just as if she were present with us. We repeat
that Dyad until all of the incomplete communications are completed. Then we continue the Dyads
regarding the father followed by all the other family members. Once all of these Dyads are
completed the individual can have a Dyad (if they wish) with the actual family members whom they
had previously focused on in the Dyads. The previous Dyads prepared the way for direct
communication/dialogue with the actual family members.

"While they are on this earth, human beings are not capable of living with principles alone; they
need the support of forms."[7] Dyads are one type of form that I find highly supportive of the
principals as well as the High Ideals that one may hold.
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June 16, 2019 - Continuing with "High Ideals" -

"... To realize ideals and change the world, imagination and technique is needed. ...
Our creative and imaginative capacity depends on how free we are as individuals. The biases we
receive from our family, nation, ethnic group and religion and all that we inherit from the past (can)
restrict our creativity. Imagination is a characteristic of free individuality. Free individuality is attained
through an inner striving for freedom."[8]
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Comment:

"Transformational Communication for Self and Other" is a certain kind of partnership whereby you
develop your own "imaginative capacity ... through an inner striving for (your) freedom" and then
have that supported by certain dyad communication techniques focused toward your truth of self.
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May 16, 2016 -

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The TABLE OF CONTENTS for: BURNOUT REMEDY -

1st item is: "RECONNECT WITH YOURSELF"

I think for some people that would be better stated as "Connect With Your Authentic Self"!

The 4th item in this TABLE OF CONTENTS is:

ENJOY NATURE!

Tonight a few of us in our house hold began an interviewing process for a potential new housemate
and a goodly amount of that conversation included our nature-rich land and the interests here to
"enjoy" nature here! For a number of us - along with the enjoying part there is the land
management part!

#7 "BURNOUT REMEDY" is: "CONNECT WITH OTHERS"!

This is the one that I want to read first as it is of greatest interest to me (being a Libra plus King and
6 of Hearts kind of guy!
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December 6, 2016 -

Do you know that the first function of the mind is communication? (See "A Course In Miracles")
Why is that? It's because communication is life! This axiom on the quintessential purpose for our
mind is "hard wired" into our body through the totality of our spirit-psyche-brain-organ-body matrix
and includes every cell, every system from every possible perspective. In contrast - it is in the
breakdown of "Communication is Life" that every conceivable "ill" is able to enter the human
experience. The truth of this starts with every individual in their first relationship with their own self.
This is why "self talk" (by whatever "name" or terminology we use for this primal mode of
communication) is referred to in the bible as well as in courses for healing, recovery, personal
growth, etc.

However - there is a wide spectrum of different kinds of "activities" that one may think is
"communication" and this is where a deeper understanding of communication is required if we are
to be effective in our communications with self and others. I regard dialogue as one of the highest
forms of communication and hold that it can be referred to as a model of what communication is. If
you know someone who is able to dialogue then I would encourage you to have communication
with this individual to gain practical experience in the "art" of dialogue. I've also previously
mentioned that Dyads can support the dialogue process. By mastering dyad communication you'll
be well on your way to mastering "the highest form of communication"! Dialogue as a form of self-
talk would then give you "the highest form of communication" with yourself! That, my friend, is the
best foundation that I know of for personal transformation! Self-dialogue will transform you by
"renewing" your mind because it will recover the original and primary purpose of your mind!
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Notes:

[1] One of the thresholds I have in the evolution of a relationship from acquaintance to "companion"
to friend is a demonstration of trustworthiness and this man is proving his trustworthiness to me!

[2] http://www.zegg.de/en/community/zegg-forum.html

[3] http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=2221475

[4] Gifts such as the 4th Gene Key: Understanding, 5th Gene Key: Patience, 6th Gene Key:
Diplomacy, 19th Gene Key: Sensitivity, 22nd Gene Key: Grace, 23rd Gene Key: Simplicity, 25th
Gene Key: Acceptance, 27th Gene Key: Altruism, 30th Gene Key: Lightness, 31st Gene Key:
Leadership plus probably at least fourteen more!

[5] See the following:

"Choosing Seeds For Dialogue - Dennis Klocek, on the subject of consciousness in health ...":
http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=1963536

"Interpersonal Communication in the Spirit of Dialogue +":

http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=2221475

"Reiki Plus Communication Dyads":

http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=2344517

"Dialogue - 'The new community'! Without dialogue there is no genuine community.":

http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=2211300

"Up The Creek? Here's An OAR! - More understanding regarding the ways of true
communication.":
http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=2082540

"On Dialogue" by David Bohm: http://www.dennislewis.org/articles-other-writings/book-reviews/on-

dialogue/

[6] See: "The 'Dyad Ways' to Your Enlightenment of Who & What You Are!:
http://www.curezone.org/blogs/fm.asp?i=1749164

[7] http://with-omraam.com/science-religion-principles-forms-final/

[8] https://philosophyoffreedom.com/profiles/blog/list/tag/idealism

[9] http://www.paulstramer.net/2019/07/whats-really-going-on.html

[10] From a BG5 webinar slide presentation regarding “Understanding the Power of
Communication” - the first in a five webinar series: "Finding Your Voice In Communication and
Action."

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[11] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paul_Watzlawick#Five_basic_axioms
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