More Making Out in Japanese - Todd & Erika Geers PDF

At lastl A guide to
the Japanese language of lovel
Having trouble with your love life in

Japan? Can 't get your point across?
Worse yet, are there lots of things being
said to you or about you that you simply
don 't understand?
What can you do?

Learn to speak to your Japanese friends
and lovers the way a Japanese wou ld-
using the same colorful , colloqu ial lan-
guage that Japanese actually speak. From
" I want to know more about you " (Anata-
ni-tsulte motto shiritai) to " Do you want to
come to my place?" (Uchi-ni kuru?), here
is all the language you need to start up a
romance and keep it rolling. If things get
serious, you'll be ready with the right
proposal: "Will you make my mise soup for
breakfast?" (Choshoku-no miso-shiru-o
tsukuttekureru?) And if things don 't work
out, there are plenty of fighting words-
" Two-tirnert" I"wo"'-nono!)-to help you
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Erika Geers studied English under a private tutor

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and il lustrator. She now lives togeth er with her
husband in San Diego. California.
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Introduction ...... ... ............................ ............. 7
Information • •• • •••••• •• •••••• ••• • • •••• • •• • ••• ••• • •• • •• • • • • • • • • 9
1. Kissing . . 13
2. Petting .............. ... .... .. ................. ........... 40

3 . Making Love . . 54
4. Fighting . . 67
5. Marriage . . 99
6. Health . . 121
So how's your Japanese coming along? Are you now con-
versing effortlessly? No? Still don't know what they're talk-
ing about sometimes? Sounds like you didn't read Making
Out in Japanese . So go out and buy a copy-over 50,000
other people have. Read it, study it, live it, and love it. Mak-
ing Out in Japanese will show you how the Japanese really
speak. We use lots of shortcuts in our speech, and so do
they. Our colloquial way of speaking is relaxed and infor-
mal , and so is theirs. OK, with that plug out of the way,
let's move on to some new stuff.
In Japanese there is a slang use of "A," " B," and "C"
similar to the American English slang use of "first base,"
"second base," "third base," and "home ru n." These let-
ters denote kissing, petting, and making love, respective-
ly. The focus of this book is love, and the words and
phrases in it are listed in "love groups" corresponding to
these activities. In Chapter 1, "Kissing," you'll find all the
words and phrases you'll need to string and fire Cupid's
bow. Chapter 2, " Petting," will get you into a little more
intimate action, but it's rather tame compared with Chapter
3, "Making Love." If your relationship should deteriorate
before reaching Chapter 3, then Chapter 4, " Fighting,"
is the one for you. But if you hear wedding bells ringing,
head for Chapter 5, "Marriage." Finally, don't forget Chap-
ter 6, " Health." All those activities in Chapters 1 through
5 are more fun if you're in (or can get into) good shape.
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It's rather difficult to teach the proper pronunciation of a
foreign language in a book, so we're not going to try. To
help you out, though, we've joined two and sometimes
three or four words together, to make compound words
or phrases that are easier to pronounce. M ost of these
compounds are hyphenated to highl ight merged words,
to emphasize the slang suffixes and particles, and to facili-
tate pronunciation and memorization. Fuzakenai-deyo, for
example, is a compound phrase meaning " Don't be
stupidl" Its components are: fuzake (from fuzakeru), nai
(arimasen), and the slang suffix -deyo. The compound
phrase is rendered fuzakenai-deyo so that you will not
pause while pronouncing it, but say it entirely in one
breath ; a pause in the pronunciation will make the impact
weaker.
We 're sure that you're familiar with the interrogative sen-
tence forms desu-ka and masu-ka . Forget them. Except
for a few still employed when talking to strangers, request-
ing services, etc., the rest have been dismissed . In infor-
mal speech, rising intonation takes the place of these
forms. Thus, the final syllables of all words and phrases
in this book endi ng with a question mark should be
pronounced with the kind of rising intonatio n we give to
the question " Right?"
The terms "boy" and " girl" are used throughout the '
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10 • INFORMATION
book. Here, we are definitely referring to the sexes in the

post-puberty phase. Still, these sound a bit cuter than
"man" and " woman." If there's one thing you must un-
derstand to make it in the world of Japanese romance,
it's the power of "cute." Suppose, for example, you don't
know how to play tennis. It's not really important because,
come the spring, you must, like all the style-conscious
Japanese, carry a tennis racket everywhere you go. It's
not important whether or how well you play. What's im-
portant isthat you have a cute cover for your racket, prefer-
ably with three Mickey Mouse patches and some English
words. (Note: the English should not make sense-
something like "Active Sports: Traditional Mind for
Specialty" would do nicely.)
To eliminate the embarrassing problem of boys using
girls' words or vice versa, we've indicated the words suit-
able for use by girls and boys with the symbols " and
a respectivel y. A word designated a " can be used by
both sexes. For example:
Don't be upset. Okoranaide. "

Okoruna-yo. a
Make me warm. Atatamete. a"
There are two ways to say ne: the short ne (ne), said
with a falling intonation to show agreement or to add friend-
liness to speech; and the long ne (ne), said with a rising
intonation, often soliciting agreement with the meaning of
" Isn't it?" or "Aren't you?" Girls prefer ne and ne to con-
vey these meanings; guys prefer na and na. But if the guys
wish to upgrade their speech, they should use ne and ne,
especially when talking to girls.
Slang that is too faddish is not included in this book, be-
INFOR MATION · 11
cause such words come and go too quickly. If you use

old slang, the reaction of your Japanese date will likely
be "He thinks he's being cool speaki ng like that, but
nobody says that anymore. Hah, hahl " So avoid the hot
slang-if it's out of date people will think that you're funny
or square.
The Japanese have been borrowing foreign words for
so long that they've invented a special syllabary, katakana,
just to spell them with. Many of these loanwords appear
in this book. (To help you spot them, they're printed in
bold.) For example, to tell a girl "I like your hairstyle," you
could say Kimi-no heasutairu suki. The Japanese lan-
guage has only one final consonant (n), so when Japanese
pronounce English words with consonant endings, they
often tack on a vowel. The word "back," for example, be-
comes bakku; "cute" becomes kyOto; "game" becomes
gemu. The final " r" sound, also, does not exist in
Japanese. This ending is usually replaced with a long "a"
sound when pronounced by Japanese. The word "lock-
er," for example, becomes rokka. And since there is no
English "I" sound in Japanese, an "r" is used in its place.
Japanese enjoy using English words sporadically in their
speech and you should do the same. With a little prac-
tice, it's easy to get the hang of how to " katakana-ize" ,an
English word, that is, to pronounce it the way a Japanese
would. )
Now, shall we get on first base?
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Have I seen you before? Mae-ni ette-koto aru?

0'9
Do you come here Koko-ni yoku kuru? 0' 9

often?
You come here often, Koko-ni yoku kuru-

don't you? d eshB? 0' 9
Koko-ni yoku kuru -
darB? 0'
I've been watching you. Ana ta-no-koto zutto

miteta. 9
Kimi-no-koto zutto miteta.
0'
You're really pretty . Kimi-tte hontB-ni kite}

da ne. 0'
You 're handscme. Anata-tte hansamu-ne.

9
You're fascinating . Anata-wa miryokuteki-ne.

9
Kimi-wa miryokuteki-da .
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14 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I want to know more Anata-ni-tsuite motto

about you. shiritai. 9
Kimi-ni-tsuite motto
shiritai. C7
Come on, tell me more. Ii-janai. Motto oshiete-yo.

CJ9
Don't be shy. Hazukashigaranaide.•

CJ9
.. Also means "Don't be embarrassed."
Ask m e some questions. Nanka shitsumon-shite.

CJ 9
Nanka kiite. CJ 9
As k me anything you Suki-ne-koto nandemo

want. kiite it-no-yo. 9
Suki-na-koto nandemo
kiite-ii-yo. CJ 9
Except what color under- Nani ira-no shitagi-kawa

wear I'm wearing . dame. C7 9
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I like your personality. Anata-no seikaku suki-yo.

9
Kimi-no seikaku suki-
dayo. C/
You're my type. Anata-wa atashi-no suki-

na taipu. 9
Kimi-wa boku-no suki-na
taipu. C/
What' s your type? Donna hito-ga suki? C/ 9

Donna hito-ga konomi?
C/9
quiet: otonashii (usually chubby: potchari-shita

said about girls) glamorous: gurama-na
mukuchi-na (usually thin-waisted: uesto-ga hosoi
said about boys) small bull: chiisai ostwi-no
loud: nigiyaka-na long hair: kami-no nagai
funny: omoshiroi cute smile: egao-no kawaU
serious: majime-na pretty teeth: ha-no kirei·na
big: okii small breasts: mune-no
small: chiisai chiisai
considerate: omoiyari-no rich: okane-machi-no
aru tough: tafu-na
bright: akarui elite: emo-ne
tender: yasashii stylish: sutairisshu-na
manly: otokoppoi shy: hazukashigari-ya
fem inine: onnappoi outgoing: shitashimi-no aTU
cheerful: genki-no aru long legs: ashi·no nagai
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smart: atama-no ii big eyes: me-ga okii
cute: kawaii small mouth: kuchi-no
sexy: sekushii-na chiisai
slim: yaseteru sporty: sUpbti4na
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Substitute the words above in the following sentence:
I like type of ___ hito-g a ii. o Q

person.
I like your hairstyle. Anata-no haa sutairu

suki. Q
Kimi-no nee sutairu suki.
o
Do you follow the latest RyOk6-0 ou? o Q

fads?
What' s in now? Nani-ga ima hayatteru-

no? o Q
You have good taste in Fuku-no konomi-ga

clothes. ii-ne. * 9
Fuku-no konomi-ga
ii-na. * cr
* Konomi can be replaced with shumi.

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I'm not very stylish. Atashi-wa ryOko-ni

binkan-ja nai. 9
Atashi-wa anmari
sutairisshu-ja nai.· 9
Boku-wa ryOko-ni binkan-
ja nai. a
Boku-wa anmari
sutairisshu-ja nai.· a
"Especially said about clothes.
Will you give me some Nanika adobaisu-

advice? shitekureru? a 9
Shall we go shopping Kondo issno-o!

together someday? shoppingu-ni ikanai?
a9
I don't like to shop Hitori-de shoppingu-suru-

alone. nowa suki-ja nai. a 9
Do you have a steady? Tsukiatteru hito iru? a 9
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You must be very Moteru-desh6. a 9

popular. Moteru-dar6. a
You must have many Kanojo ippai irun-deshO.

boyfriends/girlfriends. 9
(You must be popular.) Kareshi ippai irun-dar6. a
You must have a girl- Kanojo irun-deshO.· 9

friend/boyfriend. Kareshi irun-daro. * C1
"The nuance is "You are pretty/handsome; therefore, I think

you must have a steady." Use these phrases to check jf the
person has a steady without comi ng right out and asking.
Yes. I had one, but we Un demo, saikin wakare-

just broke up. tao a 9
I've never dated a Ninon-no otoko-no-hito-to

Japanese boy/girl deto-shita-koto-nai. 9
before . Nihon-no onna-no-hito-to
deto-shita-koto-nai. a
Will you go out with me? Atashi-to dekakenai? 9

Boku-to dekakenai? a
I don't have anyone to Atashi-wa aisu kuriinu-o

share ice cream with. issho-ni taberu hito-ga
inai-no. 9
Boku-wa aisu kurimu-o
issho-ni taberu hito-ga
inain-da.· a
•Japanese girls love ice cream. This should get a date for the
boy.
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Do you smoke? Tabako SUU? C1 9
Do you drink beer/ Biiru/osakelwa/n nomu?

liquor/wine? C19
What do/did you study at Daigaku-de nani-o

college? senko-shiteru-no?' C1 9
Daigaku-de nani-o
senko-shita-no?' C1 9
.. Senko means "major study area."
I went to a special Atash/-wa senmon

(trade) school. gakko-ni me. 9
Boku-wa senmon gakko-
ni itta. CT
What type of school? Donna gakko? C1 9
Allow us to introduce Atashitachi-no jikoshOkai-

ourselves. sasete. 9
Bokutachi-no jikoshOkai-
sasete. C1
Would you introduce Anata-no tomodachi-o

your friends? shOkai-shite? 9
Kitni-no tomodachi-o
shOkai-shite? 0'
Let' s move to a bigger Motto okii teburu-ni

table. utsutt: 0' 9
Let' s pair off. Kogo-ni suwaro." ' 0' 9

Ittai itchi-ni wakareyo. -a
0'9
* 1.To sit down in pairs.

*2. Separate and go do something as couples.
• What do you think about Kore-n! tsuite do omou?

this? 0'9
You don't talk very Anata-wa anmari

much. shaberanai-none. 9
Kimi-wa anmari
shaberanai-ne. 0'
What do your friends Anata-no tomodachi

want to do? nani-ga shitai-no? 9
Kimi-no tomodachi nani-
ga shitai-no? 0'
Let's all go out together. Minna-de dekakeyo."'

0' 9
Minna-de oevs.:» 0' 9
* 1.Making plans to go out.

*2. As in "Let's leave this building. "
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It'll be a 101 of fun. Zettai lanoshii-yo. a9

Let's go to the beach. Umi-ni ika. a 9
Let's see a movie. Eiga-o miya. a 9

Who is your favorite YakushalJoyu -de dare-
actor/actress? ga suki?" a 9
* Yakusha means both actor and actress, and joyD means only
actress.
Did you see _ _? ___ mila? a9
I like _ _. ___·-ga suki. a 9
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-
Japanese are fond of onomatopoeias, words that imi-

tate sounds. Used at the right moment, the following
"sound words" will produce a laugh or three.
,
dog barking wen-wen C1 Q
cat meowing nyan-nyan 0 9
heavy rain zii-zii 09
light rain shito-shito 0 9
walking noise teku-teku 0 9
heavy cryi ng en-en 09
light crying shiku-shiku' 09
* Rub your eyes while saying shiku·shiku.
I'm hungry. Onaka -ga peko-peko.

09
My head feels dizzy. Atama-ga tura -tura. 0 9
I have a sharp pain in Onaka-ga kid-kiri itai.

my stomach . 09
What time does the next Tsugi-no kai nanji (desu-

show start? ka)? 0 9
We have plenty of time. Takusan jikan-ga aru.

0 9
Jikan-ga ippai aru. 0 9
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Let's make a line. (Let's NarabO. a 9

get in line.)
Are you waiting in line? Naranderun desu-ka?

a9
Naranderu-no? a 9
You wait here. Koko-de mattete. a 9
I'll do/buy it. Atashi-ga suru-wa/kau-

wa. 9
Boku-ga suru-yo/kau-yo.
a
Let' s sing karaoke . Karaoke-de utao. a 9
NOTE: Karaoke literally means "without orchestra." This popu-

lar activity usually takes place in special karaoke bars, and con-
sists of individual patrons singing the vocal lead of favorite
sonos.to the accompaniment of taped backup instrumentals.
Li ke all their fun. Japanese take this very seriously.
Do you like karaoke? Karaoke suki? a 9

That person's singing is Ano hita-no utaikata

interesting. omoshiroi. (7 9
What's a popular thing to Nani-ga hayatteru-no?

do? (79
Let's go to Yamashita Yamashita PfJ.ku-e iko.

Park. (7 9
I hear it's a good spot Deta-spotto-datte kiita.

for a date. C/9
Let's go to the park Mata pfJ.ku/koen -ni iko.

again . (7 9
I love to hold your hand Anata-to te-o tsunaide

as we walk through koen-o aruku-noga
the park. suki-yo. 9
Kimi-to te-o tsunaide
k6en-o aruku-noga
suki-dayo. (7
I came here by car. Kuruma-de kita. (7 9
Would you like to go fo r Doraibu-ni ikitai? C/ 9

a drive?
I have room for two of Anata-no tomodachi

your friends. tuteti-bun-no seki-mo
aru-wayo. 9
Kimi-no tomodachi lutari-
bun-no seki-mo aru-yo. "
(7
"Sure way to get her to go .
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I'll order (for you/us). Oda-shite ageru. CJ' 9
Would you like some- Nanika taberu/nomu?

thing to eaUdrink? CJ'9
What do you want? Nani-ga ii? CJ' 9
Let' s go Dutch. Warikan-ni shiyo. CJ' 9
Let's have one check. Denpyo-o issho-ni shiyo.

CJ'9
One check, please. Denpyo-o hitotsu-ni shite

kudasai. CJ' 9
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Which credit cards do Doko-no kurejitto kfJdo-

you accept? ga tsukaemasu-ka?
a9
I lost my wallet. Saifu-o nekuenn». a 9
I don 't have any money. Okane-ga nanimo-nai.

a9
Can I borrow 10,000 fchiman-en kashite-
yen? kureru? a 9
I scored (with her). Nempe-sbite.: a
"Nempe means "dishonest person" and the opposite. kOlla.

means "honest person." A nampa person might ask to make
love on the first date. whereas a kOha person might wait till
their ......adding night. In this context, Nampa·shita means "I went
girl hunting (successfully)." This is a boy's phrase because only
girls get nampa 'd . A nampa-yare is a boy who likes girl hunt-
ing. (Koha-shita does not have any meaning.)
Drink up! Ikki! ikkW a 9
·/kld! Jkki! is an encouraging cheer which means something

like "Drink it all up without stopping."
Cheers! Kampai!" a 9
"'Kampail is said as everyone is clinking thei r glasses together

for the toast. It means, literally, "dry glass."
Drink quickly to catch up. Kaketsuke ippai. a 9
I'm getting drunk. Yotte-kichatta, a 9

Yopparatte-kichatta. a9
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I'm drunk. Yotchatta. Cf 9

Yopparatcha tta. 09
I have a splitting Atama-ga wsreru-yo-n:

headache. itai. 09
Sugoi zutsu-ga suru.
09
You drank too much last Kino-wa takusan

night, didn't you? nomisugita-ne? 0 9
Kino-wa takusan
nomisugita-na? Cf
By the way, . . . Tokorode, . . . 0 9
I'm sorry, but . . . Warui-kedo, ... 09 •
Who was that? Are dare? Cf 9

)
Will you be my Japanese Atashi-no nihongo-no

leacher? sensei-ni nattekureru?
9
Baku-no nihongo-no
sensei-ni nattekureru?
C7
I'll teach you English. Atashi-ga eigo-o oshiete

ageru. 9
Boku-ga eigo-o oshiete
ageru. C7
What shall we do now? /ma-kara do-suru? C7 9
I want to go to _ _ __-ni ikitai. C7 9
I'm lost. Michi-ni mayotta."' C7 9

Wakaranai. "' C7 9
·1 . This is used when you've lost your way.

-2. This is used when you don't understand.
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Please write down the Iki-kata-o kaite. 0 '(

d irections for me.
Don 't forget to list the Eki-no namae-no risuto-o

train station names. wasurenaide. 0 '(
Will you tell me which Dotchi-no densha-ka

train to take? oshietekureru? 0 '(
How will I know when to Itsu oriru-ka do wakaru-

get off (the train)? no? 09
I'll be waiting at _ _ ___ -de matteru. 0 9
Get off at _ _ _ _ (eki)-de orite. "

(station).
• Eki, which means "station," is added to the proper name of

some stations, but not to all: e.g., Yokohama Eki, Kanagawa
Shinmachi, etc.
Are you busy right noW? Ima isogashii? a 9
Let's go to a disco. Disuko-ni iko.· a 9
Let' s go to your favorite Anata-no yoku iku

disco. disuko-ni iko. · 9
Kimi-no yoku iku disuko-
oi ik6. CI
"Use yoku iku to describe a place you "go to often."
I've never been to a Mada disuko-ni itta-koto-

disco. nai. a 9
Is it true Japanese boys Nihon-no otoko-no-hito-

dance together? tte issho-ni odorutte
honto? a 9
How much is the ad- Hairu-no ikura? a 9

mission?
Does it include food and Tabemono-to nomimono

drink? komi? a 9
Do we get membership Menbashippu kado-wa

cards? moreemesu-ke?" a 9
"Said to club staff. When talking to friends, use the less formal
moraeru?
I'm a member. Atashi-wa menbi!l. (desu).

9
Boku-wa menba (desu).
a
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Here are your tickets. Hai, chiketto. Cf 9

Hai-yo. · o 9
Hora-yo.· Cf
• Hai-yo and Hara-yo mean "Here you go" as one might say
when handing over something.
Are there lockers here? Rokkii arimasu-ka? Cf 9

Rokkii aru? Cf 9
Let's use the loc kers. Rokkii-o tsukao. Cf 9
Where do you want to Doko-ni suwaritai? o 9

sit?
It' s noisy here. Koko urusai. Cf 9
It' s too noisy here. Koko urusasugiru. Cf 9

There's too much Hitodori-ga osugiru. "

"traffic" here. Cl9
*Hitodori applies to "people traffic" only.
It's dark over there. Asoko-wa kurai. o 9
These seats look good. Kono isu yosaso. o9

This is a nonsmoking Koko-wa kin-enseki. o 9
section.
Let's sit close to the Dansu furoalb8/bando/

dance floor/bar/band/ otearai; toireldeguchi/
restroomslexiVaisie. tsOro -no chikaku-ni
suwaro. o 9
How many tickets for one Nomimono hitotsu-wa

drink? chiketto nanmai (desu-
kay? o 9
It takes two tickets for one Chiketto ni-mai-de

drink. nomimono ip¢bun.
Cl 9
Free drinks are over Fun dorinku-wa asoko.

there. Cl 9
Can we buy beer here? Koko-de biru kaeru? o 9
The drinks here taste Koko-no nomimono

terrible! mazui! 9
Koko-no nomimono
mazui-yo! o
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This is not very strong. Anmari tsuyokunai. C1 Q
They serve weak drinks «oko-no nomimono min-

here. na yowai. C1 Q
Ask for stronger drinks. Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o

tanonde. " I C1 Q
Onaji-no-o tsuyokusuru-
yo-ni itte. * 1 C1 Q
-1 . Telling your friend that you want your next drink to be

stronger.
·2. Tailing your friend to order another drink just like you have
now, only stronger.
Stronger drinks, please. Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o

kudasai. C1 Q
Please make this drink Kore motto tsuyokushite

stronger. kudasai. C1 Q
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Let's get some food . Tabemono toro. · cr 9
" From the food bar/counter.
Menu, please. Menyii kudasai. o 9
Have you decided? Kimeta? 0' 9
I'll orde r (for us). Atashi-ga oda-suru. 9

Boku-ga oda-suru. 0'
l!You forgot the chop- Hashi-o wasureta.· 0' 9

sticks.
"Fork is foku, knife is nenu. and spoon is supiin.

I can't decide what to do Mayoi-bashi.· 0' 9
with my chopsticks.
.. For example, you are indecisive when reaching for food, un-
sure of what to eat.
NOTE: Food should not be passed IrOO1 one set of chopsticks

to another. for the Japanese place the ashes of their deceased
into a funeral urn in this manner. Chopsticks should never be
grasped in the fist, since this is how they would be held for use
as a weapon. It is considered poor manners to lick chopsticks
and extremely offensive to stand chopsticks on end in a bowl
of rice. for this is how food is offered to the spirits of the de-
ceased.
We need another chair. Mo hitotsu isu-ga iru.

0'9
I'll get that one over Are mottekuru. 0' 9

there.
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I'll bring it with me. Motteku. CI Q
You sit here. Koko-ni suwatte. CI Q
I'll sit there. Soko-ni suwaru. CI Q
Sit by me. Atashi-no sobalyoko ·ni

suwatte.· Q
Boku-no sobalyoko -ni
suwatte.· CI
-Saba means "close" and yoko means "beside."
Sit closer. Motto chikaku-ni suwatte.

ClQ
If I get drunk, that's Moshi atashi-ga

okay. yopparatte-mo heiki-yo.
Q
Meshi boku-ga
yopparatte-mo heiki-
dayo. CI
I have a futon' in my Poketto-ni futon-ga hait-

pocket. teru. a 9
•Japanese bedding. This is a joke. of course.
Will you dance with me? Atashi-to odottekureru?

9
Boku-to odottekureru? a
I like to watch you Anata-no odoti-o mitu-

dance. noga suki. 9
Kimi-no odori-o miru-
noga suki. a
I'm not good at dancing . Dansu umakunai-no. 9

Dansu umakunain-da. a
I like slow dancing . Sura dansu-ga suki. a 9
Are you in the mood? Notieru? " a 9
*Can be used for any mood.
Not really. Anmari. a 9

Betsu-ni. a 9
I don 't feel like dancing Mada odoru-ki shinai.

yet. a 9
I'm not going to dance Mada odoranai. a 9
yet.
I can't dance to this Kono kyoku-ja odorenai. :

music. a 9
KISSING' 37
I don 't know this song. Kono uta shiranai. o '{
I like rock 'n' roll. ROkkun-roru-ga suki.

Cf'{
I like jazz. Jazu-ga suki. cr '{
I like American Top-40 Amerikan Toppu-4D-no

music. ongaku suki. o '{
The dance-floor lights are Furoa-no raito kakkoii-ne.

cool. '{
Furoa-no raito kakkoii-na.
o
Dancing makes me hot. Dansu·shitara atsukunat-

ta.· CI Q
"Hot as in sweaty.
Let's get a breath of Shinsen-na kOki-o sui-ni

fresh air. iko. CI Q
What time do they close? Nanji-ni shimaru-no? CI Q
What time is the last SaishO densha nanji?

train? ClQ
What time do you have Nanji-ni shigoto iku-no?

to be at work? ClQ
What time is your Mongen nanji? CI Q

curfew?
We have plenty of time. Jikan-ga tappuri eiu.

ClQ
Let's stay to the end . Saig%wari -made iyo.

ClQ
Let's stay till they throw Oidasareru-made iyo.

us out. ClQ
Let's go to a coffee shop Ato-de kohT shoppu-e

later. iko. CI Q
May I see you again? Mata aeru? CI Q
Let's do this again. Mata kore shiyo. CI Q

KISSING' 39
Let' s get together later. Ato-de mata-ne. · 0' 9
"This means "Let's separate now and get back together later
today."
Let' s see each other Mata aB. 0' <;

again.
Let's meet on Tuesday KayBbi-ni anata-no

at your favorite coffee okiniui-no kBhl shoppu-
shop. de aB. 9
KayBbi-ni kimi-no okiniiri-
no kBhl shoppu-de aB.
0'
I'm glad we met. Aete yokatta. 0' <;
I'm happy to see you Mata aete ureshii. 0' <;

again.
If I had n't taken that Ano densha-ni

train, we wou ldn't noranakattara
have met. atashitachi awanakatta.
9
Ano densha-ni
noranakattara
bokutachi awanakatta.
0'
Do you believe in Unmei-tte shinjiru? 0' 9

destiny?
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1 had a wonderful time SenshOIKino-no

last weekllast night! yoru/SenshO-no kin-
last Friday/yesterday. y5bilKin5 -wa
tanoshikatta. C1 9
Do you think of me Atashi-no-koto yoku kan-

often? gaeru? <;
Boku-no-koto yoku kan-
gaeru? C1
I think of you night and Anata-no-koto ichinichi-jO

day. kangaeru. 9
Kimi-no-koto ichinichi-jO
kangaeru. C1
I couldn 't stop thinking Anata-no-koto bakkari

about you. kangaeteta. <;
Kimi-no-koto bakkari kan-
gaeteta. C1
I remember what you Anata-ga itta-koto

said . oboeteru.· <;
Kimi-ga itta-koto
oboeteru. * C1
-For "remembered," change oboeteru to oboeteta.
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PETIING ·41
I wanted to call you Motto hayaku denwa-

sooner. shitakatta. a '{
What would you like to Kon-ya nani shitai? a '{

do tonight?
What sounds good? Nani-ga ii-ka ? a '{

D6-shiy6-ka? a '{
NOTE: The boy should make the decision so he doesn't seem

weak. The gi rl will most likely say Wakannai o 9 ("I don't
know/care"); Makaseru-wa 9 (" It's up to you"-the boy's
equivalent is Makaseru-yo); or Kimete o Q ("You decide").
Can you see me Ashita eeru? : a '{

tomorrow?
* Also means "Can I see you tomorrow?"
Can you go out this Kondo-no doy6bi

Saturday? derareru?* a '{
"This means "Can you go out of the house this Satu rday?"
Use . . . dekakerareru? for "Can you go out with me ... 7"
I can 't wait till then. Sore-made matenai. C1 Q
I can wait till then. Sore-made materu. C1 Q
I like holding your hand . Ana ta-no te-o nigiru-noga

suki. Q
Kimi-no te-o nigiru-noga
sukl. C1
I like kissing you. Anata-ni kissu-suru-noga

suki. Q
Kimi-ni kissu-suru-noga
suki. C1
You 're a good kisser. Kissu-ga j6zu-ne. Q

Kissu-ga j6zu-dana. C1
Your lips are so soft. Anata-no kuchibiru-wa

totemo yawarakai. Q
Kimi-no kuchibiru-wa
totemo yawarakai. C1
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You're the only one I Atashi-ga hoshii-nowa

want. anata-dake. Q
Boku-ga hoshii-nowa
kimi-dake. C1'
I can't wait to tell you . lu-noga machikirenai.

aQ
I was only joking. Honrrada -no jOdan-

dayo. a Q
Don't take it so seriously. Sonna-ni maji-ni

toranaide. Q
Sonna-ni maji-ni toruna-
yo. a
It wasn 't your day, was Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-ne?

it? Q
Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-na.?
a
It's boring, isn't it? Tsumennei-ne? Q

Tsumannai-na? a
Do you feel comfortable Atashi-to hitomae-ni iku-

in public with me? no ki-n! naru? Q
Boku-to hitomae-ni iku-no
ki-ni naru? a
I don't want you to get Atashi-no sei-de iya-na

hurt on my account. omoi sasetakunai. Q
Boku-no sei-de iya-na
omoi sasetakunai. a
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Tell me when someone Dareka-ga atashitachi-no-

talks about us. koto hanashitetara
oshiete. 9
Dareka-ga bakutachi-no-
koto hanashitetara
oshiete. a
NOTE: A jealous Japanese boy might make a passing remark

to his buddy about a Japanese girl with a foreign boyfriend;
some boys might even say something to the girt Here are a
few phrases you might hear.
Who does she think she Jibun-na-kato nanda-ta

is? amatte irun-daro? a
She must like big ones! Aitsu okii·noga suki nan-

daze! a
I wish I had a big one! Boku-no-mo motto oki-

kattarana!' a
"This old only has one l.
She has a light butt. Shirigaru onna. · a 9
.. Means she easily hops from boy to boy, bed to bed,
Public restroom. Kfuhii benjo.· a9

"Means she'll let anyone use her.
She'll be used and then Yararete suterareru.· a

thrown away.
"To say to the girl, add -yo to suterareru. To say to onesetf,

add -noni to the end of suterareru.
PEniNG ' 45
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She's stupid! Aitsu baka-dayo! (J'
You're dirty! (Your rela- Kitanai! (J' <;I

tio nship is shameful.)
Don't be jealous! Yakimochi yakuna-yo!'

(J'
"This is a good response to any of the above phrases.
Do you care what they Minna-ga do omou-ka ki-

th ink? ni naru? (J' <;I
Don 't let them bother Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni

yo u. shinaide. <;I
Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni
suruna-yo. (J'
Don't be upset. Okoranaide. <;I

Okoruna-yo. (J'
Does your family know Anata-no kazoku

about us? atashitachi-no-koto
shitteru? 9
Kimi-no kazoku
bokutachi-no-koto
shitteru? a
I told my family about Kazoku-ni anata-no-koto

you. hanashita. 9
Kazoku-ni kimi-no-koto
hanashita. a
Do you think we should Atashitachi mata atta-ho-

see each other again? ga ii-to omou? 9
Bokutachi mata atta-ho-
ga ii-to omou? a
PETIING· 47
Tell me what you think. Anata-wa do omou-ka

oshiete. 9
Kimi-wa do omou-ka
ashiete. a
Make it clear. Hakkiri-sasete. a 9
Please don't go. Ikanaide. a 9

You don't know. Anata-wa shiranai-noyo.
9
Kimi-wa shiranain-da. a
We've known each other Atashitachi shiriatte-kara

now for three months. san-kagetsu-ni naru. 9
Bokutachi shiriatte-kara
san-kagetsu-ni naru. a
Are you an only child? Anata hitorikko?' 9

Kimi nnoti-musume?: 0'
Are you the oldest? Anata ichiban ue?" 9

Kimi ichiban ue?' a
Are you going to support RyBshin-no rogo-no

and provide for your mendo miru-no?' a 9
parents in their old
age?
* Usually the only child or the oldest male will live with his
aging parents, supporting and caring for them.
We can make it work. Donika naru-wayo. 9

Donika naru-yo. a 9
I want to know what Ana ta-ga do omotteru-ka

you' re feeling . shiritai. 9
Kimi-ga do omotteru-ka
shiritai. o
It'll all change. Subete kawaru-wayo. 9

Subete kawaru-yo. o 9
I can' t think of anything Anata-no-koto igai-wa

but you. kangaerarenai. 9
Kimi-no-koto igai-wa
kangaerarenai. o
I can 't live without your Anata-no ai-nashi-ja

love. ikirarenai. 9
Kimi-no ai-nashi-ja
ikirarenai, a
Say you'll be mine. Atashi-no mono-ni naru-

to itte. 9
Boku-no mono-ni naru-to
itte. o
I'll make you happy. Shiawase-ni suru-yo.· o

-Girts might think this is a proposal.
I've never felt this way Konna kimochi-ni natta-

before . koto-nai. cr 9
We had fun together , Tanoshikatta-ne? 9

didn't we? Tanoshika tta-nii.? o
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Do you remember our Hajimete-no dato

first date? oboeteru? CT Q
Look into my eyes. Atashi-no me-o mite. Q

Boku-no me-o mite. CT
Stay just a little bit M6 chotto-dake issho-ni

longer. ite. CT Q
I couldn't have done it Anata-nashi-ja

without you. dekinakatta. Q
Kimi-nashi-ja dekinakatta.
CT
Do Japanese couples go Nihon-no kappuru-wa

"parking"? ka-sekkusu-suru-no?'
09
•Ka-sekkusu is car s ex.
No. There aren't any Uun, ii chOsha-basho-ga

good parking places. nai. a 9
Where do they go? Minna doko-ni iku-no?

09
Let' s find a good place. Ii basho-o sagasa. a 9
How do you know of Sonna basho nande

such a place? shitteru-no? a 9
People can see us here. Koko-ja hito-ni miechau-

yo. a 9
That'll make it more ex- Shigeki-teki-yo. 9

citing. Shigeki-teki-dayo. a
Let's get in the back Bakku shito-ni suwara.

seat. a9
Let's recline the front Furonto srato-o raose,

seats. 0 9
Take your shoes off. Kutsu-o nugi-nayo. a
Relax. Rirakkusu-shite. a 9
Enjoy yourself. Enjoi-shite. a 9

PETTING ' 51
Take you r off. Kutsu-o nuide." 0 9

Buraja-o hazushite. '2
09
Shitagi-o totte. '3 0 9
Yi5fuku-o nuide. '. 0 9
"1 . shoes 2. bra 3. underwear 4. clothes
I'm cold. Samui. 09
Make me warm. Atatamete. CJ' 9
Doesn't that feel better? Sono-hi5-ga kimochi

yokunai? CJ' 9
Do it like this. Konna-fii-ni shite. 0 9

That's right. SCrdane. 09

SO-dana. 0
Mane.· 0 9
-Mane is often used to mean "I know." If said teasingly, it

means "Yeah, I know (but I might not tell you)." Mane is also
used in the jokingly conceited response "Yeah, I know. Don't
mention it."
Let' s use the blanket. Motu-o tsukao. 0 9
The blanket's dirty. Motu kitanai. 0 9
The following are parts of a conversation about sex

that anyone might have!
Boy: Let's do it now. Ima shiyo. 0 9

Girl: I want to wait till Kekkon-suru·made
my wedding night. machifai. 0 9
Boy: Explain. Setsumei-shite. 0 9
Boy: I want to know Naze-ka shiritai. 0 9
why.
Gi rl: It's too soon. Hayasugiru. 0 9
Girl: The first time Hajimete-no toki-wa
should be special. tokubetsu-ja nakucha.
09
Girl: It should be more Motto romanchikku-ja
romantic. nakutcha. · 0 9
Girl: Try again next Kondo tameshite. 0 9
time.
Boy: What next time? Kondo-tte nan-dayo? 0
Kondo-tte nani-yo ? 9
Boy: Now or never! Ima-ka mo shinai-ka!
09
PETIING' 53
Girl : OK , let's go. Wakatta, iki'J . cr 9

Boy: Are you sure? Honto-ni it-no? o 9
Girl : Hurry, or I'll Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga
change my mind. kawatchau. 9
Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga
kawaru. o
Girl: What' s wrong? OOka shite-no?" o 9
OO-shita-no?" o 9
Nanka atta-no?" o 9
Do-shitan-dayo? o
'These should be voiced with some concern.
Boy: This is my first Kore-ga hajimete-nanda.

time. o
Kore-ga hajimete-nano.
9
Boy: I don't know what D6-shitara ii-ka wakannai.
to do. Cf9
Girl: Why not? Nande dame-nano? o 9
Boy: I haven't read Mada Chaputii Surii-o
Chapter 3 yel. yondenai. cr 9
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Stay with me tonight. Konya-wa atashi-to ssro-

ni ite. 9
Konya-wa boku-to issbo-
ni ita. Cf
I'll tell you something-I Chotto kiite-aishiteru.

love you. <79
Chotto kiite- aishiteru-yo.
<7
I know what's on your Anata-ga nani

mind . kangaeteru-ka shitteru.
9
Kimi-ga nani kangaeteru-
ka shitteru-yo. <7
No, you don't. Shiruwakenai-deshO. 9

Shiruwakenai-daro. <7
You're thinking dirty Anata-wa yarashii-koto

thoughts. kangaeteru. 9
Kimi-wa yarashii-koto
kangaeteru. <7
So are you. Anata-mo. 9

Kimi·mo. C1
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MAKING LOVE ' 55
I like that kind of SO-yO kangae suki. C1 9

thinking. Jibun-datte.· C1 9
•A livelier phrase.
You're the only one I Anata-dake-o aishiteru.

love. 9
Kimi-dake-o aishiteru. C1
NOTE: Go easy at first on the sweet talk. Japanese boys don't

throw around a lot of compliments or terms of endearment. so
most girls are not accustomed to such attention: However, in
the long run, most will definitely enjoy it.
I don't love anyone else. Hoka-no dare-mo

aishitenai. C1 9
I love you so much I Shinu-hodo aishiteru.

could die. C19
I love you for who you Anata-rashisa-o eishiteru-

are. no. 9
Kimi-rashisa-o aishiterun-
da. C1
)
Now is the right time. Ima-ga sono-toki-yo. 9

Ima-ga sono-tosi-de. a
It hurts to be without Anata-nashi-da to tsurai.

you . 9
Kimi-nashi-da to tsurai.
a
Hold me tight. Shikkari dakishimete. 9

Tsuyoku dakishimete.
0'9
See me tonig ht. Konya alte. a 9
I don't want to be used. Asobaretakunai.· a 9
* Asobu means "to play."
Believe in me. (Trust Atashi-o shinjite. 9

me.) Boku-o shinjite. a
MAKING LOVE' 57
I want to know all about Anata-no-koto subete

you . shiritai. 9
Kimi-no-koto subete
shiritai. cr
You're so very precious. Anata-wa tottemo tai-

setsu.· 9
Kimi-wa tottemo taise-
tsu." CI
"Ihis is a very powerful expression of love and devotion. Use

with caution.
I want to make love to Anata-to beddo-in shitai."

you. 9
Anata-to netai. 9
Kimi-to beddo-in shitai. "
o
Kimi-to netai. o
BedcJo..in means "go to bed. " The In is pronounced the same
as the English "in."
I don't want to go home Konya-wa uchi-ni

tonight. kaeritakunai.· 9
"Popular phrase. If she says this, pat yourself on the back.
Do you want to come to Uchi-ni kuru? o 9

my place?
Take me tonight. Konya anata-no mono-ni

shite. · 9
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"Literally means "Make me yours tonight. "

NOTE: Japanese do not often directly say "Let's go to bed ."

Instead the words are conveyed by the mood. These phrases
are useful in case you miss the mood signals. Also, Japanese
girls will not be the first to mention going to a love hotel (rabu
horeru. a special hotel that rents rooms to couples by the hour)
unless they are real playgirls or long-time steadies. And , nice to
know. most Japanese giris will not take off their own dothes.
Almost always they will wait for the boy to remove them.
It's too early (to go to Mada hayai. a 9

bed).
Young Japanese people usually live with their parents

right up to their wedding day. With small houses and
paper-thin walls, the living arrangements are not con-
ducive to good sex. Owning a car provides little es-
cape , for there are few pleasant, obscure places to
park short of driving two or three hours to the country-
side. So, where do the non-farmers go for a roll in the
hay? Better yet, where can you go? Have you heard
of a love hotel? No? Come along with us on a trip to
a love hotel and we 'll show you firsthand this great
Japanese institution.
Shall we hail a taxi or drive our car? A car is no
problem , for most love hotels have parking facilities
that are both free and concealed for those extra-
careful people. One would think that the free parking
alone would make the love hotel a popular attraction
for it exists nowhere else in Japan. Anyway, identifying
a love hotel is not so difficult, for most of them are lo-
cated near big train stations (four tracks or more), in
entertainment districts, and along major highways.
They are usually well lit with colorful Japanese charac-
ters or katakana in neon, or just a sign saying "Hotel, "
with some twinkling stars floating around it. If there are
MAKI NG LOVE · 59
no obvious markings, look for big , big objects on the

roof. A 3D-foot mock Statue of Liberty or Queen
Elizabeth (the ship, not the monarch) on top of a
building that has no other visible advertisements or
signs is a dead giveaway. Also, the absence of a
doorman and furnished lobby with a front desk should
scream love hotel.
As we enter the love hotel we see a big display
board with pictures of the rooms. Some of the pictures
are lighted and some are not; the lighted pictures indi-
cate rooms that are still available. There are many to
choose from, all with different themes: hot air balloon,
S & M, boxing, and even a race-car room . Let' s
check out the boxing-ring room. Below the picture is a
button which causes the room key to drop out when
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pushed. Before we go to the elevator, we notice the

two prices below the picture; the cheaper price is the
two-hour rate and the other price, usually three to four
times higher, is for an all-nighter. Most rooms have
yen meters installed to keep you informed of the price
you must pay for your pleasure. (Daytime discount
rates are available at most love hotels; pack a lunch
and enjoy.) At last we arrive at the room . It is identical
to that shown in the picture: bed with ropes and stan-
chions, boxing equipment, refrigerator, TV (regular TV
and pay channels), ad ult videotapes for rent (usually
fifteen- or twenty-minute movies), and a lar ge, open
shower/bathtub room . Coffee and tea are complimen-
tary, but the sodas and beer are not. "Adult toys" are
available; use the menu located next to the phone.
Five hours and three baths later, we leave the room
and see two Japanese maids scurry into it to prepare
it for the next couple. Before cleaning the room , the
maids will thoroughly inventory the refrigerator and all
proprietary love notions, including the arched foam
pad for the bathroom floor. So, don 't put the cap
back on the empty bottle and return it to the
refrigerator-these cleaning ladies are hip to that skip!
MAKING LOVE' 61
We're back in the lobby again, standing before the

pay window. Actually it's not a window but a slit for
passing money through. The service at a love hotel is
very discreet; you don't see them and they don't see
you . ID's aren't even checked . There's a rule of
thumb: If you're old enough to pay, you're old
enough to play.
Come closer to me. Motto chikaku-ni aide-yo.

a9
I'm so glad I waited. Matte-ite yokatta. a 9
Your hair smells good. Anata-no kaminoke ii

nioi. 9
Kimi-no kaminoke ii nioi.
a
I What perfume/cologne Nanna k6sui/koron

are you wearing? tsuketeru-no? a 9
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What color underwear Nani ira-no shitagi-o

are you wearing? tsuketeru-no? 0' <;>
I like your underwear. Sono shftagi ka waii-ne. "

<;>
Sono shftagi kawaii-na. "
0'
Sono shitagi suteki-ne. •
<;>
Sono shftagi su tekl-
dana.' 0'
•Kawai; means "cute" and sutek; means "nice" or "pretty,"
That tickl es. Kusuguttai. 0' <;>

Kusuguttai-yo. 0'
You have beautiful skin. Kirei-na had a-cfane . 0'
I found your birthmark. Hokura-o mitsuketa. 0' <;>

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MAKING LOVE ' 63
I'm getting excited. Ki5fun-shitekichatta .•

o Q ,.r"
"This phrase is only used for sexual excitement.
I forgot to use protection . Hinin-suru-no

wasurechatta. a9
Did it hurt? ftakatta ? a 9
When was your first ex- Shotaiken itsu?' a 9
perience?
Where was your first ex- Shotaiken-wa doko-datta-

perience? no?: o 9
· "Experience" (taiken) here means sex.
I won't tell you. Oshienai. a 9

Do you like to make love Shawa-o abinagara
in the shower? sekkusu-suru-no suki?
a 9
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Do you like to make love Asa sekkusu-sutu-no

in the morning? suki? (J' 9
Just joking. J6dan-dayo. (J'''
1 made love. Beddo-in sn ite. C1"
I made love to a girl. Onna-o daita .· (J'
" Literally means "I held a girl"-big, bragging words.
breast op pai (J' "
mune (J' "
nipple(s) chikubi (J' "
buttocks hippu "

oshiri (J' "
ketsu C1
hip koshi (J' "
waist uesto (J'''
nape of the neck kubisuji (J' "
bellybutton oheso (J' "
ear lobe mimitabu (J'''
down there asoko ' (J' 9
•Asoko usually means "over there" but in this sense it means

the "private parts."
MAKING LOVE • 65
NOTE: The Japanese believe a high and big nose on a boy in-
dicates he is well endowed, and a small mouth and skinny an-
kles on a girl indicate she is tightly endowed.
Bite my shoulders. Kata-o kande. CI 9
NOTE: Japanese boys worry about their virginity and the first
time they make love. Normally, Japanese girls will be passive
for the first love session so as not to act like experienced
lovers.
Sixty-nine. Shikkusu-nain. · CI 9
'n's "six-nine" in Japanese, not "sixty-nine."
I like to "sixty-nine." Shikkusu-nain suki. CI 9
Let's do "sixty-nine." Shikkusu-nain-de shiy6 .

Cl9
Show me your Doko-ga kanjiru-ka

erogenous areas. oshiete. CI 9
l
I like to try different Chigau sutairu-o

styles. tameshitai. Cf 9
.
You think of a new po- Atarashii ka kk6 -0 kan-
sition. gaete. Cf 9
I'm tired of that one. Are-niwa akita. 0' 9
That' s original. Sore-wa orijinaru. 0' 9
That sounds exciting . Wakuwaku-shichau. "

0'9
Wakuwaku-suru. · 0' 9
*Wakuwaku-shichaulsuru can be used in nonsexual contexts

such as "That party sounds exciting. "
Let' s do it again. M6 ikkai shiy6. 0' 9
girl bottomiboy top selj6i· 0' 9
boy bottom/g irl top klj6i' 0' 9
doggy style bakku ' 0' 9
*SeijOi literally means "normal"; kijo; means "to ride"; and bak·
ku means, well . you know. To make a sentence meaning
something like "Let' s do it doggy style," one would say Bakku-
de shiyo; for "Let's have the gi rl ride the hobby horse," one
would say Kijoi-de shiyo; and for "Let's be missionaries," one
would say Seijoi-de shiyo. .
FICIJIIMG
You told me that you Aishiteru-tle itla-yone?

love me, didn't you? Cl Q
Aishiteru-tle itla-dar6? CI
Are you telling me you Atashi-o m6 aishitenai-tle

don't love me itleru-no? Q
anymore? Boku-o m6 aishitenai-tle
itteru-no? C1
You lied to me. Usotsuita-ne. Q

Usotsuita-na. CI
You lie to me all the ltsumo uso-bekketi-tsuku.

time. ClQ
Stop lying to me. Usotsuku-no yamete. CI Q
It was stupid of me to Aoara-o shinjiru-nante

trust you. baka-datla. Q
Kimi-o shinjiru·nante
baka-datla. CI
I can 't tru st you Anata-no-koto m6 shin-

anymore. jirarenai. Q
Kimi-no-koto m6 shin-
.. .
Jlrarenal. Cf
67
Everything you've said is Anata-ga itta-koto minna

a lie. uso-da. <;>
Kimi-ga itta-koto minna
usc-de. (J'
I knew it wouldn 't work. Dame-dato wakatteta-wa .

<;>
Dame-dato wakatteta-yo.
(J'
You've changed, haven't Anata-wa kawatta-ne? <;>

you? Kimi-wa kawatta-nii? CI
You messed up my life. Atashi-no jinsei-o dame-ni

shita. <;>
Boku-no jinsei-o dame-ni
shita. (J'
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'1•
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'"" I
- - j'l
FIGHTING ' 69
Don't hurt me anymore. Ma kizutsukenaide. C7 9
Let's not tie each other Otagai-ni shibaru-nowa

up. yameya.· C7 9
"As in "Let's see other people."
You 're the one who said, Anata-ga ma au-nowa

" Let's stop seeing yosa-lle me-rove. 9
each other." Kimi-ga ma au-nowa
yosa-lle ittan-dayo. C7
Let's not get serious Ima shinken-ni naru-

now. nowa yosa.· C7 9
"The use of "let's" here is very Japanese, for it invites the

other party into the decision-making process. Most Japanese
are indirect in their speech. Directly stating one's wishes will
halve the normal runaround encountered when talking to
Japanese.
I don 't want to get Shinken-ni naritakunai.

senous. C79
I don't even want to Kangae-taku-mo nai.

think about it. C79
What does that mean? 06-iO imi? 0' 9
Wipe your tears away. Namida-o tuite. 0' 9
You take me for granted. Atashi-o riy6-shiteru-

none. 9
Boku-o riy6-shiterun-da. 0'
You 're so selfish! Anata-wa totemo

wagamama! 9
Kimi-wa totemo wagama-
mal 0'
Who am I to you? Atashi-wa anata-ni-totte

nan-nano? 9
Boku-wa kimi-ni-totte
nan-nano? o
Who do you think I am? Atashi-o nanda-to

omotteru-no? 9
Boku-o nanda-to
omotterun-da? 0'
I wasn't born yesterday. Atashi-wa baka-ja nain-

dakara.· 9
Boku-wa baka-ja nain-
dakara.· 0'
*Literally means "I'm not a fool."
I don't belong here. Atashi-wa koko-ni

awanai. 9
Boku-wa koko-ni awanai.
0'
FIGHTING' 71
t\l\~
/i,, _
Do you know what Do-iO tsumori? CJ' 9

you're doing?
Don 't tell me what to do. Meirei-shinaide. * CJ' 9
I don't tell you what to Atashi-wa meirei-shinai-

do. desha. * 9
Boku-wa meirei-shinai-
dara." Cf
.. Meirei-suru means "to order" and it can be used for anything

similar to "Don't order me to ... "
I'll do whatever I want. Atashi-wa atashi-no suki-

na·yo·ni suru. 9
Boku·wa boku-no suki-
na-yo-nl suru. C1
Don't try to change me. Atashi-o kaeyo-to-

shinaide. 9
Boku-o kaeyo-to
shinaide. CJ'
72 . MO RE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE
I can't be what you want Anata-ga omotteru-yo-ne

me to be. onna-niwa narenai. Q
Kimi-ga omotteru-yo-na
otoko-niwa narenai. o
Let me be me. Atashi-no mama-de

irasete. 9
Boku-no mama-de
irasete. cr
Leave me alone. Hottoite. C/ 9
What are you doing? Nani shiten-no? C/ 9
What the hell are you Nani yatten-no? C/ 9

doing?
Don't you have some- Hoka-ni sutu-koto-nei-no?

thing to do? C/9
Stop following me Okkakemawasu-nawa

around. yamete. C/ 9
Stap checking up on me. Atashi-no-koto shiraberu-

nawa yamete. 9
Baku-no-koto shiraberu-
nawa yamete. CJ
Stop troubling me. Kamarasenaide. CJ 9
I didn't mean to. Sanna tsumori-ja nakatta.

CJ9
FIGHTING • 73
Don't embarrass me , Hazukashii-omoi

sasenaide. 0' 9
Hazukashii-omoi saseru-
na. CI
Don 't disappoint me (Mo) gakkari-sasenaide.

(again). 0'9
(Mo) gakkari-saseruna.
0'
I'm disappointed in you. Anata-niwa gakkari-shita.

9
Kimi-niwa gakkari-shita.
0'
So, what do you want Atashi-ni nante itte

me to say? hoshii-no? 9
Boku-ni nante itte
hoshiin-da? 0'
-
Don't pretend nothing Nani-mo nakatta-yo-na

happened. luri-shinaide. '{
Nem-mo nakatta-yo-na
tun-surune. CI
How can you act like D6-shite sonna taido-o

that (to me)? suru-no? '{
D6-shite sonna taido-o
surun-da? o
You made me do it. Anata-ga atashi-o s6

saseta-no. '{
Kimi-ga boku-o s6
sasetan-da. o
How many girls have Nannin-no onna-no-ko-o

you made cry? nakasetano? '{
How many boys have Nannin-no otoko-o

you made cry? nakasetan-da? o
Think about the way you Anata-ga atashi-o donna-

treated me! IO-ni atsukatta-ka
kangaete mite-yo! '{
Kimi-ga boku-o donna-
ID-ni atsukatta-ka
kangaete miro! o
Are you playing around Atashi-no-koto asobi-

with me? nano? '{
Boku-no-koto asobi-
nano? cr
FIGHTING • 75
It was just a game. Tada-no gemu-datta-no.
"
Tada-no gemu-datta. a
Stop playing these Gomakasu-nowa

games. yamete.· a"
"Ihis means something like "Stop trying to hide the truth,"
"Don't change the subject," and "Stop acting like nothing hap.
pened" all rolled into one.
Grow up! Dtona-ni natte! "

Dtona-ni nare! a
Don't act like a child. Kodomo-mitai-na-koto

shinaide. a"
Kodomo-mitai-na-koto
$uruna. 0'
Act your age. Toshi-soo-ni furumatte. 9

Toshi-soo-ni furumae-yo.
a
Don't get too big for JiJ-nen hayai.· a 9

your britches.
*Literally means "Ten years early."
Stop nagging. Gocha-gocha iwanaide.•

9
Gocha-gocha iuna.· a
• After the first love session, some Japanese girls will become
very possessive. They'll want to know what you 're doing at all
times. Although they were once shy, they'll now act like your
wife-even in public. The following phrases might be needed.
We went to bed only Ikkai neta-dake-deshO. 9

once . Ikkai neta-dake-daro. a
Don 't act like my wife! Nyobo-kidori-suruna! a

FIGHTING' 77
Don't act like my Teishu-zura shinaide! 9

husband!
Don't act like I'm yours. Wagamono-gao shinaide.

09
Wagamono-gao suruna.
o
I'm mad . Atama-kichau. 9

Atama-kita. 0'
Mukatsuita. 0' 9
Mukatsuku. 0' 9
Don 't make me mad. Okorasenaide. 9

Okoraseruna. 0'
You should n't have done Sonna-koto shinakya

that . yokatta-noni. 0' 9
How dare you! Nande sonna-koto

dekiru-no! 9
Nande sonna-koto
dekirun-da! 0'
I'm leaving! M6 iku! 0' 9

M6 iku-ya! 0'
Let me speak frankly. Sh6jiki-ni iwasete. 0' 9
Do you want me to tell Hanto-na-kota itte hashii?

you the truth? 09
What you say isn't Anata-ga iu-koto-wa

important. juyo-ja naino. '(
Kimi-ga iu-koto-wa juyo-ja
nainda. a
Don't make excuses. fiwake-shinaide. a '(

fiwake-suruna. a
Don't trick me. Damasanaide. a '(
I'm tired of you. Anata-niwa akita. '(

Kimi-niwa akita. a
Are you tired of me? Atashi-ni akita-no? '(

Boku-ni akita-no? a
I'm tired of looking at Anata-o mi-akita. '(

you. Kimi-o mi-akita. a
Go look in the mirror! Kagami mite denaose-

bal" '(
Kagami mite denaoshi-
na!* Cf
•An English equivalent might be "Look at yourself in the mirror

and come back again because you are ugly!"
I've had it! Mo tekusen! : a '(
" For extra emphasis stop abruptly on the "n. "
I need excitement, not Shigeki-ga hoshii-no,

restriction. shibararerun-ja
nakutte. '(
FIGHTING' 79
Shigeki-ga hoshiin-da,
shibararerun-ja
nakutte. 0
You don't excite me Anata-to-dewa shigeki-

anymore. teki-ja tiel-no. 9
Kimi-to-dewa shigeki-teki-
ja nain-da. 0
You aren't any good in Anata-wa beddo-de

bed . yokunai. 9
Kimi-wa beddo-de
yokunai. 0
You' re the one! Jibun-deshi)l" 09

Jibun-dar61" 0
- Implying "on the co ntrary." For example:
Who farted? Dare-ga onara-shita?

09
You did. Anata/(name) -ga shita. 9 .

Kimi/(name) -ga shite. 0
Wrong ! Chigau-yo! a Q
You're the one! Jibun-desh6! a Q

Jibun-dara! a
That' s not right! Chigau-mon! Q

Chigau-wayo! Q
Chigau-yo! a Q
You mean nothing to Anata-wa atashi-ni-totte

me. nan-no itni-mo nei. Q
Kimi-wa boku-ni-totte
nan·no imi-mo nai. a
I'm glad we broke up. Wakarete yokkatta. a Q
It seems like you're Atashi-no-koto riya

•
uSing me. shiteru. Q
Boku-no-koto riya shiteru.
a
'0 (r
))
(1)009-
I( =
-
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-
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FIGHTING· 81
Pack your stuff and hit Nimotsu-o matomete

the road! dete-iIIe! 9
Nimotsu-o matomete
dete-ike-yo! C1
Give me back the apart- Apato/kuruma -no kii-o

menUcar key. kaeshite. C1 9
Give me back all the Atashi-ga ageta pure-

presents I gave to you. zento minna kaeshite.
9
Boku-ga ageta purezento
minna kaeshite. C1
I've already thrown them M6 sutechatta. C1 9

away.
Why did you do such a Nande sonna-koto shita-

thing? no? 9
Nande sonna-koto shitan-
dayo? C1
I wanted to forget you. Anata-no-koto

wasuretakatta. 9
Kimi-no-koto wasuretakat-
tao a
Don't do such a thing. Sonna-koto shinaide.

a9
Let's talk about this later. Sono-koto-wa etc-de
hanaso. a 9
Let' s change the subject. Wadai-o kaeyo. a 9
Don 't change the Wadai-o kaenaide. 9

subject. Wadai-o kaeruna. a
(You' re such a) wo rrier. Shimpai-chan. a 9
(You' re such a) crybaby. Nakimushi-chan. a 9
I'm not your toy. Atashi-wa anata-no

omocha-ja nai. 9
Boku-wa kimi-no
omocha-ja nai. a
Don't think that I'm only Atashi-ga anata-dake-no

yours. mono-datte
omowanaide. 9
Boku-ga kimi-dake-no
mono-datte omouna-
yo. a
FIGHTING ' 83
I don't belong to you . Atashi-wa anata-no

mono-ja nai. 9
Boku-wa kimi-no mono-ja
net. C1
Now I'll feel better (be- Kore-de seisei-shita. "

cause we broke up). 0'9
.. Literally means "Now I'll feel better because of what hap-

pened." The "what" can be anything.
You said bad things Atashi-no waruguchi-o

about me. itta. 9
Boku-no waruguchi-o itta.
0'
".z-:
f1
How can you talk to me Di5-shite sonne-tu-n:

like that? hsnssetu-no? 9
Di5-shite sonne-tct»
hanaserun-dayo? CI
You talk down to me . Anata -wa eteshi-o

mikudashite hanasu.
9
Kimi-wa boku-o
mikudashite hanasu.
CI
You talk to me like I'm a Anata-wa etestil-o baka-

fool. ni-shite hanasu. 9
Kimi-wa boku-o baka-ni-
shite hanasu. CI
Who cares? Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n!

suns-novo? 9
Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n!
surun-dayo? CI
I hate you! Anata-nanka kirai! 9

Omae-nanka kirai-dayo!
CI
I can find someone bet- Anata-yori ii bito-qe

ter than you. sagaseru. 9
Kimi-yori ii ko-ga
sagaseru. CI
Do it! Sure-bet CI 9
Shiro-yo! CI
FIGHTING • 85
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-'-:;'
--1 1---
Who would want you? Dare-ga anata-nanka

hoshii-noyo? '(
Dare-ga kimi-nanka
hoshii-monka? a
I'm leaving. M6 iku. a '(

Don 't make me laugh. Warawasenaide. a '(
You're not the only girl Kimi-dake-ga onna-ja nai.

in this world . a
You're not the only boy Anata-dake-ga otoko-ja

in this world. nai. '(
You can't find anyone Atashi-ij6-no-ko-wa

better than me. sagasenai-wayo. '(
Boku-ij6-no-yatsu-wa
sagasenai-yo. a
I can see whomever I Atashi-wa atashi-ga aitai

want. hito-ni au-wa. '(
Boku-wa boku-ga aitai
hito-ni au-yo. a
Go find yourself a new Atarashii giiru-furendo-o

boyfriend/girlfriend . sagashite. 9
Atarashii bOi-furendo-o
sagase-yo. a
I've cheated on you. Anata-o damashiteta-no.

9
Kimi-o damashitetan-da.
a
I don't want to believe Shinjitakunai. a 9

that.
Cheater!fTwo-timer! Uwaki-mono!' a 9
"Literally means "Floating mind."
I have another Atashi-wa hoka-ni bOi-

boyfriend/girlfriend . furendo-ga iru. 9
Boku-wa hoka-ni giiru-
furendo-ga iru. a
I've tried to teil you Nando-mo io-to shita-

many times, but I kedo. a 9
couldn't.
FIGHTING ' 87
, ··•
•
· •·
•
'.• •
•
•
I know you're seeing Futamata kaketeru·no

another person. shitteru-wa. "
Futamata kaketeru-no
shitteru-yo. o
I know how you look at Anata-ga donna-IO-ni

other girls. hoka-no-ko-o miteru-ka
shitteru-wa. "
I know how you look at Kimi-ga donna-IO-ni

other boys. hoka-no-otoko-o
miteru-ka shitteru-yo.
o
I love someone else. Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga

iru-no. "
Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga
irun-da. Cf
I saw you with another Kimi-ga hoka-no-otoko-to

boy. iru-no-o mita. C1
88 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPAN ESE
. ,- "'
.
~
- .
',-
I ...... ;'•...
I saw you with another Anata-ga hoka-no-ko-to

girl. itu-no-o mita. Q
What kind of a girl is Ano-ko dare? C1 Q

she?
What kind of a boy is Ano hito dare? C1 Q

he?
I won't forgive you . Anata-no-koto yurusanai.

Q
Kimi·no-koto yurusanai.
C1
You' d better believe that. Shinjita-h6-ga ii-yo. C1 Q
Be nice to your new Atarashii koibito-ni

sweetheart. yasashiku-ne. Q
Atarashii koibito-ni
yasashiku-na. C1
FIGHTING· 89
Don't make her/him sad. Kanojo/Kare -0 kanashi-

mase-naide. 0 9
I believed in you, yet Anata-o shinjiteta-noni

you tricked me. damashita . 9
Kimi-o shinjiteta-noni
damashita . 0
Let me explain. Setsumei-sasete. 0 9
Please listen to me. D6ka kiite. 0 9
Choose: him or me. Boku-ka kere-ke erande.

o
Choose: her or me. Atashi-ka kanojo-ka

erande. 9
Have you already de- Dotchi-ni suru-ke kimeta?

cided which one? 0 9 '
Don 't make prom ises Mamorenai yakusoku-wa

you can't keep. shinaide. 0 9
I can't stand it. Gaman-dekinai. 0 9
It happens all the time. itsumo so-neno. 9

ftsumo s6-nanda. 0
You forget everything. Anata-wa nandemo

wasurechau. 9
Kimi-wa nandemo
wasureru. Cf
-
90 . MORE MAKING O UT IN J APANESE
Have you forgotten so Sonna-ni hayaku

soon? wasurechatta-no? '(
Sonna-ni ha yaku
wasureta-no? 0'
You forgot my birthday. Anata-wa atashi-no

tanj6bi was ureta. '(
Kimi-wa boku-no tanj6bi
wasureta. 0'
You forgot our anni- Anata-wa atashita chi-no

versary. kinenbi wasureta. '(
Kimi-wa bokutachi-no
kinenbi wasureta. 0'
You never came over. Anata-wa konakatta. '(

Kimi-wa konakatta. 0'
You left me at _ Anata-wa atashi-o

_ __-ni oitetta. '(
Kim~wa boku-o -nt
oitetta. 0'
You left me (stranded) . Anata-wa atashi-o oitetta.

'(
Kimi-wa boku-o oitetta.
0'
You left without telling Nani-mo iwanaide

me. itchatta. 0' '(
What a coincidence see- Konna tokoro-de

ing you here. au-nante. 0' '(
FIGHTING · 91
I was just about to call Anata·ni denwe-sutu-

you. tokoro-dstte , '(
Kimi-n; denwe-suru-
tosoto-deue. Cf
I tried to call yOU. Anata·ni denwa·shita·

noyo. '(
Kiml-nl oenwe-snnen-
dayo. Cf
Why didn't you call me? Nande aenwe-

kurenakatta·no? Cf '(
I was busy. Isogashikatta. Cf '(
I didn 't have ten yen. JD·en·ga nakatta. o '(

•
I warted all night for your Hitoban-jfJ denwa-o

call. matteta. 0' 9
You never called. Denwa-o kurenakatta.

rY9
Where were you? Doko-ni ita-no? o 9
That' s a secret! Himitsu-yo! 9

Himitsu-dayo! 0'
I don't play around. Atashi-wa asobanai. 9

Boku-wa asobanai. o
1 was busy playing Asobimakutteta. o 9

around.
Don 't do that again. M6 sonna-koto shinaide.

rY9
I'll forget about it. M6 sono-koto-we

wasureru-wa. 9
M6 sono-koto-wa
wssuretu-yo. Cf
I'm not mad anymore. M6 okottenai-wa. 9

M6 okottenai-yo. o
Are you still mad? Mada okotteru? o 9
You're still mad, aren't Mada okotteru-desh6? 9

you? Mada okotteru-dar6? o
FIGHTING • 93
I think I was wrong . Atashi-ga machigatteta-to

omou. 9
Boku-ga machigatteta-to
omou. Cf
I shouldn 't have done S6 shinakya yokatta. 9

that. S6 surun-j a nakatta. a 9
I d o n't know why I did D6-shite s6 shita-noka

that. wakannai. a 9
I think I was too excited . K6fun-shisugiteta. a 9
I think I was too nervous. Ira-ira-shiteta . a 9
I was out ot my mind. Ki-ga chiga tte ta. a 9
It was silly of me (to do Atashi-ga baka-datta. 9

that). Boku-ga baka-datta. a
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1"'~P h ole
c:
94 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JA PANESE
You have so much more Anata-wa minna-ga

than they do. mottenai mono-o
motteru. 9
Kimi-wa minna-ga
mottenai m ono-o
motteru. 0'
If you change your mind, Moshi k~ga kawattara

let me know. oshiete. 0' 9
What changed your Nani-ga anata-no

mind? kangae-o kaeta-no? 9
Nani-ga kimi-no kangae-
o kaeta-no? 0'
I didn't mean to hurt Kizutsukeru tsumori-wa

you. nakatta. 0' 9
I should've thought Motto kangaereba yokat-

about it more. ta. 0' 9
FIGHTING' 95
I hurt your feelings, Ki-ni sawatta-desh6? 9

didn't I? Ki-ni sawatta-daro? a
I know I hurt your Anata-no-koto

feelings. kizutsuketa-ne. 9
Kimi-no-koto kizutsuketa-
na. 0'
I'll do anything to make Yurushite-morau-tame-

you forgive me. nara nandemo suru-
wa. 9
Yurushite-morau-tame-
nara nandemo suns-yo.
a
Anything? Nandemo? a 9
I was blind to the truth. Shinjitsu-ga mietenakatta.

a9
You should understand Atashi-ga donna omoi-
how I feel. datta-ka wakatte-yo. 9
Boku-ga donna omoi-
datta-ka wakatte-kure.
a
You didn't even listen to Kiitekuresae-mo shinakat-

me. tao cr 9
I didn't mean to. Sonna tsumori-ja nakatta.

a9
Let's get back together. Nakanaori-shiyo. a 9
Prom ise it will never hap- Mo nido-to okoranai-tte

pen agam. yakusoku-shite. C1 9
I promise. Yakusoku-suru. C1 9
I wish I hadn't done Anna-koto shinakereba

such a thing. yokatta. C1 9
Please take me back. Yori-o modoshite. C1 9
I'm always doing silly Atashi-tte itsumo baka-

things. na-koto suru-ne. 9
Boku-tte itsumo baka-na-
koto suru-na. C1
I feel so lonely. Samishii-no. 9

Samishiin-da. C1
I'm losing sleep. Nemurenai-no. 9

Nemurenain-<Ja. C1
You were the first and Anata-ga hajimete-<Je,

you'll be the last. saige-yo. 9
Kimi-ga hajimete-<Je,
saigo-da. C1
Whenever you need Dare-ka hitsuyo-na toki

someone, I'll always atashi-ga itsumo iru-
be there. wa. 9
Dare-ka hitsuyo-na toki
boku-ga itsumo iru-yo.
C1
FIGHTING ' 97
Whatever you want I'll Nandemo hoshii mono

give it to you. ageru. <:7 9
Come back to me. Atashi-no-toko-ni

madotte. 9
Boku-no-toko-nt madotte.
<:7
I believe you still love Mada aishitekureteru-tte

me. shinji-teru. <:7 9
Don't throw away this Kono chansu

chance. nogasanaide. <:7 9
It might be your last. Saigo-kamo shirenai.

<:79
1
Don't be sad. Kanashimanaide. o 9
Cheer up. Genki dashite. o 9
Don't worry; be happy. Shinpai-shinaide,

akarukushite. o 9
I can't give her/him up . Kanojo/Kare -0

akiramerarenai. Cf Q
I can't forget her/him. Kanojo/Kare -0

wasurerarenal. o 9
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When do you want to Itsu kekkon-shitai?' a Q
get married?
At what age do you want Nansai-de kekkon-

to marry? shitai? ' a Q
Are you going to work Kekkon-shita-ato

after you're married? hataraku tsumori?'
a Q
Do you think you're Kekkon-suru junbi-wa

ready to get married? dekiteru?' a Q
'These are "beating around the bush" questions to ensure it's

OK to ask the big question.
Are you Christian or Kurisuchan soretomo

Buddhist? Bukky6? a Q
Why all these questions Nande kekkon-no-koto

about marriage? bakkari kiku-no? a Q
Stop beating around the Gucha-gucha iwanaide!

bush! aQ
Are you trying to pro- PuropOzu-shiy6-to

pose to me? shiteru-no? a Q
99
What's the question? Nani-ga kikitai-no? 0 9
What' s the answer? Kotae-wa? 09
What' s on your mind? Neni-o kangaeteru-no?

09
Will you marry me? Kekkon-shitekureru? 0 9
Will you use my last Boku-no myi5ji-o tsukat-

name? tekureru?" o
Shall we share the rest Nokoti-no jinsei-o issho-ni

of our lives togethe r? sugosanai?' 0 9
Will you make my mise Chi5shoku-no mlso-shitu-

soup for breakfast? o tsukuttekureru?' 0
Will you have my baby? Boku-no kodomo-o

undekureru?' 0
"The above phrases are "Will you marry me?" substitutes. Miso
soup is made from soybean paste. It can be eaten at any meal
but is an important item in a traditional Japanese breakfast.
I can't marry you. Anata-to kekkon-dekinai.

9
Kimi-to kekkon-dekinai.
o
I don't want to marry Ana/a-to kekkon-

you. shitakunai. 9
Kiml-to kekkon-
shits kunel. 0
MARRIAGE' 101
I can't get married now. Ima kekkon-dekinai. a 9
Why not? Nande dame-nano?'

a9
"Go back to Chapter 4 to continue this conversation.
I have some good news Ii nyiisu arun-da. a 9

to tell you.
I can't tell you on the Denwa-ja ienai. a9

phone.
You're going to be a Anal8.-wa papa-ni naru-

daddy! noyo! 9
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•
o , .. o
I'm pregnant. Atashi ninshin shiteru·no.

9
Congratulations! Omedet6! a 9
Are you sure? Honto-ni? a 9
I haven't had my period Seiri-ga konai-no. 9

yet.
When was your last Saigo-no seiri-wa itsu

period? atta-no? a 9
When did you find that Itsu sore-ga wakatta·no?

out? a 9
Why didn't you tell me Nande motto hayaku

sooner? iwanaka tta-no? a 9
I've been wanting to tell litakatta-kedo . . . a 9

you, but (I didn't).
What month are you Ima nankagetsu? a 9

now?
When's the baby due? Yoteibi-wa itsu? a 9
It' s going to change our Atashitachi-no jinsei-o

lives. kaeru.· 9
Bokutachi-no jinsei·o
kaeru.· a
' Remove the tach; to say "It's going to change my life. "
MARRIAGE' 103
I wa nt a boy/girl. Otoko-no-ko/Onna-no-ko-
ga hoshii. CI 9
It' s our destiny. Kore-ga atashitach/-no

unme/_ 9
Kore-ga bokutachi-no
unmec 0'
There's no better news Kore-/jB ii nyiisu-wa nai-

than this. yo. CI 9
When will your stomach Itsu-goro-kara onaka-ga

show? medachi-hajimeru-no?
Cl9
c9
L
Take good care of Karada·ni yoku ki·o

yourself. tsukete. C1
Start reading books Akachan·ni·/suite·no bon-

about babies. o yomi·hajime·nayo. C1
We should think of a Namae-o kangae-

name. nakucha. C1 9
Maybe it was too early to Tesuto-o ukeru-niwa

take the test. hayasugirun-janai. C1 9
Take the test again. MB ichido tesuto-o ukete.

C19
Are you sure it's mine? HontB-ni boku-no-ko? C1
I won't answer that! Kotaenai-wa! 9

Kotaenai-yo! C1
MARRIAGE' 105
I guess that our protec- Hinin-ga jDbun-ja

tion wasn't good nakattan-dane. 0 9
enough .
You said it was safe. Hinin shiteru-tte itta-janai.

9
Hinin shiteru-tte itta·dar6.
o
I can't be held Sekinin torenai. 0 9

responsible.
Don't run away from Sekinin-nogare shinaide.

your responsibility. 09
Accept the responsibility. Sekinin-o totte. 0 9
See you later. Ato-de-ne. 0 9

Ato-de-na. 0
Don 't call me. Denwa-shinaide. 0 9
I'll call you later. Atashi-ga ato-de denwa-

suru. 9
Boku-ga ato-de denwa-
suru. cr
It's a bad time. Jiki·ga warui. 0 9
It's too early. Hayasugiru. 0 9
It' s your fault. Anata-no sei. 9

Kimi-no sei. C1
What will happen to us? Atashitachi do narun-

desha? 9
Bokutachi do narun-
daro? 0'
I want to keep the baby. Akachan-o umitai.· 9
" Literally means "I want to deliver the baby."
It' s our baby. Atashitachi-no akachan-

yo. 9
Bokutachi-no akachan-
dayo. 0'
What do you think? Do omou? 0' 9
Let' s have the operation. Shujutsu-o shiyo. 0' 9
You're such a cold Anata-tte hontb-n!

person! tsumetai-none! 9
Kimi-tte honto-ni
tsumetai-na! 0'
I can 't kill our baby. Atashitachi-no akachan-o

korosenai. 9
Bokutachi-no akachan-o
korosenai. 0'
I can't do that. Sonna-koto dekinai. 0' 9
We don 't have a ch oice. Sonna-koto itterarenai.

0'9
We're not ready yet. Mada hayai. 0' 9

MARRIAGE • 107
Let's raise the baby. Akachan-o sooete-y».

•
C19
I don 't need your help. Anata-no tasuke-wa

iranai. 9
Kimi-no tasuke-wa iranai.
C1
You'll be sorry. Kokai-suru-yo. C1 9
Please give it up this Konkai-wa akiramete.

time. C1 9
,..
-
......
,
We have to think about it Yoku kangaenakucha.

carefully. a"
I'll pay for it. Atashi-ga harau. "
Boku-ga harau. a
How much does it cost? Ikura kakaru? a "
Do you have that much Sore-dake okane

money? motteru? a"
I don't make enough Sonna-ni okene-o
money. kaseganai. a"
I'll make the money for Okane-o tsukuru-wa. "

it. Okane-o tsukuru-yo. a
I can get it. Te-ni hairu-yo. a"

It's impossible to have a Ima akachan-o motsu-
baby now. nowa muri-yo. "
Ima akachan-o motsu-
nowa muri-dayo. a
What do we do now? Do-suru? a"

I'm scared . Kowai-wa. "
Will you go with me? Atashi-to issho-ni

ittekureru?' "
•As in "Will you accompany me?"

MARRIAGE' 109
Do you have to stay in Byoin-ni ippaku _

the hospital overnight? shinakucha ikenai-no?
a'(
Is there anything I can Nanika atashi-ni dekiru-

do for you? koto aru? '(
Nanika boku-ni dekiru-
koto aru? a
We'll be able to have a Mata itsuka akachan-o

baby another time . moteru-yo. a '(
I wish it were a dream. Yume-dattara yoka tta-

noni. a '(
I don't know what to do. Do-shitara ii-ka wakannai.

a'(
It's up to you. Anata-ni makaseru. '(

Kimi-ni makaseru. a
110 . MORE MAKING OUT IN J APANESE
You decide. Anata-ga kimete. 9

Kimi-ga kimete. a
Let me think it over. MB ichido kangae-

sasete. a 9
Whatever you want to do Anata-ga shitai-yB-ni

will be fine with me . shite-ii-yo. 9
Kimi-ga shitai-yB-ni shite-
II-yo. a
The ch ild is ours, not just Akachan-wa atashi-dake-

mine. no mono-ja nai-yo. 9
Akachan-wa boku-dake-
. .
no mono-js. nal-Yo. a
You knew it could hap- KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte

pen, didn 't you? wakattetan-deshB? 9
KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte
wakattetan-darB? a
Let's decide together. Issho-ni kimeyB. a9

I should tell my parents. RyBshin-ni iwanakucha.
a9
I should call my parents. RyBshin-ni denwa-

shinakucha. a 9
What will your parents Anata-no ryoshin dB

think? omou-kana? 9
Kimi-no ryBshin dB
omou-darB? a
MARRIAGE ' 111
I already told my M6 ry6shin-ni itta. o '(

parents.
What did they say? Nante itteta? cr '(
Were they mad? Okotteta? o '(
Are your parents on our Anata-no ry6shin

side? atashitachi-no mikata?
'(
Kimi-no ry6shin
bokutachi-no mikata?
o
Will your parents help Anata-no ry6shin

us? tasuketekureru-kana?
'(
Kimi-no ry6shin
tasuketekureru-kana?
o
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Let me meet your Anata-no ryoshin-ni awa-

parents. sete. <;>
Kimi-no ry6shin-ni awa-
sete. a
Introduce me to your Anata-no kazoku-ni

family. shOkai-shite. <;>
Kimi-no kazoku-ni shOkai-
shile. a
Now is not a good time. Ima -wa yokunai. a <;>
Maybe I shouldn't meet Tabun ima anata-no

your parents now. ryashin-ni awanai-hO-
ga ii. <;>
Tabun ima kimi-no
ryoshin-ni awanai-hO-
ga ii. a
Now is as good a time Itsu-datte onaji-yo. <;>

as any. Itsu-datte onaji-dayo. a .
MARRIAGE • 113
I'll meet your parents as Dekiru-dake hayaku

soon as possible. anata-no ry6shin-ni au.
9
Dekiru-dake hayaku kimi-
no ryOshin-ni au. C7
Do you think you r par- Anata-no ryOshin

ents will accept our atashitachi·no
baby/marriage? akachanlkekkon -0
mitomete-kureru-
kana? 9
Kimi-no ryOshin
bokutachi-no akachanl
kekkon -0 mitomete·
kureru-kana ? C7
We can live with my par- Atashi-no ryOshin-to

ents for a while. shibaraku issho-ni
sumeru-wa. 9
Baku-no ryOshin-to
shibaraku issho-ni
sumeru-yo. C7
How long is "a while" ? Shibaraku-tte dono

gurai? C7 9
What are you going to Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 d6-suru

do about your tsumori? C7 9
job/school?
Are you going to quit Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 yameru

work/school? tsumori? C7 9
114 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPAN ESE
I should get a better Motto kyfJrya-no ii

paying job. shigo/ero
sagasanakucha. a 9
I'd better get a second Arubai/o-o shi/a-M -ga

job. ii-ne. 9
Arubaito-o shi/a-M-ga
n-ne. C1
I don't want my wife to Boku-no kanojo ' -niwa

work. ha/arai/e hoshikunai.
a
•Kanojo in this case means "wife."
We have to hurry to Isoide kekkon-shiki-o

have the wedding. agenakucha. a 9
Do you cook often? Yoku ryi5ri-suru? a 9
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MARRIAGE • 115
I'd like to try your home Anata-no teryori-ga

cooking. tabetai. 9
Kimi-no teryori-ga tabetai.
o
What's your best d ish? Tokui-ryori-wa nani? o 9
I want to try that. Sore-o tabete-mitai. cr 9
Are your parents fat? Anata-no ryOshin

tuttoteru? 9
Kimi-no ryOshin tuttoteru?
o
Don 't worry. Shinpai-shinaide. o 9
I'm sure the neighbors Kinjo-no-hitotachi

will talk about us. atashitachi-no-koto
hanasu-ne. 9
Kinjo-no-hitotachi
bokutachi-no-koto
hanasu-daro. o
Are you worried about Kinjo-no-hito-ga nante iu-

what your neighbors ka ki-ni naru? o 9
might say?
Does your family care Karera-ga iu-koto anata-

what they say? no kazoku ki·ni suru?
9
Karera-ga iu-koto kimi-no
kazoku ki-ni suru? o
Tell me what to do in Anata·no kazoku-no mae-

front of your family. de d6-shitara ii-ka
oshiete. 9
Kimi-no kazoku-no mae-
de d6-shitara ii-ka
oshiete. (J'
NOTE: You shouldn't kiss or hug in front of a girl 's family unUt
they know you really well. It's OK to hold hands though.
What should I talk Nani-o hanaseba ii? 0' Q

about?
What shall I bring? Nani-o motte-ik6-ka? 0' 9
Tell me what to say. Nanika iu-koto osblete.

0'9
Do you think your family Anata-no kazoku atashi-

will like me? no-koto ki-ni ifte-
kureru·kana? Q
Kimi-no kazoku boku-no-
koto ki-ni itte-kureru-
kana? (J'
Does your father smoke? Anata-no otasan tabako

suu? 9
Kimi-no otbeen tabako
suu? CF
Does your father drink? Anata-no ot6san osaka

nomu? 9
Kimi·no otasan osaka
nomu? CI
MARRIAGE· 117
What's your father 's OtBsan-no shumi/shigoto

hobby/work? -wa nsni?" Cf 9
"Typical hobbies are: shagi, Japanese chess; tsufi, fishing;

gorufu, golf; keiba, horse racing, which means "betting on
horses"; and pachinko, a pinball-style game, actually more of
an addiction than a hobby.
What's your father proud Anata-no oti5san nani-o

of? hokori-ni shiteru? 9
Kimi·no ot6san nani-o
hokori-ni shiteru? o
Who will like me the Dare-ga atashi-o ichiban

most? ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?
9
Dare-ga boku-o ichiban
ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?
cr
Who will oppose our Dare-ga atashitachi-no

marriage? kekkon hantai-suru-
kana? <;>
Dare-ga bokutachi-no
kekkon hantai-suru-
kana? C1
Who will support our Dare-ga atashitachi-no

marriage? kekkon oen
shitekureru-kana? <;>
Dare-ga bokutachi-no
kekkon oen-
shitekureru-kana? C1
Is anyone on my sid e? Dare-ka atashi-no mikata

iru? <;>
Dare-ka boku-no mikata
itu? Cf
Maybe some other time. rabun chigau-hi. C1 <;>
We can do it later. Ato-de dekiru. C1 <;>
How much will the wed- Kekkon-shiki-no hiyo

ding cost? ikura kakaru? C1 <;>
How much will your Anata-no ryashin ikura

parents pay? dashite-kureru? <;>
Kimi-no ryoshin ikura
dashite-kureru? C1
We should begin prepar- Ima-kara yoi-shita-hO-ga

Ing now. ii. C1 <;>
MARRIAGE · 119
Should we have a Japa- Amerika-shiki-to Nihon-

nese- or an American- shiki-to dotchi-ni suru?
style wedding? 0'9
What' s the difference? Nani-ga chigau-no? 0' 9
A Japanese-style wedding is performed by a Shinto

priest and the wedding ceremony guests are limited to
the family. Conversely, an American-style wedding in
Japan is performed by a clergyman from any of the
Ch ristian denominations and the guests include both
family and friends. Both bride and groom usually wear
kimono for a Japanese-style wedding ce remony,
whereas a wedding dress and a tuxedo are worn for
an American-style wedding . A dinner party follows
both ceremonies, in which a full-course dinner is
served to the wedding party and guests as friends
and relatives take turns giving speeches and singing

songs. In a modest wedding, the bride will wear the
same wedding dress throughout the dinner party, but
she might change her hairstyle. For a more elaborate
wedding, the bride might change her clothes twice
during the dinner party alone. The following factors
determine the cost of the wedding: how many guests
are invited (which will determine the number of
presents that are to be given to the guests and the
number of dinner settings), what is served for dinner,
how many times the b ride changes clothes, and the
location of the wedding hall. Incidentally, in Japan the
wedding hall takes care of everything; you walk in sin-
gle and leave married. t
You have a nice figure. Sutairu-ga ii-ne. 9
Sutairu-ga ii-na. a
You're slim. Yaseteru-ne. 9

Yaseteru-na. a
Surimu-dane. 9
Surimu-dana. a
Did you lose weig ht? Yaseta? a 9
Did you gain weight? Futtota? a 9
Do you think I need to Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-to

diet? omou? a9
No, I like the way you Uun, sono-mama-no

are now. anata-ga suki. 9
Uun, sana-marna-no
kimi-ga suki. a
You need to be on a Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-yo.

diet. a9
You should stop Tabaka yame-nayo. a 9

smoking.
121
122 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JA PANESE
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1
Stop smoking. Tabako yamete. a 9
Smoking is not good for Tabako-wa karada-ni

your health. yokunai. a 9
You need to exercise. Ekisasaizu,shita-hOga ii-

yo. a 9
Do you exercise? Ekisasaizu suru? a 9
Do you like to exercise? Ekisasaizu suki? a 9
We can exercise Ekisasaizu issho-ni

together. dekiru-yo. a 9
What type of exercises Donna ekisasaizu-suru-

do you do? no? a 9
I run three kilometers Mainichi san-kiro hashiru.

every day. a9
I go to the gym. Jimu-ni lku. a 9
HEALTH · 123
I go to the pool. Piiru-ni iku. C1 <;>
I like to swim. Oyogu-noga suki. C1 <;>
NOTE: After a good exercise session, say Koshi-ga itsi, which

means "My back hurts." People listening to you will really think
you had some good sex last night and that is the reason for
your backache.
I'm a vegetarian. Saishoku-shugi desu.

C1<;>
Atashi bejitarian. <;>
Boku bejitarian. C1
I don't eat fried food. Agemono-wa tabenai.

C1<;>
I can't live without Makudonarudo nashi-ja

McDonalds. ikirarenai. C1 <;>
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covers threats, taunts, curses, sex, booze, money, and more. Fun and
instructive, this book is perfect for students of all levels, as well as
readers si mply interested in Japan. Author Seward has been involved
with the Japanese language as a student, teacher, and author for
more than 25 years and will help you speak your mind-outra-
geously!
Tokyo Pink Guide

bySteven Langhorne Clemens
The first book to tell foreig n men and women how to enter the doors
of Japan's "anything goes· pleasure palaces. l earn what to expect at
and beyond the front door and get tips on what to wear, dos and
don'ts, and prices.

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At lastl A guide to

the Japanese language of lovel

Having trouble with your love life in

What can you do?

Erika Geers studied English under a private tutor

" · . . d angerous .. . "

" · . . d angerous ... "

tee Card No. 89-51323

First edition, 1989

2. Petting .............. ... .... .. ................. ........... 40

book. Here, we are definitely referring to the sexes in the

Don't be upset. Okoranaide. "

cause such words come and go too quickly. If you use

Have I seen you before? Mae-ni ette-koto aru?

Do you come here Koko-ni yoku kuru? 0' 9

You come here often, Koko-ni yoku kuru-

I've been watching you. Ana ta-no-koto zutto

You're really pretty . Kimi-tte hontB-ni kite}

You 're handscme. Anata-tte hansamu-ne.

You're fascinating . Anata-wa miryokuteki-ne.

I want to know more Anata-ni-tsuite motto

Come on, tell me more. Ii-janai. Motto oshiete-yo.

Don't be shy. Hazukashigaranaide.•

.. Also means "Don't be embarrassed."

Ask m e some questions. Nanka shitsumon-shite.

As k me anything you Suki-ne-koto nandemo

Except what color under- Nani ira-no shitagi-kawa

I like your personality. Anata-no seikaku suki-yo.

You're my type. Anata-wa atashi-no suki-

What' s your type? Donna hito-ga suki? C/ 9

quiet: otonashii (usually chubby: potchari-shita

16 . MORE MAKING O UT IN JAPANESE

Substitute the words above in the following sentence:

I like type of ___ hito-g a ii. o Q

I like your hairstyle. Anata-no haa sutairu

Do you follow the latest RyOk6-0 ou? o Q

What' s in now? Nani-ga ima hayatteru-

You have good taste in Fuku-no konomi-ga

* Konomi can be replaced with shumi.

I'm not very stylish. Atashi-wa ryOko-ni

"Especially said about clothes.

Will you give me some Nanika adobaisu-

Shall we go shopping Kondo issno-o!

I don't like to shop Hitori-de shoppingu-suru-

Do you have a steady? Tsukiatteru hito iru? a 9

You must be very Moteru-desh6. a 9

You must have many Kanojo ippai irun-deshO.

You must have a girl- Kanojo irun-deshO.· 9

"The nuance is "You are pretty/handsome; therefore, I think

Yes. I had one, but we Un demo, saikin wakare-

I've never dated a Ninon-no otoko-no-hito-to

Will you go out with me? Atashi-to dekakenai? 9

I don't have anyone to Atashi-wa aisu kuriinu-o

Do you drink beer/ Biiru/osakelwa/n nomu?

What do/did you study at Daigaku-de nani-o

.. Senko means "major study area."

I went to a special Atash/-wa senmon

What type of school? Donna gakko? C1 9

Allow us to introduce Atashitachi-no jikoshOkai-

Would you introduce Anata-no tomodachi-o

Let' s move to a bigger Motto okii teburu-ni

Let' s pair off. Kogo-ni suwaro." ' 0' 9