Review

chapter 8th

This chapter mostly explains the kinds of friendship in men and women. Based on the
research showed that the children of men and women the same number of group. Even though,
boys usually have much network of social which is great compared with children of women as
the difference of structural in the game kid male and female. Child women more inclined to
interact in pairs and spend time talking one each other, while children of men more inclined to
spend time in groups large that focus on some activities.

In social friendships, men and woman had a lot of differences for example in their
network. Where men have wider, and larger network of friendships, because men usually are
more open, and they tend to hang with people that have a mutual hobby, organizations, and
many others. While with woman who have less extensive network of friendships, cause they
has a habit that only remain a few people in their group of friends even-though they have same
hobbies or anything else in common with other woman but their truly selected their friends.

Other research shows that women's friendships are more communal than men, mainly
because of the emphasis on self- disclosure. Friendship with girls and women closer or more
intimate than in men. In traditional, intimacy has been defined by the disclosure themselves,
but this has become a subject of debate. Some people argue that self- expression is a version
of female and male intimacy defining intimacy through shared experience.

Despite the differences, there are similarities between woman friendships, and man
friendships for example both men, and women want thrustworthy, source of support, and
understanding friends. They both like to be found similar, and connected to their friends. When
girl are usually very open, and very intimate with their friends. Men have three barriers to
friendship, and that is competition, homophobia, and, emotional inexspressiveness. To boys
competition means everything, they’re very sensitive about status in their friendships. Men's
competition is more overthinking, such as expressing negative opinions. While women tend to
show smoother behavior and do not show a sense of competition.

Second, homophobia make men physical contact and emotional closeness with their
peers has a limits, but can lead to more relationships with women. People believes homosexual
comes from a person's biological factors and makes them no longer seen as different.
 Last, emotional inexpressiveness this barrier makes men tend not to express their
emotions excessively because they can make them look a bit more feminine. They can’t
express weaknesses, shortscoming, and difficulties they faced to each other like girls do. Men
usually express their emotions when they do activities together, such as when playing soccer
with their male friends. It can make men more comfortable expressing themselves. That’s why
men really love those kind of activity cause they feel free from the boundaries.

Cross-sex friendships is usually defined as a different sex relationship that is not

romantic. This friendship is rare, but usually occurs in adults at works. In the world of works
this is commonly happen cause they need to have a communication, business topics or nots.
Cause they also need to adapted with their environment.

There is evidence that friendship in place works well for productivity. Work provides an
opportunity for friendship between types of sex but the challenges of friendship with cross-
species still exist. Friendship at the place of work faced some difficulties because of the conflict
that is attached between the role of friends and colleagues' work. Friendship is also influenced
by age and stages in the life cycle - getting married, having children, working. All of these
factors affect the availability of friends and a place of friendship in life.

Friendship also important to gay, lesbian, or even bisexsual persons because they
receive less support from their family members. The quality of the friendship that gay, lesbian
and bisexsual persons have are similar to another friendship . Friendship with gay, lesbian,
bisexsual and heterosexsual cost more trouble than the friendship between men’s and women’s
because they are so possesif to each other or they are really curbing an overprotective to each
other. Friendship between men’s and women’s also happen at work. Men’s and women’s
become a partner work so they always talk to each other not only about they work but about
how was their day and many others.

Friendship defined as a close, and fun friend relation, that relation connect them into a
pair or a group of people. This chapter explained more deeply about friendships. Starting from
same-sex friendships, friendships with different types, cross-racial friendships, friendships that
cause gays, and lesbians, and friendships that occur in the same environment. In the bond of
friendships, sex differences have a very big influence, ranging from friendships networks,
difference closeness of friendships, conflict in friendships, and much more.
REFERENSI
(Helgeson, The Psychology of Gender, 2012, pp. 260-294)