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Body Language:
Signs of
Attraction
 b y M AT E O S O L ( H T T P S : / / LO N E R W O L F.C O M / A U T H O R / M AT T Y / ) / 12 MIN READ

Most people I talk to about body language seem to have their

main interest set in nding out the lirting signals of the opposite
sex and how to know when somebody is attracted to them.

Of course me being such the Casanova that I am know all about

this :P … Okay I’m not much of a practiced person in this area but
I’m good at observing others doing it (only di ference between
stalking and research is a pen and paper) so there’s a few things
I’ve seen.  In the interaction between males and females
something funny always occurs.  When guys notice girls they nd
attractive they will subtly straighten their backs to appear taller,
suck in their guts and expand their chests – this isn’t as noticeable
at parties where everyone is dressed up, but try going to your local
gym’s swimming pool beach or wherever you can see people at
gym s swimming pool, beach or wherever you can see people at
their most vulnerable and exposed.  This behaviour is due to the
simple fact that what is generally considered “hot” or “sexy” is our
gender di ferences, for instance, men try to highlight their stature
and muscles while women will draw attention to their femininity
such as their cleavage, long hair (by touching/ xing it), crossing
their legs and narrowing them to emphasize their hips, to uses of
the sideways head (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-head/)
position to expose the vulnerable and delicate neck, and so forth.

The rst thing you can usually observe in male and female
relations is that the girl makes eye contact with the guy she likes,
and once the guy has spotted the girl making eye contact the two
of them will lock each others gazes for a few seconds until she

looks away.  The guy then confused, sits there watching whether
she does it again, which she usually does and this time smiles or
giggles a bit giving the guy the con rmation he needs to decide to
giggles a bit giving the guy the con rmation he needs to decide to
approach the girl.  However, before doing so the guy and girl alike
will both start grooming themselves: the guy will x his tie if he
has one on, straighten his pants and shirt as he gets up, and the
girl will start playing with her jewelry, ddling with her hair and
crossing her legs.  Once the guy reaches the girl to talk they will
initiate a conversation of some sort – short into the conversation
you can usually see how things are going. In the best case
scenarios they are joking around, she is laughing as she taps his
wrist, arm or shoulder sometimes even removing pieces of lint
from his clothing as a sign of a fection and caring.  All these subtle
physical touches slowly create an intimacy, as they are both
opening up and getting comfortable in each others Intimate Zone
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-personal-space/).

Women’s Signs
The problem is that many guys interpret smiles and staring in the
 p yg y p g
wrong context and confuse lirting with friendliness (mainly
because males have 15 times more testosterone and think
everything in sex terms) so it’s best if you read all those signals in
groups of gestures.  The following are some of the most popular
signs of attraction used by women:
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Touch Me, Myself & I:I:  At the beginning of an encounter

women may start to smooth out their clothes, stretch out their
top which is sticking to their bodies, making them feel self-
conscious about their gures  Deeper into conversation
however, and once they have gotten to know each other, the
woman will start caressing her body in a sensual way.  Women
have more nerve sensors than men making them more
sensitive to touch.  The woman might touch her neck which is
very popular, her thigh, her stomach, all in a way that is
implying she’d like to be touched that way by the guy because
implying she d like to be touched that way by the guy, because,
as mentioned in the initial article
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language), our brains make our
bodies reveal our hidden desires.
Pheromone Hair:
Hair:  This is one of the rst gestures used by
women during lirtation.  Usually, they will lick their hair
backwards over their shoulder or move it to the side with their
hand as a way to display the face better, even if the woman
only has short hair.  Apart from emphasizing their delicate
facial features by licking their hair, women do this gesture
because it allows them to li t up their arm and in the process
expose their arm pit where the ‘sex perfume’ known as
pheromone scent is released for the male to smell (it was
stronger in our primitive ancestors).

Vagina Mouth:
Mouth: During puberty, womens faces ll out with
subcutaneous fat making their lips thicker and fuller compared
to mens About 4 000 years ago ancient Egyptians believed
to mens.  About 4,000 years ago ancient Egyptians believed
womens facial lips developed proportionately to their outer
genital lips during puberty.  It’s commonly known that when
women are sexually aroused their genital lips lush with the
blood turning red, so the Egyptian women invented lipstick as
a form of alerting men when an adolescent female was
sexually mature.  When a woman starts pouting and wetting
her lips while lowering her eye lids in a sensual way it is
usually a sign of attraction.  I just had to refrain myself from
using this picture (https://cdn.lonerwolf.com/wp-
content/uploads/sapientology/Vagina-Mouth-Contender.jpg)
as the example…took a lot of strength.
Teaser: If you’re lucky (or unlucky…depends how you look at it)
to come across a teaser, this will be the type of girl that uses

long cylindrical objects as a form of unconsciously suggesting

what may be to come.  For instance, she can use a variety of
objects while using her thumb and index nger to rub up and
objects while using her thumb and index nger to rub up and
down that object, it can also be one of her ngers (sometimes
even repetitively taking a ring o f and putting it back on), a
cigarette, a long dangly earring, the stem of a glass
(https://cdn.lonerwolf.com/wp-
content/uploads/sapientology/Champagne-Teaser.jpg), a straw
and, well, you get the picture. In the example picture on the
le t you have Angelina Jolie doing a Vagina Mouth + Teaser
combo symbolically using her nger as something else (aka. a
penis).
Wrist Display:
Display: There are certain vulnerable spots in our bodies
due to their fragility or delicacy that we tend to protect: our
neck, throat and wrist being some of them.  Most people if you
observe, usually walk with their wrists facing the sides of their

body as a way of protection, however, if you observe some

people with mental illnesses such as schizophrenia su ferers,
they will walk with their palms (https://lonerwolf com/body-
they will walk with their palms (https://lonerwolf.com/body-
language-palms-and-thumbs/) and wrists facing backwards as
an additional protection.  Plenty of over-the-top gay men use
the wrist display constantly even walking around with it as an
attempt to look e feminate.  When women are interested in
men they will slowly start showing him glimpses of their
wrists and the more they like them the longer the glimpses
will last – this is why the wrist has always been considered a
highly erotic area as women have more nerve receptors there
making it more sensitive, which is where applying perfume on
the wrists comes from.  There are a variety of ways women
choose to expose their wrists, from touching their wrists
themselves (Touch Me, Myself & I technique), to putting their
wrists on the table in front of a male, as well as the popular

wrist exposure that comes with women smokers who do it

quite obviously.
Boob Shoulder:
Shoulder: As I mentioned in the rst paragraph what we
Boob Shoulder:
Shoulder: As I mentioned in the rst paragraph, what we
de ne as being “sexy” or “hot” is our male and female gender
di ferences, which in women is mostly composed of having
more curvaceous bodies than men.  A form of highlighting this
fact is a gesture known as the Boob Shoulder, where women
will choose to look at men (in the rst parts of courtships
before meeting) sideways while raising their shoulder slightly
upwards, symbolically making it appear like a breast to
emphasize their femininity.
My Hips Don’t Lie: Women as we all know, have wider hips
than men due to the fact that they need a wider pelvic region
for childbearing purposes.  This also means that women have
a wider gap in their crotch which doesn’t allow them to run as
fast as men, but makes them walk in a way that emphasizes

their hips with a unique wiggle men can’t do.  It has been
found that the most healthy women with best chances of
reproduction are the ones who have a 70% waist to hip ratio
reproduction, are the ones who have a 70% waist to hip ratio,
meaning their waist is 70% the size of their hips – not
surprisingly this is the ratio men unconsciously nd most
attractive.  Woman who feel a connection or attraction with
the man they are speaking with, will also tilt their hips from
side to side resting their whole weight on one leg to make that
hip side protrude.
Insightful Purse:
Purse: Three words that are guaranteed to humiliate
any man anywhere? … ‘Hold my purse’.  But what men don’t
realize is that this simple action can speak vastly of how a
women feels towards them.  A woman’s purse is one of the
most personal things they own, in a sense, it has passed from
being an accessory to becoming an extension of a woman as it
carries all of her most intimate mysteries that most of us men

live in fear of knowing … heck I’m afraid if I stick my hand in

one I’ll come out with a nger missing or something.  When
women accept and feel attracted towards a guy they will put
women accept and feel attracted towards a guy, they will put
the purse close to him as opposed to hiding it some place
further away.  The woman might start so tly touching their
purse as they talk to the guy, and when they begin to feel a
stronger connection they will even entrust him with holding
the purse, or looking inside and searching for something.
Pointing: As previously mentioned
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-legs/), our legs are the
part of the body that is furthest away from the brain and
therefore the area we are least aware of.  When women or
men feel interest in someone they will start pointing at them
either with their feet (usually their lead walking foot or both)
while standing, or their knee while sitting.  How a persons
shows interest in another when sitting down is achieved by

tucking one leg under the other – the tucked-under-legs knee

will be pointing towards the direction of the person they feel
attracted to
attracted to.
Tight Legs:
Legs: Unlike other crossed leg
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-legs/) gestures that
show negativity, defensiveness or uncertainty, when women
cross their legs in a lirtation environment and don’t use other
negative gestures such as crossing their arms
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-arms/), this indicates
the female is trying to draw attention to her legs by tightly
pressuring one leg rmly against the other to emphasize their
high muscle tone.  Psychiatrist Dr Albert Sche len goes on to
even suggest that such a gesture is the position a body takes
when the person is preparing for sexual performance.
Facial Pedestal: When a woman joins her hands together by
putting one over the other and resting her face on them, it

doesn’t have anything to do with the “Head Support

(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-hands/)” boredom
gesture In fact this gesture reveals the total opposite
 gesture.  In fact this gesture reveals the total opposite
meaning as it means she likes the company of the man and
wants to display her face on a pedestal to gain his attention
and let him admire her.  Giving a compliment and the use of
some lattery in those moments seems to get many men very
far.

Men’s Signs
Observing men’s body language to see their patterns of lirting
gestures wasn’t as appealing as watching women’s for some
reason.  Men don’t appear to have as many lirting signs – perhaps
this could be due to our sti f nature where our bodies aren’t as
lexible (as our ancestors main concern was to hunt and develop
strong muscles for survival, so our main asset when it came to
nding a mate was the display of our big muscles, tall stature and
large crotch to the female).  I found it fun to analyze this masculine
behaviour nonetheless When women interact with men and
behaviour nonetheless.  When women interact with men and
women alike they are emotional, they talk about their feelings or
they share their worries – with male interactions on the other
hand, it is di ferent.  From a young age when interacting with other
men, males tend to experience a kind of platonic pride oriented
love for each other, where each male has to prove who is the most
dominant male of the group by impressing the rest.  Any display of
sensitivity can be seen as a weakness (which was a vulnerability in
the eyes of our ancestors primitive enemies), so their interactions
with other men involved the passing of straight information, facts
and solutions to problems (notice how women have better
handwriting than men? Men just want to write the information
down quickly while women take their time).  Guys understand that
they have to be more sensitive when in the dating game, but sadly

a ter conquering the heart of the female and making sure of it

(such as through marriage), they will gradually return to their true
nature of facts and information becoming less involved in dealing
nature of facts and information, becoming less involved in dealing
with that sensitive side they had to bring out.

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Men have always had a fascination with their own crotches.

 Without caring if it’s in public or not, we’ll freely adjust our
packages, especially in situations with large groups of other males
where there’s competitive behavior.  This can be observed between
groups of fans from opposing teams, at a pub, or watching a
sporting match, men will constantly start moving around the front
of their pants as a way to demonstrate their masculinity.
masculinity  This isn’t
something new – in packs of monkeys the leader will spread his
legs widely to display his “sword” (men who are feeling cocky or
dominant will also sit down while spreading their legs widely).
 Monkeys also stand up while touching “it” in front of their

subordinates and bossing them around.  Additionally, ancient

tribes used cones to put around their penises as a way of
highlighting their rank the higher the rank of the tribal member
highlighting their rank – the higher the rank of the tribal member
the bigger the cone.  The ladies man of the 15th century King
Henry VIII,  popularized a type of underwear where he used a
codpiece that protruded from the pants with braies tted with a
lap in the front that buttoned or tied to close when needing to
urinate.  From these ideas came the modern tightly tting
briefs/jocks (from this piece of clothing comes the name ‘Sports
Jocks’ which displays dominance and is popular with the girls).
 These jocks give men a sense of “protection”, as they can
constantly adjust their jocks to draw the attention of others down
there.  When men are interested in a female they will, in one way
or another, draw attention to the genital area most frequently
using the “Package (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-arms/)”
gesture.

Other signs to look out for:

for: Look out for the feet pointing
(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-legs/) interest signal,
where a person might be standing sideways because they don’t
where a person might be standing sideways because they dont
want to appear blunt by standing right in front of another person,
but the lead foot, or both feet of the guy, will be pointing towards
the person that is attracting their attention the most or has
captivated their interest.  Observe whether the man has large large
pupils (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-eyes/), whether he is
doing the “Superman (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-
arms/)” or “Package (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-arms/)”
pose, and/or whether he sucks in his gut.  Also observe whether he
starts preening himself by xing his hair, tie, collar or socks, if he
tilts his head (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-head/)
sideways to appear friendly and non dominant, if he begins
mirroring (https://lonerwolf.com/body-language-mirroring/) you
by copying your body language or asking what you’re going to eat

to order the same – as well as if he is constantly looking at your

mouth (this can be a sign of interest in kissing).  He may also stop
slouching to appear taller not only because he wants to appear
slouching to appear taller not only because he wants to appear
larger but when men or women are interested in
something/someone or are happy
happy, their backs will straighten
upwards.  When we slouch however, this is a display of boredom or
feeling down (notice how many depressive people tend to walk
slouching).

This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language

(https://lonerwolf.com/body-language/) series, you can read the
rest of the articles by clicking here (https://lonerwolf.com/body-
language/).

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