YOUTH VIOLENCE Derived FROM FAMILY

DISINTEGRAT ON
What is the use of looking back? How many times have
you asked yourself what your life would be like if you had made other decisions? If there was ...... it is a beginning of a
phrase that I personally experienced frequently. And behind that phrase I hear laments, sufferings, imaginations, envies,
justifications, yearnings, stagnation, fears, etc. To move forward we must stop looking at the past, touch the wounds of
yesterday, think about what could have been different ... We must look forward. The past is something that accompanies us
throughout our lives. The place we come from acts as a base to shape who we are, how we act and how we think about the
world around us.

Now, with this in mind, What could have been done but was not? Jeremiah 46:5 says:

“But? What do I see? They are terrified, they retreat, and their brave ones are undone; in flight they seek refuge
without looking back. There is terror everywhere, declares the LORD.”
Remember that terrible thing that must accept that the past will not precisely the first symptoms of
happened to us, how bad they change, that we must accept things maturity in a child, the first physical,
behaved as they were and let them be. But psychological and
towards us? It going forward, we must be positive, emotional lifelong
brings back and through God’s help, our situation changes. There are many
those will improve. It is easy to say, yes, causes of juvenile
emotions of but turning the page is essential. delinquency. This is my
discomfort, Dwelling on feelings of discomfort
guilt, shame, guilt, shame, and resentment will not story. My own parents
resentment ... help us. We must remember and were not good
that feeling of consider seriously. But how to communicators. They
hurt. It is help this world? I was in that did not give me
important to transition from early childhood to instructions on life, let
know that to overcome the past, we adulthood. This stage initiates alone how to be a
mother. Part of too were victims of these
me does not want abuses. My parents warned
to tell this story, me telling me that when I
because it is still married I could not return to
very painful. And the house. Emotional abuse,
like an artist who verbal abuse and violence are
begins to paint on very different acts. The pain of
a blank canvas, I emotional abuse stabs you and
feel I must start rots there. Nothing is seen on
over, that is, to repaint my life so you the surface, it will not earn you
can understand my story. There are even sympathy, let alone real
many factors that cause family help. Verbal abuse is too often not
disintegration in our society. recognized. Your problem is that you
Darkness. The memories of my are a victim of verbal violence and
childhood take you have no idea how to protect or
me back to a prevent against it. After a year of
very dark marriage, my first husband and I
place and joined the United States Army. These
time. I was were challenges times for a young
raised with an couple. We did not have enough
iron hand of money to survive, let alone for the
discipline. baby's milk. My husband and I found
I felt buried a place where you could sell your
alive and blood. They would give him five
forgotten dollars the first time and then add two
behind the dollars each time he returned. After
darkness of the darkness of my childhood, I
four black walls and windows. I would wanted to protect my two young son
be traumatized when I heard my from every physical and emotional
parents coming and I could not wound. He also "brought me out of
understand what I had done wrong or a horrible pit, out of the muddy
why they were still punishing me. Our mud, and set my
home was dark, behind those walls feet upon a rock,
and windows that were painted black. and established my
This deliberate act prevented the sun steps" (Psalm 40: 2
from illuminating our house and made KJV). Tears of pain.
the place feel like a grave. Many years later, in
Magnitude of the problem on my a matter of days, my
first marriage: For everyone who family disintegrated
suffers completely. The
physical horrible death of a
abuse, there loved one caused by another loved
are one must be one of the greatest
hundreds traumas that anyone can imagine. All
who suffer the sacred places of my being were
the effects destroyed forever.
of verbal My baby grandson
abuse. For died; he was abused.
every He did not die of
individual natural causes. He
who has been punched in the face, died of deliberate
there are hundreds who receive a abuse. My oldest son
verbal blow to the face. And there are was imprisoned for
big differences between these two his death and my
types of injuries. The physical attack youngest son fled with his girlfriend to
is obvious and undeniable. When live in another state to avoid the
someone physically hits you, you can situation. From the moment of birth, a
call the police, and show evidence of child should benefit from the care and
the attack as you suffered physical protection given mainly by the
pain. In my case it lasted for almost parents. Let us pass on good moral
15 years. I was pregnant four times, values to our children, even if we did
and only two children survived. They not have good examples. Statistics
show that homicide is the
fourth largest killer and
2,000 annual homicides
are among young people
between the ages of 10
and 29. The family must
constitute a nucleus where
parents are the strength
that children need in the
face of adversity. On one
hand, you have many
homes where children and
adolescents face harmful effects by
negative elements such as drug
addiction, alcohol, and negative
behavior. They might also be
exposed to pornography and violence
that technological advances can bring
when these devices are misused.
There are many fathers and mothers
without tools and skills to guide
children correctly. Communication is
lost and there is no real family
foundation. Disciplining a child has
become an impossible task for many
parents. Instructing a child has
become a laborious task for many
parents. But it must be done.
A failure at this stage leads to the
social problems that we see daily
where the use of violence to resolve
conflicts or the absence of values
such as responsibility, solidarity or
respect often time is lacking. It is
said that: A family is dysfunctional if
communication is absent; shared
activities, assumption of
responsibilities and a sense of
belonging and cohesion is lost,
either in a single-parent, household
or traditional nuclear, or when both
parents are present. Discipline
starts when children are young.
You must discipline your children
from a very young age. A 10-year-old
without discipline will be a
nightmare in the future. “You
cannot start to discipline a
young person is already
rebellious” Proverbs 2:26. It is
far too late! Therefore, it is not
surprising that many parents live
in constant confrontation with
their children, feeling that they
are getting out of hand. "If
you stop listening to the
instructions, my son,
you have turned your
back on knowledge"
(Proverbs 19:27 NIV).