PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

UNIT 1: SELF- DEVELOPMENT outcomes of social interactions from

infant to adult development.
Module 1: Knowing and ● ALIGNMENT ​is important.
Understanding Oneself during Middle - If the way what I am (actual self) is
aligned with the way that I want (ideal
and Late Adolescence self), then I will a sense of mental
well-being or peace of mind.
SELF- CONCEPT
- If ​not, ​the ​incongruence, ​or lack of
● IDEAL SELF alignment will result in mental distress or
- Is the self that you aspire to be. anxiety.
- The one that you hope to possess ● Personal Development modules ultimate
characteristics similar to that of a mentor goal is ​greater self- knowledge.
or some other worldly figure.
- How we want to be.
- It is an idealized image that we have
developed over time, based on what we
have learned and experience.
- Ideal self could include components of:
* What our parents have taught
us
* What we admire in others
* What our society promotes
* What we think is in our best
interest
● ACTUAL SELF
- The one that you actually see
- It is the self that has characteristics that
your nurtured or, in some cases, born to
have.
- It is built on ​self- knowledge

- It is who we really are

- It is how we think, we feel, look, and act.
- Actual self can be seen by others, but
because we have no way of truly
knowing how others views us, the actual
self is our ​self- image.

SELF- CONCEPT

- The actual and ideal self are two broad

categories of self- concept.
- Refers to your awareness of yourself.
- It is the construct that negotiates these
two selves.
- It connotes ;
* first ​the identification of the ideal
self as separate from others
* second​, it encompasses all the
behaviours evaluated in the
actual self that you engage in to
reach the ideal self.
● There is ​negotiation ​that exists between
the two selves which is complex because
there are numerous exchanges between the
ideal and actual self.
- These ​exchanges ​are exemplified in
social roles ​that are adjusted and
re-adjusted, and are derived from
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PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS - helps combat stress.

- Means making use of all personal
resources-- talents, skills, energy and
time
to enable you to achieve life goals.
- your knowledge of yourself and how you
manage yourself nimpacts directly on
your n effectiveness.
- keys to improving your personal
performance:
* being self-aware
* making the most of your
strengths
* learning new skills and
techniques
* behavioural flexibility
- Our personal effectiveness depends on
our innate characteristics—​talent ​and
experience ​accumulated in the process
of personal development.
- Talents ​first are needed to be identified
and then developed
- Experience ​includes knowledge and
skills we acquire in cognitive and
practical activities.
- Knowledge ​is required for setting goals,
defining an action plan to achieve them
and risk assessment.
- Skills ​also determine whether real
actions are performed in accordance
with the plan.
● Skills that increases the efficiency of any
person who owns them:
- ​stress ​arises from uncertainty in an unknown
situation when a lack of information creates the risk
of negative consequences.
- it increases efficiency in the actively changing
environment.
5. Problem- Solving Skills
- help cope with problems encountered with lack of
experience.
- increases efficiency by adopting new ways of
achieving goals
6. Creativity.
- allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out
a specific action that no one has tried to use.
- can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs.
7. Generating Ideas.
- helps you achieve using new, original,
unconventional ideas.
- ​Idea i​ s a mental image of an object formed by the
human mind, which can be changed before being
implemented in the real world.
- for generating ideas, you can use ​mental maps,
which allows you to materialize, visualize and
scrutinize all your ideas which in turn contributes to
the emergence of new ideas.

1. Determination.

- ​allows you to focus only on achieving a specific

goals without being distracted by less important.

- can be developed thru self-discipline exercise.

2. Self- Confidence.

- appears in the process of personal development

as a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions
and their consequences.

- is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing,

gait, and physical condition.

- to develop, learn yourself and capabilities and

gain positive attitude,

3. Persistence.

- makes you keep moving forward regardless of

emerging obstacles.

- developed thru self- disciple exercise.

4. Managing Stress.

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Build on Your Strengths and Work on
Your Weakness
● Most failure emanate from weaknesses.
● This weakness could be in communications,
personality, or ability.
● Instead of giving up:
* go for speech lessons
* get skills upgrading
* attend personality development
sessions
● instead of simply focusing on your
weaknesses, recognize your own abilities
and talents and utilize them to your greatest
advantage.
● Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano.
You Need To Take Charge of Your
Future
MOVIEGOER.
- This person watches movie of their lives.
Admire some parts and criticizes others.
- They do nothing else.
- Feels she has absolutely no control of
their lives except to comment about it.
- Most pathetic, miserable people in the
world.
ACTOR.
- Does not only watch, she actually
realizes she’s the Actor—and can
control a big part of her life.
- She can actually make or break the
movie—by how well she delivers her
lines and how she portrays her
character.
- Are happy bunch, realizing they’re the
start of the show and enjoy some level
of control.
- They wish the movie to end in another
way—but realize that they have no say
in such things.
SCRIPTWRITER.
The Power of Journal Writing:
Unfolding Your Personal Journey
The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the Scriptwriter if your life. There are four
(4) practical reasons to maintain a journal:
1. Cost- efficient and Available.
- emotional stress can be dealt in many ways like
talking to a friend over a cup of coffee, eating,
travelling, shopping, painting and many more.
- notebook and pens are inexpensive and easy to
find.
2. Preventive and Pro- active.
- writing yields self- awareness.
- when you write, you discover your strengths and
limitations.
3. Creative and Productive.
- Journal writing expounds your imagination.
- You can see various dimensions of your problem,
different points of view and better solutions.
4. Personal and Private.
- You can have the choice to keep your stories with
yourself alone.
- It is a way of loving yourself.
You just need one notebook to maintain a
personal journal. You may use these questions:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive
things that happened? What are those things that
made you irritated or upset?
2. What do you really want in life? What do you
want to achieve for yourself. your family, your
community, and your country?

- This person creates the entire movie

from her mind.
- Determines what she will say, what she
will do, and how the movie will end.
- She realizes that she has enormous
control over her life.

By the way, the ​Producer ​of the movie is ​God. ​He

tells you, “Make the movie beautiful, and I will give
you all that you need for success.”

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Module 2: Developing the Whole - A deeper look on the different aspects of
self can identify specific areas for ​self-
Person
regulation, stability, ​and
Different aspects of yourself: improvement.

1, Physical Self.

- Descriptions of your height, weight, facial In a nutshell, a person is composed of 3 basic

appearance, and quality of skin. aspects of self:

2. Intellectual Self. 1. Physical or Tangible.

- Of how well you reason and solve problems, your
capacity to learn and create.
3. Emotional Self.
- Typical feelings you can have, feelings you
seldom have, feelings you try to avoid…
4. Sensual Self.
- What sense do you most use—sight, hearing,
speaking, smelling, and touching.
5. Interactional Self.
- Include description of your strengths and
weaknesses in intimate relationships
6. Nutritional Self.
- How do you nourish yourself?
7. Contextual Self.
- Descriptors could be in the areas of maintenance
of your living environment: reaction to light,
temperature, space, weather, colours, sound and
seasons.
8. Spiritual Self of Life Force,
- Write words or phrases which tell about how you
feel in this area.
- This could include your feelings about yourself
and organized religion, reactions about your
spiritual connections to others, feelings about your
spiritual development and history, and thought
about your spiritual regimen or routine.
ASPECTS OF THE SELF
Self- Concept.
- relate to the body.
2. Intellectual and Conscious.
- relate to the mind.
3. Emotional and Intuitive.
- relate to the spirit.
* The body provides a place to house the
spirit (often expressed feelings) and the
mind (often expressed as thought).
* The ​mind ​is important as it direct the two
other aspects.
* The ​mind ​provides access creativity and
serenity which are necessary for such
processes as prayer, forgiveness,
acceptance, passion.
What the mind believes, the body manifest or acts
on, and the emotions responds with it.
The ​human emotions ​are the most feared aspect
of the self.
- (ANALOGY) Managing feelings is like
trying to hold water in the palm of your
hand.
- They are illusive and deceptive
- A decision made under emotional stress
and strain usually impacts emotions
negatively.
Negative emotions ​that are not managed are
stored and repressed.
-​Repression​ is destructive to a content self since
all feelings, are stored away.

- Is represented by several aspects of the

self
- It is conceived as ​collection of
multiple, context- dependent selves.
- This construct believes that context
activates particular regions of ​self-
knowledge ​and ​self- relevant
feedback ​affects self- evaluations and
affect.

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THREE SUCCESS STORIES
1. Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
2. Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
3. A Love Affair That Got Me Close to a Great
Doctor / Rodrigo Roa Duterte
A Real Winner ​is one who is able to:
1. Win over his/her battles and difficulties in life and
turns them into a learning and glorifying
experience.
2. Find meaning in pleasant and unpleasant events
in his life.
3. Live in peace with difficult people and difficult
situations.
4. Win the goodwill of others, their respect and
admiration.
5. Get what he wants using win-win strategies;
never at the expense of others.
6. Discover and use opportunities to his best
advantage.
7. Develop and use his talents and abilities to the
best advantage and in doing so, make meaningful
contribution in making this world a better place to
live in.
* The purpose of this story is to find ways to
manage your mind to live your life in
accordance with what your own judgement
says is best for you.
* A more shocking realization is that there are
many things about ourselves that we seem
powerless to control.
- Some of these are our ​thoughts,
feelings, ​and​ actions w
​ hich can be
source of distress.
- It may be thoughts such as “I cannot
stop hating my teacher for not giving me
high grades.”
“The one you feed” is deceivingly simple. The
results of psychological research indicate that there
are at least four important concepts or ideas
implied by the answer:
1. The mind is not the unitary entity it seems to us
but consists of different parts.
- For example in the story there are two wolves and
the “you” that chooses between them.
2. These parts of the mind/brain can interact and be
in conflict with each other i.e. the two wolves fight
for dominance over our mind and behaviour.
3. The “you” has the ability to decide which wolf to
feed.
4. Having made a choice, “you” can decide
specifically how to “feed” or nurture the selected
wolf.

The Story of the Two Wolves

The ff is an old Cherokee Indian story that is
enlightening and helpful.

And old Cherokee and his grandson.

“My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us

all.”

-One is evil: he is angry, envy, sorrow, regret,

greed, arrogance, self- pity, guilt, resentment,
inferiority, lies false pride, superiority, and ego.

-One is good: he is joy, peace, serenity, humanity,

kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth,
compassion, and faith.

“Which wolf will win?”

“The one you feed.” Said Old Cherokee

* Knowing which wolf to feed ​is the first

step towards recognizing you have control
over your own self.

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Module 3: Developmental Stages in
Middle and Late Adolescence
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
Human Development focuses on human
growth and changes across the lifespan, including
physical, cognitive, social, intellectual, perceptual,
personality and emotional growth.
The human being is either on a stage of
growth or decline, but either condition, imparts
change​.
Developmental Stages and its Characteristics
1. Pre- natal (Conception to birth)
- Age when hereditary endowment and sex are
fixed and all body features, both external and
internal are developed.
2. Infancy (Birth to 2 years)
- Foundation age when basic behaviour are
organized and many ontogenetic maturation skills
are developed.
3. Early Childhood (2 to 6 years)
- Pre-gang stage, exploratory, and questioning.
- Language and Elementary reasoning,
4. Late Childhood (6 to 1 2 years)
- Gang and creativity age when self-help skills.
Social skills, school skills, and play are developed.
5. Adolescence (puberty to 18 years)
- Transition age from childhood to adulthood.
- Sex maturation and rapid physical development
occur (feeling, thinking, and acting).
6. Early Adulthood (18 to 40 years old)
- Age of adjustment to new patterns of life and roles
such as spouse, parent, and bread winner.
7. Middle Age (40 years to retirement)
- Transition age when adjustments to initial physical
and mental decline are experienced.
8. Old Age (retirement to death)
- Retirement age when increasingly rapid physical
and mental decline are experienced.
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HAVIGHURT’S DEVELOPMENTAL
TASK DURING THE LIFE SPAN
Robert J Havighurt elaborated on the
Developmental Task Theory in the most systematic
and extensive manner.
- His main assertion is that ​development
id continuous throughout the entire
lifespan, occurring in stages, where the
individual moves from one stage to the
next by means of successful resolution
of problems or performance of
developmental tasks.
- Havighurst proposed a bio physical
model of development with influence on
the individual’s biology, his psychology,
and sociology.
INFANCY AND EARLY CHILDHOOD (0-5).
1. Learning to walk, talk, take solid foods, and
control the elimination of body wastes.
2. Learning sex differences and sexual modesty.
3. Acquiring concepts and language to describe
social and physical reality.
4. Readiness for reading
5. Learning to distinguish right from wrong and
developing a conscience.
MIDDLE CHILDHOOD (6-12)
1. Learning physical skills necessary for ordinary
games.
2. Building a wholesome attitude toward oneself.
3​. Learning to get along with age-mates.
4. ​Learning an appropriate sex role.
5. Developing fundamental skills in reading, writing,
and calculating.
6. Developing concepts necessary for everyday
living.
7. Developing conscience, morality, and a scale of
values.
8. ​Achieving personal independence.
9. Developing acceptable attitudes toward society.
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ADOLESCENCE (13-18).
1. Achieving mature relations with both sexes.
2. Achieving a masculine or feminine social role.
3. ​Accepting one’s physique.
4. Achieving emotional independence of adults.
5. Preparing for marriage and family life.
6. Preparing for an economic career.
7. Acquiring values and an ethical system to guide
behaviour.
8. Desiring and achieving socially responsibility
behaviour.
EARLY ADULTHOOD (19-30).
1. Selecting a mate.
2. Learning to live with a partner.
3. Starting a family.
4. Rearing a children.
5. Managing a home.
6. Starting an occupation.
7. Assuming civic responsibility.
MIDDLE ADULTHOOD (30-60).
1. Helping teenage children to become happy and
responsible adults.
2. Achieving adult social and civic responsibility.
3. Satisfactory career achievement.
4. Developing adult leisure time activities.
5. Relating to one’s spouse as a person.
6. Accepting the psychological changes of middle
age.
7. Adjusting to aging parent.
LATER MATURITY (61-DEATH)
1. Adjusting to decreasing strength and health.
2. Adjusting to retirement and reduced income.
3. Adjusting to death of spouse.
4. Establishing relations with one’s age group.
5. Meeting social and civic obligations
6. Establishing satisfactory living quarters.
T.H.I.N.K. ​Before You Speak. Have Mindful
Speech.
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True. Helpful. I. Now. Kind.
LIVING MINDFULLY
Living mindfully is like being an artist: you need the
right tools to practice your craft, and you need to
constantly refine your technique to achieve your
creative potential.
TOOL 1. ​Breathe Mindfully.
- Use your breath as an anchor to still
your mind and bring your focus back to
the present.
TOOL 2. ​Listen Deeply.
- Listen with intention. Let others fully
express themselves and focus on
understanding how they think and feel.
TOOL 3. ​Cultivate Insight.
- See life as it is, allowing each
experience to be an opportunity for
learning.
TOOL 4. ​Practice Compassion.
- Consider thoughts and feelings of others
and let tenderness, kindness and
empathy be your guides.
TOOL 5. ​Limit Reactivity.
- Observe rather than be controlled by
your emotions. Pause, breathe, and
choose a skilful response based on
thoughtful speech and non- violence
under every condition.
TOOL 6. ​Express Gratitude.
- Practice gratitude daily and expand it
outward, appreciating everyone and
everything you encounter.
TOOL 7. ​Nurture Mutual Respect.
- Appreciate our common humanity and
value different perspectives as well as
your own.
TOOL 8. ​Build Integrity.
- Cultivate constructive values and
consistently act from respect, honesty,
and kindness.
TOOL 9. ​Foster Leadership.
- Engage fully in life and in community.
Share your unique talents and
generosity so that others can also be
inspired.
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TOOL 10. ​Be Peace.
- Cultivate your own inner peace, becoming
an agent for compassionate action and
social good.

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Module 4: The Challenges of Middle
and Late Adolescence
Objectives:
1. Discuss how facing the challenges during
adolescence, you may be able to clarify and
manage the demands of teen years.
2. Express your feelings on the expeactation
of the significant people around you
3. Make affirmations that help you become
more lovable and capable as an adolescent.
​ he Passage to Adulthood: Challenges
Reading: T
of Late Adolescence
PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT:
● Most girls have completed physical changes
related to puberty
● Boys are still maturing and gaining strenght
and muscles
EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT:
● May stress over school and trst scores
● Is self- involved
● Seeks privacy and time alone
● Is concerned about physical and sexual
attractiveness
● May complain when parents prevents him in
doing such things
● Starts to want both physical and emotional
intimacy
● The experience of intimate partnerships
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT
● Shifts in relationship with parenta from
dependency to subordination
● Is more and more aware of social behaviors
of friends.
● Seeks friends that share the same beliefs,
values and interests.
● Friends become more important.
● Starts to have more intellectual interests.
● Explores romantic and sexual behaviors
with others.
● May be influenced by peers to try risky
behaviors
MENTAL DEVELOPMENT
● Becomes better able to set goals and think
in terms of future
● Has a better understanding of complex
problems and issues.
● Starts to develop moral ideals and to select
role models.
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​ ncouragement 101: The Courage to
Reading: E
Be Imperfect
( Timothy Evans, Ph. D)
Encouragement ​is important in improving
relationships.
- The lack of ut could result tk conflict and
misbehavior
- It develops person's hardiness and social
interest.
-
Hardiness-​ the ability to function and recover
when things aren't going their way.
Spiritual Connotation:​ Hebrew'a 3:11 "Encourage
one another daily."
Psychological Idea:​ was developed by Alfred Adler
and soon evolved by Rudolf Dreikurs
- Praise​ is mistakenly used as an effort to
"encourage" others.
- Half of the job of ​encouragement ​lies in
avoiding discouraging words and action​.
× Most commonly, we discourage in fuve general
ways:
1. We set standarda rhat are too jugh for
others to meet because we are overly
ambitious.
2. We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate
change.
3. We make constant comparisons
4. We automatically give a negatuve spin to
the action of others.
5. We dominate others by being overly helpful,
implying that they are unable to do it as
well.
- Encouragement ​conveys the idea that all
human beings are worthwhilr simply
because they exist.
- "I like you just the way you are."
- It enhances a feeling of ​belonging​ which
leads to greater social interest.
Social Interest​- the tendency for people to unite
themselves with other human beings to
accomplish their task.
- The Junior League of Mission is rooted in
the idea of social interest.
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- First step​ of becoming and encouraging
person is to learn how to ​distinfuish
encouragement from discouragement​.
- "Whatever I say or do, will it bring me closer
together or father apart from this person?"

​ he Power of Personal Declarations

Reading: T

(Dr. Emily De Carlo)

● We must not give our power away to others

by accepting their declarations concerning
our affairs.
● To counteract dangerous declarations, one
must consciously replace them with one
own's declarations.

× I declare that I am totally free of all addictions.

× I declare that I am free in my mind, body, and

soul.

×I declare that I am free to set goals and reach

them.

​ eing Happy
Reading: B

● Being happy is not having sky without a

storm
● It is finding strenght in forgiveness, hope in
one's battle, security at the stage of fear,
and love in disagreements.
● It is also to reflect on sadness.
● Is having joy in anonymity.
● Is to recognize it is worthwhile to live.

×​ Spring time​, may you become lover of joy.

×​ Winter time,​ may you become a friend of wisdom.

● Happiness is life that losses to refine

patience

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