Hazel Gale

So awareness is the key. Start catching yourself in the act. Literally stop whatever it is that you’re doing
in the moment of anger/fear/hurt etc. and take a step back. By doing this, you bring conscious
awareness into the middle of an unconscious cycle. By using that awareness to disrupt the cycle you can
cause it to cease firing and provide yourself with a choice of how to continue — how to behave — that
you previously lacked.

In hypnotherapy we call this process of interruption a Pattern Interrupt and there are many ways you
can do it.

Option a) Utilise age regression to trigger a more positive past state. By doing something like humming
your favourite nursery rhyme, or singing a song that reminds you of safe, loving childhood memories,
you can evoke an alternative, happy childhood state and its respective resources.

Option b) Perhaps a more mature approach (quite literally) would be to use a trigger in that moment of
awareness that reminds you of your real age, and therefore a state of consciousness that is linked to
your adult being. If you’re married, your wedding ring could function as such a trigger.

Notice how you’re breathing and take long, deep, slow breaths, from the diaphragm.

Notice where your feet are: on the ground. Point that out to yourself.

Stop and ask yourself how you feel. Name the emotion.

Ask yourself how old you feel. Picture yourself at that age.

Try to mentally picture your young self and talk to him/her. Be compassionate and understanding.

Imagine yourself at your current age, with wisdom and kindness, and let your younger self know that
you will be taking over now.

“Fake it ‘til you make it.” In other words, do your best to respond in a way that doesn’t necessarily
match how you emotionally feel. You want to remember that no one else knows what’s going on inside
your head, so try and keep it that way.

When you can, get away from the situation. Seek support from a safe friend, mentor, or sponsor.

Make it a general rule in your life not to act or say much if you are feeling that your perspective is off.

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General observations

Trance as stuck-in-a-past-unresolved-situation is not the only factor.

I also have representations of my parents’ unresolved issues in me, AND my stored help-attempts. So in
different situations I might hypnotically identify with the stuck-solution-strategy of one parent, and at
others be the kid again witnessing it all. And all of these aspects A-id, B-id, AvsB-id can be also an item in
my mind. And I can develop an attitude, a connection, and a relationship with this item.

E.g. I see how my father was in certain situations (violent, shouting etc), hating how I saw my mother
being intimidated by that and/or my helplessness with that. And then store “I don’t want to be like
that”. So now I establish in my mind Me-vs.-father-trait. Problem is that in order to refresh my ideal
behavior (“I want to be kind”) I have to also re-energize the traumatic memory of my conflict. So I’m
recreating the old conflict.