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By Gila Shapiro
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And then ask yourself: Who gets to decide how you feel about
your body? Cosmopolitan? Your co-worker, the stranger at the
gym? Who owns your body? Does that billboard you drive past
every day challenge your self-acceptance. This kind of self-
awareness gives you the opportunity to think about these fixed
ideas you may have about your body, and with that, begin to
do things differently.
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Get to know your sexual story: Did you talk about sex in your
family or community? When you were growing up, what
attitude was communicated to you about the different parts of
your body? For example, when you were a baby and naming
parts -- eye, nose etc. -- were your genitals given a cute name
or simply called "privates" and were you told that they were
not to be spoken about or touched? What kind of relationship
could you expect to have with a nameless, often ignored or just
shameful body part? What kind of effect did these experiences
have on you?
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Lastly, there's sex and meaning. What does sex mean to you?
Sex itself is just a body part doing something to another body
part -- perhaps it's a finger doing something to an anus or lips
doing something or a tongue or maybe it's just a penis into a
vagina -- there's no intrinsic meaning to these actions, just the
physical mechanism of movement. But as humans, we are
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What I've offered you here are some key points to consider and
reflect on. They are the fundamental ideas that repeatedly
show up in my work with clients. I encourage you to use them
to really think about the way you relate to your body, your
internal dialogue about sex, and how you express your sexual
needs. The more self-acceptance you have about your sexuality
-- the whole thing, every stretch mark, dimple and saggy
buttocks, every fantasy and desire -- the more engaged your
sexual experience and sexual satisfaction.
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