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Married
to a Tzaddik:
The Ribnitzer Rebbetzin Speaks about her Life
with the Rebbe, Rav Chaim Zanvil Abramowitz, zt"l
I had every reason to feel intimidated. I was waiting to meet with the
Rebbetzin of the Ribnitzer Rebbe, may his memory be for a blessing,
whom everyone called a “Baal Mofes,” a miracle worker, someone
venerated as unique in his generation.
Not that there are any “ordinary” Rebbetzins or even “ordinary” Jews in
the world when you scratch the surface. But one of the few details I knew
about the Ribnitzer Rebbetzin made her sound truly extraordinary—the
fact that she had married the Rebbe in 1980 (after his previous Rebbetzin
passed away), when she was 33 years old, and he was approximately 90
years old.
I remembered my husband’s sage and terse advice: “Just be yourself,”
as he disappeared and I went to open the door for the Rebbetzin. And
then I saw her with that big, warm smile on her face as she said “Hi” and
clasped my hand in hers. Standing before me was one of the most down
to earth, unpretentious, completely unintimidating, and most real people I
had ever met.
Everyone calls her “Rebbetzin,” including her sisters. Her presence exudes
malchus and her conversation is always purposeful and replete with her
life’s experience and wisdom. The big surprise is that she is both bigger
than life and completely natural and comfortable to be with. What happens
when you are around her is that you feel connected to the greatness in
your own soul which, of course, makes you feel very, very good.
The Rebbetzin is an accomplished writer who has written lyrics for
Mordechai Ben Dovid and other performing artists. Her main work-in-
progress is a book about the Rebbe, based on her life with him during l6
years of marriage, as well as interviews with some of the thousands of
people whose lives he touched. So far, the Rebbetzin has conducted over
800 interviews in Israel, alone.
I start out with the most obvious question that would occur to anyone
who knows her story and has the chutzpa to ask:
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The Rebbe’s Avodah:
The Rebbe lived in Russia during the K.G.B. era Unfathomable. It appears that as tortuous
when it was forbidden to practice anything even and painful as this process must have been, his
remotely close to religion. That was of little concern consciousness was able to overcome the physical
to the Rebbe. The K.G.B. said, “No.” But Hashem experience. He must have pierced through the
said, “Yes,” and so he listened to Hashem and physical barrier to a place where his own inner fire
acted fearlessly, even putting his very life on the and desire to serve Hashem actually melted the icy
line. waters to the extent that they began bathing him
Prayer was forbidden, yet he managed to pray in their warmth.
daily with a minyan, running around town to gather The Rebbe fasted every day, except for Shabbos,
the Jews so they could come and join his minyan. and every night he would say the Tikun Chatzos
Circumcisions were forbidden, yet he risked his life prayer for hours. The Rebbe would sit on the
to perform them in spite of the evil decree. Kosher ground surrounding himself with burning candles.
was forbidden, yet he slaughtered chickens and He wore sackcloth directly on his skin. He placed
made sure that the Jews of Ribnitz ate only kosher. ashes all over his face, body, and clothing, and then
To own a Torah scroll was a definite “No,” but he he began saying the 20 minute Chatzos prayer for
owned one anyway. the next six to eight hours while he shed oceans
He did all this right in front of their noses, yet of tears as if he was personally witnessing the
they were powerless to stop him. Whenever they destruction of the Bais Hamikdash right in front of
tried, something would always happen to them or his eyes and the exile of the holy Shechinah.
to a member of their immediate family, and they The troubles of Am Yisroel were etched deep into
would run to ask his forgiveness. If they promised his very soul. As he cried so bitterly, his tears mixed
not to turn any Jew into the K.G.B. headquarters, with the ashes upon him, and when his chatzos
then he agreed to pray on their behalf, and things prayer was over, there appeared what can only be
always turned around for them. described as a pile of mud on the ground.
Mikvah was forbidden, so he cracked the ice in Though his daily schedule was time consuming,
the river and immersed daily. he was still able to speak with and advise many,
He would crack the ice exposing a circle of icy many people who came to him. How did he find
water, leave his clothing on the ice, and immerse the time?
310 times. Then he would exit amidst the howling It’s a great paradox. It seems that when you
and freezing windstorms with temperatures ranging serve Hashem in that capacity, then you are the
even 30 below zero. His clothing would be solidly ruler of time rather than time controlling you. You
frozen. Having no other choice, he would dip his can then surpass the physical barrier of the time
clothes in the ice water, ring them out, put the wet zone because, in essence, you are tuned in to
clothing on his frozen body, and then run a mile Hashem who does not live in time.
uphill before reaching home.