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Lesson Ten
PRELIMINARY IDEAS
Marriage is a great Sacrament ... and the day on which the young couple, in
a sublime act of confident trust and love, bestow the Sacrament each upon
the other, is a day to be forever remembered. A day of joy in the heart of
Mother Church, and in the hearts of the bride and groom, it is as well a day
of happiness for those privileged to share their joy.
For the bride and groom, this is a particularly decisive day in their own lives
and, because it marks the crowning point of their mutual love, they seek to
share their happiness with their relatives and friends. On this special day of
special days apart, they don their best apparel, and enlist the sweetest
melodies to sing the joy of their union, and the happiness they expect from
it. Then, united for all eternity in the Sacrament of marriage, they leave their
families to found their new home, a home of their own.
In the midst of the worldly celebrations and decorations, in the midst of the
earthly rejoicings that accompany the religious celebration, we must,
however, never lose sight of the profound depth of the great event which is
to take place. It is sad that so many young people on the eve of this great
Sacrament give their time and attention only to preparing the exterior
brilliance of their marriage and forget the essential things the Sacrament and
the Mass, of which all else, no matter how beautiful and touching, are still
only accessories.
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OBJECT OF THIS LESSON
This present lesson places the marriage ceremony in its true and proper
perspective both from the religious as well as from the worldly point of view.
The explanations given here are designed to help and enable the future
spouses to keep the memory of this special day one of charm and
enchantment in the years that lie ahead.
The ceremony should be dignified and beautiful. Don’t invite singers whose
performance would be more theatrical than liturgical and who would be only
a distraction to those assisting at your marriage. See to it that the singing, if
there is to be some, be the chant of the Church. Certainly the pastor or the
priest who is to officiate at your marriage should be consulted in this matter.
The future husband will do well to see that his partner-to-be takes this much
needed rest. The health of the children to come is at stake. Women are
naturally ambitious, and for a few dollars more they may not hesitate at
times to risk their health. The future husband should therefore insist, if
necessary, that his fiancee quit work some time before the wedding date in
order to take this well-merited rest. The length of this rest may vary
according to the individual case; nevertheless, some rest does seem
imperative for any young woman who has been working outside the home.
3) ANNOUNCEMENTS
The modern wedding announcement is usually worldly and drab in tone.
Others, equally modern but with Christian meaning and character, are
inspiring and charming. Of these latter, the following is given as an example
that at the same time leaves scope for individual initiative:
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith
have the honour of announcing
that their daughter,
Mary,
Mr. and Mrs. Wilfred Jones
have the honour of announcing
that their son,
John,
will be united in Christ, in the Sacrament of Matrimony,
In order to provide your wedding guests with a means for proper liturgical
assistance at the Marriage Mass, the Oblate Catholic Centre, Laycock St.,
Penshurst. N.S.W.. has published a booklet entitled “THE MARRIAGE
CEREMONY.” Copies may be obtained in either English or French. This booklet
(of vest pocket size) contains the text of the exhortations, blessings, etc.,
pronounced by the priest, the entire marriage ceremony, as well as the
entire nuptial Mass. “The Marriage Ceremony” is neat, original, new, and ...
Christian. With the aid of this pamphlet, not only the newly married couple
but all those in attendance are enabled to participate in the ceremony with
respect and dignity.
4) STAG PARTIES
Marriage is a great social act. It is understandable, therefore, why it is usually
preceded and followed by various social activities to mark the young
couple’s passage into a new way of living. Unhappily, the celebrations
organized for this purpose too often devolve into pagan orgies that are
thoroughly contrary to the Christian spirit that should animate them. The
following points should be of great help both to you and to the friends who
will be entertaining you. If you wish to make your marriage a Christian
marriage, then insist that all entertainment be clean and properly conducted.
It may require some courage to assert this principle to some of your friends
but (and this is fact) others have done so and today have the satisfaction of
knowing that Christ did not have to remove His blessing. For them, marriage
is and will be a lifelong memory of clean, wholesome joys, rather than one
blighted and tainted by the memory of drunken orgies and obscene jokes.
There are three thoughts that we would give you for consideration at this
point: 1) Is it the intention of this “stag” to honour you, or is it to be an
excuse for a “drink?” 2) Is it honoring you when you and the girl whom you
love enough to lead to God’s altar a few days hence, are made the object of
your companions’ smut! 3) What would be the reaction of your future wife if
she were to see and hear what is going on?
Therein you have the answer to the spirit in which these “stags” should be
conducted. Demand and insist that any parties held in your honor shall be
really clean and wholesome and, consequently a matter for enjoyable
memories. Take whatever precautions may be necessary to ensure, if there is
to be any drinking at all, that it will be kept to a minimum. Otherwise, almost
inevitably some one will overindulge and from there it is but a short step
before the lewd stories get started. Be firm and insistent on this point. After
all, it’s being held in your honor. Make it such that it leaves no “sour taste in
your mouth” afterwards. Don’t let your entry into the marriage state be
marked by concessions to those who are too cowardly or too carnal-minded
to live up to higher, nobler ideals.
5) SHOWERS
“Showers” are gatherings at which gifts of various kinds are presented to the
bride-to-be. It is apparent that these gifts will be in proportion to the number
and to the social standing of these friends. The multiplication of showers
means more gifts but, as is usually the case, since it is the same friends who
sponsor the showers, the result is that the more numerous the showers, the
more does the quality of the gifts tend to decrease. It would be wiser,
therefore, to keep the number of these showers at a minimum, thereby
permitting every one to present a little less perhaps, but, on the other hand,
more substantial, useful, and important gifts. This reduction of the number of
showers would decrease the nervous strain to which the bride-to-be is
6) WEDDING CLOTHES
The wedding apparel depends upon the type of wedding selected. If your
means and taste incline both of you to have a fashionable wedding, the
following clothes will be necessary: For the groom: black cut-away or
morning coat, dark grey-striped trousers, black shoes, page-grey gloves, grey
cravat, pointed collar, high hat. For the bride: long gown, of the color desired,
etc., with appropriate accessories, veil, gloves, bouquet. A milliner should be
consulted.
One major factor must be stressed: In her preparations, the bride should
place keen emphasis on the matter of modesty. Long sleeves and high neck
are much more becoming and attractive than short, almost non-existent
sleeves or a low cut neckline.
7) MATERIAL PREPARATION
Material preparations for the wedding and reception should be handled by
the bride’s parents. The bride should, of course, be consulted concerning
these preparations. Exaggerated spending should be avoided. In order to
save the bride all unnecessary anxiety, arrangements concerning the
reception afterwards should be taken care of by the mother or sister. The
bride herself has enough to do, especially since all material preparations on
her part should be completed at least a week before the wedding so that she
may relax and rest before the great day.
8) SPIRITUAL PREPARATION
Marriage is a Sacrament of the living. It is a Sacrament in which the bride
and groom are themselves the ministers. They would commit a serious
sacrilege if the morning of their marriage were to find them not in the state
of grace. In this case, confession is obligatory for them, just as it is for the
reception of all the other Sacraments of the living.
The ideal would be for the future spouses to make a closed retreat,
particularly a special closed retreat in preparation for their marriage. Take
advantage of the splendid opportunity to do so. In retrospect, it will be one of
the most joyft I events of your life.
In the past, many marriages were celebrated in front of the church: “There
before the main entrance of many European churches, the lovely ‘nuptial
portals’ around which artists described in graceful sculpture the symbolical
parable of the five wise and five foolish virgins awaiting the coming of the
bridegroom.” The Church now requires that the marriage be celebrated at
the altar. (Roman Ritual, TIT, VII, Ch. 2.)
Unless authorized by the bishop or pastor, the wedding should be held in the
parish church (usually that of the woman). The bishop never, except in a
very extraordinary case, permits the celebration of this Sacrament in a
private home. Nor will he authorize, except for an urgent reason, its
celebration in the chapels or oratories of convents or of seminaries.
Ordinarily, the ceremony takes place at the entrance to the sanctuary,
outside the chancel (communion rail), in front of the main altar, or in a side
chapel or at a side altar, as in the case of the wedding of a Child of Mary, at a
chapel dedicated to Mary.
The bridegroom and his witness (usually the best man) should be the first to
arrive at the church. They advance to their respective kneeling benches on
the Epistle (right hand) side, genuflect, and then await (standing) the solemn
entrance of the bride. The bride now enters the church and, preceded by the
ushers and the bridesmaids, is escorted by her father, followed by the page
and flower girl. The procession approaches the altar while the organ plays;
then, the future spouses greet each other by an inclination of the head, the
bride hands her bouquet to a bridesmaid, and all kneel. The ceremony is now
about to begin. (N.B. At this point the couple should both remove their
gloves.)
There then they stand before the altar where Jesus will again sacrifice
Himself for His Church in order to sanctify Her, and with Her to create,
nourish and mould holy members. Towards them advances the priest, robed
in the vestments of the Holy Sacrifice if he himself is to celebrate the Mass
that follows. (Otherwise, he will be arrayed in surplice and white stole.)
During the ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage, the two witnesses stand
beside the bride and groom.
Thus it is that, linked with the Sacrifice of Jesus, at His altar, before His priest
vested for Holy Mass, the spouses themselves administer, each to the other,
the Sacrament of marriage, tie the bonds of conjugal life, and start the flow,
A) PRIEST’S ALLOCUTION
The priest begins by an allocution. This instruction is reminiscent of an
Ordination. Before an ordination, the Bishop, in the Name of Jesus, solemnly
warns the candidate for Holy Orders of the grandeur and the important
functions that the Holy Ghost will confer upon him.
Thus, before the spouses contract the great Sacrament of Matrimony, the
priest in the Name of Jesus warns them of the sublimity of the marriage
bond, blessed by God from the beginning of the world, honored by Jesus’ first
miracle at Cana, and elevated by Him to the dignity of a Sacrament. This.
Sacrament is sublime, representing as it does, the mystical union of our
Divine Saviour with His Church.
The priest then invites the spouses to etch deeply within their hearts the
holy obligations of Matrimony: inviolable love and fidelity, mutual help and
support, union of the flesh in one heart, the firm, clear resolution to accept
all the children God will be pleased to grant them, to consecrate these
children to Him by baptism, and to educate them for Heaven.
Herewith is the text of the priest’s allocution. This allocution, the final
exhortation, and all the prayers of the ceremony, should be frequently
meditated upon, both before and after the wedding.
“My dear friends: You are about to enter into a union which is most sacred
and most serious. It is most sacred, because established by God Himself;
most serious, because it will bind you together for life in a relationship so
close and so intimate, that it will profoundly influence your whole future.
That future, with its hopes and disappointments, its successes and its
failures, its pleasures and its pains, its joys and its sorrows, is hidden from
your eyes. You know that these elements are mingled in every life, and are to
be expected in your own. And so not knowing what is before you, you take
each other for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in
health, until death.
“Truly, then, these words are most serious. It is a beautiful tribute to your
undoubted faith in each other, that recognizing their full import you are,
nevertheless, so willing and ready to pronounce them. And because these
words involve such solemn obligations, it is most fitting that you rest the
security of your wedded life upon the great principle of self-sacrifice. And so
you begin your married life by the voluntary and complete surrender of your
individual lives in the interest of that deeper and wider life which you are to
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have in common. Henceforth you belong entirely to each other; you will be
one in mind, one in heart, and one in affections. And whatever sacrifices you
may hereafter be required to make to preserve this common life, always
make them generously. Sacrifice is usually difficult and irksome. Only love
can make it easy; and perfect love can make it a joy. We are willing to give in
proportion as we love. And when love is perfect the sacrifice is complete.
God so loved the world that He gave His Only begotten Son; and the Son so
loved us that He gave Himself for our salvation. “Greater love than this no
man hath, that a man lay down his life for his friends,”
“No greater blessing can come to your married life than pure conjugal love,
loyal and true to the end. May, then, this love with which you join your hands
and hearts today, never fail, but grow deeper and stronger as the years go
on. And if true love and the unselfish spirit of perfect sacrifice guide your
every action, you can expect the greatest measure of earthly happiness that
may be allotted to man in this vale of tears. The rest is in the hands of God.
Nor will God be wanting to your needs; He will pledge you the life-long
support of His graces in the Holy Sacrament which you are now going to
receive.”
b) Joining of the hands1: The man and the woman join right hands, and
the priest says
It is to be noted that this formula does not create the marriage bond. In
pronouncing it, the priest marks, officially states, and witnesses in the name
of the Holy Church that the Sacrament has been conferred.
The Priest then sprinkles them with Holy Water.2
The priest sprinkles the ring with holy water. The bridegroom receives the
ring from the priest and places it on the third finger of the bride’s left hand.
The priest says:
ii) Today: Since the 13th century, the ring has been a distinctive mark of the
married woman. The ring may be of gold or silver, and preferably, plain. A
plain ring, unadorned by precious stones, a marriage guard, better expresses
the Catholic tradition.
Why only one ring? As a matter of fact, in Belgium and throughout Europe
generally, each of the spouses wears a nuptial ring. This custom tends to
spread here. The ring worn by the man has the advantage of reminding him
that he also is bound by marriage and that he has promised fidelity to his
wife.
Final Prayers
V. Confirma hoc, Deus, quad V. Confirm, O God, that
operatus es in nobis. which Thou hast wrought in
us.
R. A templo sancto tuo, quod R. From Thy holy temple
est in Jerusalem. which is in Jerusalem.
Kyrie Eleison Lord, have mercy on us.
Christe Eleison Christ, have mercy on us.
Kyrie Eleison Lord, have mercy on us.
Pater noster ... (Secreto) Our Father ... (silently)
V. Et ne nos inducas in V. And lead us not into
tentationem. temptation.
R. Sed libera nos a malo. R. But deliver us from evil.
V. Salvos fac servos tuos. V. Save Thy servants.
R. Deus meus, sperantes in R. Who hope in Thee, O my
te. V. Mitte eis, Domine, God. V. Send them help, O
auxilium de sancto. Lord, from the sanctuary.
R. Et de Sion tuere eos. R. And from out of Sion
V. Esto eis, Domine, turns defend them.
fortitudinis. V. Be unto them, O Lord, a
D) FINAL EXHORTATION
The bride, the groom, and the witnesses remain kneeling; the guests may sit
down. The final exhortation may be made immediately, but preferably it
should be given after the Mass, the better to illustrate that the ceremony of
marriage is, in a sense, part of the Nuptial Mass ... that is to say, that the
newlyweds unite themselves with the Divine Victim in offering themselves
and their descendants in sacrifice to the Saviour to obtain the graces they
will need through their life together. (See Note: P. 242 No. 2).
Having been united in the holy bonds of Matrimony, give thanks to the
Almighty for the favours which he has bestowed upon you. The graces which
you have received have been granted for the purpose of animating you in
the discharge of the obligations which the marriage life imposes, and which
are beautifully expressed in these words of the Apostle: “Let women be
subject to their husbands, as to the Lord: Because the husband is the head of
the wife, as Christ is the head of the Church ... Therefore as the Church is
subject to Christ, so also let wives be to their husbands in all things.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the Church, and delivered
Himself up for it: that He might sanctify it, cleansing it by the laver of water
in the word of life ... So also ought men to love their wives as their own
bodies.”
Ever mindful of these duties which you awe to each other, and to those with
whose welfare you may be especially charged, cherish with solicitude the
grace that has this day been conferred upon you; it will direct you in every
difficulty; it will comfort you in the hour of trial; it will be a continual source
of peace, of joy, of mutual affection on earth, and a pledge of your eternal
and perfect union in heaven.
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Prayer after the Marriage Ceremony:
O God, Who hast ordained and sanctified the holy state of Matrimony for
replenishing the earth, for mutual consolation, and as a type of the union of
Christ and His Church, give to these here present who have this day entered
into this sacred relation, grace to both thankfully accept its blessings and
faithfully to fulfil its duties. Accompany their union with Thy constant
assistance, to enable them to live together in peace and love, in the careful
discharge of all their duties to Thee and to each other.
Deliver them from all evil temper, from every heedless action, which may in
any way embitter or weaken the tie by which Thou hast bound them
together. Make them true and affectionate, studious to please, and ready to
deny their own will and inclination in all things. Let not the trials and crosses
of life induce them to murmur, nor let their earthly prosperity cause them to
forget Thee, the Author and Giver of all blessings; but by patience and
meekness, by prayer and thankfulness, may all blessings be sanctified unto
them, and fit them for an eternal union with Thee. Through the same Christ
our Lord. Amen.
Following are the magnificent prayers that the Church recites for the new
spouses during the marriage Mass. It is easy to understand the treasures of
grace lost by those who marry without the Mass or with a non-Catholic since
none of these prayers is said for them. It is strongly urged also that you
receive Holy Communion during “your Mass” in order to gain even greater
blessings.
B) LITURGICAL DIRECTIONS
The special Nuptial Mass may not be celebrated a) during the prohibited
times, that is to say, from the first Sunday of Advent until Christmas
inclusively; from Ash Wednesday until Easter inclusively; November 2 (All
COLLEC Graciously hear us, Almighty and Merciful God: that what is done
T by our ministry may be abundantly fulfilled with Thy blessing.
Through our Lord...
EPISTL St. Paul teaches that Christian Marriage is modelled upon that
E remarkable dogma, the permanent, intimate and loving union of
Christ with His Church. Thanks to St. Paul’s revelation, married
people may now understand something of the sublimity of Christian
marriage. In His Passion, Christ took the Church as His Bride. In so doing, He
gave Christian marriage its symbol and its model. As Christ and His Church,
so husband and wife.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the Church, and
delivered himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, cleansing her in the
bath of water by means of the word; in order that he might present to
himself the Church in all her glory, not having spot or wrinkle or any such
thing, but that she might be holy and without blemish. Even thus ought
husbands also to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own
wife, loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh; on the contrary he
nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ also does the Church (because we are
members of his body, made from his flesh and from his bones). “For this
reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife;
and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery.... I mean in
GRADUAL Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine on the sides of thy house.
AND V. Thy children as olive plants round about thy table.
ALLELUIA: Alleluia, alleluia. May the Lord send you help from the
sanctuary, and from out of Sion defend you. Alleluia.
TRACT Behold, thus shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord. V. May
: the Lord bless thee from out of Sion: and mayest thou see the good
things of Jerusalem all the days of thy life. V. And mayest thou see
thy children’s children: peace upon Israel.
GOSPEL The Gospel proclaims the unity and the indissolubility of marriage in
: the words of Christ “The two shall become one flesh ... What God
has joined together, let no man put asunder.”
Text: (St. Matthew, 19, 3-6) At that time, there came to Jesus some
Pharisees, testing him, and saying, “Is it lawful for a man to put away his
wife for any cause?” But he answered and said to them, “Have you not read
that the Creator, from the beginning, made them male and female, and said,
‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave to his
wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? Therefore now they are no longer
two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put
asunder.”
What a light in the darkness of today, when divorce and trial marriage
brutalize the conscience, destroy family life, and endanger the very roots of
society.
OFFERTORY: The priest and the spouses, through the priest, confidently offer,
in advance, their future married life, in union with Jesus’
Sacrifice.
In Thee, O Lord, have I hoped: I said, Thou art my God; my times are in Thy
hands.
B) LITURGICAL DIRECTIONS
a) The Church insists that all Christians receive this blessing: “Let the pastor
see that after the celebration of Matrimony, the spouses receive the SOLEMN
BENEDICTION which may be given even though the couple have been
married for a long period...” (Canon Law, Canon 1101 No. 1, and Roman
Ritual TIT. VII, Chap. 1, No. 16). The Church permits it even on the most
solemn feasts.
1) The two prayers after the Our Father: Immediately after the Our Father,
the priest turns towards the couple who are kneeling. The witnesses stand.
1st prayer: Let us pray. Be appeased, O Lord, by our humble prayers and
graciously further this Thine institution which Thou host ordained for the
increase of mankind; so that what is joined together by Thine authority may
be kept by Thy help. Through our Lord ...
2nd prayer: Let us pray: O God, by Thy mighty power Thou didst make all
things out of nothing. Having set in order the beginnings of the universe and
made man to God’s image, Thou didst appoint woman to be his inseparable
helpmate, in such wise that the woman’s body took its beginning from the
flesh of man, thereby teaching that what Thou hadst been pleased to
institute from one principle might never lawfully be put asunder. O God, Who
hast hallowed wedlock by a mystery so excellent that in the marriage-bond
Thou didst foreshow the union of Christ with the Church; O God, by Whom
woman is joined to man and that fellowship which Thou didst ordain from the
beginning is endowed with a blessing which alone was not taken away either
by the punishment for the first sin or by the sentence of the flood; look in
Thy mercy upon this Thy handmaid, who is to be joined in wedlock and
entreats protection and strength from Thee. Let the yoke of love and of
peace be upon her. True and chaste, let her wed in Christ; and let her ever
follow the pattern of holy women: let her be dear to her husband like Rachel;
wise like Rebecca; long-lived and faithful like Sara. Let the father of sin work
none of his evil deeds within her. Let her ever be knit to the faith and to the
commandments. Let her be true to one wedlock and shun all sinful
embraces. Let her fortify her weakness by strong discipline. Let her be grave
in demeanour and honoured for her modesty. Let her be well taught in
heavenly lore. Let her be fruitful in offspring. Let her life be good and sinless.
May she win the rest of the blessed in the kingdom of heaven. May they both
As we see, the entire programme of life for a truly Christian wife is outlined in
this admirable prayer. Christian wife, make it your duty to learn it by heart,
to meditate on it frequently, and to compare your way of living with what is
expected of you by the Church.
(2) Wish, exhortation, and blessing. The Missal invites the priest to address a
few words on conjugal fidelity, mutual love and fear of sin (The final
exhortation given above after the blessing and putting on of the ring [See
page 237] may be used here.) Besides, particularly during times of fasting
and on solemn feasts, the spouses should practise voluntary continence
(without, however, being in any way obligated to do so) in a spirit of self-
mortification. This continence in the spirit of self-mortification has been
traditional since the early days of the Church.
After the exhortation, the priest sprinkles the newlyweds with Holy Water. He
recites the prayer PLACEAT from the Ordinary of the Mass, then gives them,
as well as all the attendants who have offered the Holy Sacrifice in union
with the newlyweds, a blessing in the Name of the Holy Trinity.
When the Mass is ended and their thanksgiving made, the bride and groom,
accompanied by their witnesses and parents, go to the sacristy for the
signing of the register. From the sacristy the procession re-forms, the
husband and wife, arm in arm, leading, then the Maids of Honour and guard
of honour (if any), the witnesses, the parents of the bride and groom, the rest
of the procession. Thence to the place where the reception is to be held.
D) APPENDIX: ANCIENT CEREMONIES
We would like to recall here some ceremonies that formerly surrounded the
celebration of the Sacrament of Marriage.
This rite goes back to the Romans. We know, in fact, that for her wedding the
young Roman girl covered her head with a red veil, which differed from that
of married women in colour only. This ceremony was still practised in Mexico
as late as the end of the last century. It still survives in the ceremony of
“donning the habit” or in the ceremony of profession in various religious
2) KISS OF PEACE
In former times, either after the nuptial blessing or even after the last
Gospel, the husband climbed the steps to the altar to receive from the priest
the Kiss of Peace which he transmitted to his wife.
3) WEDDING CAKE
During the Middle Ages, in many localities the priest, either at the Church or
after escorting the newlyweds to their home, presided over the blessing of
the bread and wine in memory of the wedding at Cana. This custom was
widespread in England. This is, in all probability, the origin of the “Wedding
Cake”.
Then the priest sprinkles the nuptial couch with Holy Water. This ceremony,
appropriate as it is, should be brought back into practice. It is useful to
remind the spouses of the dignity of their married life and of the sacredness
of the laws of Matrimony. It would teach them the grandeur of their ministry,
as associates of God and of the priest, in extending the Mystical Body in
whom Jesus grows and perpetuates Himself.
Care must be taken in the organizing of the reception that there is not too
much in the way of alcoholic beverages. Care should be taken also to avoid
all suggestive stories. This is equally applicable for the friends of the young
couple when they entertain them after they return from their wedding trip.
4) WORKING WIVES
After marriage, the bride should not work outside the home, even if she did
so before. This practice draws her interests away from the home, and tends
to kill family life. The young bride should concentrate on building a spiritual
home, keeping it, adorning it, and beautifying it. Furthermore, the first child
will be at ease, will be truly at home, with a mother who will have
consecrated the months of waiting, preparing for the great arrival by rest,
tranquillity, and peace, and by studying the all-engrossing subject of
motherhood. It is on the child to come that these two hearts which God has
united, should now concentrate.
Notes
(1) Where the custom prevails, the following words are here repeated after
the priest. The man first says: “I, N.N., take thee, N.N., for my lawful wife, to
have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for
poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
Then the woman says: “I, N.N., take thee. N.N., for my lawful husband, to
have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for
poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” The priest then
continues: “Ego conjungo vos.,.. “ (as above).
(2) Where the custom prevails: While placing the ring on the bride’s finger,
the bridegroom says: “With this ring I thee wed, and I plight unto thee my
troth.” The priest continues: “In nomine Patris...”.