EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE What is lack of emotional intelligence?

INTELLECTUAL QUOTIENT (IQ)  Lack of EMPHATY- people with low

 It can predict how well someone may do
academically. IQ is just one measure of our
abilities.
KINDS OF INTELLIGENCE
emotional intelligence do not understand
the emotions of others, they do not get
what others are feeling, so it is impossible
for them to place themselves in another’s
person shoes.

 SPATIAL INTELLIGENCE – is the ability to EMOTIONAL QUOTIENT

think in 3D. Spatial intelligence is the ability
 This is a measure of your ability to maintain
to comprehend three-dimensional images
or be at peace with others; keep to time; be
and shapes. This is a primary function of the
responsible; be honest; respect boundaries;
right side of the brain and is used when
be humble, genuine & considerate
solving puzzles, figuring out maps and
taking part in any type of construction or There are five basic components to emotional
engineering project. intelligence:

 MUSICAL INTELLIGENCE – is the ability to  self-awareness

recognize rhythm, cadence, tone.
 self-regulation
 ARTISTIC INTELLIGENCE – an ensemble of
 Motivation
strategists and artists, designers &
organizational developers.  empathy
 ATHLETIC INTELLIGENCE – the ability to  social skills
translate what happens on the field into a
competitive advantage when and where it Emotional Intelligence Blind Spots:
matters.
 Blind ambition: Need to win or be right at
 MECHANICAL INTELLIGENCE- the ability to any cost.
understand & internalize mechanical
 Unrealistic goals: Overly ambitious,
relationship.
unattainable goals for a group.
 LINGUISTIC INTELLIGENCE- ability of
 Relentless striving: Compulsively hard work
individuals to understand both spoken &
at expense of all else; vulnerable to
written language, ability to speak & write
burnout.
themselves.
 Driving others: Pushes others too hard;
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ)
takes over instead of delegating.
 the capacity for understanding our own
 Power hunger: Seeking power for self
feelings and the feelings of others, for
rather than the company.
motivating ourselves, and for managing our
emotions effectively in our relationships.  Insatiable need for recognition: Addicted to
glory; takes credit for other's work and
 set of competencies demonstrating the
blames other for mistakes.
ability one has to recognize his or her
behaviors, moods, and impulses.  Preoccupation with appearance: Needs to
look good at all costs; craves material
trappings.
  Need to seem perfect: Enraged by or
rejects criticism; cannot admit mistakes.
IMPROVING YOUR EQ
 Being aware of your emotions
 Understand others
 Managing your reactions
 Choosing your moods
EMOTIONALLY INTELLGENT HELPS US TO:
 BUILD STRONG RELATIONSHIPS.
 MAKE GOOD DECISIONS.
 DEAL WITH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS.
CHARACTERISTICS OF HIGHLY EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENT PEOPLE
- You apologize
- You question what you think you know
- You keep it real
- You seek help for your mental health
- You aren’t happy all the time
TYPES OF RESPONSES
3 types of responses
1. Passive response – Behaving passive means not
expressing your own needs and feelings, or
expressing them so weakly that they will not be
addressed.
• A passive response is not usually your best
interest because it allows other people to
violate your rights.
• Yet, there are times that being passive is
the most appropriate response.
• Is a style in which individuals have
developed a pattern of avoiding expressing
their opinions or feelings, protecting their
rights, as a result, individuals do not
respond overtly to hurtful situations or
anger-inducing situations.
• “I’ll feel really bad if I ask them to stop
doing that.”
2. AGGRESSIVE response - Behaving aggressive is
asking for what you want or saying how you feel in a
threatening, sarcastic or humiliating way that may
offend other people.
• An aggressive response is never in your best
interest, because it almost always leads to
increased conflict.
• Being aggressive is often defined as
establishing one’s rights in a way that
violates or ignores the rights of others: In
other words, getting your own way at other
people’s expense.
• Aggressive behavior often involves putting
people down, making them feel guilty,
intimidated, small, incompetent, foolish or
worthless.
3. Assertive response - Behaving assertive
means asking for what you want or saying how
you feel in an honest and respectful way that
does not infringe on another person’s rights or
put the individual down.
• An assertive response is almost always in
your best interest, since it is your best
chance of getting what you want without
offending the other person’s.
• But, not all the time being assertive is
appropriate like in situations if tempers are
high, if people have been using alcohol or
other drugs, if people have weapons, or you
are in an unsafe place.
• Simply put, the more you make your
opinions known; the more you ask for what
you need; the greater chance you have of
achieving your aims.
• Balance response , being neither passive
nor aggressive, with self confidence playing
an important part.
• An assertive person responds as an equal to
others and aims to be open in expressing
their wishes, thoughts and feelings.
• Assertiveness can help you control stress &
anger and improve coping skills> It means
that you express yourself effectively and
 stand up for your point of view, respecting
the rights of others & beliefs of others.
MENTAL HEALTH and WELL-BEING IN MIDDLE
and LATE ADOLESCENCE
Mental Health – It’s the way your thoughts,
feelings, and behaviors affect your life.
• Good mental health leads to positive self-
image and in turn, satisfying relationships
with friends & others.
• Helps you to make good decisions and deal
with life's challenges at home, work or
school.
STRATEGIES for BECOMING A CRITICAL VIEWER
of the MEDIA
1. All media images and messages are
constructions. They are not reflections of
reality.
2. Construct emotional experience to convince
you to buy a product/service.
3. Advertisement are created to do one thing:
convince you to buy or support a specific
product.
4. Advertisers create their message based on
what they think you will want to see, will
affect you, & compel you to buy their
product.
5. Persuasion & Authority - can be used
through IRREFUTABLE LOGIC from the
power of authority or “trusted peer”.
6. COLOR: purpose to control the emotion &
perception of an ad. Color can change the
mood of an ad.
7. FEAR: this approach can be identified by
phrases such as: “one day only”, “limited
time only”, “only a few left”-emphasize time
is critical.
8. VANITY: appeals to the consumers sense of
well being, pride, importance & relevance.
SELF-ESTEEM - Self-esteem is all about how much
you feel you are worth – and how much you feel
other people value you.
• Self-esteem is important! Because feeling
good about yourself can affect your mental
health and how you behave.
WHAT I NFLUENCES A PERSON’S SELF-ESTEEM?
• PUBERTY & DEVELOPMENT – changes
combined with wanting to feel accepted by
our friends, means it can tempting to
compare ourselves with others.
• MEDIA INFLUENCES & OTHER OUTSIDE
INFLUENCES - become aware of celebrities
and media images.
• FAMILIES & SCHOOL - parents are too
focused on looking a certain way or criticize
their kids’ looks.
COMMON EATING DISORDERS
1. ANOREXIA NERVOSA – real fear of weight gain
and a distorted view of their body size & shape.
• Eat very little. Obsession in terms of calorie
counting.
• Eat a lot of food and get rid of calories by
taking laxatives, exercising excessively.
2. BULIMIA NERVOSA – Eat a large amount of food
(often junk food) at once usually in secret
• powerless to stop eating & only stop to eat
once they’re full to eat .
• deciding to go to the gym next day.
HOW TO STAY MENTALLY HEALTHY?
 Healthy Eating nourishes the BODY, brain:
reduced irritability, increased ability to
concentrate, lowered risk of mental illness
 Physical Activity improve your mood,
reduce physical reaction to stress/relax
muscle tension, sleep better, provide a
sense of belonging and mutual support
when participating with others.
 Sleep - 9-11 hours
 Stay away from stimulants like caffeine,
chocolates , caffeinated beverages, tv,
computers or cellphones
GENOGRAM – A genogram or family tree is a
useful tool to gather information about a
person’s family. This visual representation of a
family can help us to identify patterns or themes
within families that may be influencing or
driving a person’s behavior.
KINDS OF FAMILY STRUCTURES
 NUCLEAR FAMILY: a family unit consisting
of at most a father, mother, and dependent
children. It is considered as “traditional
family.”
 EXTENDED FAMILY: a family consisting of
parents and children, along with either
grandparents, grandchildren, aunts, uncles,
cousins, etc.
 STEP FAMILIES: two families brought
together due to divorce, separation, and
remarriage.
 SINGLE PARENT FAMILY: this can be either
a father or a mother who is singly
responsible for the raising of a child. This
can be by birth or adoption. They can be a
single parent by choice or by the
circumstances.
 ADOPTIVE FAMILY: a family where one or
more of the children has been adopted.
 BI-RACIAL or MULTI-RACIAL FAMILY: a
family where the parents are members of
different racial identity groups.
 TRANS –RACIAL FAMILY: a family where the
adopted child is of a different racial identity
group than the parents.
 BLENDED FAMILY: a family that consists of
members from two (or more) previous
family.
 CONDITIONALLY SEPARATED FAMILIES: a
family member is separated from the rest of
the family. This may be due to employment
far away; military service, incarceration,
hospitalization.
 FOSTER FAMILY: a family where one or
more of the children is legally a temporary
member of the household. This
“temporary” period may be as short as a
few days or as long as the child’s entire
childhood.
 GAY or LESBIAN FAMILY: a family where
one or both parents’ sexual orientation is
gay or lesbian. This may be a two-parent
family, an adoptive family, a single parent
family or an extended family.
 IMMIGRANT FAMILY: a family where the
parents have immigrated to another
country as adults. Their children may or
may not be immigrants.
 MIGRANT FAMILY: a family that moves
regularly to places where they have
employment. .
EMOTIONAL, SOCIAL, AND SPIRITUAL LEGACIES
EMOTIONAL LEGACY – Enduring sense of security
and stability nurtured in an environment of safety
and love; demonstrates
 ENDURING SENSE OF SECURITY AND
STABILITY NURTURED IN AN ENVIRONMENT
OF SAFETY & LOVE;DEMONSTRATES
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
SOCIAL LEGACY – Need to learn the fine art of
relating to other people. If they learn to relate well
to others, they’ll have an edge in the game of life.
KEY BUILDING BLOCKS: RESPONSIBILITY,
RESPECT, RULES ARE GIVEN
SPIRITUAL LEGACY – Means more than encouraging
children to attend church. Parents are primary in
upbringing, not secondary. If parents are loving,
affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they
believe, children will think that way.
WHY IS LEGACY SO IMPORTANT?
 A legacy is something that we leave or give
to others, something that will last beyond
our lifetime.
 Legacy gives us perspective to what is
important.

 A legacy is the working print for the future

generations.