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Abby Jollay
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ENG 1201
17 April 2020
abused in a domestic and intimate relationship. To expand on this, that equals over 10 million
men and women a year. Those numbers alone are upsetting, but bring the thought of children
into this as well. 1 in every 15 children are exposed to domestic violence or spousal abuse
yearly, and 90% of those children are directly witnessing the abuse transpire (NCADV.org).
That’s a staggering but very real statistic; that’s two children in your child’s classroom. This
could be your child’s best friend witnessing such a heinous act that, as a young child, shouldn’t
even be in their heads. This begs the question, how, at this impressionable age, does this affect
the children witnessing the abuse? What mental, emotional, and physical tolls can this take on
the child? How does this affect the child’s future relationships with their significant others and
their relationship with themselves? Spousal abuse has a great impact on children, and is a
leading factor in what causes children to themselves be in an abusive relationship, can lead to
substance abuse, and has the ability to cause the child to develop trauma related disorders due
To begin, all of the research in this paper draws back to one story, the entire reason this
was the chosen topic for this paper. A doctor and a high up accountant fell in love and had two
children. Indeed, this sounds ideal; they bring in plenty of money, they have a great house, their
children are brilliant and smart, one even eventually going on to be the valedictorian and
student body president of his class. Peering into their life from the outside, they seem to be
perfect, but as soon as the door closes, everything changes. The father, an abusive alcoholic,
and the mother, a smart and manipulative narcissist, are constantly at war. Plates thrown, glass
shattered, blood everywhere. The two children are witnesses to this all, each small argument
that escalates to a physical altercation. This goes on for years, until the oldest daughter finds
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something to cope with the problems at home: heroine. This is when the younger brother finds
his sister overdosing in her bedroom, vomit all over herself. From the outside of this house, you
would never expect the daughter of this perfect, all American family to be close to death.
However, you would also never expect that the son has an addiction to Xanax and alcohol,
causing his own overdose, several times, making it through each time. While the young girl was
resilient and able to come back from these childhood traumas, the young boy still struggles
today as a man. He suffers from many personality disorders, some inherited from his mother
(such as narcissism and bipolar disorder), some from trauma, like anxiety and depression, and
some strong addictions. The question sits and begs to be answered: what caused this? The
answer hides just as well as the bruises left on the parents: domestic violence.
What needs to be stated is, in this situation, these children were never physically
abused. They never had a hand laid on them, never so much as a spanking. This, however,
matters little. Children who witness violence in the home and children who are directly abused
may display many similar psychological effects, according to Melissa Stiles, a trusted doctor as
department of family medicine. She tells the reader that there are several variables that debate
whether or not children will become more violent as a result of witnessing traumatic events,
such as gender and social support. In fact, young girls who witness abuse are less likely than
boys to become violent (Stiles). To summarize, regardless of who is being abused in the house,
To start us off, it’s no secret that children raised in houses of violence and abuse have a
higher risk of becoming aggressive themselves. “Childhood exposure to domestic violence can
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such as depression and/or anxiety…” (Fantuzzo). As impressionable as children are, even from
birth, they’re able to pick up on domestic violence in the household. Children are most
impressionable from the ages of two to three, but recent studies showed the children and
adolescents from six to 14 are at highest risk of picking up habits within the household. The
more often they witness the abuse, the more normalized this can become in the child’s head.
The NCADV, or the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has done research that
suggests that children who grow up in an abusive household and witness these acts are more
likely to partake in violence or abuse as they get older, whether that be their relationships or in
general. Due to the fact that these children are witnessing this sort of act in their home, this
becomes the norm for them. Why should they act differently in their future relationships? This
is what they know. In addition, children raised in violent homes learn that violence is a way to
solve their problems. With this being said, this increases the likelihood of these children
growing up and using violence against their peers and their significant others. While some
children find themselves being the abuser after witnessing domestic violence, others find
themselves to be the abused. As adults, these children often believe this violence is normal in
relationships and stay in these abusive relationships (mayoclinic.org). This causes the cycle to
continue.
As previously stated, children who are raised in violent homes have a tendency to solve
many of their issues with violence. This means that there’s a higher probability of children
getting into fights and having a higher chance of being charged with different assault based
crimes. Not only this, but because of the increased risk of children growing up with violent
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tendencies, this increases the risk of abuse, which can go hand in hand with intimate partner
homicide. The NCADV brings up the statistics of domestic violence and guns, which shows an
increase in intimate partner homicide over the last few years. Typically, women are on the
receiving end of the gun, and it’s boldly stated that if there is a firearm in the presence of a
domestic abuser, this can increase the likelihood of femicide by 400%. Violent offenders have
the ability to get weapons, which can increase the chances of an argument going awry.
Secondly, another issue within the realm of children witnessing domestic violence is the
risk of substance abuse. As previously stated, both the children in the story ended up abusing
different substances. What was the factor behind this? Was it witnessing their father’s addictive
different? According to Traci Pederson, a freelance psychology writer published in several high
profile psychology journals, a new study by the University of Toronto states that children who
witness domestic violence are at much higher risk of substance abuse and addiction. Not only
does witnessing abuse cause children to be more likely than their peers to try and abuse
substances, but it always causes them to be 3 to 4 more times likely to become addicted and
Thirdly, while most children are resilient, chronic and recurrent witnessing of abuse can
lead children to develop trauma induced disorders. While many people look at Post Traumatic
Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a “war disorder”, this is not the case. PTSD can affect anyone, at any
age, who has witnessed a serious traumatic event. For some children, like those in our story,
the witnessing of domestic violence was enough to cause it in the young boy, who is now a
man. Being in a relationship with this man, you learn a lot about their past. This man would
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never go to the doctor or a therapist to talk his issues out; he would live with them and drink
them away. The Stanford Children’s Health Organization gives us a little deeper insight on this,
such as symptoms, causes, and what accompanies this disorder. Childhood PTSD can last a
lifetime, which is often caused by something the child went through or witnessed, and is
affected by how resilient the child is, how bad the event was, and how often it happens. or
PTSD is often accompanied by depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Symptoms of this
disorder can range anywhere from sleeping issues to increased violence to lack of affection
towards others. Those with PTSD are all at a much higher risk of anxiety and depression,
especially as they grow up if the disorder isn’t taken care of (health.harvard.edu). Not only is
PTSD a very real possibility, witnessing trauma and abuse has the ability to change how a child
acts and feels. Many adults who witnessed domestic violence as children report having an
extreme lack of trust and feeling powerless in their lives, even if the abuse witnessed was 30
years prior. Domestic violence, causing childhood trauma, mentally takes a toll on children and
changes the way the child lives, especially growing into adulthood.
In this hectic and corrupted world we share, one of the most innocent things on this
planet is a child. While it can be argued that children can grow up in perfectly normal
households and become abusive spouses or worse, the research and science behind this subject
makes it higher risk for the children witnessing the abuse from a young age. Although each case
is different, one thing is clear: the risk of a recurring and generational cycle of domestic abuse is
In conclusion, children witnessing domestic violence, from birth and on, have the
potential to cause lifelong mental damage, substance abuse, and have the ability to continue a
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cycle of abuse as the child grows up and has their own relationships. In the beginning of this
research paper, the “perfect” family was anything but this, and this is not just a hypothetical
family. From personal experience, I can firsthand identify the problems that childhood trauma
can cause and how children who were raised in these environments treat their significant
others, their friends, and their family. Children come into this world innocent, no malice in their
hearts, and nothing but a positive outlook on life. It’s what is shown to them growing up,
especially while they’re impressionable and still learning wrong from right, that makes them
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