You’re Just Not that One

We all know of the “he’s just not that into you” syndrome, but why would he even bother if he weren’t?
Simply because it’s easy, it’s there and it’s available. You are an enjoyable part of his life – but regrettably,
a not-too-important part. He knows you’re not “the one,” but he kind of likes hanging out and, to put it
bluntly, you’ll do until something better comes along. He may not even be conscious of how callous that
is; instead, he is just mildly aware of an underlying feeling that this is not forever.So, consider whether
any of these may be a reason for his lack of commitment. If you’re looking for something more
permanent, it’s your move.

He Only Wants Sex

Who would believe it? Some men want to be in a relationship simply so they have easy access to sex. For
these men, the old saying rings true: Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? Why should they
commit to a deeper, longer-term relationship if all they’re after is what they’re already getting?

 He’s a Romance Junkie

Some men are addicted to the process or even just the idea of falling in love. They love the flirting,
the first dates, the getting-to-know-you stage and the chance to tell all their stories to fresh ears. Once
they have passed this stage, however, they’re bored and ready for the next bit of excitement. Again,
check out his relationship history to see if your man is a romance junkie; look out for a number of one-
and two-month relationships

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This is a big one. So many young people are sure that they have experienced ‘love’,
when in fact what they’ve been through is an intense combination of biological and
psychological need fulfilment, most often unconscious in origin. Unfortunately, this is
often a pattern that continues throughout life for many, without there ever being a
break-through into the deeper levels of love that lie waiting for them. Infatuation, lust
and obsession are not love. It takes heartbreak, and the courage to face oneself to
know and learn what love actually is. Whether it takes place in a string of
relationships or in the issues that can arise over the course of a single, long-term
love-affair, a mature person has come to understand that the purpose
of all relationship is personal growth, and that nowhere is there more potential for
personal growth than in the dynamics of their love relationship(s).
Through these relationships, the mature person has learned acceptance; they’ve
learned empathy, understanding and compassion. Instead of appreciating only those
things in the other person that they agree with or approve of, which is a very shallow
form of love, they’ve learned to honour and even appreciate the
other’s individuality instead, knowing that there is always something to be learned by
the differences between them. In this way the love has deepened. It has become a
choice, not some out-of-control whirlwind that sweeps you off of your feet and holds
the power to make or break your happiness. Above all, the mature person
understands that love is work. It is a commitment, and through the honouring of this
work, through the honouring of this commitment, they have come to know levels of
love, joy and ecstasy that could’ve never been reached through other means, no
matter how seductive the shallower forms of love may have appeared at the time.