COMMANDMENTS TO EMPOWER ONESELF

I. THANK GOD FOR EVERY THING, THANK EVERYONE

We are filled with constant privileges from God in everything that happens in our life.
Everything that comes from God is a blessing. To seek God’s blessings is to seek his
care for us and that He will protect us against all evils. We must spend at least 10
minutes in the memory of God, the supreme power. Feel good, listen to bhajans, good
divine music, and chant his praises. Do meditation – focus your mind on Him and be in
his presence. Reach out to him, communicate with him, knowing He and He alone is the
great comforter and He will always answer. Thank everyone for his or her presence in
your life.

II. WISH EVERY ONE

Start your day by wishing every one. This starts from wishing your parents, parents-in-
law, spouse & your children. Be all smiles & start your day on a good note. Don’ t just
start your day with a big frown on your face as how you feel in the beginning of the day,
you will remain that the entire day. Don’t loose temper, keep your cool, and try to calm
yourself. Do some yoga - you will feel so fresh and relaxed. Read good quotes, inner
voice & speaking tree columns in the newspaper. Sometimes morning smses are instant
energizers. At times these smses change one’s outlook towards life. Lastly, don’t let the
ego come in between. Selflessly wish every one. Make a positive beginning of the day
and empower yourself. Your smiling face will make others happy.

III. RESPECT ELDERS

Children are your mirror images. Practically speaking, you are their teacher. If you respect
your elders, your gurus, they will learn to behave like you. No book in the world can teach
them how to behave in a certain manner you want them to. Become their idol in moulding
them & make them cultured.

IV. BLESS ALL

What we are today is because of GOD’ s favour in the form of blessings on us. As we are
favoured by GOD, we can also empower ourselves by becoming the source of blessings
for others. We must bless all from the goodness of heart. The transfer of divine that
occurs when we bestow a blessing on others is truly a sacred moment and offers others
to experience the magic of connectedness with the divine. The three magical words
“GOD BLESS YOU” convey an enormous life sustaining power.
 V. THINK POSITIVE
Whatsoever the situation may be, think always positive and spread positive vibes. As per
the rule of nature, what you think – how you think, will come back to you. If you talk
positive, feel positive, you will experience positive vibes all around you. This is the
essence of life. Always smile – be kind and warm and love one and all. Even if things
don’t go your way, try thinking positive and believe in this that nothing is permanent in this
world so this too shall pass. Read positive books that rejuvenate you and yourself like
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, Discover the diamonds in you by Arindam Chaudhary, Joy
of Living by swami Rama, Who will cry when you die, The Monk who sold his Ferrari to
begin with.

VI. EXPLORE YOURSELF & BE CREATIVE

Believe that life is full of infinite possibilities. Challenges are what makes life interesting.
Overcoming them is what makes life more meaningful. If you trust your capabilities, then
you can do anything. For this, you first have to have faith in yourself and then have the
power to do it. With this determination, you can turn impossible into possible and create
wonders in your life. Life doesn’t comprise home & office life only. In fact, it is much
more than that. Explore your abilities, become creative and make a difference in your
life. You are potential unlimited.

VII. TRANSFORM YOURSELF, DON’T TRANSFORM OTHERS

We spend half of our lives making efforts to change others and remain upset next half
about not being able to change them the way we want, with the result our whole life is
gone practicing this and we remain unfulfilled. Remember one thing - you have control
only on yourself, not others. Don’t find faults with others; analyze yourself and change
yourself. Our transformation will automatically make others transform.

VIII. WHAT PEOPLE TALK ABOUT YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

Sometimes somebody’ s scathing utterances have so much bad effect on you that you
end up losing your sleep, which affects the entire family. You are not able to
concentrate on children and really start brooding. Believe this that people will say what
they have to - since you don’t have any control over them. It is merely their point of
view, which may or may not be true. Don’t affect yourself and your health. Don’t bother
about their utterances and remember that this shall pass. Trust GOD as He alone will
guard us and will walk along with us through our thick and thin and therefore have
unfailing faith in Him and lastly have infinite trust in yourself.

IX. FORGIVE EVERYONE FOR EVERYTHING

Forgive people for their uncalled behaviour by saying “ Kshama Veerasya Bhushanam”
as anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you
are. Move ahead. As a matter of fact, love every one. If we cannot love the persons
whom we see every day, how can we love God whom we cannot see. If you hate and
judge people, you have no time to love them. Thus, forgiveness and love are the two
most important ingredients of life.
X. HELP PEOPLE – SERVE THE COMMUNITY & BE RESPONSIBLE
Don’t just close your eyes and ears to people’s problems. If you can, go out of the way
to help them. Trust me, you will feel really good and complete. Take an oath to work for
the welfare of society. To fulfill this, you can choose a leader and realize your goals
towards the society. Start working for some genuine NGO. Take some responsibility in
terms of financial responsibility, involve yourself in teaching etc or adopt your domestic
help’s child. In short, do all the Good you can, by all the Means you can, in all the Ways
you can, in all the Places you can and at all Times you can.

XI. SPIRITUAL COMMANDMENT: THE BAGGAGE THAT YOU WILL CARRY

IN YOUR LAST JOURNEY
Have loving relationship with every one. Complete with them right then and free
yourself. Don’t accumulate things, which get really heavy, unburden yourself and feel
light.

An experience worth sharing:

A lady close to seventy was sick for some time. One night while sleeping she sees this
gentleman clothed in black. On asking as to who he is, he introduces to her as Yuma. He further
tells her that her time on earth is over and that he has come to take her. He then asks her if she
has prepared her baggage. She surprisingly tells him that she has heard that one cannot take
anything along. He smiles and tells her that he isn’t asking about materialistic wealth, instead he
wants to know if she has completed with every one in terms of relations, and said good byes to
all as she has spent close to 70 yrs on this earth, that has she thanked every one for their
presence & contribution in her life. On realizing this, she goes berserk and tells him that she has
not spoken with her daughter-in-law for a long time despite her taking care of her so well during
her illness as her son married her much against her wishes and then she has hardly exchanged
pleasantries with her sister-in-law for ages & that she has also not talked with her best friend
since the time she got married to the boy she was in love with.
…….and the list was endless. She pleads with him for giving her some more time so that she
can mend relations with every one else she can never be at peace.

Like her, we should not wait for the last moment of our life to sort out our differences
with people, instead we should complete with them then & there only and move ahead.
We should not wait for tomorrow to do that – as there is no tomorrow, there is only
today. Whatever we want we should do it today, now.
Don’t think there will not be break downs in life. There will be many but we can turn
them into break throughs if we believe in ourselves.

LIVE JOYOUSLY …..ACHIEVE THE STATE OF BLISS …. .GOD BLESS ALL ……

Try not to become a man of success but a man of value - Albert Einstein

- Savita Jain (savita@nic.in)