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Instructions:
Choose a single frame of reference for answering all fifteen items (e.g. work-related
conflicts, family conflicts, or social conflicts) and keep that frame of reference in
mind when answering the items.
Allocate 10 points among the four alternative answers given for each of the fifteen
items below.
1. When someone I care about is actively hostile toward me i.e. yelling, threatening,
abusive etc. I tend to:
Try to persuade
the person to Stay and listen
Respond in a
give up his/her as long as Walk Away
hostile manner
actively hostile possible
behaviour
2. When someone who is relatively unimportant to me is actively hostile toward me i.e. yelling,
threatening, abusive etc. I tend to:
Try to
persuade the
Stay and listen
person to give Respond in a
as long as Walk Away
up his/her hostile manner
possible
actively hostile
behaviour
4. The quality that I value the most in dealing with conflict would be:
Emotional
Love and
strength and Intelligence Patience
openness
security
5. When someone does something that irritates me (e.g. smokes in a non-smoking area or
crowds in line in front of me), my tendency in communicating with the offending person is to:
6. When I perceive another person as meeting his/her needs at my expense, I am apt to:
Rely on
persuasion
Work to do and "facts" Work hard at
Accept the
anything I can when changing how
situation as it
to change attempting to I related to
is
that person have that that person
person
change
7. When I see a serious conflict developing between two people I care about, I tend to:
Attempt to
Express my
persuade Watch to see
disappointment Leave the
them to what
that this had to scene
resolve their develops
happen
differences
9. When I see a serious conflict developing between two people who are relatively
unimportant to me, I tend to:
Express my Attempt to
disappointment persuade them Watch to see Leave the
that this had to to resolve their what develops scene
happen differences
Want to go
Strongly desire back and work Worry about it Let it lie and
to go back and it out - a lot but not not plan to
settle things whatever give plan to initiate initiate further
my way and take is further contact contact
necessary
11. The feedback that I receive from most people about how I behave when faced with
conflict and opposition indicates that I:
12. When communicating with someone with whom I am having serious conflict, I:
Am an active
Try to Am a passive
Talk a little bit listener
overpower the listener
more than I (feeding back
other person (agreeing and
listen words and
with my speech apologising)
feelings)
Make an
Use humour occasional quip Suppress all
Relate humour
with the other or joke about attempts at
only to myself
party the situation or humour
the relationship
14. When someone does something that irritates me (e.g. smokes in a non-smoking area or
crowds in line in front of me), my tendency in communicating with the offending person is to:
Look the
Insist that the person directly Maintain Avoid looking
person look me in the eye and intermittent eye directly at the
in the eye maintain eye contact person
contact
15. When I observe people in conflicts in which anger, threats, hostility and strong
opinions are present, I tend to:
Instructions:
When you have completed all fifteen items, add your scores vertically resulting in
four column totals. Put these in the blank spaces below.
Totals:
Using your total scores in each column, fill in the bar graph below.
1 2 3 4
150
125
100
75
50
25
0
Nearly Almost
Often Occasionally
Always Never
Do you continue to do other tasks (signing
1. letters, working on your computer) while others 1 2 3 4
SUBTOTAL 1
SUBTOTAL 2
SUBTOTAL 3
SUBTOTAL 1
SUBTOTAL 2
SUBTOTAL 3
TOTAL SCORE:
Enter 1, 2, 3 or 4
Asking for the service you expect which you haven't
1
received in a shop or restaurant
ASSERTIVENESS QUESTIONAIRE
30 - 50 You are a poor listener. You need to commit time and energy to
improve your listening skills.
51 - 75 Average. Practice, practice and you will improve.
76 - 100 Good listening skills. You could be great but needs more work.
101 - 120 Excellent listener. Congratulations
Column 1 - Aggressive/Confrontive
High scores indicate a tendency toward "taking the bull by the horns" and a
strong need to control situations and/or people. Those who use this style are
often directive and judgemental.
Column 2 - Assertive/Persuasive
High scores indicate a tendency to stand up for oneself without being pushy, a
proactive approach to conflict, and a willingness to collaborate. People who use
this style depend heavily on their verbal skills.
Column 3 - Observant/Introspective
Column 4 - Avoiding/Reactive