Book Making Life Meaningful

Making Life Meaningful
Know life in its totality, live it full and get a

meaningful summary of life
Making Life Meaningful
Know life in its totality, live it full and get a
meaningful summary of life
Vivek Rathore
Ritam Publishing House

Published by Ritam Publishing House
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Delhi- 110096
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© Vivek Rathore
ISBN 978-81-924290-1-4
First Edition 2012
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This book is dedicated to the one, that can't be
named, defined or explained, but is the cause
of everything. As a master, to Osho, who
helped me to grow spiritually. And to the
motherly love
Contents
Preface ...........................................................................................13
Acknowledgement...........................................................................17
About author .................................................................................212
About Ritam - School of Mastering life..........................................213
Unit 1. Common Struggling Man to Uncommon King
1. Observe your move- the beginning of

transformation .............................................................21
Why you don't grow naturally ..........................................................22

Why this is necessary .....................................................................23
The meaning of transformation .......................................................24
Know and get the perfect health .....................................................25
Objective of this chapter .................................................................28
Identify your personal challenges ...................................................28
Take action and decision ................................................................29
2. Art & science of winning first challenge ..............30
The practical challenges ................................................................ 31

The marvelous secret .................................................................... 32
Understanding the principal ........................................................... 34
How you are connected to universe .............................................. 36
The powerful practical techniques ................................................. 38
Knowing its sensitivity and common mistakes ................................43
3. Get wealthy Kingdom to move ahead .................. 45
What decides your monetary fate? ................................................ 46

Why you must understand money ................................................. 48
Diamond rules for wealthy kingdom................................................49
Get financially intelligent ................................................................ 52
Let your subconscious bring wealth ............................................. 53
Know how you block your wealth ................................................. 54
Some more good habits ............................................................... 56
Unit 2. Making Even Devil Work for You
4. Our natural desires - a possibility or disaster ....61
Various needs and desires ........................................................... 61

The perverted desires .................................................................. 63
Who crushed the flower? ............................................................. 64
Observe your well-wisher, society and religion ............................ 66
What would you do, if you can do anything?................................ 67
Sexual desire and suppressions .................................................. 68
Break all the rules and get free again ...........................................70
Individual freedom oath ................................................................ 71
Take your responsibility completely .............................................. 72
Role of spirituality ........................................................................ 72
5. Identify and kill the real enemy ........................... 74
Your connection to inner and outer world .................................... 75

Check your ill belief ..................................................................... 76
Hetero suggestion is killing you ................................................... 77
News and media poisoning your life ............................................ 78
Know your family, social and religious pattern ............................. 80
Worry and frustration making life hell .......................................... 82
Theory of shortcut ........................................................................ 82
Expectation -understood and misunderstood .............................. 83
Reject to react ............................................................................. 83
Win over your comfort and ease ................................................. 84
Master your ego .......................................................................... 84
6. Managing and growing with dark side ............... 87
Tough time and possibility ........................................................... 88

First check is it so? ...................................................................... 88
Various causes and purpose of tough time .................................. 89
The need of proper perspective ......................................................91
Acceptance- the art of cooperation ................................................ 93
Take responsibility rather than blaming ..........................................94
Time to strengthen your mind, being and personality .....................95
Make your suffering your paying .................................................... 96
Observe your strength, your faith and belief ...................................98
Persistence - the key player .......................................................... 98
Don't let fear, frustration dominate you .......................................... 99
Golden opportunity to move towards diamond .............................100
Move towards center- pain is at surface........................................102
Unit 3. Plant Tree of Joy, Peace and Success
7. Become an emotional emperor .......................... 105

Understanding emotion ............................................................... 106
Emotional mastery........................................................................ 107
Self awareness-the key ............................................................... 109
Steps to emotional control ........................................................... 110
Skills to change emotional state ..................................................112
Stress - understand and conquer ................................................ 118
Anger: signal for growth ............................................................... 120
Way to emotional emperor .......................................................... 120
Love: the food of emotion ........................................................... 121
Know your passion, work for it...................................................... 122
Controlling emotional gate .......................................................... 123
Inner attachment results detachment .......................................... 123
Forgive to free yourself ............................................................... 124
Never let your child grow ............................................................ 125
8. Empowering relationships ....................................................126
Why you need relation, why not .................................................. 126

Observe your need for people ..................................................... 127
Relationship and possibilities ...................................................... 128
Real cause behind monotonous relationship .............................. 129
Ego centered to self centered ..................................................... 130
The thirst to be understood, accepted ......................................... 131
Start from yourself ....................................................................... 132
Art of winning hearts .................................................................... 133
Fundamentals to empowering relationships ................................136
9. Mastering key tools to reach the top ................. 141
Make the universe work for you .................................................. 141

Art of believing ............................................................................ 142
Use thought, feeling and autosuggestion .................................... 145
Visualization and imagination ...................................................... 147
Gratitude and thankfulness .......................................................... 148
Power of motivation ......................................................................148
Know what motivates you ............................................................ 150
Goal setting .................................................................................. 151
Decision making ........................................................................... 154
Power of focus ............................................................................. 155
State and memory management ................................................. 156
Persistence-the bridge to destiny .................................................158
Unit 4. Awaken Your Buddha
10. Understanding the possibilities of life ............ 161

Limitation of physical sphere of life.............................................. 161
Taste and tastelessness of success ............................................ 163
Possibilities of life on seven spheres ........................................... 164
Purpose of life ............................................................................. 167
Rules of life .................................................................................. 168
Role of earthly life ........................................................................ 170
Cause of pain, grief and miseries ................................................ 172
Use energy and focus to open upper gates ................................. 173
How you limit your possibility ....................................................... 174
Stepping into inner transformation ................................................175
11. Doubting God to being God .............................. 177
Why people doubt......................................................................... 178

Religious to non religious ............................................................. 180
Practical steps to Godhood ......................................................... 183
Understanding and overcoming ego ............................................185
Various paths to the source...........................................................187
Breathing: essential life force ...................................................... 190
Cleansing body, thought and feeling ............................................191
Truth is the way ............................................................................192
Spiritual truths and lies .................................................................194
Awareness - the alchemy .............................................................195
12. Self mastery ....................................................... 197
Keep the entire six dimensions healthy ....................................... 198

Be aware of your moves .............................................................. 199
Make law of attraction your allies ................................................. 200
Keep enemies out of the gate ...................................................... 200
Grow your emotional garden ........................................................202
Relationship, a place to share happiness .................................... 203
Strengthen and use your key players .......................................... 205
Taking responsibility .................................................................... 205
Joy of maturity ............................................................................. 206
Taking spiritual bathe ....................................................................207
Self management ........................................................................ 207
The absolute self management ................................................... 208
Now you and me .......................................................................... 210
PREFACE
What This Book Is All About?

This book is all about mastering the entire practical dimensions of life. It
helps you to understand the operating principals, so that you can apply
these to make your life happy, balanced and blissful. You can get a
meaningful life in three steps. First, it focuses to get success, means to
reach a stage of financial freedom. In the second step, it facilitates to
maintain all the dimensions that are physical, financial, mental,
emotional, social and spiritual; balanced, peaceful and prosperous.
Along with having these two, finally you can choose to push yourself
towards pure awareness, the Buddha hood.
Why Everyone Must Read This Book?

Everyone must read it because they are in the journey of life. In lack of
right knowledge and guidance, one can't choose the best possible way
for him. You need this book to get a clear cut idea about various ways of
life and outcomes of these. The second reason is that many people are
not clear about their wish, desire, and purposes of life. Few people lack
the goals, and few lack the resource to achieve it. Many are entangled
in some minor or major concerns. To get rid of all these and other similar
issues, each and every individual must go through this book. This book
is helpful to get the understanding, solution and resources to achieve
anything and to get out of any situation.
For Whom Is This Book?

This book is for everyone who has even a little desire to live his life the
way he wishes. The people, who don't want to accept the limitation and
constraint of life. For a believer mind, this book will do, not less than a
miracle. For a non believer, it will let them know that believing make the
things simple. It is very useful for teenagers as well as for old people. All
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that is needed is a little awareness and a little interest in life. The

lessons given are very much required for parents, teachers,
entrepreneurs, businessman, politicians, executives, students, CEO,
life skill trainers, counselors, professionals, house wives, children and
others. They all need it, because all are in the journey of life.
Everyone wants wealth, good relationship, happy emotions, and

spiritual gains; and this book help you to get the same. Parents,
teachers, trainers, counselors should instill these life skills in their
children, students, audience, patients and others.
What Motivated Me To Write This Book?

I am a very ordinary person. I was living my life as usual with no
ambition, no big dreams. My childhood was good. As I entered into my
teens, I started facing various difficulties in my life. Although the issues
were minor but due to my stubborn nature, and doing only what I felt to
be right rather than accepting order of elders, parents, made my life
hell. And this is the case with most of the people across the globe.
Although our family and social system is made to let people live their life
happily but what we have got, we are getting from here, is not hidden
from anyone.
I was working hard to become self dependent and to get far away from
any source of pain and difficulty. But life is not too short and you can't
escape any phase of life. You have to live each stage of your life,
however tough it is. My life was going on in similar manner and then I
took admission in an engineering college. Life was very much on the
track with a few past issues still troubling me, and few new challenges of
life.
Meanwhile I met a temporary failure in my studies. Although I was not

very careless towards it, my major interest in leadership and politics
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affected my studies to meet a failure. And this was the toughest time for
me. No money in the pocket, no source of income, no family support, no
friends support, no mental support, no emotional support, nothing at all.
I was all alone with my present failure. Although the situation may seem
to you little filmy, but all my friends or those who were close to me know
how true this is. All that I had was my confidence and my truthfulness.
This was the first time I realized that somewhere I was wrong, otherwise
this much wrong could not happen. I felt that surely I was lacking
somewhere. I took this as challenge, I accepted this incident.
I managed my financial issue somehow. But I decided that I won't let it

happen any more in my entire life. I was willing to know my drawbacks; I
was willing to know about life. I wanted not only a solution to my present
problem; I was willing to understand life in its totality. That time, 2007
June, the toughest phase for an individual of age 20, with no physical
support at all, was the seedling time for this book. The only ray of hope
that I found to help myself, was books, because it was the only thing in
my budget and in my knowledge. And with this event my learning
process started.
I poured my entire energy into learning and understanding all aspects of

life. The second good thing that started happening was my spiritual
awakening, growth and realization. Since that time, my consistent,
dedicated learning along with my spiritual growth made me what I could
not imagine. In this way my failure, my toughest phase turned out to be
the diamond moment of my life. All the credit of this book goes to that
toughest phase.
I directed my focus into the world of learning, to get solutions to my

problem and answers to my questions. All the books available were not
talking straight on the real issues of life. And I was feeling that it's not
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only me, there are huge masses of people who need, expect and
demand the same. Hence I could easily observe the lack of a book,
which was on the practical level, where your life is concerned. So, all
these motivated me to write this unique book.
How This Will Work For You?

This is a wonderful book, because everything is written on a
psychological level. To make the most of this you need a good learning
aptitude. Once you go through the chapters and are willing to apply the
concepts, it will start working for you unconsciously. But always
remember to use this consciously also. You need to revise the chapters
again and again so that the diamond principle can bring active changes
in your life. Don't read this book as novel. Take break between moving
to next chapter. Apply what you have learned first. Make it your aim to
use all these principles, to consider it, while making any decision, action
and move.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Writing this book was really difficult for me. But since the day, I decided
to write, complete and publish this book; I had great expectations out of
it. Now at its completion, I am very happy that I achieved my
expectation, a goal that I always found to be not less than impossible. I
started writing this book, because I wanted a book, which can help me
in the onward journey of life and was willing to do the same for every
individual.
Now, when the book is complete and in the queue to publish, I am

writing its acknowledgement. I am finding difficulty in this also. The
difficulty is because, my life has not been likes other authors. And the
creation of this book is a history, a strange thing.
The credit of this book goes entirely to my spiritual guides, and to the
source of all, the omnipresent, and omnipotent. It was the only power,
support that has been with me, helped me, showed the path and made it
for me. Most of the people may find it difficult to digest but there are few,
who can realize what I am saying. My entire effort is to tell the exact
situation and never to impress, attract or convince anyone.
The next credit goes to those who helped me to understand this subject
well. I am full of gratitude for Lord Osho, who helped me beyond
measure to let me experience the glimpse of enlightenment at such an
early age. I am very much thankful to Anthony Robbins, Joseph
Murphy, Rhonda Byrne and many other authors for their excellent
works, which helped me to understand the subjects very well.
On the physical sphere I am very thankful to my mother Smt. Malati

Singh, for the purest form of love that nurtured me and my emotions.
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I am thankful to my father Shri Ambika Singh for leaving me alone

among troubles; it helped me to get a tough, giant personality.
I am grateful to my sister Vineeta Singh for believing in my talent and

Preeti Singh for being worried about me always.
I am thankful to my brothers Ashutosh Singh, for being a really good

person and caring for me; Rahul Singh for helping me during my tough
phase, while writing this book.
I am very thankful to all my clients at Ritam - School of Mastering Life,

who helped me to grow in my work, and gave me positive feedback that
motivated me to excel. I am thankful to Dr. Neelima Kumar for
understanding me, believing in me and for helping me at all times.
Last but not the least I'd like to thank my friends Mohit Tyagi, Nishant
Thakur, Vivek Singh, Amjad Tyagi, Vineet Kumar, Jitendra Tyagi,
Prateek Solanki, Saurabh Singh, Ashutosh Goel and many others at
JSS Engineering college, Noida for having firm belief in me, and loving,
helping me unconditionally. They were always a source of motivation
and their utter belief in me was a force that really shaped my life as well
as this book.
Unit 1
Common Struggling Man to
Uncommon King
1
OBSERVE YOUR MOVE- THE
BEGINNING OF TRANSFORMATION
If you want to do very well in your life, you must observe your actions,
movement and growth. A very easy way to do this is to ask some
questions to you. It reminds you that your life is summation of many
today's, present situation. If your present situation or phase is not
reflecting your goal; you are not going to get it. Here are some questions
for you to think of, and see the possibility of your life.
● Do you think that you are on the track of life that is going to bring
the best out of you?
●Do you believe that you would get a meaningful summary of your
life?
●Are you sure, you are controlling your life, rather life is controlling
you?
●Do you have a goal for your life?
●Are you aware of those factors that are killing your possibilities?
●Have you accepted, "Life is struggle, a hell" that you have to
survive anyhow?
●Do you also feel that you are a special person, though it is not
seen in any of your action or decision of life?

●Are you one of those, who are winner at financial dimension and
feel they are winner of life?

●Don't you feel sometimes that all the physical abundance you
have earned throughout your life is no more able to make you

happy?
●Don't you feel sometimes to live a life with total truthfulness?
It is a chance for you to think about the direction of your life. If you want
to enhance the quality of your life, you should focus to improve the
quality of question, you are surrounded with. For example, a successful
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person thinks that what approach should be taken to make maximum

profit. While a failure one thinks that how to get rid of various issues.
Though it is not that successful one has no problem. You may be
surrounded by many questions. Choosing the right question to work
upon is the key to success.
Why You Don't Grow Naturally

Nature is nothing but a growth process. You are also the part of nature.
As a body, you are growing without any effort. But when it comes to your
mental, emotional, spiritual growth, why don't you grow here also,
without conscious effort. Why does nature leave this responsibility on
you? As nature is of very constructive nature; why does not it help you
here also?
The answer is that apart from your instinctual growth you have a total,
complete freedom. You are free to move in any direction, you can
choose to grow or not to. Now once you decide to nurture these core
areas, everything else again is the very natural process.
In general, people are more inclined to enjoy, living the beauty and
charm of nature. The attractions of life draw your attention. When you
move in this direction, slowly and unconsciously you get habitual to see
outwards for any charm, attraction, happiness and peace. The result is
that you look at everything but not to you personally, inward. You know
very much about others, but when someone asks about you; you find
difficulties.
You are focusing all the time on outward objects or other people. You
are always full with very good comments and critic for others. But for
you, you lack both the comments as well as critics. Your life style gives
you opportunity to improve others very well but never to you. So if you
want to improve, you'd have to focus yourself. Because until you'd not
focus on you, you won't be aware of factors which need your attention to
grow. And all the possibilities of life are associated with your personal
growth.
Why This Is Necessary

There is a very general phenomenon of feeling yourself special. This is
why everyone wants to be successful. And the beauty is that you may
not even know the meaning of success and what are the ingredients of
success. Many people just use word luck behind the success of
everyone. These people are far-away from the word, phenomenon and
the event of being successful.
Success is not something which has a fixed definition or experience for

everyone. In general, success is reaching a point in your life; when you
are delivering the best possibilities out of your personality, out of your
life. It is all about working on you, your natural skill and talent. It's like
converting coal into diamond, by enough labor, hard work and practice.
In the process of self development, you produce excellent result in your

work, job or profession. The real gain that you achieve is in your being,
in your personality. Producing excellent result is just as consequence.
What reaches to people, media, masses, outward world is the excellent
result. People see this excellent result as your success; but the reality is
the confidence level, the insight, the skill, the personality that you have
carved into your being, is the real success.
This is the inner success mechanism. Any one, who wants to attain
success, must understand the inner truth. You produce better, excellent
results only when you have developed the skill, the traits, and the
qualities into your being. Hence it is very necessary to know yourself,
the direction, your strength and limitations. So that you can match that
which career, profession, field suits you best according to your strength.
As you have your personal strength and weakness, so is with the all
successful people, achievers. The only difference is that they are very
aware of their weakness and know how to manage it well.
Once you are clear with your traits, soon you will observe that yes, you
can do this. Everything is possible, when you'd spent some time with
you, evaluating you, boosting you, criticizing you. It is wonderful
experience.
So in the journey of common person to uncommon king the very first

step is to observe yourself, see where you fit in the successful group of
people. This will help you to choose the door from where you can enter
the sphere, the circle, the possibility.
The Meaning of Transformation

Transformation is a bit of hard word. Hard because it tells you directly to
change yourself at some points, habit, belief, or thought process. But
many people don't want to change. The same is the reason that most of
the people are living a life of pain, struggle and limitations. This class of
people is ready to bear any level of difficulty that life offers, but is not
ready to change a single belief, thought or habit. This class belongs to
ninety percent of the entire population and these people earn only ten
percent of the total income. The rest ninety percent of money is earned
by the people who are a bit cleverer than these people. They are ready
to make changes in themselves; in fact they are really and very much
interested in knowing what they must change to get the desired result.
The transformation is the second step in the process of getting a

successful, satisfactory and meaningful life. It starts from observing
yourself. Observation is not a onetime work. It goes on till you want to
grow, to attain new heights of success, peace, pleasure, satisfaction
and meaningful life.
In the process of observation, you may find some blocks in the form of
some habits or some limiting belief. Working on such hindrance that
puts you back on the successful, happy living is called transformation. It
is like replacing copper with gold. In reality, deep down it is converting
your copper into gold. You should know the meaning of copper into
Gold. The Gold is the best possibility of a metal; a copper can attain the
same possibility. Similarly coal and diamonds are fundamentally same.
But through the long, tough process coal converts itself into its best
possibilities, called diamond.
The same is the meaning and purpose of your life and in the same
process this book will help you. In short, transformation is converting
your weak links into strong to achieve a powerful and positive
personality out of you.
Know and Get the Perfect Health

Life is like a resistant free rubber. If you want to expand, it co-operates.
If you want to make it narrow, again it helps you. You live your life
without any planning, observation and thinking. So it turns out to be the
best in some area and worst in other; resulting in an unbalanced life.
There are so many successful people, who are excellent in some
aspects but they've lost a lot in other dimensions.
Most of the pain you suffer is just because of a lack of balance in life. For
instance, if you want to know, feel and realize the power of balance, see
nature. The giant, infinite universe works on the principle of balance.
Your life can also be harmonious, prosperous and powerful, if you attain
right balance in all dimensions.
You can recognize these dimensions of life as aspects of your health

also. It will help you to understand more easily. Following are the
dimension of health in general
1. Physical Health.
2. Financial Health.
3. Mental Health.
4. Emotional Health.
5. Social Health.
6. Spiritual Health.
Physical Health
The most practical definition of health is, when it does not draw your
attention consciously. The majority of people's' lives is moving around
their physical health. Your physical body is like the seat of your soul. It is
like the home in which you live. You must take care of your body. You
must exercise and take nutritional food. Your health, fitness gives you a
feeling of tremendous confidence and energy.
Financial Health
After the physical health you must focus on your financial health. As you
know the role and importance of money, you must be prepared to win
over this dimension of life. Your financial goal should be to at least not
create any kind of block in your life, due to wealth. It should not be an
issue for you. But you must know the difference between need and
greed.
Although in past many saints condemned money, but the reason was
something else. Their message was that rather than running after
money, try to earn something that is lasting, real. Their intention was to
let you know the self realization, the Buddha hood.
Mental Health
Mind is the synonym of power and possibility for you. With the right and
consistent use of mind you can make your life heaven. It should be
cared, to maintain its peace. The quality of mind is that the more you
use, the better it becomes. The more you demand, the more it supplies.
Don't accept limitation in your life. You can have a wonderful life,
whatever is your present situation. And the good you can do for your
mind is to maintain its peace. Don't overload it with your worries and
negative thoughts.
Emotional Health
Emotional states tell that how you are feeling. All the happiness,
pleasure, ecstasy and the opposites as worries, tensions are your
emotional states. Emotional wellness is very necessary for a happy,
peaceful and healthy life. The way to get this is to always be with all
those events, moments, causes that trigger your positive emotions.
Social Health
For happy and balanced life one should have a healthy social life. Many
times in your life, you face difficult situations. In such time, talking,
meeting and sharing of thoughts with your social circle, your friends
really unburden your mind. This dimension brings a new, fresh kind of
fun in your life. It is the only place where you are free to think, speak and
do anything. The kind of joy, happiness you get here is unmatched. You
must give required time here.
Spiritual Health
It is the supreme possibility of your personality, your being. It may be at
far distance from where you are living, thinking and behaving. You
should try to be one of those, who are really intended to know, feel and
realize the truths of life, the truths of God. Your intention and the
guidance of a true master help you to go onto the spiritual journey.
For your spiritual growth, first of all you would have to check your
thoughts and beliefs. Spirituality is the world's toughest science to
understand and master. It is toughest because the more you are
concerned, the more you lose your grip on it.
Objective of This Chapter

Life is a growth process. There is possibility of growth in various
aspects of your personality. Along with physical growth you grow
mentally, emotionally and spiritually. The change that occurs within you
and around affects your growth. And this change is caused by the
movement around you and within you. The right knowledge, related to
life helps you to move in right direction.
This book works in the same direction, to bring out a meaningful

summary out of your life. The objective of this chapter is just to put you
into the process. To make you think about your life. It lets you think, is
there need to change the flow of life? Are you producing the desired
results?
Identify Your Personal Challenges

Let's try to understand this by an example. Suppose there is a seed. If it
gets right soil, right air, water and sunlight; it grows. At the early stages,
it's tough for the seed, as it has to live in the dark and uneasy situation.
Later on, it turns out to be small plant and then a strong tree.
Subsequently it starts flowering and producing fragrances around. It
grows more and takes the form of fruits. Now it has reached a point
where it can serve others. In this way a seed achieves its destiny.
You, the human beings, are also like seeds in the journey of life. You
also come with the possibility of flowering and much more. You can
observe the growth clearly, as to how various people grew up to their
best possibilities, in their way. Some turned into great artists, some
synonyms of power, some wealthy kings, and some rejoiced the
kingdom of God.
Do you see any such possibilities in you? You may think that it is for few
lucky ones. You may think, come across so many practical obligations,
practical limitations with you. Through the book you'd learn that
whatever be the practical situation around you; can be changed. And
whatever you are at present, you can be anything you choose to be.
You, your thought, your belief, your expectation from yourself are the
only personal challenges, the biggest block for you. So if you really want
to live into possibilities of life. Write down all the things, what are the
situations in your life that you want to change. For every thing, situation,
also write the cause, that why do you want to change them. Then write
down that what is stopping you to get these. Write down these as your
personal challenges.
Take Action and Decision

The objective of the book is to get the insight, the knowledge, and the
motivation to bring out a meaningful, powerful living. The universe
works on the principal of Cause and Effect. Your feeling is both the
cause and effect. It is effect as you react on result, happenings. This
feeling, emotion works as a cause for onward events. How you feel,
react and take different situation, actually shapes your life.
It is the moments of decision when you shape your destiny. Observe

and decide that are your present beliefs, thoughts and action,
producing the desired result. If the answer is no, take a decision, take
action towards everything that is a blockage, a hindrance for you.
You need to expand yourself, your knowledge, your being, your love,
your truthfulness. Now get ready, to know, understand and mastering
the art and science of winning the first challenge…
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ART AND SCIENCE OF WINNING
FIRST CHALLENGE
In chapter one you understood that all you want is a happy, prosperous
and balanced life. Balance means there must be adequate richness
and growth in physical, financial, emotional, mental, social and spiritual
aspects. But the practicality is that life is full of holes, negativities,
traumas and likewise. In general, if you observe life, it seems as if there
is some highly negative source that keeps on emitting different kind of
troublesome situations, from time to time.
The lives of people are almost moving from one kind of problem to
another. The very practicality in today's life is that wherever you see in
your surroundings, you see limitation, pains, and various kind of
negativity. So the first challenge is to get rid of any limitation, negativity
in and around you.
In this chapter you would learn that all the natural being, living being is
full of positivity, possibility and bliss only. So the first challenge is to
overcome the entire blockage, hindrance that is stopping you from
getting a healthy, prosperous and abundant life. With the right
knowledge and right implementation, everyone can get a life that is full
of contentment, happiness, prosperity and growth. The right knowledge
is the content of this chapter and right action is your responsibility.
Use this chapter as an opportunity for your life, as this is potent to make
marvelous changes in various dimensions. Proper and consistent
action is very much required for results. In this topic you would focus on
understanding the mystery of your mind, how it works, how it operates,
does it posses any power? If yes, then in what form? What is the power
of your mind? What are its limitations? How can you use its power?
The Practical Challenges

There is a very clear distinction between the life of animals and human
beings. The animal's life is instinctual and maintains almost a fixed
pattern. There life is affected due to change in surrounding. With the
human it is not so. You have something more than instincts. So your life
is the creation of how you want it to be. Your life turns out to be the way
you desire, wish; consciously or unconsciously.
You can observe that how the human life has been changed, and is still
changing in various dimensions. All the changes that occur in your
practical life bring some new possibilities. But still some new kinds of
challenges have always been the part of human life. The challenges,
problems have helped people to grow mentally, although.
If you'd compare present life style with past; you may find that today you
have much more freedom. Your present life is dreamlike in some
aspect. As you are very familiar with those incidents of Socrates, Christ
and many others, who were given death, for even speaking the truth.
But, is the present society disease free? In fact the various reports, data
show that human beings had not attained such a poor physical, mental,
emotional and spiritual health, ever. The problem, pain, traumas,
phobias and negativity that you are facing at present, is beyond all
measures. The one basic difference between the very past and present
is that first the challenges were social; Now it is very personal. Now
days you are all surrounded by personal challenges, that vary from
person to person. The good thing is that you need not anyone for your
happiness and success. The bad thing is that you don't have any one to
walk with you.
In general the very practical challenges you have, is to earn good

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money, to be able to choose a profession that let you feel satisfaction, to

manage your relations, to cope with various stress and many other
issues. But in spite of all problems, life is full of solutions, possibilities
and positivity.
Let's find out about the marvelous power that you have, to burn all
negativity and get a dream life in reality. The time, the age you are in, is
one of the best possibilities. People have never attained such degree of
freedom. Although you seem to be free but on your mental, emotional
plane, there are so many thoughts, lessons, beliefs, conditioning that
actually do not let you be free.
The Marvelous Secret

The secret is that you have splendid power that is beyond all measures.
It has no limitation, no condition and no negation for anything. You can
get anything that you want to have. It is the same power that is used by
all the achievers and successful people who so ever have borne on the
earth.
You already posses this power. It is governing your life all the time. It is
the power that is working to run the life of an individual to the entire
universe. All you need is to know the principles and rules, to let this work
for you. It is running this giant, infinite universe and can be used by you
to run your life on the desired track. The good thing is that this secret
can be learned, used and mastered by each and every individual. In fact
it is easy to understand for a childlike, simple, ordinary mind.
In history, there are many extra ordinary achievements that have been
made by very ordinary minds. All the healing that is beyond expectation
is the result of application of the same power. This is the only science,
the only basics that work behind every working thing. This is not some
new power, it is the same that runs your physical body, causes sun to
shines, and sets the entire universe to work in a harmonious way.
The master secret is that the whole universe is interconnected to each

and everything. You can't see this in totality just because of very limiting
visible range for your eyes. The secret is how you affect this power to
work for you.
"Your inner world creates your outer world" - Joseph Murphy
The invisible produces your visible part of life. Your inner world, your
invisible includes your thought, your imaginations, your beliefs, your
expectation, your fear and everything that is the content of your mind.
The root of all these is your thought. Your thought is the mightiest power
that you have. It is just like a seed who wants to grow and the nature, the
power help it to flourish. It can be understood by the principal of the laws
of attraction which says that what you think is what you attract. Where
your focus goes, it grows. Your habitual thinking shapes and designs
your life.
This is why a rich mind maintain his richness in the physical world and
so the poor. It is difficult to find a rich person, whose thoughts are not so.
So just by working on your thoughts, you can bring miraculous changes
in your life. It is accepted by every successful person in the history as
well as the present. This principle has no exception, as this is a law,
principle of nature itself.
You can understand the same theory by the power of subconscious

mind, which says that you have two distinct characteristics functional
part of mind. Dr. Joseph Murphy, in his book "Power of subconscious
mind" has explained this theory in a most effective way. This theory
says that your subconscious has infinite power, meaning literally no
limitation.
So in brief, the secret is that all the achievement you want to get in your
life is possible and is in your hand. You can bring miraculous changes in
your life using the law of attraction or the power of your subconscious
mind. As the sages say that the only possibility to exit from the human
cycle is "Nirvana"; similarly the only possibility to earn physical
abundance and anything desired on the physical sphere is your
subconscious mind.
Understanding the Principal

There are many possible ways to learn, understand and master this
principal. You can learn it by observing any natural process around you,
also. This principle is the most powerful, the simplest and the most
sensitive, with miraculous results. This super power is associated with
your mind. To understand your mind well, you can take it as if you have
two distinct characteristics functional parts. One is termed as conscious
mind and another as subconscious mind.
Conscious mind is that phase of mind, which you can feel and use
actively. As whatever you do, see, listen, speak, understand is all
related to your conscious mind. All the five senses work in accordance
with the conscious mind. It is the logical and reasoning mind. It helps
you to create logic, it help you to choose. It uses knowledge, experience
and observation.
It has no power in itself that is why you don't feel your mind to be so
powerful. Consciously you have no power other than that of the
physical body. Most of the people live their life on this conscious sphere
only. All the decisions you take and actions you perform are with the
help of this mind only.
There is another characteristic functional part of your mind termed as

the subconscious mind. This is a functional part of mind that connects
you with the universe. Your subconscious is associated with the power
of the universe. Subconsciously you all are one. There is only one
subconscious that connects all the humans, animals, plants, rivers,
earth, planets and everything. So the power of your subconscious is the
power of the universe. This subconscious works on the principle of
"Belief".
Conscious
Subconscious
All of your thinking process takes place in your conscious mind.

Subconscious is deeper than the conscious. The thoughts in your
subconscious; work as your belief. Once a thought moves into your
subconscious mind, that is not so easy job, it stats working according to
its nature. All your habitual thoughts are your subconscious thoughts.
In short, you have two phases of mind; one is conscious, another

subconscious. All the infinite power is associated with subconscious.
The content of your subconscious decides your life. By changing the
thoughts, beliefs in your subconscious you can change your life. The
nature of your subconscious is like a child, it does what it is said to. It
does not argue, recommend or choose. It works alike for good as well
as bad. This is why, for most of the people, it is difficult to change their
life, because of their habitual thinking. It works on the principle of belief.
What you accept mentally as true, works as your belief. So just by
changing your habitual thinking, by changing your belief; you can
change your life dramatically.
The theory of law of attraction says the same in a different way. It says
that your thoughts and feelings radiate a signal of some frequency and
it attracts similar situations. What you think is what you attract. If you are
negative, unhappy, full of complaint you are attracting the condition to

be more like this. If you are happy, joyous, with rich thought you are
attracting the same.
"As above, so below

As within, so without" - The emerald tablet
It means what you want to see in outer world, you must see it in inner
world; in the world of your thought, feeling and imagination.
How You Are Connected To Universe

If you really want to understand and control your life; you must know
about your most powerful resource, the mind. Your physical body is
nothing but the expansion of your mind. Your mind is in perfect harmony
with your being. Your being is not a separate entity.
As you move towards the outer direction; everything is distinct,

different, and separate. As you move inward, everything is connected,
one. The two leaves of a tree look different but at a deeper level both are
manifestations of the same stem. Two stems looks different but are
connected, manifestation of the same root. Two trees look separate but
are one at earth and so on. In the same way the entire being is one and
connected. The same is felt by the sages.
By understanding your mind, your being completely, you can realize

that how powerful entity you are, and what are the powers playing
behind you. You can understand your mind as a seven floor building.
When you are aware, you work using your conscious mind. Conscious
mind is your personal and separate entity from others. The conscious
mind is the outer most layer of your mind.
Cosmic conscious
Collected conscious
Super conscious
Conscious
Unconscious
Collected unconscious
Cosmic unconscious
The next deeper layer to the conscious is the unconscious. This is the
place from where your feelings and thoughts come up as per your
habitual pattern. Your entire feeling of happiness, pain, and
suppression lies in this mind. Sigmund Freud has focused his
researches and experiments up to this level of mind. He says that there
are so many suppressed thoughts and emotions in your unconscious
mind. Unconscious mind is also your personal property.
After the unconscious there is the collective unconscious. It is common

in all the humans. Although you are not aware of this but at this level of
mind you share the same thought, feeling and everything. At this level of
mind you are not distinct. You can feel, realize all these level of your
being, your mind by increasing your awareness.
After the collective there is cosmic unconscious mind. Here you are one
with the entire universe. At this level you are in perfectly harmonious
connection with entire living and non living; with water, with sea, with
mountain, with everything. This is the reason that you never feel weird
while sitting beside mountains, rivers or trees. In fact you feel a deeper
connection with them.
The deeper you move, the higher you arrive. Super consciousness is
the state of mind that you can experience in the state of meditation or
when you are lost in doing your work. When you are not in conscious
level which is full of running thoughts and feeling, you reach a higher
state of super consciousness. Above this there is collective conscious
then cosmic consciousness. Here again you feel so connected with
others and nature that you are unable to draw a line where you are
separate from others.
This is how you are connected to the universe. This is how the superb
power of the universe works, passes though you. All the levels of mind
other than conscious can be termed as subconscious. It is the
experience of the sages, monk, and maharishis; so it opens all the
gates of the mind. Let your life be fulfilled with all the powers and
possibilities. Similarly a habitual 'No' that is with most of the people; let
you stay in your conscious level alone and you would feel weak and
impotent.
The Powerful Practical Techniques

Now you are aware about the infinite power and resource to get
anything in life. The second thing you learned that all your beliefs, your
habitual thoughts, your feelings should be according to what you
desire. You must be very clear about what you want to see in the outer
world, physical world; you must practice it, to see in your inner world, in
your thoughts, words, imaginations, feelings and expectations.
Now you'd learn the various powerful practical techniques that can
change your habitual thinking and so your life. Though it may seem
very easy, but it is not so easy. To practice it and get the desired result,
all you need is awareness towards your thoughts and feelings. As other
skills, it also requires practice and repetition to master.
1. Thought - The Most Powerful Thing
"Thought becomes things" - Mike Dooley
Your thought emits a signal of certain frequency to nature and your

surroundings. Your thought is a very sensitive vibration with mighty
forces. It is only potent thing that creates your life. It attracts the things,
situations according to its nature. If you are habitual to think positive,
healthy, possibility, happy your life will be so. It helps to decide your
destiny even. So if you are not happy with your life, you would be
committing mistakes at your input, at your thought.
So your focus should be to control, monitor and make your thought that
can work in your favor. It may be very difficult to observe your thoughts;
but you can observe and control your feeling. You are happy when
thinking healthy and are sad if thinking negative. And your feeling is
your state of mind. So if you want to live your dream life, you must take
charge of your thought, you feeling, your words.
Either it is a self conversation or with others, do think, do feel and do

speak only what you want to experience. Observe yourself and work to
reach a stage where you need not be aware about your thoughts and
feelings. Once the content of your subconscious is only positive,
healthy, natural, happy, your responsibility is over. The rest is the duty of
nature. It takes time, but it has no alternative, if you want to live a happy,
prosperous and abundant life.
2. The Golden Period Everyday

Suppose there are few ill habits that you can observe. You want to
change them, but you may find it difficult to change them by working on
your thought normally. Suppose you have a phobia that you fear from
darkness. In this case however you try to change your thought, it would
not work.
To make desired change in any of your ill thoughts, diseased habits, you
can use a special period of the day. You get few golden chances every
day. In the day time, your conscious mind works at outer layer and
subconscious at deeper. At this time, any messages conveyed do not
penetrate your subconscious mind. But when you are in a drowsy
state, just prior to sleep or just after arising; your conscious mind
sleeps. If you communicate anything to your mind in this duration, it
directly moves into your subconscious mind. So at this time, you can
speak to your mind repeatedly, about what you want.
This is a golden time for subconscious feeding. You can visualize,

repeat a sentence, imagine listening of sounds or likewise. For example
I was very fearful of the darkness. I was aware and wanted to get rid of
this. So I repeated, "Now I am fearless, I am changing my old belief.
Now I can live completely in dark. I am happy. It is so. Now I can live in
dark". As a result of this, within two weeks, I got rid of this phobia. You
can also make a brief phrase for what you want. Suppose you want to
attract, earn more wealth you can say repeatedly.
"Wealth, Wealth."
"A lot of money is there in my accounts."
"Every day every way I am getting richer and richer".
In this way the repetition of brief phrase at this time easily penetrates
your subconscious mind. And once your subconscious has accepted
the idea, it starts working to bring it to pass.
3. The Visualization
This is the most powerful tool to harvest the miraculous power of your
subconscious mind. Although it sounds very simple but it requires
practice to use this most powerful tool. This is such a potent tool that if
you understand it and bring it regularly into practice, no one can stop
you from getting what you desire.
What you want to see in reality, you must see it in your mind first. It gives
a message to your mind that what you want. The right way of giving
message is to visualize the desired with the feeling of its happening.
Live into this experience. The more realistic your visualization is, the
more powerfully it will work. It is like beginning with the end in the mind.
It helps your infinite mental resources to work in a goal oriented way.
The mind takes the pictures as a goal and sets the energy to flow in this
direction.
Once you are able to see it in your mind, associate it with your feeling,
live it, and enjoy it, it starts working. The visualization should be so real
that you must not feel the need, lacking of it anymore. It must give the
feeling that you have got it. Means you have to practice seeing it as if it is
happening in the same moment. This process of visualization must be
so real that after this you should not feel the need of the desired. If you
want to have a luxury car, see it, feel it as if you'd do, once you have it.
You emit different frequency, for what you have and what you don't
have. So if you want to own something, your visualization of having that;
emits very powerful signals. In visualization you should focus on the
end result. It must be vivid, real. To test your visualization skill, observe
if after visualization you find your other thoughts, speech and actions as
if you have got the car, then your visualization will soon produce superb
results. To maximize the benefit of this method, practice it just before
you sleep and just after you arise.
4. Power of Gratitude, Thankfulness

To make the law of attraction work in your favor, you should have a
feeling of satisfaction, happiness. What you are thinking, speaking and
doing; nature facilitates you to do the same, more. If you are
complaining, blaming, criticizing; nature avails you more situation to do
so. If you are full of thankfulness and appreciation for what you have,
nature offers you more chances to do so.
All of you share the same world, same society, same market and
products. It is full of everything. Some choose the drawback to criticize;
some choose gratitude for such awesome products and services. One
thought puts you in the circle of cheaters, bluff. Another puts you in the
surrounding of sage people.
When you are thankful, it radiates a signal that you have enough. And
once your habitual thought is that I have enough, and then nature pours
more and more into your life. To make your subconscious work in your
favor, start your day with giving thanks for all you have and all new you
are going to get.
The best word you can say is "Thanks". It is a word that reflects
abundance, satisfaction and richness. Start your day with gratitude,
end with the same. Try to engage your mind with gratefulness as much
as possible. Try to give thanks in whatever is the situation around you.
Once you are tuned into this habit, you would be amazed to see how
wonderful things start happening around you.
5. Auto Suggestions and Hetero Suggestions

These two are very integral part of your daily living. And daily this
shapes up your paths and life. Auto suggestion is what you suggest to
yourself, it is self conversation. Auto suggestion is controlled by the self
image you have. The self image you have or how potent you expect
yourself, makes all the difference. The quality of talk you do to yourself
decide your life and destiny. Once you have accepted that you can't
achieve a lot, you have gone. In the steps of successful living, it is the
first step.
So, first of all accept, believe and realize that you can do all you want to.
The self conversation must reflect this. If it is not so, be very positive,
healthy and confident in talking to yourself. Repeat positive sentences

again and again. Condition your subconscious all the time with
powerful, motivating and energetic thoughts. Put your entire effort to
give positive messages only. And always remember you cannot be the
master of everything but you can be the master of something.
Hetero suggestion is the conscious and unconscious suggestion that

you take from your surroundings. It may be your family members, your
friends, your colleagues, the newspaper, TV or radio. You may consider
your subconscious, your mind as a monkey. What happens actually is
that, it waits for a command to act on. If you are not giving it commands,
it will work on whatever your surrounding suggests to do. And be very
clear that people are working for themselves. Their suggestion to you is
in their favor. They are making you work for them. They are using your
infinite power to solve their purpose. So if you are not conscious about
it, you may spend your life working for others, unconsciously.
Knowing Its Sensitivity and Common Mistakes

It is the most powerful principle that is running the entire universe in
harmony and balance. The same power is controlling your life. It works
on the principle of belief, and is so sensitive. You can make this work in
your favor by believing in it. If you think, speak, act only constructively,
confident and with expectation; it works in your favor. If you are
doubtful, insecure, under confident the same principle work for you to
make your life difficult. Following works as poison to this principle
1. Doubt kills belief

2. How can it happen phenomenon
3. The conflict of the thought or feeling
4. The "don't want" phenomenon
5. Asking different moves at same time
6. Will power to control mind
7. Delay is not denial
Belief is like a plant that grows slowly. You can start from few small
things and with the time your belief may be so powerful to work for you.
Doubt, hesitation, complexes blocks your subconscious to work for
you. In fact, it makes you more doubtful.
The next mistake you commit is that you think that how is it possible,
how can the subconscious do this? You have learned about how your
mind's different level is connected with nature. So once the idea is
accepted by subconscious, it is the responsibility of entire universe to
do that for you. And you need not think about "how"; it is not your domain
to worry about. All you need is to desire, believe and get.
Your prayer or desire may fail, because of the conflict in your thought
and feeling. You may try to believe that you have money, and in your
mind knows that you don't have money. So you must avoid any conflict.
In case of conflict, the dominant thought wins. To avoid conflict you can
use the time of drowsy state. And start growing your belief from small
things. Whenever a doubt or conflict comes, take it out with an
intelligent self conversation.
Another major mistake you do is you take more interest in what you
don't want. As, you say "I don't want to be poor", "I don't want to be late"
and likewise. Your subconscious does not take the negative words.
Rather it takes your word as you want to be poor, late. And it starts
working in this way only.
Few people try to convey many messages at the same time. It blocks
the movement of the subconscious. It is like you tell your car driver
many directions at the same time. You should be very clear about your
goals. Once you are clear, the journey starts.
So, by avoiding these common mistakes you can design your life the
way you desire. Now let's work to get wealthy Kingdome to move
ahead…
3
GET WEALTHY KINGDOM
TO MOVE AHEAD
Wealth, money, cash, abundance; how do you feel when you listen
theses words? Your reaction to these words decides your monetary
fate. If you feel yes, good, awesome, joyous, listening these words,
means your conditioning regarding money is very good. However, if
your reaction is "if I could have" or "I am not so lucky", or "it's not me" or
any such negative thought; unconsciously you are maintaining a
mental distance from money. And in response wealth is doing same
with you. If these words disturb you and make you even negative; then it
means you are financially sick.
Wealth is a medium of transaction. Wealth has its importance since

long ago. But due to major changes in life style, it has multiplied its
importance, values and need in one's life. In the old days, when people
were dependent on vegetation and agriculture, then money did not play
a major role for survival. Wealth was required for luxurious living, in
general. But now as for many people, agriculture is not the part of their
living. Money has touched people up to their very roots.
At present, to be very practical and truthful, it is like oxygen. So you

must learn the science and art of getting wealthy. In this chapter, you will
learn the entire principle that can help you to walk on the road to
richness. The role and value of wealth vary from person to person.
One thing is very clear, those who love money, want to earn it, and want
to live in abundance; nature helps them to do so. But most of the people
understand its value in their tough time, when they need it badly and
don't get it. The worse thing is that after such incidents also, many of
them don't value money and don't try to be wealthy. Most of the people
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blame God for their misery and lack of wealth. Many people pray to God
for money. It is not the solution of the problem. Nature, God, universe,
just help you to get what you want, desire, and work for.
Everyone can be wealthy. To live a happy and prosperous life, you must
learn the secrets of wealth. In the world there is no shortage of money.
And all rich people know this very well. But yes, for this you would have
to work hard; have to understand the science of wealth. If you have
learning attitude and ability, all the wealth, abundance, prosperity and
pleasures are for you. There is no shortage of anything. The objective of
this book is to expand your life in every dimension, to make it king size.
What Decides Your Monetary Fate?

Life in every aspect is full of diversity, so also in terms of wealth. Few
are rich, few are poor. Few are born rich, few born poor but find a
way to richness, while few walk the opposite road.
Have you ever thought, what decides the monetary fate? Can you
change it? Can you make it rich and wealthy?
You know very well that your life is the manifestation of your thought.
Your thought is affected by your surroundings. Mental conditioning of a
poor is that you are poor, you don't have resources. As they think, so
they get. Although few children from the very beginning are not willing to
accept this view, they see through their mind rather than eyes. They
think if other can, why can't they. They think they can, decide and they
do so. This is how the thing happens. If you want to check, whether you
will have money in future or not, just observe your present attitude,
thoughts, expectation and wealth related habit.
The world is full of examples and possibilities. Your surrounding

produces success stories as well as failures. Which story you choose to
think upon, act upon, decides your density. If you truly want to be rich
and are committed to this, it ensures that soon you are going to be
rich. There are three steps to walk towards wealthy kingdom
1. Make your thought, feeling and content of your subconscious

mind very positive, joyous, vibrant and wealthy.
2. Understand the principles and rules regarding money that you'd
learn in the same chapter.
3. Act in the direction of getting rich. Use all resources that you
have and create new resources. Make a conscious effort by
producing and utilizing different resources of money and
subconscious effort to use infinite abundance.
Most of the people are poor because they don't focus on wealth. They
don't plan their life by giving adequate space for money making. They
never try to learn about how to get rich. And at worst they blame,
complain, criticize money and wealthy people.
The people, who are rich, understand the value and importance of
wealth. They choose to live their life in abundance. They focus on
wealth. They give proper space to wealth in their decisions. They are
willing to learn, to know more about money. Their mental conditioning
about wealth is good. Their attitude, thought, feeling is all good
towards wealth and wealthy people. They want a rich and abundant
life, so that they can get ahead of it.
A close observation of people shows that you can get ahead in your
life if your financial and sexual needs are satisfied. Most of the people
spent their life around these two centers. Once you have it, you know
the destiny is ahead and waiting for you. If you don't have these, your
life moves around these only, leading nowhere.
Why You Must Understand Money .

You must understand money as one of your top priority. When it is
in your life in abundance, it really doesn't give you anything
remarkable. But when it is lacking in your life, it takes so much, it

can block various possibilities.
Lack of money and lack of knowledge about money, affects your life
to great extent. Robert T. Kiyosaki has pointed out very well in his
book "Rich dad poor dad" that how you enter into rat race due fear of
lack of money and desires that you can fulfill from money. Money is
powerful. You can get all the earthly pleasure with money. Until you
are not aware of the power of money, it threatens you. Once you
understand the principle of money, you can make this power work for
you.
Most of the people don't understand the value of money. They learn
some profession to earn money. They think this is sufficient. When
they earn money, their desires get the wings, so there is increase in
expenditures. They raise the living standards. And they are not
prepared for future, until the tough time knocks.
A very common misconception about money is that more money is

the solution for everything. But if you don't know the management of
money, more money brings opportunity to sink into more debts. When
you earn more money, then all your desires to buy a car, to buy a
house, comes to the surface. At the same time, market avails the
credit cards and various loans. You use them as to fulfill your dream of
home and cars. You are happy with your belongings, but soon you
find yourself overburdened by your debts and expenditures.
In this way, after sometimes, you find yourself in a vicious circle. To

the same situation Robert T. Kiyosaki says rat race. So you must take
care of two evils that can suck your life that is fear of lack of money
and greed of buyable things. Rather make these two to work for you.
So by understanding the principle that governs wealth, you can be
financially strong, out of the rat race. Moreover, you can grow in other
dimensions of life.
Diamond Rules for Wealthy Kingdom .

Your journey to a wealthy road starts from your desire, willingness
and belief towards money. By understanding, mastering, bringing
into practice some principles you can switch to wealthy class. It is
more mental work than physical. George S. Clason has touched very
fundamental wealth principles in his book "The richest man in
Babylon". Following are those principles
1. Start thy purse to flattening

2. Control thy expenditures
3. Make the gold multiply
4. Guard thy treasure from loss
5. Make of thy dwelling a profitable income
6. Insure a future income
7. Increase thy ability to earn
1. Start Thy Purse To Flattening .

The first principle is that pay yourself first. Paying you means keep
some part of earned money, that is only yours, and not to pay anyone.
All the money that you earn is not yours. It is all divided for different
bills and expenses. The money that you have, doesn't give you the
feeling of being yours. When you look at the money you have, you
don't see the money, what you see is, how you are going to spend.
And you are very clear in your mind that either it is nothing or a very
little amount that remains with you. Think how you would feel if you do
all your expenses and still there is sufficient money in your purse.
Think how about if it increases with time, while you are spending the
required.
Once you feel that if some amount of money is yours and not to pay
any one, it really gives you the feeling of being wealthy. The first
diamond principle to be rich is, first of all pay to yourself. And it must
not be less than ten percent of your income. Try to make this as bigger
percentage as you can afford. It helps to flatten your purse, and gives
satisfaction to your soul. Once you have started feeling this peace,
satisfaction, mindfulness you have set yourself to move on a wealthy
road.
2. Control Thy Expenditures

The second principle is to control your expenditure. Observe closely
your spending habit. Get to know very clearly the difference between
desired and necessary expenditure. Necessary expenditure is those
that can't be avoided, as the milk for your child. In desired you can
hold some of them, as all can't be fulfilled at the same time. If you do
so, you'd reach a stage when you can spend happily.
3. Make The Gold Multiply

The money that you have saved should be put at work to bring more
money to you. For this consult, read, learn about investment
possibilities. This money that you have saved is only for a purpose to
bring more money for you. Observe opportunities in your locality, talk
to an investment consultant. Get to know about stocks, mutual funds,
real estate, intellectual property, or any other business which doesn't
involve your physical presence. Choose the option which suits you
the best.
This habit will create different sources of money to flow into your life.
Once you are able to manage this well; you can get into a situation,
where you will not be forced to do your job even. And you didn't
increase your physical effort, to get this golden situation. Your extra
income is made by your money itself. This is the secret principle of
money and the power of money. Once you set your money at work, it
works all the time. In this way you can make the money your slave.
But you need to sharpen your investment skill. The more you save,
the more will be your investment capability, the more money works for
you, the more ease and comfort you can have without increasing any
physical effort.
4. Guard Thy Treasure From Loss

You should be very careful about your investments. Do consult a wise
investment consultant. Never invest in a business of which, you don't
have any knowledge. Handle your money with proper care. Learn
more and more about investment options.
5. Make of Thy Dwelling A Profitable Income

Try to make your necessary and desired expenditure your
investment. As if you live in rented house, or have a rented office, you
can buy that and make your rental expenses as your EMI or
investment. The other possibilities are offered by major networking
companies. Now few major companies are trying to sell their product
through network marketing. If you buy the products of daily uses from
such companies, your expenses work as an investment and you get
some good discount and other money making opportunities.
6. Insure A Future Income

The sixth principle is to insure a future income. Because as you grow
old your earning capacity decreases. Your passion, desire and
physical power gets weakened. So for that you must prepare in
advance. For this you can use real estate, insurance, saving
accounts or dependable investments.
7. Increase Thy Ability To Earn

This principle says to learn more, increase your ability to earn. The
more you learn, the more capable you become, the more
opportunities you can create.Whatever work you do, learn from those
who have master expertise in the profession, learn his skills. For
investment again you need to learn a lot. The good thing is that once
you start learning; you can get to know how much is their possibilities
with life.
Get Financially Intelligent

All of you are earning and spending. Two people earn equal amount
and manage to spend in different ways. After a couple of years one
find himself rich, prosperous growing with all amenities. The second
find himself stressed out and not so wealthy. Yes, it is possible. How
you use your money counts very much. It is called financial
intelligence. If you are not aware about your major expenses and are
driven by the market and people around, then you may be
unconsciously entangled into various pressures.
For this you need to understand difference between assets and

liabilities. You should learn to study, observe income statement and
balance sheet, and the cash flow.
Income statement Income
Expenditure
Asset Liabilities
Balance sheet
Asset is what produces money for you. Liabilities are what take off
your money. So while incurring major expenditure, increase your
asset; rather than buying liabilities. Rich, financially intelligent spend
on their asset and so their income increases. Middle class wants to
adopt the rich life style by buying a house, a car, jewelry, and get over
burdened by his liabilities. While a wise person first spends on assets,
increases his income, and attains a balanced financial condition then
buys luxuries for him. Because once you spend your money to buy
house, cars, jewelry or other desired things, you are bound to spend
next twenty to thirty years filling your debts. And you won't find
yourself in condition to invest.
If you are not investing then you'd have to rely on your profession
only. In this way you put your life into a stressful situation. You should
understand the importance of investments and assets. What you are
buying today on loans and credit cards, by right investment you can
buy much better and without credit cards.
A poor person earns and spends for the survival of life. He doesn't
earn that much to buy either asset or liabilities. A middle class person
earns and in hurry of getting rich life style he buys so many liabilities
and works for money his entire life almost. Rich people earn, and
buys assets, they multiple their income repeatedly. With this multiple
income source they maintain rich life and grow at the same time.
Let Your Subconscious Bring Wealth

Till now you were learning the principle and rules governing wealth.
The way to richness passes through your subconscious mind. All the
habits, rules you have learned, works in a passive way to make your
subconscious mind rich. There is another approach also. You have
studied in the last chapter that you can get almost anything by using
the infinite power of subconscious mind. For this you need to
convince your subconscious mind that you are wealthy. Feeling of
being wealthy produces wealth.
One may be poor because he has accepted this as his belief.

Similarly just by changing your habitual thinking about money; you

can change your monetary fate. The combination of the wealth
principles and proper subconscious feeding may produce miraculous
results. As you know that subconscious works on the principles of
belief. A rich, abundant mindset and belief can make you wealthy.
While doing this try to avoid any conflict. As saying "I am wealthy" may
not be accepted by your subconscious; until you are also able to feel
this. You can use following for this
"Everyday every way I am getting wealthy and wealthy"

"Wealth Wealth"
"By day and night I am getting rich"
"Money comes to me easily and frequently"
"I love money and money loves me"
By repeatedly positive auto suggestions, you can tap the infinite

power of your subconscious. All your action and words should be
according to your wealthy belief. When you see any costly thing in the
shop, you should feel that you can buy it, if not today tomorrow.
In this way you can help your subconscious to make you wealthy. You
can keep something as symbolic at your work place and at home that
reflects your richness. You should maintain yourself, your home,
shop that let you feel wealthy.
Know How You Block Your Wealth

"Money is a filthy word"
"Money is the cause of every evil"
"I am happy without money"
"I don't want to be rich"
"All the rich earn black money"
"I hate being wealthy"
"I hate money"
If these are your habitual comments on money, it works as the major
block between you and money. Because in this world everything
moves with the laws of nature and that is law of attraction. It says you
attract what you think, feel, love and desire. Responding in this way
towards money is most poisonous habit. It gives a message to nature
that you really don't want to be wealthy and so nature does.
If you think you are a religious person, a spiritual being, and you don't
need money; you may be wrong. A spiritual person loves everything;
hate is out of his dictionary. Moreover, lack of money blocks the
spiritual growth of many people; because to survive, to stay alive you
need money. And if you don't have this in adequacy, your focus may
be on money.
If someone is criticizing, blaming and complaining about anything in

his life, the law of attraction will avail him more reason to do so. In your
life, there are only two types of circle, on which you move. One is
constructive another is destructive. If you won't set to go on
constructive one; the destructive cycle will pull you. The power to
choose is in your hand. So stop thinking or speaking anything
negative about money. Avoid the company of people who do so. It can
be very easily observed that poor people keep on speaking, "I don't
want money, I am happy like this". In fact they are trying to hide their
failure in effort of getting rich and wealthy.
If you have any such habit, start changing your thought, your belief,
rather use "now I understand importance of money," or "I too can earn
well", or "I want to earn more", "I like money". "I love money". Once
you start to use these statements rather than those negative ones,
you'll see that new opportunities start falling your way.
Another thing that blocks money is fear of lack of money. You can
control this also by continuous positive auto suggestion. If you are not
getting any source of income, just try to get anything, however difficult
or new it is. Focus on every positive change that occurs, as where the
focus goes it grows. Your focus on positive change can make a flow of
positivity in your life.
Some More Good Habits

Constant and frequent flow of adequate money keeps you financially
healthy. The definition of health is what does not draw your attention; as
you feel presence of teeth, when there is pain. As is your physical health
as is financial. Finance should not be an issue to fulfill your needs. As for
physical health you take nutritional food and take care, so for the
financial. Following are some good habits that shape your financial
health and strength.
1-You should not overstrain your life for saving. Enjoy your life with
proper balance; spend on those things which make you happy. If it is
costly desire that you like; you can buy it in less number or time but
manage to get it. You can purchase less but procure well. It helps you to
get out of poor cycle.
2-Get into the habit of powerful visualization and positive self

conversation. Also avoid poisonous hetero suggestions. These small
and sensitive thoughts are very powerful. In your free time, when you
are alone you can enjoy doing visualization about abundance and
prosperity.
3-Learn, understand and practice the power of giving. When you are
giving money to someone with happiness it reflects that "you have a lot"
and this feeling produces more wealth into your life. You can know it,
realize it only after doing. Give out of happiness, feel I have a lot and feel
it will return back to you in many folds.
4-Avoid criticism, blame, complaint or any negative thought and feeling

about wealth or rich people. As it gives message to your subconscious

that you don't want or like money.
5-Pay all your debts as soon as possible and avoid any kind of debt.
Take it if it is really and very necessary. Don't make a habit of taking
debt. And do not purchase for which you are not able to pay.
6-Look wealthy to be wealthy. Maintain yourself, and it is not very costly.

It needs your mental broadness not monetary. It can be managed and
should be managed with a little money management. It gives a
message to your subconscious of being rich and the subconscious
responds in similar way. If you look wealthy your look gives signals to
your subconscious continuously. And if you look poor again it gives
message to your subconscious of being poor. So change your cycle of
destruction to a cycle of construction.
7-There is difference between lack of money and being poor. Lack of

money is temporary while being poor is a permanent state of mind. So if
you don't have money, don't claim yourself to be poor. If you feel you are
poor. You claim to have a temporary lack of money. Get thinking and
working like the rich, to get rich, rich mindset is required, money will
automatically come.
8-Work to learn, not for money. Because when you focus on learning,
your earning capacity and skill increases. And passively your earning
increases.
9-When you are doing a job, you are working for the other. And you don't
get compensation in proportion to your labor. So you should think and
try to work for yourself. Even try to make others work for you. If you
really want to be rich. For this all you need to do is expand your mind,
rest is the responsibility of the mind.
10-In the end I'd like to tell you a very powerful and little difficult tool, that
is learn the art of selling. Although many people avoid selling but if you
really want to move very far you must have this skill. Most people are
earning much less than they could. They learn their profession very
well. Once you have learned the profession you need to sell it,
otherwise some other would do it for you and will charge much more
In this way by working on these principles you can boost your financial
health. It may take some time to produce results, but your responsibility
is to keep walking. And soon you will find abundance, wealth and
prosperity in your path. Now let us find out if our natural desires are a
boon or a disaster…
Unit 2
Making Even Devil
Work For You
4
YOUR NATURAL DESIRES - A
POSSIBILITY OR DISASTER
Your life moves around desires. It is your desire that trigger you to do
something. But due to many visible and invisible reasons you are not
able to accept you very true wishes, in its totality. In your childhood it is
taught to speak truth but you are not allowed to express yourself all the
time.
The more distant you are from your desire, the farther you are from your
true being. In fact, you all are here on the earth, in the human body to
fulfill you dream that may not have been satisfied in the past lives.
Otherwise there is no reason to be here. Moreover you can feel and
realize, your being through your wishes. Every wish fulfillment can be a
step towards your inner, true self.
People develop a false desire that is projection of original ones, due to

many constraints that are social, religious and fear. And the same play
as the root cause of your false, projected being that is ego. The solution
to get rid of ego is to switch to your original desire that is associated with
your true self.
Various Needs and Desires

You should know your natural need and desires. For this you may
explore the causes that trigger these desires. You have
1- A physical body
2- A mind
3- A heart to feel emotions
4- A true self of which you are not aware as you don't feel the
presence of this consciously, in general.
62 Your Natural Desires - A Possibility or Disaster
Your basic needs and wishes are linked with the physical body. It may
vary with age group, following includes everything
1- Food and good food

2- Good health free from any disease
3- Sexual need and desire
The next thing that you feel is your mind. The function related is to think,
to decide and to worry. The miraculous power of the entire universe is
associated with the mind. But unfortunately most of the people don't
want to use mind. With the help of positive stress, goal setting, right
decision and excellent plan you can use your mind to get all that you
desire on the physical sphere of life, as wealth, health, abundance and
prosperity. It helps develop your personality. Your desires related to the
mind are following.
1- Peace of mind
2- To be mentally strong
3- Free from any kind of stress.
4- Life full of wealth, abundance and prosperity
After body and mind the next part of your being is your heart, your
emotional device. This plays the most important role in your over all
progress on absolute scale. You will learn about absolute scale in unit
four. You emotion lets you feel different peaks of joy, peace, pleasure,
and ecstasy. On the other hand it feels potent negative feelings of
jealousy, hatred, anger and pain also. Your various desires are the
following
1- Only joyful and happy relationships

2- Emotionally strong
3- Life full of love and light
4- Feeling of peace, joy and happiness
5- Free from any kind of emotional distress, limitation, any
obstacle
6- Healthy and balanced social life.
If all these needs are fulfilled, that is possible; you'd realize that still you
are not satisfied. You will find that all your desires are fulfilled and still
you are equally empty or even more. You may feel like you lived so well,
but earned nothing remarkable. The life most of the people revolve
around above mentioned desires only.
Once you are free from all theses desires then you reach the point that
is the original desire of your being. Once you are able to understand this
you'd realize that all your minor and major needs were nothing but a
step to this master desire. This desire is to get inner riches, inner
wealth; to know your true being that connects to the omnipotent, the
God. It is this desire to taste the God, to submerge into omnipotence.
Earthly pleasure stands nowhere in comparison to this. But you can
realize this only through experience, not by believing only.
The same feeling, peace was experienced by Buddha, Krishna,

Mohammad, Kabir, Christ, Osho, and so many other sages. The same
is the ultimate goal of your life. And how to get this is the role and
objective of this book.
The Perverted Desires

When your original desires are not fulfilled or you don't express them as
they are, it gets distorted. It manifests itself in some other form. All the
addiction of alcohol, drugs, and the deformation as homosexuality or
any likewise phenomenon are the result of the blockage in the natural
path. It follows a very simple theory, when your thirst is not satisfied
actively, it uses passive ways. When energy don't get constructive path
to flow, it generates destructive ones. It helps increase the distance
from your true being.
You must try to avoid any such deformed way to fulfill you wish. A better
approach is to accept you original ones as they are. Have a friends
circle that you can talk to and share all your feelings. But never
suppress your desire. One more possibility that you can adopt, is to
focus on the required issue of your life, make a goal and work to achieve
your goal. In this way your mind gets engaged. It helps your energy to
flow towards your goal.
This is a sensitive as well as an important issue of your personal life.

And your unfulfilled desires draw your major attention. You can handle
this issue by desire management. It says to be very truthful in accepting
all your desires. It may be the situation that you can't fulfill all your desire
at present phase of life. But it does not mean you can't fulfill them. Delay
is better than a negation. According to desire management theory, you
can set a plan for your life; you can schedule the coming phase to fulfill
your passion. For example, a school child can delay his wish to watch
cinema in theater till college days. It may sound childish, but it is very
psychological. This way it eliminates any possibility of deformation in
your life. It is a kind of emotional management.
You can live your desire by writing it, by sharing it with you friends or
counselor, by living it in imagination, to choose a profession that fulfills
you passion. You can make goal and work hard to get a dream life. This
book helps you in the same direction. You must know that when you
give proper attention and care to your likings, you care for your being; it
helps you to get mature. It helps you to grow, get mature, and get
progressed on absolute scale. On the other hand, if you are using
alternate ways to fulfill your desire, then they make you an addict,
distract and push you far away from your natural track.
Who Crushed The Flowers?

Life is full of diversity in terms of everything. There are so many
variations that are beyond your expectation. There is a possibility that

you are very clear about your desire. But there is a majority of people,
for whom this question does not even touch them. Most of the people do
not even want to know what they actually like to do. Even this topic may
be highly disturbing for many individuals.
You take birth as a free individual full of love and possibilities. In the
early days you live full, you do all you love to do. You are free from all the
rules, responsibility, religion and belief. As you grow old, your
surroundings play an important role. In this phase of life you start
getting various lessons, rules, responsibilities and likewise.
An atmosphere that is full of love and freedom help you to nurture and
grow. Those, who get it, grow very well. But most of the people are
forced to think and behave like their surroundings. This situation is like
you had a flower of love, truthfulness and that is being crushed by your
rugged surrounding. This is why a few turn out to be rebellious as they
feel that they are right. But the story for majority is to learn to suppress
you feelings, your thought and then your being. You shape your life
according to family, relatives, society and religion. Each of them
separately wants you to live your life according to them.
Your family has set some paths, relatives have their expectations,
society offers its limitation and religion binds to follow some rituals. All
these forces are strong enough to defeat you. Many individuals bow to
themselves and choose to follow the tradition. In managing with so
external rules, regulation, culture, you loose the inner connection. You
achieve all these measures but loose yourself.
Your life can be so beautiful. There are people who have lived to their
best possibilities. Once you are connected with you inner self
everything turns out to be gold. When you know what you want and why
you want then you move towards the inner self, your source of joy.
Observe your Well-wisher, Society and Religion

Every one wants to grow, be happy and conquer his goals. But, are you
moving towards it? Aren't you entangled in some other phase of life?
Aren't you entwined in so many responsibilities? Don't you feel to be in
never ending struggle and pain? Life is not so; but practicalities says the
same.
Sometimes, from whom you expect a lot may block your growth.
Although they may not do it consciously, it is a situation with many
people. Your closed ones, your well wishers who themselves are living
a unbalanced life mentor you. What they need is to be capable for this
first.
The next is the society that works as another fear factor for you. If you'd
try to observe you society as a system, it is not less than a disaster. This
is leading nowhere, but working as a threat, cause of problem for
others. With the same reasons in the metro cities the culture of
individualism is spreading.
After this, there is one more block; you face in your life. That is deformed
religious view. Every religion in actuality focuses to make everyone full
with love and freedom. The role of religion is to make every individual
free, to blossom. But the foolish followers misinterpret the principles
and take them as hard rules and try to make other follow. Unfortunately,
as the time passes they sit on the seat of leader and spread their
foolishness and disease in the name of God and religion. Religion is a
matter of freedom and choice. Once it is imposed on society, people, it
looses its importance and value. Although it is only religion that is potent
to cure you, but the way it is being spread all over, it is like disease. So
almost everything around you forces you to think, work according to
them, killing your true being.
What Would You Do If You Can Do Anything?

It is a very childish question, but may work as an alchemic one. In this
chapter, desire is stressed very much, because it plays vital role. Your
life moves around your wishes. By observing, living, knowing and
changing your desires you can change your life. By suppressing it, you
loose the balance and control from your life. Here don't confuse your
natural desire with ego fulfillment desire. Your wish for ego satisfaction
is ego desires. For example, your desire that your friend understand
you is natural, but if you want them to follow you or admire you, that may
be ego biased. Ego desires are endless and poisonous.
Now think about what you would do, if everything is allowed and
possible. Initially you may feel it to be so much, but when you actually
think about it, it is not so. To experience this, take a pen and papers and
start writing all that you want to live. Once you start doing so, you may
find it to be a tough job. At this time you'd realize that how the suggestion
of your well wishers, family, society and religion blocks you mentally.
When you'd start writing you may feel fearful, as many of them may be
not allowed according to your social system. But you can free yourself
from such a diseased and unbalanced system. For example fantasy or
desire of a bachelor boy, may be like this.
"Huh! Writing all my desire is like living its glimpses. I want to live my life
full up to extremities. I want a perfect balance in all the dimensions of
life. I want all my physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial and
social life to be awesome. I want to look fit, strong, smart, attractive and
loving. I want to fulfill all my sexual desires without any limitation. I want
to go with my freedom all the time.
I want my life to be full of love, peace, happiness and prosperity. I want

to excel in my job. I want to make a wealthy kingdom. I want to have a

luxurious home, luxury cars and all other lavishness in life. I want a very
beautiful wife and family. I want to be happy and make others happy. I
want to choose in my life.
I also understand the value of spiritual life. So I want to have inner

riches. I want to live every moment of life being totally, into it. I want to
get mature over all the earthly pleasure so that I can pour my life, energy
possibility to attain a spiritual being. I want to experience, live , know ,
realize what the Buddha, Krishna , Osho, Mohammad, Kabir, Christ,
and many other true sages have a lived".
Once you have written the same for you. Keep it with you. Study it more
and more. It helps you in two ways. One, through this you are able to
express fully, that is very necessary to eliminate mental and emotional
blocks. If you would do it regularly, you may feel that your desires are
being satisfied. You are getting mature rather than biased. The second,
it helps you in subconscious programming. It makes your belief,
thought and feeling very positive. It will help your inner self to blossom.
By reading it again and again is like living it again and again. And by
doing so you'd get mature and you'd realize the power of desire
fulfillment and freedom.
Sexual Desire and Suppressions

There are so many major and minor desires. Few of them play key roles
in life. One of such need and desire in sexual. A lot of possibilities as well
as the disasters are associated with this need and desire.
A well understood knowledge and approach towards it, opens gate of

possibilities. Our society, humanity has taken it so negatively and this
attitude has poisoned whole mankind.
"Humankind tried to kill sex, they couldn't but made it poisonous"

- Nietzsche
To be very truthful the journey of life starts with this desire. This feeling
grabs you before you get mature, adult and sincere. This is the only
major natural desire that you feel. Although it does not look necessary
for living, as you need food, but at psychological and other aspects it is
very necessary.
How do you feel, when you listen these words as sex, intimacy, love,
physical relationship? If your response to these very words is full of
negativity, complexes, hesitation, sin, or likewise; it may block your
overall growth. The reason of being so is suppression of this desire.
This is the topic that is most misunderstood and suppressed.
Suppression of this has made entire humanity diseased. And it is an
accepted fact by many psychologists, like Sigmund Freud.
One of the major reasons of the suppression is the misinterpretation

and attempt to make everyone religious, without understanding the
meaning of religion. The inside story is when a person after living all his
desires gets very mature, he seeks his further possibility in spirituality,
religion. And when he attains inner riches; he feels the triviality,
emptiness of many such desires. He realizes that religion and
spirituality can only fulfill our true thirst, desire. But the same lesson he
has learned by passing and living all his desires. Once you reach this
stage of life; you would choose to go with religion. You try to preach and
make other let know this truth.
This is a natural process of life. In the beginning you do something to

fulfill your wishes and later you realize them to be childish, foolish. But
the same helps you to get mature. Your goodness comes after passing
through the ugly path. Most of the people try to attain this goodness, by
suppressing their natural desires. When these people guide and
monitor the society; they spread only disease.
You are closest to you true self, when you are involved in love making.
In fact the desire of sex is not the desire of sex only; it is the desire of the
state you attain. This is only act when you are ready to loose yourself,
your identity, your ego. In a way you forget yourself willingly. This act
avails the situation to let it happen. For moments you experience the
ultimate freedom, peace and merge into wholeness. Means from the
inside view; it looks something else, a meditative act. You should be
conscious about the importance and possibility about this unique,
strange and magical desire of your soul. So you must be full of pious
thought about this desire.
What the society, so called good men, foolish priest, idiot religious
follower have done with pure, pious desire is disastrous. But you must
keep in mind that your life is in your control, you can shape it the way
you wish. And more over you must be very positive towards you natural
desire because you desire only what the nature wants you to.
The solution to this problem and all such suppression is to take your
own responsibility. Your approach should be to accept these and
observe how it affects your life. If you live this consciously, you can
observe that it help you to be mature. Moreover, you can see its
limitations and would choose to move ahead of it. There is one more
approach that is to develop will power. It says that you strengthen
yourself so that you can choose to deny any of your desires. The vows
in our ritual help to develop will power. It is not suppression. In
suppression your focus is on that desire only, while in will power your
focus is on your inner self or some other necessary work.
Break All the Rules and Get Free Again

At whatever age and stage of life you are, you may feel surrounded
among so many rules, responsibility, tradition and rituals. You must

know that outer forces have no control over you. You are tangled by
these in your mind, in your thoughts only. So to get rid of these, all you
have to do is some mental work. You have to free your mind from all the
belief, thoughts or anything that hinders your growth. Although it is not
so easy; it has taken many years, many lives to make these patterns in
your mind.
Although there is another class of people mostly in urban areas who are
not having such problems, but still they don't look so lively and vibrant.
They feel the emptiness and meaninglessness in their life.
In fact once you have achieved freedom from various rules in your
mind. Then you can consciously work, study, to know your purpose of
life. You can work in the direction to learn something, in the dimension of
life you want to grow and prosper. You can consciously choose and see
what works for you and what doesn't. You must now engage yourself in
learning. You can work on your personality and the best possible
available for you.
You can feel how your desires and maturity attained pushes you far
ahead in the journey of life. So in this way you can utilize and transform
your desire. Then only, you can realize the possibilities with the desire.
Individual Freedom Oath

Most of your problems are related to others. What others are doing
disturbs you more than what you are doing. You interrupt others if they
are not doing according to you, if possible and the same they do. Most
of the people think that they are very right in whatever they are doing.
And they try to make other good, without spending adequate time on
their personal learning and grooming.
If you apply the principle of individual freedom in your life, most of the
problems would be solved. Individual freedom oath means I am free, he

is free, and everyone is free. It will help you to change the habit to focus
and disturb others. And once you focus yourself, you start to grow
rapidly.
So the individual freedom should be practiced in your daily life. It helps

you to grow because where the focus goes it grows. Although it may be
a bit difficult as you may be habitual about observing others, but is
possible. There are so many other advantages of being, feeling, living
as individually free that you can experience.
Take Your Responsibility Completely

You natural desires may turn out as a disaster, if it meets suppression or
other negative ways. It is a possibility if you understand it well. To make
all them work for you, you'd have to take responsibility. You can analyze
the role and importance of each desire in your life. You can observe
which one pushes you in which direction. And once you are able to
cooperate with it very consciously; you are on the path of real
transformation.
The day you find no one to blame, criticize, you take your responsibility,
you start flowering. Be responsible, be aware, take right steps and you
can feel living in the possibilities of life. You may suffer, but only for your
happiness and growth. Once you take charge, the journey begins. But
unfortunately most of the people are never ready to take the
responsibility rather they prefer to blame life as a never ending struggle.
Role of Spirituality
If you'd try to observe all of you desire, you may realize something
common. That is unpredictable, not so clear; but certainly it is there. You
may realize that all your desires are heading towards one thing, one
common goal through different senses. You enjoy any thing which
creates a situation of being egoless, loosing yourselves. The more is

the depth of the joy, pleasure, peace and contentment; the more you
are lost.
Suppose a person is passionate about writing. Now when he writes, he

reaches a point where only writing exists, the writer is lost. Suppose one
is passionate about dancing, the best dance is performed when dancer
pours himself totally into dancing. Similarly your sexual desire, you are
no more left for those few moments of peak experience. When an artist
touches level of excellence in his work, profession; he enjoys the same
pleasure and contentment. So, all your desires are a possibility to
merge with the source; which is the glimpse of the omnipotent, of the
true self, of the God himself. Means, your desires let you move towards
your ultimate goal. But it does not mean you should be a slave of your
desires. You can make most of it only if you are master of it. Now let us
try to identify and kill the real enemies…..
5
IDENTIFY AND KILL THE REAL ENEMY
What comes to your mind when you think or hear about the word
enemies? Do you think of some persons or some of your bad habits or
both? It may be any person, but the disastrous enemies are living with
you as a part of your personality. These can be said to be inner enemies
that causes major outer and inner losses. Your inner enemies include ill
beliefs, negative auto and hetero suggestion, worry, fear, ego and many
others.
If you observe your inner and outer surroundings; you may feel you are
among enemies only. And if it is so, you are in the cycle of destruction.
Majority of us are in the cycle of destruction. For them life is a struggle,
hell. For this they blame system, country and others. These habits push
them strongly towards the cycle of destruction. This class of people
wants everything to change but not them.
This is not the situation with everyone. There are people who, either by
passive learning or by active learning, change themselves, their belief
and so everything around them. They work and maintain themselves in
the cycle of construction. For those people the number of enemies in
inner and outer plane is very less comparatively.
If you want a blissful, happy and prosperous life, you can get it by
working on all those factors that are obstructing your growth. You can
observe them behind your negativity, pain and failure. Your life moves
around these minor and major factors. They work as a source to
produce negativity, loss and failure. And if you replace these factors
with positive beliefs, love, happiness, positive auto and hetero

suggestion; it helps spreading positive, strong, loving waves in and
around you. You need to work consciously to achieve this. This book
helps you to get the same.
Your Connection to Inner and Outer World

If you want to master your life, you should monitor the entire factors that
affect you. For this, you can observe all outer and inner links. Outer
connection means, which is outside your physical body. You connect
through your various five senses, mind and emotion. The outer,
physical contacts are following:
1- Friends , family members, relatives, colleagues

2- Society and civilization
3- Religious responsibility, rituals
4- Media and newspaper
5- Co passengers and travelers
They affect your life a lot. They influence your inner world, which later
create your outer world. In this way life moves in a circular path. Those
who belong to rich class, intellectual, sincere, provide and get a very
positive, vibrant possibilities from this outer surrounding. Their healthy,
good and positive outer makes their inner strong, which put them in the
cycle of construction, love and prosperity. They work, alter, modify and
update themselves to maintain balance and harmony in life.
Your life pattern is highly affected by the initial outer surrounding. It

helps build your initial beliefs and thought pattern. Till the time you are in
a condition to take charge of your life; these beliefs works as hard core
and unchangeable, some times. Most of the people want everything
and everyone to change but not them. They struggle in their life, just
because of this attitude.
Your inner connection is mostly the result of your surroundings, family,

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friends, and hetero suggestions. Following are your all internal

connections
1- Belief
2- Thoughts and auto suggestion
3- Your feelings and state of mind
4- Ego or true self
You can easily feel that these can turn positive or negative. Your belief
can be an angel or a devil. Your thought and auto suggestion can be
your friends or a potent enemy. Your feeling can be full of love or of
anger. You can choose to go with ego or can choose to live with the
truth, your true self.
When these thoughts are obstructive such as disastrous belief,

negative thought, poor auto suggestions, feeling of fear, lose, and grip
of ego, they play as your potent enemy. These are capable to make your
life full of struggle, pain, grief and miseries.
You would have to kill all these enemies. The entire book helps you in
the same task. Further you'd see how they are affecting you; How to get
rid of these and get transformed. Few other habits are considered here
that can harm you.
Check Your Ill Belief

If you want to work on a single thing and get all that you desire, then you
need to work on your belief. It plays key role in your life. So if you have
any kind of misery, worry, negativity, discomfort, compromise in your
life; the biggest possible cause is your ill belief.
Now the questions arises how to identify your sick belief and good
belief. For this you need to observe what you think about everything, if
you think, speak and know that everything is good, anything can be
achieved. Life is full of positivity and possibilities. There is nothing to be
fearful. Health, growth, prosperity is natural. All is good and in perfect

harmony. If you habitually think, speak, like this then you can say that
your belief system is healthy. And once you have this belief system, it
ensures that either you are living a controlled happy and prosperous life
or moving to achieve this very soon.
So the potent enemy to ruin your life is your negative belief. You collect
these beliefs through hetero suggestion of your surroundings, in many
forms, since your childhood. But once you know, you can get rid of all
negative belief. You can replace them with new positive, vibrant,
working, happy, joyous; prosperous one. You can do this with positive
self conversation and adopting a friend circle and social circle that talks,
entertains only working, happy and prosperous ideas.
You must observe whom you are talking with and listening to. Observe
what you are collecting from newspaper, television and other such
resources. If you are surrounded by blames, complaints, negative talk,
you are asking for continuous pain, misery and worry. And if you
understand the principle and apply it properly; you would soon attain
peace, harmony and happiness.
Hetero Suggestion Is Killing You

You have seen that limiting and negative belief kills your happiness and
growth. Here one more thing you must understand is that every belief
needs continuous food to stay alive and produce results. For example,
suppose your belief is "people are not good", then to make this work,
you need to repeat, consider it always. This is why, when surroundings
change, your beliefs change. When you are in a company of powerful,
confident, successful people, you may observe a rapid change in
yourself.
When any thought is repeated again and again, your mind starts
believing it. And after some time it turns out to be your belief. One of
your potential enemies is negative hetero suggestion. Hetero
suggestions work as food for beliefs in your mind. If the nature of hetero
suggestion is different from your belief system; then first you feel
uncomfortable and attempt to change your surroundings. This is why
when a rich, abundant and positive mind reaches among opposite
minded people. Either he explains to them that they are not thinking
right and feel uncomfortable. Or when a negative, poor, minded person
reaches among the opposite minded, he observes so much difference
in attitude and thoughts.
So you can get a very good, happy and prosperous life just by
controlling your hetero suggestions. Source of your hetero suggestions
are following:
1- your family member, friends and colleagues

2- Newspaper, magazines
3- TV, media, news
4- Relatives , society
There is a possibility that your family member, friends, society,

newspaper, media may be full of toxic thoughts only. If you feel so, then
maintain a mental distance with all of them. Mental distance means, do
avoid them in your mind. Do not think, talk about them, more than
required.
News and Media Poisoning Your Life

Money moves markets. Market rotates money. Market takes off your
money and provides whatever you desire. If you want poison, market
delivers, if you ask for nectar, again the market serves you. The people
behind market study the habit, need, addiction, desire of people and
make them available.
It sounds very positive. It really could be, if the people were really
intelligent and sincere. If people could understand what helps them to
grow, prosper. There is a segment of market that affects your life a lot. It
is media, news and television. Have you ever thought that what they are
giving you? Aren't they full of crime, robbery, scandals, rape and all the
potent and maximum possible negative news and information? They
are focusing on the pain, blame, criticize and complaints.
Can't you observe that how these poisonous messages are making
your life hell? Don't you feel that they are making you mentally and
emotionally sick? Don't you realize that they are making you addict? It is
so, but you may not figure it out. Because the people you meet are living
in the same situation, as you do. In life almost everything is relative.
When some disease is spread all over society, it does not look like
disease. It becomes part of life, as in metro cities stress is part of life.
I observe people around me. I observe them blaming, criticizing, and

full of anger and stress all the time. And I can noticeably correlate how
they are getting poisonous food from media, TV, newspaper to maintain
their disastrous habits. Once you would work in this direction, you must
experience the peace in your life. If you want to utilize these, you need
to be very clever. Only collect that is positive, joyous and of your use;
rather than taking all they have. It is like picking flowers among thorns.
The morning hours are very sensitive and equally important. Your mind
can absorb maximum at this time. Reading newspaper, watching news
is the worst possible way to start the day. This information sinks down in
your subconscious and creates your day as well as life in similar
pattern. On the other hand, if you entertain some positive thoughts, full
of peace, prosperity and happiness, your entire life can be changed.
Most of the people start their day with poisonous news. This is major
reason that they are fearful all the time. Most of us have not
experienced any such incident, but we are fearful. People keep on
saying, "now the time is not good, no one can be believed". It is not your
experience, it is the result of the evil news that you take since your
morning to night. And as you believe this, so you experience.
The massive enemy that is spoiling the life of individual to the entire
society as a whole is the media. They do focus all the time on news that
is full of corruption, crime, scandal, rape, cheat and likewise. While the
truth is that, these incidents are happening with very few people. And if
the number is increasing, these people are responsible. They do so
because they find it easy to collect the news from a police station.
Although they are not fully responsible because they show, what people
demand.
Everything should be observed and there are so many incidents; that

are positive, divine, helpful and great. It is all out of the coverage of the
news. There are so many people, organizations, community, systems
that are bringing positive changes in the life of people.
If in future, the media understands that if the news is positive, healthy,

harmonious and joyous, it will help entire society to change and grow.
But it is not possible by the desire of media, alone. It requires the people
to understand this. The people will learn when each individual is willing
to understand that how much it affects your life.
Your responsibility is to make yourself happy first, then let other grow
with you. So one must not listen to the news and media until he is not
mature enough to choose what does not harm him. To start the day with
newspaper and TV news is the worst possible thing, you can offer
yourself.
Know Your Family, Social and Religious Pattern

People love their family, society and religion, in general. You love them
because you grow and nurture yourself in their company. They are an
integral part of your life. You get emotionally attached to all of them.
Although this is not the case with everyone; there are people who hate
their family, society or religion.
In fact there are many things that you don't wish to explore, know. But at
present, through this book you are under a learning process. Your
objective is to acquire the best personality that is in harmony and
balance with nature. Here it is expected that you are an individual, who
wants to improve him and make him better in all the way. In this chapter
you are working to identify each and every factor that blocks your
growth. You learned that how limiting belief, negative hetero suggestion
and poisonous news of media is affecting you. For many people, the
same is done by their family, society and religion. You may find it tough
to accept, but you can heal the situation only if you accept it.
Your family members try to help you, guide you best. But many times
their lack of knowledge, ego, and attachment make their help suicidal
for their children. So without being emotional, you must be willing to be
mature enough to observe everything. Your thoughts, speech and
action must be so good that you can make your family, society and your
religion good.
You should observe your family and society about what they are giving
you. Are they helping you to grow or making you doubtful, blocking your
growth. In the same way you should try to see your religion. If you'd
understand the basics of your religion, it is real art of living. But the form
of religion we are living is like a disease. You are intelligent, sharp, and
capable. Manage time to study religion yourself. Don't rely for this on
others.
If any of them are working as hindrance to your life, as is the case with
many people. The day may come, when you'd be full of anger and
resentment for them. So better is to observe everything that may push
you back in life.
Worry and Frustration Making Life Hell

How are you feeling now? How do you feel usually? Normally, do you
maintain a positive state of mind or full of criticize and blame for others?
If you find many more reasons to be unhappy, to criticize others, these
habits affect your personality and possibility. If you are full of worry,
confusion and frustration then you need to take action about it.
Your negative feeling attracts more similar situation in your life. To get
rid of this, you need to find out the causes that make you to feel so. You
must practice positive subconscious feeding and forgiveness to those
whom you blame. You will learn many powerful techniques to get into a
positive state of mind in further chapters.
People who are full of love, peace and abundance always feel positive.
They know that to blame or criticize is like taking mental poison. If you
are full of blame, it reflects that some outer source is disturbing your life.
And you can't change outer source, all the time. Once you take the
responsibility for any kind of obstacle, you become ready to change you
accordingly. And the only possibility is to change yourself and get paid
in terms of control, happiness and everything.
Theory of Shortcut
There is a phenomenon that is blocking the possibility for many people.
Few people want to reach at noble places through shortcuts. You
should know that shortcuts lead you nowhere but to search for another
shortcut.
There is no shortcut in life. If you want to excel you'd have to pour

yourself totally into that work and profession. Once you are able to do
this, you reach your desired place. This is the truth of life. The sooner
you understand, the better is for you.
Expectation -Understood and Misunderstood

Another big mistake is the groundless expectation. There is a difference
in being positive and expectation. Expectation means I'd be happy if it
happens. Being positive means it should be or it is going to happen.
When you work less, deserve less, you expect more. While, when you
work adequate, deserve a lot, the job is done. Rather than relying on
expectation of the desired, you must focus on the required and be
positive. Suppose you are expecting to get some job. The more you are
expecting, the more you are preparing yourself to be sad. But the more
you prepare and the more you are positive, the chance is more.
Being positive is an unconditional state of mind. If you don't get so still

you are positive for next possibility. And once your expectation is not
complete, you quit expecting and turn out to be negative. A better
approach is; work more, deserve more and leave no space for
expectations. Rather replace your expectation with being positive.
Reject To React
You should not react to every situation. It is natural to react on every
incident that occurs in your surrounding. What happens when you react
is that there are two possibilities. One is linked with positive emotion,
while the other is very opposite to this. When reaction is with happiness,
then it produces the positivity and possibility in your mind. But when it is
your anger, aggression; it produces negativity in your deep
subconscious. So it is sensible to avoid those incidents that open the
negative side of your mind. The practical technique is to repeat
consciously & intentionally in your mind, "I am rejecting this incident to

react", many times. Soon you would find yourself in a state that you
saved the energy that you could have thrown destructively to that
situation. You can change your focus to something more important. In
this way you can save your energy and time.
Win Over Your Comfort And Ease

There are people who are struggling to attain comforts of life. But once
you reach this level, the journey is not over. There are people who are
living with comfort and ease. They should take it as opportunity.
If you have sufficient time and money, you should explore the
possibilities. Check the entire six dimensions, observe which require
attention. Once you have acquired mental, financial, physical,
emotional and social health. Go for the spiritual growth, inner riches.
This dimension helps you to get mature in life. Here you realize the
truths of life. Don't take your physical abundance as winning the world.
Don't look back in the journey of life. Nurture your quest about truths of
life and spirituality. What you can get from here, can give a meaning to
your life. You can get here beyond your imagination. You can get the
purpose of your life only through this dimension of life.
Master Your Ego

This chapter is focused on the factors that inhibit your growth,
possibility and happiness. All the factors that you have studied can be
changed through changing your beliefs. But ego is a phenomenon,
function, mechanism that penetrates your deepest level. In fact,
according to some sages, who have worked on the ego, they have
realized that there is no ego. But how is it possible when you can feel it
very clearly. Most of the people and most of the time, they are driven by
ego only.
Ego is the false projection of the self. False projection means it actually
is not there but seems to be. For example suppose you see the moon in
river. The image of moon is in the river, not the moon. Your true self is
your true being. It is very difficult to live without conscious touch of your
true self. It is only possible when you work in this direction and reach
self realization. You can realize self only by an inward journey in total
awareness.
You are attracted and fascinated by earthly pleasures, habitually. So

you are continuously engaged in moving outward. The second thing
that you don't have is awareness. Awareness means whatever you do,
you do it consciously, knowing it, being their only. You may think that you
do everything in awareness but it is not so. When you go to office from
home, you are aware when you reach to office. In the way your body
was in the car but your mind was not present there. It was thinking
something else. The same happens with almost everyone, most of the
time. You remain disconnected with yourself, generally. So to fulfill its
need, its false projection, the ego stays with you, controls you, and
operates you.
Here you may think if ego is false projection of pure, true self; it should
also posses the same nature. Then again go back to the example of
moon in river. The reflection of moon is in river. Now in image, the
quality or drawback of river will work, not of the moon. So ego is a
reflection on you and your personality. You help it to decide the way it
may work. The ego of good person doesn't block them in doing well, in
their limit.
Now the question arises how ego blocks your growth. Ego is the
reflection of your true being, self. It doesn't let you move towards your
inner centre. It doesn't let you to be introduced with your real self. Due to
this you are not connected to the base, the source, the ground. And so
you behave exactly in the way as if you don't have a base, a ground. To
get rid of ego, is not a matter of practice some technique and get rid of it.
Ego is very integral part of your personality. It is the most poisonous
part. It does not block your growth in physical world to a great extent.
But for the absolute, it is the biggest enemy one can have. You can get
rid of all habits, but ego lives up to a very deeper level of you.
Presence of adequate love in one's life can decay ego to great extent or
completely. In real life, for most of the people love is a feeling they get in
stories, movies and books only. The power of love can diminish the ego
in a very natural way. In fact love and ego both can't be the part of your
personality. Ego blocks the possibility of love in your life.
You should know that if you want love in your life, you should start giving
it, loving everything around. You can love yourself, love your body, love
your friend, love your parents, love your clothes, books, pens, every
living and non living thing around you. Send a feeling of love to
everyone around you. Talk to them; talk with plants, animals, objects;
obviously not in words, but in feeling. Once you feel the bond of love
between you and everything around you, the job is done.
As the love in your life increases, you will feel joy to surrender yourself in
front of your entire loved one. And it is your ego who surrenders. In fact,
when you are really full of love, you start connecting to your true self and
so the ego starts disappearing. Now let us learn to manage and grow
with the dark side of life….
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MANAGING AND GROWING
WITH DARK SIDE
The objective of the book is to provide you enough knowledge to

strengthen yourself. You can make your life better with your traits. All
the chapters have added its bricks in making the home. The brick that is
provided by this chapter belongs to the down under the ground.
There are two types of tough time, one is usual with no remarkable
depth and another that makes your life hell. How to deal with this phase
of life is the concern of this chapter. Here you can figure out its cause,
how to respond it and the possibility related to it. You can build up an
attitude so that you can win this time too.
There was an old person, in a village. One day he fell down from a
ladder. His legs got fractured. The doctor suggested him bed rest for
three months. He was so worried about his bed rest. A sage, who was
his friend, came to meet him. He told that he was very active person. He
could not rest for three months on a bed. He added that there was
immense pain in his legs. The sage told him to focus on the point where
the pain is. He followed the same. After around one hour, he opened his
eyes and was amazed with what had happened. He found that the pain
was at one point only, and when he focused that point; he observed no
pain.
The guru told him to take these three months as a grace by God,
observe the pain. After three month he went to guru. He told him that
initially, he found that he is different, pain is different. Later on
meditating on that painful point; he found that he is different and his
body is different. He got transformed in this painful period.
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Tough Time and Possibility

Tough time, resistance, negativity, pain is the integral part of your life. It
comes and goes. But it affects different people in different ways. For
some it works as opportunity to grow, get mature; get powerful while for
others it works as tragedy.
In fact you can observe in your daily life, how important role is played by
minor and major resistance. It is the resistance of the ground that helps
you to walk. It is salt (negative) when used in balance, makes your food
delicious. It is the pain of exam that develops educational maturity. In
this way you can see how pain, tough time in balance helps to carve a
better personality.
Although to preach about real tough time is very easy in comparison to

being into it. This situation is like, all the doors are closed and you've to
stay in a very uncomfortable, dark, depressing atmosphere. But the
beauty is that it can work as the best time to turn inwards. You can open
some inner gates towards your true self. Once all outer paths are closed
you may pour your energy, force and focus to push and open inner
doors. Moving inward is like moving to the centre, to the source where
there is peace, joy, balance, harmony, eternity, zero, timelessness and
so much inexpressible.
In fact all the peak tough time as well as peak pleasurable moments
heads towards this ultimate, unique source only. So if you are a little
intelligent, you have a reason to be happy always. Good times let you
enjoy the life, bad time avails you inner riches as well as opportunity to
grow.
First Check, Is It So?

Whenever you are surrounded by any minor or major problem, you
must check it; observe its depth and the right and quick solution of this.
You should diagnose the problem in the right prospective and in total
awareness. You can easily resolve many of them, so don't exaggerate
the problem. Make it mentally small.
There are two types of problems. One is related to your work,

profession, personality or responsibility. This should be given attention
and should be resolved quickly. Another is just to distract you. Giving
attention on them is only the wastage of time. For example, there was a
king, who was going to a village nearby. He was passing through a
jungle. He was in hurry as he had to return back to home. In the forest
there were so many bushes hindering his path. He got angry and
started ruining the bushes from their roots. After some time he realized
that he was just wasting the time, in this. And then he ignored the
bushes and moved ahead.
Similarly among many problems, some are like ruining the bushes. So
you need to be very clever about which need attention and which don't.
If you are habitual to respond to any kind of problem, you can practice
the habit of delayed reaction. You can switch to avoid from delayed
response, later.
Various Causes and Purpose of Tough Time

In life there is nothing that happens all of a sudden. Everything either
good or evil grows slowly. Although you are not aware of it, is a different
thing. It is your ignorance that you see good or undesired incidents
when it happens. The world moves on the principle of cause and effect.
On the physical plane every effect, manifestation; change is associated
with some like causes. Every time with the help of your thought, words
and action; you are inducing nature to bring some changes in your life.
Although everything that happens to you, is a milestone in the journey
of life. You can make use of every event to move ahead. But most of the
people, in ignorance and in unawareness, make all incidents to turn into
disaster.
If you are asked about various reasons of the tough time you face, what
will be your answer? If your answer is Karmic effect, people in your
surroundings, luck and likewise; you may be right, but you need to be
more right to get more out of your life. Following are the various causes
of difficult time:
1- Negative, limiting , harmful belief and subconscious feeding

2- Lack of adequate awareness to see a problem when it is seed like
3- Inside theory of karmic effect
4- Right obstacle to reach right destiny
The first cause is your habitual negative thinking. Major reason for any
kind of limitation, mediocrity, inadequacy is your ill belief. There are
people who work hard, but keep repeating effort has no worth. Life is full
of injustice; it is luck that decides not labor. They work hard but block the
results, possibilities; because they are blocking the path from where the
results are produced.
The second cause is your unawareness. In general, no problem comes

to you in a big size directly. It grows around you, with your help. But you
are so busy that you are not able to see a small issue turning into
disaster.
One more reason that plays an important role is that all the time your
focus is on others, outward things, news and likewise. And so you miss
everything that occurs within and around you. There are people who
understand the principles of life. They make themselves the center, at
their focus and so develop their self well. If you want to grow, get
mature; you must have your focus on yourself. This increases your
awareness and you can counter and diminish almost all the problem
that arise.
The third cause is the Karmic effect. According to the karma theory, you
keep on getting new births to fulfill your desires. It all happens according
to your own wish. Your desires and actions decide your further journey.
You may suffer in this life due to some past life deeds also.
The forth reason is most constructive and positive. In fact it sums up all
the causes. You are consciously or unconsciously asking your desires
to be fulfilled. You will only get it, when you are ready, prepared and
deserving to get this. And to meet big dreams, you must have a giant
personality. To carve this possibility out of you, you need to pass
through some real tough experience. It helps you to prepare, to face the
level of happiness, power and responsibility earned.
In this way, the tough time helps you to achieve your goal. In fact,
people don't want to change themselves and still wish to achieve their
goals. The people, who don't bother about change and keep their eye
on goal, achieve it. Once they accomplish it, they find themselves totally
changed. And they feel happy for their new, dynamic, dream
personality. The people, who don't work to change, don't grow, don't
deserve and so don't get. It can be concluded that your failure, tough
times work as a bridge between you and your goal. The same is the
purpose of the tough times, if utilized properly.
The Need of Proper Perspective

Whenever you are surrounded by problems; the first thing you should
observe is that how you are taking it. Because your processor, worker,
solver is your mind. It takes the situation as you consciously perceive it,
and tell your mind about it.
Once you say to your mind, “oh! There is a great problem, I am worried,
and I am depressed. What can I do now?” your mind turns more
worried, depressed and negative. The problem gets stretched. But if at
the same time you take it as a challenge and opportunity to grow. You
see some possibility to check which of your drawback triggered that
problem; gives a very different, positive and constructive signal to your
mind. You should know, how you see a problem, is a problem. In fact it is
sensible to see a problem in proper perspective. A right perspective,
right mind set and right action shrink the size of the difficulty.
Sometimes the situation is not under control and you may feel
scattered. It seems to take adequate time to get rid of it. It can be said to
be a tough phase of life that is an integral part of life. The same tough
phase has helped many people, to grow and get successful. In fact
many of them discovered a new person in them, which later gave
meaning to their life. This is my personal experience also. My failures
put me in the toughest phase of life, where I had no support either
financially or emotionally or social. But in the same phase of life I saw
the glimpse of diamond possibilities in my life. The same dark side of life
gave birth to my spiritual journey. The same phase made me what I
could never imagine or desire even. It transformed me and it changed
many great people who have ever lived. So it can do for you too.
When you feel, realize that your life is not in your control. You can feel it
to be controlled by the nature, the almighty and he knows what is better
for you. What you should do is, just not let this time break you. Never let
this force to break you. Yes your ego must be broken. Your thought, “I do
it all, I achieved it all”, must be broken. The real purpose of tough time is
to suck all your ego and related habits.
Once you are able to get rid of your rigid ego; you work in cooperation
with the entire universe. All the powers and forces work for you. You
reach a state where you are nothing and at the same time you are
everything.
Acceptance - The Art of Cooperation

There was a boy named Santosh. He was very stubborn. He never
listened to anyone. He was poor, weak and full of other drawbacks. But
he was not ready to accept this at all. He used to say that he was happy
although he never looked it. He never accepted the situation, so never
tried to improve over it.
The same is situation with many people. You may be worried,

depressed but may not ready to accept. And until you don't accept
anything you never think to work on it. Acceptance is the first step
towards any growth, movement and possibility. It has no alternative,
because until you don't accept, power of your mind does not work on it.
Once you accept then the journey begins. Acceptance is a fundamental

step. Once you accept that yes I am not happy with the present
situation. The very next thought is what the solution is. And once the
signal goes to your mind, it starts searching for various possibilities and
solutions.
The acceptance helps to kill the resistance due to problem. Total

acceptance ends the resistance of problem and it seems to work in your
favor. It is like someone willing to disturb you, harm you and you are
trying to understand him. Sounds strange, but it is practical. Once you
co-operate with your trouble, you can get to know all the causes and
purpose of the trouble. Although it is not so easy to accept, but by
practicing and knowing its importance you can accept any problem
totally. And once you accept totally, you consciously start working to
tackle and solve the problem. Acceptance lets you know, what to do the
next. So in this way by conscious co-operation you can get best out of
your problems.
Take Responsibility Rather Than Blaming

Beginning is half done. Once you have accepted the situation, next you
may blame others for this. People want to move on least resistance
path and blaming others, solve the purpose. This is a blunder that you
can do. In this way you may stick to the present situation and
personality. Once you think that others are responsible for your
problems, you are saying that outer causes, person monitor your life.
Any such belief, decision reflects that your control is in other's hands.
If you want to take complete control on your life; you'd have to take
responsibility of every thing that bothers you. If your employee is not
working as expected, then either you are expecting more than his
capability or you need to replace him. In both cases, taking
responsibility is the solution. If you take responsibility, you get the
solution and you grow as well.
“Once you take the responsibility, you start flowering”- Osho

Taking responsibility may be little difficult, but is equally paying. It is
something you can't avoid. If you'd avoid it at present, tomorrow the
same problem will knock you with bigger face. You should also teach
your children the value, power of acceptance and responsibility.
Responsibility makes everyone disciplined and helps to grow. So next
time anything disturbing occur in your surroundings, take responsibility
to get rid of that. Sometimes you may need to grow mentally and
sometimes to work physically.
Once you take the responsibility, you ask for a solution from your mind.
Once you take the responsibility, you face the problem directly. And this
helps you to be strong, tough and confident. It makes you more
responsible, more mature, more powerful, more confident and more
deserving. So take charge of the situation with you. Try to solve that
from your end.
Time to Strengthen Your Mind, Being and Personality

There were three friends Asmanjas, Bachhan and Ram. They were
very different in tackling the problems. Asmanjas lived worried,
confused about the troubles he had. He always searched someone to
help him get out of the issue. Bachhan was quiet dynamic and
confident. He didn't bother about difficulties until they were small. He
used to take big troubles as a challenge, used to resolve them and grew
along with. Ram was a bit introvert. He never bothered about problems.
When there was happiness he lived it, when there was pain, he
observed and remain untouched to that. He found everything balanced,
harmonious on spiritual scale and never found a reason to be worried
about.
“Adversity causes some men to break, others to break records”

-William Arthur Ward
How a tough time affects you, depends on your being, your belief
system and expectation. Having a problem is different from tough
phase of life. Tough phase is integral part of life. How you take it makes
all the difference. Living in tough phase is like swimming upstream. The
more effort you put to get forward the more power you collect. Although
in this phase you may not produce good results, but the confidence,
strength, power you get will produce incredible results.
Most of the people just overcome this phase anyhow. In this way they
miss an opportunity to collect some gold, in terms of quality, caliber,
confidence and courage. The more failure you face, the more capability
you develop to face challenges. And once you are capable of facing big
failures, you fulfill the criteria to achieve big success.
Once you are in a tough situation, your mind, emotion, soul faces a hard
time. If you consciously believe in your mind, heart and soul, they turn
out to be so strong, so powerful that you can't achieve this by any other
way. Your mind, emotion and soul are nurtured in this situation. The
tough be the situation, the tougher you are at your being.
If you find yourself caught in such a tough time, don't stop, even
increase your efforts. Results won't be produced, don't worry. Let that
happen what is going on. Just observe the situation. See that you are
working and still the result is not there. Know that results are not
produced only by your desire. There is someone whose desire is more
necessary, whose will be fulfilled. Let your false ego bow, die, and tell
him your achievements were not only yours. It was the will of the nature,
omnipotence also.
But in such time there is one thing on which you have complete right.
That is the strength, power, confidence that you earn. And the same
strength ensures many achievements for the future. In this phase of life
if you don't get result, you get a giant personality, giant mind, mature
emotion that are capable and potent for future challenges. You can take
this situation as if you are in your personal training process.
Make Your Suffering Your Paying

Sudama and Kanha were fast friends. They had some differences as
both were from different background. Kanha was quiet rich and he was
taught to not to accept anything in free. Sudama was from a poor family,
so his focus was always to get without paying any money. When Kanha
grew old, he decided to work more, learn more, to earn more; as he
wanted to live his life in abundance. While Sudama, never thought
about earning more.
The same happens in your life, you have to pay for everything you want
to get. An American businessman, who was a billionaire, was asked
about the secret of his success. He said, “It is very simple. First you
decide what you want to get. And then pay for it and get it”. Many people
have their wishes, but their willingness to pay for it stops the journey at
desire itself.
When you want to buy something you need money. Suppose if you
want to buy Volkswagen polo car. You need to pay its cost, that is
around Rs 6.70 lakh, pay it and get the brand new polo car. If you want
to earn this much money, you'd have to choose a work, a profession that
will produce money. You would have to pay in terms of labor, skill,
learning and other ways which will stand you on this level. Suppose
today you are a sales trainee and you want to have a life style that a
CEO maintains. Then you need to first observe the gap between you, at
present and the CEO, your future. Observe this gap in terms of
knowledge, skill, confidence, experience, talent, dynamism,
management skill and all other that is required. Work hard to fill all the
gaps and you'd find yourself in place of the CEO.
If you want to get ahead in life, you need to excel on the parameter that
counts and pays. These are your confidence, your professional skill,
risk taking capacity, managing work stress, labor, motivation and
leadership qualities. Few of these are the qualities that you can't learn in
college, that you can learn only when you face difficulty.
While you are facing difficulty, success or failure doesn't matter very
much. What counts is that you are ready to face it or not. In real life, real
difficulties, real tough times; everything helps you to grow and
strengthen. Failure makes you harder, tougher and deserving. Tough
time carve out a noble, mature and giant personality in you.
Tough times let you grow in many essential aspects of life. If used
properly, it strengthens your mind, emotion and being. It reduces the
fear of failure or any difficulty, life may offer. Hence gloomy days contain
a unique opportunity to make you more deserving. You can achieve it by
continuous work and movement. At this time you may not produce good
results but you are getting prepared for the future.
Observe Your Strengths, Your Faith and Beliefs

The universe is full of power, possibility and creativity. Your life is
governed by the same power. You can utilize the same power in your
favor through your faith and belief.
Tough times examine you in many ways. It observes, strengthens or

weakens you at many dimensions. It may affect your belief system also.
It may alter you positively or negatively. It depends on your attitude and
the way you perceive the situation. You get enough time to spend with
you and to make self conversation. You can observe yourself at a
deeper level. You can observe all your beliefs, faiths and fears.
And with the help of positive self conversation, you can heal, cure and
strengthen your belief. You can eliminate all dull and destructive beliefs.
In this way you can utilize the situation to work in your favor.
Persistence – The Key Player

If tough time is like an ocean, persistence is the ship to cross it. When all
the qualities and strengths bow down, persistence is there standing.
This is the nature of persistence. It can stand without any result till long,
even until you get the desired.
It is the key player for the tough time. You can't walk so far without
persistence. It builds bridges to success, dreams, and desires when
you reach towards hopelessness. If you don't cultivate this quality you
can't achieve big, because sometimes it's all a game of persistence.
And a winner is a winner in every case.
“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing
the hard work you already did” - Gingrich
To develop persistence, you may need to be mature, peaceful and

spiritual. And once you have these traits, you turn out to be unbeatable.
In fact the most deserving are the most preserving. It is an easy job for
the people who have inner riches. He need not to run here and there for
fulfillment.
The real art and science to make persistence as a part of your being is
to earn inner riches. And you can do this just by moving inward. Spend
sometime with you. The darkness that you feel when you close your
eyes is the gate of inner world. Once you enter into that, all the
treasures for which you are running in the physical world is available
and waiting for you.
Don't Let Fear, Frustration Dominate You

If you want to achieve something remarkable, you must be strong
mentally and emotionally, especially when you are in the tough phase of
life. And to attain this you must not let the fear, confusion, frustration
dominate on you. Fear of pain is more painful than the actual pain. It is
the major enemy that you may have. It is associated with your ego. A
more egoist person is more fearful, because in case of failure, it is the
ego that is affected maximum. When you fail, your ego fails, and the
failure of ego hurts you. For an egoless person, failure is not such a
terrible phenomenon. He will observe the thing on reality ground and
will improve himself to get another bigger success.
The fear, confusion and frustrations are more when you are more ego
conscious. You project your ego as what others think about you. And to
make other think good about you; success, growth, achievement is very
necessary. If you want to get rid of fear, work to get rid of ego. What
others think really shouldn't matter to you. What counts is what you
think, what you know, how much you deserve.
When the center of your living would be you, not others; ego starts
diminishing. When you are in tough times, never let fear dominate you.
Never doubt your talent, capability and possibility. All the tough time is
not more than an assessment for you that you can pass with your
capabilities and persistence.
Golden Opportunity to Move towards Diamond

There was an old man on a mountain. He was dragging a heavy rock
towards the peak of mountain from the bottom. Every time he was
unable to reach the top and rock would fall down to the base. Again he
tried to pull it to peak again it fell to base. He repeated the same
exercise, failing each time.
“The solution to any problem is another problem” - Goethe

Here you may think, why he was trying, because to keep a heavy rock at
the peak was not possible. But don't you feel that you are trying to do the
same in your life. You keep on facing problems, the same problems
again and again but you never understand that there is no permanent
solution to these. Can't you see that in life you are just moving from one
kind of problem to another? Poor are suffering from one kind of
problem, rich with other, young facing one kind, old other, Healthy
facing of one kind, unhealthy other. You take all the steps towards
happiness but reach into new troubles only. And you reach a point
declaring life as a synonym of struggle, misery and limitations only. For
a sincere person, the pain of the other person should be sufficient proof
about the reality of life.
If you'd see the lives of people in history, there are just three kind of
people, who made some remarkable achievement in their life. One is
the king, the emperor. If you see their life, the empire was their
achievement and nothing more. Some of them were very truthful and
took care of their subjects well. The second remarkable living was of a
scientist, inventor or artist. Their individual gain and growth was quiet
better than the kings. Those who touched the level of excellence were
quiet satisfied with their life. But they also realized that they could not
receive or get the whole from life.
Once Einstein was asked about what he would like to be in the next
birth, he said, “Anything but not a scientist”. When asked for
explanation, he said,” I feel that I missed something in this life, what I
discovered is much smaller than the remaining. I missed the truth of life,
and I want to work in the direction of the truth of life”.
The third kind of living is by the true sages, enlightened ones. They
were the first and only, who declared by their words, by their silence, by
their being, by their presence, that they got all that is. They lived up to
the edge of possibility. They crossed the entire boundary. They died
with contentment, with ease and with pleasure. They lived a blissful life,
full of love, joy and every good thing. They left an address, a place, a
path, a possibility that could satisfy your eternal thirst.
The tough phase you are facing is an opportunity for you to mold
yourself into the inner riches. In tough times you don't have any hold on
anything. You are like a free entity. You can switch yourself towards any
direction. Do more and more self conversation; know your inner desire,
try to connect to your inner being. Your inner self always talk to you.
Once you start listening, believing and responding it. It works as your
best friend, your mentor. The more truthful you are, the better is your
bonding with your inner self. This is the first milestone towards inner
journey.
Once you are able to connect to your inner self, you find your life to be
full of peace, harmony and balance. Now apart from managing an outer
physical world you have a inner world. Where there is you and your
inner self. Once you start feeling the pleasure of being with your inner
self, your true self, the transformation begins. You will see that the outer
changes affect you no more. Although it is a very simple phenomenon
but practically it is very rare. You are so involved, habituated by the
outer, physical world that you don't have even childish achievements in
inner life. You will understand it in detail in unit four.
Move towards Center - Pain Is At the Surface

Life is life. It has so many peaks in terms of happiness as well as pain.
Both, either happiness or pain does not last long. Pain affects you very
much. The good thing is that a potent painful situation may transform
you totally. It makes you aware of the reality of life. The possibility is that
you can be strong, more confident or you can be broken or you can turn
spiritual. Turning spiritual means who is keen to know the truth of life, to
know the real cause of such tremendous grief in life.
Life is the combination of many layers. On the outer layer all the things
occur, which make you happy sometimes or worried at the other times.
If you really want to get out of these; you can choose to move towards
the center, the Godhood. The more you move towards the center, you
will be at a distance from most outer, physical sphere, the more you'd be
able to see the realities.
You will realize that pain and pleasure occurs on the outer surface. You
can easily notice that and would never be affected. This is the real
purpose of pain in your life. Once you choose this path, no pain,
problem, grief can touch you. In fact you'd realize the truth that in fact it
does not occur. It is just change at the outer surface. Until you'd not
choose this path, your life would be entangled in such non existing
pains and pleasures. Now let us move on the journey of becoming an
emotional emperor…
Unit 3
Plant Tree of Joy, Peace and
Success
7
BE AN EMOTIONAL EMPEROR
The objective of this book is to let you master your life. For this you need
to understand its integral parts. Emotion is one of the most important
dimensions of your being. Emotion connects your desire to your action.
It causes you to move, to act. Every feeling produces an impulse that
sets your body to act. Emotion is a state of mind. It produces impulse
according to its nature. Every emotion wants to manifest itself. As when
you are in the mood of happiness, the next you wish to share it, bring it
into your action anyway. This means emotion causes you to take some
action.
Whatever work you do is all to get a state of mind, a feeling, an

emotional state. We spend our life to get some positive state of mind as
in eating, love, sex, success, winning, playing, traveling or anything.
You can understand the same by the theory of vibration. It says that
your every act produces a special kind of vibration in your mind. So all
the activity you like, generate some specific feeling through some
particular vibration.
The ability to monitor your impulses, to keep your state positive and
motivating, Understanding and utilizing every feeling is emotional
mastery. You become an emotional emperor when you express
yourself completely, when you can tailor your emotions according to
your surroundings. All your emotions help you to grow and prosper. You
should understand the message of negative emotions such as stress,
anger, anxiety, depression, loneliness, disappointment, failure and
likewise. You should take these as there is something in your life that
you need to change. And act accordingly. In this way you keep on
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growing as a person mentally and emotionally.
Understanding Emotion
Emotion is how you are feeling at this very moment. It is a state of mind
that causes you to take some actions. It is an impulse that pushes you to
move, to act. The meaning of the word emotion is “to move”. It is a very
personal, internal phenomenon and its nature is configured within your
mind and heart. Emotions give expression to your life.
It includes both the possibilities. If you are filled with the emotion of true
love, peace and pleasure, you experience heaven, godhood and the
peak possibilities of life. At the same time if you are filled with fear,
anger, disappointment, frustration; you experience the hell, the devil
hood, and the worst possibilities of life. But the beauty of life is that you
can choose the flow of your life consciously. Total awareness, right
knowledge, and right action can make your life heaven. For this you
must know the art and science of happy living. The same is the
objective of the book as a whole.
In general you are happy when your outer condition is good and you are
sad when things are not going well. But, you must understand that your
emotional state is governed by the thoughts in your mind and how you
take the situation. There are many happy situations; if seen wisely, they
hide the seeds of sorrow. On the other hand there are painful conditions
that have the seeds of unexpected joy.
Any external situation causes you to think, to take action in terms of

words or action. All these happen in a very habitual pattern. Sometimes
same situation can make one very angry while other to laugh. It all
depends on the conditioning of your mind. How you interpret the
circumstance, represents your thought pattern. It decides your reaction
for incidents. Your entire life is triggered by your emotion. If you are able
to master your emotion you can master your life.
Emotional Mastery
According to Daniel Goleman, it is ability such as being able to motivate
yourself and persist in the face of frustration, to control impulses and
delay gratification to regulate one's mood and keep distress from
swamping ability to think, to empathize and hope.
As the name suggest, it is being the master of your emotion. To reach a

state, a position where you can consciously identify, understand,
control, mold and utilize your emotion in the best possible way.
Whatever be the type or nature of impulse, you can extract what you
actually desire or is required. It should push you towards a definite goal.
Mastering emotion is a big game, but it pays equally. For this you need
to be mentally very strong, very mature and equally positive,
irrespective of external condition. In fact all your weakness, strength
that counts is emotional and mental, because the biggest loss that you
face is emotional or mental only. Although it is not something you can
gain by reading or learning but right knowledge and information has its
importance. It tells your mind what to do, what to face, what to expect.
And once you put yourself in the fire of real life experience, you are
prepared.
The practical meaning of emotional mastery is to reach a state, when

you and no external condition decide your feelings or state of mind. You
are capable of thinking and feeling what you want to. Once Buddha was
preaching his disciples, a person came to him in anger. He spit on the
face of Buddha. The disciples got heated and asked Buddha for
permission to take action. Buddha said, “He is worried, is unable to
speak, so he is expressing his feelings through action”. The next day
the same person came and fell at the feet of Buddha, was crying and
seeking for excuse. Buddha again said, “He is unable to speak, is

expressing himself through action”. Here Buddha is in the state where
his feeling is determined by himself only, not by what happened in his
surroundings. But the disciples got angry. Their emotion was not
controlled by themselves, but by the event.
You can't achieve this state by practice; rather it is outcome of inner

peace and balance. If you can deal the situation up to these extremities,
you would realize that you are not the same person. You are changed,
transformed. This is what the emotional mastery is. It is like someone is
abusing you and you are at total balance, peace in your mind, rather
you are observing his ill state of mind, his tension, worry and you are full
of empathy for him. You are trying to pour your love onto him to make
him peaceful.
Emotional mastery is to be positive, balanced irrespective of good or

bad times. Your state of mind affects the situation up to great extent.
With a positive state of mind, you can discover the seeds of
opportunities in the toughest time also. And if you are a situation
oriented person; every small difficulty will cause you to quit and make it
disaster. Every good time nurtures your being and every bad time
strengthens you.
If you want to master this dimension, try to see how external situations
affect your internal impulses. Try to monitor your impulse and develop a
balanced, peaceful, positive state of mind in any of the situation. You
have to reach a state where none can distract you, until you yourself
desire. No external change should disturb your inner balance. You are
always in a state to choose your state of mind. You are in a position to
see the situation that empower you, strengthens you, and works in
favor of you. And yes, it is possible. How to get to this state is the content
of this chapter. As this is the result of total inner transformation, it is the
objective of the entire book also.
Self Awareness-The key

In general, people don't have any control over their emotion. In fact,
they are aware about it after its manifestation. You know when your
anger is manifested. You realize when you have done it.
The key tool to monitor your emotion is self awareness. Try to observe
when an emotion arises and takes form of some action. It is to observe,
see, and realize every movement that occurs within you. For this you
need to practice awareness. Start from observing your present mood.
Do self conversation; by regular self conversation you can develop a
strong bond with yourself.
Self awareness helps you to grow in many ways. It helps to eliminate

negative, poisonous, ill belief. You can constantly maintain a positive
state of mind and a healthy self conversation that creates an abundant
life. Through awareness, you can observe your feeling and its cause.
And with conscious effort and practice you can eliminate most of the
negative emotions. It gives you the power to choose. You can decide to
act or not to act. You can delay your reaction that is very important in
emotional control.
If you find it difficult to control your action, you can delay it. You can
delay it by giving firm messages to your mind. Once you start delaying
you can switch to denying negative impulses. With the help of self
awareness you can get to know the situation, causes, factors that
trigger your mood. You can eliminate all disturbing elements.
You should know very well about all the source, situation, people who
empower you and who don't. Increase the empowering cause and
avoid the negative ones. If you can't avoid them, then practice to be
mentally insulated from those causes. Mentally insulated means you
are physically present but your focus is not there. Although it is a bit
difficult, but it is possible and helps you a lot. You can engage your mind
to think about something else. Connect mentally to only those things
that empower your positive emotion. So to monitor your emotion you
need to be more and more conscious.
Steps to Emotional Control

Your state of mind plays a very important role in your life. According to
Anthony Robbins the difference between a success and failure is just
that one could manage his state positively and another could not. Your
condition can affect your state of mind but can't control. As you have
understood very well that the biggest power that you have is your
thought. Your emotion, feeling and state of mind is a reflection of the
thought. So by managing a positive state of mind, you can use the
infinite power in constructive way. The same power works in destructive
way, if you don't maintain a positive state of mind. Following are the
steps to monitor your state of mind
1- Self Awareness and identification

2- Acceptance and appreciation
3- Decode and understand the purpose
4- Take proper action
5- Observation
The basic step is the awareness; it is to identify the feeling. It means you
should realize, observe the origin and the movement of the impulse.
There are so many kinds of emotions possible. Many of them are
indefinable. Once you are aware about your emotion you can work on it.
The second step is acceptance and appreciation, because it is a natural

process. And every natural process helps you in some specific way.
Every feeling let you know about your personality and being. They work
like feedback. Suppose you get angry very easily, it shows that you are
lacking a balanced mind. Whenever you observe any feeling, accept it

totally and appreciate it. If it is negative, get to know about your
drawback and work upon it. If it is positive, develop it to dominate
negatives. There are people who are not able to accept even happiness
totally and in this way they block their emotional growth.
You can use both the emotions as positive and negative in its way.
Positive emotions strengthen you. In this phase, you can set high goals,
can commit to yourself and can use this as a ladder or milestone. While
the negative emotions work as a challenging time. Managing this
strengthens your personality and mind. So whatever kind of emotion
you feel, you must accept it totally and appreciate it unconditionally.
Although it is hard to accept and appreciate a negative emotion, but
once you know the treasure within it, appreciation will come out
naturally.
The third step is to try to decode and understand the purpose of these. It
helps you to make the most of it. Your negative emotions indicate what
you are lacking. You can observe the root cause of these. It may be
some negative belief in your mind. It may be your ego centric living. It
may be due to continuous negative auto or hetero suggestion. Once
you understand and identify the cause, work to change that. Take the
required action to make required changes. After this observe the
emotions and take required steps whenever necessary. In this way you
can fulfill the purpose of emotions in a constructive way. This process
helps you to control your emotions.
Every phenomenon that is natural helps you in many ways, because

you are an integral part of nature. If you are feeling angry means you
need to work on your expectations, your management of work and
thought. If you are feeling guilty, it means either you should consider not
to repeat the act or check your values. If you are feeling loneliness
means your social life need some attention and time. If you are feeling
frustrated means you may deserve more, can get more than you are
getting at present. Move ahead; take decision, action to get for what you
deserve.
The fourth step is to take required action. Action is what insures growth,
results as positive changes in your life. Any kind of negative emotion
you feel, make it work for you. Get the right message. Take the right
action. And be thankful for your emotions. If you are in a positive state of
mind, again you need to use it constructively rather than just living it as it
is. When you are happy replace your small decision, small goal with
bigger ones. Work on some of your habit that is blocking your growth.
When you are happy it is easy to accept your drawbacks and work on it.
The last step is observation. Observe the result of your action. Have
you resolved the real issue properly or not? In this way the more time
you spend with you; the better you become.
Skills to Change Emotional State

Your feeling, state of mind is your possession in this very moment.
Everything you do is to feel good at present moment and to secure the
same for the future. In general, it can be said that your life doesn't go
beyond your state of mind. All your action, desire, dreams is to maintain
a happy, prosperous feeling all the time. And the advanced studies
done in the field of psychology and self development, says that you can
manage your state of mind in minutes, in moments.
Everything that governs your state of mind can be understood and

controlled. This strengthen your being, personality and so the
possibility of your life. If you want to monitor your emotional state, you
can do it by working on your beliefs. But to reach those beliefs you need
a ladder. You need something that reflects, controls and monitors your
belief. Following are the factors, very well explained by Anthony

Robbins in his book “Awaken the giant within”, that affects your
emotional state. By working on these you can shape your feeling and so
your thoughts and so your life. These are
1- Physiology
2- Belief
3- References
4- Metaphors
5- Conditioning of mind and sub modalities
6- Identity
7- Rules
8- Your vocabulary and questions
9- Focus
It includes almost everything that you use in your daily life. All these
factors define you, decide your emotional state and decide your future
as well. In every moment of the present you are planting seeds for the
future. Today you are engaged in creating tomorrow. And the life you
are living today is the result of your yesterday, your past actions. The
one who managed, worked hard to fulfill his dreams is living his dream
life. One who preferred to live that moment and not created anything for
future can now do it. So if you want to eat mango you'd have to put a
mango seed. If you want to be happy then you must know the art of
planting seeds of happiness. All the factors mentioned here are the
seeds that define the quality of life.
Power of Physiology
Your physiology reflects your mental state. If a person is happy, he is in
a certain specific physiology. If he is sad, it can be observed through his
physiology. Physiology includes body posture, breathing pattern, facial
expression and muscular tension. Your body supports your mind. Your
body facilitates your mind, your emotions to express themselves. If you
choose to be in a positive, confident physiology, your state of mind turns

out to be the same. So your physiology is the greatest, simplest,
quickest tool to control your state of mind or feelings.
It is almost impossible to feel, be, and think negative in a positive

physiology. To use this very powerful tool, you need to observe, know
and practice to maintain your positive physiology. The role of physical
fitness comes here. The more fit you are, the stronger physiology you
can have. So any time you feel in a negative state of mind, observe your
physiology and just change it. It works as miracle. Once you start
practicing positive, confident, happy physiology, you'd observe a
change in your living and thinking pattern.
Power of Belief
The second, you can work on your belief. Beliefs are the mentally
accepted thought. As if, the belief of a person may be that life is nothing
other than struggle. If it is his belief, he will experience his life as
struggle. Your habitual thinking, words forms your beliefs. These may
be like these
“People are not good”.

“I am not so lucky”
“Now a day's time is disastrous”
“No one can be believed”
“I am not so talented”
“People who get success are lucky”
“I don't feel good, usually”
“Things are boring”
So many of your beliefs make your life deaf and dumb, so many of them
block your possibilities of being happy. You must work to identify that.
And with the help of repetitive positive auto suggestions, you can
change them. You can change them by not thinking about them, rather
working on better thoughts as
“Everything is good”
“I love everything”
“It is my habit to stay happy”
“Life is full of colors and charm”
“People are talented, and so I am”
“Life is synonyms of possibilities”
“I love my life”
“World is a beautiful place”
“I am thankful for all that I have”
Power of Reference
The third thing that you use a lot in your life is some references. You
repeat them in discussions with others or while taking some decisions.
It may be some experience, incident, story or a thought. You face many
kind of experiences, you listen many information or stories. Some of
these, you keep with you as a reference. And this helps to shape your
life.
There are incidents in your life, when you get unexpected help from
strangers. You can use such events as a reference to feel, that people
are good, really helpful. Or you can use some other story or incident
when you were cheated by someone. Whatever good happens to you,
share it with as many people as possible. Make it as a reference,
whenever you listen any good story, start telling it to your friends. And
the purpose behind this should be to use it for your further reference as
well as for helping other through spreading positive incidents and
stories.
Power of Metaphor
The next is the metaphor. Metaphor is your belief about how you define
your life. You may use it repeatedly in your practical life. A positive
metaphor empowers you while a negative scatters you. Some people
uses negative metaphors as “life is nothing but a time pass”, “life is a
name of struggle” and likewise. What metaphor you choose and use
decides your destiny. It should be “let's see, what is in it”. Life is what
you make it. So check out your negative metaphor. Don't support others
ill metaphor, it harms you. You must avoid those groups, where
negative metaphor is the core of the discussion.
Power of Identity
Your identity is also a major factor that affects your state of mind as well
as your life. It is what you think, feel, realize about yourself. It is like,
what is your self image. If you think you are a leader, you'd think, feel,
act like a leader. If you think or take your identity as an average person,
you'd be like that.
This is why when you go to new surrounding you may experience an

identity change and your performance changes. You can do it by
yourself. You can redefine yourself in a new, positive way. It should be
focused, built on your qualities rather than drawbacks. By changing
your identity you can totally control, change, and monitor your state of
mind, your feelings.
Power of Rules
One more prominent reason that may turn you off is your rules, the rules
you've set for yourself to be happy or sad. People make rules for many
foolish reasons. Most of the time it is ego based. For example, you may
have set the rule that you feel bad when people don't admire you. You
should understand that it is your rule that is making you sad not the
surrounding. Just by changing your rule, in the same situation you can
be happier. So check these and make them work in your favor. Make it
easy, simple, and available all the time to be happy. If you are not happy
there are possibilities that you may have set very difficult rules to be
happy. As, “I can only be happy when the work is done”, “I will be happy
when I have a lot of money”. Change all such beliefs; rules that are
blocking the happiness of present moment rather make your rules as
“Nothing bothers me”.

“I don't need anything to be happy”
“Happiness is my nature”
“Everything suits me”
“I am surrounded by all good”
So just by changing small rules, that is very easy with awareness, you
can be happier. You can have a healthy, Confident, cherished state of
mind all the time.
Power of Your Vocabulary and Question

The next small, easy and very important thing that affects your state of
mind and thought is the words you use habitually. The more lethargic
word is the part of your language the more lethargic you'd be. In fact
whatever word you use to think or speak affects your subconscious
directly. If your vocabulary consist of more positive, happy, powerful
words; you get charged and inclined accordingly. If your reaction to a
happy situation is “it is good', you'd feel good. If it is, “it is great”, you'd
feel great.
A similar tool that you can use is powerful questioning. Your thinking
pattern involves many things. One of it is your question. If you go for a
job, you have a question in mind, would I be selected or not, what if not?
Just by changing the question you ask to yourself, you can change your
focus and so the possibilities. By just changing the question, you can
change the scenario and the outcome. If the same time your question is
Does this job suits me?
Am I prepared for this?
“Should I accept this job proposal?
In this way, just by changing your question you can change your state.
So if you want to be positive, confident, ask similar, right, potent and
quality questions to yourself.
Power of Focus
The last tool to shape your emotional state is to monitor your focus. It is
one of the very important tools. It helps your energy to flow in the
desired direction. You can let it flow towards your goal. You can produce
miraculous results in your life by monitoring your focus.
Anything that happens to you contains many things. It has many faces
in it. Where you focus decides how it will work for you. Suppose two
children are quarreling, here you may enjoy their childhood, or you may
get irritated. It is up to you to choose where you are focusing. You can
use any of all mentioned tools to shift your focus.
Stress - Understand and Conquer

Stress is a mental pressure that you feel, when there are some changes
in or around you. It is a force that seeks to get a balanced, harmonious
state. It may be related to work, job, domestic life, lack of job, lack of
money or likewise. It can be easily observed by your behavior, physical
reaction. It affects your mental and emotional health as well.
The various factors that push you towards probable stress is the
pressure to succeed, criticism, loneliness or over protection. Following
are the symptoms of the stress
Your mouth feels dry

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Your breathing becomes irregular

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Restlessness, sleeping problem

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Forgetfulness, Indecisiveness
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There are many other changes that you may feel. If you feel caught in
stressful living, you should try to observe your personal reasons,
causes and sources. You need to first analyze all the factors causing
stress, then you can make a possible action plan to work upon.
A very general factor is over working. It may be due to workaholic nature

or due to the nature of the work. You can resolve this issue by
understanding your personality and with some right action. The reason
behind overwork of many people is that they want to make others
happy. This may develop in their behavior since childhood. You should
know that charity starts from self. First of all make yourself happy, then
others. Because you can't make others happy if you are not, as you can
give only what you have. Moreover, you should learn to prioritize your
work and do it in order. The other action you can take is to employ or
delegate work to others or you can ask for help.
The other solution is the unburdening of thoughts. If you are overloaded

with thoughts in your mind, it causes stress. For this you can talk to your
friends or relatives, who understand you. A good social life reduces
stress to a great extent.
As stress is a high energy state you can get relief by practicing some
relaxation techniques also. One relaxation technique is to lie on the
bed. Relax your body. Now stretch the muscles of right leg then relax it.
Do the same with left leg, then thigh, stomach, chest, hands, shoulders
and head. Now breathe and feel it is going into your left leg, making it at
ease and then it is taking all the stress, tension, pain from there and all
these are coming out with breathing. Do it with all parts of your body. Do
it for at least fifteen minutes, and you will feel totally relaxed.
You can practice yoga, meditation, aerobics, physical exercise or

breathing exercise. Give proper time for your sleeping. Do more and
more positive subconscious feeding. When any stress causing
situation enters your life take it as challenge and it will help you to grow
as well. Make it positive stress; let this force push to be more active and
dynamic.
Anger: Signal for Growth

Anger, is a phenomenon that is very close to you. Anger shows how
unbalanced you are. The more balanced you are, the less angry you will
be. It is a mental disease because it is an uncontrolled mental act.
Your anger reflects your energy level. The degree of your anger shows
the degree of your energy. By utilizing the same energy you can move
ahead in your life. Most of the time anger is caused by expectation. And
every time you get angry, you are responsible. Suppose your employee
make you angry with his unacceptable work. Then the real cause may
be that you are not capable of hiring a better employee, whose salary
may be higher. The more you understand the situation; you'd realize
that you are responsible.
For anger management, you can practice the awareness about it. If you
want to control your anger you can do this. Take a small piece of paper
and write on it “now I am getting angry”. Keep it in your pocket.
Whenever you feel like getting angry just read this three times and your
anger will be scattered. Or you can pierce the cushion of sofa or bed
around you by your nail three times and your anger would be dissolved.
But the more important step is to take it as a signal that you need some
work on yourself.
Way to an Emotional Emperor

Till now you were learning to manage your emotion and get most of it.
Now you will seek a way to become an emotional emperor. It means
your emotions should be flourished, nurtured as if you are a king. You
attain this state, when your life is full of love, abundance, inner riches,
joy and everything. And the good thing is that it is possible.
It is only human beings, who have reached a state of unexpected

misery, pain, and limitation. While the entire nature, surroundings,
plants, animals, earth, sky, sun, river, are in perfect harmony with
nature. If you are able to realize the abundant love that is associated
with your inner self, the entire visible and invisible nature around you,
the job is done. You can let the love, abundance and beauties of nature,
of life, pour into your life.
All the peak possibilities of life are associated with your emotions. A king
can face the toughest time as well. In fact his qualities grow in the tough
times. Your emotional flower blossoms after facing the dark side of life.
The beauty of the tough time is that, it lets you know the reality of life,
and the love, truth is hidden in real things. For example, a boy, an
immature person would seek love only in his parents, family member,
relatives or friends. A mature person, an intelligent, one who has
experienced the reality of life, won't draw a limitation for love.
An emotional king is the one who can deliver his love to any one, to
plants, to animals or even to his enemies. It is a state when your pot is
full with love and it is overflowing onto others. The world has created
many masters of life, the synonyms of love. When you let the life flow,
the emotional flower blossoms. It is an eternal phenomenon. The root of
this happiness is within. It is the manifestation of inner love, inner
riches.
Love: The Food of Emotion

If you really want to nourish your emotion and live in the best of the
emotional possibilities, first make yourself able to deliver and receive
love. Free yourself from all the negative thought, emotion and behavior.
It takes lots of energy to keep these poisonous things with you. Empty
your pot from these social evils. And then develop yourself to be
connected with all forms of love. The beauty of life is that once you are
willing to do, it avails the opportunity for you. It works in an effortless
way.
There was a poet. He used to treat all his belongings, every living and
nonliving things around him as living. He cared for everything and all
objects with love. People used to take him as mad as he loved nonliving
as if they were living. People, in general, are impotent to love even living
ones, so they can't imagine about nonliving. When his life was studied,
it was observed that in his entire life he was never sad.
You can start loving yourself. If you search for the reasons to love, you
can never do it. You should know that where there is a reason to love,
there is no love. Love demands no reason. It is because it is. Everyone
has something that triggers love in their life. By living all these
possibilities, you can pour the abundance of love into your life.
Osho says that all forms of loves are beautiful. Don't stick to any form of
love, if you want to progress in life, rather move ahead. The next bigger
opportunity is waiting for you. The love of a body is beautiful but move
ahead. The love of beings is more beautiful. The same movement and
growth puts you in love with the entire universe. Soon you feel and
realize the flowering within. There are many possibilities that life offers.
But you have to start from where you are. You need to take small steps.
And the same steps will push you towards your goal.
Know Your Passion, Work for It

The secret for happiness is to realize that it comes from within. Means
your inner connection has boundless possibilities. Now the question
arises that how to connect with yourself? The answer is that your
passion comes from within. If you know your passion and work for it, it
helps to bring your entire being in harmony. The best possibility is to
make your passion, your profession. You can produce excellent results,
when you pour entire energy into your work, profession.
First work on yourself; get to know your hobbies, passion. Manage

some time to spend over it. When you work on your passion, your
creativity is used. And all the creativity comes from the source. It helps
you to flow with your emotion, coming from source taking the form of
beauty, creation and expansion. The more time and energy you put
here, you get tuned to your true being, the source. The more you
become loving, happy and joyous.
Controlling Emotional Gate

When you are immature at your emotional control, one mistake that
usually occur is to disclose your feelings fully and realize that later as a
mistake. Before making an emotional disclosure with other, either keep
a bit of patience or don't develop any kind of expectation from that
person. Everyone has different life experiences. So everyone is not like
you, thus some people may misinterpret you.
You should be little choosy and conscious about self disclosure. You
should know clearly that with whom you have to share all your feeling
and with whom you have to stay at a professional edge. Or you may
maintain a circle of same mental and emotional level, where you need
not think about it. But still on the practical ground, you should be aware
of self disclosure, because it may hurt you.
Inner Attachment Results Detachment

Emotion contains both the possibilities. It may let you feel heaven at
one time or hell at the other. Although people may wish to live in heaven
only, but heaven can't be without hell. If you really want to master your
emotional side, you must understand and practice detachment. All pain
come from the attachment only. The root of pain is emotional
attachment. Although the same causes pleasures also, but once you
are able understand detachment, you are out of sensual pain and
happiness.
Now the question arises how to detach while attachment is your basic
nature. The answer is to attach yourself with inner self first and in the
next step you can attach with the universe. It is like once you have the
taste of diamond, any change at the level of copper won't affect you.
The more you are connected with your inner self the easier it is to get
detached from outer world. The nature of outer things is to be changed.
So for unchangeable, constant, everlasting, love you need to move
inward. More about the inner journey is discussed in unit four.
Both pain and pleasure are associated with attachment, because as

you feel attachment, your expectations increase. When these
expectations are fulfilled you feel happy for some time, but if it is not so
you feel disappointed. In this way you give control of your happiness to
others. So by monitoring your expectation you can monitor your
happiness. You can control your expectation by detachment.
Forgive To Free Yourself

In your life you are connected with many people. You may have some
negative experience with few of them. Those who have troubled you, in
one way or another, causes you emotional distress. You may be full of
hatred, jealousy and negativity for them. But this doesn't solve the
purpose. In fact it harms you more and more.
To get rid of this, you can practice forgiveness. Forgiveness would let
them forget. Forgiveness is love in action, Forgiveness works as
freedom for you. Once you forgive them, they are no more in your mind.
You are free. To forgive someone means you are free from hatred and
jealousy for them. It is a very positive and natural phenomenon. For
emotional wisdom, there should not be any negative emotional
memory. All the feeling, memory, thought should be of love, peace and
prosperity. You can forgive anyone by the actual desire of forgiveness
and repetitive subconscious feeding.
Never Let Your Child Grow

All of us start our life as a child. As the time passes we grow as a whole.
But a part of us don't grow. You can easily feel it many times. You can
feel it in love, in making some decisions, with your friends or any other
way. When you grow old, your child personality still remains there. It
doesn't grow, although you don't experience it all the time. But when
you are in love, you can clearly feel the child within. At that time, when
you express yourself totally the child within you is there. If you want to
nurture your emotion, never let your child grow. Always take care of
your inner child, talk to him, and nurture him.
The other thing that you can do is to remember your childhood

memories. In a week or in a month discuss your childhood memories
with family members and friends. It helps you to go into those days.
These memories refresh your mind. It may work as a potent tool to
make you happy and fresh. Keep your childhood photos in your
bedroom. Sometimes think, memorize those days. It really unburdens
you from everything. Now let us move towards empowering our
relationships…
8
EMPOWERING RELATIONSHIPS
The main focus of the book is to have a very good understanding of life
and its various dimensions. And so relationship is one of its concerns.
This chapter covers it in two ways; first the basic principles and rules
that empower relationship are focused. If your relationship won't
produce happiness it will create problems, pain and difficulty.
On the other hand, you can't have a firm relationship with everyone, but
you need to deal with them. For this you must know the art of influencing
people. You can do it only by your behavior. The basis of a relationship
is your psychological need of being understood and being accepted.
This is a point where people help each other. Your life is more
psychological than physical. The objective of this chapter is to be
master of relationships and create more and more happiness from
here.
Why You Need Relation, Why Not

People have a constant desire for happiness, fun, and joy. As a natural
being, you are full of possibility, creativity, positivity, expansion and
everything. In invisible, real or spiritual scale everything is there in
abundance. It is invisible that turns into visible. To live one of its
possibilities you stick to relationships. It is the manifestation of one of
your inner desire.
You have a great desire to feel yourself, your being. When you talk to
someone, when he understands you; your emotion is nurtured. This is
the basic reason that pushes you into social life. It is a very important
dimension of your life. It exposes one of your very basic needs of
sharing, feeling, expressing, understanding, expanding and much
more. It helps you to discover, know, realize and understand yourself.

Your friends, relatives, and lover help you to express yourself that
indirectly help you to grow. It helps you to unburden your thoughts.
When you speak all that you have in your mind you feel free, at peace.
When you express your feeling, share your thoughts; you are
energized. To understand this, you can imagine your mind and heart as
a pot. When you share all your thoughts and feeling with someone, this
pot becomes empty. Now, nature fills it with new, positive, creative and
beautiful thoughts. It refreshes you, reenergizes you. It is wonderful
experience.
Now the next question is that why you don't need a relationship. Life
moves in a very balanced way. Yes balances no, day balances night
and pleasure balances pain. Loneliness balances social life, when you
have spent enough time over here. You may feel something missing or
lack of balance. To come back here again with livelihood, you may seek
solitude for some time. Solitude is like when your pot is again empty and
with harmony with nature your pot will be filled.
Another factor that pushes you out of a relationship is the pain that you
get from here. Most of the time, the real cause behind this pain is lack of
relationship skills. But the noble cause to move away from relationship
should be to connect your inner self, your true self. Once you
experience your true self, it would not let you feel the need of any
person. This is the time when you can enjoy your own company. You
can share you with your self, with nature, with everything. So at the
initial stage you can enjoy both the situations, to have a good social
circle and to spend time with yourself also.
Observe Your Need for People

The more you understand yourself, the easier the life would be. The
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reason behind almost all the pain, discord, negativity is that you don't
know yourself, very well. You know others very well. You know about
celebrities, politician, your friends, enemies, but very less about you.
Subsequently your life revolves around them, not around your own self.
And indirectly you help them to grow with your energy. If you want to
grow either in relationship or any other way, you must focus on yourself.
For relationship mastery, observe your personal need for people. See
how extrovert you are. Be very clear and very truthful. Your intention
should be to help yourself as well as others. Think what kind of people
you want around you. Match this with your goal in life. Choose the
people around you on two basis, one who is able to understand you and
you feel positive in their company. The second there should be mutual
growth towards the goal. There should not be any other selfish reason.
Never think of using any one. You can't do that. Such poisonous thought
may weaken you, and you may find yourself in a narrow, horrible path.
Life is full of abundance and prosperity. So first of all have an abundant

mentality. It means be rich, positive and balanced in your feeling. Go
into relationship for giving, go with abundance, so that you can give and
make the other person happy. Relationship is about giving. If you get
into a relationship with this mentality you would enjoy the social
dimension of life.
Relationship and Possibilities

Every dimension of your life is full of possibility, growth and riches; so
are relationships. Like all other phenomenon, it involves pain, grief,
sadness, frustration and on the other hand peace, pleasure, happiness,
fun and joy. It's all up to you, what you choose or what your capability to
opt for is. By working on your capability you can always get the positive
possibility.
Your social life helps to nurture your emotion in a very natural, creative
and beautiful way. Your relationship is helps your emotion grow on a
healthy, peaceful path. But if this path is disturbed, it may hurt your
emotions and feelings as well. Following are the possibilities with this
aspect of life
●Increase in your knowledge through others experience

●Emotional wellness and growth
●Mental peace and growth
●Spiritual growth
It may help in your absolute growth, if you choose your social circle with
care, truthfulness and intelligence. At the same time you can help other
in the same way. You should facilitate each other to grow and move
ahead. For extroverts it is a very important aspect of life. According to
Franklin R. Covey your life is an interdependent reality. You are
dependent on others in many ways. Interdependence means you can
do well alone, but it can be much better with others.
Real Cause behind Monotonous Relationship

A good relationship helps to get balance and harmony in life, but doesn't
ensure everything. Life can be very easy and straight, if you have some
goals in your life. Goal helps you to shape your life and also your
relationships. It motivates you, energizes you, and pushes you to move
ahead. After this you need to know that you are living in an
interdependent world. Means in this physical world everyone is
dependent on others. So to win, you must know the art of cooperation.
The only thing you share with others is your behavior. Lack of goal may
develop negativity in your life as well as relationship.
The other factors that may spoil your relationships are ego,
expectation, attitude, selfishness and possessiveness. The major role
is played by your ego. Ego is a mental disease. It develops as a natural
phenomenon of growth. Ego is a state of mind when you are willing to

get value, respect and attention of others. It reflects lack of adequate
mental and emotional growth.
Your negative beliefs about relations may hamper your social life. Many
people repeat most of the time “people are not good”, “now time is not
good”, and “you can't believe on anyone”. If you are habitual to this, you
would attract only bad people. Rather have a believers mind set all the
time. People are good, and those who are not are already suffering a
lot. Your belief that they are good helps them to be so. You can see only
what you are, in this world. If you feel that people are not good, it means
you need to work on you.
Few people are very possessive about their relationships. It affects

their freedom. Freedom is like food for love. And where there is no love
there is no life. Baseless expectation may also hamper your social life.
For many people it is the base of relationship. Before expecting
anything you need to give a lot into the relationship.
Few people are very greedy. They want profit in every step, every
relationship. And due to this, such people are never successful in a
relationship. You should know that a relationship is a place where you
have to give out of abundance, and not to take. Few people are very
money oriented, even when they have ample of it. Too much affection
towards money affects their relation. They should know very well that
what a relation can do for you, money can't. Although money has its
space, value, importance. But where it doesn't work, it can't.
Ego Centered To Self Centered

If you want your social life to be happy, harmonious and balanced, you'd
have to be self centered and never ego centered. To speak, write, listen
or read this is very easy; but this phenomenon is really meaningful. It
needs much effort to attain this state. Once you understand the
meaning of being self centered and are willing to attain this, your natural
growth starts. It is the state when you have adequate inner growth. How
to attain this, is covered in unit four.
What is ego centered living? It is a state of mind when you see your
belongings as your identity and strength. It may be your job,
achievements, property, lifestyle or anything. To impress others,
overpower or likewise phenomenon is ego centered feeling. The feeling
that you are important; others should value you is egocentric.
The practical steps that you can take towards being a self centered
person is try to know yourself more. Try to find your identity but not as
your name, profession, achievements or assets. Spend time on your
passions, interests. Find out your deep desires that you really want to
fulfill in life. Avoid all those activities that increase your egoist feeling. Do
more and more self conversation. Focus on what is lacking in your
personality, work on that. Work on your friends circle. Observe when
you are speaking and when your ego is speaking. For a sincere person,
it is easy to differentiate. When your happiness depends on other's
judgments, it may be due to your ego. If your happiness comes from
within, you are self centered
The Thirst to Be Understood, Accepted

There are many aspects of life. One of your psychological needs is to be
understood, accepted, and appreciated. If it is fulfilled, you will be
happy and blissful. The same need pushes you into a relationship. This
is the place where you can help others. For this you need to learn the art
of effective, powerful relationship. A friend, who understands you, helps
you in countless ways. This help may be conscious or unconscious. It is
like all those friends who believe in your talents and strengths; motivate
you unconsciously. And those who talk to you are helping you
consciously.
Understanding someone means knowing that person up to a deeper
level. You may know about interest, passion, motivational factors,
ambition, strength, weakness, likings and disliking. The more friends
you have, the more thinking pattern you know. The more creative your
life may be. It may help you to get rid of your ego. It helps you to think
and take life in different possible ways. When you try to understand
others, it is easy to know yourself even more. When you do so, they
believe in you very much.
Understanding is the foundation of the relationship. It is the science of a

relationship and doing it well is an art. It helps you in your personal life
as well as professional life. The more you understand, the more you
become trustworthy and believable. The communication is more quick,
easy and effective, which is the symbol of healthy relationship. If you
want to improve your social life, start taking interest in others. Give
more time to listen them. Enjoy knowing others to the deeper levels. Try
to know how they manage their life and challenges. How they share
happiness and joy. In this way you can be good at relationships.
Start From Yourself

Every relationship starts from understanding first. If you want to be
good with others you must be good with yourself first. Before you
understand others, understand yourself, because relationship starts
from the self. Connect with yourself before you do it with others. If you
want to love and care for others, do it for you first.
You can imagine yourself as combination of two persons; one outer

you, another inner you. When your outer being understands inner, you
are united. Outer self interacts with others, thinks, plan and chooses.
Inner self is your feeling and emotion. While taking a decision your outer
self talk with your inner. You can imagine inner self as your wife, and
outer as you. As a sincere person involves his intelligent wife in all his
decisions, similarly you can involve your inner self.
If the bonding of outer and inner self is strong, it helps you build a very
strong, trustworthy relationship with you and then with others.
Understanding yourself means to know your inner self. It may include
your values, rules, taste, hope, ambition, expectation, strength,
weakness, belief and everything. You can strengthen this bond only by
self awareness.
A very common mistake that occurs, is to think that you know yourself.
To ensure this, you can try to speak about yourself for only ten minutes
or write about yourself in three pages. Most of the people can't speak for
more than two minutes and more than one page. Time spent on
observing, understanding yourself helps you in many ways. It helps in
your mental and emotional growth as well. Once you have understood
yourself well, now you can take the next step to understand others, with
whom you want to build up a strong, trustworthy relationship.
Art of Winning Heart

Everyone spends most of the time among friends, relatives or
colleagues. It is a wonderful experience for few person and not so good
for others. There are few people who are liked by everyone. They are
very good at winning hearts of everyone. They have excellent behavior
skills.
You can also have a charming personality. You can also be the center of
attraction. For this you need to be energetic and dynamic. You should
have intention for a wonderful social life. Moreover you can try to
understand and practice the following behavior skills.
Take Interest in Others

Good relationship is all about a strong bond, where communication is
quick, easy, and effective. It starts from taking interest in others. Once
you are able to do it, you earn a space in their heart. It is a fact to know
and a skill that needs to be practiced. Taking interest means to have a
desire to know your friends, relative, colleague or others. Once you do
it, you make them take interest in you. You can be more creative,
charming and lovable. So taking interest in others with honesty is the
first step towards influencing people.
Active Listening
Active listening is to be total in listening. It helps you to understand
others. It is one of the very good qualities that one can have. This helps
in relationships as well as in your learning process. You should not think
something else or compare that with your own past knowledge and
experiences, while listening. Art of listening is one of the four major
enlightenment sutra told by Lord Mahavira. That is while you listen, be
totally into that. Get so involved in listening that you are tuned with the
speaker. If you want to judge, compare, choose or decide; you can do it
later. This is a key habit to understand others well.
Admire and Appreciate Truly

Everyone wants to feel important and worthy. It is your psychological
need. You love them very much who make you feel so. The leaders are
master of this art. They know how to make space in people's heart.
They know how to admire you. This is where you may help others.
Everyone has a deep desire for appreciation. Relationship helps you to

fulfill this need. To make someone happy you can admire him for his
qualities. Once you are habitual to this, you turn out to be a more
positive, confident and grounded person. This habit can change the
view of people about you. It really helps others and boosts their
confidence. But it should be true admiration rather than a means to
impress or make other happy. It should be a form of thankfulness.
Suppose you went to your friend. His home is very beautiful, with a
peaceful environment. You felt very good there and you are thankful for
this. So the better way to do this is appreciation.
Seek opportunity for admiration and don't miss it ever. If your friend is
looking beautiful admire him. You are impressed by one's attitude,
praise him. When you are listening to a good song, appreciate the
singer in your heart. Get stuck to this sweet habit. This habit helps your
personality to grow. It makes you happy conscious. Happy conscious
means you are aware about all happy moments that arise. It will be
difficult for you to blame or criticize others. You will radiate very positive
waves out of you. It increases your positivity, dynamism and charm.
Never Tell Mistake, Drawback to Others

To be good at relationships you must know some psychology about
human behavior. In general, people are not ready to accept their
negative aspect. Everyone lives his life in his own way, according to his
own knowledge. He delivers his best and expects the same. From
others point of view, he may have some drawbacks but not in his own
reference. When someone tells his mistake, he feels upset. So never
tell anyone about his mistake as it harms relation and he is not
benefitted at all. You should tell only when the person is willing to know
it.
To possess a charming personality you must not tell one's drawback to

him. Rather try to see it from his point of view. And there is a possibility
that you may be wrong. Even if you are right, he will not accept it and
will give you excuses. So if you are habitual to do this, they won't like
you anymore. They take it as your drawback, not to see the things as
they do.
So if you want to improve other start from yourself. It may take a lifetime
to get the best out of you. If you really want to let one know his mistakes,
you can first take his permission. First admire him for his qualities and
strength. It makes easy to listen and accept drawback. But try to avoid
this habit as much as possible, because it does not work. It makes your
personality irritating and people may start avoiding you.
Argumentation Leads To Loss, Always

In your practical life, you face many situations which may lead to
argumentation. But this makes the situation worse, all the time. Rather
you can tackle such situation with some intelligence. The best way to
avoid argumentation is the acceptance of what the other person says.
Even if you are right, agree with the person. It blocks the possibility of
any argumentation.
If the person in front of you is very angry and is roaring, you can tackle
the situation by accepting him fully. Whatever he says, you say “yes you
are absolutely right”. Once you are able to do it, the same person may
thank you when his anger will vanish. After his impulse is gone, you can
resolve the matter in a peaceful way. This attitude reflects a pleasant,
mature, attractive and balanced personality.
Fundamentals to Empowering Relationships

To empower your relationship you must have a firm grip over the
fundamental principles. Once you understand it well and bring in to the
practice you can empower your relation. It is very well explained by
Franklin R. Covey in his book “Seven Habits of Highly Effective
People”. You may feel that the principles are not very new to you, but it
does not count. What matters is how much you bring them into practice.
It is action that makes changes, not mere knowing.
Relationship Requires Constant Food

The first principle is that all your close relationships such as marriage,
family; close friends need constant attention and care. As you need
food with routine to stay healthy so is your relationship. If you want a
healthy relationship, you need to take care of it constantly. This is why
the relationship changes, develops, weaken or vanishes.
In a relationship, it is not the physical distance that counts, it is the

mental distance. There should not be distance in the mind. So you
should know that if you are not feeding any of your important
relationships, you are losing that. In a family system, all members live
together. But in many families, there is no bonding between husband
and wife, father and son. So for every relation that you want to keep
alive, you must be in touch. The easier, comfortable, quicker you feel to
converse, reflects the exact situation of your relationship.
Understanding Individuals
As you have understood very well that it is your need and desire to be
understood. A relationship starts from here only. Once you are in
constant touch, the next you need is to understand the individual better.
You may try to change the person, to make him better. It is the worst
possible thing one can do in a relationship.
Any relationship starts from understanding. And it is not a one day task;
it may take a life time, even. So for a strong relationship you should
have the desire to understand the person. It helps you monitor your
expectation as well.
Small Is Big
It is the very important and plays a vital role to define the direction of a
relationship. In fact relationships are made up of small things, small
emotions, sensitivity and likewise. A small help, care, attention is very
valuable. It can be said that only small things matters in a relationship.
You can observe the reason for the good relationship that you have.
What binds you to be in that? Isn't it the small care, attention, small
respect, kindness and small love? So if you want to strengthen the bond
of relationship start to take care of all that counts. A small disrespect,
carelessness, unkindness may spoil, ruin, or diminish your relationship.
So for the relationship card, always keep in mind,” small is big”.
Keeping Commitments
In relation this is another essential habit. Keeping commitments
multiply the trust, faith and belief. It shows that you are a man of words.
This increases the value of your words and strengthens bonding as
well. If you find some difficulty in keeping a commitment, you can inform
about it. If you fail to keep your promise, it lowers value of your words
and it increases distrust. So always be aware of your commitment,
make true efforts to fulfill it.
Clarifying Expectations
There is some expectation in every relationship. When the expectation
is fulfilled, bonding is strengthen otherwise it weakens. But practically, it
can't be satisfied every time. If you clarify it well, that helps. You can
discuss and realize about expectation.
Expectation that is not clarified well, causes misunderstanding, distrust

and other negative feelings. So whenever you enter a new relationship,
you should be very clear about your expectations. Although it may
require some courage, confidence and strength to talk on this topic, But
to have a lasting relation it is necessary.
Personal Integrity
Integrity is being honest, truthful to your words, whether the person is in
front of you or not. It is like being loyal. It is if I admire you on your face, I
maintain it behind you also. I am not involved in criticizing you behind
your back. It helps to strengthen your relationship very much. It
produces trust, reliability in your relationship that is very necessary. You

should never blame or criticize at the back of the person.
Apologies
It is human nature to commit mistake. It happens due to lack of
consciousness. But if you are open to realize, accept your mistakes, it
helps you to grow. Whenever you feel that some mistake has been
done, the very next minute you should apologize. And it must come
from your heart. Otherwise your small mistake may show you an exit
way from the relationship. Never think any mistake to be small, because
in relationship, small is big.
Individual Freedom
In any kind of relationship, freedom is very necessary. Freedom keeps
a person lively, lovable, creative and beautiful. If you want to grow in
relationship and also want the other to grow, Freedom is very
necessary. Most of the relationship gets sick, just because of over
possessiveness.
Possessiveness is the symbol of a weak, fearful person. A strong,

truthful, confident person believes in his love and relation. He grows in
love and freedom and let his partners, friend grow in the air of the
freedom. When you block others freedom, your liberty is also blocked. It
is like, if you have caught something, you are also fixed with him. So
individual freedom, love is very necessary for lovable, lasting
relationship.
Love count not right or wrong

Sometimes you may fight for the right or wrong. You should understand
that in a relationship what counts is love, not being right or wrong. Right
or wrong is situational, phenomenal, but never let this affect your life,
your relationship. Keep in mind the priority is your relationship, not
being right.
In this way you can maintain a very healthy relationships and social life.
It helps to nurture your emotions. But in the journey of life one should
have abundant living, full of prosperity and growth. For this one needs
to be successful. So let us move to master key tools to reach the top…
9
MASTERING KEY TOOLS
TO REACH THE TOP
In the journey of life we move from dependency to independency first.

As you grow and move towards career settlement, financial
independence and success. Till now you were learning to observe your
moves, how you create your destiny, management of wealth, managing
with tough time, mastering emotion and relation. Your life is affected a
lot by these factors. This chapter focuses on mastering the factors
which ensure success, stability, growth and prosperity in your life.
There are two reasons that set you on this path. One is to earn bread
and butter. You need to earn to survive in this life. Second is to fulfill your
dream and desires. As you may desire to maintain a good life style, you
need to earn well. And to earn well you need to excel in your profession.
You need to be successful to live your life in abundance.
This chapter is divided in two major sections. The first is focused to use
the awesome power of your subconscious mind and law of attraction.
This governs, monitors and decides your destiny. So to master any
aspect of life this is the foundation step. This first step opens all the
ways and possibilities for you. Now you have to work on goal setting,
decision making, strategy making and take action on it. The objective of
this chapter is to bring success, abundance and prosperity in your life.
Make Universe Work for You

The objective of the book is to bring the best possibility out of you. For
this, you should take first step towards self independency. Anyone can
do this easily with the proper use of his subconscious mind. While the
reality is that people are so poor that they are struggling even for
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survival. It is so because they are not aware of their most powerful face,
the subconscious mind. Anyone can enrich his life with the same or
even less effort, if he knows and uses the unlimited abundance through
the subconscious mind or the law of attraction.
Now the question arises if it is so simple then why doesn't everyone use
this? The answer is that most of the people believe, they know
everything and need not learn anymore. While those who are
committed to be successful, they spent time and money in learning.
They use this marvelous power, put adequate efforts and become
successful. And those, who are not capable to reach here, call
themselves unlucky and maintain their old life pattern.
The reality is that the more skill, knowledge, and talent you have, the
more successful you can be. So to get to the top, the first step that you
should take is to unblock all the hindrance in your mind. Open up all the
possibilities for you. In history all the invention, winning, achievement is
done with the conscious co-operation of the subconscious mind.
Therefore in the first step to success, you must focus on the skills to tap
this infinite power.
Art of Believing
There is only one power that is the power of universe. Everything is
submerged into it. You are all surrounded by the same power. The same
power is running this giant, infinite universe. The principle of law of
attraction defines it very well.
You can connect, cooperate, and make this power work for your
individual growth, fortune and abundance. You can utilize this infinite
power with the principle of belief. Your positive, abundant, rich belief
help this power to shape your life positive, abundant and rich. Your
negative, limiting, poor, diseased belief makes your life negative,
limiting, poor and diseased.
Belief is what you accept to be true mentally. Everything that you claim
to be true is your belief. Many of the thoughts you accept as truth
without observing it. You can develop a belief merely by listening to
someone. Your life is designed in such a way that you never prefer or
choose to experiment and see the reality. Rather you go with accepting
it to be true and it turns out to be your belief. Your belief is like a message
to the universe that you want to see the things like this and universe
arranges it for you.
In general, you cannot see life beyond your belief. The ways you want to
make your life, believe it is and it would look like that only. There is no
belief, either right or wrong. What you need to know is which works for
you and which don't. Replace all the belief that doesn't serve you. If your
belief is, "I am not so talented", replace it with "yes, I am, I am talented in
…………….."
Now you may think about how to make a thought your belief. What is the
art of believing? Art of believing is very sensitive, very simple, very
powerful work. For a child like mind, it is simplest job. For a doubting
mind it is the toughest job. I found miraculous changes in my own life.
And the basic cause was the ability to believe. I believed every good
thing, working thought, and favorable philosophy and rejected every
negative and nonworking thought.
You can change your entire life by merely changing your beliefs. You
can get all that you desire by merely changing your belief. The art is to
realize that universe is full of abundance, prosperity, richness and every
good thing, as well as bad things. Your physical life is a manifestation of
the invisible, un-manifested life. All that you wish to have in your
physical life is present in abundance in the invisible, spiritual form. You
can get anything, without any terms and conditions.
All that you have to do is ask what you desire. Ask yourself, ask the
universe and be very clear and specific. You can do it by speaking to
yourself, writing it on paper, visualization or in feeling. Once you ask
with intense desire. At the same moment you receive it on the invisible,
spiritual plane. Now you have to keep this fact in your mind, you have to
believe that you've got it. Just the physical manifestation is remaining.
The total acceptance of the idea that yes, you have got it, is your belief.
It is like when you order for your car, you know it's yours. Although you
don't have it physically, but you know it is in process and soon it will be
with you.
Belief increases with time and practice. You can work, change your
belief in this way and so your life. Practice in believing from small tasks.
Soon you'd find that you can rely for anything, however big is it. Your
belief affects your thought, speech and action. Your belief is reflected by
these. So whatever change you want in your life, believe it is done.
Believe it is under manifestation process. Make your thought as it is
done, speak in like manner and act in like manner.
"Whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive"

- Mathew 21:22
Suppose you want to be a very good singer. First you should have
immense desire to be so. Now believe that yes, you have done this on
some invisible plane. Now behave as if you have become so. Think like
a good singer, speak like that and act like a good singer. Once you have
accepted this totally in mind, it's done. Everything will start changing,
rearranging to make space for this to happen.
Your total mental acceptance or belief, gives you idea to think and to act
upon it. And if your action is in phase with the universe, your work is
nothing but an acting to receive. According to Bob Doyle in his book, the
secret, "this action is effortless and it feels wonderful because you are
on the frequency of receiving. If you are in action to try and make it
happen, you have slipped backward"
According to Dr. Joe Vitale from the secrets, "The universe likes speed.
Don't delay. Don't second guess. Don't doubt. When the opportunity is
there, when the impulse is there, when the intuitive nudge from within is
there, act that's your job. And that's all you have to do".
So make your belief work for you in spite of against you. Follow simple
steps of ask, -believe-receive. Practice the art of believing .start from
small things, as belief may take time to grow. If you are good at
believing, your part of the job is over. See inspired action in your work.
Means your work is on the frequency of receiving not to get your desire
fulfilled. It is already fulfilled.
Use Thought, Feeling and Autosuggestion

You have learned that you can use the infinite power present in the
universe, through your subconscious mind. This power is in perfect
harmony with the subconscious. It seems that you posses this within
you. You are always connected to that power. And you are already using
it unconsciously.
You can utilize this power through your thought. You can alter your life,
to any extent only by altering your thought. If you want to tailor your life,
tailor your thought. The tremendous power of the universe can be used
to work in your favor by monitoring your thought.
"Thought become things" - Mike Dooley
To monitor and observe your thought you need to be aware of it.

Observe your thought, talk, action and make them positive. Your life
works on the principle of the cause and effect. Thought is the cause and
situation around you is the effect. Many people waste massive time and
effort in changing effect to change their situation. What you should do is
to change the cause.
Your feeling is linked with thought. You can control your thought by
monitoring your feeling. To be aware of feeling is easier. If you are
feeling good, happy, blissful, means you are thinking well. Your
negative feeling reflects worried thought. Just by maintaining a positive
feeling you can shape your life. Avoid the topics, discussion, situation or
anything which make you feel negative. Engage yourself in the
conversation, situation or anything that keep you positive.
The one more factor that affects your thought is autosuggestion. You
can get best of your possibilities by positive autosuggestion. You can
understand subconscious as a child. It obeys anything it is asked for.
The more positive, energetic, ambition, joyful, motivating self talks or
auto suggestion would be, so your mind would avail for you. You can
use continuous, constructive, positive, goal oriented autosuggestion
for the programming of your mind. You can tackle any situation, if you
are able to maintain your positivity.
Another factor that affects your thought and your life to greater extent is
the hetero suggestion. Your mind asks for food on continuous basis. It is
working all the time. And the food for subconscious mind is nothing but
the thought. It can take thought in form of picture, movies and talks. It
uses all senses to receive information and starts working according to
nature of thought. If you are surrounded by negative, limiting, ill,
destructive hetero suggestion, your mind turns in these directions. It
works as poison for your life. The major reason behind the poor, despair
and difficult living of many people is the poisonous hetero suggestion.
So to maintain prosperous, happy, rich and abundant lifestyle; you must

work on your thought. Make it as you want your life. The quality of
thought decides the quality of life. To monitor thought, practice
awareness, control feeling, do more and more positive autosuggestion.
And avoid poisonous hetero suggestion at any cost.
Visualization and Imagination

Your mind is capable of giving you all that you need and desire. You can
get this with the least possible effort. Your achievements in life depend
upon how you program your mind. You can produce everything out of it.
If you are the master of mind, you are master of life.
Whatever you want, convey it to your mind in a right way. Right way
means keep feeding it with similar thought and feeling. The best way to
do this is visualization. You can use the imagination, visualization for
the programming of your mind. It is most powerful tool for the
subconscious feeding. The visualization should be as real, as vivid as it
is happening in this very moment. It should be seen as if it is done. After
doing this you must not feel the need of the desired, as you lived it as if
you have it. If it is done properly, regularly; it emit powerful signals to the
universe. The real art of visualization is described in words of Dr. Joe
Vitale as following.
"This is such a holographic experience. So real in this moment -

that you don't even feel as if you need the car, because it feels like
you have it already " - Dr. Joe Vitale
This is a skill that needs to practice to master it. You can make it as
attractive, interesting, and charming as you wish. It helps your
subconscious to know your goal and desire. For visualization you must
see the end result and not the process involved. You need to just focus
on your goal, and you need not to worry about the way to get it.
To use your subconscious, you should know that the best time to feed it
is the drowsy state, because in this time your conscious mind is not
present to question or doubt on. So the time prior to sleep and just after
you arise is the prime time to program your subconscious mind.
Gratitude and Thankfulness

All that you get comes from the universe. The kind of waves nature
receive from you, it avails similar situation in your life. The feelings
gratitude emits a very powerful signal. It reflects the abundance and
prosperity. The more positive signals you emit, the more reason you
find to do so.
"It is impossible to bring more into your life, if you are feeling ungrateful
about what you have" says Dr. Joe Vitale in the book "The secret". It
emits negative signals out of you. The feeling of thankfulness reflects
the feeling of abundance and the feeling of abundance put it more and
more into your life. So first of all get to know all the minor and major
things in your life. Be grateful for those. It will help you to shift your
focus, feeling and thought. Make it your habit to give thanks for all you
have and also for all that you have asked for.
Be full of gratitude. Give thanks to everything, do it as much as you can.

In a day if you say it fifty times, nature will avail the situation to feel it
hundred times. Every time you say thanks, you should feel it. The voice
should come from your heart, your being.
Power of Motivation
Till now you were learning the skills to make most of your mind. Your
mind has no limitation. Means you can go however far you wish to. But
in spite of having capability, power, and everything you may not choose
to move ahead in life. You may continue to manage and compromise
with the present condition of life. This is where the role of motivation
comes.
As fire needs spark to burn up anything, all of you posses fire as a basic
element of your body. You also need a spark to put the fire outside. To
manifest the power, the energy, the talent and the quality you have, you
need to get motivated from somewhere. Motivation helps you to realize
the power you posses within you.
Motivation is a state of mind, state of body at its positive extreme. In this

moment you have very powerful thought in mind. Your motivation works
as an inner push that forces you to move towards some big
achievement. It helps you to uplift your state of mind, give you the
temperament, activate your energy level that sets you on the path to
work hard and get ahead. Inspiration helps you to maintain the
temperament throughout the life to keep squeezing and getting a lot
from it.
If you want to achieve high goals, you should have a constant source of
motivation in your life. It lets you feel the gap between where you are
and where you want to be. It lets you realize that you deserve much
more, which sets you on the path of success.
Motivation is an energetic state of mind that stays for some moments

and gives a very powerful feeling. Now the next is how to use this in its
best way. Whenever you find yourself in this state, selecting an anchor
for you is worthwhile. For example whenever you feel motivation you
can fold your fingers tightly. You can use this anchor anytime you need
an energetic state of mind. One more thing you can do is; subconscious
feeding in motivated state.
Everyone gets motivated regularly but your motivation should be in one

direction. It should not be that in morning you are motivated to be a
businessman and in evening you want to be a politician. In this way your
energy will flow in one direction only. And if you pour your energy in one
direction, then obviously you will see a remarkable output. The theory is
simple. If you will give fairly good input; you would get excellent output.
Know What Motivates You

Motivation is the energetic state of your thought and inner strength. In
this moment all the factors are aligned very positively. All the organs are
in the same phase of that of the inner voice. When the impulse is gone,
your physiology change, the inner strength is dispersed and you get
back in the normal state of mind.
Different people are motivated by different reasons. A motivated state

lets you feel very powerful. Although this impulse is for a couple of
moments only, but these moments are enough to charge you.
Now let's discuss about choosing a motivating factor. In fact you can't
choose this in the beginning. You can only realize that you are
motivated in few special situations. You may get motivated by a
successful person, who comes from the same background as you
have. There are two factors; one is situation that includes financial
status, educational background, and place. Second factor is interest.
You may get motivated if you have any of those factors in common with
someone who is living his life, the way you dream.
Motivation is like fuel, you need to take it frequently to move regularly.

For this you need to work on yourself. Find out, what inspires you at the
deeper level. Get to know your hobby, your passion and check out
different sources of inspiration. Observe what encourages you more.
Search out the celebrities; see with whom you feel more connected.
You must have a list of all the things, people, achievers, movies, places,
acts that motivate you and make you feel confident.
You can choose to study books on motivation, self development and

success. You may listen to motivational speakers. As you know where

the petrol pump is, and you go there regularly to take fuel. Similarly you
should know your motivational factor and should schedule to energize
yourself.
To make it work, you must push it into manifestation. Whenever you are
in this positive, confident state of mind, observe your life, your progress
and make some commitment to yourself. Take some quick action
towards your goal and if you haven't set a goal think in this direction.
Goal Setting
You have realized that you can get all you need, desire and work for. If
you are positive in mind, you can get abundance, prosperity and
success. But, is the knowledge sufficient? If you want to reach your
dream place, you would have to walk.
The right action to get your dream fulfilled starts with goal setting. It is
the first milestone towards success. Your goal setting is the
fundamental step to the road of success. It gives a target to your mind to
work upon. According to psycho cybernetics, your mind works like a
servo machine. It uses different processes to reach a fixed target. It
helps you to flow all the energy towards your goal. Otherwise your
energy is scattered in many directions and gets wasted.
Your goal helps your subconscious to know what you want and the
infinite resource within you starts working on it. So if you want to be
successful, make a giant goal. If you want to live a big life, the bigger
should be your goal. The secret of making a good goal is to make it so
big that seems initially impossible. But you are willing to get this done.
Once you have set a goal, it lets you feel very comfortable. When you
are committed to your goal, all your energy, focus, power gets a clear
message about where to flow, what to think, what to do, and what not to
do. Following are the steps that you can use to set standard goals.
1-Write all the dreams, desires, wishes, hope, expectation, liking that
you have. Open yourself up to the extent you can. Think as much as you
can, write as much as you can. Don't consider any limitation, any
boundary. Express yourself completely. Write all your inner desires.
The more freely and easily you can do it, the easier is to get it all into
reality. The more difficulty you find in doing this, it shows that you are
doubtful in even asking. First you need to be positive, a believer.
2-Now rearrange all the desires in terms of its importance. Write which
is more important first, then whatever is not that important, but you
would like, below and lower in the list. You can always update or include
something into list.
Now write the reason behind each goal. Your goal is as strong as strong
is the reason behind it. In fact what counts is the reason and goal is only
the manifestation. You want to do something because you like this, feel
good by doing this is also a good reason, because if you feel good by
doing something it helps you to connect with yourself.
In this step, you give priorities to your goals according to your need,
desire, and importance. After this you have to write the reason behind it.
This also helps you to know yourself well. Your reason reflects your
ambition, passion, hobby, responsibility and your thought pattern.
These reasons enliven your goals. According to Jim Rohn, if you have
enough reasons, you can do anything. The real motivation comes from
the reason that why you want to achieve something.
3-Now divide your goals into personal and professional. You can see
your life in two halves, one personal, second professional. Personal is
all that makes you happy, prosperous, and growing. Your health,
wealth, relation, emotion, mental peace and spiritual growth are your
personal concern. To earn good money, to serve others, to make others
life run well includes professional life. Your personal and professional
lives are interrelated. There should be a balance in both. To earn a good
life style you need to have a good professional life. And to utilize your
earning completely, you need to be good at personal life.
Now make a short term goal for your personal life and a long term goal,
vision for your personal dream life. Give the time limit to the both of the
goals. Giving time limit is very important in goal setting. Without this
your goal setting won't work. When you set the time limit, you convey
the time limit to your subconscious. It motivates you much more. You
may feel stressed, but this is positive stress, a powerful force that is
necessary to be successful.
You have to do the same with your professional goals. Make a mission
and a vision. Give time limit to both, one should be like the first step,
second as the last. As your quality of life improves your vision changes
and grows. So you can modify, update, upgrade your vision of life.
4-Now think about all the skills, knowledge, resources that you should
have to get your goal. Use all the skills such as powers of visualization,
thought, feeling, and gratitude to make your subconscious work for your
goal. Give a very clear picture of goal to your mind. Do it repeatedly.
Observe all the resources that can work for you. Scan all the
possibilities, resources that can be used to attain your goal.
5-Once you have done this, all you need is an organized planning and
strategy to achieve this goal. Once you have done proper feeding of
subconscious, you can also rely on your intuition, hunches, impulse to
get a right idea to implement your planning.
You can use to success formula devised by Anthony Robbins in his

book "Unlimited power". That is four step processes
I. Define precisely what you want

II. Take the type of action you believe , will bring result
III. Recognize the result you are getting
IV. Develop flexibility to change behavior to get what you want.
In this way, you can work on this until you get your goals, desires
fulfilled. Goal making is one of the giant powers available. But you can
know it only by applying it in your life.
Decision Making
Life offers many opportunities at every stage of life. You can choose,
decide to accept it or not. A decision is a commitment to do something.
Once you are committed, the power engine within you, starts pouring
power, capability, talent, skill and ideas.
Suppose you are living in a poor stricken condition. You are lacking
wealth and growth in your life. You can decide to be wealthy. You can
choose that now you are no more going to sustain this life. Rather than
this pain, take a pain, a risk that may pay you. If you choose to maintain
your present life style of limitation, of compromise, you suffer. If you
decide to change your condition, again you may find some difficulty. But
this pain will put you out of the present situation. The life of many people
is not so good. It is just because they never decide; choose to get out of
it. They are fearful that they may loose whatever they have.
A powerful, strong decision can change your life at the same moment,
because it changes your state of mind. Once you truly decide to get
something it is like you have got it. Suppose at this very moment you
decide to be rich, wealthy. No matter what happens, all that you have to
be wealthy, rich and abundant. Do this firmly and observe your state of
mind. You may feel as if now you are rich.
A true decision is a commitment with yourself. A decision pushes you to

take massive action towards goal. A decision with belief gives you the
feeling of having it in the same moment. Whichever dimension of life
you want to shape up, take a right decision and start working on it.
Although it requires some discipline, consistency, dedication to
manifest a decision. But it is like now you are using your energy for your
own growth and success.
While making a good decision you need to have a positive perspective.

Your mind doesn't see what happens around; it understands what you
explain. A single situation is interpreted by different people in different
ways. It is a matter of perspective. In the time of adversity, being able to
see some opportunity is a skill, an art. And decision based on this skill
produces miraculous result.
Like other skills, this also requires practice. The more you make it, the
more efficient you are. Also you should learn from the wrong decisions.
Decisions help you to get ahead, to choose and to focus. It is a tool used
by leaders in a powerful way. A strong decision reflects a powerful
personality.
Power of Focus
The next skill, knowledge that can put you on the top is your focus. You
have come to know that you posses infinite energy within and you are
spending it all the time. To understand energy you can take it as money.
As you can buy small things by paying small amounts and big things by
paying bigger amount, similarly you can achieve big success by paying
huge amount of energy. Your energy flows towards your focus. By
monitoring your focus, you can control your energy flow. Focus
indicates all that you are thinking, speaking, listening, and working on.
Suppose you want to be muscle man. Put your focus on your physical
health. Do all that is necessary for this. Go to the gym, increase your
diet, and take food supplements. Always think and talk in the same
direction. And in couple of months you would get the desired muscles
and shape. This is the power of focus.
If you want to grow, keep yourself in your focus. It sounds easy, but most
of the people are not successful, not rich, only because they do not
focus on themselves. Where the focus goes it grows. Where the focus
of masses goes that part of society, country grows. In India, in ancient
time, the focus of the masses was spiritual growth. Due to this focus,
India touched remarkable heights in understanding depth of life and
spirituality. At present the focus of mass is cricket and film. So is their
progress. All the money flow of the country is towards cricketers, actors
and film industry. They are growing with the help of focus of the masses.
If you are not going to take charge of your focus, there is market, media,
people who will use it for their own growth. The same they are doing.
They draw your attention and so the focus. The ad industry is there only
to grab your attention, your focus, your energy and your money.
The people, who know the power of their focus, use it for themselves.
And as a result they have adequate growth in their personal and
professional life. The more you focus onto you, the more you grow.
Always be very conscious about your focus. Your goal, your decision,
your motivation helps you in this. Once you have a firm goal, committed
decision all your focus is on your goal. It helps you to achieve your
dream life.
State and Memory Management

If you are consistently positive, confident, determined towards your
goal, the next you get is success. If you are working, thinking, speaking
in a very positive mind set, even in challenging times, that is really
difficult, you are qualified for success. No power, no force can stop you.
People normally give up in tough times. The small players do it in

temporary defeat. The big player in real, challenging tough time, But the
winner is the master of his state of mind. If you have control on your
state of mind, if you are capable of maintaining it positive, you will
succeed. Because you never fail until you accept it in your mind. A
present failure only means you have not succeeded yet. The possibility
is there, if you are able to maintain your state to move on, you are in the
game.
A positive state of mind is capable of finding solutions, If not today,

tomorrow. There is one more factor, memory management, described
by Anthony Robbins in his book Unlimited Power. It says to choose and
keep all empowering memories, incidents, pictures in your active
memory and all the negative as far from you as possible.
This skill, habit, art makes the difference between a successful person
and a failure. A failure sticks to negative memories as a dominating
idea. A successful person sticks to positive, empowering memories as a
dominating idea. So if you want to move on the track of success and
winning, be master of memory management. If a person admire you,
keep it in mind, empower yourself with it. If someone abuses you, don't
repeat it in mind. Don't entertain, consider, and talk about it even.
One more factor that helps you to control your state of mind is your
physiology. Your physiology includes your body posture, facial
expression, muscle tension, tonality. Your mind and physiology work in
perfect harmony. If you change one another is changed. So whenever
you feel negative by merely changing physiology you can have a very
positive, confident state of mind. You can change your physiology, any
time you feel negative. And the quickest, easiest way to change your
state of mind is to change your physiology.
Persistence-The Bridge to Destiny

The quality that ensures winning and compliments others is
persistence. It is the hard work that you do after you are tired of doing
the hard work. Sometimes you can do nothing but wait. Success is
something that comes to you, only after testing you completely. When
you have crossed all the hurdles, the last, the toughest is the
persistence. The reason behind the failure of most of the people was
the lack of persistence.
Persistence is to deliver your best and wait until you are successful. The
biggest success comes just after the biggest disappointment. It is the
frustration, disappointment, failure that nurtures your strength, your
personality and your unbeatable confidence. It is the experience of
almost every successful person.
Persistence is a part of your nature, a habit. If you maintain it in the small

issues of your life, you can get help from it in the toughest time. So to
master this quality develop this in small issues first. If you get angry very
easily on a little mistake by anyone or you are over tensed, worried and
negative on the small defeats. You should work on your personality first,
before taking major steps. Giant steps are for those, who are not
affected by small issues.
You can carve this giant personality in you. You can get this by working
on your ego, because it is your ego that wavers, not your true self. The
more close to the true self you are, the stronger, confident and
persistence you will be. Now let us understand the possibility of life…
Unit 4
Awaken Your Buddha
10
UNDERSTANDING THE POSSIBILITIES
OF LIFE
You cannot master life until you understand life completely. And when
you know it, you realize that it is already monitored by the universal
master. Till now you were learning to monitor, control, and grow in your
life. Now you are going to see all the aspects of life. There are seven
possible spheres in life. It includes the entire human journey ranging
from very physical need to the pure awareness, the Buddha hood. This
chapter provides an absolute scale of life which can be used as a
roadmap for your life. The purpose of your life, rules governing your life
is explained in detail. It focuses on role of earthly life. The spiritual
aspect of life is seen as complementary to physical life. It is said that
what you are searching at lower aspect of your personality is available
in abundance at your upper aspects of personality, of life.
The objective of this chapter is to give a push towards inner

transformation, the spirituality. It is explained that how you limit your
own possibility in life. It removes all the confusion regarding mystery of
life, meaning of spirituality and any other possibilities.
Limitation of Physical Sphere of Life

Life is full of colors and every color has many shades of them. Few
people live their life in different colors, while other just changes the
shades of it. Till now you were learning to win one aspect of life. You
were learning to get most of the earthly life, physical sphere of life or
visible life.
People want to get everything on the physical sphere of life. Physical

sphere means the visible world; where you believe in only what you can
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see. It is not possible. You can be very successful, wealthy and with all
the earthly pleasures, but still you would find something missing. Until
you have not achieved these, your mind feels that once you'd get this
you would get everything. After so much effort when you reach this
stage, you find that you have got all that you desired, still you are feeling
empty. You are feeling unsatisfied. Certainly there is something left to
earn, to know. What is that, is the content of this chapter. For this you
need to understand life in its totality.
Your entire focus is on the earthly living. You know it very well. The
entire effort by complete humanity, scientists, inventions, and
technology is to make your life full of peace, happiness and
contentment. But astonishingly the more technology, machines are
developed the more uneasy, uncomfortable, unhealthy and
unbalanced the life has been. There is a statement of Oscar Wilde
when he was close to his death", my life has been a movement from one
kind of pain to another". It is not with him, it is with most of the people.
You live your life in the expectation of the happiness, peace and
contentment. You think that some success, some achievement or some
changes will work. Although you have experienced very well that till now
nothing has worked. The life of most of the people is full of different kind
of worries, compromises, insecurity and pains.
The actual situation of life is that there are various kinds of problems,
limitations and negativity. Still no one is serious enough to find out the
cause behind it. Don't you think your efforts are in the wrong direction?
You are working day and night to earn happiness, peace and what you
are receiving is stress, worries and obstacles. There must be
something that you don't know.
The good thing is that, there is a possibility, there is a way, and there is a
remedy. In general, most of the people live in a sea of limitation, pain,

and miseries only. The reason is that you are not ready to see the life as
it is. You try to see it as you want. You are not willing to accept truth of
life. You want to believe that visible world is everything. You can only get
happiness, peace and satisfaction, when you are in tune with nature. All
these come from the invisible, spiritual plane. Here everything is in
abundance. But to realize this you need to grow in the other aspects of
your personality.
Taste and Tastelessness of Success

You start your life with dependency. As a child you were dependent on
parents, society, religion and others for your financial, emotional,
mental growth and needs. Your first goal in life always remains to be
independent. And this causes you to work and choose a profession to
earn. Once you are at this stage, the race of life starts. You see dreams
and run behind success to make it true. You pour all your energy to
manifest your dream. It is good and with the help of right mindset and
adequate hard work, you pull it into your life. You collect all that you
wished for.
Success has many definitions, it depends upon the individual. For few
people who are financially independent are successful. For few who
reach the excellence level of their profession are successful. For other
who earns all the luxuries of life are successful. For some if you are
famous and rich then you are successful.
You all work hard to get your own definition of success and you get it, big
or small. But do you feel contentment, peace, stability, harmony in your
so called success. Do you want to take it as a destiny? Do you get what
you were searching for? Is your inner desire, quest fulfilled?
If the answer is no; It means your success is nothing but a good place to
be at earthly life. Although success has its satisfaction, its joy, its
pleasure, but it is situational, momentary. This happiness is not lasting,
rather transitory. In fact when you are successful, you realize that all
your inner desire for happiness is still unsatisfied. Means there is
something that is not achievable by your so called success. Means life
has something more to offer. There is something that is unknown to you.
There is some joy, some pleasure, some harmony, some balance,
some stability that you have not acquired.
When a person is not successful, he thinks that success will give him
everything. But those who are living at this phase, knows very well, all
they earned was just physical abundance. And they are still empty in
their mind, heart and inner possibility.
In fact when a person finds him to be free from worry to earn his
livelihood, he should proceed for the further possibilities of life. Towards
the truth and mysteries of life and there is nothing mysterious for those
who are seekers. For a seeker, life has opened itself in limitless ways.
Life unravels its entire secret in the simplest way.
Possibilities of Life on Seven Spheres

You are in the journey of making your life meaningful. You can only
make it meaningful, if you understand it completely. According to
Buddhism, there are seven possible spheres of life, or seven possible
aspects of personality. These are following
1- Physical
2- Psychosomatic
3- Psychological
4- Psycho spiritual
5- Spiritual
6- Spiritual-transcendental
7- Transcendental
All these are the various possible aspects of your personality. Life is
combination of all these possibilities. Your life moves on all these
spheres consciously or unconsciously. Up to the sphere you go
consciously, you easily accept its existence. The sphere that you don't
feel consciously, you doubt its existence. All these seven planes are
very well experienced by so many sages.
The first sphere is physical sphere. It is your awareness of body and all
worldly things. The entire physical world that you can see, which falls in
the visible frequency range of your eyes, falls into this category. Your life
starts with this sphere. This plane of life is of major focus for the majority
of people. To survive on this sphere you need food. This sphere of life is
associated with your base chakra or root chakra. It is your connection
with earth. This sphere of life is very parallel to plant life.
The second sphere of life is psychosomatic. It is connected with mind

body relation. It includes your sexual needs and to maintain your race
through reproduction. Once you are able to survive on the physical
sphere, the next desire you have, is to expand your race. For this you
have intense sexual desire. The animal life seeks up to this possibility of
life. You are aware of this plane of life. Life of the most of the people is
centered on this sphere. This sphere is associated with your spleen
chakra. This sphere relates to your personal power and a sense of
achievement. It represents your family and tribal connection.
The third is psychological sphere. It is associated with your ego. This is

where you are one step ahead of animals. Here you develop a sense of
self, emotion and feeling. Most of your thinking, logics, knowledge, and
discussion belong to this plane. Your emotional life goes on this sphere.
Most of the work, thought and discussion of people are linked with ego.
Most of the people are living at these three aspects of life. The
proportion of these varies in different people. Some may be more

inclined towards physical while other towards psychological. It is a
matter of individual choice and freedom
The fourth level is psycho spiritual. It is connected with your heart. Once
you reach to this sphere of life, you start considering life in a different
view. This sphere includes joy of giving, loving and empathy. Giving out
of pleasure, happiness, abundance reflects this aspect of your
personality. This is associated with heart chakra. This aspect of
personality makes you capable of love. The glimpse of joy, happiness,
pleasure comes in this phase. This aspect of your personality let you
realize the feeling of love and the pleasure of giving.
The fifth is spiritual sphere. All the organized religion belongs to this
sphere. It is about self expression and communication. It is associated
with the throat chakra. This is your spiritual aspect of personality. It is
plane where you experience, self realization, you are able to feel and
communicate to your inner self, true self, soul. There are very few
people who consciously feel this aspect of personality. Those who are
living at lower three spheres, can't believe this. And those living at
psycho spiritual sphere get a glimpse of it, sometimes. They are
intended to attain this aspect of personality consciously. Once a person
reaches up to this aspect, he starts feeling inner riches, peace, joy, utter
balance and harmony in his life. He can connect the boundless love, joy
within and it is reflected in his living.
The sixth aspect is the spiritual transcendental. It is associated with

third eye chakra. It is when you are in perfect accord with the
omnipotence, the universe. You can experience your cosmic body. You
can feel yourself none other than the source. You feel, see; realize
everything connected to you. The people who live on this plane are
called as God or avatar as Lord Krishna, Lord Ram, Jesus Christ or
Lord Mohammad. This is where you are the form of love, you are the
source, and you are the representative of the universe. The universe
flows through you. You are not more than a medium. You lose your
identity, individuality.
The seventh sphere is transcendental. It is nothing but the pure

awareness. Now the drop merges into the ocean. Now the drop is
ocean, sea. This state can't be achieved in the body. This is the super
death. Now you need not to take birth again, you blend into oneness. It
is called Nirvana, moksha or Mahapariniravn. Buddha reached this
state of pure awareness.
These are the various possible aspect of your personality. The number
of people decreases as you move upward. It is not necessary to reach
all the planes in the same life time. It may take many lifetimes to develop
the higher aspects.
Purpose of Life
You can make your life much better, if you know the purpose of it. For
this you should first understand life well. Otherwise it may be on a
random basis. First you should understand it in totality, then to choose
the vision for your life. The major problem in choosing the vision for life
is that you can't believe, beyond your mind goes. For example, a person
whose life moves on the first three spheres; can't imagine the peace,
pleasure, joy, harmony, balance and stability that are on the upper
aspects. Movement towards upper plane is a natural process of growth.
In this way everyone is moving towards noble possibility of his
personality.
Choosing a purpose of life is a very individual decision. For this first of

all observe your personality on absolute scale. This scale of seven
levels is called absolute scale. Your desires can be fulfilled only on the
upper plane. Your purpose of life should be to live the present sphere
completely and always willing to move upward on the absolute scale.
Don't try to push yourself on upper plane by force, you can't.
The best and easiest way to grow on the scale is to practice awareness.
Awareness means to be total in whatever you do. It says to be watchful
to all your actions. Observe, are you getting what you deserve. If you
are on psychosomatic level, live this dimension full. Observe that, are
you getting all that you need? If not, move ahead. Don't hate your
present plane, live it at faster speed so that you can get mature early.
The more mature, satisfied you are at lower planes, the more easily you
move ahead.
The ultimate purpose of every human life is to attain pure awareness.

But for everyone, it is not possible in the same life. You are not new on
the earth. You are walking since so long. This is why few are on the first
step; few are at fourth, fifth, sixth.
So whatever be your profession, you must know your position on the

absolute scale of life. Every sphere has its importance. Life at the lower
plane is painful but there is some charm, attraction and momentary
happiness that fasten you here. As you grow up on the scale, the quality
of life, inner riches, joy, lasting harmony and balance increases. So your
purpose should be to realize and observe your present spheres of
living. You should live it totally. Observe its limitation and you should
think about moving ahead on the absolute scale of life.
Rules of Life
If you want to live a meaningful life you should know the working
principle. Your life is governed on the principles of law of attraction,
cause and effect and individual freedom and belief. Your freedom plays
major role to decide the direction and growth of your life. It works as
nectar for some while as poison for others. You are free to choose
heaven as well as hell. In ignorance most of the people choose hell.
One more rule that affect your life is the principle of induction. It says
that if you are not aware, your life will be induced by others or society. It
exactly follows others like sheep. If one goes to the well, all will go
definitely. You may not accept it, because it happens unconsciously.
You can realize this in all the dimensions of life. It includes your clothing,
lifestyle, brand mania, entertainment and every minor and major
aspect.
You should observe how you are using your freedom. Most of the
people think that they know everything, while they know only their
profession. In this way they use their freedom to block their growth and
possibility. You can check your knowledge in this way. Life is meant to
be peaceful, joyous, harmonious, balanced, and colorful. The entire six
dimensions physical, mental, emotional, financial, social and spiritual
should be completely balanced and growing. Until you attain this state
of life, you should accept that there is something that you need to know.
So if you are using your freedom to bring best possibility out of your life,
then it is nectar.
"Human is condemned to be free" - Sastra

The next rule of life is principle of belief or law of attraction or cause and
effect. It says that whatever your belief is, you get. Whatever you think is
right, turn out be right. You can't see the world beyond your belief. Most
of the people see world as a dangerous place, they are fearful of it and
as this is their belief and so they experience the same. For those who
believe, realize the world to be delightful place, a home of God, full of
beauty, happiness and abundance, they experience the same.
The life you are experiencing is not the realty; it is what your belief is.
You can see the world howsoever you want to see it. And you are free to
believe anything. Your belief is also affected by principle of induction.
You can see the life as you want to see it. You can believe the words of
sages as Krishna, Mahavira, Buddha, Jesus or many others. You can
believe the word of your neighbor, friend, family or society. You can
believe and experience the words and life of Buddha; or you can believe
and experience the words of your uncle. It's all your choice.
You can develop your belief based on the crime news, rape, murder,
robbery, you see in the newspaper, TV. You can focus your attention
into this dirtiness of life. Or you can focus on innocent flowers, lovable
animals, romantic moon light, beautiful sunrise, love of your child,
freshness of morning, joy of romance and much more. It's all up to you,
what you choose to believe. Keep one thing in mind until you have got
the perfect balance, harmony, health of your all six dimension that is
possible, practical, natural, you are on the wrong track.
Role of Earthly Life

Earthly life has its importance. It is the only path through which you can
grow and move towards upper levels. So you should never condemn
the physical sphere of life. There has been a major confusion in this
context. When you condemn something, you can't work and grow with
that. Although when you grow with various upper aspects of your
personality, you don't like staying anymore on the lower aspects. But all
this is a matter of experience and gradual growth. You can't move onto
upper aspects by criticizing lowers. You can only realize the limitation
and drawbacks of physical, psychosomatic and psychological by living
it completely, closely and with awareness.
Earthly life is an opportunity to get mature at lower planes. It lets you

feel satisfied with this level of living. Once you have lived it full, facing,
overcoming all the challenges you get mature. You reach the stage
when you don't want to stay here anymore. And once you reach to the
psycho spiritual, you feel the thirst for the truth of life. According to
Nietzsche, after the age of 42, people are very inclined towards the
truth, God and Religion.
Those who force themselves to move upward without getting mature

over the physical sphere, cheat themselves. The natural process is
ideal. If one wants to grow fast, you should practice awareness.
Awareness is not any separate work. It is just to be aware about all your
action. It is to do the things very consciously. It says to be present in this
very moment all the time. Awareness is being an observer of you. It
means being total in the present. Although it sounds easy, but in the
present life pattern it has been toughest for you.
There are people who have lived it very well in their past lives. So for
them it does not take time to realize, believe that what they are
searching is on the upper sphere. They indulge in upper aspect of their
personality without wasting time on lower planes.
When Gautam Buddha was born, the Brahman predicted that either he
would become a great king or a sage. His father wanted him to become
a king. So his life was arranged so that he would not see any pain,
misery or limitations. Once he was going for on the way, he saw a
funeral procession. A dead body was passing through. He asked his
charioteer, what it was. The charioteer told him, "Someone is dead, and
being taken for cremation. Buddha told him to turn the chariot. And
immediately, he went to the jungle. Once he got to know that he would
die too, he began his search for the truth of life. He didn't involve in living
physical life any more. He had lived a lot. His deep desire was to search
for the upper possible sphere of life.
Everyone has a past life journey. Your present life sphere is decided on
the basis of your past life. If in the past life you have reached to the forth
sphere, you would be inclined towards onward journey. So you should
keep moving towards the source, your ultimate, permanent home. The
role of earthly life is to live it to the fullest and realize that your desire
can't be satisfied on this plane. You can believe and realize this only by
living consciously.
Cause of Pain, Grief and Miseries

In life as you grow old, you know the realities and practicalities of life.
Children remain happy, because they don't know or find any reason to
be unhappy. They don't have any desire, have not developed their
identity, or ego nor do they have any expectations. As you grow old,
these traits develop in your behavior. Present social system doesn't
facilitate you to fulfill these, so you suffer.
Why is your life full of difficulties, grief and miseries? Although everyone
is working to get rid of all these, but with time as your responsibilities
increase, so your worries, insecurities and pressures. Who is spreading
all these negativities? From where are these negative waves coming
into your life? Have you ever thought?
The sources of all these painful, negative waves are you. It is, because
you are sorrowful. An unhappy, worried, tense, negative person can
emit only negative waves and can only share pain with others. And the
reason behind this is that entire focus of life is on the physical sphere.
Everyone wants to have more money, luxuries, and precious things. To
own this you need to snatch from others, although in a polite way. For
this you make many sad.
When you give pain to other in one way, they do the same with you in
their own way. It is like a businessman increases the cost of item to earn
more. In this way he gives problems to others. He pays less to his
employee to save more. Employee doesn't work according to his

expectation and makes him unhappy. So in this way and in many other
ways at every transaction, it is the transaction of the trouble. Everyone
wants to take from other. All are willing to take and no one is in a position
to give.
So how there can be harmony at a sphere, where everyone wants to

take and no one is willing to give? So in the life of physical sphere
everyone is making the other a target. Everyone is an enemy of the
other. It is like everyone is trying to adjust in a small circle and no one is
thinking about making the circle big, while the circle can be extended up
to infinite.
If you are tense and worried you emit the same. You make the world,
your locality a poor place. You can give only what you have. If you want
to make the world a happier place, first you should make it happy for
yourself. And this is not possible on lower planes. When you are on the
upper aspects, you are full of abundance. You are willing to and in a
position to give. This harmony and balance can only be achieved when
some people are at the giving end and others at the receiving.
Use Energy and Focus to Open Upper Gates

You have got two powerful tools to uplift your life. These are energy and
focus. You posses vast energy and with the focus you direct this energy
to flow. You can be good at anything by focusing on it. All you need to do
is to avoid any distraction of focus, because it can scatter your energy.
You can produce anything in life, you can reach anywhere with proper
and focused use of your energy. Where your energy focuses, there you
arrive sooner or later. Those who don't take charge of their energy, it is
used by market, TV, sports, media to grow themselves.
You spend it in thinking, speaking and doing something. You posses

energy in physical, emotional, mental and spiritual form. If all these are
aligned towards your goal, you can do almost anything in life. You can
be all you want to be. If you want to move upwards on the absolute scale
of life, you need to focus on upper aspect of your personality.
For the lower three plane you need to focus on the outer world. You can
engage yourself in worldly activities. If you want to move towards the
fourth and upper plane, you need to focus yourself, inward. When you
detach yourself from worldly activity, your energy starts flowing inward.
You can practice awareness. As you spend more time with you, you can
realize the peace, harmony and balance that reside within you. There
are various paths of yoga that can help you to move upward.
"When in worldly activities, keep attention between two breaths,

and so practicing in a few days be born a new" - Lord Shiva.
You can choose to read books on spiritual growth. Spend some time in
the company of people who have good inner growth. Engage yourself in
practicing meditation, awareness, reading philosophy, religion,
listening spiritual talk, but never ever bind yourself to anything. The role
of spirituality is to make you free from everything. Don't confuse doing
ritual with inner gains. Seek the Buddha within rather than just
worshipping Buddha. You have to move towards being Buddha, seek it
truthfully and you would find it.
How You Limit Your Possibility

You limit your possibility with cynicism and negative belief. Ego also
helps you in blocking your growth. As you move on the fourth and
spheres above, it is only possible if you are free from ego. Your life
revolves around ego. It may let you feel superior, confident. It may let
you feel that you are better than anyone. Who can mentor you? You can
mentor everyone. To get rid of ego is the biggest challenge you may
have. It changes its face but remains with you. You believe your ego
because it provides you a base, although it is an illusion. The same
causes cynicism in your behavior. You see everything from your own
knowledge and experience.
One more enemy that limits your growth is your belief. It blocks the gate
of any possibility. It is so powerful that you can't observe anything that
you don't believe. You can open new possibilities in your life by merely
changing your belief. The easiest ways to stop negative belief is start
doubting them and stop repeating them. Believe in something that may
help in your growth.
So it is your ego and limiting belief that narrows your life, obstructs your
growth. With the help of focus and energy, you can move upward,
bringing more into your life.
Stepping Into Inner Transformation

Once you are positive and open in your belief towards the absolute
scale of life. The very next is the step into the inner transformation. The
transformation begins with the freedom from ego.
In fact, when you go to search for your ego, you won't find it, because in
reality ego does not exist. It is a false projection of a true self. It is a
shadow of self, an image of your true being. As darkness is nothing but
the absence of light, ego is nothing but the lack of awareness of your
true self. Ego starts diminishing, when you start walking towards self.
As gradual increase in light, weakens the darkness gradually.
This journey starts from your free will. If you have immense desire to
realize the truth, the journey begins. It has nothing to do with the outer
world, your outer achievement or anything. In this journey you are all
alone. It starts with the breaking your psychological home. Those who
are too much attached with their psychological property, never gather
courage to move ahead. But those who have measured the depth and
hollowness of their ego are willing to burn their boat.
The beginning of the inner journey is like stepping into a new business.
Those who go there with fear come back empty handed. And one, who
pours himself totally into this, is lost in the peace, harmony and eternity
there. One who goes with fear, never steps into totally, deeply. Who
pours himself totally never feels like coming back. His whole being is
changed. His everything is transformed. He is not even able to tell
exactly what he realized, experienced. All he can do is to spread the
light, joy, peace and love onto others.
If you want to experience this possibility of life, work on your ego, belief
and cynicism. Keep this absolute scale of life in your mind. Be open to
all the possibilities life offers. Enjoy the present sphere full. But always
keep your eye on upper aspect of your personality.
Make changes in your life, your habit and your friend circle. Make it easy
for you to move upward. It is natural process so all you have to do is
unblock yourself; rest is the job of nature. Always keep in mind until you
don't have perfect health, balance, peace, happiness and harmony in
all your six dimension of life; you need to work on yourself. And world is
full of help, all you need to do is make a move. Now let us move towards
being God…
11
DOUBTING GOD TO BEING GOD
"The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao.

The name that can be named is not the eternal name"
- Lao tzu
Life is full of various possibilities. You choose from these infinite

possibilities according to your social system, family and personal belief.
The path that you take very much depends on your past life experience,
desire, personality types and expectation from the life.
One of these paths show the glimpse of the truth, of the nature, of the
omnipotence, the God himself. The movement in this very rare direction
is called spiritual growth. The only limitation of this dimension of life is
that it is all about living, experiencing, knowing and realizing. It is not
something that can be intellectually understood. You can't experience
this even by positive belief. This is beyond mind phenomenon.
You may think that if it is beyond mind phenomenon, then what is the
purpose of this chapter. Why are there so many literatures on this topic?
The answer is that it may help to design your life that opens this
possibility. It shows the way that goes towards the source. It works on
your body, thought and feeling to step towards the truth.
On a very practical ground it is to practice and attain a state of mind that

is in harmony with the nature. It is the feeling of inner riches, inner joy,
inner contentment, and inner happiness. But this is not everything; this
is just the initial step towards the temple of god. The very opposite to
this is an unbalanced mind, emotional distress, worry, tension, pains
and likewise.
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When you walk on this road, your life is full of joy, peace and
contentment. There are only two directions or movement in life. One is
towards the source of peace, happiness, stability another is away from
these. And the only way to connect to this source is through you.
To be one with you, stand still rather than running only in the outer world.
Here standing still does not mean not doing any work. It is to be stand
still in mind, thought and feeling. And with practice of awareness, with
consistency and patience you are able to discover and connect to the
source within.
The master travel all day, Without leaving home,

However splendid the views, She stays serenely in herself"
- Lao Tzu
Practicing, learning and awakening spirituality is the hidden secret of

happiness. It is to enjoy the beauty and abundance of nature, life and
keeping your focus on the center.
Why People Doubt

"When a superior man hears of the Tao,
he immediately begins to embody it,
When an average man hears of the Tao,
he half believes it, half doubt it.
When a foolish man hears of the Tao,
he laughs out loud.
If he didn't laugh
it wouldn't be the Tao"
- Lao Tzu
There are various types of people. Few are able to see the worth of life
only in spirituality. While for others it a matter of doubt, criticism and
deceit. Most of the people are unable to understand this aspect of their
personality. And they are right at their place. They think and speak what
they realize.
In the last chapter you have observed that there are seven aspects of
your personality. And those, who are living at lower aspects, can't
understand the upper ones. Those who have lived the lower sphere
well and moved to upper sphere can understand that the doubters are
right at their place, position and condition. The number of people at
lower spheres is much more than those on upper plane. Here lower is
not used to degrade the physical sphere of life. It is used only to
understand the concept well.
In this way, you are able to know what you can see and want to see.
People, who are living on the physical sphere, want to prove them best.
Obviously they are negative towards religion, god, and spirituality. They
only focus on all the negativity, cheat, fraud, disbelief that sometimes
occur around them. They use only the negative news to judge spiritual
sphere or possibility of life. Although the lives of these people are not
less than a synonym of imbalance, pain, distress, emotionally disturbed
and mentally sick. They are not aware about these diseases because
they have no experience of perfect health, harmony and balance. They
may be rich, wealthy but one thing is certain that they don't know the
taste of life, truth, nature, which is the only testable thing in the universe.
Their life moves around their ego.
You should have empathy for them; help them, to live well, so that soon
they can understand, that there is so much to be earned, achieved, to
know yet. A diseased person can't imagine health until he will live it.
There is no way to make them understand.
The words of Lao Tzu, speaks the truth as it is. You can check yourself
where you exist on this; you can check who your friends, colleagues,
and relatives are. If you are superior you immediately begin to embody
it, because there is no reason to waste a single moment.
Religious to Non Religious

Spirituality is a very important, integral and necessary part of your
living. You can't experience perfect health, if you are not aware about
this. Being aware means you should feel it, realize it, it should influence
your behavior and life. And the same has been the reason behind the
development of so many religions all around the world.
Whether you believe or not, you accept or not, but your life is very much
affected by your religion. Although it has troubled many people; but it is
due to people and not the religion. The wise don't find that much worth
and importance in the skeleton of religion in the present. Although they
believe the ultra intelligence, power, peace, harmony, balance, stability
of the all spiritual leaders and their religion.
There is huge difference between religion developed initially and the

one you see. There must be something wrong in between and this is the
same story with all the religions. All started with ultra intelligence,
mysticism, love, joy and abundance. All emerged from a noble thought
and philosophy. The system that emerged out of abundance of love
turned out to be a place for hatred, violence and jealousy. An institution
that emerged out of freedom, choice, and love turned out to be cage,
blockage and utter dependency. A message that emerged out of a godly
person turned out to be as if to be of a monster, a devil.
The major reason behind this was foolish people who couldn't handle
ultra intellectual phenomenon. Every religion has lost its value because
sick people made religion sick.
Once, a Negro went to a church. The door was closed, so he knocked. A

priest opened the door. Church was not allowed for Negros, as they
were treated as lower caste. So the priest thought about how to deny
him. He said, "You can only come inside if you follow celibacy for three
months, take bath, worship daily and many other rituals. The Negro
came back to home. He started following the priest's word. After three
months he was ready to go to church. Next morning he went there. The
priest saw him coming to the church. He was worried about how to deny
this time.
The Negro saw him, smiled and turned back. The priest was surprised
and did not understand this. He followed the Negro and asked, "What
happened, why you didn't come to church ". The Negro said that last
night God came in his dream and said," why you are going to church,
they won't allow you. I have also tried many times to enter, but they don't
allow me even".
This is the present form of religion. This is why, it is difficult to believe

and accept religion. Whether it is Hinduism, Christianity, Islam, or any
other. None could save themselves from this human disease. And the
root cause behind this was the incredible gap between the source and
the follower. Any religion is started by an enlightened person and is
carried away by the followers. And most of these followers use their
religion for their ego expansion, although unconsciously.
The same is the reason behind birth of new religions, new philosophies.
Otherwise there is no conflict among the religious leaders, as all are
representing the same source. All of them just wanted to explain the
existing religion in totality, in truthfulness again. They wanted to edit out
the misconception developed. But the ego of religious followers didn't
allow any one to do so. So the only option left for a new sage was to start
a new flow.
What Osho did was again the repetition of history. He also wanted to
teach the actuality, reality, totality of religion and to wash out all the
misconception. But no religion could accept him as his part. The only
path left for him was to be a rebel.
In fact every religion, philosophy later on turns out to be of followers, of

the foolish, of the priests. And then they make it diseased. This is why
most of the intelligent, deserving and capable people are not attracted
by religion. This is why wise maintain a distance from religion. And
foolish find it as an opportunity to stick to religion and take the
responsibility to expand it. What they are spreading is their ego and
diseases.
There is another aspect of religion, also. It is the truth delivered by

enlightened gurus. This is like a bridge to omnipotence. There is no
alternative of this. What is here is here only. However distorted your
religion has been. It still is powerful, abundant, full of knowledge and
paths towards source. The only difficulty is that you can't rely on any
priest or Brahman to take responsibility of your spiritual growth. There is
always need of a true guru for your spiritual growth, although it is rare to
find. And the reason behind this is that there are no true disciples. One
thing is sure that you would not find them in a temple, church or Masjid.
The only way to find a true guru is to be a true disciple. The need of a
guru is always there because the one who has reached the source can
mentor you, to save you, your time and effort.
There is one more possibility that you go through the scriptures. You
can try to understand the thought and philosophy. There are so many
paths and spiritual practices explained. You can practice them by
yourself. The knowledge, the philosophy and everything mentioned by
the spiritual leader is medicine, answer and solution to all your
problems. If you go there for only solution, it won't solve the purpose.
You can turn spiritual out of curiosity or to seek the truth of life. But once
you are able to taste it in totality, you get what you could not ask for ever.
The purpose of all the religions is to make you out of it, put you above it.
As you learned in the last chapter that organized religion remains on the
spiritual sphere. The journey is not complete here. It is just the fifth
sphere of life, till here you can reach with the help of your religion, but
the purpose of religion is to make you non religious. Because when you
are one with the god, the universe, with the super soul you can't remain
in any kind of institution. So always be clear about your vision. It is to
attain spiritual transcendental, pure awareness.
Practical Steps to Godhood

You have realized the importance and need of spirituality in your life.
Now the question arises about how to attain this, how to awaken the
spiritual aspect of your personality. The answer is simple. First observe
where you are and where you have to reach. Practically there are four
steps to reach the source. These are
1- Hatred
2- Love
3- Prayer (gratitude)
4- God
In general your life is surrounded by blame, criticism, hatred and

jealousy. You can observe this in your conversation, comment and
judgment on any situation. This is a poisonous habit that hampers your
life in many ways and blocks your spiritual growth. But the good thing is
that wherever you are; you are at certain steps from the master.
You should try to come out of hatred, blame and jealousy for others.
Once you are out of this habit, you can realize the peace, beauty and
happiness of life. Hatred is a state of mind that can easily be changed. It
is very well explained in the previous chapters. You need to work on
your friends circle, family atmosphere and colleagues. Don't let the
media, TV, newspaper and market hamper your life. They are the major
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cause of mental and emotional disease.
Once you are free from hate, love flows through you. It is first step
towards the truth. It is very natural phenomenon. But it may be blocked
by your society, family, religious belief. The more love you can spread,
get, express, the more close you get to the source.
Love is a state of mind; it is of abundance, joy and happiness. It is

pleasure of giving. It is joy of compassion. It is wishing goodness,
richness, abundance for all. It is being happy in the happiness of others,
but it all starts from your happiness, because you can only make others
happy when you are happy. Lovemaking is also a manifestation of love,
and you should know that it is a pious phenomenon. But this is the
lowest expression of love. You should always focus to attain the upper
expression of love. This is to be the source of love, to be one with the
truth.
Love everything around you. Convey love to every living and non living
entity. Actually there is nothing nonliving. It is just the perception of your
mind. Love the plants, animals, your books, cloths, home, road,
neighborhood, sun, moon, air, water, friends, relative, yourself, your
body, everything. Be the source of love and every good thing will be
around you.
The next step towards the omnipotence is prayer. And don't confuse it
with the prayer people do. That is not a prayer. That is declaration of
being poor, weak and fearful. That is the demand. The real prayer
comes out of love. When you are overflowing with love, prayer emerges
from you. Prayer is the declaration of being abundant, wealthy, satisfied
and happy. It is the feeling of thankfulness, the gratitude. There is a
statement of Jesus Christ, "Give them who have more, and take from
those who have less". Once you are filled with the feeling of abundance,
gratitude, thankfulness you attract more of it.
The feeling of love and abundance is the cause of prayer. When a

person is burdened with the feeling of abundance, happiness, joy, he
wants to share it with everyone. And the most deserving is God. Sharing
of this love is prayer. So next time whenever you go for prayer, share
your love with god, and give thanks for all you have. Be full of gratitude;
don't worry for what you don't have. You'll get all that you need.
The person who is full of gratitude is the closest to the divine. Because
he is almost doing the same, what the master is doing. He is also
spreading happiness, joy and peace. So once you are full of gratitude
towards God and everyone; you realize the glimpse of being one with
the omnipresence, the Master.
Understanding and Overcoming Ego

When there is no light in your home, there will be darkness. Similarly
until there is no light of true self, no awareness of inner self, of the
source, there will be the ego, the darkness. This will govern, control and
mentor your life. So, how can one reach the right place, while his entire
movement is coming out of darkness? There is nothing like darkness,
but only the absence of light. Similarly there is no existence of ego, but
only the unawareness of the self.
Now a question arises that how is ego developed? How does it start
controlling your life? In fact, when you were a child, you didn't feel the
need of your separate being. You started life without any personal
identity. But after a certain age you felt the need to develop yourself as a
separate entity, because everyone around you had an individual
personality. So you started building your separate identity. At this stage
this was required for confidence and self development, because at this
time you were in a learning process.
This continuation from the same time builds up your ego. Although after
you have developed your personality, to make it more powerful,
harmonious, balanced, peaceful you should work towards your true
self. But once you are trapped in ego building, it is difficult to take the
jump to the next level.
According to Dr. Dyer in is his book "Power of intention", by allowing ego

to determine your life path, you disconnect yourself with the universe.
Primary ingredients for ego are following
1- I am what I have: my possession define me

2- I am what I do: my achievement defines me
3- I am what others think of me: my reputation defines me
4- I am separate from everyone: my body defines me as alone
5- I am separate from all that is missing in my life: my life space is
disconnected from my desire
6- I am separate from god: my life depends on God's assessment
of my worthiness
This is how you develop and maintain your ego. In fact to enliven and
maintain anything in life, it needs life force. If you stop feeding your ego,
it means you stop thinking and feeling that boost your ego. It will
slacken. But the problem is that you have linked all your happiness with
your ego expansion. As you are happy when you have a big car, big
house and people admire you. This is why your happiness depends on
external conditions and situations. According to Dr. Dyer following are
the steps to overcoming ego's hold on you
1- Stop being offended

2- Let go of your need to win
3- Let go of your need to be right
4- Let go of your need to be superior
5- Let go of your need to have more
6- Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of achievement
7- Let go of your reputation
Although for many people it may be very difficult to bring this into
practice. These people may belong to the psychological sphere of life.
And for them these are the foundation of their life. The same base is
spreading hate, imbalance, jealousy, pain, and grief in their life.
Those who have experienced the upper aspect of their personalities will
find these, the real cause of their pain. So if you want to get rid of ego, to
get connected with your true self, you can practice these. And if you are
willing to attain the next level, your power of intention will do the rest job.
Various Paths to the Source

In the history, spirituality has been major focus of life. It has provided
balance, harmony and unlocked the entire mystery and mysticism of
life. So in various religions, various places, different paths were
developed to attain the state of truthfulness. In India, yoga has
developed profound paths to reach the source, based on different types
of people. And don't understand yoga as only some stretching or
exercise. That is only a dimension of it; a part of yoga, called hath yoga.
Following are the four major paths of yoga
1- Karma yoga
2- Gyan yoga
3- Bhakti yoga
4- Sakshi yoga
There are many paths discovered by yoga for different kinds of people.
Everyone should choose his own path according to his own personality.
Karma yoga is for the action oriented people. It is for those, who can't
imagine life without working, who feel alive, only when they work. Life
for them is all about working and achieving something. For this class of
people karma yoga suits well. It is the very prominent theory of Lord
Krishna.
Karma yoga says that when you are doing work, instead of being the
doer, merge yourself into the work. Let there be the action only and not
the doer. Means do the work and eliminate the feeling of doer ship. Try
to observe that work is being done. You are just cooperating in it. You
are not the doer. It is possible when you detach yourself from any desire
or result of work. You can watch how you perform the activity of daily life
and specially observing your attitude behind your action.
The moment you realize you are not the doer, your life turns out to be
like acting. You can do an experiment. For one day, work as if you are
acting to do it. Eliminate the feeling behind the action. If you could do
this for only a day, you would realize that you are forcefully adding a
feeling of attachment to your work.
It tells you to be an observer while doing. Keep yourself at a distance

from where the work is done. Diminish the feeling of doer-ship. Try to
realize the fact that you are not the doer. The moment you realize this,
you have reached the source. When action comes out of the source,
you just let them pass.
The second path is Gyan yoga. This is for the thinking people. For the
people, who can't stop thinking, can't imagine life without thinking. They
want to know the truth in terms of knowledge, intellect or thought. These
are the contemplating people. It is also called Jnana yoga. In this path
divinity is reached by using the entire force of mind turned inward and
enquiring into itself.
Gyan yoga says to be the thought rather than thinker. Be the observer to
your thoughts. Don't stop or block the flow of thought. Once you start
observing the thought, you reach a state where thoughts coming are
stopped. And you slip into the state of thoughtlessness, an empty state,
a zero state. Your thought, knowledge puts you onto the place from
where these emerge. The same helps you to come out of you and to be
one with the universe, consciously.
The third path is Bhakti yoga. It is for the people who are emotional.
Their life is inclined towards feelings and emotions. They are non
intellectual and easily attracted to the power of ecstatic prayers. These
people can realize Godhood in their feelings. It is like using the out flow
of human emotion that makes you suitable for the bhakti way. Your
prayer, singing, dancing, puts you in a devotional state of mind, where
you merge with the universe and you reach a state beyond individual
consciousness. So for these kinds of people, they should take part
more in this kind of prayer; where they can let their emotion flow totally.
Singing and dancing in a devotional state can be very powerful medium
to merge with the super consciousness.
Then the fourth is the sakshi bhav (to be an observer). It is also called
Raj yoga. It is becoming a witness to all the events. It is for the matured
state of mind. It can be taken as the fourth step. Once you are able to
concentrate on your action, thought and emotion, the next is to be an
observer. Here you just observe everything that is happening around.
Buddha says this is mindfulness. It is when you are aware about
everything that is happening around you. It is practicing awareness.
Awareness is the alchemy. The secret of all the inner transformation is

awareness. In awareness you can't be angry, you can't be jealous.
Awareness converts everything into its best form. Awareness is a self
sufficient practice to make inner transformation.
Sakhi yoga is to be an observer. In this you can sit for meditation, you
can observe all false layers that obscure the true self. See all your anger
and nervousness as temporary ripples on a placid lake. And diminish
this entire minor disturbance to get attuned with eternal peace,
harmony and stability.
These are the four ways you can choose to reach to Godhood. The
more you focus on to these the more closer you come to nature, the
more you are attuned with the self.
Breathing: Essential Life Force

When you are intentionally moving towards the truth, you need not do
anything. The entire universe pushes you towards the goal, because
everything is coming out of the eternal source and is moving towards
the same. All you need to do is just not oppose nature or the universe.
You may not grow just because the barrier is developed by yourself.
Your breath can help you in spiritual growth. It consists of essential life
force. How you breathe affects your being to a great extent. The
Vipassana mediation is totally focused on breathing. It was the only
method, only mediation that lord Buddha used for his disciples. In this
process you have to focus on your breathing. Do deep breathing and
observe it totally. Take your body as a machine, which is only meant for
breathing. See the oxygen entering inside; observe the standstill before
you exhale it. See the breath going out, again be standstill with breathe,
before inhaling. Be tuned with inhale - standstill - exhale -stand still.
Once you are tuned with your breathing pattern, you start slipping down
into your inner wisdom. This is the easiest possible way to sink into the
source.
Another practice is "Tao - Pran Sadhana". In this you have to bring your
breathe up to your stomach. Breathe deeply and slowly. Focus on
exhaling and not on inhaling. Put all your energy on exhaling and don't
try to inhale. Let it be by itself. You have to consider yourself as your
breath. When breath goes out, think you went out and the breath comes
inside so you. Once you have tuned your breath, you are tuned with the
universe; you are one with the inner consciousness. You can see
glimpses of the almighty.
Start practicing these without any expectation, because it may work as

a blockage. There is so much possibilities, when you have left your
entire grip, even of expectation. It helps you many ways. It eliminates
the blocks at your mental and emotional plane. It helps you to unite with
the universal consciousness.
Cleansing Body, Thought and Feeling

The main goal of a spiritual life is to attain the transcendental level, state
of pure awareness. To be capable of this you need total cleansing. You
have three layers and all need to be pure, empty to be merged with the
super soul. Your layers are
1- Body
2- Thought
3- Feeling
To get a cleansing of body, purification of body you should take care of

three things. These are right food, right exercise or work and right sleep.
The food you take affects your body, personality and so the being. You
should take natural foods as much as possible. Right exercise and work
is necessary for the movement of the body. Here right means in a
balanced way, neither less like a lazy person nor too much like a
workaholic. And the third thing is right sleep. All of you have different
required time to complete your sleep. Right, here means you should not
sleep more than what is required for you.
After body you should focus on your thought. Your thought should be of
friendliness towards everyone. You should be thankful for everything,
everyone. You should entertain only positive thoughts, full of love,
happiness and peace.
The third plane is of feeling and emotion. You should have only feeling
for the outer word that is of friendliness or love. For the world of action,
you should have a feeling of joy, and for your emotions either of
happiness or of pain you should take them as same.
In this way you need to take care of your body, thought and feeling. If all
these are in balance, harmony, peace, it helps you to grow well on the
absolute scale of life. All the three are interconnected. If one is disturbed
the other is disturbed.
Truth Is the Way

Once a person asked me, "tell me something, so that I can get best out
of my life". I decided to tell him something that worked for me. I told him,
"If you really want to do anything in your life, start speaking the truth". I
told him this, as I really wanted to tell him something that works without
failure. But my mistake was that I didn't observe the practicality of life
and difficulty in this path. The only thing I observed was the
effectiveness of this, at many levels. Can you expect what happened
after this? He explained me for the next fifteen minutes with all the logic
and example about why not to speak the truth.
What is your reaction to the same situation? I hope you would do the
same what that person did. I had the same feeling. But now I have a
very different opinion. I started as an experiment to just see how it
works. And when I did it anyhow, I was amazed by the result. It helped
me in so many ways that was beyond my imagination. It is something
you can experience only by doing it. Once you start speaking the truth, it
may be difficult. But if you want to live a king size life, you can't make it
without total truthfulness.
Once you choose this way, you have a firm base to make a decision, or
conversation. Otherwise you may use profit, advantage as a base for
your conversation. Most of the time you speak a lie is just to get some
advantage. Have you ever thought about how much you have gained
by speaking a lie till now?
Whenever you speak a lie, you loose your congruency. You lose self
integrity, you lose your confidence. You can't lie being connected to
your inner self. Your every lie brings you onto the surface. With every lie,
you speak; you move away one step away from your inner self.
On the other hand, every time you speak truth you are congruent; you
are more attached with your inner self. In your truth you are united,
every aspect of your personality is in harmony, balance, and unity. The
habit of speaking the truth collects your scattered personality. You
experience an unmatched power in you. You get a firm base to take
decision at any stage of life.
When you speak truth, there may be some losses. You may lose few of
your friends. You may lose the people who trusted you. But to keep
someone with you on the basis of a lie, is not justified. So if you really
want to grow spirituality you must start speaking the truth. You can
practice it with following steps
1- Forgive yourself for every lie you have told yet. Do it in total
awareness.
2- Abort the lie that has come to the tongue
3- Abort the lie that is in your thinking and is attempting to come on
the tongue.
By following these steps you can reach a state, when speaking a lie will
be difficult for you. It does not help you directly to connect the source,
but it blocks all the distractions of your life.
Spiritual Truths and Lies

Life is an illusion. Illusion because what you see is not the truth, reality.
To live beyond this illusion that is in reality, is called conscious living. To
reach this state is not so simple. There are chances that you move from
one kind of illusion to another kind.
Lord Mahavira has given some sutras that explain your illusion for life.
People should be aware of following three things
1- Desire of happiness in outer world , physical world

2- Hope of immortality in the kingdom of body
3- Expectation of truth in the kingdom of heart, mind
These are the three major mistakes that people commit repeatedly. It is
your experience of this life as well as many past lives. All your efforts
towards happiness in the outer world produce nothing but movement
from one kind of pain to another. The sooner you understand the better
for you. It does not mean there are no happiness, peace and pleasure. It
is, but you should search it at right place to get it. And the right place is
within you and not the outer world. Get connected with your inner self
and get your pot filled.
You should understand that life is a mystery. It cheats you. You ask for
happiness but you get pain. You can observe this in your life. Observe,
think about the moment, when you did something and expected
happiness and what you received was pain. A bachelor gets married
with lots of dreams, what he gets is known to you. Life behaves with you
in same way all the time.
The second mistake that you commit is to forget that your body is meant
to be dead. You feel as if your body is immortal, it will be with you for
infinite time. This feeling does not push you to know and realize
something that is beyond body phenomenon. If you remind your mind,
remind yourself that your body is to be dead soon, it pushes your

attention, focus to something that is beyond death. If there is this feeling
in your mind, your entire focus, consciousness will start flowing towards
inner self, the truth.
The third blunder that you do is to expect truth in your mind and heart.
Truth is beyond mind phenomenon. Whatever comes in your
understanding, in your mind through your intelligence can't be the truth.
Always keep these three diamond sutras in your mind. Once you realize
that happiness is not in the outer world, you would turn inward. Once
you are conscious about your death you are awakened. And the third
never think that truth can be attained by merely understanding it
intellectually.
Awareness - The Alchemy

The summary of the entire spiritual message is hidden in a secret key.
This secret key is the awareness. If you want to take a single lesson
from this chapter and a single from the entire book, it is the awareness.
It is the alchemy; you can change your entire life if you only bring
awareness into your practice, into your life.
Although it sounds simple but it needs practice to be habitual of it. In all

the path of yoga or mediation or anything, everywhere you are
practicing awareness. Awareness is the center of the teachings of
many masters. Osho has also stressed maximum on awareness.
Awareness is the alchemy. All the unwanted things that you do either
out of anger, jealousy, hatred, fear or anything; is all due to lack of
awareness. In awareness it is impossible to be angry, to hate same one,
to abuse, to steal, or any such activity. Awareness means being totally
awakened, being totally conscious.
Although it sounds very easy and simple to bring into action, it is not so.
You should start practicing it from small things first. You can practice
awareness on following
1- Breathing
2- Walking
3- Listening voice of birds
In the beginning, you may lack concentration again and again, but bring
it back. You can observe yourself while walking. It is always like being
where you are. In awareness you remain cool, calm, because all
worries are linked with either future or past thoughts.
Awareness helps you on many levels. Once you have practiced

awareness on small things, you can practice it on major issues as
anger. In total awareness anger turns into gratitude.
Awareness is the secret of spirituality. If you want to take a bath in

Godhood, if you want to see the glimpse of God within you, choose the
path that suits you. Start practicing awareness through various
mediums. If you do this consistently without any expectation and with
patience, soon you would find yourself in the ocean of truth. Now let us
move towards self mastery…
12
SELF MASTERY
You have learned many principles to govern any dimension of your life.
When you apply these to your life consistently, you will find yourself in a
very balanced and abundant situation. When you attain a self adequate
personality, able to face any situation of life in a healthy way; it is self
mastery. It is the state, when you are not dependent on any one for your
happiness and growth. Now you have total control and grip over various
dimensions of your life.
When you are mature in your living, when external condition does not
shake your balance, when you walk on the path you have chosen, when
little 1turbulence don't affect you, you have attained self mastery. It is
not about being a winner. It is going beyond the game of success and
failure. It is like gaining something that is bigger than success, and this
is the realization of the self and a natural harmony in life.
You can achieve it by taking charge of life and monitoring it well in the
entire six dimensions. It is like getting perfect health. It comes out of
mature living. And you get mature, if you live your life with awareness.
Self mastery should be one of the goals of your life. It is living with
insight. Here you can decide what is right, what is wrong with your
insight. You need not to borrow other's experience and knowledge to
take personal decisions in your life.
This book prepares you to attain self mastery. In this chapter again
there are some necessary points to accomplish it. Few people say
emotional mastery is self mastery, because your life goes on this
sphere most of the time. Emotional mastery is a major concern of self
mastery, but you can get this when there is balance, harmony and
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stability in all other dimensions of your life.
Keep the entire Six Dimensions Healthy

The definition of health is that it does not draw your attention. You feel
the presence of your head, when there is headache. And if there is a
headache, to cure it is the first priority. Lives of most of the people go on
to develop disease consciously or unconsciously and then cure it to get
healthy. This disease may be financial, physical, mental, emotional,
social, or spiritual. If you are aware about your entire health before there
is any problem, you can save much of your efforts.
If you want to make most of your life, the first step should be to take care
of your perfect health, harmony and balance. Then next you should
choose the direction and action that suits your personality. Now the
absolute growth that you want can be achieved through your chosen
direction. You can observe where you find yourself on the absolute
scale of life.
In short, your goal is to live your life in total awareness so that you can
come out of your individual consciousness and merge with the super
consciousness. You can reach here, if you walk on the right path. And
the right path is the work about which you are passionate. When you
work on your interest or passion; it is hard to live under your individual
consciousness. You can achieve it with the help of proper
channelization of your energy and focus.
You can divide your life journey in two parts first to maintain harmony,
balance, and health. And second to develop the higher aspects of
personality through work, love or art. When all the six dimensions of
your life are healthy, the first goal is achieved. Following are the six
dimensions
1- Physical life
2- Financial life
3- Mental life
4- Emotional life
5- Social life
6- Spiritual life
If you take charge of your focus you can be at the place where you want
to be. You can live a very happy, mature and satisfied life. Although in
present social system it is a challenge for every individual. You are too
occupied with the TV, media, newspaper, market and they are all
growing, using your attention. So start monitoring your power and
energy with your focus. You work for your health, your finance, your
relations, these are more important. And it is not a selfish act. It is being
a self balanced and self adequate personality. It is working to get to a
condition where you can help others well, because any charity starts
from the self.
Be Aware of Your Moves

Life is nothing but joints of different moves. Awareness is the key of
happiness, growth, prosperity and everything you desire. Life is full of
pain, miseries, limitation in general, only because of unconscious
movement. You are not conscious about your actions rather are
concerned about result you are getting. You don't find any relation
between your work and the results. If you want to change the effect,
change the cause. You can do that only if you are aware of your moves.
If you want to attain self mastery, you need to be aware of your every
move. You need not block your action, just observe it. Once you start
observing your moves, your direction, and your decision, you will get all
the answer that you may be searching for.
In awareness, it is very difficult to make any move which may be harmful

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for you. You should have a very good bonding with you. You can
develop this quality by self conversation. So by observing your move,
you can control, monitor, shape your life the way you want. You can
choose a direction that goes towards your destiny.
Make Law of Attraction Your Allies

In chapter two, you have learned in detail the law of attraction and
power of subconscious mind. It says that you are working all the time
and so you are producing results all the time. Every moment your
thought, feeling and action are shaping your possibilities. The kind of
waves you emit, the similar situation you attract. If you are habitual to
criticize, you are attracting more and more situations to criticize. If you
are happy, satisfied in your thought and words, you are attracting more
cause of being happy, cherished and blissful.
Nature listens to you all the time; so you must speak to it about what you
desire. Always govern your thoughts, feelings, words and actions. If you
want to master life, just master these four. You may find it difficult
because your focus is always on external situations. When there is
negativity in external situation, then you turn negative. When it is good,
you are happy. If this is the situation, you would remain slave of the
situation.
So in your daily life, make the law of attraction your allies. Use this as
your biggest resource. Try to be positive about your habitual thought,
feeling, words and action, even in difficult situations. Then only you can
feel yourself the master of life.
Keep Enemies Out of Gate

If you want to live a peaceful, happy and prosperous life, you should
know all the negative elements. You should keep them distant in term of
physical situation as well as mental. First of all you should know very
clearly, what may work as your enemy or distracting element. We have

discussed these in detail in chapter five. Here you may review to keep in
mind to handle obstacles. Here is the list of distracting elements.
1- Limiting belief
2- Poisonous hetero suggestion
3- News , media , television
4- Family , social , religious constraints
5- Worry , fear , frustration
6- Habit of blaming , criticizing , complaining
7- Over expectation and attachment
8- Ego
So these are the factor that make you unhappy, block your growth and
harm your life to a great extent. You should check all your limiting belief.
It is your idea, thought that you can't live life as you wish. Life is a huge
opportunity. Don't waste it, bowing in front of your dwarf beliefs. All
those who are living their dream life, did not believe the limiting belief
developed by family, friends and society. If you want the same, replace
all limiting belief with wealthy ones.
The second factor to avoid is hetero suggestion. It is something which

surrounds you most of the time. It is so because most of the people are
negative. And they are spreading this negativity among others. To
maintain a happy, prosperous life, avoid any such suggestion, even if it
is by your well wishers.
After this, there is news, media and television to offer you a new
addiction and discomfort in a very sweet way. They are playing a toxic
role in your life. the world is full of good people. There are so many
respectful activities happening all around the word. But news, media,
TV, don't cover them. They are only interested in covering the news of
crime, rape, scandals, robbery and similar, because it is very easy to
collect news from a police station. This is hampering your life to such an
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extent that you can't imagine. To avoid the side effect of these either
disconnect from these or be very mature, sincere and aware about
these.
The next factor is social constraints. There are many people suffering
due to groundless constraints developed by their family, society or
religion. The realities of life are speaking loud but people are deaf and
dumb. So should you quit these? Not exactly, but try to think about and
care more about the happiness of people rather than blind beliefs. Don't
compromise with your peace, happiness and growth. And those who
want to maintain this system, should cure it.
Finally there is your attachment, ego, expectation that causes stress,

pain and blocks your growth. Choose to go only with those attitudes that
bring happiness, peace, and harmony in your life. Be aware of these
eight factors. How to get rid of these is the content of the book. But first
of all you should be willing to work on these. Your intention does half of
the job.
Grow Your Emotional Garden

Having total control over your emotion, feeling, and state of mind is one
of major concerns for self mastery. With little knowledge, some practice
and adequate awareness you can achieve this state. People work to
get a joyful state of mind. You can get a positive state, whatsoever the
situation is. All the skills required for this is explained in detail in chapter
seven.
One of most powerful tools to monitor and change your emotional state
is your physiology. To maintain a negative, worried state of mind you
need similar physiology. Similarly in a positive, confident physiology, it
is difficult for you to be worried. Means you can always be positive and
happy just by maintaining a similar physiology.
So to grow in your emotional garden, pour more and more love into your
life. Live in creativity, beauty and expansion. Know your passion, work
for it. Do it in different, creative ways. Don't suppress your feelings,
desires. If you express your feeling easily and frequently, it helps to
nurture your emotions. The more you express it the stronger you get
here.
Practice forgiveness, free them who have ever hurt you. Keep only the
memory of positive events or incidents. Practice the art of being
mentally insulated with negativity. Be good at memory management.
You have a child within you. Don't let him grow. Involve yourself in some
activity where your inner child is loved, nurtured. Practice detachment
with the outer world and attachment with the inner world. Monitor self
disclosure, don't open yourself with everyone. Do more and more self
conversation. Be your best friend to listen, share and talk with.
You should be emotionally strong. You must be strong enough to face

any turbulence in your life. You can be emotionally strong by facing
tough situations head on. When you are ready and available to face
tough time rather than developing an escapist attitude, your emotion is
strengthened. The power, strength, stamina of a person is measured by
his emotional strength, because in adverse situations you are
emotionally broken. That is the characteristic of a weak person.
Relationship, A Place to Share Happiness

Relationship is a very important dimension of your life. You are very
much affected by people around you. If you know the art of managing
people and relationships, it works as a source of happiness.
Relationships help your emotion to flow naturally. Everyone wants to be
in a good relationship. You may lack here, due to lack of knowledge,
guidance and small mistakes.
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Being good at relationships has become necessary in the present

world. You should know to manage this as you are linked with people in
many ways. You should keep few points in mind for healthy a
relationship. These are the following
1- The foundation of any relation is to understand the individual

2- A relationship requires constant touch through communication
3- In a relationship every small care, kindness counts a lot
4- Being committed is very necessary for strong bonding
5- Personal integrity and trust is the backbone
6- Apologize openly whenever there is some mistake from your side
With these six points in mind, you can make your relationship a place to
share happiness, pleasure and problems. Good relationships are very
necessary for emotional health as well. Many persons don't understand
the value of relationship. They undervalue it until they reach a time,
when lack of relationship and social life affect their life badly.
Apart from having a good relationship with your friends, relatives and
colleagues, you must know the art of influencing people. You can't
make relationship with everyone but you can make everyone happy by
your behavior skill. Make others feel better with your good behavior and
habits. Following are the points you should keep in your mind
1- Admire and praise people sincerely

2- Take interest in others
3- Never tell others their mistakes
4- Be a good listener
5- Avoid argumentation at any cost
So by using these two arts, one of good relationship and other of

influencing people, you can maintain a very good social life. A happy,
prosperous, good social life helps you to maintain your mental and
emotional health.
Strengthen and Use Your Key Players

If you want your life to keep growing, keep flowering, you must
strengthen and use your key tools. These tools help you to get
excellence in your work, profession and personal life. You should keep
the absolute scale of life in your mind as it helps to get a very clear vision
for your life.
Let us review the powerful tools to be aware of them and use them as
much as is possible
1- Belief
2- Visualization
3- Autosuggestion
4- Gratitude
5- Motivation
6- Power of intension
7- Goals
8- Decision making
9- Power of focus
10- State and memory management
11- Persistence
These are the habits, attitude and tools that bring the desired changes
in your life. So to win the race of life, to get a balanced life, to touch
excellence level in your work, profession and quality of life, you should
practice these properly and regularly. If you are consistent in the use of
this knowledge, soon you can get a life full of abundance and prosperity.
Taking Responsibility
Life is full of various colors. Few make you happy and few may make
you upset. You can use every incident in a constructive way. For this
you should take responsibility of it.
Although taking responsibility may be a little difficult, it helps you to

expand your personality. It helps you to prepare for the future. It helps
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you to increase the quality of your life. Another possibility is to blame,

criticize and complain. This is a poisonous step because it harms you at
many levels.
"When you know, you are only responsible, you start flowering "
- Osho
Taking responsibility helps you to grow. It makes you aware about what
is still missing in your personality. You get the opportunity to grow
because of your drawbacks. Realize that you are only responsible for
your life. It is a mental work. It may require working on your expectations
and few other habits.
Joy of Maturity
Self mastery comes out of maturity. And maturity comes out of living a
full life, but in awareness. Maturity is a state of mind that comes out of
experience. This is a feeling when you are beyond success and failure,
pain and happiness, black and white. It is the stage when you have
overcome these conflicts.
"Ripeness is all" - Nietzsche

You can't develop this trait intellectually. You can develop this only by
living and experiencing. It is like a ripe fruit. It is a very balanced, stable
and harmonious state. Your life gradually moves towards this stable
state. But to attain this you should not suppress your intense desire for
happiness and success. All that you can do to attain a matured state is
live full in whatever phase of life you are. When you are child be a total
child, when you are youth, do all youthful activity. It is like you have lived
all extremities and now you have realized the joy of being on the centre.
So let your life move towards the centre, where there is lasting
harmony, balance and stability.
Taking Spiritual Bathe

There are different kinds of fun in different dimensions of life. All these
are transitory and boring after some time. You can experience real and
lasting joy on a spiritual sphere only. Your spiritual growth helps you to
connect to the source, the inner self.
There are so many paths that you can use to get this union with the
omnipotence. The purpose is to be out of your individual
consciousness, your ego. The actual and total meaning of self mastery
comes from this dimension. The other aspects are just to unblock your
path to reach this aspect of life. Once you have a good bonding with
your inner self, you realize the inner riches. You can feel what you were
searching for, in the outer world and could not get, is all available here in
abundance. All the love, joy, peace, happiness that you were searching
in the physical world, is available within you. You feel that you heart is
overflowing with abundance, joy, love, and peace. Self mastery flowers,
once you have attained this state. It gives you an insight to live with.
You should choose the path which suits your personality. Don't keep
any kind of expectation, because it is to make you free yourself from all
the things. Any attachment with any thought or expectation blocks the
possibility. Following are the ways.
1. Karma Yoga
2. Gyan Yoga
3. Bhakti Yoga
4. Sakshi Yoga
Spiritual awakening is the most important aspect of human life. This is

the flowering of a human being in the life journey.
Self Management
Doing the things right is called management. Self management is very
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necessary for a qualitative and purposeful life. It is to know your priority,

to choose your action and that is based on your goal and responsibility.
For effective self management, first of all you should know your goal,
your vision of life and your mission of life. After this you should know
your strength as well as your present drawbacks. You should focus on
your drawbacks to overcome it as soon as possible. You should
develop all those qualities to move towards your goal in life. You should
pour your entire energy with the help of focus onto your mission, or
short term goal.
You should keep four things in your mind goal, strength, resources and
weakness. And based on these you can set the priorities in your life. You
can use these priorities to take minor and major decision, choices in
your life. You should take proper care of your happiness and peace of
mind all the time. In this way with proper self management you can live
in the present happiness and move towards your goal. In this way you
can manage to get a meaningful life for yourself as well as for others.
The Absolute Self Management

Now when we have touched almost every aspect, dimension of
practical life, we are heading towards self management and self
orientation. As this is one of the most important topics, it should have
been in the very beginning. But there must be some special fruit for
those who touch the last wall.
Till now you were exploring, learning and understanding every aspect
of life. Like you were observing the factors that you manage, work with,
now you are learning about the manager or temporary doer. The word
temporary doer is used because it is expected that you are trying to
realize God as doer.
Now a question arises that, if only God is the doer then what your
responsibility is. To understand this, take your life as a big business

system with so many staffs. And you perform your part of responsibility
and don't worry about how the business runs.
Playing your responsibility well is the self management, without

worrying how everything will happen. The role and goal of temporary
doer is to know where you have to walk and try to walk in that direction.
Whether you reach there or not is not your concern. Where you'd reach
is the result that depends on many other people, factors; and you are
only one of them.
Self management can be divided in two parts. One includes very small
things, small responsibilities as managing routine work and pressure.
The second part is the actual self management. Where you play your
part and wait for the outcome. It can be in your favor or not. To
understand that anything that happens is in your favor; is the real self or
emotional intelligence. It is realizing the Krishna philosophy that
whatever is happening is good.
If you understand the truth, reality and practicality of the life, most of the
self management is done naturally. For an egocentric person, self
management is the toughest job; while for opposite it is not even a job.
So your goal should be to know and realize, what make you free for any
such management.
For day to day life, you can write your responsibilities on a paper. It will
help your mind to manage your life. Always be clear about your present
focus. For example the present focus for a person may be his career,
while for a housewife; it may be the peace, happiness and growth of her
family.
Don't engage your mind always in managing things. There can be three
210 Self Mastery
state of mind. One when you are thinking that what are your
responsibilities and planning to manage it. Second you'd act as you
have planned. At this time don't think anything, just work and enjoy it.
Third is the state when you are free from everything. No thinking, no
work. It is zero state, empty state of mind. When you are in this state, it is
called true worship. So this is the best self management. You may think
that how you can do this practically, as various thoughts, pressures
comes all the time. The answer is, you'd have to work on you to reach
the stage when you are able to manage like this. You'd achieve this after
the learning process. Once you are able to manage yourself like this,
you'd realize the ultimate peace, happiness and harmony.
One more aspect you should keep in your mind for self management.
Keep the six dimensions of health in your mind. And observe which
dimension is lacking, then improve on that dimension. All you want is
success, wealth, peace, happiness and contentment. You can get this
only when you have complete balance in the entire six dimensions.
Most of the people commit a common mistake in this concern. Those

who are financially strong are still heading in the same direction. They
are facing problem because they are not giving attention to other
necessary dimension. There are people who are spiritually sound but
financially broken. There are people good at social, mental and
emotional health but weak at financial. So you must know where you
are lacking and work on that to attain a perfect balance.
Now You and Me

Let us spend some time together. As you have read the complete book,
it ensures various conscious and unconscious growths in your
personality.
The book is almost the reflection of life. As there are so many different
faces of life, even few are very contradictory, so is the content of the
book. The objective of this book is to understand you, nurture you and
strengthen as well.
You can get most of it if you'd read it with your heart, mind and soul. It
works on many aspects of your personality. And the beauty is that most
of the work is done unconsciously.
I am open for any suggestion, comment and feedback from you. My

entire effort is to assist you in the process of self development, and to
achieve success, health, happiness, wealth, peace and spiritual
growth. I'd welcome your most valuable suggestion and would
implement it.
In the end, I'd like to thank you whole heartedly for reading this book
completely. I wish, pray God for your personal and professional life to
blossom. I am very happy and very much convinced that this book will
do miracle in your life by giving you love, light and much needed
knowledge. I wish for everyone to attain the state of utter balance,
peace and harmony. I'd always be there to help you through this book,
coming books, our most valuable training programs and counseling
services. For details read further.
About Author
Vivek rathore is the founder and director of Ritam - School of Mastering

Life, a training and counseling services firm. He is B. Tech graduate by
qualification. He had very clear inclination towards psychology,
understanding life, secret to success, peace, motivation, training and
spirituality. So he started exploring, learning and practicing in the same
direction. Soon he realized that this is the field where he can spend his
rest of the life. He is very much passionate about this field because in
this way he can help himself as well as others. He has adequate
mastery over spirituality, life management skill, human psychology,
motivation, success principles, law of attraction and many others.
He has devised a complete education system that ensures success,

peace and growth. He is committed to spend his life to facilitate
success, life satisfaction and a meaningful life to every individual. This
book and Ritam is just the first step in this direction. To know about his
education system read about Ritam.
Ritam- School of mastering life
Ritam is training and counseling firm, run by Mr. Vivek Rathore. Ritam is
in existence to fulfill many needs and expectations of people in the field
of training, motivation, business growth and spirituality. Here we offer a
complete education system that bridges you to success, peace and
satisfaction from career and life.
We are very focused to make you professionally sound, financially

strong and to maintain the balance in life. We believe in long term go, so
spirituality is the background from where we think, work and act.
Truthfulness, honesty and giving are our core philosophy.
We cover every aspect of business growth, so we include employee

motivation, conditioning of mind, leadership development, art of selling,
thinking quotient, customer service, stress management, work life
balance, spiritual growth and much more.
Hence we ensure an overall growth of a organization as well as of a

individual at the same time.
Ritam offers
1. A complete education system that ensures success, balance in life
and spiritual growth.
2. Customized training programs for organization on business
development, sales, employee motivation, work life balance,
leadership development and many others.
3. Keynote speeches, motivational training and trainings on success,
leadership, law of attraction, wealth mastery, NLP and many others
4. Spiritual talks
5. Personal counseling session
Ritam's Education system
The goal of ritam is to facilitate every individual to every organization a

life full of success, peace and satisfaction. One can achieve this only
with the help of a powerful education system. We at ritam have
developed the same. Our education system has three levels
Level 1 Mastering Success

Level 2 Balance and harmony in life
Level 3 Spirituality - the taste of God
Mastering Success
This course focuses totally on professional success, career or financial
dimension. As this is very basic, necessary and important, it is our prime
focus. This course include three steps
Step 1 Power of thought and belief

Step 2 Leadership development
Step 3 Visionary success
Balance and harmony in life

There are six dimensions of our life or health. These are physical,
mental, emotional, social, financial and spiritual. One can feel happy
and satisfied, if he has right balance in all the six. To attain balance and
harmony in life we should have right knowledge. This course includes
following
1. Relationship mastery
2. Emotional mastery
3. Wealth mastery
4. Work life balance
Spirituality - the taste of God

The supreme possibility of your personality is spiritual. We can never
live a meaningful and satisfied life without spiritual growth. As real love
make your life charming so the spirituality, inner riches do. It is the only
real and lasting gain one can experience.
The only intelligence that is healthy and in everyone's favor is spiritual.
Here we cover
1. Basics of spirituality
2. Spiritual practices
3. Spiritual talks
4. Spirituality in work and daily life
5. The Buddha hood
Other topics for training

Our education system ensures complete success, balance and
satisfaction from career as well as life. We also deliver trainings on
selected topics, these are following
1. Law of attraction or power of subconscious mind

2. Art of selling
3. Motivation and success
4. Leadership development
5. Business development
6. Network marketing business
7. Personality and self development
8. PR and customer service
9. Financial intelligence
10. Spirituality in work
11. Career development
Enquire about public and in house programs from
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Making Life Meaningful

Know life in its totality, live it full and get a

Ritam Publishing House

First Edition 2012

No part of this book may be reproduced or

Unit 1. Common Struggling Man to Uncommon King

1. Observe your move- the beginning of

Why you don't grow naturally ..........................................................22

2. Art & science of winning first challenge ..............30

The practical challenges ................................................................ 31

3. Get wealthy Kingdom to move ahead .................. 45

What decides your monetary fate? ................................................ 46

Unit 2. Making Even Devil Work for You

4. Our natural desires - a possibility or disaster ....61

Various needs and desires ........................................................... 61

5. Identify and kill the real enemy ........................... 74

Your connection to inner and outer world .................................... 75

6. Managing and growing with dark side ............... 87

Tough time and possibility ........................................................... 88

Unit 3. Plant Tree of Joy, Peace and Success

7. Become an emotional emperor .......................... 105

8. Empowering relationships ....................................................126

Why you need relation, why not .................................................. 126

9. Mastering key tools to reach the top ................. 141

Make the universe work for you .................................................. 141

Unit 4. Awaken Your Buddha

10. Understanding the possibilities of life ............ 161

11. Doubting God to being God .............................. 177

Why people doubt......................................................................... 178

12. Self mastery ....................................................... 197

Keep the entire six dimensions healthy ....................................... 198

What This Book Is All About?

Why Everyone Must Read This Book?

For Whom Is This Book?

that is needed is a little awareness and a little interest in life. The

Everyone wants wealth, good relationship, happy emotions, and

What Motivated Me To Write This Book?

Meanwhile I met a temporary failure in my studies. Although I was not

I managed my financial issue somehow. But I decided that I won't let it

I poured my entire energy into learning and understanding all aspects of

I directed my focus into the world of learning, to get solutions to my

How This Will Work For You?

Now, when the book is complete and in the queue to publish, I am

On the physical sphere I am very thankful to my mother Smt. Malati

I am thankful to my father Shri Ambika Singh for leaving me alone

I am grateful to my sister Vineeta Singh for believing in my talent and

I am thankful to my brothers Ashutosh Singh, for being a really good

I am very thankful to all my clients at Ritam - School of Mastering Life,

●Have you accepted, "Life is struggle, a hell" that you have to

seen in any of your action or decision of life?

feel they are winner of life?

have earned throughout your life is no more able to make you

person thinks that what approach should be taken to make maximum

Why You Don't Grow Naturally

Why This Is Necessary

Success is not something which has a fixed definition or experience for

In the process of self development, you produce excellent result in your

So in the journey of common person to uncommon king the very first

The Meaning of Transformation

The transformation is the second step in the process of getting a

Know and Get the Perfect Health

You can recognize these dimensions of life as aspects of your health

Objective of This Chapter

This book works in the same direction, to bring out a meaningful