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Narration Essay
1 October 2020
A single-parent family may not be portrayed as the ideal family, but is it really all that
bad? In “In Defense of Single Motherhood,” Katie Roiphe, an American author, argues that in
spite of society viewing single motherhood negatively, single parenting can positively impact
children. Growing up I have seen many of my friends being raised by only one parent, but they
did not turn out any differently than my two-parent household friends. Although single
motherhood is viewed negatively, it can actually have positive implications: kids who are raised
by single parents can still be happy and successful, do not have to deal with as much adult
While it may be true that the typical household includes two parents, a child can still be
happy and successful even if she lives with only one parent. My parents were divorced when my
brother and I were young, so we were raised by our mother most of the time. Though this was
hard for my mother, I believe that this not only shaped us as people but shaped her as well.
While living with our mother, she showed us how to be independent and hard working. For
example, one cold winter morning as we were trying to get out of our driveway, my mother's
wheels started spinning. Rather than her getting frustrated that we were going to be late to
school, she kept her composure and walked down to the house to get a shovel. She shoveled
snow all the way up the driveway in the freezing weather by herself while my brother and I got
out and made snow angels. At the time, all my brother and I saw was that we were going to miss
some of school; however, we now realize that even though it was hard at times, having a single
mother showed us that we can do anything we put our minds to as long as we have positive
attitudes.
In addition to kids being happy and successful in single-parent households, some kids are
happier living with only one parent because they do not have to watch conflict between two
adults they love. Before two-parent families split, some children view conflict everyday, which
could have a negative impact on them. I do not remember my parents fighting, but I do
remember my aunt and uncle fighting all the time. My cousins had to endure this on a daily basis
throughout their childhood. My uncle was not only physically abusive, but he was verbally
abusive as well. As a kid, I remember putting ornaments on the Christmas tree with my family
and hearing my dad's phone go off. All I can remember after that was seeing him hang up the
phone, throw his shoes on, and rush out the door. Soon enough I found out my cousin had called
crying hysterically because her dad would not calm down. When my cousin tried to break up the
fight between her mother and father, he grabbed her wrists and pushed her into the dining room
table. When my dad got back with my aunt and my cousin, I was distraught that my family went
through this. To this day my cousin faces what happened every day. Even though the amount of
parents we had was different, her situation still stood out as worse than mine because she had to
Even though children in single-parent homes grow up without father or mother figures on
a daily basis, there are always people along the way who are willing to act as those role models.
To be a role model, a person has to play an important role in someone's life. I have two people
who have been role models to me. My great-great-aunt Ellen was the most selfless person I have
ever met. She would always put herself last in the equation. As a kid, I went to her house
frequently because of my parents’ divorce. Each time she would ask what I wanted to eat, and
those foods would magically appear on the table an hour later.. She wanted to make sure I was
happy. She was the most kind-hearted person all the way up until she passed. She was definitely
as we call her, does not put up with anyone's nonsense. She will make her voice heard without
having to speak up. When my parents got divorced, my mother took almost everything from my
father. He lived in his parents’ house and had to start over with his life. Although my grammy
was my mom’s mother, she saw the struggle her ex-son-in-law was going through and helped
him by paying for some clothes and other necessities for us. Whenever my mom found out about
this, she was furious. However, did that stop Grammy from helping my dad? No, it did not.
Grammy showed me that no matter what the circumstances may be, I need to stand up for what I
It may be true that any child can endure hardships during her life, but those struggles
should not be measured on the basis of two-parent versus one-parent households. Single mothers
can raise happy, successful kids who do not have to deal with much adult conflict and who have
multiple role models. Roiphe points out that “Suffering is everywhere, and married parents, even
happily married parents, raise screwed-up or alcoholic or lost children, just as single parents raise
strong, healthy ones” (60). Society may view single motherhood negatively, but there are
countless reasons why it can be positive; no matter the number of parents a child has, she can
turn out well if she has been the product of good parenting.
Work Cited
Roiphe, Katie. "In Defense of Single Motherhood." Acting Out Culture: Readings for Critical
Inquiry, by James S. Miller, 3rd ed., Bedford/St. Martin's, 2015, pp. 58-60.