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by Fran Ponick
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Introduction 1
Reasons for Not Giving a Eulogy 2
Saying “No, Thank You,” with Kindness 5
How to Be Helpful Anyway 8
Other Options … 10
Prayer and Blessings 11
Poetry 12
Prose 13
Music 14
Community Participation 15
Silence 16
Conclusion: Saying No Is Not the End 17
Introduction
Chapter One
Reasons for Not Giving a Eulogy
Chapter Two
How to Say “No, Thank You”
with Kindness
choice.”
Chapter Three
How to Be Helpful
Even if You Aren’t Giving the
Eulogy
step in.
Chapter Four
Other Options to Consider
Spontaneous Prayer
Strange as it may seem, spontaneous prayer, whether
public or private, is usually learned and/or taught. When
people are depending upon you for comfort, it’s best to
give them what you believe you can provide successfully.
Original Prayer
Writing your own brief prayer for the deceased person
is entirely appropriate.
A Scriptural Passage
Reading a short excerpt from the scriptures is another
good idea. Consult with the priest or minister to ensure
that the passage you select is appropriate and does not
duplicate any that are already part of the service.
Poetry
Well-known Poetry
There is probably at least as much poetry appropriate to
funerals as there is prose. Select one that you know you
can read easily and that you audience won’t have to strain
to understand.
Prose
Music
Community Participation
Silence
Introduction
Say, “This eulogy is simple. Let’s honor Mary Jo with a few
moments of silence. Please give some thought to who she
was. What particular characteristic did she leave in your
heart that you want to keep forever?
A Moment of Silence
Plan for about 30–60 seconds of silence. Resume speaking
when you see signs of motion in the congregation.
Conclusion
Say, “Sometimes silence can be more profound than
works. Thank you for allowing each other to share a
moment of silence in memory of Mary Jo. May we continue
to remember her name and our love for her in the days
that follow.”
Then quietly go back to your seat.
Conclusion:
A Final Word about Invitations
Turn down those you need to, and accept those you can.
Finally, remember: