How To Attract a

Women
KimmyLaz
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Chapter 1: What Women Want in a Man
Confidence: I listed this first as it is paramount
in overall attractiveness. Remember that
confidence does not mean cockiness. You
simply respect yourself, know your value, and
display that through your actions.

Independence: Let her go out with her friends,

and you go out with yours too. Holding on too
tightly to a girl not only shows a lack of
confidence, but it‟s a surefire way of losing her
in the end.
Territorial: While it‟s important to respect each
other‟s independence, women like to feel
important too. While you should never be
possessive, don‟t let another guy hit on her,
and remind her of how beautiful she is every
once in a while.
Sense of Humor: Can you laugh at her jokes?
At yourself? Are you able to convey humor in a
way that‟s congruent to your high status
personality?
Intelligence: You don‟t have to be a rocket
scientist, but an education and common sense
can take you a long way.
Expertise: Along with intelligence comes
expertise. You don‟t have to own a major
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 corporation to display this trait; you simply
have to be passionate about something other
than women, and hone your skills in that area.
Challenging: By having other passions in your
life besides her, you are (in a sense) a
challenge. Women like it when they have to
work for your affections.
Creativity: Find your interests and be able to
communicate why they inspire you.
Class and Culture: Put down the Budweiser and
pick up a brandy (or a Heineken, at the very
least.) Buy some good art for your home, and
visit a museum every once in a while.
Dominance: Believe it or not, women like to feel
subordinate, so don‟t be afraid to tell her where
you’re taking her for dinner. Just don‟t be a
jerk about it.

Thoughtfulness: Now might be a good time to

put that personal organizer to work. It‟ll help
you remember her birthday and other tiny
details to portray a thoughtful nature.
Aggressiveness: Don‟t confuse this with
“dominance.” Being aggressive simply means
going after what you want, whether it be a date
or a promotion at work.
Good Body Language: Do you slouch? Stand up
straight! Look people in the eyes when
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 addressing them, and pick your head up when
walking. Remember that 90 percent of
communication is nonverbal, so make the most
of what you‟re not saying.
Good Sex: women love sex, but there is a right
and wrong way to turn them on. Never neglect
foreplay, learn her “hot spots,” and be
courteous by making sure she finishes first.
Chivalrous: This is one trait that separates the
jerks from the rest of the guys. Open doors for
her; pay her way; be courteous of her needs
and feelings while remaining a challenge in her
eyes.

As you can see, women need a lot of things from

men. The confusion comes from the double talk
that women do; they say one thing but mean
another.

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Chapter 2: How to Attract A Woman: The Best
Ways to Handle Physical Contact
Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital
component of seduction. You can‟t successfully
pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic
level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can
move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping
with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy
amount of touching that works both
ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your
knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and
pull her a little closer – whatever form the
physical contact takes, it has to be present for
you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction.

And that right there is where the

problem for many men lies: how can a guy get
the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and
physical closeness? If the girl‟s not being tactile,
how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness
without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end

up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even
slightly violated because of their rushed
attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide
they don‟t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold
back any kind of touching or bodily
contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong
message, that the guy
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is either not interested in the girl, or that he‟s
simply too timid to show it, neither of which are
attractive scenarios in the mind of a
good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what‟s the
solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic

rules or procedures, all of which conform to the
personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore
don‟t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the
same time clearly indicate that you‟re a confident
guy who‟s not afraid of getting to know girls and
even showing it through casual, relaxed
physical contact.

So, let‟s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way
when they first meet them is an absolute no-no.
But that‟s simply not true. To form a
positive, strong first impression and create an
immediate bond with a girl when you first
introduce yourself or get talking, casually and
gently touch the outside of her right arm while at
the same time verbally expressing something.
The outside of a woman‟s arm is not
intimate enough a place for the touch to feel
strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it‟s
a clear-cut sign that you‟re a personable,
socially adept kind of guy. Don‟t be afraid to give
it a try – you‟ll notice the benefits immediately.
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2. Once you‟ve started a conversation with a girl,
or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a
woman you really like the look of, it‟s important
to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps
maintain the bond and rapport you‟ve already
created and also helps build it further, into
mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use
something called „Stealth Tactility‟ to do this.
Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making
physical contact with the girl in a disguised
way.

For example, if she wants to go to the bar or

bathroom but doesn‟t know the way, you can use
stealth tactility by placing your hand on her
shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swiveling
both of your bodies round until you face in the
right direction, then point
past other people or obstacles with your other
hand to where she needs to go.
3. Lastly, always try to use a „contact close‟ when
you finish your conversation with a girl. For
example, after swapping numbers or
arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the
cheek or a hug and a kiss.

Many men think that the hard work‟s been done

once something‟s been arranged for a later date,
but making physical contact before you part with
a girl is always a great way of ensuring
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she remembers you and really cannot wait
to see you again.

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Chapter 3: Reading HER Body Language
Many guys wonder when a girl is flirting with
them. The funny thing is it‟s not hard to read her
mind – just pay attention to her mannerisms!
This skill is very much learned on an intuitive
level, but it is possible. Look beyond her smile or
words into the whole of her body language to see
if she‟s really into you or not.
When you first spot a girl who catches your eye,
look for signals that she wants you to approach
her. It can be something as small as a smile, or
as large as a hand wave to come over, but you
must learn how to recognize her “green lights.”
Here are a few of the more basic ones:
She smoothes out her clothing.
She puts one or more hands on the hips.
She points her body towards you.
She points her feet towards you.
She smoothes or touches her hair.
She increases the frequency of eye contact.
She maintains eye contact.
She scans your body.
She has flushed or rosy cheeks.
Her pupils are dilated (a GREAT indicator, as she
has virtually no control over it.)
She tosses her head and hair back.
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She exposes her wrists toward you.

She exposes the palms of her hands.

She opens her legs slightly (this demonstrates an
unfulfilled sexual need.)
She sways her hips while walking past you.
She places her hands near her crotch or breasts.
She gives you a sideways glance.
Her lips are wet and slightly open.
So let‟s say you spot a girl who seems to be
displaying one or more of these qualities towards
you.
What’s your next step? If you said approach
her, you‟re right! Once you two are talking, your
new task is to hear what she‟s really saying.
It has been said that “actions speak louder
than words.” It‟s also been said that “talk is
cheap.” With this in mind, switch things up by
paying more attention to how a woman acts, as
opposed to the words coming out of her mouth.
You can sense when there‟s genuine emotion
behind what a person is saying.
To get better at this, go somewhere where
you can observe people (I‟ve always found a local
coffee shop to be a good spot.) Watch people as
they interact, and jot down some notes about
their:

...Actions speak louder than words…

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BONUS
Chapter 5: How to last long in the
bedroom

I had to ask around for this one but there was

one guy I was with who I know had crazy staying
power and I always wondered how he did that I
went to him for this information and this is the
technique that he gave me
He calls the 9 strokes.
• He never gets over excited when he is with a
woman. Always relax
• He makes sure he always makes the woman
have an orgasm long before he enters her this
makes her extra sensitive by the time he goes in.
• When he enters he starts out slowly and works
it deep so she can feel everything deep inside.
• Here is the KEY!!! He counts in his head nine
strokes and when he reaches 72 he pulls out
leaving the head of the penis right at the opening
of the vagina and he begins rubbing on the clit
with his thumb.
• This keeps the women going while he gets a
chance to rest then he just slides back in and
goes for the next 72 strokes.
• He says it gives him total control over how long
he can hold it. Whenever he pulls out he can
regroup and focus and as long as he is playing
with her clit she is not concerned for that time.
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Now guys I am not sure how this will work with
everyone. All I know is that this guy was long
winded and we had great sex for no less than 90
mins I am know you can too if you practice this
technique. 7

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Another Technique for longer lasting sex
Ever heard of arousal step-down techniques?
How about the PC muscle and Kegels?
If you're like most guys, you probably haven't.
And as such, most men - unaware of the
numerous ways they can boost their sexual skill
and 'lasting' power - regularly produce mediocre
performances in bed, leaving themselves
disappointed and the women they're with
disillusioned and usually orgasmless. It's a real
shame.
In a poll, 93% of men asked, said they'd like to
last longer in bed before ejaculating - but 100%
of those men were unaware of how they could
achieve such a seemingly impossible feat.
The truth is, it's not impossible (or even difficult)
to maximize your sexual performance and attain
complete control over how long you boogie for
and generally get on down with the ladies.
So, let's take a look at one sexual method that'll
allow you massive control over your arousal
levels and always give you the choice of when to
cum or when to continue.
During sex, most men begin to lose control of
themselves (in terms of ejaculation!) at around
the 2 or 3 minute mark - which is usually midway
through the first sexual position. And what a
letdown ejaculating at this point would be! So,
that's usually the first point at which you'll use
this technique. It involves two steps. The first
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takes place in your mind - which is the root of
many a male's sexual performance troubles.
1. When you first feel those telltale sensations in
your penis (the heightened sensitivity and energy
that let you know that if you carry on doing what
you're doing you'll soon explode) don't panic! Too
many men are pushed over 8

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the edge, right to ejaculation, because they
mentally begin to panic when they feel they're
close to orgasm. Panic phrases rush through their
heads, like: "Uh oh, I'm gonna blow!" and "Not
again, this is going to be embarrassing." Instead
of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill
your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm,
instead calmly say in your head: "Okay, I'm close
to ejaculating. Time to use an arousal step-down
technique." Then move onto step number two.
2. The most sensitive part of your penis is the
top of the shaft and especially the head. To
decrease its stimulation (without stopping the
'action') slowly and deeply thrust into your
partner, as far as you can go and she can
pleasurably take.
Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic
bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8
inches down from your belly button) on her
vagina. To her, this seems and feels like a
wonderful stroke variation, which gives her
external clitoral stimulation (the number one way
to make any woman orgasm).
However, behind the scenes, it's momentarily
decreasing your stimulation, enabling you to last
longer. This happens because when you plunge
deep into her, your penis enters a wider area of
her vagina, which lessens its contact and
stimulation.

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Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead
of thrusting in and out, which further decreases
the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or
so, your arousal levels will have dropped enough
for you to restart your thrusting.

By using this technique, you're able to

control your urge to pop without stopping
sex and while giving your partner extra
sexual stimulation. Now how much better a
technique is that for tackling premature
ejaculation when compared to what most
people consider to be effective techniques?
Things like: "Count backward from 100" and
"Think of dead puppies!"

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