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conflid\,resoltrtion. When they are conceptualizcd thror-rgh a confl i ct zurdopposi ti on t hr eat ens u ur oup's lif c, t he absence ol'
par adox iial. p e rs p e c ti v e ,w e s e e th e v e ry concept and experi ence these same f< ;rcesi s al so a scr iot t s t hr eat . Em ot ionally, a gr olt p
of dependeiq y re l y i n g o n th e c o n cept arr.dexperi ence of that does not provi cl e ro om f or t he conf lict ing and am bivalent
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c ount er depen d \V a n d o n th e i n te ra c ti o n of the tw o. One does reacti ons evoked by group lif e is not a place wher e eit her t he in-
not ex is t wit h o u t\ o th e r; th e e x p re s s ion of one i s al so the ex- di vi dual sor the groLl pas a whole can t hr ive.
pr es s ion of bo th , s i n c q i t i s th e c o n tra s t w i th dependencv that A s w e have di scusse d, gr ot r ps of t en r espond t o t he t hr eat
g iv es c ount er d e p e n d e n c )..i ts m e ry z i h g .In thi s sense,dependency and anxi et;' aroused by t hc Pr esence of opposit ion, cc. r nf lict ,
and c or . r nt erd e p e n d e n c y z i n q .rt6 t o p p o si tes but more l i ke S ra- and contradi cti on throu gh t he m echanism sof split t ing and lt r o-
m es c t wins wh o s h a re ri ta f o rg a n s . T h e tw i ns are separatei ndi - j ecti ve i denti fi cati on at t he individual and int cr per sonal levcls
viduals, and yet the.r' are not. 'f\eir lives depend on each orher, and ethnocentri sm and social- com par ison pr ocessesat t he cr ll-
s inc e one iiv es o r d i e s i n d i re c t re l a ti i s q s h i pto the other, and the l ecti ve l evel s. Grol rps and t he ir nr em ber s seek wavs t o ext r ude,
at t it udes , m oo c i s r,' i n d h e a l th o f o n e tw i 4 are i nti matel v ti ed to di spl ace, or sr-rbj ugateone side or t he ot her of t he conf lict scr
t he at t it udes ,..,tl ro o d sa, n d h e a l th o f th e other, often i n reci pro- as to reduce the tensi on ancl anxiet y associat eclr vit h it . Becat r se
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cai or comBlementarv wal'5. What we are sr-rggtltingis that if we thi s i s usual l v an unconscit - , t rpr s ocess, we lose sight of t he in-
wer e t o z i' c lo p at p a ra d o x i c a l fra me , th e v ery.ot' rfl i qtr that are so herentl y paradoxi cal nat llr e of t his conf lict , of t hesecoexist ing
overwheiming because our frames tell us that thej'are bad or opposi tes, and enter the conf lict as if it wer e pc- r ssible and desir -
t hat t hey im p a i r g ro u p fu n c ti o n i n g mi g ht become l esl ,rmpor- abl e to move forw ard by elim inat ing or com pr om ising one side
fant than the exploration of the "single source" represenied in of the i ndi vi dual or col lect ive am bivalence.We lose sight of t he
t he t wo s ides o f th e c o n fl i c t. common frame that gives meaning to the simultaneotts coexis-
tence of opposi tes, and it becom es har d t o see t he inher ent ly
Paradox in Small Groups paradoxi cal aspectsof gr oups t hat er pr ess a com Plex and of t en
anxiety-ridden "truth" abottt emotional life in groups. \\'hen we
Gror-rps, like all human relationships, evoke strong and l ose our abi l i ty to l ook t hr ough a par adoxical lens, we f ind it
often conflicting or ambivalent reactions. Perhaps because of i ncreasi ngl l ' di ffi cul t to see t he connect ions bet ween t he oppo-
t he ec hoes t h a t l i n g e r fro m o u r i n fa n c i es, parti ci pati on i n a so- si tes, to expl ore and cont ain t he cont r adict ions, and t o f ind a
cial unit is often both comforting and discomforting, satisfying producti ve path i n grou ps.
and dissatisfying, supportive and alienating. The psychological W e tum now to a n exam inat ion of som e of t he sit uat ions
ex per ienc e of g ro u p me mb e rs h i p i n v o l ves the coexi stence of and conditions in groups that evoke contradictory and conflict-
t hes e r > ppos in ge m o ti o n s a n d re a c ti o n s , and the group provi des ing reactions. We present them in their paradoxical form, as if
a setting for managing the tensions that arise from "holding" these opposi ng reactions wer e expr essing a connect ion, a
these conflicting and contradictory feelings. By managing these " truth," about the emot ional lif e of gr oups.
tensions, group life maintains the tenuous but surprisingly
strong connection between individual and collective develop-
m ent . W hen g ro u p s s to p " h o l d i n g " th e o pposi tes and move i n-
s t ead t owar d e x tru d i n g o r s u b j u g a ti n g o ne " si de" of a confl i ct-
f ul is s ue, t he y o fte n g e t " s tu c k ," b e c a use the bal ancc i n the
gr oup s o nec e s s a ry fo r me mb e r i n v o l v e ment al d parti ci pati on
is t hr eat ened . It i s i n d e e d a p a ra d o x th a t w hi l e the exi stence of
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of Belonging:
Paradoxes
Identity, Involvement,
Individuality,and Boundaries
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Ihere can be no g r oup unless people belong t o it . What
does bel ongi ng to a grou p ent ail? The par adoxes in t his chapt er
all involve the issue of membership. What are the conflicting
and often contradi ctory em ot ions ar onsed by t he f act of be-
l ongi ng? For i ndi vi dual s and f or t he gr oup as a whole, t heloin
i ng process i s a conti nu ous one. What m ust t he individual give
up i n order to bel ong, an d does t his change as t he gr oup changes?
H ow does a group come t o det er m ine what individuals can and
cannot bri ng i nto the group except t hr ough t he "in- put s" of it s
members?W hat does i t mean t o be "in"?
Each of the four paradoxes that follow illustrates an as-
pect of the paradoxi cal t ensions sur r ounding belonging t o
groups. The paradox of identity examines the link between indi-
vidual identity and group identity. Which one comes first?
Which one determines the other? Which gives way before the
other? W hi ch must be set t led and st able bef or e t he ot her can be
known? These questions seek to break apart the confusing
circularity of the paradox of identity. '[he paradox of inuolue-
ment explores the relationship between involvement and de-
tachment, observation and experience. Are these separate and
distinct aspects of belonging to a group? Can there be involve-
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t hen t lt c gr ( ) rrp m a v e l c c t to e l i rn i n a tc t l rat i rrrl i vi cl tralor at l cast pri atc. l n ortl cr tr,r u: t r r qcor r t o cxper icnct 'hiur - c, , rlr er seilint li-
his or her t r o u b l e s o rn e b c h a v i o rs .' l ' l rc uroLl p c2rn then pretencl vi dr-ral l ras a g()()(lsr r r ge( ) jr , t . hescn<- r r r ns
: r r c necessar ; . I hc st ir -
t hat it has l e p a i rc c l i ts c l t r,v i th o L rta tte n(l i ne to thc Iact that rt geon ci xl l t()t l tc " go t icl" r r nk: sst he er t . r r r pis "gr - r or i. " I n sr r chan
hz r sjus t r c jec te d a p i e c e o f s e l f-k n o w l ec l cr' .S trr:hbchavi or by thc exan-rpl.e i t i s cr i cl c nt t hat individt r zr lcor nl) et cncc is ar - r er r cnt cd
gr oup is ir np l i c i tl y b a s e c l o n " fra n ri n g " i ts i :ol l ecti ve i denti tr w hen pc.pl c both cont r ibt r r c t heir inclir idLr alskills and sr r bor cli-
s t nr ggle as b e i n g i n o p p o s i ti o n to th e rdcnti ty strtregl csc-,fi ndi nate t-hei r i ncl i ri cl u alit ics t o t hc collect ile nor r ns. I n a sur siczLl
virlr-rals. team, thc i ncl i ri dLriilsar e p( ) ( ) d wf r en t he gr or r p is r naclcgor . , d,
lndii id u a l s g e t i n to a s i mi l a r p ()stLl rc w i th respect tc, and the grol rp i s soor l w'hen it pr ovides a \ \ 'av f or it s indir idr r al
gr ( ) Lr ps .I t is n o t u n r-rs r-L['aol r a n i n d i ri d Lral rvho does not l i ke thr menrbersto be goorl.
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t hr r gr or - r pin to s c .rm e th i n cth a t h e o r s f rc u' or-rl dw i sh to be part s thr-oush , . vhich bor h indir idual and gr oup iclent it ; ar c
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ot . T his r eq u i rc s H e rc --u l c a ne ffo rts to make the groLrp i nto formed as bei ng one ancl t ht 'sam e. I n t his f r am e, indir . idr r alsar e
s olnet hins t h a t i t i s n o t. S trc h th i n k i n s on the part of i rn i ncl i vi cl seen as both r' reating and bcing cr eat eclbl't he gr ot r pst o nhic: h
ual m e nr ber i s fi l l e d r' v i th a Io g rc th a t ri cu' s the gror-rp' schar.rcter' they bckrnu. F.r' enent er t air ir g t his pr _r ssibilinI eelspar aclr . , xir : aJ,
as dif f er ent fro m a n d i n c l e p e n d e n t o { 'the acti ons of i ts men.t because the si rnul taneit r ol t he t wo com plem cnt ar l. pr ( ) cesscs
ber s . ln t his fra rn e , th e h c ro (i n e ) d o e s Ir()t see thc w a1 that thi s creates a i oop * rat is dif f r cr r lt t o t oler at c, bot h int ellect Lr ally
" her ois m " is i ts e l f a n e rp re s s i o n o f rn aspect of the gror-rpand .f
and emoti onal l r' . hc par aclox of ident it v conceivesof t he indi-
ac c or dingly ' " l o c a te s " th e h e ro i c p o \v e r s i n sel f. H i s or hcr " rni s- vi dual as cl eri ri ng rne: r ningf r c- r mm er nber ship in t he {r r . iup vr . hile,
s ion" in t he g ro u p b e c o m e s fra m e d i n opposi ti onal tenns. W hen at t]' re sarne ti me. the gr oup der ives m eaning f r om it s individueLl
t he gr oup su d d e n l ;' d i s p l a y s p o u ' e rfu i resi stancc, eqtral to thc members. H cnce. a nv concept ion t hat sepiir at esgr or r p and indi-
hc r u( inc ) ' s ( r\\rn e ffo rts . th e re s e e ms n o Jl cmati ve l t-r " rrppi ng vi dr.ri Lli cl cnti tv i s ar - rover sir nplif icat ion. 'l'he st m ggle so of t en
t hc ant e" an d fi g h ti n g e \c n mo re r.i g c.rr,rr-rsl-lr.-he cy.cl erepeats obsened betu' eett th e ir - r diviclr Lal and t he gr oLr pis pr cdon- r inar lt ll'
it s elf unt il t h e i n d i v i d u a l c o n q r-re rso r l eel s conquered b1' the a strLrggl eor:curri n s sim r , r lt uneot r clvwit hht t hc inclir idu: Llanci
gr ( ) Llp ( ) r , m o re a c c u ra tc l l , b r th e s e l f that rvas prrt i nto the w i thi n the gr' < .rr-rp orer how r o livc wit h t hc t ensionscr eat ed by
gf o Llp. the mutr-ral processesof adjnst m ent of t he individr r als t o t he
N' los to fte n , h o ' " v e v e r,th e c o n fl i ct [retw een i ndi r i dua] ancl groLrpand thc groLrpr o it s individual m em ber s.
s r ( ) up ident i tf i s n o t p l a r e c l o r,rt i n s trch bol d col ors. It i s morc .\ sreat ci eal of gr olr p lif e is involved wit h t hcse ident it y
us r . r : rtl o s ee th e te n s i o n s a s re q u i ri n g choi ces and cornpromi ses struggl es. l ' hi s can be illust r at ed boldly by exam ining m ale-
t o be m ade b y th e i n d i r i d u a l a n d , o c casi onal i y, b1' the group. female dvn:unics withrn a groLlp. All groups ha',.eto attenci both
Cuns idc r a g ro u p i n u h i c h th e ra n g c,,f tol erabl e behari or i s to the i r-rl fi l l ntento f t heir pr im ar - v t asks and t o t he nur t r . ir zut ce
v er y lim it ed , th e s ti p trl a ti o n s a b o u t w hat evervone must do at of thei r rnembership. - f o clo only one or t o do one at t he ex-
dif f er ent t im e s a re v e n ' p re c i s e , a n d th e cost of nonc< -rmpl i ance pense of thc other u, ill quickly im pover ish a gr oup. . . \ t som e
is quit c ex p l i c i t. T h i s n ri g h t c o n j r-rreup an i mage of a tensc l evel of aw areness,all gr oups know t his. Hence, t hey der , elop
gr oup t hat w o u l d b e h a rd to b e a p a rt o f i f one l vanted room t() w a1' s of attcncl i ng t o t heir m ission and t <, rt heir self - ciuet akir r g
ex pr es s one ' s i n d i v i d u a i i ty . If th i s w e rc :r fri endshi p group, most acti r,i ti es. It i s not unlr st r al f or t hese t asks t o be cast in gender
m ight c t . , nch -rdth e a t i t i s n o t w o rth b e l c,ngi ngto. H or,verer.for a ternl s, rvi th nurtrrra r ce asst - r r : iat ed wit h t he f em inint - side ( ) f t he
qr ( ) Llp of s trrg e o n si n a l -rc -,s p i taul' h o s e task i s to contl rrct conr' grol l p, u' hi l c pl rrpo se ald goal sct t ing ar e labcleclas m a. sct r linc.
plex oper at i o n s , th e s c n ()rrn s m i g h t b c l ,oth toi erabl e ancl appr< -,- Gror.rps rvht.,scmem ber ship is pr ed1; m iliur t ly m all or f cm alc
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may f ind t hem s c l v e su s i n g p re d r.' m i n a n tl y mascr.rl i neot' temi tti nt sul t, thc rcl easc thut vvoulcl bc ar . 'ailat r leif t his cl; nanr ic wer e
te r m s . lt is c om m o n l y n o ti c e d th a t mu c h of the l a,ngrrage stnr( framcd i n thi s ' " r' i n' i s ner er r ealizccl.I nst ead, t ht : "r vav out " in
tu r e of c or por a te A m e ri c a i s l a d e n w i th rnal e sp()rts tcrrns, rvhi i r' vol ves ()ne sLrbgrorrpg aining r lom iniur ce,r cst r ict ing t lt c pr , t cnev
soc ial welf ar e g r()L l p so fte n a d o p t fc m a -l emetaphors. l ' hesc trt,, of thc othe r. ()r negoli. Lt ing. Lcor npr , r r niset hat bot h sr . r bur oups
"s ides " m ay eve n b e l a b e l e d a s re s p e c ti v e l v hzrrdand soft, cspe can l i r e i .r' i th. F rom a par aclor ical per spect ir , c,t hc cr - , n1lictis
cially in t he la rg e r c u l tu re . T h e k e ,v q u esti on i s w hat happens seen as har i ng cvol vccl f r om a com m ( ) n sollr ce, t he collcct ive
rv her . rt he nec e s s a rvp a rts o f g T O L l pl i fe a re seen i n gencl erternr. needs of the group. Resolr - r t ic- r ns f t - , ct r se
d on br inuing t oget her
and t he gr oup h a s b o th m e n a n d !v ()m e n i n i t? !\' i 11the femi i l c. those neccl sthat rvere "ar t if icial11'" split onll, end up r cinf t , r cing
b e f r ee t o be " ma s c u l i n e " a n d v i c c v e rs a ? the cor-rdi ti onsthev af c ut t cm pt ing t o over com e.
W hen me n a n d w o m e n fee l s p l i t i n t o gender " camps" brrt
cor npellec l b. ' th e s r()u p to s ta v i n te g ra te d , thi s i s a cl ear exprcs ' I' he Par acloxof
I nvolvem ent
sion t hat bot h p a rts a re n e c e s s a ryf o r th e grori p' s w hol enessanrl
slr n' ir .al. llolv e v e r, o n c c s u b g ro u p s h a v e forrncci , i t i s di f f i crri r l l ccomi nq i nvc.r lr cclin : Lndwit h a gr oup r eqlr ir cssonr eI nii'
[o r t he gr oup a s a l v h o l e to c o n c e i v e o f i n tegrati on i n anv tcrrns j or cornn-ri tmentsbotlt t o oncself ir nd t o t he gloup. \ lcr nbe r ship
o t her t han s om e j ()i n i n g to g e th c r .,f th e subgr< -rups. Gi ven tht means i nr' ol r' i ng oneself in t lie scar ch f r - , rwavs t o m csh inclivid-
n at ur e of t he s p l i tti n g p h e n o m e n o n , i t may be hzrd for tht. ual needs and i vi shes n'it h u, hat t he gr or r p has t o of f er and de-
t
gr oup as a wh o l e to c o n c e i v e o f a fo rm of i ntegrati on rvhert I
ra termi ni ng w hat onc r vill give in t l'ie t ight of r vhat t he gr oup
individual members carry their own fair share of both caretak- needs i rnd w ants. -\s r ve clisct r ssedin t he paladox of ident it l ,
i ng and pr im a ry ta s k a c ti v i ti e s . Wh a t then happens to thc these i ndi r i duai ard gr oup pr occsses ar e m ut Lr ai zind ccr - cr ccur .
womarl rvho vn,antsto be other than nurturer, or the man lvht-r ' fhi s generatesa net\, dilem m a, bot h f or t he gr ot r p and I 'or it s
want s t o be a c a re ta k e r? T h e n a tu ra l re s ponseof the group i s t() i ndi r,i drri i lmembers. I t t he par t s iind t he whole ar e so m r . trlr alll'
res is t t his , es p ec i a 1 l v i f th e i n i ti a ti v e s o r the resi stancesof an i nvol r ed that i ndi vi du: Ll iclent it l' cannot be pr esen, ed, t hen t he
i n div idua- l t hr e a te n th e " b a l a n c e " i n the r' vhol e. ' fhi s creates group experi ence mar' [ ead only t o a diniinishing of t hc inclivid-
q uit e a bind. H o w c l o e s s u c h a p e rs o n L l seor devel op the l vhol t ual . On the other ha:i<1.if as a r esr , r ltoi t hr s m r , r t uaiinvolvem ent
range of his o r h e r p e rs o n a l a n d p ro fe ssi onal ski l l s u' hen thc the group becomes i mpair ecl br - t he loss of a par t of it self , t hen
g r oLr p has loc k e c l i ts e l f i n to th i s p a rti c trl ar fc,rm of " i ntegratecl i t ri sks bei ng r" rnabl eto m aint ain a coher ent senseof it s ident it v
s ubgr oups " as a w a v o f s ta y i n g w h o l e ? A n d how does the grol rl ) as a n' hol e i n the face of inei'it ablc t ur n( ) \ 'er in m em bcr ship.
Ie am about t h e w a v s i t i s i mp a i ri n g i ts e lf by i gnori ng or di mi n l ' here i s an asp ect of t his dilem m a t hat is cent r al t o our
i s hing s o m an v o f th e re s o u rc e s i ts me mbers col rl d potenti al l l ' understardi ng of an individr r ai's involvem ent in a gr oup and a
m ak e av ailableto th e g ro u p ? group' s i nvol vement in it s individual m em ber s. I f t hc pr ocesses
T he s olu ti o n to o o fte n s e e m s to b e that the group, the rn- of i ndi vi duai and group ident it i' f or m at ion ar e so st r ongl!
d iv idual c onc e m e d , o r th e s u b g ro rrp fe e ls pressuredto abandon l i nked, how does one avoid becom ing lost in a gr oup? And if
the dr iv e f or inte g ra ti o n i n re s p o n s e to th e needs of the " other." one does set l ost, hou 'cl<- les one t ake zr ct ionst o becom e m or e or
T' y pic all1' , t his s i tu a ti o n i s s e e n i n e i th e r/or and confl i ct terms, l ess i n' .ol ved? l -i keuise, what happens t o t ] r e gr oup whcn it
and t he c onf li c t i s th o u g h t o f a s h a v i n g e merged fr< ;m di fferent l oses i tsel f i n one oi 'it s m em ber s or in som e subgr oup? How
sour c es , in t hi s c a s e m a l e n c s s a n d fe m a l enessi n the soci etV as a docs the group take lr ct ion t o clct er m ir r ewhet her it is ir r vest ing
w lt ole. - l he al te rn a ti re th a t ' ,i e w ,sth i s s p l i t as bei ne a m:ui i festa too rrrrrt' hof i tscl f , tt , r lit t le or no bcncf it , in som c act i! 'it \ - ( ) l
tion of t he ero r-rp ' si n te ma .l l i l e , rl i s p l a ced i nto the rcspecti rt concern of i rn i ndi r i clt r alpar t ?
m alc anr l lenra l e p a rts , i s n o t z rtc c s s i b l e to the qror.rp.' \s a rc (l orrsi cl erthc crper icnce of a gr ( ) up ol cngincr : r 'sin a lar ge
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Pa ra d o xcsof (i rouP [,i l t P aracl oxes
of [Jel ongi ne 97
96
come fuseclrvi rl r \\' :rl t' s.\\' alr st ar t : <l, t l t lt r : br illc lr s long as t hc
o rq l n i zat ion t hat hacl b e c o n l e rl e c p l y i n v o l v e d i n the 1l c' 9ht' l i srrt
o l ' o n e o{ ' it s m em be rs . \V l rl t h a c i j o i n e c l th e u ro rrp al ter scver' rl group gave hi nr enrrrgl t at t ct ) t i( ) n lr r t _- <: ist 'lr . *. lt cn hc needed it .
H e hacl trec.nrc, as i t gr ( ) . ll's
rn o n th s in a r c habilit a ti o n Pro g r2 l m .H i s c o ttn s cl ors had er)c()ttr' d ' ,vere.aclclict t : d
t . t lr c s. ppor t as a
" hi stori c:tl " method of hzutdl i nghi s udr licr ion r o alcohol.
a g cd h i r n t o t ell his p 0 re n ri a l e m p l o l ' e rs a b o rrt hi s
\\i th thc group' s l os s of a scnsc ol'ident it l. scpar at e f r om
p ro b l e r n wr t h t he br -rttl e .-l h c i r l ,i e w w a s th a t j t ,i ni ng 3n rl ndcr'
W al t' s, mcmbers beqan to lccl em r >t ic. , naJIblac.
sti u td i n g lv or k gr oup ,u r' t-,u l dfa c i l i ta te h i s re tr-rmtt-ra normi i l i l c' 1 km ailcclbv him .
t() h i s n e l ,nj 'o b , thc other \t' ()]k A l thc-,ughthi s r' as re saicl, r r t l'r r r l, incliridLr alscar ne t o be-
Ju st b c f or e \ \ ' alt lv a s a p p o i n te d ' t:r
h i s s i ttra ti t-)na n d \v e rc a skcclto spcrtk OLrt l i evc that i f thcr cl i rl not ci'e \ \ alt his, r vn *a1. , hi: w'r r lcl gr . r
crs l ve rc ac h' is t : cabor,tt
l
back tr the b.rri e. \\' al t' s needs secr nccl t , sar '. "l f I lail, vo.
i l th e t. had any c onc e rn s . Al l s a i d , " L e t' s g o ahcad." \\' al t hatl
l rr w i l l hare fai l ed. s()r' (/r had bet t cr r n: , r kest r r e t hat vr zr do evcr r ,
i rrrp rcs s edt hem $. irh h i s p ro fc s s i o n a l s k i l 1 s , a n d the $rotrp
b e happv to he l 1r thi ne necessarv so rhat I clon't 1r r il. " I ) r edict ablt , , t he gr oLr p
rvzrsj o ining t ook t he a tti l L l c l c th i rt th e y rv o ttl d
tl tt: cA rre to seei ts i rnperter:ti o r . ras s car r sedbr l|al t , ancl he cont inu_
' r t fr,rl l l a rti c rrl ati ng i t ttt
i n h i s r c l- iabilit at ion ..' \l th r-,L rg ltto
gr orrp rr_ c
rt.,k \\'
-,rr a l t' s " re s to rz Lti otl " as a P r()J(' I( al l r.' l el t responsi i rl cl i ,r the "qr ( ) Lr p'suar bage. "
p 0 i n t, t he wor k
fhe spcci al pr.bl em f , r t his qr ( ) . p ancl lir r \ \ 'ir lt , , vast hat
t,['i ts O wn. F ' or m lurr. mo n th s tl i i n g s w e re fi l l c. .\t ti mes of prr
n() ()ne cor.rl clsct srrl l i ci en t lr oLr t sir lco1 'uvhat, "vasor : c. r r r r ingt c_r
tcn ti a l weak nes s , \ \ ' a l t fo rrn d s ri p p o rt fro m h is col l easttcsarrtl
deci cl e u hether or l l ,,l v t() gct nt ( ) r ( ' ( ) r less inr . olver l. I t i, vasas
r.csi ste dt he r r r ge r ( ) r c tl u T r to c l ri n k i n g .' rh e g ro r -rpbecame P r(,rr(l
o f h i m and in s ( ) c lo i n g \\' a sc \p | c s s i n g p ri d e i n t he parts of i tscl l . tho.eh nei ther the urr.r.p n . r t he nr em ber shar l an'wa1'of t ak-
Lrecameth. i ne a l arger pcrspecti ' e.n t henr sc. l'es. 'l'ht : gr ( ) . p lackeci t he
th a t h a d ident if iec l w i th h i s s tn rg g l e .\v a i t' s s trr-rggl e
capaci tl - to see i tsel f f' rom a: r ext er 'al \ . ir nt agep<; inl analoo<_r us
g ro u p ' s s t r t r gele. F I i s s r,rc c e sbs e c a m e th e g ro t rp' s srtccess.' I' ht
to the .bsen' i ng ego i ' the inclividr r : r l.'r he sr ( ) . p scem ed t o ha'e
p ro b l em ar os e r v hen th e u ro r,rpi u td \v a l t b e g a n tct l ose a senser-rl
a sense.f rvhat \\' alr u,asc ioir - r gt o ir . anr l \ \ 'alt seem eclt o have a
w h a t was his and r v h a t rl ' a s th e g ro trp ' s .
vi e' " r'of rvl .ratthe gr()up l va s doing t . him , br rt t hese t wo vier vs
. \ t a par t ic t r l a rl v b r' ts vti rn e i n th e l i fe o f thc erorrp' mem'
rverc so enmeshed rhat ne it hcr r he {r ot r p nor t he indir , , idt r al
b crs fe lt t hat t he1. \ \' e re g o i n g to tte e n g u l fe d b V more tasks th;ur
coul cl see w hat each rvas cloing t r . rt hc ot her , or hor v t he act ions
th e y coulc l pos s it r lv h a n d l e . F { a ri n g e v e ry o n e r vork at hi gh e1fi
of each rverecontri buti ng to a dest nr ct ir . cpat t er n.
ci e n cy bec am e im p ()rta n t. F o r th e fi rs t ti me , \\' al t l el t si gni ti
One' s abi l i tv to take a per spccr iveon oneself depends on
ca rt s t r es s in t his j o b . a n d h e tu me d to h i s peers for hel p' ' \t
one' s abi l i tv to get outsi de of onc's exper ience while at t he
th e b e ginning of t h i s p rc s s u re p e ri o d ' \ta l t' s reqrtests l or hel l r
, , t oler at ec l b u r e v e n tl l a l l l ' p e o p l e b e g an to l vi sh that ht same ti me remai ni .s i nsi de t hat expcr ience. , \ lt ho. sh t his is ex-
w e re ,"
his o rv n p ro b l e m s . \\i a l t fe l t a bandoned, and, as tremel v drffi ctrl t. i t i s essent ial f or gr owt h and is n'hat is m eant
co u l d c ont ain
by the concept of an obsen'ins eso at t he individual level. Bt r t
h e th o ught nt or c a n d mo re o t d ri n k i n g a s a s ol r-rti on,hi s nectl
w hat happens i f one canno t do t hisl A classic, , solr r t ion" is r <t
to r g roup s it pp( ) r r i n c re a s e d . As me mb e rs s e nsed that he rt' i rs
' fhc try to pl ace thi s obsen' i ng f t r nct ion int o som eone else or som e
"l o si ng ii, " t hei, in v e s tme n t i n k e e p i n g \\ra l t d r)' reki ndl e d'
others and then use thei r r eact ions as t he subst it . t c f or one's
p ro sp ec t of lv alt ' s fa i i u re b e g a n to l o o k to the groLtp l i ke i ts
ow n. Thi s i s one possi bl epe r spect ive on, "vhat happened t o Walt .
c,wn f ailur e. A t t hi s p o i n t, th e g ro u p w a s ttn abl e to separatei t'
Manl ' group processes c:ar b e t hoir ght of as or iq. inat ingin t he ac-
se i f frc lm it s inv es t m e n t i n \\:a l t' s s ttc c e s si u rd i ts fear ol fai ]r-rrc,
ti " ' i ti es ,f marv al l rnem [ ) er st o lr czr t c t heir r >bse. u, ingegos
b o th ! v alt ' s and it s o u ,n . R e s c rri n g \\' a i t fro m thc potenti al abr ss 'r
rn
the g-.trp i . hrpes ,rf ha' i ng r cf 'lt 'tr ccl back t hat *hich *'r r lcl
b e ca m e all, im por r a n t, e v e n a t th c ri s k 6 f p o t c.tnpl e ti rrg esserl .
'l bc most erati tr i ng.
ti a l pr ojec t s . hc q -ro rrps s e n s t o f s u c c e s s i ul cl f ai l trrc had hc'
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. .r .ttrr \ft trl r ,fl)lllt
l l rarl orcr ol l l cl orrgi rrg 1) l)
I lor v r loc s ;r q r()l tl ) l { (fl { )rrrs i tl t:i ts t:l l l or l l rt.
l rrr[),st. ol r.r. c:un(' l rorrr i l s i rrvoi r('nl( : nl ir r st . ilolr st . r . r . lr lior rlt, . lt r . r r ir r ullur f _
l l c c t ing ( ) l) it s c l l .' ' l l rt: rl i l c rrrrrr:ri s tl ri rt tl r c
rrrrr1r ,l ,,,,srr,,t 1,,,r,. w orrl tl l r.nt' l rcr:rrrl i l l i r r r ir , il r r , t ir np. ssilr lt . , r r , it lr r t r t ir r volve_
.tll oly \ 1y l j1, q lru rt ti ,,n q 1 ,1 ,.,,.,1l r.r,rri c tl rt, rrrtl rrrcl tr:rl ;rnrl t,,l l t., nl cl r l .
ti' e ac r i, ns . f i ts rr.rn l rc rs . Ir.rt.c , th c i rcl i ri cl rral ,
l rs l r:rr.l,r ;r ;\l tl r.trgl r i t nruv sccr r , I r r ir r r s t lr at ir r <. r i'ir lr r als'
cr( ) up, is pr one to u s c th c u ro trp l rs a l rz rrnc l ,,r-trnc.l crstl uttl rrrq par t it : ipa
l i on i n . gr()up l urcla ur- . t r p s pur l ic'ipat ir n in ir . sr ncm lr cr sl, r ipr e-
h i m . r her s el f; :u .rd tl rc s r()u p i , p .,,,r. t()
rrsc a I)i u_t,l i tscl l qtri rc l rotl r cxpcri crrt:ca nr l ollscr - r ulit - , r r ,lict ion 4r r r l r - cf lcct i6r r ,
('tt en it s i' di' id u i i l n rc mb c rs ) a s a fi -a m e1c.,r
'l h e undcrst:ui cl i ' q sr:l l . tl tcsc urc ni ost ol tcr-r t rnccpt u: dizccl as scpr u. : lt cancl , pposit e
dilem nr a is th a t rrre i n d i ' i rl L ra l w h e n .si ng
thc gr,rtrp,,,,,r anrl ur-t:tl rcrcl i .rretrcaterl as lr cir . r sn- r t r t t r a. llv t , r c. lusivc.I t is as if a
thc gr . r - r p when .s i rrs i ts i n d i r i d rr;rl m e m b crs
frr- scl l -refI..,.,,,,. gr()trp rncmfrer i s t:ont:e ir cclr , l as eit hcr ': ur a( : t of r . , ran c_, bser - veL;
p L r r p( ) s esat t er n p t t() fc J e c t th c p a .t o r s e r f przrcc< l
ir scr as i l a ert-rupi s nt-' t i nr.lr eci lvhcr r a. ( . r r ) t r t : r . is cngagt : clir r s'm e
ti . g in plac e t h c p r-et' ,rrd i ti .n Ii rr th c r i ci orrs ' thers,
t;\ cl cs ol st:l l actl ()ri ; as i 1 a group i n it s t , [ r sener st at t : is r r c- ,also t
renunc iat ion t ha t l e a c ls o i n c v i ta b l r to p a ra dox. act ing; as if
a Incrnbcr-' snoni ni .l vt:n r cr - t t is not lr lsc,lr gr ( ) up s noninr olr , . c-
ln t he c a s c o l \\.rl t a n d th c { r.,L rp o l . engi nccrs,
the parl r mcnt i n i tsel f. ' I' hi s rr pc o1'scpar at ionlcr r cls. nc t c. rscc ur or - r plif e
cl , x it : al dy nan' ri c s b e c rr' c r:l ea rc r i f w e c ,nti nue
thr: czrsc.I l rr. i u a cl ash bet' " veenthc a r ct ir . eand t ht :
sr ( ) Lr p had t r . , [ rri n c i ts e l 1 ' t. th c lr ussile, lr et r , vcen"clr er s"
Pri .t w,herc i t rl i d n0t c.r. i urd " re l l ecters," betr,r,eerr tisk t aker . siLr - r r isk l uvoicler - s.
w liet her or not !!:rl L tc ,,a ,l .o h ' 1 . \\' he, thi s happencrl . I. parad,xi cal ter. . r s. t hc aLr ilit ' t ( ) [ ) c i'r '. lr er ] is t iecl r <r
th e er not i. r nal b .l a r:k r'' c:ri ti r' e d
l i .g a n c l :i d c l i c ti o n becamc pui ,rfi ,l l r ,,1,
the abi htr' ro be rcnr.r ed. I hc r c[ 'lct . t ir - . ,inf r r or r ns t hc act io',
vl o Lr st o bot h \ ! ' a l t a .n c lth e r..,th e rsi n tfre group. -l
hen zi ndr.,nl i and thc ucti .n ton' s th c basis I i, r r . el'lc. t i<- , rI.n
th en c o. lc ' l t he e rr' p c o n te rn p l a te th e way,s cases,ac-
that i t cotrl d rr. ti on i urd refl ccti on.cctrr sim r r lt ar e. r - r sll ir gr - r Lr'rPs. r st
at t lr e ler . els
a n d, in f ac t , r v a s s u c c c s s fu l ,i n d e p e n d e n t of ,,vhat
l vas happcn of both tl i e i ndi ri drra.lmer nber s r Lnclt hc g'ollp as a wh, le. it - e
i n s t o walt . Lik e i .r' i s c ,th i s s e p a ra ti ()n ,w h i c h hacr
earri er. ,..-" ,t obsc^e * ' hi l e * ' e erper ience. I I r vc at t cm pt t u ol) ser 'e bef or e
so t hr eat ening t , \\' z rl t b e c a u s ei t fe l r ri k e a b andonment,
e.arrreri w e ha.' c experi cnced. th er e is t ' , bscr - e . [ , ikeivise,ob-
h i m t ' c onf r ont th e i d c a th a t s i rb s ti tr-rti n gone 'ot hi. g
addi cti on for i r. serv' i ngi s a form of exper ience
o th er m ight be n o s o l u ti o n . ' l h i s g a r,eh i m t hat it sell is a behar ior t hat can
the chance ro srcp . [ h. ugli
be .bsenecl and refl ect ed , n. r he pla1. i. e, 't , f t he
b a c k and t ak e t h c n e rt c ri ti r--z rl s te p i n h i s personalj ,,mcr.or-rr acti ,ns a-r-i the d obsen ations as in t he l|alt case,it bccr . r es pos,
o f s ubs t anc eadd i c ti o n .
si bl e tc, tal k abo.t the s im ult aneous cr i|f cr enceanclsir nil: r r it 1,ir - r
O ne m ight s a v th a t b o tl i l f' a l t a _ n dthe group w oul cl
hare the pl t-rccsscs of acti on a r - r dr e f lect ion. l'his is t he par ad<_,of
b een m uc h bet te r o l f i f th e l ' h a d n e v e r come x in_
tosether i n thi s vol ' "cmer t. I o de' el op t lr e ler cl o1' clct ac] r nrne ( necesszr r l,f or
rn u t ual " pr ojec t." On rh e o th e r h a n d , b ecause
ti el both bc. sel f-rcfl ccti ' n demands a kind of in', h, em ent t hiit m akes dc-
ca m e s o int ens el y i rtt' o l t,e d ,v i rtu a i l y l o s i n e ke y
boundari es. the tach' renr appear i mpos sible. I ) et achm ent t hr or - r ghin, u. . l'em ent
mut ually c r eat e d th e c .n d i ti t-rn s th a t e n a bi ed '
thcm to sai rr :r and i nr r.,l ' ement throue h det achm ent r r r e t he esscncc of t hr s
p e r s pec t iv e t hat mi g h t r,.rth e ^ r,i s e h :rv e b een i mpossi bre."\t rth paracl ox.
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uf i r rhrt rvas i rr.
re s t ed in t ak ing o n p ri -,j e c tsth a t w c re d e s ti ned
for fai l ,re. Li kc I' he P ar adox of I ndividualit y,
ma n) ' gr oups , it w a s s trl rg g l i n gw i th h o w
to di sti n.ql ri shbetw ecn
p roduc t iv e and. " v a s te d e n e rg y z L n cto l c * t i t s l orr.-s.,n h,_,pel css I hc paradox of i ndividualit l, . is cr pr cssed br . t lic sr at e_
p r< - r jec tear s ll' en o u g h th a t i t l r.' a sn ,t c o n ti n lral l l
cl ri rcn r,rl rrr,n, ment that the onl 1' rvav f , r a gr o, p t o becor ne a g- oir p is lor it s
i 'a s alr ead; ' in' c s tc c l . F ' ' r th e g r().p . th i s
* . as the l earri nc that menrbcrs t() e\pre ss their inclirir lualit v lur d t o r vr , , r k, r r clevel-
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stor e ( ) Llrc x pc ri c r-i c e sr.' l tl re l l o rl c l . h e s c sl ml rol s rn:Lkci t pr-,s r ' \ \ 'c *( ) l, r t gcr see "cr l. r n\ . " I t r nat ir t :
fi nd me l Lni .gfrrl l rcr rt r s(
si ble t o holc l s u ffi c i e n tl v c o r,s ta u i ti m a g c s o f crpe r-i enc.(' for us t() that nei tl i er." erl enrv r r 'r "ir . icnd" is appr t . , 1_r r iat e t hat lr , t ir
ancl
re f lec t upt - r n t ho s e e rp c ri c rrr;e s .Orrr re fl e cti on, thr.rush,i s nr.rtrrr groups rnav j r.rst l )c tr ) inc t ( ) c( ) cxist w, it hir r a c. r . r nst r . aincd cnr r
tc r m s ol t hos e a c tu a .le x p e ri c n c e s b L rt i n t er.ms r.rf thc sy' mbol s ronment, oc' t.:asi c.rn ircet llt t ing in cac: hot her 's lr , a) aind necr ling
th at lv e Lls et ( ) s to re th o s c e rp e ri e n c e s .If l ve have l abel ed an ex to make adj rrstrnentss( ) : t s t o ar oid being pr r sheclint o lr ehaving
p c r ienc c in a pa rti c u l a r rv a y . th a t i s th e fr arne w i thi n w hi ch w e destr-ucti vel \,tow ard e ach ot her .
will t hink abou t i t.' fo c l e v c l o p th i n k i n g b evond thc l i mi ts de -i he i mportance
ol bor _r ndar ies is m ost visible in t he cxpr : -
fi ned bv t he s y ' mb o l re q r,ri re su s to b re a k frame, brtt even therr ri ences of those rvl ro have not been gir , enacle<1r _rboir at e ndar ics.
th e br eak ing ou t i s s h a p e d b y th a t w h i c h i s bei ng brc-,kenout of. E xperi enci ng the (:()nst r aint sol'boundar ics gives t - lnet he chance
['h e deep par ad o x i s th a t w ' e re i t n o t f()r the s1' mbol s,experi - to rvork out ho' " r' one is going t o deal wit h t her n. lhis is er , ident
e n c e c ould not b e s to re d a n d u ' o rrl d rro t be an ongoi r.rgpart oI i n the experi ences of t hose who expect t o bt : r ejer : t eclor helcl
o ur ex per ienc r e ,y e t, a t th e s a m e ti me , th r.rseven' svmbol s con accountabl e bur a-re not . in a jr _r niorhigh l oLr t h clr r b. er . er t '
str ain t he wa) ' s w e a re a b l e tr.re x p e ri e n r:cti r.,ththe past and thc adr-rl tl eader know s th at kids cxpend a gr ear clr : aluf cner qv t cst .
fu tu re. i ng l i mi ts. Gangi ng r-rpand behaving "collnt er pr odr r ct ivelr . " ar e
\ \ ' c m r r s t a l s o p o i n t ()rrt th a t th e s ame pi uadox i s opera often so much fun for t his agc g'loup, especiallv since t hel. f cel
ti v e wit hin oLr r u s e o f th c s rmb o l o f b o trn cl ar.v.A s a r-netaphor, constrai ned i n l ro,uvm ucl'r r - , f r his t he1. car t do at school r t r at
i t t ends t o s ug g e s t, a n d e v e n ta k e o n , p h ysi cal mani festati ons home. In a' " va1, ti re 1 'out h c: lt r ltis a f onr m w. hcr et he st eam can
l i ke t hos e of a fe n c e o r a ra l ' i n e . If w e fa l l i nto the trap of the be l et .ff. If, h' rvever , t he leader ship r ef 'ses t c, def ine and hr ld
p ar ador t hat w e a re a tte mp ti n g to d e l i n eate, r.r,ecor-rl deasi l )' cl ear boundar-i esfor rhe gr oup, it t akes a, vvaya lot of t he f ir n f or
st ar t t hink ing o f a re l a ti o n s h rp th a t c o n n ects w hat the bor-rnd- the ki ds; more i mpc-' r t anr ,it depr ives t hem of t he necessar yles-
a r ) ' s epar at es a s b e i n g th e a c trra l l o , a ti o n c,f the borrncl arl. .\ sons that ca:r be l ear - neclonll b1, encount er ing t hc lir nit s ar t d
re lat ions hip is n o t a p l a c e rl h e re p a tte rn s c()nnect; ratl l er, i t i s a then deal i ng u,i th the r n. F or Lhis r eason, t hc r est ing r . , f t he ar - r
co nc ept at a le v e l th a t h o re rs a b o re , w i t hi n, or beneath that thori tv fi gure cl oes r)o r nccesszlr ilvm ean t hat t he kids want t hc
whic h it r ef er s t o . authori tr tc-rchi rngc his or her behavior ; r at hcr , it m ay m eun
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ilh- r s tra teth i s p a ra d o x fu rth e r, c onsi der be l ongi ng to a that thev l vant the er per iencc of t est ing t he aut hor it l, f igur e,
g roup engaged i n h o s ti l e e x c h a n g e s rv i th a peer group. \\:e may Thi s cannot be done if t he bor - r ndar iesar e inadequat ely.dr a. "r . n
ch oos e t o labe l th e o th e r a s " m i s tn rs te d enen-ry to be fc,ught or i f thev " gi ve" each t im e a kid bzu- r gs int o t hem . Even bound-
l v it h. " T hr s lab e l " e n e my " g i v e s u s a fra m e for stori ng oLl r ex- ari es that ma) seem cm el ar c m or e helpf r - r l devclopm ent allt
p e r ienc es wit h th i s g ro L rp . l f th e e n e m y d oes somethi ng ki ndl l ' , tha-nthose not tl rann.
we wlll c ode it a s e v i d e n c e o f n o n h o s ti l e behari or or of zrn at- One of the most cr it ical f lr nct ions t hat a gr oup's bor - r ncl-
te m pt t o get us o [f g r.ra rd tt.' , l u l l u s i n to a n onvi gi l a.ntcondi ti c-rn, ari es provi de i s bei ng a m et aphor ic cont ainer of t he anxiet ies
u s . -I' h e
so t hat t hev c a n a tta c k k e y i s s u ei s that the i ni ti al symbol carri ed by i ndi vi dual mem ber s as a consequenceof t heir gr or . r p
"e nem v " pr ovi d e s a d o mi n a n t te m p l a te that then constrai ns membershi p. If rnemb er s ar e const ant ly put in t he pc, sit ion of
h o w our f ut ur e i n te ra c ti o n s a re c o d e d a n d experi enced. S l i otrl d havi ng to bear al one the anxiet y of gr oup m er nber ship, t hen t he
o u r gr oup s om e d a .vc o n c l r,rrl eth a t th e o ther group i s not real l l ' group w i l l al w avs be a - nover r vhelm ingplace. I t is in t he gr oLr p's
2 n enem Lr r v e 2 re l i k e l v to b re a k th e o l d svmbol of enemt.and i nterest to prori de zr \ vav f or it s m em ber s t o clealwt h t he r eac-
re plar c eit r t , it l. ra s i mi l a r o n c , s rrc h a s " fri e nci ." " F ri cnd" tnav bt- ti ons that thc group gener at esin t hem . [ 'he t cr m r : ont ainer t s, r
an equailv ina p p ro p ri a te a rd c o n s tra i n i nc svmbol . w hi ch w c good onc, because the m ost r , isibleaspectof t he cont ainer is it s
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b ounc lar v s v s t e m. l n t:rc t, i t rs th c o trl r. propet' tv that thc t r-rtt sel t' ancl rrnrl tl rrri ne t r r lr lr el t he ser r sc r l inclr isir n t lr . ir iht '
tainc r has . l h e me ta p h o r o f g ro trp a s c()ntai ner i rnpl i es thi rl $ boLrrrdarvrvzus dcsi q r r edt o t 'r caic.
"s t u f f " will not l e a k o trt a n d th a t i 1 I o rr l i ft the l i ci aprpropri atcl r .\ spcci tLl( ()n se( lLlcn( .ol t : cf lcc.livc boLr ndar t .r lr . avr . ins
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tz iin t he " r age I' o r o rd e r" th a t m e m b e rs bri ng tr-i thei r erperi much more potcnr t hiLn wor - r ld lr e t hc'case if t he lr or r ndar l'did
e nc es of ' t he g ro L rp , to g e th e r w rth th e re b el l i ousncssemanati ng n.t cri st ,r i f i t rvcr c dr ar vr r m . r e l''sely. 'I 'his is c'ide nt
from t he s am e i n d i v i c l u a l s ' " d n -rn k e n n e s sr ,vi thautonorn\.." 'cr v
i n rni utv e\pcri cn rr al gr or , r p- let Lr ninesc't t ings ( sLr r . lras gr - ( ) up-
. J ; r ques( 1 9 5 5 ) a ru L re dth a t mr.rc ho f the desi re to strl rcnrrt' rcl ati .ns corrfcrent r : s in t he [ 'ar ist ock t r adit i. n ) . ir r t hesc
ex per ienc es in g ro u p s c o me s o u t o f b o th the i ndrri drrzrl :i ncltht' groups, the bor-rnda. r ics ar e clr ar 'n s'vigor ousl, , . , lr . t l. r lr r . . t he
c ollec t iv e wis h to h a v e a c l e fe n s ea g a i n s t these anxi t:ti es.B rrt the statf ard bv the rl e siqn of t he pr oer ar n, t hat t he n. r m lil salet v
par adox ic al nr b a b o rrt " th e s e b o u n d a ri e s that contai n" i s thut vi i l ' cs .f l etti ng unr'a't e d , r dif f ii Lr lt em ot ior ) s "f lec" t hr c- r Lr gh
they er e t he v e rl ' p ro c e s s e s e x p e ri c n c e d a s stnrctl l res that creatr the " rval l s" ot' the tonf er cncc ar e cf f ect ivell. r cm or cd. 't 'his in-
th e r Lnx iet vin th e fi rs t p l a c e . l n d i ri d u a l s do have thei r ou,n i ncl i creasL-sthe potenr r, , , f t he er t t t _r t ir _, ns t hat r - nent t r Crur s e ( . ( ) n-
v idur Ll anx iet ie s th a t th e l i m p o rl i n to th e urotrp. l ,rtt c,,l l ecti r,' frontecl rr.i th. IheV et : t t ( ) exper ience t he m aJ( ) r( . ( ) nseqLt ences.
anx iet ies ar e c o a l e s c e d b y th a t w ' h i c h bi nds the members tc.r constrtrcti ve i rncl cl esr r t r ct ive,oI har ing bor - r ndar ies t ieht lv uu't it :
s et her ; t hat is . th e g ro rrp ' s b o u n d a l i e s . l n recusni zi ng thi s, i t ul ated. l ti most gr() up sit uat ions, t he er t er nal bot r nr lar ies ar e
w ould be t em p ti n g to s u g g e s t th a t i f the group' s boundanes drarvn ,,ri th sufi i ci c nr per m eabilit l t hat t r nr vanr edpar - t sr f t l'r e
a;
c r eat e s uc h pr o b l e m s , th e n i t rv o u l d b e b e st to dnru, the botrnd- group can be ptrshed ot r t side. Whcn t his is exper ienceclas not
a r ies in a dif f e re n t w a v o r to h a v e n o n e a t al l . B r-rtthi s provi des possi bl c, the group f incls it sell'f ace t o f ace wit h clem ent s ol'it
n o s olut ion, at l e a s t i n a l y a b s o l u te s e n s e ,for bol i ndl essnesshas sel f that i t mav not like and is conf r ont ed r vit h t hc icleaof deal-
i t s own s et of d y n a mi c s th a t h a v e to b e contai necli n some r!' av i ngl vi th tl i em i n' " r' avs t hat it w. uld ne'er encount er in c, r dinar v
o r ot her , and e a c h s tm c tu ra l c o n fi g r-rra t i onw i l l bri ng l vi th i t a ci rcurnstances. [.i ker , , 'ise.t he gr oLLps ar c not f r ee t o im pr , r r t
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shac lowr , ' c oat ta i l . thi ncs, such as di sr r - act ions,f r . m t he olr t side. Rcs'ur c. es f 'r r . r r r - r
S o, r v h i l e b o u n d a ri e s c o n s ti tu te a contai ni ng process, i
outsi de are not ava ilable, ald t he gr oLlp has t o solve it s c, *. n
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thel' als o c ontri b u te to c re a ti n g th a t w h i c h they are desi gnedtcr " probl ems" rvhen i t nr ight nor m allr . seek "help" I 'r c_, m wit hor - r t .
c ont ain. . \ not h e r i l l u s tra ti o n c a n b e s e e n i n the rel ati onshi p be In sr-rchsetti ngs,i t is possible r o lcar n jr , r sthor v m r r ch of inside-
tween ins ider n e s s a n d o u ts i d e me s s . W hen the boundarf i s group l i fe i s normalll' a plaving t hr ough of out sic. leissuest hat
dr ar v n s uc h t h a t c e rta i n i n d i v i d u a l s a re " i n" and others " ottt," have been taken i nt o t he gr oup: r nd vice ver sa and how t his
t hos e who ar e o u ts i d e th e g ro u p a d j u s t to thi s fai rl v qui ckl y. bl unts the capaci n' of t he gr oup t o f eel and know t he f ull f or ce
eit her by dec i d i n g th a t th e r.' d o n o t c a re abottt thc group after of i ts orvn i ntemal rlvnam ics.
a ll or by joinin g o th e r g ro u p s . It i s i e ft to someone or some sub- In i ts t' ol e as cont ainer , t he bor r ndar y is bot h t he lif e and
s et on t he ins i d e o f th e g ro u p to n o w c a rry the fcel i ngsof out- the death of the gro up. I t is t he essent ialpr econdit ion f or a c<. , 1-
s ider - nes son b e h a l f o f th e g ro u p a s a w h ol e. The i rony i s that l ecti on of i ndi vi duu ls t o have a lif e t oget her as a gr oLr p; at t he
som eone who i s " i n " b e g i n s to fe a r th e possi bi l i tr, of be' nc sarne ti me, poorl l .de f ined, it can be t he r ehicle f or : r gr ot r p's de,
" oLr t , ' and t he g ro u p h a s to d e v e l o p a way to contai n the emo' mi sc. -l ' oo ri gi dl i ' de f ined and t he gr oup f 'eedson it s on'n anr i-
t ion as s oc iat e dw i th o u ts i d e rn e s s .a n e m o ti on that i t has createci eti cs unti l i t erpl orl e s out of exist ence; t oo por oLt s: r ndt he gr oulr
b1 it s ac t ions to i n c h rd e . B u t i t n ru s t d o thi s i n a \\:av that i n- di l trtes i ts erperi cn(cs. even t o t ht : point r vher . ct he gr or , r p'slif e
c ludes ; ot henvi s e , i t rv i l l me re l l ' p u s h o r- rtagai n thi s aspectof i t- i s total l v rl onri nrrte dir v r hc oLr t side,lr v t l- r at '"vhichit is not .
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