The New Method: A Modern Man’s Guide to Ecstasy AKA Ecstacy Rock Method

Table of Contents
Introduction ......................................................................................................................... 4
Masturbation: Statistics of Frequency, Sex, and Age ......................................................... 7
FUN FACT ................................................................................................................. 9
Masturbation and Your Health.......................................................................................... 10
Your Manly Swimmers ............................................................................................. 10
Benefits of Masturbation........................................................................................... 10
Blood Pressure .......................................................................................................... 11
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 12
Masturbation in Society and History ................................................................................ 13
Our Ancient Times, B.C. .......................................................................................... 13
Other Religious Views, Yesterday and Today, A.D. ................................................ 14
Detrimental History We‘ve Inherited ....................................................................... 14
Our Most Recent History .......................................................................................... 14
Just Plain Bull ........................................................................................................... 15
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 15
Your Important Pubococcygeus Muscles, It‘s PC ............................................................ 16
Functions ................................................................................................................... 16
Love for Dr. Arnold Kegel........................................................................................ 16
Kegel Exercises for You and Her ............................................................................. 17
And Relax ................................................................................................................. 18
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 18
*Genesis of My New Method ........................................................................................... 19
A Feeling of ―Not Quite‖ .......................................................................................... 19
A Journey of Total Frustration .................................................................................. 19
It Happened On Night ............................................................................................... 20
*Why Traditional Masturbation Is Inferior....................................................................... 21
Jerking Off Is Harmful .............................................................................................. 21
*Why My Ecstasy Rock Method Works ........................................................................... 23
Why a man takes it in the butt. ................................................................................. 23
Method Requires No Anal Insertion ......................................................................... 24
Massaging Your Prostate, WITHOUT Insertion ...................................................... 26
*My NEW Ecstasy Rock Method! ................................................................................... 27
The Ecstasy Rock Method ........................................................................................ 27
―Warning, Warning, Will Robinson!!‖© ................................................................... 29
*How to Shoot Your Load, Like a Huge Porn Star! ......................................................... 31
ERM Plus PCs = Porn Star ....................................................................................... 31
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 32
*Tantric Sex ...................................................................................................................... 33
Neotantra and the Sacred Sensual Spirit ................................................................... 33
Tantra‘s Erotic, Sacred Consciousness ..................................................................... 34
ERM Plus Tantric Sex .............................................................................................. 34
Advanced Tantric Master Exercise ........................................................................... 36
 The Heart-Opening Experience—Yes, Mushy Stuff ................................................ 37
In Love ...................................................................................................................... 37
Truer Power .............................................................................................................. 38
Be Magnetic—Personal Magnetism ......................................................................... 39
Health, Vitality, and Spirit ........................................................................................ 39
―Love Thyself‖.......................................................................................................... 41
Back on Point ............................................................................................................ 41
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 42
*Ecstasy Rock Troubleshooting: Bladder Techniques ..................................................... 43
Using Your Bladder in ERM .................................................................................... 43
*Surfaces ........................................................................................................................... 45
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 45
More Health Benefits ........................................................................................................ 46
Revamping Old School Masturbation ....................................................................... 46
Exquisite Torture ...................................................................................................... 47
PreSex Guide .................................................................................................................... 48
Healthy Penis, Healthy Sperm .................................................................................. 48
Sperm Research ........................................................................................................ 48
Tiptop and Potent Sperm .......................................................................................... 48
Seek Medical Advice ................................................................................................ 50
Prostate.............................................................................................................................. 51
Recent News and Stats .............................................................................................. 51
Anti-Cancer Benefits ................................................................................................ 52
Prostate Disorder: Prostatitis..................................................................................... 52
Prostate Disorder: Prostate cancer ............................................................................ 52
Male sexual response ........................................................................................................ 53
Benefits of Kegel Exercise........................................................................................ 53
FYI: Benefits for Women, and Therefore, You ................................................................ 54
Improving Sexual Function....................................................................................... 54
Benefits for Men, Benefit Her .......................................................................................... 55
Preventing Incontinence............................................................................................ 55
Improving Sexual Function....................................................................................... 55
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 56
She Doesn‘t Like S-E-X ................................................................................................... 57
Slow Approach to Sexual Play ................................................................................. 57
―I feel nearly nothing from sexual intercourse.‖ ....................................................... 58
Clit............................................................................................................................. 58
Hindering Great Pleasure .......................................................................................... 60
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 61
You Mean I Have to Talk, Too? The Other Sex Talk ...................................................... 62
A Useful Communication Skill ................................................................................. 62
Sexual Criticism ........................................................................................................ 63
For Her for You—The End of It: Stimulating His Prostate .............................................. 65
Why? ......................................................................................................................... 65
Talk With Her ........................................................................................................... 65
Exterior P-spot Action .............................................................................................. 65
 How to For the Adventurous..................................................................................... 66
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 67
Taoist Sexual Practices ..................................................................................................... 68
Qi (Life Force) and Jing (Essence) ........................................................................... 68
Male Ejaculation Control .......................................................................................... 68
Jing (Sexual energy) ................................................................................................. 68
Yin/Yang ................................................................................................................... 69
Kama Sutra........................................................................................................................ 70
Pleasure and Spirituality ........................................................................................... 71
Information to Inform and Help ........................................................................................ 72
Guide to Making the Ecstasy Rock Method Yours .................................................. 72
―More, More, More. How D‘You Like It?‖©............................................................ 72
Masturbation Lowdown ............................................................................................ 72
Masturbation and More for Two ....................................................................................... 74
And…........................................................................................................................ 77
More for Two—Prostate Sensation .................................................................................. 78
Exterior Anal Stimulation ......................................................................................... 78
Anal Pleasure ............................................................................................................ 78
Toys! ......................................................................................................................... 79
Prolonging Pleasure .................................................................................................. 79
Downside?................................................................................................................. 79
For the Brave, Peg..................................................................................................... 80
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 80
*ERM Conclusion ............................................................................................................. 81
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 81
 Introduction
Welcome, and thank you for taking a great leap of faith with me, in order to
change your life forever. For thousands, well, millions of years, actually, we men the
world over have sought new ways to pleasure ourselves. We‘ve tried everything and done
everything just to receive those few intense seconds of orgasmic bliss.
Whatever you can think of, whether edible, inanimate, alive or dead, if it‘s
existed, someone somewhere has tried to hump it or masturbate with it.
Man will always seek new ways to give himself pleasure, but today, you, lucky
man, are going to be one of the exclusive few, who‘ll learn how to put an end to all the
other traditional, yet highly inefficient and physically numbing masturbation techniques,
with this one and only method, my technique.
The ECSTASY ROCK METHOD (ERM) is the ONLY masturbation skill you‘ll
ever need now for the rest of your life.
Okay, traditions are familiar and you do have the skills, so you can regress back
to old school, if you like, but you won‘t want to, not after you learn my easy to learn,
NEW TECHNIQUE.
It‘s fun!
It‘s great, and NOTHING compares to ECSTASY ROCKING and NOTHING
will ever come close.
Not even a little bit.
So, fellas, say, ―GOODBYE FOREVER,‖ to rubbing yourself raw and callused,
GOODBYE FOREVER to the ineffectual, and especially GOODBYE FOREVER to
those expensive and embarrassing sex toys, you don‘t want your new significant other,
your mom, or your kid‘s play friend to find, because someone always seems to stumble
upon something so private at the worst times.
Now, my friend, say, ―HELLO,‖ to the SIMPLEST, MOST COMFORTABLE,
and EASY WAY to GIVE YOURSELF AN OUTSTANDING ORGASM; naturally and
nearly without effort. And look, man, no hands.
And with this knowledge I bring you, my friend, also comes the big O. The
HUGE O.
 And not in the form of a long-winded, complicated process, but a simple, easy to
learn skill, in an uncomplicated method that‘ll end penis-numbing, jerking off, and the
use of expensive, cumbersome sex toys which need special storage and special care. Yes,
end all that, except when you want to do it the OLD way.
But, you won‘t want to.
I know that sounds like a huge claim for one man to make, but this isn‘t about
making outrageous, boastful, and false claims, this is about change. And one lone man
can grab the world by the proverbial balls and change it forever.
One man; one huge change. It‘s happened before, and you‘ve see it.
Our world has changed in an instant, countless times, because one man took the
first, unbelievable walk on the Moon‘s surface—on soil not of this planet.
Because one man, some common, unspectacular man removed the first tiny
pebble that insured the collapse of the wall that fear and hate-built, the Berlin wall.
Because one man, named Gutenberg, made a machine hundreds of years ago
which changed our process of writing, from beautiful, but overlarge and too heavy to
carry books, made by a method that was time-consuming, as each individual human hand
made a fragile goose quill scribble in ink on a page. Writing was highly exclusive to only
a chosen few of the church; and only if you belonged to that particular church and were
wealthy enough and male enough, until Gutenberg‘s durable printing press invented
portable, handheld books for the masses of both sexes to take home or travel with, as
writing one page a day was replaced by printing an entire book.
And now, print travels the invisible structure and processes of the internet, with
its profound freedom for nearly everyone, including built in translations and sound and
video along with the printed word, making it accessible to even those who can‘t read, or
read your language, including those barricaded behind other invisible walls of oppressive
governmental bans.
One man, one huge change.
Profound and lasting change happens in an instant, in one explosive flash, and
after THAT MOMENT OF BRILLIANT CHANGE passes through you, electrifying
your body and your mental conscientiousness, by illuminating a new path before you,
you‘ll take a deep breath and wonder how you ever lived the old, traditional, numbing
way you did before, for so long.
Now, good friend, before you learn my new life changing skill, let‘s get a solid
grip on the root basics and learn a few things about masturbation, men, and sex and then
we‘ll get started, one man at a time, with rocketing off on OUR NEW REVOLUTION.
THE ECSTASY ROCK REVOLUTION.
Masturbation: Statistics of Frequency,
Sex, and Age
Sex is as necessary as food, and, like food, we start our relationship with it in the
womb, where most of us were alone. So, I think you‘ll like the following stats.
Our frequency to masturbate is determined by factors, such as our resistance to
sexual tensions and stimuli, our hormone levels influencing our sexual arousal, our sexual
habits, peer pressures and influences, our general health and even our personal attitudes
about masturbation, which are influenced by culture and family.
Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey‘s scientific studies from the 1940s and ‗50s—which
were the first of their kind in the world, about sexual practices in our everyday lives—are
still quite current, stating that about 92% of men and 62% of women have masturbated
during their lifespan. A British national probability survey since then gave similar results;
that 95% of men and 71% of women masturbated, at some point in their lives.
A Canadian 2004 survey in the Toronto magazine NOW showed that 81% of
males began masturbating between marker ages 10 and 15.
And just because you‘re wondering, they found that the female number was a
more modest 55%. But do remember that surveys on our sexual conduct often suffer from
a tendency toward self-censuring, as we strategically edit our answers, or conveniently
withhold or forget the truth.
In beginning masturbation behavior, it‘s not unusual for both sexes to begin at a
much earlier age than mentioned above, especially females, of which 18% began by age
10 and 6% were already an old hand at it, shall we say, by age 6.
The same Canadian survey has male masturbation frequency progressively
declining after the age of 17, although many masturbate daily well into their 20s, and
often beyond.
This decline is much more drastic among the females around us.
Females aged 13–17, generally, masturbate once a day on average (almost as
often as their male peers), but adult women, in general, only masturbate 8–9 times a
month, compared to their male friends at 18–22, which is almost every day.
 Many Canadian teen males in the study reported their ability to self-stimulate to
ejaculation about six times a day, while some older men in the late middle age group
reported being hard pressed to ejaculate once per day.
However, healthy males of ages 21-28 are often able to, or at least do, masturbate
at least 8-10 times per day. IF THEY AREN‘T STRESSED.
And until the painful chafing, callusing, and numbness stops their frequency and
effectiveness.
Females appear less likely to simultaneously self-stimulate, while they‘re in a
heterosexual relationship, than men. Popular belief usually asserts that individuals, both
male and female, who‘re not in sexually active relationships, masturbate more frequently
than those who are, but since masturbation alone or with a partner is often a sexual
feature of a relationship, this becomes not true.
And, contrary to street wisdom, several studies have actually revealed a positive
connection between the frequency of masturbation and the frequency of full sexual
intercourse.
Meaning that more self-diddling generates more mutual canoodling.
We all know that there are a lot of dangers outside our bodies; and so science and
reasonable, open minds are now allowing masturbation to become accepted as a healthy
practice and a safe method for sharing pleasure, without the dangers which can
accompany sexual intercourse.
It‘s even possible now to find group masturbation events online, and masturbation
marathons are yearly events across the globe. No. I‘m not telling you where, half the fun
is finding them for yourself.
Think of the postponed agony and final release.
But, anyway, such events are providing a supportive and growing environment
wherein masturbation‘s self-stimulation can be removed from its secret hiding and
performed in the open, among others, without embarrassment. Participants can even talk
with onlookers, while masturbating, to both share technique and to describe their
pleasure.
FUN FACT
I love film studies classes. The first guy I recall ever seeing masturbate to climax in a
mainstream film was Don Johnson in his first film ―The Magic Garden of Stanley
Sweetheart‖ (1970), long before he became Sonny Crockett of ―Miami Vice‖ fame; and,
of course, we just know Sonny NEVER had to touch his own goods, except when he
wanted to.
Because of tons of lovely, bikini-clad, feminine beauties, and NOT his handsome partner,
goofy. Unless, of course, you swing that way, in your head or otherwise; so swing on.
 Masturbation and Your Health
Your Manly Swimmers
Masturbation really does clean out the pipe, so to speak, as it flushes out old
sperm with low motility (movement rate), that are just lying around and lazy about in the
male‘s genital tract.
The next ejaculate will then contain more and fresher sperm, which give you
higher chances of achieving conception with your partner during intercourse.
FYI: If more than one male has intercourse with a female, the sperm with the
highest motility will compete more effectively against the male competition, and the
hostile to sperm environment of the female reproductive tract. So, the faster, stronger
swimmers, just as at the Olympics, wins the big egg.

Benefits of Masturbation
Having an orgasm and/or ejaculating, besides creating heightened arousal within
you, causes the adrenal hormone epinephrine to surge through your body, giving you a
flushed face, shallowing out your breathing, and giving you that wonderful after climax
euphoria.
Some mental health professions say that masturbation relieves stress, depression,
and can make us more self-assured, about our bodies in particular and sex in general.
Personally, I didn‘t need an ―expert‖ to tell me that.
However, a study published in 1997 found an association between death from
coronary heart disease and frequency of orgasm, despite the given risk that heart failures,
especially in males, can be triggered by sexual activity.
―The association between frequency or orgasm and all cause
mortality was also examined using the midpoint of each response
category recoded as number of orgasms per year. The age adjusted odds
ratio for an increase of 100 orgasms per year was 0.64 (0.44 to 0.95).‖
Which is a convoluted manner to say a noticeable difference was clear between
any two guys, when one man ejaculated at around two or more times per week more
often than the other man.
 Or, assuming an average of 3 to 5 ejacs per week for healthy males, then 5 to 7
ejacs per week is better, which is consistent with a 2003 Australian article on the benefits
against prostatic cancer.
Sexual climax, whether from masturbation or other sources, leaves us in a relaxed
and contented state. Plus, this is so often followed by peaceful drowsiness and sleep,
most particularly when masturbating or having sex in bed.

A Cardio Workout?
Many people even consider masturbation a cardiovascular workout, since, like
other more formally accepted exercises, of running a few stairs or dancing, it gets the
heart rate and breathing rate up, plus giving off endorphins after a certain level is
reached.
Doctors and researches say they have no unequivocal scientific lab proof of this
actually being true, so they recommend that those suffering from cardiovascular disorders
(particularly if recovering from myocardial infarction, or heart attacks) should only
resume physical activity gradually and under the professional eye of their heart specialist
or family physician—including sexual intercourse and masturbation—with the
frequency and physical rigor that their particular bodily status will permit, plus they stress
encouragement to continue physical therapy sessions to help improve overall endurance.
However, do recall that doctors and researchers have a ton of legal concerns and
their own prejudices and personal hang-ups about sex, and that many have boards of
directors they have to answer to that are in charge of their funds.
Then, also think of the logic that walking, as mild to mildly strenuous exercise,
and sexual intercourse as well are considered a type of exercise, so why should sex for
one be different?

Blood Pressure
Both sexual intercourse and masturbation lower blood pressure. A small study has
documented that those in one monitored test group, having had recent full intercourse had
the lowest average blood pressure in stressful situations. However, they also found that
those participating in lone masturbation sex also had lower blood pressure, more so than
those who had absolutely no recent sexual activity.
FUN FACT
―Dawson‘s Creek‖ star James Van Der Beek, by masturbating to it on screen, has ruined
the amusing little Starland Vocal Band‘s song ―Afternoon Delight‖ for me. Not a great
song, but it amuses me. Film—‖The Rules of Attraction‖ (2002), based on the novel of
the same name by ―American Psycho‖ and ―Less Than Zero‖ author Bret Easton Ellis.
 Masturbation in Society and History
Our Ancient Times, B.C.
Ancient Sumer in the Mideast was the earliest civilization in the world, as yet
documented, with its first settlement, approximately begun in late 6000s BC through the
4000s BC. Through materials like pictured decorated pottery that they left behind, we do
know that they had a relaxed attitude about sex, with masturbation a popular technique
for enhancing potency, whether alone or with a partner.
Images of male masturbation were even more important in ancient Egypt, and
when performed by a god, it was considered a god-creative, highly magical act. The
super ancient god Atum (Complete One) created our universe by masturbating himself to
ejaculation; and the great rise and fall, the very ebb and flow of the mighty Nile River
was caused by the frequency of god Atum‘s ejaculations. Early Egyptian pharaohs, who
were considered the earthly representative of their highest male gods, in imitation, were
required to masturbate ceremonially into the Nile.
And, yes, their imperial jack-off was formally witnessed and documented. Beware
the royal sir, whether Egyptian or Hebrew, who couldn‘t get his royal member up. He
usually died soon after such failure.
Now, that gives one a new perspective on erectile dysfunction.
The Ancient and sexually infamous Greeks had a more relaxed attitude about
masturbation than the Egyptians, regarding it as not only normal function, but also as a
healthy substitute for other forms of sexual pleasure. They considered it a reasonable and
viable safety valve against destructive sexual frustration.
Masturbation‘s invention, in early Greek times, was credited to the multi-talented
god Hermes (aka the Roman Mercury), who invented oratory speaking, literature, and
commerce, and who also governed traveling, boundaries of all kinds—including death,
liars, athletes, messages, and thieves. He took pity on his son Pan, who was pining in love
for Echo, and unable to seduce her to be his, well, he was half goat. So, Hermes taught
Pan to masturbate; in order to relieve his suffering. Pan, in turn, taught the habit to young
shepherds.
Yes, I am smiling at that.
Other Religious Views, Yesterday and Today, A.D.
Our world religions vary broadly in views of masturbation, all the way from
outlawing it entirely on penalty of death, to encouraging its practice, as a way to achieve
greater spirituality.

Detrimental History We’ve Inherited

The prevailing attitude of the American and Western European Victorian age of
the mid 1800s to 1901 was fully against masturbation, as they forced their daughters to
wear night gloves made of a steel-wool-like material (think Brillo® pads) and put a
powder on their daughters‘ genitals to make their bodies painful to their own touch.
And they didn‘t forget their sons, who they made wear nightly metal chastity belts
which made erections painful. In the pre-Victorian Era of the 1820s, parents prevented
male masturbation, by piecing their sons‘ foreskin with wire and soldering the wire ends
together.
Pardon me while a scream a while off that image.
Body shame and masturbation fear were the main reasons male circumcision
became so common, believing it would dishearten their boys from touching themselves,
because while a boy was restretching his uncut foreskin, a necessary task for the uncut
penis to work properly, they might would discover how pleasurable touching themselves
a little longer was.
Editor’s note: Do consider that in the same time period of the 1800s in England, the
age of sexual consent was eight (8) years of age and then went up to age thirteen (13)
as they industrialized into hard industry and away from agriculture. So sex with a
starving child prostitute, or a poor child stolen for the purpose of rape was fine, just
don’t let your own son touch his wee-wee.

Our Most Recent History

Masturbation is seen as a sound and useful technique to protect individuals from
contracting sexually transmitted diseases from others. However, in our post-Victorian and
very recent past, US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders was dismissed from her post,
during the Clinton administration, for formally making masturbation a legitimate part of
the American sexual education curriculum. Obviously before the presidential cigar and
blue dress incident.
Just Plain Bull
Don‘t forget the generations of impressionable boys and girls, including perhaps
you and definitely your father, mother, grandmothers, and grandfathers, who were
repeatedly discouraged, threatened, and terrorized by their parents and other significant
adults they trusted in their lives, with the horrible threats of illness, blindness, and
insanity.
And my personal most favored payback you‘d receive: hairy palms.
So, look, do my palms look hairy to you? Hm, I think yours look a little fuzzy,
man.

FUN FACT
Depictions of male masturbation in prehistoric rock paintings (think at least 8000 BC!)
are common around the world. Most early people seem to have connected human
sexuality with abundance in nature.
There is a clay figurine dated from the 4th millennium BC (4000 BC) from a temple site
on the island of Malta, which depicts a woman masturbating.
However, in the ancient world, depictions of male masturbation are far more common.
___________________
One must consider, though, that if we once used to connect ―human sexuality with
abundance in nature‖ might it not say something about our sexually stressed and
oppressed present, as we cut down trees and displace deer into busy city thoroughfares.
What is our connection, as nature diminishes?
 Your Important Pubococcygeus
Muscles, It’s PC
My ―pubo‖-what?
The pubococcygeus [pue-boe-cok-seh-gee-us] muscles or PC muscles are a
hammock-like group of muscles, found in both sexes, that stretch along the base of your
pubic bone to your coccyx (tail bone), forming the floor base of your pelvic cavity and
supporting your pelvic organs—your reproductive organs and excretion organs—which
means it surrounds, supports, and protects the rectum, your penis, her vagina, and the
bladder openings in both sexes.

Functions
The PC muscles control urine flow and contract during orgasm. They aid in
urinary and stool control, in penile strength, and in childbirth, so the healthier and
stronger they are, the better they do their important jobs. Your PCs are muscles, so
always remember that the stronger and healthier they are, then your…
…well-developed PCs will enhance sex with better orgasms in both sexes.
Strong PCs reduce urinary incontinence (urine leakage in both sexes and semen
leakage in men) and help to properly position a baby‘s head during childbirth, for safe
and efficient delivery.
Strong PCs are also part of that wonderful grasping feeling a healthy and
responsive vagina has on a penis or finger.
The PCs in men allow us to move our penis up and down, while it‘s erect.
Y‘know, like that one guy in the locker room who always shows off how he can hold up
a towel like a coat rack, which is probably all the action he gets anyway.

Love for Dr. Arnold Kegel

Kegel exercises were developed by Dr Arnold Kegel to help women, especially
after childbirth, to regain bladder control by restrengthening their pelvic muscles. Dr
Kegel later discovered that his exercises also increased women‘s orgasm intensity.
Kegel exercises, often referred to simply as ―Kegels,‖ are a set of exercises
designed to strengthen and give intentional voluntary control over your PC muscles.
These exercises also serve to contract the cremaster muscle in men, which covers the
testes and which raises and lowers the scrotum, to regulate the temperature of the testes
and promote healthy sperm making. You know how it goes, guys. When it‘s cold your
cremaster draws your testes closer to the body, embarrassing but necessary, in order to
prevent heat loss, and protect your delicate, life-giving swimmers, but when it‘s hot your
cremaster relaxes, to allow the testes to hang down and chill out.
Your control over these muscles can be achieved with practice
Learning to voluntarily contract your PCs also engages your cremasteric reflex,
which can be demonstrated when the skin of the inner thigh is lightly stroked downwards
from the hip towards the knee, causing the cremaster muscle on the same side to quickly
contract, which raises that side‘s testicle; however, do know that this reflex is more
pronounced in boys than in grown men.
You can also voluntarily contract the cremaster, by contracting your PCs, or by
sucking in your abdomen, like you do on the beach when a hot new girl passes by. So, I
guess, that if I suck my gut in to impress, I also suck my boy-makers in too, which is
somehow less impress when you think it through.
Kegel exercises encourage health and strength in your PCs and in your urinary,
excretory, and sexual organs. Some men report that with healthier, stronger equipment,
that they‘re having multiple orgasms and a decrease in premature ejaculation.

Kegel Exercises for You and Her

Locate your PC muscles, and contract them, by focusing on stopping your urine
flow, midstream. If you can only diminish and not fully stop it, that’s fine, too, as
you’ll be able to diminish it more and have a more clear cut on and off effect, the
stronger you get and the emptier your bladder becomes, leaving less pressure on
your sphincter.

Hold your PCs contracted for one second and then relax, do ten times in a row
(hold and release), three times a day. Steadily increase the number of
contractions, so by a month‘s end, you‘re doing ten holds, twenty times a day.

Vary the exercise by holding the contraction for a slow count of three and then
relaxing. Vary your exercises, do some short and some long. Do the Morse Code:
dash-dash-dash, long-long-long, dash-dash-dash, and you‘ve just signed SOS.

Do Kegel exercises during commercials, when the phone rings, at stoplights—but

don‘t make your legs tense, which can interfere with the foot pedals. Do them
 whenever waiting for Web search results, or when someone‘s telling you
something long and boring, you can make your body healthier; just find your own
regular, consistent Kegel pattern that you can maintain.

Flex your PCs at different times while having sex, for extra pleasure for you and
your partner.

Do your Kegel exercises for a minimum of six weeks in a row. Results won‘t be
immediate, but be patient, it‘s like strength training your arms or stomach, in time, you‘ll
notice a difference.

And Relax
Relaxation is extremely important. When we tighten our bodies with tension
during sex, we block flows of energy, both esoteric, hormonal, and the very oxygen we
need to do any physical activity well. So, breathe deeply, to relax and enjoy yourself, and
relax and enjoy another, while strengthening and relaxing your PCs.

FUN FACT
Relaxation technique (aka Relaxation training) is any method, activity, or procedure,
which helps you relax; to attain a state of calmness; or otherwise reduce anxiety, stress,
or tension.
Relaxation is often one element in a wider program in stress management and will
decrease muscle tension, lower your blood pressure, and slow both your heart and breath
rates, among other health benefits. Hm, sounds like whacking off pays off to me.
 *Genesis of My New Method
I was a normal kid, just like you, and grew up really liking girls and feeling a lot
of sexual desire for them. It was like electricity without insulated cables running through
me, and the first time I got an erection, it was a phenomenal feeling, and it lasted
about two hour’s straight, and wouldn’t go down.
That was the first time I tried to masturbate by hand and I used everything:
lotion, soap suds, petroleum jelly, even my own saliva, but rub as I might, I just couldn‘t
get any pleasure from it. It was like running hard, and not getting anywhere, and so no
way did I even get the smallest ―runner‘s high.‖
Later on, girls, who wanted to take sexual intimacy slowly, before intercourse,
would graciously give me hand-jobs, and I would smile at their generous offers, but
think, ―When is this joyless crap going to end?‖

A Feeling of “Not Quite”

The normally fantastic and pleasurable feeling masturbation can generate in a
man just wasn‘t there for me. I was healthy, but whether by stimulation with my own
hands, or by others, I most often felt nothing. Or, if I did finally manage to climax, it
would be through pure concentrated, arduous effort on my part or my girlfriend‘s, leading
to extreme exhaustion and fatigue, and a HORRID FEELING OF NOTHINGNESS, or
of that unconnected feeling of ―not quite,‖ as a friend calls it.
Not the feeling you want when you should be feeling a joyful release, whether
alone or with another; and especially, not the feeling you want when you‘re with another
and wanting to share intimate joy, and not some vague ―not quite.‖
It made me feel that something was wrong me, that I was somehow lacking an
important male ingredient that all other guys had, because traditional masturbation was
empty and flat for me, and so I NEVER DISCUSSED IT, not with anyone.

A Journey of Total Frustration

My TOTAL FRUSTRATION sent me on a long journey to TRY EVERY
―SUCCESSFUL‖ MASTURBATION METHOD invented. I also wanted it to take less of
my time, to consume less of my energy, and yet to give me a hell of a lot more pleasure.
 My journey was long and uneventful, as I searched and searched, but never found
anything that even remotely suited me.
All wasted years of my life, in time and energy, and total failure, or ―not quite.‖
And then one night, by accident, really, I discovered my method.

It Happened On Night
I‘d sat on my bed and accidentally knocked something behind it, and in repeatedly
maneuvering to retrieve it, I felt a weird, gratifying sensation. Definitely sexual. And
most definitely gratifying.
I felt a fantastic feeling of sensual pleasure radiating from my groin that took
me by total surprise.
I‘d NEVER FELT ANYTHING like it before. NEVER!
So, of course, I kept experimenting with getting and repeating that wonderful
sensation, while improving my technique to take less time and less of my energy, and
soon THE PLEASURE DOUBLED and then QUADRUPLED. I nearly fell off the bed, it
was so good.
I WAS ACHIEVING THE MOST EXPLOSIVE ORGASMS I‘D EVER
EXPERIENCED! In just TWO WEEKS!
I experimented over the next 12 years and honed and perfected my
technique.
Besides having sexual intercourse, my ECSTASY ROCK METHOD became my
main technique for achieving sexual gratification. Whenever I felt horny and knew I
wasn’t going to be able to have sex with anyone anytime soon, I still had a totally
FOOLPROOF METHOD almost as wonderful to rely on.
I got so good at it, that sometimes, after having sex with someone, who couldn‘t
bring me to orgasm, I‘d use my self-taught method I‘d discovered, and I‘d have great
orgasms anyway. Just like a professional porn star.
And so can you, once YOU LEARN MY NEW METHOD.
My ECSTASY ROCK METHOD.
 *Why Traditional Masturbation Is
Inferior
Have you ever gotten so horny that you just needed to release right away? But
was your first thought ever, ―I need to purchase a $200 plus faux (insert favorite porn
queen‘s name here) combined vagina and butt toy and a huge bottle of warming gel or
gliding lube?‖ There are men who‘re willing to spend ridiculous amounts of money on
sex products that are cumbersome to use and embarrassing to be seen with. Think
detailed suitcase check at the airport, or your visiting mom ―helping out‖ by ―just
cleaning up‖ around your place, or that certain someone looking for that spare shirt you
said you had, and finding...? Place indignant female rant here.
And the guys with less disposable cash?
Well, most guys, who‘re circumcised and who whack off, need excessive amounts
of lube to duplicate that slick and wet, gliding feeling so native to a penis sheathed in a
warm, snug vagina.
Or those guys, like that old ―Mad TV‖ skit, who use the same crusty sock sheath
over and over again YUCK! Wash it, dude. Unless, of course, a crusty vagina is your
fave? YUCK.
Or even those who microwave fruits and vegetables, to get off. I don‘t even want
to imagine the skin burns. Let alone having it ruin a perfectly great apple pie.

Jerking Off Is Harmful

Now you say, ―Well there‘s no harm in jerking off, plus, I need to, so why stop?‖
Because jerking off is actually harmful to you and your sex life.
I repeat. Jerking off is harmful to both your body and your sex life.
I have friends, who masturbate the same average of most men and also a few
dedicated souls, who are chronic masturbators, and what they‘ve all told me is absolutely
shocking: When having sex, they simply cannot orgasm during intercourse. Even
without condoms, they can‘t enjoy the warm, extraordinary feeling of being sheathed
inside a woman.
The reason?
 Jerking off can desensitize your penis to NOT RESPOND to sexual stimuli,
no matter whether through oral, anal, and even vaginal intercourse.
I don‘t know about you, but I find that totally depressing, because I like, well,
actually, I love sex with women, and not being able to orgasm during sex seems a
terrifying nightmare to me.
 *Why My Ecstasy Rock Method
Works
To tell the truth, man, I never particularly wondered much about why my Ecstasy
Rock Method worked. It was just a part of my life, until one day, I got into a conversation
with a good friend about masturbation, and I ventured to tell him about my method. His
jaw, literally, dropped in utter disbelief, plus he was completed pissed that I‘d never told
him about it before.
So, I gave him my instructions on what to do, and not to.
Then, my good friend tried it, and came back REALLY pissed to‘ve not been told
about it sooner. And then I got a really pissed at myself, because when he asked me why
it works, I couldn‘t answer his question. Not until now.
After extensive research, I now know the reason why my Ecstasy Rock Method
works and why it will continue to always feel better than all other forms of traditional,
hands-on masturbation.

Why a man takes it in the butt.

If you‘re not into it, have you ever wondered why some men have anal sex
performed on them? Why wouldn‘t they choose a sex act that had fewer risks from fatal
or damaging sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) like AIDS and syphilis, and less
intrusive (and feminine to some minds), something that might give similar pleasurable
results, like oral sex?
The reason is the male prostate gland.
Our prostate is considered to be the male equivalent of the formerly infamously
illusive female G-spot (Gräfenberg-spot), named for the scientist who hypothesized its
existence). Smart fellow.
Our P-spot (prostate-spot) feels like an explosive pleasure bomb when we climax
from it; and it‘s easily stimulated through the rectum (internally or externally), during
anal play, anal sex, or P-spot massage.
Method Requires No Anal Insertion
My Ecstasy Rock Method uses the prostate, and the surrounding area of the body,
but without insertive anal play or anal sex, which are not at all required to achieve a
fantastic orgasm.
I repeat that that is the beauty with my Ecstasy Rock Method; absolutely NO
rectal or anal insertion is required.
The reason my Ecstasy Rock Method is so ecstatically pleasurable is so simple,
that I was completely surprised and dumbfounded that I didn‘t figure it out sooner.
The bladder comes heavily into play in my method, as it applies light stimulation
around the prostate gland, causing the prostate to receive a nice, arousing massage from
its superior placement on top of the gland. This is the exact thing we‘ve all experienced.
It‘s that feeling you get from lying down a long while and then standing and suddenly
finding you have to urinate NOW, and then, when you finally do relieve yourself, the
sensation of the pressure being released off your prostate, as you piss, gives you an
ecstatic, nearly orgasmic feeling. ―Ahh!‖ Think Tom Hanks and his hilariously long,
long, long piss in the film ―A League of Their Own.‖
Male Reproductive Tract Diagram
You can see the anatomical placements in the following diagram.

Your bladder, as you can see above, sits right on top of the prostate, so any
pressure received on or caused by your bladder is also felt by your prostate; just like the
weight of a water balloon sloshing back and forth on the palm of your hand. The heavier
your bladder is with fluid, the more you‘ll feel its weight on your sensitive prostate.
Therefore, as the bladder is stimulated, your prostate is stimulated, which leads to
momentum of sexual build up, which, in turn, creates pleasure within the prostate, as
continued stimulated rhythm from the bladder’s weight and motion results in a full
blown prostate orgasm.
Just think what you could do with a lovely partner, your bladder and prostate in
partnership, and a good lap dance. Hm, let‘s come back to this one later.
Massaging Your Prostate, WITHOUT Insertion
I‘ve discovered a way to use the natural anatomy and physics of your bladder and
your prostate in full concert together, in a way that activates and thoroughly massages
your prostate, FROM THE OUTSIDE, without ever inserting any object of any kind
into your rectum. Except, of course, unless you want to.
This Frontal Prostate Massage (FPM) is my NEW Ecstasy Rock Method
(ERM). Cool, huh?
Now, aren‘t you just bursting to learn how to do it, how to get your rocks off, and
how to come like you‘ve never come before? 1-2-3. Get ready for the method.
 *My NEW Method! AKA Ecstasy
Rock Method
My method‘s not hard at all to learn or do, but the first time or two can be just a
little tricky; so, please, follow each step carefully, and warily gauge where you are, in
learning to execute this new skill set, by being always aware of taking care of your body,
it‘s priceless and irreplaceable in its exquisite sensitivities, and always be aware of how
your body and you, inhabiting your body, both feel; your body, physically, and you,
emotionally.
Remember: This is a skill and that this should be comforting, not stressful; so,
don‘t strive; relax into my new rock method
Plus, if you don’t get the hang of it the first few times, don’t get frustrated.
You didn‘t learn all the skills of your favorite physical sport and what you‘re best at
playing in that game, all on your first few tries, and definitely not in the first half hour.
Okay, SOME of you may have aced all things football or sexual intercourse in your first
half hour run to the goal line, but most of us didn‘t and don‘t.
So, read on.

The Ecstasy Rock Method

Take a deep, slow breath—your gut should move out and in when breathing; hold
it for a ten (10) count and slowly release, then wait five (5) minutes, and then try again.
The most important part you‘ll find is just getting used to the incredible feeling of
pleasure welling up from your P-stop. Once you feel that, then you know for certain that
you‘re on the right track.
Medical Caution: Although this is a simple procedure, if you’ve had ANY problems
healthwise; especially, heart, breathing, or circulation concerns, consult with your
physician and get a solid checkup and professional medical advice.

Tool Warnings:

I really suggest that you DON’T take ANY substance which hardens your tool for
hours on end, when using this procedure, because you could bend or break your
favorite body part.
Also, do be careful of any piercing(s) you may have, as they may snag onto something
and rip at your precious flesh, or merely be ground into it, causing harm. Ouch!

Steps to the Ecstasy Rock Method (ERM) aka the Frontal Prostate Massage (FPM)
ERM Step 1
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TRY the ERM WITH A HARD ON. I know it
Comment [NS1]: Illustration Pix for each of your
steps would be good. Never underestimate the ability
for those following instructions to imagine it
completely wrong, or to misread and so do the
opposite.

sounds counterintuitive, but your penis MUST be flaccid (fully relaxed) for you to
make the proper rhythm and range of physical motion, without strain or damage to
yourself. If you do try this method with an erection, you will hurt yourself.
So, don‘t overachieve. Be protective of your body, and begin with your penis
flaccid.
Lie on your stomach on a flat surface; it can be a table, a nightstand, or even a
bed, the later of which is what I suggest. Your surface of choice should be around knee
level, but can be higher or lower, according to your liking, just make certain you feel
comfortable—I know, this is all completely new, but relax. Be certain you‘re totally
secure from falling off, while using whatever ―study‖ materials you normally choose to
masturbate with: DVDs, magazines or your fertile and familiar imagination.
You can leave your trousers on, but it will make a mess. So, unless you don‘t
mind doing a special load of laundry or explaining that stain on your dry cleaning, I
recommend trousers off. With or without underpants is your choice. Alternatively, you
can use a condom.
Comment [NS2]: Illustration Pix--Feet up, off
ERM Step 2 the floor? On the floor?

Line up the bottom of your pubic bone (right above your groin) to the very edge
of the surface. (Illustration)
Spread your legs apart, about shoulder length. You may ―travel‖ a little, while
you‘re in motion, and have to reposition yourself from time to time, so remember this
beginning position, your default spot. When you have a better understanding of the ERM,
then you may inch yourself up or inch yourself down to suit you, whenever you like, and
also you may then place your legs closer or farther apart, or bend or cross them or
whatever feels most comfortable—or sensually interesting—AFTER you properly learn
these basics.
 Basics first and then restyling your ERM to fit your own personal needs. Flaccid,
check; flat surface, check; settled into your position; and ready to learn how to rock....

ERM Step 3
Now, don’t hump your chosen flat surface like a mad man.
Slowly rock backward and forward, head to hip bone, or knee, whichever feels
better, but not side to side. Do not roll left and right. Rock back and forth, using a rhythm
of ―1 and 2 and 1 and 2…‖ to time it right (Illustration). Comment [NS3]: Agree on illustration.

Next, start bringing your legs closer together, but do make certain your feet don‘t
clunk together, which would stop your foot and leg motion, and decrease your ERM
motion‘s build up of energy. (You physics whizzes can figure out that formula later.). So,
don‘t smack your legs or feet together, at this point, because your legs‘ movement is
doing most of the work for you.
Experiment with different leg motions: legs coming closer together; one leg
moving left to right in a semi-circle, while the other is stationary; both legs moving in a
semi-circle; scissoring; frog swim kicks; or whatever you discover feels right for your
body.
When you notice the first initial signs of pleasure, gradually increase the speed of
your leg motion.
Warning: DO NOT move side to side, rolling left and right, because it will decrease
your proper motion and, therefore, DECREASE YOUR PLEASURE.
As you feel the sexual pressure growing and rising inside you, increase the speed
of your legs even more, until you feel yourself come to climatic orgasm.

“Warning, Warning, Will Robinson!!”©

Hold tight, because if this is your first time coming with the Ecstasy Rock
Method, you may, literally, want to hold on tight to whatever you can. Trust me. You‘ll
need to, but can thank me later.
Putting humorous robot warnings aside, though, after each attempt, wait ten to
thirty (10-30) minutes before trying again, or your orgasms will be weaker and less
climatic and intense.
***
 Now you know how to achieve an orgasm the right way, the Ecstasy Rock
way, without hurting yourself or numbing your poor, beloved penis with excess
friction from excessive manhandling. Pun intended.
But wait, my Ecstasy Rock Method doesn‘t stop here; and neither will you.
Read further and learn other fascinating things about sex and masturbation and
how you can add my NEW Ecstasy Rock Method into your partnered sex life.
And be like a PORN STAR!! And more normal men as well.
 *How to Shoot Your Load,
Like a Huge Porn Star!
There are simple exercises which will help you build the skills to hold back and
restrain the momentum of your growing need, so you can have stronger orgasms and
ejaculations.
If you‘re interested in how to shoot your load like a HUGE porn star read on.

Health First, Then Great Sex

First, let‘s, again, take another look at what is commonly called our Kegel or
pubococcygeus muscles [pue-boe-coc-seh-gee-us] muscles or PC muscles, which are the
hammock-like group of muscles found in both sexes, stretching along the base of your
pubic bone to your coccyx (tail bone), for supporting and protecting your pelvic organs—
including your rectum, your penis, her vagina, and the bladder openings in both sexes.
So, in these exercises, the best way to work your PC muscles is to tighten your
rectum and squeeze those aft cheeks, which will tighten the PC area, the same muscles
you use to stop the flow of urine, but can now use to delay orgasm.
Remember, these muscles, when well-exercised and skillfully manipulated,
can lead to abundant amounts of semen being released during ejaculation.
So, my friend, imagine dairy buckets of hot, fresh cream, but assume the reality
may realistically be a bit less.

Better Control, Greater Orgasms, More Sensitive Penis

With my Ecstasy Rock Method, you needn‘t spend hours jerking and rubbing
yourself sore and insensitive. You can, instead, work your PC muscles with ease, without
hands, without causing insensitivity and soreness; plus it‘s great exercise for better
health, like a stronger, healthier heart, makes a stronger, healthier you. Sounds good,
huh?

ERM Plus PCs = Porn Star

What? You‘re champing at the bit and ready to learn how to shoot your load like a
porn star, alone or with a lover? Then, follow these steps:
Steps to ERM + PC = Porn Star
1. Use my Ecstasy Rock Method.

2. When you feel the first signs of pleasure, contract and squeeze your PC
muscles and stop, to contain your gratification and postpone from building to
crescendo.

3. Wait about two minutes, relax or walkabout even, and then begin your
motions and build up again.

4. Hold once more, by again contracting and squeezing your PC muscles to

control and contain the building feeling each time, which will make your
ejaculation grow stronger and more powerful.

A. I recommend containing and holding back at least twice, before you

proceed on to Step 5. Later, you can attempt to contain and hold, for up to
5 or 6 times. I wouldn‘t recommend more.

5. Now, if you want to shoot your massive load alone, continue with ERM.

But, if you want to explode during sexual intercourse, then ERM isn‘t
necessary, from this point on. Just have sex as you normally would, but do use
ERM to build your pleasure to its topmost fullness; and when you feel or
finally decide that you‘re entirely ready to climax, and to release and enjoy
coming like you‘ve never come before, position your penis—at a 45 degree
angle trajectory [like this ∕ ], and prepare for THE MOST INCREDIBLE
ERUPTION!!!

Warning: Whatever is in your vicinity will be drenched, so have an absorbent towel

handy for cleanup, and warn anyone in the way to step back or start swimming.

FUN FACT
Legendary porn star Ron Jeremy [Ron Jeremy Hyatt] was a school teacher who formerly
posed for Playgirl, after his girlfriend submitted his candid photo to the magazine, and
subsequently went into the adult film industry.
He started using his first and middle name professionally, after his poor grandmother was
pestered at all hours by prospective women suitors, who‘d seen him in his full masculine
glory in Playgirl, calling grandma‘s number thinking they were contacting Ron, since his
Grandma Rose was listed in the phone book as R. Hyatt.
―She had to move out of her apartment for a month,‖ Jeremy says and also that his father
warned that, ―If you want to get into this naked, crazy business, so be it, but if you use
the family name again, I‘ll kill you.‘‖
Jeez. Talk about performance pressure.
 *Tantric Sex
Tantric sex, for a male lover, is based on him using his PC muscles, like you do
to control your flow of urine, to delay orgasm. The practice is said to come from
Buddhist and Taoist religion and lore.
Similar activity can be practiced by your female lover.
As Tantric practice became known in western culture—a development that started
at the end of the 18th century, and which has completely escalated since the 1960s—it‘s
become identified with its sexual methods for improving healthy sexual intercourse.
Consequently, its essential nature as spiritual practice is often overlooked by many in the
west.
Sexuality‘s roles in both Tantra and in Neotantra, while related, are actually quite
different, reflecting substantial differences in their cultural contexts.

Neotantra and the Sacred Sensual Spirit

Neotantra‘s most important sexual practices revolve around our ability for sensual
experiencing of understated energies within our sensual bodies, and of our conscious
intentions to access these energies, in order to enhance our bodily pleasures and yet to
challenge our overfocus upon maintaining and holding tight to that pleasure of the
physical body with closed fists, by opening up and letting it all relax and reveal the even
more intoxicating spirit and spiritual pleasures hidden and starving within, because of our
overfocus on overstriving for only the physical pleasures.
Teachers of this version of Tantra state their ancient beliefs that sex and sexual
intercourse‘s experiences are sacred acts which are, as sacred and elevating as spiritual
love, and are as capable as sacred love in elevating you and your partner to a higher
spiritual existence. Of course they clearly understand that physical, emotional, and
spiritual loving have varying levels as well: base, heartfelt, and with god.
Raising a person‘s Kundalini energy (a double helix-shaped energy which
basically runs up and down the spine) is often mentioned, as is worshiping the divine
feminine (the archetype of female perfection and power), of activating the chakras (the
major energy centers in the spiritual body that are reflected in our physical body), and of
experiencing full-body orgasms.
Tantra’s Erotic, Sacred Consciousness
―Tantra,‖ in this perspective, often refers to the set of techniques for cultivating a
more fulfilling sexual or love relationship; and there are many truly dedicated scholars
and teachers and researchers in the field of contemporary Tantra.
Thus, Tantric sexuality often cultivates ecstatic consciousness as well as increased
spiritual awareness of our erotic consciousness that pervades our human embodiment, as
well as everything that contextualizes this embodiment.
Tantric sexual methods may be practiced in solo, in partnership, or occasionally
within the sacred rituals of groups. The particular specifics of these methods are often
kept intensely secret, and are passed from senior practitioners to novice students in an
oral and apprentice tradition. It must be remembered that genuine Tantric spiritual
practice is only one aspect of a wider-ranging spiritual path of meditation, and that the
sexual and erotic aspects of these meditations and focuses can‘t be genuinely engaged
without enough intentional mental and spiritual preparation and rigorous physical and
emotional discipline.
***
Tantric sexuality is only just one dimension of a sacred spiritual path devoted and
dedicated to the challenge of becoming fully aware, every moment of our lives, of the
supreme flow of the sacred life force itself, expressed through the erotic as the Sacred
Unity of Love.
***
Tantric Sex is a wonderful experience that can only come through dedicated
practice. Practicing by jerking off is an option, but the amount of effort will tire you out
quickly; and tiredness wears hard on the spirit, the emotions, and the body.
That‘s why my technique is a great way to perfect your Tantric Sex lifestyle.
So to begin, let‘s see how you can increase your spiritual flow of orgasm.

ERM Plus Tantric Sex

Many ancient theorists and spiritualists believe that a man‘s semen is the essential
source of his strength and that he should be able to control when he wants to ejaculate, or
not.
They seek to actually climax to orgasm, WITHOUT ejaculation.
 A man, who can control his ejaculation, by circulating the energy of his orgasm
throughout his body, is a man that can become multi-orgasmic.
However, don‘t get too excited on that track, as I‘m not going to teach you how to
be multi-orgasmic, because that‘s not my goal here; that‘s something you‘ll have to
research and teach your own body to do, much as you taught yourself to masturbate, in
the first place, but ERM will definitely put you on the fast track to researching multi-
orgasms further and getting closer achieving it.

Steps to ERM + Tantric Sex = Ejaculation Control

Step 1
Progress through ERM, slowly.

Step 2
When you feel like you‘re about to ejaculate—STOP! Stop ALL sexual
movement and additional sensation. Just be still, and relax. Get up and walk around, if
you can, or do a load of laundry, if it‘s available.
If you’re building toward sex with another, who’s present, tell them what you’re
doing—controlling your ejaculation, or distract them with naughty jokes or unexpected
foreplay or a playful fake fight (careful with that one), and would this kind of foreplay be
interruptus play.

Step 3
Slowly, take a few long, deep breaths; they should fill down into your belly and
up through your chest. Wait 5 minutes and slowly get back into the method.

Step 4
Now build up your particular momentum again, but go further than before. Feel
the pressure building and Stop again. Repeat step 3.

Step 5
Get back into position letting the pressure build and this time progress even
further than the last, and come closer to climatic orgasm. Just when you‘re about to
release, squeeze your PC muscles tightly, and gently concentrate on not letting any semen
come out, much as if you were pausing or holding a stream of urine from bursting forth.
It can be done, if both you‘re muscles and your concentration are trained. So, practice,
boy, practice.
***
Be patient and remain relaxed.
You may have to add extra stop times to get the full benefits, especially if semen
is still slipping out, but keep practicing, by flexing and exercising those PCs of yours, and
increase the number of times you stop and start.
Be dedicated, my friend, don‘t get discouraged and soon you’ll be able to pause
or stop your ejaculation, whenever YOU want.

Advanced Tantric Master Exercise

Do the steps of your ERM motions, but STOP at the point, the very edge, just
before your orgasm, and instead take control and guide your inner attention of that
sexual urge or feeling upon your heart. It‘ll probably feel cozy warm, or if not, or if you
can‘t quite feel it, fully imagine that it is cozy warm and let that powerful energy
you’re generating flow upward from your sex organs to caress and energize your
heart with warm and cozy vigor, instead of simply blowing off all your important
climatic energy like a wild solar flare dissipating its force off into space.
The exact point to stop is the point, the very precipice where you know that one
motion or one more stroke will make you come. Stop your ERM motions, or if you‘re
going old school, simply take your hand away, and let your inner energy flow soft and
warm right up to your heart.
Repeat this Tantric energy flow cycle, milking your energy upward within you,
drawing it all up to your heart area, to caress and fill it, until there seems to be no more
energy below, or you just feel you want to stop.
You don‘t have to forbid yourself from an orgasm, but delay it, and let your
sexual energy flow to your heart first, and you’ll make your orgasms more intense.
Exercise like this every day, or as often as possible; make it a part of your life,
just another exercise for your health. This simple exercise has proven to be a method of
internal alchemy, a method by which you begin to make changes in your psycho-physical
system and thus changes for the better in your states of consciousness, mind, and being.
The Heart-Opening Experience—Yes, Mushy Stuff
This is the experience of being in love, but without channeling it to another
person. It‘s not unlike being in love with a famous person or a favorite fictional character,
your have intense, warm feelings, but don‘t have a physical place to actually put them.
But you can imagine interactions and send that energy to them there.
But don‘t go crazy and mind possessive like a stalker. Nor actually seek out the
performer who personifies this character. All you require is your love and your mind‘s
imagination and your emotion‘s drive to do this.

In Love
Be ―in love‖ with everyone and everything, as if you were in love with ―the one,‖
which will give you that great, happy feeling that sloshes bliss over everything and
everyone you encounter or think of. Feel completely at peace and physically perfect as
you are because you can feel this love, and can express it as you like, and because it is
completely yours, to hold, and to give.
Relax and become love.
I know, sounds mushy and all ‗60s trippy, but not when you‘re really in love with
a great woman. Then, it‘s easy, and a completely tangible feeling within you, but for
now, imagine yourself with that particular great woman, or that you‘re about to meet her,
and your heart will clearly open bit by bit. You know, that sigh and ―ah, yeah, I love
being with this woman‖ feeling.
And, no, this won‘t kill you, and if you feel like it is, you have control and can
stopper it down, little by little, but never suddenly, because that can injure you.
But try to open and let the warm, happy feeling happen, and don‘t stopper it just
because you feel, be brave and ride it out. Don‘t fear that you‘re wasting time and energy
on something so stupid and imaginary. ―Star Trek‖ was an imagining and it‘s generated
billions of dollars of actual products, made millions of fans happy, and given us the space
shuttle program.
Imagining rules.
Think of your heart like a camera shutter or water faucet‘s washer inset opening
wide to receive love, and so, generally wider is better, to give love AND RECEIVE IT,
but when closing it down, narrow that shutter aperture or close down that water stream to
slow that love overflow down like a faucet‘s stream; heavy flow, medium slow, a trickle;
or to cut it fully off.
Ouch. No more love for you.
But for now. Don‘t trickle and don‘t narrow for this exercise, except to get used to
how you feel doing it as practice. Remember: trickling and narrowing your heart center
chakra (its aperture or faucet) means you‘re being unloving, but wide open is loving. If
you don‘t know the diff I‘m sure the women and daughters or sisters, who know you, no
matter how little or how old, will be able to tell when you‘re unloving and when you‘re
openly loving.
Just ask, and watch the look on their faces, because in loving you, they may lie, in
order to not hurt your feelings, but their face and eyes won‘t.

Truer Power
You want to open yourself to accept the true you and open yourself to those who
will love that true you. We don‘t want façade and surface, we want the deep down stuff,
because surfaces and façades get scraped off, scarred, or merely changed; the true deep
down is forever, and you need that recognized and working for you.
Open and loving is the useful ability to express love to others, to be more patient
with them and yourself, to be less afraid of their judgments and disapproval, or your own.
Visualize, even without ERM or any sex, and learn to put your energetic attention
in your heart, to pull whatever energy is within and near you together. Do this while
talking to a good friend or your best client and know that, in that unspeakable, but real
alchemical magic that happens between people of a like mind, that whatever they need
and however you can give it to them will be yours to give, if you choose.
No questions, no doubts.
Your heart which has its own chakra, its own energy center, is the direct center of
your body and of your spiritual power-centered chakras, with those below the heart
needing less energy and thought to use and those above requiring more energy and more
focused mental control to reach and use properly. It‘s the complete difference between an
only lust-filled feeling burning in your groin or a gut-based feeling of jagged-edged hate
and the most elevated love you can generate out to the universe straight up and out
through the top of your head, like a beacon of pure, loving light. For those men with little
daughters, it‘s that feeling.
My personal fave is to try this on an enemy or anyone giving me hell about just
about anything, and they‘ll come up against an impenetrable, untroubled smile, a benign
and generous passion that is unrelenting and not meeting fire with fire, which only
engulfs everything and kills us all. Let them be fire, while you are air, now, how long do
you think they‘ll burn, without you feeding them?

Be Magnetic—Personal Magnetism
But back to things sexual, you‘ll actually become more magnetic; drawing to you
to those things and people you want in your life and repelling those you don‘t need.
You‘ll have more satisfaction, with greater ease and pleasure within your sexual
experiences with others. It‘s a tangible, real thing.
It‘s personal magnetism, which attracts. You don‘t have to be Matthew
McConaughey, with his perfect smile and perfect abs, which is not my opinion, but that
of certain lovely females I know, but with your own personal brand of personal
magnetism, you‘ll be just as they imagine Mr. McC to be, and find that sex is easy.
Without personal magnetism, sex becomes a definite chore.
And yet, masturbation exercises which truly open your truest personal energies up
and let the real you flow through your body unhindered and bypassing the noise and
clatter of past ―advice‖ and ―help‖ from parents, clergy, and school administrators who
were terribly in error, about you, increases a person‘s personal magnetism. A clean mirror
reflects your true face best.
It‘s the same as a generator strengthening your force field to protect you, or
strengthening your tractor beam to invisibly attract and pull in the best quality of people
you need straight into your life, straight into your arms, and bed, where you can do a little
Double Ecstasy Rocking of your own making. Now, that is really cool.

Health, Vitality, and Spirit

You should also feel your general vitality and enthusiasm increase noticeably.
Friends and family may even remark on how wonderful, how full of life, and how very
healthy you look. You can even channel and direct your self-love energy to any part of
your body, especially for healing, when that part of you isn‘t feeling quite right and as
fully strong and free as it should.
In fact, when you‘ve practiced enough and fully accepted it you may find that you
attract so much that you may have to stopper it down, there are occasions, when talking
to people, that I realize they‘re becoming too excited about meeting me, that‘s when I
keep smiling, but turn my love magnetism faucet down to trickle.
Work with your heart center first, because, you‘ll most likely not be capable of
generating enough uplifting energy to make it all the long way to your head at first,
which is a normal difficulty with this kind of Tantric work. Don‘t worry, since your heart
is a great safety valve. If your heart is open, even just a little, there‘s no tendency to
injure oneself or others.
Shutting love off completely hurts you and others, and most especially you,
because you’re completely holding back a powerful energy that needs to go
somewhere, usually to others. If it can‘t go, it stays and corrupts; turning to acid energy
that‘ll burn out its generator, and that generator would be you.
Love wishes everyone well. And love is not a wimpy sentiment; it‘s real,
powerful, and can save your life, because a tight heart is a dead heart.
The problem that many people have in taking the more spiritual path in sex is that
they try to work on the upper chakra centers which govern more complicated things such
as verbal and thought communication and active soul growth, before they work those
from below which energize and control the body, govern our basic interactions with
others, help us securely establish our personal integrity with others and especially within
ourselves, and the active or inactive abilities of our heart.
Work on your heart first, because it‘s centermost and because it‘s easiest through
which to feel both positive and negative energy. If it feels bad, it‘s bad blockage; if it
feels great, it‘s great flow; if it has no feeling, except indifference, you have inside work
to do, which probably includes acknowledging and accepting something you‘re afraid to
acknowledge and accept.
Relax, give it love, and let if flow; you‘ll still have control.
“Love Thyself”
When you begin feeling yourself loving the idiots, uh, lovely souls at the carwash,
crying at touchdowns, and volunteering and enjoying the opera and ballet with her—just
kidding, maybe—then, you‘ll most likely be all set to work on those upper power centers.
One of the most powerful aspects of these exercises is that many men have developed a
wholly unshakeable sense of their personal identity and an at-One-ness with their world
and universe. Self love.
It is said that one should ―love thyself.‖ So, why should it be suspect, humorous,
or criminal that thoughtful, heartfelt, and harmless masturbation is an important step
in loving yourself, in order to learn to love yourself, by making love to yourself.
Being undemanding and loving with yourself will translate to effortless and joyful
sex with another.
It‘s your body; love it, as you‘d love others to do so. Let go of the perfect images
of what is handsome and perfect. Yes, forget that you‘re not put together like Mr. McC,
because that kind of obsession, of comparing and cataloguing imperfections in yourself,
is one of the MANY ways you keep your body‘s many energies frozen and incapable of
fluidly transmitting loving, sexual energy. Hating parts of your body, freezes your sexual
energy from and through that part, as surely as a frozen pipe won‘t work, and may even
burst under extreme stress.
Remember: Yes we photograph and talk about the ―beautiful people,‖ but the ugly
people love and mate, too. And you and I are allowed to be somewhere in there getting
ours as well.
Love your body, improve it, exercise it, and do some of those things women have
been smart enough to know works for all bodies: hot baths; relaxing; and washing and
thoroughly massaging your skin with bare hands, whether yours or another‘s, with added
attention to those ―difficult‖ and ―problem‖ parts of your body you‘re not quite loving in
full yet. Those are those places the massage therapist always finds knotted with hard
tension.

Back on Point
For your masturbation exercises, remember to raise your body‘s sexual energy
nearly to the point of climatic orgasm, but instead of letting all that energy spurt out,
without thought or concentrated feeling, channel it, like a steam engine does, but with
your mind and feelings, by letting your energy rise upward through the center of your
body, and into your heart.
At the point just previous to an orgasm, a channel opens in everyone‘s body, and
if you lay off achieving your orgasm now, and pause to rest at that moment, to guide your
intentional focus to your heart, that energy, your powerful sexual energy, that you‘ve
generated for yourself, will flow naturally and unimpeded straight upwards, like juice
through a straw, to make your warm heart even warmer.
It’s your energy, why waste it, why throw it away, to wipe it up, when you
can recycle and get every bit of pleasure and love out of it that you can?
Be green, and recycle your love.
So, just rest at that crucial, pre-orgasmic moment, and you‘ll not have to do
anything else, but focus and let it happen. Don‘t worry about analyzing how it feels, or if
it truly is happening, just do it, just LET it happen!

FUN FACT
One method of sexual intercourse that falls into the Tantric and which is why famous
rock musician and actor Sting is infamously known for his sexual stamina, and so
beloved by his wife, Trudy, is the method of inserting the penis into the vagina and lying
still.
This can be a soft penis, yes, a soft one can be inserted by you or your loved one, with a
finger positioned to either side of your big cigar, like, well, a big cigar—and then feed
your softened length in, a little at a time, using those two fingers for a guide wall.
I repeat.
Lying still. No friction. No movement is necessary to start it.
One can converse or kiss and pet or lie quietly, just breathing together, telling jokes,
stories of your past, dreams about the future, or singing to each other—just experiment,
and don‘t strive to make sex, and whoa, your body and hers will recognize that they are
together and will, like magnets in full attraction, act accordingly on their own, without all
the rubbing together like you‘re making a campfire, because your male parts and her
female parts love being together.
And, without friction, the penis will normally grow up into and custom fill the vagina,
and some have reported sublime, yes, completely sublime ecstasies.
Now. Raise your hand. Who DOESN‘T want that?
 *Ecstasy Rock Troubleshooting:
Bladder Techniques
The urinary bladder, in anatomy, is a hollow, muscular, and distensible (or
elastic) organ that sits on the pelvic floor in mammals. It is the organ that collects urine
excreted by the kidneys prior to disposal by urination. Urine enters the bladder via the
ureters from the kidneys and exits via the urethra. For the urine to exit the bladder, both
the autonomically controlled internal sphincter and the voluntarily controlled external
sphincter must be opened.
Problems with these sphincter muscles can lead to incontinent leakage problems
of both urine and semen.
The urinary bladder, just so you know, usually holds 400–620 ml of urine, but it
can hold twice that without rupturing, if, for example, the outflow is obstructed; think
swollen prostate.
The desire to urinate usually starts when the bladder reaches around 75% of its
working volume capacity. If that person is distracted, the desire to piss can fade and
return with more urgency as the bladder continues to fill.
Warning: The bladder may rupture if overfilled and not emptied. This can occur in the
case of binge drinkers who pass out after consuming large quantities. Bladder rupture
is a condition that is rare in women, but does occur. Symptoms include localized pain
and uremia (poisoning due to reabsorbed waste).
***

Using Your Bladder in ERM

Now, some may have trouble with this the first few times they play around with
it. That‘s ok. This is a skill, it takes practice and it even took me many attempts to find
my own rhythm and tempo. So, I recommend these following troubleshooting
techniques to help get past that initial stage. Once you get it down, though, you won‘t
need them any more, but for now, stick with them, until you start to feel it working.
As I‘ve said previously, the bladder and the prostate work hand in hand to provide
you with orgasmic pleasure, so, to properly train your body, you may need varying
degrees of bladder differentiation, or liquid ballast, shall we say.
 So, please, take your time and soon you‘ll be experiencing the orgasm of a
lifetime.

Bladder—Completely Empty
The best way to do it, with all of the control being yours, without the addition of
the added weight and liquid vibration from your bladder, but some may have to build up
to this. And some men may prefer this in the long run.

Bladder—Partially Filled
This is for the beginners. The technique may take some time to develop in some
men. When you feel like your bladder is somewhat filled, use this method slowly. Feel
the pleasure and work with it, and when you orgasm a few times, with this method, you‘ll
be able to do it without having to use the bathroom in the middle of your fun.

Bladder—Full
This method isn‘t really recommended, but can be used. I suggest you only try
this, if a partially filled bladder really isn‘t working for you.

Bladder—Overfull
If you have an urgent, bad need to use the bathroom, DO NOT USE this
technique. If you have any bladder damage already, DO NOT USE this technique.
Relieve the stress on your body first, by first relieving your bladder‘s stress, as the tense
stress from an overfull bladder will be felt throughout your entire body.
You may even cause actual damage to your body.
Or just piss all over everything. And I‘m not teaching you that.
A reminder from before: Just think what you could do with a lovely partner, your
bladder and prostate in partnership, and a good, loving lap dance. Hmmmm.
 *Surfaces
This is probably going to be the simplest and yet trickiest part because people‘s
preferences vary from person to person. I myself like surfaces between hard and soft; i.e.:
firm mattresses. It all depends, like sleeping surfaces, on what you like, so start off with
hard or soft and work your way to the level of firmness or softness, and flexibility with
which you feel most comfortable.
Do make certain your surface of choice is secure and won‘t topple over or
collapse with your weight and motions.
Do make certain you have enough surface space to lie comfortably on it and to
rock away in contentment, without any concerns for bodily harm.
Soon you‘ll be able to do it on any flat surface, even surfaces with limited areas
like stools. Hm, bars.
Warning: Do look out for sharp or pointed corners, and if you’re hurting because of
the surface, do stop and find another that doesn’t hurt. Unless, of course, pain is
your thing, but do protect your nature-given equipment, that’s been designed over
billions of years to its present perfect perfection, as there are many things first rate
doctors and surgery cannot fix or replace.

FUN FACT
There are ways to have prostate fun with toys, without insertions, think a vibrator
applied, by you or the one you love, to your exterior P-spot, m-m-m-m-m.
Or how about an adventurous tongue or humming lips kissing your sweet spot?
Or both, as there are fingertip and tongue vibrator attachments.
Now, that‘s a new angle to your girl‘s perpetual tongue wagging.
 More Health Benefits
Some people use masturbation in relationships where their sex partner may not
want as much sex as they; and for them, this provides a more harmonious balance in that
relationship.
Mutual masturbation is the act of two or more stimulating themselves in one
another‘s presence. Witnessing your partner masturbate teaches you the way(s) that
particular lover uses to please herself, and allows her to learn exactly how you enjoy
being touched and handled.
An Australian research team of The Cancer Council Australia, in 2003, concluded
that frequent male masturbation seems to help deter growth of prostate cancer.
This study also indicated that masturbation ejaculation may prove more helpful
than ejaculation through sexual intercourse, since intercourse with another can transmit
diseases which may add to the risk of cancer. Also, frequent jacking is easier to do and
maintain through masturbation instead of through the coordination of two for intercourse.

Revamping Old School Masturbation

Masturbation isn‘t as they called it not long ago, ―self-abuse,‖ not unless all your
lovemaking is abuse; masturbation is self love or making love to oneself, it‘s sex for one,
you‘re favorite one. So, be loving and kind to yourself and lay off the abuse, there are
plenty of others who‘ll do that for free, and without asking.
Whether using my Ecstasy Rocking Method or going completely old school and
taking matters in hand, keep in mind the Tantric, because there is no better sexual goal
than to let your own personal energy stay within your own body, to invigorate it and
soothe it and improve it with distilled, pure you energy moving upward and around in
your own body.
It‘s entirely yours, so why blow and jerk it away, without any concern, as if it
were useless and not truly yours, like spitting out another‘s thick, pubic hairs?
Most believe men are more familiar with sex for one than women, and that men
are directed towards merely getting off, and not at all inclined towards love for self, but
many women masturbate to just get off, too, and just to relieve that special tension.
 Women can be different, but they‘re not that different, not as a whole, no matter
what they or anyone says. Well, both sexes lie, sometimes. Don‘t we?
Lie: Women ONLY want love, and men ONLY want sex.
***
Men, make it important, when alone or when being masturbated by another, to
also be sensual with your entire self, not just quickly jack off.
Men not familiar with the sensations in their nipples and rectum, or other
―unusual‖ parts of them, shouldn‘t fear these sensations. Sensitive nipples and other
sensations aren‘t only feminine.
Experiment with your entire body, with touch, with different fabrics dragged
across the body‘s many parts, with a feather quill‘s tip teasing you, or even a soft leather
strap wielded by you, or by another, while you take care of the hand job or you ERM
rock. Find out what parts of you are teasible or sensitive, much as you‘d search for and
find such parts on her body, or when petting an animal. Some pets are small and delicate
and need only soft, tender strokes, while some are huge Rottweilers and need big, hard
pats to feel your loving presence; so, maybe she gets the delicate and you‘re the big dog.
Or maybe it‘s actually vice versa. Explore and find out.
Expand your sensual vocabulary, explore your openness, and establish for
yourself a welcoming attitude for new, fantastic, sexual sensation.

Exquisite Torture
Some wonder how any man can stand to approach so close to climatic orgasm,
and yet hold off not coming. It will, at first, seem a type of exquisite self torture. And
you can not come, if you so choose. But, generally, just make a friendly deal with
yourself, previous to raising your energy five or six times, prior to coming, and promise
to reward yourself with climaxing, but AFTER the agreed upon number of cycles.
Soon, it‘ll not be torture at all, only energetic pleasure of feeling your own energy
rev up and circulate within your own body.
Some even find it more pleasurable than the orgasm itself, which normally, ends
your playtime, so that shouldn‘t be your only goal, if you want more from a sexual
experience, alone or with another.
 PreSex Guide
Healthy Penis, Healthy Sperm
One single ejaculation discharges 50 million sperm from a normal healthy male,
from which only one or two will successfully make it anywhere near a mature egg deep
inside a woman, that is ready for fertilization.

Sperm Research
The health of sperm traditionally has been determined by identification through
microscopic observation of sperm speed and shape. Recent genetic advances can analyze
its actual composition, leading to better details and accuracy in identifying healthy sperm.

Tiptop and Potent Sperm

Generally, much of what makes sperm healthy is the same that keep men healthy,
because a healthy man, usually, has healthy, hardy sperm swimmers. And if you‘re trying
to get your partner pregnant, it‘s the same as great love or great sex: be patient, relax, and
repeat. Often, but without stress.
Here are a few things you should watch out for:

Tight Pants, Synthetics, and Heat

Keep your family tool cool, and let the blood circulate. No blood, no hard
on, no…, well, you get the point. Your scrotum needs to be four (4) degrees less
than body temperature.

Hot Tubs
Frequent hot tub sitting lowers sperm counts. Think boiling your boys.

Alcohol
Alcohol damages sperm; it plays havoc with blood circulation for starts.
Limit alcohol intake when trying to improve sperm motility for your fertility.

Drugs
Fertility killers include steroids; cytotoxic drugs such as used in cancer
treatments which kill cells—and may not differentiate cancer cells from your
 hardy swimmers; and opiates (the various narcotic alkaloids derived from
opium—morphine, codeine, and others).
Warning: Contact your physician if taking any long-term medication and ask about any
concerns you have on anything which might affect your fertility for fathering. Doctors
should inform you of any side effects, but if they don’t, just ask, and if you get no
answer again, get another opinion. Or another doctor.

Environment Toxins
There is conflicting data on what exactly may cause damage to sperm;
however, radiation does cause damage and birth defects. Others thought to cause
damage are some ingredients in perfumes, some pesticides, organic mercury,
estrogens in the water supply, and other substances. The arguments still rage, with
companies that make these substances and with their lucrative bottom line, so be
healthy and be wary.

Smoking
Smokers have often proven to be half as fertile as nonsmokers. Smoking
constricts the blood vessels in the lower extremities—it‘s the lack of blood to
your favorite parts, again. This can easily be seen in heat imagining.

Day and Night

Sperm counts are greater in the AM, so wake up early and make some
babies!

Too Much Jacking vs Extended Abstinence

Both can lower the quantity and the quality of your sperm. Intercourse or
masturbation every 2 to 3 days assists maintaining volume and higher quality.

Diet and, um, Tastier Sperm

Yadda-yadda-yadda. A healthy balanced diet. Exercise. Rest. Because a
healthy body makes healthy sperm! And don‘t forget lots of juice and clear, fresh
water—for tastier sperm!! No. Really. And excessive meat and smokes make your
swim boys taste bitter. Taste your own. Stop your ew-ing. If she can have a taste,
so can you, or why would you assume anyone would want to gobble something
from your body that you yourself are afraid to taste?
 By the way. The cleaner the body, the cleaner the body juices and other
body stuffs you ingest from it. So, again, fresh water and lots of healthy juice,
because a sweet-tasting guy bod makes sweet cream. This works for women as
well. A sweet-tasting gal bod makes sweet honey. Yum. ―Could I have some
more, please, sir?‖

Dietary Supplements
Folic acid, which has also been proving useful for memory and in cutting
birth defects, when combined with zinc sulfate often dramatically effects sperm
counts. Some men, with these supplements, have increased their count by as much
as 74 per cent.

Seek Medical Advice

Again, if you‘re at all concerned about your fertility and potency, simple med
tests can check your semen for proper fitness. Do consult your physician if you have any
illness, especially, ones that raise the body temperature or medications that are controlled
substances and require prescriptions.
 Prostate
A healthy human prostate is slightly larger than a walnut. It surrounds the urethra
just below the urinary bladder and can be felt during a rectal exam.
Within the prostate, the urethra coming from the bladder is called the prostatic
urethra and merges with the two ejaculatory ducts. The male urethra has two exclusive
functions: carrying urine from the bladder and transporting semen during ejaculation.
And the prostate is sheathed in the PC muscles of the pelvic floor, which contract during
the ejaculatory process.

Recent News and Stats

New York Magazine (Jan 2007) shared data, from the ―Centers for Disease
Control‘s National Survey of Family Growth,‖ stating that heterosexuals are enjoying
more anal action.
The survey showed that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent
of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. Compare that with the CDC‘s
1992 National Health and Social Life survey, which found that only 25.6 percent of men
18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 were indulging.
The common idea that anal sex is something long-term couples turn to for variety
is supported by the CDC survey, showing the lowest numbers among those who’ve
never been married and not cohabiting, compared with those cohabiting, married,
or divorced.
By the way, as pointed out by astute sex writer Susie Bright, especially for those
so avid at thumping the bible as the last word on all things sexual, it was never stated in
that book just EXACTLY what the Sodoms, better known as Sodomites just like one
would use the city term Akronite for those from Akron, Ohio, did to deserve getting
totally fried. It obviously wasn‘t drunkenness and incest with one‘s daughters, as that
came afterward, and seemed to be okay, as long as Mr. Lot‘s daughters were blamed for
dad falling out of his pants, twice.
How stoned does a guy have to be, not to recognize his own daughters? And yet
still be able to get it up, and do it? Twice.
Anti-Cancer Benefits
The recent claims of anti-cancer benefits of prostate stimulation are giving
men a legitimate and health-backed reason to explore around behind them. Even the best
heterosexual men‘s magazines, which have normally only discussed how to trick your
significant other or your present woman of the moment into giving you anal sex, are now
publishing articles on the doctor-created, FDA-approved, hands-free, prostate stimulator,
the Aneros1 built for the male equivalent of the female G-spot, aka the P-spot.

Prostate Disorder: Prostatitis

Prostatitis is inflammation of the prostate gland. There are different forms, each
with different causes and outcomes. Acute and chronic bacterial prostatitis are treated
with antibiotics; chronic non-bacterial prostatitis or male chronic pelvic pain syndrome,
which is 95% of prostatitis diagnoses, is treated with alpha blockers, physical therapy,
psychotherapy, antihistamines, nerve modulators and more. Even a mix of trigger point
and psychological therapy has been proving effective.

Prostate Disorder: Prostate cancer

Prostate cancer is one of the most common cancers affecting older men in
developed countries (many ―undeveloped‖ countries have anal social activities we‘d find
to be…problematic). Prostate cancer is a significant cause of death for elderly men
(estimated by some at 3%). Older men are recommended to seek regular rectal exams in
order to detect prostate cancer as early as possible, because late diagnoses are too often
followed by death. Think famous rock composer and all-around cool dude Frank Zappa.
The late Mr. Frank Zappa.

1
Aneros. A line of patented male sex toys designed to stimulate the prostate. Originally developed by HIH,
LLC in 1996, as a device for prostate massage, it was intended as an alternative to treat a variety of prostate
problems like prostatitis and BPH (benign prostatic hyperplasia). Health users noticed sexual benefits. The
device converts the anal sphincter‘s natural motions and contractions directly into stimulation of the
prostate and perineum, without manual intervention. It can be used for masturbation or sexual intercourse.
The Aneros is the Enemagra in Japan.
 Male sexual response
During orgasm, sperm are transmitted from the vas deferens into the male urethra
via the ejaculatory ducts, which lie within the prostate gland. The prostate is often
referred to as the ―male G-spot.‖ Some men achieve orgasm solely through stimulation of
the prostate gland, sometimes called prostate massage.
Men, who account the sensation of prostate stimulation, often give similar
descriptions to that of women‘s reports of their G-spot stimulation.

Benefits of Kegel Exercise

The aim of Kegel exercises is to restore muscle tone and strength to the PC
muscles, to prevent or reduce pelvic floor problems and to increase sexual gratification.
Kegel exercises are good for treating vaginal prolapse (Prolapse literally means
“To fall out of place.” In medicine, prolapse is a condition where organs, such as the
uterus, fall down or slip out of place. It is used for organs protruding through the vagina,
rectum, or for the misalignment of the valves of the heart.).
Kegel exercises are also used in preventing uterine prolapse in women; and for
treating prostate pain and swelling, resulting from benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH)
and prostatitis in men.
Although Dr. Kegel contemporized and popularized this practice, it is by no
means new. The Taoists of ancient China developed a number of various sexual practices
to strengthen and tone the same muscles for health, longevity, sexual gratification, and
spiritual development. The yogis of India also had a similar practice in Hatha Yoga
which is still practiced today.
 FYI: Benefits for Women, and
Therefore, You
Factors such as pregnancy, childbirth, aging and being overweight often result in
the weakening of the pelvic muscles. Kegel exercises are useful in regaining pelvic floor
muscle strength in such cases.

Improving Sexual Function

Regular Kegel exercise can also increase sexual pleasure for a woman and also
for her male partner. It is said that such exercises make the vagina tighter, or at least that
the vaginal muscles can be taught to grasp.
Also, a woman, especially one after birthing and actively practicing pelvic floor
contractions, during vaginal sex, can get immediate feedback from her partner, who can
tell her whether he can feel her muscles tightening around him.
A newly postpartum woman, who hasn‘t returned to sexual intercourse, can
retrain her pelvic floor muscles to their prepregnancy strength and tone by inserting two
or three fingers or a dildo into her vagina and then practice squeezing them with Kegel
pelvic floor contractions.
FYI: Inserting her own fingers into herself, while doing the exercises, is not all
that comfortable an angle for most women, so you may want to suggest that you help,
provided she‘s your wife or significant other, or mother of your child, but do ask in a
humble and polite manner, so she‘ll know you‘re helping, and not just in a hurry to get
her tight for your fun. Women hate that kind of thing.
 Benefits for Men, Benefit Her
Though most commonly used by women, men can also use Kegel exercises, to
strengthen their PC muscles and other muscles of the pelvic diaphragm. Kegels can help
men achieve stronger erections and gain greater control over ejaculation, which increases
bladder and bowel control, and sexual function.

Preventing Incontinence
Regarding post prostatectomy urinary incontinence, the Cochrane Collaboration
found ―some benefit of offering pelvic floor muscle training with biofeedback early in the
postoperative period immediately following removal of the catheter, as it may promote an
earlier return to continence.‖

Improving Sexual Function

There are said to be scientific and significant benefits for the problem of
premature ejaculation, by having more muscular control of the pelvic muscles. It is also
possible, as promoted by Tantric studies, for some men to achieve a form of orgasm
without ejaculation, and that some report reaching ―multiple climaxes” during sexual
activity. However, sexual function studies are still not highly prevalent and are yet treated
as suspected porn labs, so verifiable information still has the flavor or rumor, conjecture,
and out and out myth.
Kegel exercises in men lifts up the testicles, and strengthen the PCs and cremaster
muscle, as well as the anal sphincter, as the anus is the main area contracted when a
Kegel is done.
Men should be patient when beginning Kegel exercises, as it may take 4 to 6
weeks to see a substantial difference.
Women are able to add resistance to the exercise through isometrically gripping
hard objects (such as a Kegel exerciser, or your fingers or penis), or by compressing and
clutching an object such as foam or Ben Wa™ balls, which are normally used by women
vaginally or in the anus); however, there are generally no techniques that would be as
effective (or normally culturally accepted) at adding resistance to male Kegel exercises
(except that Ben Wa™ balls can be used anally by males, too). Placing a small face or
hand towel on the erect penis, though, and focusing on lifting it can have a small effect.
[This is actually a suggestion, no joke this time, but I do find it odd that nude towel lifting
in locker rooms is more culturally acceptable.]

FUN FACT
Porn super queen and ex-stripper Nina Hartley is a Registered Nurse (RN), who
graduated magna cum laude, and is an outspoken sex-positive feminist. She says, ―Sex
isn‘t something men do to you. It isn‘t something men get out of you. Sex is something
you dive into with gusto and like it every bit as much as he does.‖ Hear, hear, Nurse
Nina.
She‘s an advocate for the adult film industry‘s right to exist, and has often been called on
when television news programs and talk shows require an articulate, A-list adult film
actress to support the pro side. She appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show with fellow
porn actress Ona Zee where they came under hard scrutiny from the mostly female
audience. Ms. Hartley and Ms. Zee refused to back down and were outspoken in their
positive and willing support of the industry.
Editor Note: Most women still haven’t seen a good porn film, that THEY like, nor have
they EVER seen a live strip show with women or men, but traditionally assume the
worse about such things, especially about other women stripping for money and in public
for male strangers’ pleasure.
And in particular, that the female stripper or porn goddess is ALWAYS abused or
extremely low in self-esteem, and probably education and moral rightness, more so
than herself, of course, and that evil stripping and evil porn are fully equal to really
evil prostitution and really evil sexual enslavement with a really evil, abusive man
somehow ALWAYS behind it.

Your significant she, barring a few out there, of course, may deny these arguments in
logic’s defense, but she most likely deeply feels this way. The past two or more
thousand years have not been kind to women in this respect, so it is culturally deeply
ingrained, because historically it used to be true. A lot.

So, bear this in mind about women’s prejudices about female strippers and female porn
actors.

A friend’s aunt, who writes hardcore erotica, went with him to his favorite large strip
club, on a slow Tuesday afternoon. She chatted with the ladies, as a new friend not an
analyzer, and watched them and those men in the audience do their thing. And it was
full nudity girl on girl for guy lap dances in the back room. No. She didn’t get one,
although she was asked, but she observed and took mental notes, for great writing
about real women and men, not prejudices.
 She Doesn’t Like S-E-X
The reasons for unpleasurable sex can be complicated.
The reasons that women may not be enjoying sex are numerous and often
complex. Sexual experiences always reflect the meeting of the mind and the body. What
goes on in the mind is affected not only by what is going on sexually and non-sexually
between the partners, but by everything that has gone on in the woman‘s life.
Sometimes even experiences from childhood can be relevant. This means that
what she feels or believes she‘s perceiving when her body is being stimulated, depends
not only on her partner‘s skill, gentleness, care, and ability to be guided by her needs, but
also by what is going on in her mind; including flashbacks to highly uncomfortable
previous moments because of a scent, a word, a sound, or nearly anything.
Editor’s Note: Rewatch the film “The Silence of the Lambs,” and watch for the
numerous moments director multi Oscar-winner Jonathan Demme highlights of men
intrusively staring at, or touching, or lying to the female lead and to the lead female
“victim.” It’s a true insight into highly accepted negative male behavior towards women;
which all females, whether adult or child, whether someone’s wife or daughter, deals
with every day. And bring to bed, when they are lovers. So, think John Mayer’s song
“Daughters.”
Despite the complexity of these issues, many women and their partners can be
helped, by information on the many ways women can receive sexual pleasure. So, seek
competent consul, ask your local or online librarian for research materials, and pay full,
easy attention to your favorite her and what she says, cleverly avoids, or does with
reluctance for you or with seeming compulsion against her own will.
It‘s complicated, man, but not hard, not if you love her, and yourself with her.

Slow Approach to Sexual Play

A woman shouldn’t be pressured; it’ll work against you, and make her tight,
in the wrong way; too uptight emotionally and too tight physically for you to enter her, to
enter her body or her heart. Pressuring her will only make her numb and/or defensive,
making her not have pleasure in sex, making it completely joyless for her, which will
hamper or even completely halt your enjoyment, too.
A happy, relaxed lover is a fun lover.
 However, a woman can be pleasured in many ways, include sexual talking,
caressing, holding, and physical contact of ALL of her body. Focusing early on, on just
female genital stimulation is often neither pleasant nor arousing to her, and often creates
negative feelings, both physically and emotionally, whether with a new lover or a long-
term husband. It makes her feel she is a target and that ―all you want‖ is her female
genitals, and not her, the individual.
Similarly, the potential for pleasure from breast touch is usually high, but, again,
the timing, type and duration of touch that the particular woman you‘re with will enjoy,
can be variable, not only from woman to woman, but from one occasion to the next with
the same woman.

“I feel nearly nothing from sexual intercourse.”

A lack of feeling and arousal from penis inside vagina sexual intercourse is a
normal concern. It‘s not ―frigid,‖ it‘s anatomy. Having a limited physical response within
a healthy vagina is actually a godsend, since the vagina is designed to deliver a huge-
headed, multi-limbed baby. So, having a large number of highly sensitive nerve endings
within it, as sensitive as the responsive ones in the lips of the face, would leave a woman
screaming faint from every millimeter of vaginal flesh, at every ripping tear and
overstretch that a birth can give.
It‘d be horrifying. An equivalent might would be like getting hammered in the
nuts, it‘s not all bad, fellas.
Women have plenty of sexually sensitive structures, but most of them are
hidden. So, search for them, man, she‘ll be more than happy to play hide and go seek or
peek-a-boo with you.

Clit
A woman‘s clitoris is much more extensive than the tiny part that may peek out
from under her clitoral hood. Its head is extremely sensitive and is anatomically
equivalent to the head of your penis.
Many women prefer their clit NOT be stimulated directly, much as some men
prefer the tip of their penis not be touched.
 The clitoral body extends up to the pubic bone, then divides, running along the
two sides of the pubic arch. Indirect stimulation of her clit through her mons pubis
(pubic mound) or from the sides, through the labial lips, can be vastly rewarding, as can
direct stimulation of the shaft, but not the head, although oral stimulation (cunnilingus)
here may be enjoyable.
And try using your penis as a gentle teasing stimulator along this glory path.
The clitoris is made of spongy flesh called ―erectile‖ tissue that fills with blood,
as she becomes sexually aroused, just like your penis does.
A little more of this erectile tissue extends around her urethra, and can be
stimulated by a fingertip inserted about 1 inch into her vagina, stimulating the front pubic
wall. In some it feels corrugated. Some women initially find this sensation reminds them
of an urge to pass urine, but on repeated occasions, pleasure, high arousal and orgasms
can be experienced.
There‘s more erectile tissue on either side of the vagina, but beneath the labia, and
under a thin layer of muscle. It can be stimulated by fingertips massaging through the
labia on either side of the vagina, but this stimulation needs to be firm and consistent.
Because the erectile structures are so well protected here, the feeling of
hypersensitivity from touching the head of the clitoris doesn‘t occur.
Perhaps, it’s a place to gently masturbate your penis against, and stimulate you
both.
The unfortunate thing about these feminine anatomical structures being hidden is
that they cannot be effectively stimulated during regular penis in vagina intercourse,
not without both bodies being particularly close. Sometimes, once the man‘s ejaculated
and his penis regresses in size, both pelvises move closer, and she can rub against him,
and stimulate her mons area and indirectly stimulate her clitoris.
But, be heartened, there are some women who get aroused to orgasm by
vaginal intercourse, BUT MOST DO NOT, and most, like their men, don‘t know it.
“But, women really get off on it like they do in those wild porno scenes.” No,
those are fantasies, with actresses FAKING IT. This is real science about real women.
Why not 100% vaginal orgasm?
Approximately less than 50% of all women reliably have orgasms during
intercourse, so it‘s certainly not abnormal to find that high arousal and orgasm does not
fully go hand in hand nor occur solely through intercourse.
And, consider that, men desensitize their sturdy penises by hand rubbed friction,
so what must the more delicate inner tissues of the vagina suffer from aggressive friction
and by being struck with aggressive force. Strike your fist against the inside flesh of your
own arm just below the elbow for the same amount of time you‘d have full out
intercourse. At least two minutes? Does your inner arm hurt?
This is another reason why low to no friction Tantric practices are growing in
popularity.
Other reasons for the less than 50% include the following:
Anatomical fit. If the fully inserted penis and both pelvises press directly
together, she has more ―outside‖ stimulation. Many women say that if
they‘re very highly aroused, with the vaginal walls swollen with blood,
they sense a pleasant, deep pressure with penile entry and thrusting, which
is enough for some to orgasm.

Mental excitement about intercourse can also make physical sensations

stronger.

Delaying ejaculation, through Tantric skills, can give her more internal
stimulation for a longer period. Plus combining mental stimulation with
other physical stimulation besides penis in vagina alone can accentuate
excitement and heighten arousal and chance of orgasm.

Say, ―Foreplay is my friend.‖ Foreplay is the building up of anticipation,

by preparing both of your minds and emotions, and both bodies to enjoy
each. Foreplay‘s not ―a waste‖; it‘s a meal of sexual interplay in and of
itself.

Hindering Great Pleasure

Women feeling little pleasure from sexual activity, and the men who love them,
need to consider other possibilities that might be at the root of her lack of sensual
pleasure: whether feeling sufficient trust and emotional closeness or whether issues from
the past, and not having anything at all to do with you, are interfering.
Again, the very subject of John Mayer‘s song ―Daughters.‖
 Medical professionals, such as psychologists, physicians, or counselors might be
appropriate for help. But if she feels it‘s more a matter of learning about you and your
body and about understanding her own body; consult sex books or sex therapists, or call
your local sexual health association.

FUN FACT
Speaking of Ecstasy Rocking.
Women can rock for ecstasy on horseback which is why horseback riding for women was
required to be side saddle, not straddle. And even in recent years an American TV show
was pulled off air, before it aired its premier, because some idiots got overexcited about a
teenage girl—approx 17-18 years old—riding her horse to her pleasure.
Jeez, she was fully dressed and you know girls love their ―my little, uh, big, HUGE
pony.‖ –The show? A TV spin-off of the film ―Cruel Intentions.‖
PS: It‘s pretty much the same reason, I think, so many men love their motorbikes. Their
nuts and P-spot are sitting on a huge vibrator.
 You Mean I Have to Talk, Too? The
Other Sex Talk
Communication in any relationship of two or more people is vital. Sexual
communication is even more so and often the hardest, since we are naked on so many
levels.
We are generally given no tools for this and end up doing things we don‘t enjoy
or aren‘t getting what we want sexually because we don‘t know how to ask for it. Often
we feel embarrassed about expressing our ―selfish‖ desires for fear of what our partner
will think or respond. We also don‘t want to hurt their feelings.
This lack of communication leads to sexual dissatisfaction, which causes its own
problems, including creating a general unhappiness about not being able to fully express
yourself in life and love.
It‘s important to understand that as fearful as you are of opening up sexually, your
partner is probably just as frightened or nervous. See, already you have something in
common.

A Useful Communication Skill

The following skill makes sexual communication much easier and allows you to
guide a sexual discussion, without putting any pressure on your partner, or too much on
you.
Asking your partner HOW something feels or what she likes or doesn‘t enjoy puts
pressure on her, because she has to mentally and verbally form communications that
describe something she may be embarrassed about. Secondly many women won‘t say
negative things, for fear of offending or upsetting you; no matter how much you say you
won‘t be. And thirdly, women can have their minds go completely off hook when fully
aroused, just like men.
The simplest and best way to begin talking about sexual concerns is to ask
questions which require her to only answer ―YES‖ or ―NO,‖ nothing else more
complicated. You can do this during lovemaking or afterwards. In a neutral time and
place, in fact, may be even safer, and generate more trust and more ready answers. So,
consider doing it—asking your questions—with your clothes on and the pressure of
sexual urgency off.

Questions Out of Bed.

Here are a few examples, of asking while out of bed, in the matter of caressing her
breasts: ―Do you like the way I touch your breasts?‖ ―Would you like me to stroke/kiss
your breasts more?‖ ―Would you like me to stroke your breasts firmer, more gently, more
on the sides…?‖ ―Would you like me to kiss your nipples softer?‖
This allows you to learn about what your partner wants and how to please her in a
gentle and caring way.

Questions in Bed.
Questioning during lovemaking can be a little different. While touching your
lover you ask them for feedback.
Kiss her nipple in a particular way and ask: ―Does that feel good, or would you
like it harder, softer, faster, slower?‖
Each time you ask a question and do something different, wait for her to answer.
It gives the control to her and lets her see that she can trust you while in such a vulnerable
state. You can also allow her to guide you by using simple words: harder, softer, slower,
faster, left, right, up or down. This avoids negative criticism and words more ambiguous
than yes and no.
And do feel free to ask your questions closely, so she can feel the heat of your
body and breath upon her.

Sexual Criticism
Because sex is so important to us, as is the image of being a good lover, when
we‘re told we‘re doing something negatively and wrong, we tend, as humans, to
withdraw, emotionally and physically, in order to distance ourselves from the hurt.
I‘m afraid to say that men are often at fault here, thinking that in having sex with
one or two or thousands, let alone a million times with ourselves, that we know
EVERYTHING, particularly about sex, even sex with this new partner, or a long-term
partner, who wants something new.
 But really the fact is that the only way to know if something feels good and
pleasurable to her is to ask her. And listen. Because this gentle approach should open the
door to communicating honestly between you, about sex and more. So, respect her
communication and guidance. This will build deep trust and safety between you, and
perhaps a repeat offer to come again.
 For Her for You—The End of It:
Stimulating His Prostate
The prostate is the size of a walnut and is located 4 cm in from the anus on the
anterior wall, down from the bladder and in front of the rectum.
The function of the prostate is to lubricate the ejaculation process (adds to semen
and other seminal fluids) and to increase pH, making the vagina more hospitable for
sperm and, therefore, more conducive to fertilization. The prostate produces prostatic
fluid when you‘re aroused and contracts during ejaculation to empty out your load.

Why?
Pleasure. A high concentration of nerve endings here makes stimulation very
pleasurable for many men. You like pleasure, right?
Intensity of orgasm can increase two or three-fold, with prostate stimulation.
It can also delay ejaculation. Some men shy away from prostate stimulation
because of the social and religious taboos associated with anal play in our culture, and the
fear or receiving sex and having someone inside your. Deep-rooted and scientifically
unsubstantiated beliefs leave men feeling shame and a general concern that they will
become or will be considered homosexual.
Or of becoming some sort of ―wussy,‖ a woman, as if becoming what you seek,
all the time, is abhorrent.
And if you think a long-term lover won’t suss this negative attitude out about you and
internalize it as hatred towards her, you are wrong. Or you found the stupidest girl in
the universe. Lucky you.

Talk With Her

Talk to your favorite her about what bothers you or excites you about exploring
your own prostate, on your own, or with her help.

Exterior P-spot Action

While she‘s giving you a blow-job, she can gently play with the outside of your
anus and perineum (the exterior P-spot area of skin between the anus and the testicles).
She can play with her fingertips, with her tongue, or with a small vibrator, without
insertion, just playing around the exterior, sensitive areas which will add to the oral
lovemaking.

How to For the Adventurous

Empty your bowels beforehand.
Position: The most effective way to access the prostate is anally. Lie on your
back with knees up; leaving your penis available for handling or suckling throughout the
prostate play. Also, in this position, you both can see each other and not lose nonverbal
communication. Eye to eye lovemaking is the best. Just don‘t get hung up on who‘s on
the bottom, on their back, with knees up and legs open, as being only a woman‘s position,
it‘s not. It can be generally accepted as a receiving position, and that‘s not bad.
You do want to RECEIVE PLEASURE, don’t you?
Sex pleasure and love pleasure are the only positions here. Besides, imagine her
giving you a blow job while doing this activity, but I get ahead here.
She sits between your legs.
Lube up: Thicker, super slick lube is better for anal play, in order to protect you.
Fingernails: Her fingernails should be short and latex gloves prevent bacteria
hiding under fingernails to get into your delicate, sensitive rectal tissues. If she‘s wearing
long fingernails, real or store bought, have her put cotton balls over each nail, then insert
inside a latex glove.
Finger position: She should start with a hand job on your penis and gently rub
with her other hand the outside of your anus, smoothing lubricant around it, until gently
rocking her finger back and forth over the anus, and then slip just the tip or first joint of a
finger in; causing the two sphincter muscles to grasp her finger, and then give you a
minute to adjust to the feeling, while watching your facial expressions and body
movements to guide her in pleasuring you. Keeping up the hand job (or blowjob or sex
talk, if her mouth isn‘t full, is good here, too) she should insert her finger fully when
you‘re aroused, or when your anal sphincter relaxes, while all the while continuing to
attend to your penis and balls. With her palm up, she should bend her anal finger up into
a ―come here‖ position, which will locate your prostate area, and then move her finger
gently in and out or around and around it at first, then more vigorously, depending on
how you respond.
 The urge: You may have the urge to urinate or have a bowel movement, but you
won‘t. This is just apart of the process of stimulation.
External access: If you‘re too worried about anal play, there‘s another, but less
effective, way to access the prostate. The prostate can be stimulated from outside the anal
region, although not as effectively as internally. Apply pressure and or a vibrator or a
tongue to the area between the scrotum and anus, and massage. And yes, there is a tongue
extension vibrator that‘s perfect for this and other wonder spots on your and her body.
Right tool for the job: Start with something small and work your way up.
Fingertip extension vibrator, anyone? Be sure to use toys that have a flared base, like anal
plugs have, to avoid the anus‘ natural suction. Check out toys especially designed for anal
play.

FUN FACT
Pegging describes a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man‘s anus with a
strap-on dildo.
The pegging name origination is from a winning entry in a 2001 contest for Dan Savage‗s
Savage Love sex advice newspaper column. It‘s a specifically heterosexual term; since
the competition was held after reader observations that there was no common name for
the practice of females penetrating heterosexual men with a dildo.
Because the term is quite new, many people use different terms for ―pegging‖, such as
“bend over boyfriend” (commonly shortened to BOB) from the popular video series of
the same title, and the non-pornographic 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, based on the
novel of the same name by Gore Vidal.
 Taoist Sexual Practices
Qi (Life Force) and Jing (Essence)
The basis of all Taoist thinking is that qi is part of everything that exists. It is
related to another energetic substance contained in the human body known as jing, and
once all has been spent, you will die. Jing could be lost from the body in a variety of
ways, most notably the bodily fluids.
Ancient Taoists would use practices to conserve their bodily fluids to great
extents, and some reportedly recycled and composted their own fecal matter (night soil).
The fluid that contained the most jing was male semen. Therefore, Taoists traditional
belief includes that men should avoid ejaculation, in order to conserve their life essence.

Male Ejaculation Control

Many Taoist practitioners link the loss of ejaculatory fluids to the loss of vital life
force; with excessive fluid loss resulting in premature aging, disease, and general fatigue.
While some contend that men should never ejaculate, others provide a specific formula to
determine the maximum amount of regular ejaculations required to maintain health.
The general idea is to limit the loss of male fluids as much as possible to the level
of your desired practice. As these sexual practices were passed down over the centuries,
some practitioners have given less importance to the limiting of ejaculation. Still, the
―retention of semen‖ is one of the foundational tenets of Taoist sexual practice.
***
There are two main Taoist methods to control and avoid ejaculation. Pulling out
immediately before orgasm, a method British biochemist Joseph Needham termed ―coitus
conservatus.‖ Or applying pressure on the P-spot, between the scrotum and anus, forcing
a retrograde ejaculation back into the bladder. It‘s now known that this method causes a
retrograde ejaculation, which Needham called ―coitus thesauratus.‖

Jing (Sexual energy)

Another important concept was that the union of a man and a woman resulted in
the creation of jing, a type of sexual energy. When in the act of lovemaking, jing formed,
and the man could transform some of his jing into qi, and replenish his life force. By
having as much sex as possible, men had the opportunity to transform more and more
jing to more and more life force, and as a result would see many health benefits.
And in that sexist time, no benefits were forwarded for women, only their use.

Yin/Yang
The concept of yin/yang, and opposite attractions strengthening each other, is
important in Taoism, and consequently also holds special importance in sex. Yang
usually referred to the male gender, whereas Yin could refer to the female gender. Man
and Woman were equivalent to heaven and earth opposites, always together yet always
disconnected.
Every interaction between Yin and Yang has significance, making every position
and action in lovemaking have importance, including special sexual positions that served
to cure or prevent illness.
 Kama Sutra
The Mallanaga Vatsyayana‘s ―Kama Sutra,‖ is a widely published manuscript and
can be found in various translated and edited forms, in its entirety online, or in print. It
has 36 chapters, organized into 7 parts. The contents of the book are generally structured
into 7 parts:

1. Introduction
On the book‘s contents, three aims and priorities of life: acquisition of knowledge,
conduct of the well-bred townsman, reflections on intermediaries assisting the male lover
in his sexual enterprises (5 chapters).

2. Sexual Union
On desire stimulation , types of embraces, types of caressing and kisses, marking
with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation positions, slapping by hand and
corresponding moaning, virile behavior in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes
and conclusions to the game of love. It describes 64 types of sexual acts (10 chapters).
Although Kama Sutra did not originally have images, part 2 of the work describes
different sex positions, and more recent editions have graphic images of positions.

3. Acquiring a Wife
On forms of marriage, relaxing her, obtaining her, managing alone, union by
marriage (5 chapters).

4. Your Wife
On conduct of the only wife, conduct of chief wife, and other wives (2 chapters).

5. Others’ Wives
On behavior of woman and man, acquaintance encounters, examination of
sentiments, go-between tasks, king‘s pleasures, behavior in female anatomy (6 chapters).

6. Courtesans
On assistants‘ advice on choice of lovers, seeking a steady lover, making money,
renewing friendship with former lover, occasional profits, profits and losses (6 chapters).
7. Attracting Others to You
On improving physical attractions, arousing a diminished sexual drive (2
chapters).

Pleasure and Spirituality

The ―four main goals of life,‖ known as the purusharthas:
1). Dharma: Virtuous living.

2). Artha: Material prosperity.

3). Kama: Aesthetic and erotic pleasure.

4). Moksha: Liberation.

Dharma, Artha and Kama are aims of everyday life, while Moksha is release from
the cycle of death and rebirth.
The Kama Sutra (Burton translation) says:
Virtue is the highest goal, a secure life the second, and
pleasure the least important; and when motives conflict, the
higher ideal is to be followed. Thus, making money virtue
must not be compromised, but earning a living takes
precedence over pleasure, but there are exceptions.
The Kama Sutra is sometimes wrongly thought of as a manual for Tantric sex.
While sexual practices exist within the wide tradition of Hindu Tantra, the Kama Sutra
isn‘t a Tantric text, and doesn‘t touch on any sexual rites associated with most Tantric
practice.
 Information to Inform and Help
Many men, just like women, don‘t know or haven‘t reevaluated the information
they know or thought they knew about their own bodies. Things we were taught change,
with knew information. Things we were taught were misdirections; by ignorance, fear, or
malicious intent.
If you are having ANY problems or having ANY concerns whatsoever, contact a medical
profession

Guide to Making the Ecstasy Rock Method Yours

Bathing together and teaching each other how each likes their special equipment
handling, cleansed, and blown dry, I mean, dried off. Drip. Blow—gentle wind and hard.
And hand-dried.

“More, More, More. How D’You Like It?”©

So what exactly is it about masturbation that freaks people out? Why is it the
topic of so many jokes, locker room and otherwise; and why is it guaranteed to get a
giggle out of the audience in cinemas and theatres? And makes the news when a celeb is
―caught‖ doing ―it.‖
Masturbation has received bad press over the centuries. It‘s still one of the
conversational taboos in our society, and has been viewed as sinful and bad in many
religions. Many teenagers, who masturbate frequently to get rid of pent up sexual
frustrations, have been wracked with guilt, and all for nothing.
But religion isn‘t the only thing to give masturbation a bad rap. All the scare
stories dished out, often by older family members, warning about horrors such as getting
hairy hands, going blind, getting permanent erections (in the case of boys), going
insane—especially girls becoming incurably insane and permanent sluts, and so forth,
underlines a complete discomfort with sexuality in general and with the emerging
sexuality of children.
And no, none of these scare stories is at all true.

Masturbation Lowdown
Both masturbating and not masturbating is normal. Don‘t worry if you do and
don‘t worry if you don‘t.
Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual development, and both girls
and boys masturbate.

Masturbation does alleviate stress and releases endorphins (pleasure hormones)

into your body‘s system, making you feel relaxed and happy.

Masturbation is a good way of finding out what pleases you sexually, which
sometimes makes later sexual relationships easier.

I repeat. Don‘t believe any of the terrorist scare stories. You won‘t go blind,
insane, turn into a perv, or get an STD from yourself, if you masturbate. You will
also not become sterile or get yourself pregnant, whether male or female.
Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful. So chill out.

Masturbation brings sexual relief, without any of the dangers of sexual intercourse
with another (and all the partners they‘ve ever had before you, whooh!). There is
no unwanted pregnancies and no STDs, provided you weren‘t touching someone
else‘s and then touched yours. So, hands to yourself.

Masturbation is a way of exploring the body and even young children and babies
do it on their own, without prompting.

Sometimes guilt induced as a result of masturbation can cause psychological

problems.

Masturbation is personal and private and should not be done in public places or
around people who are not willing participants. Group masturbation is quite
common, especially among teenage boys, and groups can now be found through
the internet, if you so choose.
 Masturbation and More for Two
When with a lover, relax and be yourself; because the key to being with a loving
sex partner is the same as being with yourself: to raise the energy in your body to the
point of orgasm and then, instead of coming to waste your energy, relax and let it rise up
to your heart.
In other words, there are no rules: no special breathing, no positions, no sequence
of events, no time allotments. Now that you know about Tantra, throw away your Tantra
rules and books and videos! Throw away your sex manuals!
You don‘t have to be at the brink together, either, which is for movies and erotic
fantasy stories and is highly unlikely in real life.
Some prefer to masturbate or be masturbated on during lovemaking, because it
keeps their energy high, but it‘s your sex and your lovemaking, so there are no rules. You
don‘t need any rules, because once your energy is flowing, it will take you without a plan
and you won‘t need a map.
If you find it difficult to delay your orgasm, while with a hot partner, try stopping
several strokes before orgasm and just relaxing, without doing anything else. You may let
her know this that you want to have a nice, loving, long session of pleasure with her, not
just a quick few minutes, and that you may have to stop a few times to keep from
blowing too soon, because she is really hot.
Women love that kind of stuff. Just don‘t say it sarcastically, or like you
committed it to memory, which you did, but she doesn‘t need to feel that you did,
because she thinks you‘re hot, too.
When you have accomplished delaying your orgasm, try focusing on your heart
with her, as you did while alone and let your energy rise or float up.
Just as in your private sessions, repeat the cycle of stimulation and rest as often as
you like, until you, not your glands, decide to have an orgasm. Being finished is
subjective.
You’re finished when you think you are, instead of coming because you’re
out of control.
 Experiment with not coming at all, just to break the ridiculous belief that it‘s
harmful or unsatisfying not to come, or that your brain will explode clear out of your
head, like a jack-in-the-box; it won‘t. Trust me. My brain‘s exactly where it should be.
Sex is fun, so I suggest you take an attitude of play towards sex with your partners
(and with yourself, of course) and it will relieve you of undo stress, so you‘ll feel
satisfied and successful with your experiences more often. Because satisfaction and
success are great.

No Show.
Sometimes the body just isn‘t interested or you‘re too burdened spiritually or
emotionally with other things. If can just relax and be together, holding and caressing
each other and chatting in a loving way, laughing together, and the emotional upsets, the
performance anxieties and performance failures will ease away, and you‘ll be able to
make love when the tension is released, and your focus is on easy pleasure for pleasure‘s
sake and not sexual goals and striving for climaxes that MUST BE MET at all cost.
See. It‘s stressful, that.
In addition, just lying together nude and touching in a loving and non-goal
oriented manner is a great way to get turned on. It‘s as if the body remembers, ―Oh yeah,
I like this stuff. I LOVE it.‖
If you take an attitude of play, your lovemaking sessions will last longer, and
you will find that in the course of each hour you are together that the intensity of your
energy will rise and fall, naturally like breathing.
Sometimes you‘ll be hot and sometimes you‘ll be sensual, and sometimes you‘ll
just be friendly. We usually think that if it‘s not hot and heavy all the time there‘s
something wrong. Usually, if you just resume the attitude of loving play, your wave will
return and carry you home.
And if your energy abruptly drops away to nothing when you‘re in the middle of
an upward wave? Normally, one or both of you has had a negative thought, like: ―My
body‘s ugly,‖ ―She‘ll never give me what I want,‖ or someone‘s unspoken nonverbals are
negative. Again, just lie together and wait for your loving wave to come back.
Extra: If you can actually remember the negative thought and can talk about it, or
better yet, laugh together about it, its negative, downer power will be defused.
 Fantasies are cool. Share one with your lover, don‘t be afraid there‘s something
wrong with your fantasies, or that she‘ll be offended. Couples, who open their fantasy
lives to each other, find it enhances their mutual attraction and the intensity of their
sexual experiences together, because they‘re sharing and can make new delights together.
And never forget, that the mind needs its own play, and that what it needs needn‘t
be fully acted out in life. Otherwise, I have a few exes who‘d really be dead now.

Simple Games Together

Simply breathe together. Just breathing at the same rate while you‘re holding each
other can be ecstatic.
Look into each others‘ eyes.
Makes sounds, like hum, or sing together. Try anything from chanting together to
making unplanned, amusing or offensive sounds together, because it‘s fun.

Parent and Child: Practice Being Receptive

Most people have more difficulty letting love and energy into them than in letting
it out, or being loving. It‘s like when some people prefer to give to charity, but cry holy
hell if anyone tries to give them anything.
So, take turns playing parent and child, as an exercise in learning to be receptive.
The ―parent‖ lies on his or her back and the ―child‖ lies with their head on or near
the parent‘s heart. The parent embraces their child, caressing them and imagining
limitless love pouring from their own heart into their child. Breathing together, the child
really just soaks it all up. Now, hold that same, expansive feeling while making love.

Visualization and Sound

Play with visualization and mantras. Breathe together and IMAGINE that your
energy moves between you in a circle, from the genitals of one lover, up into their heart,
then across into the other‘s heart, then down to that person‘s genitals, and around again.
The energy circle can move either direction.
A mantra is a sound or phrase which is repeated over and over, internally or
aloud. Its purpose is to help quiet the chatter in our heads, so that energy can move
through us unimpeded. Some use: ―Shiva Shakti,‖ ―You love me,‖ ―We are one,‖ and ―I
worship the god/goddess within you.‖ You can do your mantras silently, in your mind,
and they will maintain their power. Mantras, for me, only seem to replace the noise in my
head with the noise of the mantra. But that‘s just me.

Imagination and Love

Let your imagination and love inspire your sexual activities. Remember: there
are no rules, except getting your energy as high as possible, then resting and letting it
float up in the body.
Go with your energy, travel with your fantasies, move with the movements your
body wants to make, and spend ―quality‖ time alone, sexually and emotionally, with your
lover.
This will attract the experiences you seek and you will have them with greater
regularity. Sex is play. Sex is fun. Sex is bubbly and freeing, like laughter.

And…
Relaxation is important. When we tighten our bodies with tension during sex, we
block our literal flows of energy. So, breathe deeply to relax and enjoy yourself, and your
love.
It is important to be able to trust your lover enough to be able to experiment and
share, on an equal basis, the things which give both of you the most sexual pleasure. One
cannot simply translate past experiences with other partners onto this present relationship.
Because a previous partner enjoyed oral sex or anal stimulation does not necessarily
mean that is true for your new partner.
It‘s important to talk, to ask and to experiment with your lover.
If a face-to-face discussion is difficult, talk in the dark, or even better, follow the
maxim of ―Don‘t tell me, show me.‖
 More for Two—Prostate Sensation
Men can experience full and ejaculatory orgasm through anal, rectal and prostate
stimulation alone, in the absence of direct genital touch. Then again, some men reach
orgasm and ejaculate when they are urinated or crapped on—such is the power of your
mind. So, ―free your mind, and the rest will follow‖©, as the song advises.

Exterior Anal Stimulation

The anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings and so your sex play and foreplay
can include bathing, and wash your anal area thoroughly. I suggest the natural soaps from
The Body Shop™ stores, they‘re made of natural products, won‘t burn a woman‘s
sensitive areas, and tastes wonderful after your washing, and not like soap.
Why? Because you‘re about to get a good tongue-lashing.
When she goes ―around the world‖ on you (lucky you) and licks your anus
(anilingus), the pleasure can be exquisite, especially if she caresses your saliva-soaked or
well-lubed penis at the same time. If she‘s unwilling to do this, try caressing your own
external anal area when you masturbate.
Do probe slightly into the anus with lubed finger(s), but can be pleasurable and
add what feels like a good, throbbing inch to your erection.
Ask her to finger you with a lubed finger, while giving you a blow job.
Or she could probe your with her tongue, if she‘s that gracious and willing.
Warning: But do be aware that it is risky to lick the anus when STD transmission
might be an issue. Hepatitis can be spread this way, and although it and its treatment
cure is highly unpleasant, you can be vaccinated against it, beforehand.
If she‘s unwilling to attempt oral-anal stimulation on you, you may go back to
your washing-showering-bathing foreplay, then try encouraging her by offering oral-anal
stimulation on her first. But realistically, you may just have to let it go.

Anal Pleasure
There are also plenty of nerve-endings in the sphincter, the muscles that keep the
anus closed, which is why anilingus-salad tossing-rimming-rim jobs can feel so nice.
Your prostate is located towards the outer portion of your anus, a couple of inches
inside. Don‘t bother searching for your prostate when you aren‘t erect, as it‘s when
you‘re preparing to ejaculate that this gland secretes and fills with prostatic fluid, a key
component of ejaculate, which his why it swells.
When aroused, you can detect a swelling in the area, your G-spot, and it will,
when touched, feel fantastic, and enhance arousal and intensified sensation. Speaking of
sensation…

Toys!
Whether alone or with her assisting, it is undeniably easier to explore and enjoy
anal stimulation using sex toys. When shopping for toys, shop online together or go to a
woman friendly store, so you‘ll both feel comfortable with them. Get something for you
and something for her.
And don‘t forget lots of good lube, to keep you safe and comfy.
Start with a slender dildo, and one sufficiently inflexible (of silicon or seamless
material) to be able to aim towards the prostate. Or one with a bit of a bulbous head and a
slender shaft, so it‘s a bit of a pop getting it in and out.
Let her lube and insert the dildo, you can flex your sphincter open (PC muscles
skills), as she gives you oral sex or masturbates you, or concentrates on anal stimulation
alone, ask her to work the dildo around and in and out, which can feel highly intense.

Prolonging Pleasure
Anal and prostate stimulation can lead you to feel you‘re experiencing your most
raging boner ever. The urge to masturbate immediately and explode can be major. If you
do and you‘re with her, be prepared to offer her a lot of oral sex shortly afterwards, as a
huge, major thank you.
Or, when you feel the urge to come to be almost overwhelming, stop stimulating
your penis and have her pause the toy. When the urge has subsided, have her restart the
dildo or vibrator, and you should experience a mind-blowing, extended period—without
ejaculation, so you can experience it again shortly afterwards, with no refractory period
of recovery, as you would if arousal and the ability to sustain an erection were in conflict.

Downside?
Some whine that the pleasures of receptive anal sex play take the edge off the
urge to penetrate her. But, so does a blow job, man; and you rarely turn that down.
For the Brave, Peg.
Of course, to take things further, you could buy your loving, favorite her a strap-
on dildo. Some women say they‘ll try anal sex, if their man will take it in the butt, first.
Well, bend over, Bob.

FUN FACT
Pegging enjoyments.
The act of pegging can be enjoyable for both partners: men may find stimulation of the
anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, particularly the prostate, enjoyable, provided that
enough lubricant is used, and women may get direct stimulation from the dildo, from its
base against her mons, from a vaginal vibrator or anal ―butt plug,‖ or in the case of a
form of double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration on the other end.
Additionally, a woman could use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her clitoris,
to get pleasure from pegging.
Some men and women may also find pleasure in the psychological aspects of submitting
and dominating, respectively, though as BDSM practitioners might point out, the act of
being penetrated is not necessarily experienced as a submissive act, nor is the act of
penetrating always experienced as a dominant act.
Given the stigma associated with anal sex (and its association with male homosexuality),
some people, many of them heterosexual, derive enjoyment from the taboo or gender-
transgression aspects of pegging. Some women may enjoy the feeling of having a
―simulated penis,‖ while some men enjoy the experience of receptive penetration in
addition to the ability to masturbate due to the fact that their penis is ―free‖ and at hand.
 *ERM Conclusion
Congratulations on joining thousands of men who are discovering why the old
method was wrong, and didn‘t work as well for them as promised, but to make my
Ecstasy Rock Method truly your own, you have to play around with it, by developing
new ways to pleasure yourself that fit you and your comfort level.
Now that you know my wonderful, secret method, try to incorporate things you
like, by imagining and experimenting, and communicating with her to help you. You can
add anal play or feather quills tickling your nether parts (I just had to say ―nether.‖) or
even your favorite woman blowing you. And tickling your anus and P-spot.
My ERM is now yours to use as your method, in a way that fits you and pleasures
you.
So, remember, the sky‘s the limit when it comes to your own imagination. Now
there‘s a goal to shoot for.

FUN FACT
Tristan Taormina is an award-winning author, columnist, editor, pornographic film
director, occasional actress, and self-styled ―anal sexpert.‖ Her works can be found in
books and video. Enjoy.