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by Hale Dwoskin
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Dear Reader,
So what do people who have loving, fulfilling relationships know that the rest
of the population doesn’t?
If you are one of these people, I hate to burst your bubble on this topic, but it is
ultimately for your own good and personal empowerment. Here’s the truth of
the matter:
That’s right.
Read that sentence again: Your relationship with them has absolutely
nothing to do with them. In other words, it’s all about you!
This is a hard one for a lot of people to believe. But, you probably would
agree that it takes two to tango. And once you take responsibility for your
end of the energy equation, everything changes.
It’s as if two people were pulling on the same rope, complaining about
the rope, and yelling to the other one, “Drop the rope!”
• Briefly review in your mind your last conversations about the relationship you
have chosen to concentrate on, as well as recent thoughts and feelings that
have occurred to you about this relationship.
But don’t think too much. Just take 5 minutes and write non-stop in answer to
the question above.
Done? Good!
As you read what you wrote aloud, after each sentence ask yourself this
question:
• And then jot down the emotion of that sentence in the margin.
And you may be interested to know that more than 90% of the
people who do this exercise find that nearly every sentence they
have written is full of emotions such as fear, anger, frustration,
grief and shame.
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Emotions like fear, anger,
frustration, grief and shame do
not lead to positive, harmonious
relationships! In fact, no matter what
conscious, positive goals and intentions you
may have, emotions like these will override
anything else! This can lead you down the
wrong relationship path time and again.
Sometimes before you even take the first
step!
When you remove emotions like these, you will tend to move into better
relationships with yourself and others with far greater ease and success.
Although we may get a really good idea of what is holding us back from
an exercise like this, many of our thoughts and feelings are subconscious,
that is, below the level of conscious awareness. These thoughts and
feelings are the most powerful. They are the software in our operating
system, running their programs day and night.
Many people who have discovered this get discouraged because they
think they have to spend hour upon hour figuring out exactly what it
is that is holding them back.
But the truth is, your subconscious thoughts and feelings are being reflected
in your moods and emotions from moment to moment. For example, when
you try to communicate something important to someone and their reaction
makes you feel like throwing something against the wall—or eating a quart
of ice cream—you do not have to run to therapy or probe your past to find a
corresponding negative belief.
All you have to do is to pause and release any feeling that is arising in the
moment.
“Could I let this feeling go?” (In other words, am I able to?)
“You cannot solve a problem from the sa me consciousness that created it.
You must learn to see the world anew.” – Albert Einstein
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Yes, your emotions are the glue that holds your thoughts and beliefs in place.
Which brings me to the next very popular cultural myth about relationships.
And that is a mantra that many people say to themselves over and over
again….
The best way to find or attract your perfect partner or to have fulfilling
relationships is to first be your own perfect partner. Most of us are
looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never
works.
As you release your fears, longing and anxiety, and even as you
release the need to find a partner or fix a relationship, suddenly
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If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness—that who you are
is enough—you will also bring that feeling into your relationships.
In fact, the more you feel complete with yourself and your life, the more you
will attract the people you’re looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this
transition will be effortless because you will have changed the flow of energy in
your life. Try this exercise whenever you have thoughts or feelings of not being
enough…
I Am Enough
Some of you may ask, “If I am enough, why do I keep drawing this
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When you let go of these old patterns, you find it easier to receive
love, give love, and enjoy all your relationships—both personal and
professional.
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Clean up Your Relationships
• Did this person try to control you? (or did it feel that way?)
If so, could you let go now of wanting to control this person back?
One of the biggest lies we believe about guilt (without really thinking about it)
is that guilt can protect us from being punished. Guilt is an unconscious “I owe
you” for punishment.
When we feel guilty, we attract punishment from the world and we also create
it for ourselves.
Here’s the kicker: We never feel as though we’ve been punished enough!
What to do? You can use this simple process to let go of your self-imposed
punishment.
• The good news is that you can eliminate thoughts and feelings that
sabotage your relationship success without having to dredge up the past
or spend years in therapy. This is the way you create the optimum state
within yourself most likely to produce the results you want.
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