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Year is Here!
Written by
Daphne Morris, M.Ed.
Special points of
Promoting Healthy Social Skills interest:
When should I be con-
A decade ago, kids freely roamed neighborhoods visiting their friends. Football cerned?
games, races, jumping in leaves, riding bicycles, and coming in at dark were part
of childhood. Kids used their imaginations, had conversations, and took part in
Developing healthy
physical activity. Our generation today is consumed by the media, spending large social skills.
amounts of time watching television, playing video games, and exploring the
internet. Diane Leven, Ph.D., a Professor of Education, explains that adults can
Bulldozing bullying
“reduce the impact media has on time spent with friends by helping kids develop myths.
a repertoire of activities that are not connected to computer use, electronic
Be the difference in
games, and watching T.V.” (Levy, PBS; 2008). Technology is a large part of learn-
ing in today’s world but we must encourage kids to discuss what they’re watching someone’s day!
and doing; we can also set limits as to how much time is spent on isolated activi-
Teasing
ties. Leven emphasizes the importance of children interacting with others when
they are young because “research has found that patterns of behavior at age
Recognizing school
eight are related to behavior in adulthood” (Levy, Winnetka Alliance; 2008). work.
When My Child is Teased
Children tease one an- strategies to help chil- 4) Ask your child to look you in the
other; they call one an- dren manage these eyes when speaking, demonstrating
other names. Usually, situations: confidence.
name-calling and teas-
1) Repeat and clarify (Levy, NASP; 2008)
ing is done with a fun,
what is said so he or she
well-intentioned spirit.
knows you sincerely un-
At other times, a child Social skills include having an as-
derstand.
may purposefully hurt sortment of coping strategies. When
another individual by 2) Praise your child
we tell children to “ignore” a prob-
the words and names he when he or she attempts
lem, we are asking them to mask
or she is using. If your to problem-solve on his
their true emotions. This may be
child approaches you or her own. confusing, as children may interpret
“Adults often underesti-
with teasing or name- 3) Practice keeping the their feelings as insignificant or
mate the stress and an-
calling concerns, Dr. emotions in check by misunderstood. When we discuss
guish teasing and name-
Beth M. Levy, a school calling cause children.” role-playing situation our child’s concerns, we are saying,
psychologist, has sug- examples. “Your thoughts and feelings matter.
gested the following (Levy, NASP; 2008) I hear you. I’m listening.”
Truth or Myth?
Kids will be kids. Bullying is part of ing grades and attendance.
growing up.
Bulldoze Bullying
Those who intimidate tend to have
The U.S. Department of Health and Myths their own of burden as well. A bully
Human Services, describes bullying may bring worries from home into
as “aggressive behavior that in- When a student is bullied, his or the school. He or she may feel
volves an imbalance of power or her physical and mental well being popularity is gained by putting
strength, often repeated over is targeted. Mentally, there may be down others. Intimidators often fear
time” (HRSA; 2008). The intense increased feelings of loneliness and losing control or being caught.
and chronic antagonism that signi- anxiety. Physically, a child may
fies bullying is not a normal “part of complain about his or her head or
Bullying is not just “child’s play”
growing up.” It is an abnormal and stomach; sleeplessness may occur.
and should be taken seriously.
destructive behavior. Problems eventually escalate, affect-
Pride Within
Begin the school year with a focus dent may have made his feel. We give our power
on positive acts of kindness. Record or her first day at school away when we allow oth-
kind acts towards others in a note- much easier. Asking ers to impact our day.
book or journal. A child may need someone to play with you
guidance at first. You may ask, at recess may have made When we focus on how
“What did you do today to make him or her feel important. we’re treating others, it’s
someone else feel better?” Your The list of kind deeds is not only contagious but
child may have held a door open for endless. rewarding. We begin to feel
someone, helped another student good about ourselves
pick up his or her dropped supplies, We often fall into the
or took up for someone being picked Make Someone’s Day! and realize our day is
trap of concentrating on Be the Difference! brighter as well.
on or left out. Smiling at a new stu- how others make “us”
August Q&A
My child has told me there’s a girl or may be able to contact the bus or your local district office and ask
bullying others on the school bus. driver directly. This is a good op- who it is best to speak with.
From what I can understand, the portunity for your child to take
bully is very careful not to get control without your assistance, Remember: You should never ap-
caught. What should I do? which is empowering. proach a child yourself and/or his
or her parents.
We often ask stu- If the situation
dents to tell the bus continues, you It is noteworthy that your child
driver when some- may need to came to you with his or her con-
thing happens on email, write or cern. This demonstrates compas-
their bus. However, visit with the sion for other human beings and a
time is so limited be- school principal. trusting relationship between the
cause bus drivers are Some school dis- two of you. Make sure to praise
on a strict schedule. tricts have a bus your child for his or her bravery to
It’s difficult for a stu- disciplinarian; bus “do the right thing.”
dent to talk privately discipline proce-
with the bus driver dures are in place
while loading or and parents can
unloading the bus. bring their con- If you have a question concerning
cerns directly to bullies or bullying, please email
the bus facility. daphne@trevorromain.com. Your
Ask your child to speak to his or name and email address will re-
her teacher. The teacher may di- main confidential.
rect your child to an administrator Check with your child’s office staff