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Ive identified NINE beliefs that all ladies men, without exception, possess. Here they are:
Belief #1: They are attractive and girls really like them
This belief, more than any single belief can get you laid like a rock star. If you take five guys that are really good with women, they may use different strategies and tactics to get women, i.e. one may be really good at meeting women in bookstores and another may be really good at meeting them in nightclubs, but the one thing they have in common is the belief that they are attractive and that women like them. To give you an idea of how powerful this belief is, lets think back to your own career with women. The chances are overwhelming that if you are reading this youve probably gotten laid at least once in your life. Youve probably had a girlfriend or two (if you havent youre in luck, those days will soon be over :) Im willing to bet that when you guys got together you knew it was going to happen. You knew she was into you and this caused you to relax and allow it to happen. Theres also a chance that youve had some success with women but youre not getting the types of women that you want. Same thing. Theres probably an entire class of women that that you just know you can get and you know that theyre into you. But then theres that class of women that you feel is out of your league. The difference between you and a ladies man is that he just knows that he can get the women that he wants. He knows that he can get the women that he finds attractive. He doesnt feel like any woman is out of his league because he believes, as surely as night follows day that any woman would be lucky to be with him.
just say that, theres this guy Im kinda seeing. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Much more on that later. And theres no exception to this. If youve read about anthropology or evolution, youll know that humans are mammals and our biological make up is such that were horny all the time. Of course, you might think there are exceptions. Maybe you know of or have read about girls that dont like sex or what not. Trust me, as long as she has healthy limbs she cant not like sex. When she says she doesnt like sex, it's just her societal programming acting up. Ladies Men know that women like sex just as much or more than men do. They know this because this is what their experience tells them; because they have been with a lot of women. Luckily, this belief is actually easier to internalize than some of the others. By reading some of the books described above and constantly reminding yourself how much girls like sex, youll be on your merry way.
seduction guru who went by the name of David X had two key rules for seducing women: Rule #1: Do not care what shes thinking. Rule #2: Do not forget rule #1. This is really good advice. The truth is we cant really control the thoughts that go on inside of womens heads, all we can do is control are own thoughts and our own actions and trust that the right thoughts and actions will lead to positive results. Once we get you to the point where you know that you are the man and you know that spending time with you is like winning the lottery, criticism wont phase you. Sensitivity to criticism is directly related to lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities. Although you do not want to be sensitive to criticism, you definitely want to be sensitive to feedback. Heres an example. Lets say a guy goes to a club and approaches a group of girls and starts talking to them. He thinks everything is going good but then one of the girls says, Youre kinda creepy, do you think you can leave us alone now? Later on in the night, he approaches another group of girls and after he says something one of them shouts out, Youre weird. If this guy is sensitive to criticism he is going to get down on himself, tell himself what a loser he is and he may even give up improving his skills with women right then. This is not the way a ladies man in training would respond to the situation. He would say, I know Im not creepy, Im fucking awesome and an amazing person to know but I wonder why those girls thought I was giving off weird vibes. Then he would change his approach the next time he went out based on the feedback he received while talking to women. Saying Im the shit and Im not changing for anyone would not be appropriate in this situation.
show you exactly how to do this later on. Often at times, guys that get involved in the game start going out consistently, to the point where being around women is literally work. This is not a position that you want to be in. The more you can get out of this mindset the better you will be.
Yeah, you might be saying, I know that there are a lot of women out there but not where I live. Or you might be saying, there are a lot of women where I live, but none of them are attractive. Bullshit. Its very true that you get what you expect and you get what you focus on. If you think that there are no hot women where you live, then thats what youre reality will be. But Im sure that if I went to your city, Id find the hotties. They must be there, unless you live on a Navy base. If you really think there are no attractive women where you live, most likely you are severely limiting the places you go to to meet women. For example, I have a friend who lives close to a strip of bars that are always sausage fests on the weekends. And if going to these bars was your only exposure to the city, youd think it would suck when it comes to meeting women. In fact, the exact opposite is true if you spend an afternoon walking around this city; youll be bombarded with hot women. There are even some other clubs around the city that have great ratios. This city also has speed dating events, special events, volunteer organizations, three college campuses, tons of nice restaurants; I could go on and on. A lot of guys also have a belief that there are women out there, but that theyre all taken. Again, this is bullshit. Its true that some women have boyfriends or husbands, but not all of them. According to the same US Census, 53 percent of all women in the United States are single or at least not married. In addition, fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. These means that there are a lot of available women out there. Further, statistics show that between 30 and 50 percent of married women cheat on their husbands. Basically, two things become apparent from these statistics. First there are a lot of openly single women out there. If youve been out in the field for a while and are constantly getting I have a boyfriend objections, chances are that something is wrong with your approach. If you watch television or read womens magazines it also becomes very apparent how fed up with men women are. Most women are willing to leave or at least stray from there significant others if they have the opportunity to experience something better. So once you become that something better, youll have so many opportunities to experience new and tasty women that your head will spin. To learn exactly how to become that something better, read on.
getting women is really hard. These guys fall into two categories. The first is the category of guys that have not had much success with women and because they have difficulty getting women, they conclude that getting them is hard. Based on there experience, it makes sense for them to have this belief but that does not mean that this belief is true or helpful. The second category is the group of guys that are successful with women, even world class successful with women but who are not naturals. These guys worked very hard to improve their skills with women, sometimes doing thousands upon thousands of approaches. Because of all the work they did to get to where they are, theyd like you to believe that getting women is so difficult. That they are among the chosen few with special skills and that only a select few have the ability to attain. There truth is, getting women is not that hard. Heres proof for all of the guys in this category, especially the ones that are really good at getting women really easily. Since theyve done it so many times and have their skills and methods so down pat, they proceed with the calm assurance that theyll get the result they want. For them, getting women is as easy is riding a motorcycle. Like anything else, be it fixing a car or hitting a golf ball, once you have the skill down, all you have to do is repeat the process and youll get the same result. With these guys, it simply took them lots of real world practice for them to develop the proper mindsets, attitudes and beliefs that make getting women really easy. We can make this process much more rapid by improving your inner game, whilst simultaneously getting quality real world experience and feedback.
Part 2: The Reasons You Are Not Successful With Women: Mental Garbage.
In addition to the absence of the above attitudes, beliefs and mindsets there are a few specific thoughts in your head that are probably holding you back. Lets discuss them: Im too ____ to get the women I want. This one is sibling to Only guys that ____, get the women I want. Both these beliefs are total bullshit. It doesnt matter if you think youre too short, ugly, old, fat or anything else. You have absolutely everything you need to get the exact women you want. All over the world there are ugly, fat, anything else guys that are getting smoking hot girls on a regular basis. The difference between them and you is primarily between the ears. Yes they may be doing some technical, external things better than you, but if can learn to think the way they think (which is the goal of this report), you
can get the women that they get. So get rid of this thought once and for all. Its literally poisoning your mind and handicapping your progress. Once I ___, then Ill be able to get the women I want. This one handicaps a lot of people as well. It is very prevalent with people who have been studying seduction for a while (e.g. Once I get this product, then Ill really be getting women. Sound familiar?). Two things are going on here. First, you are once again focusing on inadequacy within yourself. Meaning your still thinking that youre just not good enough to get the women you want, so you have to add in what youre missing in order to be a ladies man. Not a good idea. Theres nothing wrong with selfimprovement but self improvement must come from of place of power. There are two types of people that spend a lot of money on self improvement material. The first is the group who will always be stuck; they buy lots of tapes and go to lots of classes but never really do anything with the information they have and thus remain stuck. The second are the bonafide winners of society. The top one percent in every single field. They are always looking to improve, always looking for an advantage. This is the group you want to be in. The second thing that is going on is simple procrastination. Chances are, you know exactly what you need to be doing in order to turn your love life around, but youre not doing it because youre afraid to step out of your comfort zone. As a result, you keep putting off taking action. As Robert Ringer said in his aptly titled book, Nothing Happens until Something Moves, you gotta get off your ass if you want to make lasting changes in your life. Action is the one key to success above all others. If I learn to get women that means Im ____ (a loser, sleazy, a manipulator, etc). This one holds people back more than you may think. A lot of guys think that because theyre learning how to get women via books, workshops, eBooks etc, it means that theyre a loser, a failure in life etc. This type of thinking is totally incorrect. Remember, you are in the top one percent, among the few truly successful people that walk the earth. Successful people have the courage to admit when they are lacking in certain areas. More importantly, they have the courage to take action to improve the areas that they feel they are lacking. Simply put, getting help in this area of your life (or any other area) is strength not weakness. Knowing that taking positive action is the act of a winner and not a loser should make you feel a lot better. Heres a dose of harsh reality that should also help; you obviously are reading this book because you feel this part of your life is not exactly where you want it to be. From here you have two choices. You can either take action and improve your dating life via this book and other resources out there; or you can do nothing and remain
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exactly where you are. Theres a strong chance where you are right now can be a very painful place at times. That pain is not going to go away by itself. Its only going to go away if you do something. Get my drift? A word about manipulation. Im not going to get into this too much because this report does not have many tactics or strategies that would be deemed manipulative by any measure, but Im aware that a lot of stuff out there can be viewed that way. Let me just say this; being truly successful with women requires you to come from a place of being totally sincere, genuine and letting your great qualities shine. In the long term, this cannot be faked. It may take some effort, but getting to this place requires changing the way you think and view the world at a pretty deep level. This is not manipulation or sleaze or any of that other crap, it is the true strength that women find incredibly attractive.
Not relaxing.
Chill out! I know its easier said than done, but the inability to relax may really be paralyzing you. Quickly go over the list of How a Ladies Man Thinks". Notice how they all relate to relaxation? For example, if you know that a girl wants you, youre going to relax and let the seduction unfold; if you know that this girl really, really likes sex youre going to relax because you know that you have exactly what she wants; if you have fun spending time with girls, youll relax and enjoy each others company, if you are not attached to the outcome, youll relax and see what happens On and on. Watch any action movie, be it Indiana Jones, James Bond or any Clint Eastwood movie. Notice how no matter what the situation is, the hero is always relaxed. They always stay calm under pressure. Think of the top
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performers in sports, like Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods or John Elway. They have an uncanny ability to relax under pressure and do what needs to be done. This ability to relax puts them into the all-time legend category rather than just the all star category. By learning how to relax, you can be a legend when it comes to dealing with women.
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friend, professional PUA, or any other guy, you want to give yourself permission to improve. You have to get it through your head that before you can become amazing with women, you have to become average with women first. Ok, lets recap everything that weve talked about in The Inner Game Report. We started off by talking about the 8 beliefs that all Ladies Men have, which were: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. They They They They They They They They have a pathological belief that women love them. understand that women love sex. are immune to criticism. have fun spending time with women. are not attached to the outcome. do not need validation from women. believe in their ability to attract and seduce women. believe there is an abundant supply of women.
In Part Two we discussed the reasons you are not successful with women as we identified the three major forms of Mental Garbage that are going to hold you back with women. They were: 1. Im too ____ to get the women I want. 2. Once I ___, then Ill be able to get the women I want. 3. If I learn to get women that means Im ____ (a loser, sleazy, a manipulator, etc). And lastly we gave you Four Actions youre probably already taking that are preventing you from having the success with women you want. They were: 1. 2. 3. 4. Not taking action. Not Relaxing. Thinking Too Much. Not Being Patient with Yourself.
By implementing all of the techniques, beliefs and reframes in this report, you will be well on your way to thinking and getting the results of a ladies man. Good Luck!!! S P.S. For more information on Inner Game be sure to join our public forum at www.Sinnsofattraction.com/forum
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