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Introduction........................................................................1 Chapter One Walking the Path of Spirit..................................................13 Chapter Two Mental Integrity.................................................................42 Chapter Three Emotional Integrity............................................................72 Chapter Four Physical Integrity.............................................................102 Chapter Five...................................................................144 Spiritual Integrity.............................................................144 Chapter 6........................................................................166 Creatively Intending Your Life........................................166 Chapter 7 Mastery............................................................................190
Integrity: 1. An unimpaired condition: soundness 2. Adherence to a code of moral, ethical, artistic, or other values 3. The quality or state of being complete or undivided: completeness
throughout the United States. This gave me the space to write my first book, The Four Elements of Change. I was in my first solid, loving, and sexually fulfilling relationship ever. I was living with my partner in a beautiful apartment ten blocks from the Toltec Center, and co-teaching journeys to Teotihuacan, Mexico and Peru with my friend and mentor Gini Gentry. Life was great, and I had manifested most of my dreams, and then some. Right around this time came a huge pivot point in my life around my own integrity. Raven and my relationship had evolved over the years from student teacher to teaching peers, to business partners (Raven helped me publish my book and we created Teo Publishing together), to roommates. We were great friends and support for each other, and both of us where in other primary intimate relationships. One day I realized that I really wanted to be in relationship with Raven. Our paths and outlook on life were so compatible, we had the same dreams and visions, and our feelings for each had kept deepening. Yet we were both in other relationships. My getting clear about my integrity started an amazing spiral of events that completely changed my life. I was scared to be in relationship with Raven because of what our community would think, but I finally followed my heart and jumped in feet first. We did a hand fasting (commitment for a year and a day) ceremony in Peru soon after we got together. The result of my getting into integrity in my relationship world, and being with Raven who is an incredible being of intent
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They spend a lot of time convincing people to do things their way. _____ Section 3: Their work and/or home environment is messy and disorganized. ____ They are constantly multi-tasking. ____ They start many projects, but finish very few of them. ____ They are always reading books, going to movies, watching TV or going shopping. _____ They are usually living beyond their means. ______ They are very funny and relieve tense situations with humor. ____ Their thoughts jump from topic to topic, and they have a hard time staying focused on anything for long. _____ Section 4: They are often shy around meeting new people. ____
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In social situations they often pull books off of shelves and read them, look out the window, play with dogs or children, or drink a lot and leave early. ______ They love doing things by themselves. Most of the things they would consider relaxing involve getting away from people. ______ They are often grumpy, and they walk around with a frown on their face even when they are not grumpy. ____ They feel superior to others, and often feel misunderstood. _____ They love animals, plants, and nature, often more than they like other people. ______ They usually take off or disappear if other people are displaying a lot of emotion. _______ Add up your scores in each section. The one with the highest amount is your core strategy. Section one is pleaser, section two is controller, section three is a distracter and section four is an isolator. Work with this strategy in all the coming sections. Of course, you will have elements of each in your makeup, but the
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Resources for Finding Your Purpose If you need more resources try the methods in Tom Browns Vision Quest, David Deidas Way of the Superior Man, James Redfields Celestine Prophecy or Lance Secretans Inspire.
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The Spiral of the Mind At the beginning point of the spiral of the mind we believe everything our mind tells us. We unconsciously live out our strategies and beliefs, and do not realize that we are filtering everything we perceive. We absolutely believe we are our mind. So how exactly does the mind run this show, anyway? A part of your mind is memory, a part is awareness of your body, a part runs the body, one half creates things, and the other half catalogues things There is all this stuff going on, yet there is something we identify with as me, as this is who I am. That part of your mind is what the Toltec call the internal dialogue. Psychology calls it your ego, yogis call it your little self, we call it your Center of Rational Attachment Problem (CRAP for short). Just kidding! Lets settle on internal dialogue, as this describes in a real sense what exactly is going on. This internal dialogue maintains your sense of I or self. It is you constantly talking to yourself, telling yourself who you are (stupid, fat, not enough, too muchthats just brilliant isnt it?), what is happening (as if you didnt already know!), and what might happen (most of which it is wrong about). In short, it is a non-stop, mostly cyclic loop of thoughts that you decided you
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simultaneously is what comes present. it is not your mind, it is the seed of your consciousness, pure awareness. But before we can get there we need to know more about this internal dialogue we have placed between us and the direct experience of reality. We need to understand that even though it is a complete illusion, it is also a powerful force in our lives, for we have given it the power to filter and distort everything we perceive about the nature of our existence. In its natural state the mind really does function like a wave. When it is needed it arises from the ocean, exists for a while as it performs its function, then subsides back into the ocean. Our identification with the mind distorts this function. We artificially try and keep the mind in existence at all times and mistakenly tie our survival to the wave. We feel our existence is threatened any time that identification is challenged, or any time there are gaps in the constant flow of thoughts and identifications we create by associating who we are with the mind. Our beliefs form the foundation for the minds artificial existence. (AE for short) Beliefs are the identification and attachment we have linked to the concept of I as something distinct and separate from the One. The process we are involved in is the removal of the identification with those beliefs, bringing us to a place of simple choice in the moment. From a very young age we are taught the first lie on which all other lies are based: that there is something fundamentally wrong with us that keeps people from accepting
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Revealing the Voice of your Judge Go experience your judge. This exercise requires either a hand-held voice recorder (ideal because you can capture the inflections and nuances of your judging voices) or a notebook and pen (less ideal, but if you pay close attention to not editing it will work) Go to a big public space where you can sit to the side, more or less unnoticed and watch people pass by. Airports, malls, Downtown areas, busy coffee shops, etc. all work well. Get comfortable, take some deep full breaths and spend 5-10 minutes getting your mind as quiet as you can. Now turn your tape recorder on and start looking at the people passing by. Speak any thoughts that arise into the recorder, work to not censor, just speak them exactly as you here them in your head. Do it for a half an hour or so and then pack up and go home. At home get somewhere quiet and undisturbed and listen to the tape. Listen to it over and over until you feel no reaction to the voice on the tape. Listen to it until you can listen to it compassionately, without judgment or feeling victimized by it. Cultivate an attitude as if it was a good friend having a very hard time and you wanted to be present with them without getting hooked into their story of blame and victimization. Once you can do this go back to the public place and again let the judge out around the people that pass by, but this time just witness it with that same attitude of being attentive to what it is
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Pure Fluid Presence The endpoint of the spiral of emotions is about staying present with the flow of emotional energy through us. As we continue cleaning out the structures of our past we begin to get in touch with the fact that the flow of our emotions is the flow of our own energy. We intimately feel how our emotions connect us to the Divine mystery moving through us in all its infinite variety and intensity. We see the heavy energies as obstructions and blocks inside us, not as external conditions that need to be changed. We are aware of the constant wave-like flow of energy through and around us. We stop attaching meaning to any particular state of energy as being good or bad. We ride the waves, willing to let go of the peaks and the valleys as the energy moves fluidly through us at all times. Pure Awareness and Choice As we reach the endpoint of the spiral of emotions the distinctions between the emotions begin to slip away. We connect with higher and higher vibrations of light, love, acceptance and compassion, and in the brilliance of this true connection to Source all judgments and distinctions between the different energies fall away into the One field of the Infinite, without separation, without suffering. Joyful detachment and sacred union with everything becomes our way of being and the
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Get grounded and centered and say the following prayer: Spirit help me to find fluidity, help me to open to all of who I am in acceptance and love, help me to find the courage to express all of who I am without judgment, I ask for energy and awareness of all my states of being. Ho!
Set a timer to ring every 3-5 minutes. Start in one of the corners and work to totally be in and express that energetic state for the entire 3-5 minutes. When the timer goes off immediately move to the next corner and again work to totally embody and express that state. Work your way all the way around the room, dont start or end with the meditation corner, do it somewhere in the middle of the exercise.
The states/exercises for each corner are as follows: Drum/Bell corner Absolute joy and happiness! Pound the drum, ring the bell, laugh, giggle, jump up and down for joy, shout and have riotous fun! Pile of pillows Anger! Get furious, pound the pillows, yell, swear, move your body a lot.
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Now, compare the two lists. Where are the places they contradict each other? Notice how there is a part of you that is willing where your victim may not be. Pick one of the willingness statements to work with. It can be one that you and your victim are in alignment with, or one that is in opposition. Write this willingness statement on a piece of paper and put it someplace you will see it regularly. Dream into the statement over the next seven days. What does it really mean to you? What actions might you need to take? How might you need to start perceiving your world differently to create space for this willingness to be true? Which actions are you willing to take? Let yourself feel the strength of your willingness, and your commitment to hold yourself through the places that keep you from living your statement 100 percent. Cease the Overwhelm/Inaction Game! Follow these simple steps to get out of the overwhelm/inaction dance: 1. STOP! Take a breath, slow down, and embrace yourself energetically. Let yourself know you are aware of your container, and are willing to hold yourself steady.
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Physical Integrity arises when your actions align with your heart, not your strategies. Each of us takes on a strategy to help us understand the world around us and make us feels safe. When you understand what your primary strategy is and how you physically act it out in the world you come to a place of choice rather than habit. Choice is the foundation of physical integrity. Welcome to the world of the physical! Once we have seen where we are on the continuum of healing our mental and emotional we now get to bring it into the physical and take action. Knowledge about ones process is great, awareness is wonderful, but without ACTION none of it means anything! To realize your potential, to transform your life into a place of integrity, you must be willing to take concrete steps directed toward the fruition of your desired change. So much of the time people step onto a spiritual path and start accumulating knowledge about what it is like to be spiritual. They begin to create an idea of what it is like to be spiritual and then try and live from the idea rather than the full realization of what that idea represents. BEING the divine mystery is not a passive state. Standing fully in the magnificence
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The Art of Experimentation One of our favorite action tools is experimentation. Experiments are conscious actions directed at either uncovering or breaking limiting patterns and beliefs. They move us out of thinking or despairing about how to create change, to actually unveiling and breaking our structures with our actions.
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For controllers One of the best actions I know for controllers to break their fixation on control is to go on an opinion fast. What you do
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Spiritual Integrity is a cellular recognition that you are not your mind, emotions, or body, but the light that illuminates from within. As you move more and more into Spiritual Integrity your mind, emotions, and form become sweetly transparent, so the luminous light of your spirit radiates out. Knowing your purpose, making action plans, and running experiments are all steps towards regaining your integrity, piece by piece. When you honestly look at your mind, emotions, and body and are willing to take action or run experiments to create more spaciousness in your being, you are beckoning your own Spiritual Integrity. The truth is that the core of us resides in Spiritual Integrity. The light that we are is not confused or dimmed by our human struggles. The issue is our continuing identification with our mind, emotions, and body rather than our essence. If you could fully stand in your own radiance, the illusion of yourself as a separate mind, your attachment to certain emotional states and repulsion of others, and your identification with your physical form would fall away like discarded clothing. We have each had these moments of touching Spirit and
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Working with the Angel of Death How often have you really considered the fact that you are going to die? All spiritual traditions invite us to contemplate our death as part of our path. But how many of us actually have integrated the enormity of the concept of our own death? Everyone has an intellectual understanding that they will die. You cannot refute the evidence of the physical world; nobody who has a body gets out of here alive. But have you really internalized the fact that this is it? That this existence, this being that you think you are, this mind, will at some point cease to exist. Yes, who we really are will continue in some form, but who you think you are, your personality, the I in any statement you make about yourself or your life has a finite existence. Imagine if you really believed that each moment was your last. Your last chance to take an action, to speak your truth, to love yourself, to love somebody, think a thought, to just be with the wonder, mystery, and joy of being alive in a body. Can you imagine the richness that would bring to every minute of your life? Imagine the freedom that would bring you, no time for your normal bullshit, this is the last moment, only the decision of how best to use it would fill your mind. Imagine living from that place in your day today life.
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What I am missing are memories of her that no longer exist anyway. The grief is over not being able to have these experiences happen again, when in fact it is already impossible for them to happen again because the Sasha and the Raven that those events happened to no longer exist. So the grief is telling me a lie, it is saying the experiences Ive had in the past can be duplicated, when in fact those experiences are gone forever. At the same time those experiences are happening right now, time isnt linear, it is all one moment, so those experiences are happening with as much validity as what is going on in this moment at all times. When Im asleep time does not exist, therefore it cant be a constant, therefore things are all happening in some other manner than a linear form, it feels like right now that the only other viable option is that it is all happening at once. That being the case, all things are equal and exist in this moment, birth-life-death-all of it. So what is there to grieve about when nothing could ever actually be gone? But doesnt this then mean that everything is an illusion? If the memories arent real then is the present moment any more real? I feel like I exist, but by the time I think and then write that the moment I felt it no longer exists, it is only an intangible memory. What does that mean? Did I actually exist in the moment I thought it, and now that moment has ceased to exist (and thus the me that was there has ceased to exist) or does it still exist and this is just another moment that is itself a complete and eternal existence?
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SPIRITUAL EXPLORATION Befriending Death What is your relationship to Death? Do you hate her, want to avoid her at all costs, or honor that she is loaning you all that you see? Talk with a friend or journal about how you view death. Name all of your fears and beliefs around your own death, and the deaths of those close to you. Notice any places you have anger or fear of abandonment or loss of control associated with death. What were you taught about death as a child? How
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Unclogging Your Intent Machinery The first step in honing your intent is to clear out the garbage intents that clog up your system. They are heavy energies that weigh down the lightness of pure, conscious intent. For the week play with making up intents for yourself based on your unconscious beliefs. Keep this practice as play, for it will expose more of your unconscious heaviness. Notice where you are sabotaging yourself or acting in ways that go against your heart. Then make a joke of it: "Today, I will wake up depressed and then punish myself all day for it." "Today, I will make a mistake and repeat it in my head over and over again." "Today, I will say I want to write, but I will spend the day cleaning up someone else's mess." As Raven always says, get them out in front of you so you can see them! Now you have the power to make a choice. Is that really the intent you want to hold for your day/week/life? Once you have played with and felt your unconscious intents, rewrite what intent you actually want to be living from. What different action can you take? How can you bring the creative aspect in to this new intent? Write these intents when you are not in the pattern, before you get depressed or confused or anxious or whatever... Action is best planned from a neutral to joyous space. Make three action steps you will take that oppose the old intent, or nourish your new one (preferably one of each.)
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People who live their lives from a place of Spiritual Integrity do not become spiritual masters. Rather they live a life of mastery in their connection to Spirit in each moment. You never see them retiring from anything because there is nothing to retire from when you are living your purpose and joy in life. People in spiritual integrity do not have jobs, they dont have static titles, they are not a somebody. They are the embodiment of their purpose, no matter if they are working 9 to 5 or meditating in the woods. They have a clear way of being in the world, regardless of what they are doing. When you are in spiritual integrity you come from a place of choice. You have stripped away all of your unconscious limitations and come back to a place where you can consciously choose how you want to be in each moment. Every day is a journey into more presence, a journey into more and more choice as to how you live our life. Spiritual Integrity is about living that choice. We are here, we are in these bodies, living this lifetime, now. And a person in spiritual integrity recognizes that they are here for a reason, that their life has meaning, and that meaning is based on their connection to this moment, not on any beliefs, ideas or concepts about who they should be.
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My commitment is to the Truth, not to being consistent. This tenet arose from my exploration and validation that my life is a process that is most closely reflected by the spiral of truth. Different things are true at different points and in different situations. This comes from the many times I have validated that reality is not an absolute, it is a point of perception that is always changing.
I dont talk about my personal history except as an example to help people understand an insight or teaching. This comes from seeing in what an incredible waste of energy it is to talk about the past. Constantly cycling past events leads to attachment, limiting beliefs, and a fixation of attention that does not leave room for new ways of being and connecting to Spirit. What is
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For more information on Spiritual Integrity or any of our other programs, books and audio visit out websites at: http://www.toci.org
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