End Notes Frequently Asked Questions How can I relax before sex? 1.Take a time out to prepare. 2.

Live in the moment. 3. Lose your ego. Say no to pressure. 4. Get or give each other a full body massage Are there health benefits in having sex? The short answer is that there are many benefits including improved blood flow, maintenance of cholesterol, weight control, boost in hormones like testosterone, reduced stress, increased happiness, and confidence. Does size of penis matter? How do you give your spouse the most satisfaction? The short answer is no, size doesn't matter. The secret to good sex isn't size. Go slowly, don't plunge into vagina, use lubricant, try different positions, and develop a rhythm (that moves with her body). Don't just try to pump in and out, pleasure her by stroking her clitoris, and alternate depth. The most sensitive part of the vagina is the lip.

How often is enough? There is no one number. This is something each couple has to figure out, and this will also change over time. Too frequent, like everyday or multiple times in day or night is not healthy. Neither is it healthy for relationship to do infrequently like once a month. When both couples are working it takes time and effort to make yourself available for the other. Make sure to reserve time for sex. Can I improve my sexual performance? The book covers many aspects of foreplay and position, but at the basic level, you must be physically fit and healthy. Both men and women can do Kegel exercises, which help the pubococ-cygeus (PC) muscle stay tight. Daily repetitions help the muscle become stronger. Also, coming near to climax but withholding ejaculation is another way to build stamina.

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Sex, Viagra and Islam by Dr. Shahid Athar What You Didnt Learn From Your Parents About Sex by Mathew Paul Turner A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau Kosher Sex by Shmuel Boteach 500 Great Dates by Lisa Sussman Sex Secrets by Brian Chichester, Kenton Robinson & Mens Health Books The Intimate Touch by Dr. Glenn Wilson The Brain in Love by Daniel G. Amen She Comes First: The Thinking Mans Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner Great Sex by Michael Castleman Real Sex for Real Women by Laura Berman Sex Education by Dr. Mirriam Stoppard Pleasure by Hilda Hutcherson Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by Dr. John Gray Fast Sex Nation: Moving Beyond Viagra, based on the lecture The McDonaldization of Sex by Dr. Leonore Tiefer Finding the Doorbell by Edie Thys Morgan and Cindy Pierce
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Matrimonial Education in Islam by Dr. Ahmed Sakr The Muslim Marriage Guide (Censored Edition) by Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood Virgin Sex for Girls by Dr. Darcy Luadzers Pornography Statistics: In the Shadow of the Net by Patrick Carnes KISS Guide to Sex by Anne Hooper 269 Amazing Sex Games by Hugh de Beer Naughty or Nice Sex by Amy Scott & Boyd Geary

Quran and Prophetic References Relating to Love and Sex Sex is the ultimate expression of love and is a total physical and emotional encounter. In a brief but beautiful expression the Quran refers to this relation between husbands and wives saying: "They are your garments and you are their garments" (2:187). In the sexual act of each of you there is a sadaqa." The Companions replied: "O Messenger of God! When one of us fulfills his sexual desire, will he be given a reward for that?" And he said, "Do you not think that were he to act upon it unlawfully, he would be sinning? Likewise, if he acts upon it lawfully he will be rewarded. - Hadith of Prophet "Of His signs is this: that He created for you spouses that you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy" (Quran, 30:21). "Three things are counted as inadequacies in a man. Firstly, meeting someone he would like to get to know, and taking leave of him before learning his name and his family. Secondly, rebuffing the generosity that another shows to him. And thirdly, going to his wife and having intercourse with her before talking to her and gaining her intimacy, satisfying his need from her before she has satisfied her need from him" (Hadith: Daylami). One's wife is "a tilth unto you" (Quran, 2:223).

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God created male and female from a single soul in order that man might live with her in serenity (Quran, 7:189). "Not one of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; but let there first be a messenger between you." "And what is that messenger?" they asked, and he replied: "Kisses and words" (Daylami). "If any of you has sex with his wife let he be true to her. If he attains his pleasure before her then he shouldn't hurry her away until she also attains her pleasure" (Anas). The best of you, is the one who is best to his wives, and I am the best of you toward my wives. (AtTahaawi: Saheeh )