Premarital Sex and Abortion The modern young person's peer group is much more tolerant of premarital sex.

Many young people believe that what people do in their sex life is nobody's business but their own. That's not true, but some like to think it is. Still other factors make it harder now for a young person to say no to premarital sex. Birth control devices are easy to obtain, and some are highly effective. The picture seems clear. Sex is now a mighty tough urge to resist. The view of some young people seems to be, "Why fight it? Let's go for it." THE ELEVEN KNOWN FACTS Science has established eleven facts concerning the probable effect of premarital sex on your marriage. FACT 1. Premarital sex tends to break up couples. Other things being equal, couples who engage in sex are more likely to break up before marriage than those who do not. FACT 2. Many men and women do not want to marry a person who has had intercourse with someone else. Fear of AIDS is another factor now. Also, the more sexual experience the other person has had, the less desirable that person is. FACT 3. Those who have premarital sex tend to have less happy marriages. On the whole, your chances of being happily married are better if you wait till you're wed to have sex. And the

more premarital sex you have, the less likely you'll be happy in your marriage. FACT 4. Those who have premarital sex are more likely to have their marriage end in divorce. This follows from Fact 3. If a couple is unhappy with their marriage, they're more likely to get a divorce. And again, the more premarital sex the individuals have had, the greater the chance of divorce. FACT 5. Persons and couples who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well. That is especially true of females. The Kinsey report showed that women who had sex before marriage were more than twice as likely to cheat on their husbands as women who were virgins at the time of their marriage. The same is true of men. The more premarital sex a person has had, the more likely he or she is to commit adultery. The reason is, once a couple have had sex with each other, it is much, much easier to do the same thing again, married or not. Also, indulging in "forbidden fruit" brings special pleasure and excitement. After marriage, sex is no longer forbidden. Couples accustomed to the excitement of forbidden fruit may find married sex to be a bit dull. Might this tempt a spouse to try to find greater excitement outside the marriage bond - which is another kind of forbidden fruit. FACT 6. Having premarital sex may fool you into marrying a person who is not right for you. Sex can blind you. You may believe you've found real love, when in fact it is only sex that has held you together. If you wait for sex until you're quite sure

you have a sound relationship without sex, you can avoid this tragic error. Once your relationship is firmly established, then your married sex life becomes a beautiful, wondrous bonus. It will tie you together even more completely in your marriage. The next two facts are best taken together. The first is a shortterm plus, but the second a long-range minus. FACT 7. Persons and couples with premarital sex experience tend to achieve sexual satisfaction sooner after the are married. However ... FACT 8. They are likely to be less satisfied overall with their sex life during marriage. That is, they adjust to sex more quickly, but their overall adjustment is less satisfying than it is with couples who wait for sex until after they wed. One reason is that their premarital sex experience can rise to haunt them. People differ widely in their sexual nature and skills. They tend to compare their sexual satisfaction with previous partners if they have other partners and they tend to get disappointed. Married Sex Is Best Almost any wife and husband can work out a happy sexual adjustment if they love each other. Any loving couple's sex life is likely to be fine. When they have a warm, compatible relationship, they can with very few exceptions work out a good sex life. Sex in the context of a meaningful, lasting relationship is by far the best sex. Total Sex No matter how skilled and exotic and explosive a merely physical sexual experience may be, it cannot begin to match total sex. Total sex involves the completion and

conjoining of total personalities. It merges the minds, the emotions, and the social and spiritual selves of a couple, as well as their two bodies. The two truly do become one. They can actually be worshipping God in the act of having sex. No sensible person should want to settle for anything less than that kind of sex. FACT 9. Poor premarital sexual habits can be carried over to spoil sex in marriage. Since premarital sex is still a social and religious nono, illicit sex acts usually produce some degree of guilt, fear, and loss of self-esteem. This can apply to both partners, but it is especially true for women. They feel guilt, since they are doing what they feel they should not do. They lose self-respect, since they are not living up to their own ideals. And they are afraid of three things: getting caught in the act of sex, getting pregnant, and perhaps contracting a sexually transmitted disease. Whether you're engaged or not, each time you have premarital sex, you will get into a pattern of feeling guilt and fear and loss of self-respect. Over and over again this happens. You have sex, you feel fear and guilt and remorse. In time, all of these negative feelings become associated with the sex act itself. Now suppose you do get married. To the extent you learned to associate sex with guilt and fear and shame before the wedding, you will in some measure feel that way afterward. Still, every time you two have sex, that guilt and fear and shame will come back to haunt you. It may take months or even years for you to recondition yourselves. Only then can your sex life be full and free. FACT 10. Guilt may push a couple into a bad marriage. Many persons (especially those with a deep religious faith or background) will feel that they should have sex

only with the person they wed and no one else. So they may feel duty-bound to marry a person they have had sex with. As a result, this guilt and sense of obligation may push them into a poor marriage. FACT 11. Premarital sex robs a couple of "sexual cement." The sex act is the most intimate of all human behaviors. If done with love, it bonds a couple together in a unique way. It is so wonderful that it keeps them coming back to each other even though there may be real problems - like money, in-laws, etc. - to be worked out in their relationship. This bonding can be called "sexual cement," since it is so strong that it can hold a couple together for up to three to five years. Here's why it is of vital importance to hold off having sex until after you're wed so it can help you make your marriage work out. SO WHAT ARE THE CHOICES? Since going all the way to intercourse involves such serious risks, how can one deal with all those deep sexual urges? You have a number of options. 1. ABSTAIN. You can use will power. No one has to have sex. Many go without having sex for years or even a lifetime without negative results. 2. PLAN. Plan ahead and decide how far down the "road to arousal" you think you should go. Go no farther. Express your emotions up to that point, and then just call a halt. 3. SUBLIMATE. You can firmly decide to engage in some other kinds of things as a deliberate substitute for giving in to your sex drive. It could be sports, exercise, art, or some hobby - almost anything

that really holds your interest. This can distract your attention away from thoughts of sex. 4. AVOID. Avoid all the kinds of things that can tempt you. Stay away from the "R" or "X" types of movies, or books or magazines that are likely to arouse your sex urges. Try not to let yourself get into situations with your dates where having sex would be easy. ABORTION BEGINNING OF LIFE God considers people who are still in their mother's wombs "fully human." Read Jeremiah 1:5, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you." This is conclusive evidence that human life starts inside the womb of the mother. Therefore, abortion of any sort could be possibly regarded as killing a human life. However, since it is impossible to prove conclusively from the Scripture that the zygote or embryo is an immortal soul, abortion can be viewed as a sin of reckless violence, a possible homicide, and that abortion of a fetus is a crime, almost certainly a homicide, deserving severe punishment, but not necessarily deserving capital punishment. APPLICATION 1. Right to choose - May a mother choose to kill her child if she so wants? No, a mother has no rights to choose abortion. 2. Economic and social well-being - May a mother kill her child for economic reasons? No, a mother has no right to abort her baby on the bases of economic and social well-being.

3. Mental health of mother - Is the potential of psychological damage to be compared with the certain loss of life and the possible agony of a violent, painful, and protracted dying? 4. Life of the mother - Protestants historically justify abortion when a continued pregnancy would put the life of the mother in jeopardy on the basis of self-defense and on the basis of choosing the lesser of two evils - the loss of a wife, and, possibly, mother, being a greater loss to the family and society. Here, the intention is to save the mother, and is not to kill the baby. It is analogous to that a doctor may not cut up your leg if he chooses to, but he may amputate your leg in order to save your life. 5. Unwanted children - Why not rather face the consequences of one's past choices and make sure that the child is wanted, either by the natural parents or by others who stand in line waiting the opportunity to adopt? 6. Rape, incest, and the handicapped - The mother's lack of responsibility for the conception does not remove the child's inalienable right to life. The unborn child is not the attacker but is, in fact, a second victim who should not receive capital punishment for his father's crime. A second act of violence cannot correct the first. Also, If the handicapped fetus is human, like the handicapped child or adult, has the right to life.

if you have a partner and he asked you tu have you know ... and you relally love him,,, without marriage,, are you going to do it or not ?? why ?? what advices can you give to those who were, at thie very moment, pregnant at a young age ?? ............... what is your reaction on the issue of abortion cases done by teens of today?? ................... if you are pregnant .... would you commit abortion ? why or why not?? ........................... do you think its already time to legalize abortion ?

Flow nung Forum 1: una mag intro si Vio de Guzman about sa meaning ng PS and Abortion. 2: magpapakilala yung mga Guests (Hanna Joy Batistil,Airha Leyson,Erika Goto,Kim Adan) 3: sasabihin ni vio yung 11 facts tpos, tatanungin ni vio yung audince kung may gusto ba silang itanong tungkol dun sa topic... 4: tpos kelangan mapilit yung audience na magtanong 5: sasagot yung mga girls (bahala na kayo maghati dun sa mga infos) 6: tpos super tanong lang dapat yund audience at least 2 dapat makapagtanong so iklian lang yung sagot dapt pang 30 secs hanggang 1 minute lang yung sagot ng bawat isa... 7: tpos sasabihin ko yung mga choices na nandun sa article sa baba 8: tpos sasabihin na ni mante yung abortion kembot (maikli lang) 9: tpos 3 dapt magtanung 10: tpos i sasamurize ni dave yung nangyari :D note: ung mga sasabihin nina vio , mante and me ,,, mga cues lang yun para alam nila yung topic para maintindihan nila .. pag may tanung kayo ....tnung na agad