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We are already winners!

By Kamal Poudel

Lifes expectations are aligned in one direction and the corresponding achievements in different direction. Some are lucky (coincidental happening!) enough that they get what they have thought. And still some are astoundingly lucky that they achieve more than they have dreamt of. However, these comparisons are just based on subjective evaluation. Usually the reality seems subjective rather than object as vast majorities of influencing factors come into play in each individuals life. One memorable incident happens. Fortunately, a frustrated and pessimistic person happens to know an optimistic person. It happens that both the persons have some idea of biological phenomenon of how reproduction happens. The gestures that can be recognized easily from the discussions among them clearly distinguish their mental (and physical) health. The frustrated one talks every time feeling loss of hope. He even tries to persuade the other that positive attitude comes only when s/he has achieved something. In other words attitude is the result of achievements in life; to be particular stepwise achievements as per Maslows Laws of Needs that have been listed as Physiological or Basic needs (food, shelter, cloth, sex), Safety needs (security, order and stability), Psychological needs (love and belongings), Esteem Level (the level of success and status- from self and others) and Need for Self- actualization (individuals reach a state of harmony and understanding). Let us call them stages from one to five respectively. Till the fourth stage individuals are thought to struggle to achieve them. When the fourth level is achieved, individuals are thought to feel comfortable with what they have gained. In the final stage individuals try to build their own image by accomplishing some set of goals due to their ever increasing feeling of confidence. An individual is thought to feel content and these needs alone are not motivating after achieving fourth stage. Though the realizations of these stages are debatable for individuals span of life, it provides some insight into an individuals thinking and his/ her initiative towards achieving some objectives. Struggle to accomplish them certainly varies from an individual to individual. Off the cuff, the optimist begins with explanation of the pessimists initiation of life in earth. As it is true, the optimist says, You are already a winner! After some time breaking the silence the optimist says that we are born from the winner sperm among billions of competitor sperms that couples with ovum. So no need to worry, just keep on going. You will be winner again!

Nevertheless while having discussion among friends, comparison among the circle may lead to frustration or inferior complexity. This should not create situation for some one to look him inferior or superior as you only know better your reality and not of others. How others content themselves may not be real. Even if its real, let us take plus aspects to energize oneself. In other words, you can say self motivation. Still time is there for you to prove you as a winner again!

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