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Who am I?

Self Awareness

Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to reconcile oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.

Faulty Self Awareness

The 3 Selves
Real self: you that you are Perceived self: you that you think you are (self-image) Ideal self: you that you want to be

What you see in yourself

SELF-IMAGE

Kuhn (1960) - 20 Statements Test

Answer the question 'Who am I?' in 20 different ways. Physical Description: Im tall, have blue eyes...etc. Social Roles: Such roles as student, housewife, or member of the football team Personal Traits: Im impulsive...Im generous...I tend to worry a lot...etc. Existential Statements (abstract ones): These can range from "Im a child of the universe" to "Im a human being" to "Im a spiritual being"... etc.

How the individual sees himself or herself

How others see the individual

How the individual perceives others see him or her

Self-Image
These three types may not be an accurate representation of the person. All, some or none of them may be true. This does not necessarily have to reflect reality. Indeed a person with anorexia who is thin may have a self image in which the person believes they

4 MAJOR FACTORS THAT INFLUENCE SELF-IMAGE

If people admire us, flatter us, seek out our company, listen attentively and agree with us we tend to develop a positive self-image. If they avoid us, neglect us, tell us things about ourselves that we dont want to hear we develop a negative self-image.

Social Comparison. If the people we compare ourselves with (our reference group) appear to be more successful, happier, richer, better looking than ourselves we tend to develop a negative self image BUT if they are less successful than us our image will be positive.

Social Roles. Some social roles carry prestige e.g. doctor, airline pilot, TV. presenter, premiership

WHAT YOU WANT TO BEIDEAL SELF

The extent to which you valueyourself

SELF-ESTEEM

Self-Esteem
HIGH SELF ESTEEM i.e. we have a positive view of ourselves. This tends to lead to Confidence in our own abilities Self acceptance Not worrying about what others think Optimism LOW SELF ESTEEM i.e. we have a negative view of ourselves. This tends to lead to Lack of confidence Want to be/look like someone else Always worrying what others might think Pessimism

Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is the confidence one has in oneself, ones knowledge, and ones abilities. It is the confidence of the type: "I can do this". " I have the ability to do this".

Change Your Attitude

I CAN I WILL

Assertiveness & Confidence

Assertiveness & Confidence

Dealing with emotions

Do you keep your opinions to yourself for fear of upsetting or starting an argument with others?

Dealing with emotions

Aggressive Behaviour
People who typically behave in an aggressive manner express their feelings, needs and ideas at the expense of others. They need to win arguments. They tend to overpower other people. The body language of the Aggressive person is threatening , finger pointing, stand over. Their speech can be loud abusive, rude and sarcastic

I will follow whatever you say.

Passive Behaviour
People who typically behave in a passive or submissive manner are demonstrating a lack of respect for their own values, needs and rights. Many passive people do not express their honest feelings, needs, values and concerns. They allow others to dictate to them, denying their rights and ignoring their needs. The body language of the passive person is bowed and bent, submissive and non threatening. Their speech is peppered with "Sorries"

Problem with passive people

He would always Yes even if he wants to say No. Difficulties might arise with self-esteem

Communication Styles

Assertiveness
Assertiveness is a particular mode of communication. Assertive communication consists of sharing wants and needs honestly in a safe manner. This presumes respect for the boundaries of oneself and others, which boundaries include the physical self, possessions, and relationships. It also presumes an interest in the fulfillment of needs and wants through cooperation.

Art of Saying NO
He would always Yes even if he wants to say No.

Anger Management