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Ch. 11
Friendships
Adult friendships develop over several stages
Acquaintanceship Buildup Continuation Deterioration Ending
Friendships
Young adults - more friends than any other stage of adulthood Satisfaction with life partly dependant upon quantity and quality of friends
Friendships
3 themes: Affective or emotional: Self-disclosure and trust Shared or communal nature: Mutual interests Sociability and compatibility: Source of fun and entertainment Sibling friendships important More for women than for men
Men
based on shared interests or activities involve less sharing and more competition
Cross-sex relationships may help men with their capacity for intimacy
Love Relationships
Sternbergs three basic components of love:
Passion - physical desire Intimacy - need to share thoughts and actions Commitment - willingness to stay with someone during good and bad times
Longer relationship =
commitment increases but passion and intimacy decrease
Values
Do the persons values match my own?
Role
Do the persons ideas about relationships, communication style, gender roles, etc., match my own?
Complex causes of abusive behavior increases as the severity increases Violence may start as common violence, or physical aggressiveness between the couple
Singlehood
70% of women and 80% of men are single between the ages of 20 and 24 Men tend to remain single longer than women Twice as many African Americans as European Americans are single throughout adulthood
Cohabitation
Three reasons for decision to cohabit
Part-time or limited cohabitation
usually for convenience and accessibility. No long term commitment, marriage is not a goal
Premarital cohabitation
usually a trial marriage if it doesnt end in marriage, the couple splitsup
Cohabitation
Substitute marriage
a long-term commitment without legal marriage more common with older couples who may lose financial benefits if they marry
Marriage
Median age for marriage has been rising Women
under 20 are 3 times more likely to divorce than women who marry in 20s 6 times more likely than those in their 30s
Teen marriages
more likely to end in divorce partly due to the need for the development of a strong sense of identity before intimacy
Homogamy
increases the chance of successful marriage
Exchange theory
Dependence
more equal = marriage tends to stay strong and close less equal = more conflict and difficulty is experienced
Couples who do not pool their financial resources experience less satisfaction Birth of children
marriages become more routine and static resulting in less satisfaction
Marriage at Midlife
Married singles Couples who have grown apart but remain married Physical appearance
an important factor in marital satisfaction Declines in physical condition may cause changes in level of satisfaction
Childless couples
higher standard of living greater marital satisfaction may be viewed negatively by society
Single Parents
Divorced single parents
report feelings of frustration, guilt, and a tendency to be overindulgent
Single parents often face financial strains. Single mothers are often affected the most
Divorce
Who gets divorced and why?
Ethnicity is a big factor
African American, Puerto Ricans, and ethnically mixed marriages are most likely to end in divorce European Americans, Mexican Americans, and Cuban Americans are similar in divorce rates
Men
feel shocked be blamed for the break-up accept the blame, move out have their social life disrupted
Women
economic disadvantage have a more difficult time with prospects for remarriage likely to have inadequate child support
Middle-aged individuals
may have the most difficult time after divorce friends take sides are less likely to remarry
Remarriage
On average, men and women wait about 4 years before remarrying
African Americans wait longer than European Americans or Hispanics Remarriages have 25% higher rate of divorce than original marriages Remarriages involving stepchildren are 3 times more likely to end in divorce Women are more likely to initiate a divorce, but are less likely to remarry