Facilitators: Laura Mocanu and Andrew Brown

Welcome

World of the outer adult

Who am I ?
Children know where children come from, but not where adults come from.
Tomi Ungerer

ME the social adult

Knowledgeable Focused Understanding
Perceiving Communicator Considerate Technical - Sensitive Patient

ME when Im alone

Depression Obesity Anorexia Anxiety Compulsive Worry Addiction Stresses Driven Frustration Withdrawn Overwhelm

problem of adulthood
The trouble with earthlings is their early adulthood. As long as they are young, they Christkindl are lovable, open-hearted, eager to learn th 25 December and to collaborate. They can even be induced to play with one another The only educational problem earth has is how to keep them young Your cultural life has already become too rich, too complicated
Equals One: The Journal of Auroville

Crisis of adulthood
The very idea of the adult has fallen into confusion adults [now] regress toward adolescence and adolescents refuse to become adults.
(Robert Bly, The Sibling Society)

Who are we ???

Only adults ask this question. Many voices competing to tell me who I am Many masks / personas I can wear

Who am I to myself / what is my self-image??

self-hood
The relationship I now have with myself is more powerful than any other relationship I have had in the past or will have in the future

Depth Psychology

assumes the external and internal worlds reflect each other

Robert M. Stein

Lets melt some ice !

Whats your favourite fairy tale and why?

Adventures of Aladdin

Ali Baba and the 40 thieves Beauty and the Beast

Cinderella
Fox and the Grapes
Golden Goose

Hansel and Gretel

Little red ridding hood

Pinocchio

Sleeping Beauty Snow white and the Seven Dwarfs

Three little pigs

Civilised development

 Egodevelopment is self-protection Abandonment is survival Cycle of inflation and fragmentation

Wounded child

It is not the traumas we suffer in childhood which make us emotionally ill but the inability to express the trauma. Alice Millar

Adolescent psychology

Narcissism the psychological disturbance of our time. Joel Covitz

This eternal youth usually comes from either extreme of parental care: neglect or overindulgence. To prevent further loss, the narcissist hovers above life, living only provisionally. Abrams

Procrastination
High ideals / fantasy of success / super-powerful

The resulting fear of failure means that in reality, no success can live up to the core fantasy of the childhood self...

Positive Narcissism
Provides a balance for its opposite: age-old tradition. This great potential can yet become embodied into a new and greater kind of human being.

Inner child
The loving adult The surviving child

The wounded child

The pure child

Loving Adult
Knowledge
Focus Understanding Perception Communication

Networking
Technical ability Thinking Boundaries Sensitivity

Physical strength

Dual Awareness

Loving your inner child

Mythology of the Divine Child

The divine child within us gives meaning to our immature strivings; he shows us the unconscious side of the limitations which we experience, and that is a vision of potentiality coming into flower.
June Singer

The child is all that is abandoned and exposed and at the same time divinely powerful.
C. G. Jung

The Science of Being Human

neoteny - born into a womb

neoteny natural childhood

neoteny pre-maturity

Integration and Acceptance

Twin needs of child: acceptance of his grandeur and specialness and the moderate frustrations/challenges of reality.

Inner Child Meditation

The courage of beginning again

For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button - letter to Caroline

The art of procrastination

Friday 8th June Blick Studios 8.15pm 10pm

Upcoming Events
MOVIE NIGHT
next week - same time same place! 3

Meditation Methods
for everyday living
Friday 25th May Blick Studios 8.15pm 10pm

Skills for Life Workshop

Friday 1st June Blick Studios 8.15pm 10pm

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