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Active Listening
Questioning Skills Giving Feedback
Active listening is listening and responding that focuses the attention on the speaker and improves mutual understanding.
is one of the most important skills of an emotionally intelligent leader builds trust encourages positive problem-solving takes practice
However, the faker isnt concentrating on the speaker. His mind is elsewhere.
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Doesnt allow the speaker to finish Doesnt ask clarifying questions or seek more information from the speaker. Too anxious to speak his words and shows little concern for the speaker.
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Always trying to interpret what the speaker is saying and why. Judging the speakers words and trying to fit them into the logic box. Rarely asks about the underlying feeling or emotion attached to a message.
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Uses the speakers words only as a way to get to his message. Steals the focus and then changes to this own point of view, opinion, story, or facts. Favorite hooker lines are, Oh, thats nothing, heres what happened to me I remember when I was
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Listens long enough to form a rebuttal. His point is to use the speakers words against him. At his worst, he is argumentative and wants to prove you wrong. At the very least, the person always wants to make the speaker see the other point of view.
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Giving advice is sometimes helpful; however, at other times, this behavior interferes with good listening, because it does not allow the speaker to fully articulate his feelings or thoughts; It doesnt help the speaker solve his own problems; it prohibits venting; it could also belittle the speaker by minimizing his or her concern with a quick solution. Well-placed advice is an important function of leadership. However, advice given too quickly and at the wrong time is a turnoff to the speaker.
Lynn, Adele. B.. The Emotional Intelligence Activity Book p.69 2002 HRD Press
Handling Feedback
Encourage to reflect on their emotions on receiving feedback, probe & challenge if necessary, before discussing content in detail. Allow distress and dissatisfaction rather than jumping in and rescuing Encourage to reflect on the feedback, what they got out of it and changes needed before offering own views/suggestions
Handling feedback
Positive & supportive approach Refrain from sit and tell
Use your consultation skills e.g. use of silence; open questions; clarifying where needed; empathy but not collusion
Describe behaviours/tasks not personality/attitudes
Handling feedback
Steer staff towards what can be changed; what is achievable Be specific Own your views: use I
FEEDBACK SKILLS
Encourage to identify specific outcomes/goals to be achieved which are realistic Change is more likely if coachee has generated it but do offer support and share ideas when appropriate
Focus on the individuals behavior, not the persons personality. Avoid globalizing behavior. (always,never) Use I instead of you language.
Listen, do not interrupt. Ask for clarification or more information. Try to be objective. (Yes, it is hard!!!) Decide if the comments are valid. Now its your turn: Be polite and provide appropriate feedback. Say thank you.